PODCAST · health
Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
by A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://ajmahari.ca/gottatalk - After Hours https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts https://survivngbpdbreakup.com <a href="https://survivingaborderline.
Episodes
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BPD Ex’s What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not.
BPD Exws What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not? BPD Exes what is the pathway to healing? It is not merely researching and "understanding" Borderline Personality Disorder. That canactually become a block to your healing and recovery process. In response to a commenter who is so lost, I…
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In BPD Relationships Do Codependents Over Function
Do Codependents over-function in BPD relationships or emotionally, in life, generally? The odd person/professional out there claims, yes, that's what's going on. No, it's not what is going on for anyone with Codependency. People with Codependency are not "over-functioning" they are...
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BPD Joint Therapy Fantasy BPD Right Fighting Pathological Lying vs Your Eggshell Walking
BPD Joint Therapy Fantasy BPD Right-Fighting & Pathological Lying vs Your Eggshell-Walking BPD joint therapy doesn’t work and is a fantasy bonded nightmare of Borderline victim/martyr cs your Codependent walking on eggshells and trauma bond addiction to intermittent reinforcement. Borderlines -...
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BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do_
BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do? BPD Negative Behavior - You can’t confront it. You may have unsuccessfully tried endless times. It increases your suffering each time, but to not say anything will increase your suffering as well. This is the heart of BPD toxic...
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High Functioning Borderlines in Careers vs Relationships
High Functioning BPD in Careers vs Relationships How can a person diagnosed with BPD and with many active Borderline traits, behaviour etc in a relationship possibly function in careers, and often be or be becoming Social Workers and Psychologists? The core reason is the vast difference in many...
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Co-Parenting or Paralell Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster
Co-Pareting or Parallel Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster Co-Parenting or Parallel parenting with a BPD - Borderline Personality Disordered Ex is for so many people, a nightmare. Not all BPD parents are the same, but, many, many of them are untreated,competitive, need their child or...
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BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future
BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future Many people who have been in short term or long term relationships with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder experience a BPD sudden discard of monkey branching that just crushes you and all the future plans that you believed were…
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The Glass Borderline "H*mpty D*mpty" No Real Self
The Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty' No Real Self BPD Breakups and Codependent BPD Exes endless "what if's' in the confusion, losing of yourself, the rumination, the cognitive dissonance and the constant "how could he/she do this?" "What did I do wrong?" If only I would/could have had ___________...
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Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes
Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exe s is a trauma-informed podcast focused on understanding reactive abuse, emotional dysregulation, and the complex relationship dynamics that can occur with partners or ex-partners affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD) or similar patterns. This...
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Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love So many partners and ex-partners of people with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder mistake the early intensity for love—because it feels overwhelming, consuming, and deeply validating. In this episode, I gently guide you through why Borderline…
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BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage
BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage In this episode, we explore the misunderstood and often painful dynamic of Borderline hypersexuality—not as “promiscuity,” not as a moral failure, but as an attempt to self-soothe overwhelming internal distress. I walk you through why so...
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Why BPD Relationships Fail - Repetition Compulsions Projection and Projective Identification
Why BPD Relationships Fail - Repetition Compulsions Projection and Projective Identification In this episode, A.J. Mahari explains how unconscious repetition compulsions, projection, and BPD projective identification keep people with Borderline Personality Disorder trapped in painful relational...
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Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents
Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents When you try to talk to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and the conversation suddenly turns emotional, chaotic, or painful — you’re not communicating. You’re in an induced conversation. In this…
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Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception
Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception Borderline Love is a looping trap of deception rooted in fantasy, betrayal, false hope, and trauma bonded dynamics of pseudo attachment and the Borderline idealization trap of deception (conscious or unconscious). People with BPD deceive boyfriends and...
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The Invisible Borderline Man Why Women Don't See Him Coming
The Invisible Borderline Man - Why Women Don't See Him Coming The invisible Borderline man. Why is he so invisible? Are men diagnosed properly enough with BPD - the answer is no. This doesn't help in many cases. Why do so many women fail to recognize the signs of a man with Borderline Personality...
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Borderline Man Unmasked
Borderline man unmasked The Borderline Man Unmasked. Yes, men have BPD too! It is important that women learn more about the many ways the 'Borderline Man' does differ from women with BPD. There are many overlaps but men with BPD do often endanger women more than most BPD women physically endanger...
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The Broken BPD Man Fantasy
The Broken BPD Man Fantasy The Broken BPD Man Fantasy is very real for women. Yes, men have Borderline Personality Disorder too! Countless numbers of women suffer with men with BPD in those trauma bonded relationships. Gay men are also suffering in relationships with men with BPD. This is part…
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BPD Love Legacy of Doubt 5 Reasons Why Closure is An Illusion
BPD Love Legacy of Doubt 5 Reasons Closure is An Illusion] BPD Love leaves a legacy of doubt. There are 5 main reasons why closure is an illusion during or after a BPD Breakup, ghos6 and/or discard. People who have been in a relationship or dating someone with BPD desperately want to understand…
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Quiet BPD 10 Reasons Why It Dsstroys Relationships
Quiet BPD 10 Reasons It Destroys Relationships Quiet BPD 10 reasons it destroys relationships. Often people in a relationship with someone with Quiet BPD, also known as the Discouraged BPD Subtype, it can take quite a while to understand that your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife has Quiet...
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10 Ways BPD Relationship Recycling Increases Your Suffering
10 Ways BPD Relationship Recycling Increases Your Suffering 10 ways that BPD relationship recycling actually strengthens your suffering and the trauma/fantast bond hurting you more and activating your nervous system over and over again in ways that are unhealthy, stressful, anxiety-producing and...
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BPD Love is a Reverse Fairytale
BPD Love is a Reverse FairyTale What starts like a pseudo BPD relationships fairytale in reverse ends in emotional devastation—and you’re left wondering what happened. In this episode, I explore why relationships with someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and their supposed...
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Enmeshed in a BPD Relatioship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles
Enmeshed in a BPD Relationship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles Are you enmeshed in a BPD relationship? Why can’t you let go—even when it’s hurting you? This Codependency Inside Out, surviving cluster B episode explores the 5 trauma-rooted codependent hooks that keep you psychologically and...
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BPD Frustration Intolerance
BPD Frustration Intolerance BPD Frustration Intolerance explains one of the most confusing, crazy-making, and painful dynamics loved ones face in relationships with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. In this episode, I unpack why ordinary limits, boundaries, or small disappointments...
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7 Reasons Why BPD Relationships Fail
7 Reasons Why BPD Relationships Fail Why do relationships with someone who has untreated Borderline Personality Disorder so often end in heartbreak? In this episode, I share the 7 key reasons why BPD relationships fail — explained with compassion, depth, and clarity. Whether you’re the partner…
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BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are Unseen
BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection: You are *Unseen* If you’ve ever loved someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and felt like they never truly saw you — this episode explains why. Through the lens of BPD fragmentation, we uncover how their “mirror” doesn’t reflect you…
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The BPD Love Paradox
The BPD Love Paradox Why does someone with Borderline Personality Disorder crave deep love—only to sabotage and destroy it when it arrives? In this episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup Podcast I explore the heartbreaking paradox at the center of BPD. From BPD self-fulfilling prophecies,...
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The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Are Stuck (From My Codependency Inside Out Surviving Cluster B Podcast) The BPD Fantasy of who you thought they were and then that loss, over and over again, is why Codependents are stuck in the Fantasy and Trauma Bond abandoning self not knowing how to face your...
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BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication
BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication BPD fragmented self blocks connection and communication. I dive deeply into the core reason a person with (especially untreated) BPD cannot hear you or see you. These are toxic relationships. When you are relating to a person with BPD in any...
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BPD Triggers Explained
BPD Triggers Explained BPD Triggers Explained. What do you still need to understand or understand more about people with Borderline Personality and what triggers them and why? Do you still feel like their triggered responses, emotional dysregulation, splitting on you and blaming you for…
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Is Codependency Really An Addiction?
Is Codependency Really an Addiction? From my Codependency Surviving Cluster B Relationships Podcast An often asked, and I think, an often misunderstood question where Codependency is concerned. My answer in this podcast to "Is Codependency Really an addiction" with my 35 years experience working...
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BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses
BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses In BPD people with (especially) untreated BPD have ego syntonic alloplastic defense mechanisms. This leaves so many people who were or are still trying to relate to someone with BPD as a partner, friend, favorite person, etc walking on...
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Borderline Persecutory Object Invisible Partners and Exes
Borderline Persecutory Object - Invisible Partners and Exes Borderline persecutory object, a psychoanalytic concept, within Objects Relations Theory, that explains so much about Borderline Personality Disorder. This is the path to truly understanding the results of BPD splitting, perception,...
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BPD Misinformation Hurts Borderlines and Codependents
BPD Misinformation Hurts Borderlines and Codependents BPD misinformation hurts people with Borderline Personality and it hurts Codependents and loved ones. There is growing "professional misinformation" about BPD out there, and it doesn't help anybody heal. BPD is not 100% heritable, nothing like...
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BPD “Remission” Flawed and False Hope
BPD “Remission” Flawed & False Hope BPD remission is very difficult to define or describe or even rely on apart from a very not helpful base definition of it. BPD remission is not a measurable constant across many, let alone most with BPD in treatment at all. Is BPD remission really a helpful...
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Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization
Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization Excusing BPD behavior is what so many people with Codependency do and it is a function of Codependent Externalization and need for taking more personal responsibility for yourself - not how anyone with BPD treated you terribly. It is important…
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BPD Sudden Shocking Discard Ex is Alone Now What Can You Do?
BPD Sudden Shocking Discard BPD Ex is All Alone Now What Can You Do? BPD sudden shocking discard is devastating and leaves many an Ex of someone with BPD worried that their Ex wife or Ex husband with Borderline Personality or Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend with BPD may be all alone and what can you…
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Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent
Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent BPD Ex wanting to make amends to Borderline is codependent. Whether you are struggling with alcoholism in AA and wanting to make amends or substance abuse program recovery and wanting to make amends or not, just generally want to make amends to a...
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Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?
Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You? Does going no contact after a BPD breakup, ghosting, or discard, make your Ex with BPD think about you? No contact is not a strategy to manipulate a Borderline. No contact is a serious action BPD Exes need to take as soon as one can to truly...
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BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying
BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying When people with BPD (usually untreated) are called out their abusive behaviour, words, actions, they deny, deflect, and defend. Is this because they have "memory loss" - they don't really know or remember what they did? Even when showed evidence...
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Wanting a BPD Ex Back The Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions
Want a BPD Ex Back? Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions Want a BPD Ex back? It's the fantasy bond and wanting answers to unanswered questions. Questions that most (especially untreated) with Borderline Personality don't know the answers to. They are too defended, more often than not, to even try…
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Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted
Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted Unknowingly loving a Borderline and suddenly ghosted? Wondering what on earth just happened? Maybe you know now you were loving a Borderline and were suddenly ghosted. It's a terribly traumatic experience knowingly or unknowingly. Many in wanting…
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BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?
BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work? In a BPD on/off relationship? Are you wondering, can I change, like heal some Codependency, and have more energy and tolerance to make a BPD relationship work? Have you been ghosted and so want your BPD Ex back? Maybe you've been discarded,...
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BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate
Borderline Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate As a BPD survivor, I recovered almost 40 years ago, I explain the deep and extremely pervasive abyss of Borderline Personality and the profound disconnectedness that drives all aspects of Borderline behaviour (abuse) and inability to relate in...
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Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?
Want BPD Ex Back Holding Out Hope? Are you holding out hope that you can get your BPD Ex back? Like so many people, most with Codependence, many Ex's of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, continue to give so much power and control of their lives, and selves to a person with BPD. If you...
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BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating
BPD Arrested Emotional Development and Object Other Relating BPD arrested emotional development and Object Other Relating. For more people than not with Borderline Personality (male and female) their early childhood emotional development arrests by or before the age of 2 years. People with BPD...
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Lost Yourself To A Borderline?
Lost Yourself To A Borderline? Have you lost yourself to Borderline? A partner, Ex partner, girlfriend or boyfriend, or person close to you with Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you aware of Codependency? Are you learning any helpful lessons? One man blames God, calling him a "farce" after a...
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BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding
BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding BPD idealization in the beginning of a significant other relationship creates a fantasy bond. People with BPD, not having any stable sense of self, are intense and want (often) immediate "relationship on". After the person with BPD splits you to a…
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Borderline Betrayal Its Insidious Impact on You
Borderline Betrayal and Its Insidious Impact on You Borderline betrayal and its negative, painful impact on you. Anyone close to any person with BPD will experience Borderline Betrayal and the very real consequences to "self" that result from BPD betrayal. People with Codependency have a...
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BPD Awareness Can't Save Relationships
BPD Awareness Can't Save Relationships BPD awareness can't save relationships and doesn't mean changed behaviour (spelling Canadian now :) When a person with BPD has intellectual awareness and can even talk about things at times, too many partners get fooled. Why fooled? Because too many people...
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BPD Stable Before Relationship Rupture? Was My Ex Like Sherri Papini?
BPD Stable Before Relationship Rupture? Was My Ex Like Sherri Papini? A commenter asks how could my BPD Ex be fine in a relationship for 4 years and suddenly be so unstable? Is a person with BPD stable in a relationship until they aren't? A BPD Ex compares his ex to Sherri Papini - any similarity...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://ajmahari.ca/gottatalk - After Hours https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts https://survivngbpdbreakup.com <a href="https://survivingaborderline.
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