Talking with Tess

Scripture tells us that God never leaves us, but what happens when he feels far? What do we do in seasons where God feels silent or seasons where we question a God at all? Dealing with OCD and chronic anxiety has taken over my brain and caused immense suffering. When God feels silent, we must remember that he has a greater plan. Always remember, everybody is a somebody!❤️

Social anxiety, chronic self doubt, and fear are extremely prevalent in our world today. People are plagued by lies they have believed for years about themselves, others, and the world. There is another way: freedom in Christ. The enemies grip loosens once we start taking action to the contrary: doing the hard things even when anxiety is raging. God is rooting for you and so am I!Always remember, everybody is a somebody!❤️

Remember, everybody is a somebody!!! ❤️

You are worthy because God says that you are worthy and outsourcing your worth to other people (aka living for the approval of other people) will lead you further away from God and further away from the freedom that God offers. The Lord has set us free so that we can glorify him with the gifts he has given us. Don't allow your worth to constantly fluctuate based upon the perceived opinions of others! Happy Decemeber!!! Remember everybody is a somebody!!

What even is ambivalence? Ambivalence is the allowing and holding space for two contradicting statements to be true at once. As a former black and white thinker and someone who loved to try to get to the bottom of things, ambivalence was foreign and near impossible for me until I realized its necessity. Life is nuanced and people are contradictory and ambivalence is freedom from trying to hold onto and control your life. Let go and Let God!

Fight back against the lies of self-doubt and shame by replacing them with the truth of who God says you are. Don't team up with the enemy who comes to steal, kill, and destroy. You are the apple of God's eye. Fight back to the negative voice in your head. Remember, everybody is a somebody!!🤍

Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of others opinions. Fear of being judged. Fear holds you back in every facet of life. Do not be afraid. Remember everybody is a somebody!!!

You never know the impact you make on someone else: whether big or small. We are constantly surrounded by people and we can impact others in a positive way. Just as strangers, friends, and relationships have impacted us, we can make a diligent effort to impact others people’s lives in a positive way. Remember everybody is a somebody!

The healing journey isn’t always easy or isn’t always on the up and up. Healing is hard. Radical acceptance, letting yourself be seen, and giving yourself grace are the secret weapons of healing. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it!!!Remember everybody is a somebody! Love ya❤️

Perfectionism halts any progress. All or nothing thinking ruins small and incremental gains. 3/7 days out of the week is a win. Shoot for progress and not perfection and give yourself grace in the process. Remember everybody is a somebody!!!

What are you grateful for? What makes you happy? What do you thank the Lord for? Gratitude can be looked at sometimes as a an overly optimistic or positive way to look at a negative world. I challenge you to think about how living with a grateful heart can help you change how you see the world. Look for the good. Thank God for the good. Seek the good. Remember Everybody is a Somebody!!that includes you: be kind to yourself :)

Forgiveness is extremely challenging and grudge holding can be much easier, but for true healing to occur we must forgive. Forgiving takes the burden off of your shoulder and doesn’t allow another person to take up so much of your mind space and time. Forgiveness doesn’t mean allowing a toxic person to continue hurting you or putting yourself in situations with a dangerous individual. "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned”Remember everybody is a somebody!!!

Let's dive into moments in life where we feel overwhelmed by sadness and a lack of motivation. Come listen as I discusss some of the ways I combat these emotions with practical steps and guidance. Don't let emotions dictate the way you see and feel about yourself. Remember Everybody is a Somebody! Love y'all!!!

Do you say yes when your brain screams at you to say no? Do you say no out of fear of rejection or embarrassment when all you want to do is say yes? People Pleasing and Social Anxiety halt our lives in so many ways. Explore in this episode how social anxiety keeps you trapped being a person that you see as inauthentic, people pleasing leads to forgetting who you are, and ways to break free of the chains associated with both of these negative behaviors, mindsets, and ways of living. Remember, everybody is a somebody!

What do you put your identity in? What’s the first thing you talk about when describing yourself to people? The only lasting identity is an identity rooted in Jesus. You don’t need to “find yourself”, you need to seek out the one who created you. God wants to know you intimately and personally and loves you more than you can imagine. Abide in him always! Remember, everybody is a somebody!

God loves you more than you know. During a struggling season in my life, I wanted to share how I was feeling and what subs kept me from keeping my eyes fixed on Jesus! God wants all of your life and not just the parts that you are willing to give. Remember, everybody is a somebody!

Life is a turbulent experience and so much of the time we can feel as if we are falling behind peers, friends, and social media influencers. This is a reminder that you are exactly where you need to be for a reason and for a purpose. Each season God places you in is for his glory. Don’t compare yourself to others and remember to be rooted in the present moment learning from the past and planning for the future. Don’t make your mind your worst enemy. Remember everybody is a somebody!

2025 is right around around the corner and the best time to start cultivating new habits is now. Starting anything is scary and sometimes we don’t know where to start. Shredding off any bad habits and negative thoughts can be a wonderful way to start the process of becoming the person God created you to be. Remember, everyday is a somebody!

Friendship in this day and time can be challenging, to say the least. True and authentic friends are a blessing and hard to come by. Be the friend that you wish to have and be able to spot characteristics you like and value in a friend. Your friends go through life with you, so make sure you love who you surround yourself with!Remember, everybody is a somebody : )

Jesus + Nothing = Everything. Even though this was recorded in July, I share every sentiment today. The way is Jesus and knowing him isn’t just life altering but is completely life transformative. He is the Savior and is also a friend. Turning to the Lord is the best decision I have ever made and I will continue to follow him for the rest of my life. Listen while I discuss deepening my faith, staying rooted in truth, and dissecting my WHY of following God. Jesus loves you. Remember everybody is a somebody!

Negative thoughts and thought loops plague us from being and becoming everything that God has created us to be. Choosing to be grateful and deciding to think about what is good, true, pure, holy is a mindset and is possible as all things are possible with God. Don’t let the enemy tear you down and take you away from the calling God has on your life. Remember everybody is a somebody!

Our 20’s are a time for growth, development, and learning about ourselves and others. As I share some advice I have learned through experience, I hope you spend time thinking about how you want to better yourself for the upcoming year ahead. Life will always challenge you with new battles and 90 percent of life is how you deal with them. Remember everybody is a somebody!Be kind to your mind and remember how loved you are!

Loving yourself is HARD and giving yourself grace is so important. There is no condemnation in Christ Jesus! After taking a long break from podcasting, I decided to share some insight into battling depression, feeling far from the Lord, and putting your mental health first. Happy Fall and Happy Friday! I hope the weeks to come bring you immense joy!

You are SO worthy no matter what you feel or are going through God’s got you :) podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkingwtess/

What are the bricks in your wall? How do we rid ourselves of a fear mindset and break down our walls brick by brick? Hope you enjoy!

Come listen to me rack my brain on recent thoughts, opinions, struggles, and happy moments of life.

My tips and tricks on how to live a life that is authetntic. Authenticity means being genuine or real and that is the kind of life I strive to live. Discussing points from letting go of others opinions of you, to journaling everything; This chould be my favorite episode yet. Hope you enjoy!

Why I Quit Soccer: An in depth analysis of my time playing soccer through all the different teams, experiences, and memories from a sport I’ve played for 17 years. Hope you enjoy! podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkingwtess/

In this episode, I talk to two of my close friends who are both division 1 soccer players. We have an open and honest conversation about the ups and downs of being a student athlete and what their experiences are like at their prospective colleges. Hope you enjoy the first ever guests!!

Get real with me about my life! Hope you enjoy!!

The most freeing thought that has ever come across my brain, Genuinely: no one cares about you as much as you think they do. This is obviously a double edged sword because humans want to be known and seen and cared about, but the freeing part starts when you realize that you can chase passions, dreams, and goals without caring about others opinions of you. Hope you love it! podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkingwtess/

In this episode, I discuss my journey through my first year of college. With many experiences throughout my first year, I reflect on college itself + include some tips for college freshman! Hope you enjoy!!!

In this episode, I go into some of my favorite things and how they fulfill me. A happy episode where I dive into things that bring me joy. Hope you enjoy!

In this episode, I do a brain dump of thoughts and feelings I have been having after grabbing lunch by myself. Realizing that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone at times has been such an eye opening thought for me! Hope you enjoy!

In this episode, I decide to read some of the things said to me in the mental hospital. As I go through the things said, I really learn to come to terms with how lucky I am to live the life I live now. Blessed is an understatement and I hope you gain a little more perspective into life in a mental hospital!

In this episode, I dive into comparison and the joy of being yourself. I take you through my own struggles of comparison and some negative coping mechanisms I’m overcoming. Learning to love exactly who you are is so important!

In this episode, I discusss hypomania and mania and how I personally have experienced them. As parts of bipolar disorder, I believe they are the most misunderstood. Hopefully you learn a little bit about mania and how it affects people!

In this episode, I discusss what the mental hospital is like. I walk you through my experiences and how a mental hospital is structured, what I did in there, and how I feel/what I learned from it. I hope you get out of this that people are people at the end of the day, no matter where they have been.

In this episode, I decide to take one of my favorite activities, journaling, and talk it out. I discuss a wide variety of questions and hope you learn a little bit more about me in this episode!

In this episode, I discuss my experiences with body image and how difficult body image is for females of all ages. I dive into my own story of feeling inferior because of my body and how important it is to not listen to society’s standards and focus on a healthy body.

In this episode, I dive into certain struggles I am facing right now during life. I think many have a misconception of others that certain people don’t struggle which is just a false assumption. Everyone struggles, so I thought I would let you in on some of mine. Hope you enjoy!

In this epsiode, I decide to share my faith as a Christain! I talk about how I became a Chirstian, some amazing blessings God has given me, and my view on Christianity as a whole. Hope you enjoy this first video episode!!

In this episode, I discuss happiness, passions, joy, and love. A lot of things cultivate a happy life, but something so important is finding what those things are for YOU. Everyone is unique and different and I hope there are some helpful tips to finding what makes you happy. Enjoy the episode!

In this episode, I describe some of my favorite books. I recommend thrillers, finance books, spiritual books, self help books, and more. Hope you enjoy!

For the start of a new month, I thought I would share some things I have learned throughout my life. I talk about some quotes that have changed my life, mindset and mentality, and the blessings of everyday life. I hope some of my lessons can inspire you to have a wonderful February!

In this episode, I discuss how social media impacts our daily life. I talk about my own experiences on Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat and how my time on these platforms have affected my mental health. I tell you all about the dopamine effects, confirmation bias, and comparison to others through these platforms. I hope through this you realize your worth and how detrimental social media can be to that!

In this episode, I dive deep into my background, life growing up, and all the good and bad times that have led me to where I am today. I discuss mental health, but more specifically bipolar disorder and how I have worked to overcome it. This episode aims to help people get to know me and my story and learn something about mental health from listening! podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkingwtess/