TEHILA - Torah Education With Heart in Los Angeles

As we enter the month of Adar, we are reminded: “When Adar comes, we increase in joy.” But what does that actually mean—especially when life feels uncertain? In this class, we explore the deeper Torah concept of simcha—not fleeting happiness, but inner contentment that can coexist with anxiety, loneliness, overwhelm, and unanswered questions. Through the lens of Megillat Esther and the theme of hester panim (Hashem’s hiddenness), we uncover how Purim teaches us to look for hidden miracles in our own lives. Drawing from the powerful stories of Nachum Ish Gamzu and Rabbi Akiva, we examine two transformative perspectives: “This too can turn out for the good.” “Everything Hashem does is inherently for the good.” We discuss how uncertainty fuels worry, comparison, jealousy, and emotional overload—and how training ourselves to recognize nissim (even the hidden ones) builds resilience and menuchat hanefesh. We also explore: The difference between happiness and joy Why gratitude strengthens simcha How loneliness and overwhelm can become catalysts for growth Why identity must be rooted in purpose—not status, possessions, or circumstances Viktor Frankl’s teaching: If you know your “why,” you can survive almost any “how” Adar reminds us that joy is not a mood—it is an avodah. It is a practice. It is choosing to move forward, even when we cannot see the full picture. This episode is about finding steadiness, meaning, and simcha—even when life feels uncertain.

In Part 2 of our Rivka Imeinu classes, we explore what it truly means to be an Eishes Chayil—not just doing good for one’s husband, but maintaining inner steadiness and integrity regardless of circumstances. Through the lens of Rivka’s life, we examine the four qualities that returned to Sarah’s tent when Rivka entered it: Divine presence, warmth and hospitality, financial integrity and bracha, and enduring shalom bayis. We discuss how environment shapes us, how surrounding ourselves with kedusha strengthens our relationships, and how small, consistent acts build greatness over time. Most powerfully, we learn from Rivka’s restraint—her ability to hold painful knowledge, disagree with her husband, and still preserve dignity, kindness, and peace. This episode is about emotional discipline, intuition, and partnering with Hashem so that our reactions come from strength rather than hurt. Consistency in marriage is not personality—it is avodah.

In Part 1 of our Rivka Imeinu classes, we step into the foundations of Klal Yisrael through the lens of Rivka’s character and mission. We explore what the Torah’s “extra details” in the shidduch story are teaching us about what to look for in a spouse: midos, humility, compatibility, family influence, and the ability to build as an ezer k’negdo—not a submissive “yes-person.” We also discuss the Torah view of hishtadlus vs. emunah in shidduchim, the role of beauty and presentation in marriage, and how Rivka’s clarity and courage shaped the destiny of Yaakov—and all of Am Yisrael.

During the Aseres Yimei Teshuva, we are given the miraculous gift of change. This class explores the true meaning of Viduy, the process of Teshuva, and how Yom Kippur enables us to confront our inner struggles, release past baggage, and uncover the deeper patterns that hold us back—so we can enter the Gates of the King with clarity, freedom, and renewed purpose.

Elul and Rosh Hashana call us to return to Hashem with honesty and clarity. But how do we find focus when the world around us feels shaken by tragedy and upheaval? In this shiur, we will explore the Torah’s perspective on current events and how they are meant to awaken us—individually and as a nation. Drawing on the lessons of Shevet Dan, Shimshon, and the Ramchal’s teaching of קיווי—hope as a lifeline to Hashem—we will see how even in moments of darkness, our greatest strength lies in our Emunah. By learning to truly “hear” Hashem’s call in Elul, we can approach the Yamim Noraim with resilience, purpose, and renewed faith.

Rosh Hashana is not only a day of judgment—it is the day we crown Hashem as our King. But what does that really mean in our lives today? In this shiur, we will explore the dual process of Malchuyos: accepting Hashem’s Kingship and rejecting any alternative. Drawing on the insights of Chazal, Rav Yitzchak Berkowitz, and the Chovos HaLevavos, we will uncover how the Yetzer Hara presents itself as a false “king” within us, and how the true voice of our Neshama can guide us back to clarity, meaning, and fulfillment. By understanding this inner battle, we can approach Rosh Hashana with a deeper sense of resolve, joy, and menuchas hanefesh, ready to truly crown Hashem as our King.

This class explores how the Three Weeks and Nine Days are not just times of mourning, but deep opportunities for reconnection with Hashem. Through the lens of love, longing, and spiritual intimacy, we’ll uncover how challenge, mitzvos, and even our pain can become vehicles for the deepest pleasure — bonding with our Creator. Discover what it means to truly love Hashem and be loved by Him, especially in the moments that feel most broken.

As we prepare to receive the Torah anew this Shavuos, join us for a powerful journey into the life of one of the most extraordinary women in Jewish history — Rachel, the wife of Rabbi Akiva. In a time of deep Roman oppression, fractured Jewish identity, and spiritual confusion, Rachel saw what no one else did: the soul of a shepherd named Akiva — a man with no Torah, no status, and every reason to be overlooked. What did she see? And more importantly — how did she see? This class will challenge us to think deeply about what it means to be a Torah Jew, to believe in potential — in ourselves and others — and to approach Shavuos not just as a commemoration, but as a celebration of the world’s greatest gift: meaning, direction, and divine truth. Let’s come together this Yom Tov to celebrate what it means to be part of a nation that chose Torah — and what it means to choose it again, every day.

As we prepare to receive the Torah anew this Shavuos, we’ll explore how Torah serves as our ultimate roadmap in a world that often feels confusing, overwhelming, and full of riddles. In a time when truth can feel obscured and choices uncertain, the Torah anchors us with clarity, purpose, and direction. This class will delve into the privilege and responsibility of being Torah Jews — how owning our choices and aligning them with timeless Divine wisdom empowers us to live meaningful, intentional lives. Together, we’ll uncover practical and inspiring ways to celebrate this Yom Tov with deeper awareness and gratitude for the gift of Torah, and reflect on how to keep that clarity alive throughout the year.

In this episode, we explore the legacy of Miriam HaNeviah, a true Jewish hero whose greatness lay not in public recognition but in quiet, unwavering devotion. From guiding Moshe’s destiny as a child to leading the Jewish women in song at the sea, Miriam’s life teaches us that true heroism is found in small, hidden acts of faith, courage, and kindness. We unpack the Puah Principle—that real greatness is measured not by acclaim, but by character. Join us as we reflect on the power of humility, the strength of Jewish women, and what it truly means to be a hero in the Torah’s eyes.

n this episode, we delve into the Ramban’s heartfelt message to his son: to serve Hashem with pure and genuine intention. At the core of this avodah lies true Yiras Shamayim—a deep, reverent fear of Heaven. It’s this fear, the Ramban explains, that gives us the strength to follow what we know to be true and right, rather than giving in to our fleeting desires. We explore how moral clarity doesn’t come naturally; rather, it’s a product of a life steeped in Torah and mitzvos. Hashem created a world where His presence isn’t obvious, giving us true free will—yet it’s our mission to seek Him in the everyday and make the constant choice to live with awareness and connection. We also continue our journey through the Ramban’s teachings on character refinement, drawing on insights from the Alter of Slabodka, Rav Moshe Feinstein, and others. Topics include humility, kindness, and self-discipline—how we treat others, even when no one’s watching, and how working on our midos can give us a taste of Olam Haba right here in this world. Tune in for timeless Torah wisdom and practical takeaways on living with purpose, presence, and elevated focus.

The Ramban continues to emphasize Anavah—humility—but cautions that true humility is not timidity. Making decisions from a place of weakness or people-pleasing is not humility; it is a lack of inner strength. Instead, real Anavah means standing firm in our values and making choices from a place of truth. When we compromise our core beliefs to satisfy others, we are left feeling unmoored and disconnected from ourselves. A key aspect of wise decision-making is contemplating our mortality. While it may seem morbid, recognizing that our neshama will one day stand before the Eternal King provides clarity and purpose. As we transition from childhood to adulthood, embracing this awareness helps us choose a life path that is not just fulfilling in the moment but one we will be proud of for eternity. Join us as we explore the strength behind true humility and the power of living with long-term vision.

The Ramban highlights the importance of Anavah—humility—as a foundational midah. According to Sefer Tomer Devorah, humility serves as a superconductor for acquiring all other positive character traits. Ultimately, Anavah leads to Yirat Shamayim (awe of Hashem), which in turn fosters Sameach B’chelkeinu—true contentment with one’s lot in life. But how does one actually attain this level of contentment? While Pirkei Avos teaches that the truly wealthy person is satisfied with what they have, the Mishnah does not outline how to achieve that satisfaction. The Ramban, however, provides a roadmap: 1️⃣ Eliminate Anger – Serenity is impossible if one is easily upset. 2️⃣ Overcome Pride – The need for recognition can erode happiness. 3️⃣ Embrace Humility – A humble person finds peace within. 4️⃣ Develop Bitachon (Trust in Hashem) – True contentment comes from believing that nothing happens by chance, even when life seems unfair. In this episode, we also explore the difference between happiness and joy—and which one is truly worth pursuing. Tune in for an insightful discussion!

Jewish women have the mitzvah of neiros Shabbos, symbolizing the light of Torah they bring into their homes. As the Chanukah candles fade, our inner fire must continue to burn—with Torah, mitzvos, and unwavering emunah. The Chashmonaim’s mesiras nefesh reminds us that our choices matter, and we must stand strong as individuals. We are Jewish women—we are incredible! This class was given at the Valley Kollel Chanukah Melava Malka.

The Ramban teaches that true spiritual growth begins with menuchat hanefesh—inner tranquility. Our sages outline four steps to achieving this essential trait, which must be protected as the key to a Godly life. The Ramban also warns against anger, which stems from insecurity and a need for recognition. Instead, true happiness comes from selflessness and thinking of others. Join us as we explore the path to serenity and lasting spiritual fulfillment.

Discover why the Torah begins with stories, not commandments. Through the lives of our Avos and Imahos, we learn the essence of Jewish living. This class explores the Ramban's famous letter, revealing how good character (derech eretz) is the foundation of Torah life, and how mitzvos shape our development as Torah Jews.

In this enriching shiur, we delve into the profound significance of authentic friendship, exploring why Pirkei Avos urges us to acquire a true friend even at material cost. Through various meforshim, Mrs. Gross illuminates essential approaches to nurturing these life-giving relationships that form the essence of our existence. We discover how meaningful friendship demands honest self-reflection and genuine investment, along with the willingness to make space for others' unique perspectives and qualities. Mrs. Gross reveals how providing sincere counsel requires maintaining objectivity, which comes through our constant search for truth in all aspects of life. This pursuit of truth ultimately connects us with the Divine, elevating both our personal growth and our relationships.

In this profound shiur, we explore the remarkable legacy of Rus and her extraordinary achievement as the ultimate Eishes Chayil. We discover why, among all the great women of Tanach, Rus stands out as having risen above all others. Though seemingly unremarkable to outside observers, Rus's true greatness lay in her complete surrender of everything - royalty, security, and her future - solely to connect with Hashem and join klal Yisroel.

In this powerful shiur, we explore the profound impact of our speech and its reflection of our inner selves. Through the inspiring example of Serach, we discover how mindful communication reflects true wisdom. Mrs. Gross reveals the critical distinction between empty flattery and genuine praise, and how our choice of words can either uplift or leave others feeling hollow. We learn from Serach's extraordinary example of measured, intentional communication and how her deep internal wisdom manifested through her careful choice of words.

In this inspiring Shiur, we explore the profound lessons of purposeful living through the story of Tzalphonis. Key topics include: Using leisure time meaningfully to enhance our lives Balancing essential self-care with consideration for others The power of sacrifice in developing our highest potential Tzalphonis's remarkable journey of maternal sacrifice Supporting our children through challenging choices Understanding mesirat nefesh through a mother's perspective Maintaining vision and purpose in the face of personal sacrifice Join Mrs. Gross to discover timeless wisdom about motherhood, personal growth, and living with higher purpose. This class offers valuable insights for anyone seeking to balance self-development with family responsibilities while maintaining a clear vision of life's deeper meaning.

In this enlightening Shiur, we explore the unique spiritual dimensions of the masculine and feminine heart. Key topics include: Understanding the distinct heart approaches of men and women Learning when to apply each heart perspective in different life situations The transformative power of gratitude in shifting negative mindsets The true purpose of tefillah - nurturing our connection with Hashem Why we daven: deepening our awareness rather than fulfilling Hashem's needs Join Mrs. Gross to discover the wisdom behind different spiritual approaches and how to harness them effectively. This class offers profound insights for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of prayer and strengthen their relationship with Hashem through the lens of both masculine and feminine perspectives.

In this transformative Shiur, we explore the delicate balance at the heart of Rosh Hashana. Key topics include: The dual reality of teshuva - being both in need of change and eternally beloved Understanding our human susceptibility to mistakes and misguided choices Practical tools for making better decisions moving forward Essential zechusim we can implement for the upcoming year Building confidence in our relationship with Hashem during this critical time Join Mrs. Gross to discover how to embrace both personal growth and divine love during the High Holidays. This class offers valuable insights for anyone seeking to approach the sefer hachaim with renewed purpose and understanding.

In this insightful class, we explore the impact of anxiety, particularly during the introspective month of Elul. Key topics include: How anxiety disconnects us from our thinking mind and its wisdom The pressure women often feel during the teshuva process Distinguishing between adaptive and maladaptive anxiety Understanding anxiety as a messenger and learning to listen to its lessons Join us to discover practical tools for managing anxiety, embracing personal growth, and approaching Elul with a balanced perspective. Learn how to transform anxious feelings into opportunities for self-improvement and spiritual connection. This class offers valuable insights for anyone seeking to navigate the challenges of self-reflection and teshuva with greater ease and clarity.

Join Mrs. Gross for an enlightening exploration of self-discovery aligned with guidance during Elul. This Shiur, "Discovering Ourselves in the Light of Hashem," emphasizes the transformative power of reflecting on our lives through the lens of spirituality. Learn how facing our true selves can lead to profound spiritual and personal growth, and how each step in our Teshuva process brings us closer to our highest selves.

In this Shiur , we explore the life and legacy of Michal, wife of Dovid Hamelech. Learn how the women of Tanach serve as powerful role models, guiding us in our daily lives. Key lessons from Michal's story: The crucial role of a supportive wife in actualizing her husband's potential Michal's pivotal choice between loyalty to her father and her husband Her contribution to the preservation of Torah shebal peh through Dovid The importance of carefully choosing our influences and environment Discover how Michal's unwavering support enabled Dovid to become a cornerstone of Jewish history and Torah transmission. This class highlights the profound impact women can have on their husbands' growth and success.

In Class 2, Mrs. Gross delves deeper into the mitzvah of loving your neighbor, focusing on the challenge of connecting with difficult people. Key insights include: The lasting joy of human connection Soul-to-soul bonding as the highest form of connection Recognizing the tzelem Elokim in everyone, even when obscured by negative traits The transformative power of focusing on one positive quality in others The link between chesed and emunah Mrs. Gross explores how selflessness opens our "windows" to others, contrasting it with the "mirror" of self-absorption. She also discusses Eliezer's test of Rivka, highlighting the importance of innate love for chesed. Join us for this enlightening exploration of how to cultivate love for all, enhancing our relationships and spiritual growth.

In this Shiur, Mrs. Gross explores the fundamental mitzvah of "V'ahavta l'reacha kamocha". She explains why this mitzvah is so crucial, emphasizing that life is all about relationships and love - between us and Hashem, the people in our orbit, and within ourselves, fusing body and soul. Mrs. Gross presents three tools to work on this foundational mitzvah: The Ramban's insight on overcoming jealousy Rav Dessler's teaching on the power of giving to others Rav Tanchuma's wisdom on recognizing the tzelem Elokim in every person Join us to discover how this mitzvah can transform our connections with Hashem, others, and ourselves.

This Shiur examines how a lack of internal pursuits can lead to an excessive focus on external validation. We'll discuss the three 'garments of the soul' - speech, thought, and action - and their role in maintaining privacy. Through examples from Tanach figures, we'll illustrate how these qualities were embodied, emphasizing the importance of developing a rich inner world. Join us to gain insights into balancing our public and private selves in the modern age.

In this episode, Mrs. Gross explores two key aspects of privacy: Developing sensitivity to privacy in daily life Understanding the importance of healthy boundaries Learn practical techniques for enhancing awareness of personal space and why recognizing boundary violations is crucial for a balanced life.

The first class of a new series, Mrs. Gross presents a new perspective on the Jewish concept of tzniut. Rather than simply viewing it as modesty or dignity, she redefines tzniut as a call for privacy - specifically, keeping our egos in check. We naturally tend to be self-conscious and concerned with how we are perceived by others. However, Mrs. Gross challenges us to shift our focus. Instead of being preoccupied with making impressions on people, our life's work should be making a good impression on Hashem.

This class explores how moments of loneliness can be opportunities for profound self-realization. We'll discuss embracing solitude to discover our unique purpose, free from societal pressures, and become the individuals we're truly meant to be.

In this powerful shiur, Mrs. Gross unveils the deeper meaning of Pesach - a time for profound self-redemption and self-discovery. Drawing from the Exodus story, she explores how challenges present opportunities to uncover our authentic selves. By confronting adversities head-on, we learn who we don't want to be, ultimately leading us to understand our true identities. Mrs. Gross' insightful words inspire listeners to embrace life's difficulties as catalysts for personal growth and redemption.

In this finale to our series on the five levels of pleasure, we explore the pinnacle - transcendence and spiritual connection with our Creator, the highest pleasure attainable. Transcendence is achieved through cultivating humility and hakaras hatov (gratitude) to Hashem, even when we lack or deeply want something. Mrs. Gross contrasts this sublime state with the "counterfeit" of being self-absorbed and arrogant, which traps us in the ego's unfulfilled desires. True joy emerges when we let go of arrogance and appreciate what we have with thankful hearts connected to the Divine source. We'll learn how to access this transcendent level of pleasure by reorienting our mindsets away from our egos and towards Hashem.

Discover the pleasure beyond the physical in this class as we explore the second level of pleasure—actualizing our unique creativity. Learn why expressing our individual talents and creativity offers a deeper fulfillment than physical enjoyment, relationships, and living by our values alone. We'll discuss the importance of balancing all aspects of pleasure while highlighting the transformative power of creative expression. This session also addresses the pitfalls of misusing creativity for control or manipulation, emphasizing the need for courage, responsibility, and strength in true creative pursuits. Join us to unlock the next level of your personal satisfaction and potential.

Ikar 13: Part 2 - "The Soul of Your Home" This Shiur dives into the intriguing idea that our home decor and design are more than mere aesthetics; they are reflections of our deepest selves. We explore how the choices we make in our living spaces unveil our values, personalities, and spirituality.

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This Shiur explores the intriguing question: Does clothing make the man? We delve into the idea that the human body is an extension of the soul, linking this concept to Tchiat Hamatim/ the resurrection of the dead.

In this Shiur we delve into levels 4 & 5 of the 5 levels of pleasure.

This class is not a part of a series. Learn about life responsibilities, adn schar v onesh, with Mrs.Gross!

In the second Shiur of our series, we focus on unraveling the essence of our pursuit of pleasure. This class delves into the critical question: "What are we truly shopping for when seeking pleasure?". This is something we must know, before setting out to find it.

In this Shiur, we delve into the concept of pleasure, exploring its five distinct levels and what they mean for our pursuit of happiness. From physical joys to spiritual fulfillment, we examine the essence of true pleasure and how to recognize what we're really seeking in life's journey.

The 13 Ikrim: Ikar #12: Moshiach. In this Shiur, Mrs. Gross offers an enlightening class on the Jewish belief that Hashem created us 'b'tzelem Elokim' – in the Divine image, emphasizing the significance of 'bechira', or free will. She explains how this gift is a testament to the power vested in us by our Creator, and with it comes the responsibility of facing the consequences of our actions. Drawing parallels between our moral choices and the forces of nature, Mrs. Gross highlights that just as natural laws operate with predictable outcomes, our spiritual and ethical decisions set in motion effects that shape our lives and our relationship with Hashem.

The 13 Ikrim: Ikar 10 & 11Part 2

The 13 Ikrim Series: Ikar 10 & 11 part 1. How do we have Bechira- when at the same time- Hashem is all knowing??!! Why does Hashem give us Bechira? Whats the point of life on this earth? Very deep questions this week, in this week Shiur on the 13 Ikrim with Mrs.Gross. Tune in & tap into higher levels of understanding Emuna!

In this Shiur, Mrs.gross dives into "Nosei B'ol Im Chaveiro", one of the deepest ways to do Chessed. Tune in and find out how we can all do Chessed on a new level!

The 13 Ikram: Ikar # 8 & 9. In this Shiur, Mrs. Gross simplifies the complex ideas of receiving the Torah and the importance of mitzvot. She explains how keeping mitzvot links us to a greater purpose, as if we are accesing a piece of Hashem. Tune in for practical insights on how Torah observance impacts our daily lives.

The 13 Ikrim: Ikar #7. Join Mrs. Gross, as we delve into the unique aspects of Moshe's prophecy. Discover what sets Moshe apart from other prophet. This shiur explains why Moshe's role as a prophet is a fundamental principle of faith and how his clear teachings continue to shape our religious understanding. Tune in to grasp the special nature of Moshe's prophetic gift and its lasting impact on us.

Recorded live at TMM High School, this Shiur by Mrs. Gross offers deep insights into dating and relationships. Melding the 5 Love Languages with detailed dating advice, it's a rich resource for anyone seeking to broaden their understanding and approach to dating. Tune in for essential tips and strategies, particularly beneficial as you embark on the dating phase of life.