The Art of Love With Lucia

If you've ever called out an avoidant for pulling away, being distant or sending mixed signals, you may have accidentally pushed them further away.In this episode I explain why calling out an avoidant usually backfires and what to do instead if you want to stop the push-pull cycle.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidant #avoidantattachment #getexback #getavoidantback #attachmentstyle

Your ex may look fine after the breakup, but that doesn't mean they're actually okay.In this episode, I explain why many dumpers experience a delayed emotional reaction after a breakup and why the early version of your ex may not be the full story.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule

If you're wondering what actually hurts an avoidant ex after a breakup, it 's usually not what most people think.In this episode, I break down what really gets through to an avoidant ex, what keeps them emotionally shut down and why trying to "fix" things often backfires.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#avoidantex #avoidantattachment #getexback #nocontact

Why is your ex so distant, cold and shut down?In this episode, I break down what that behavior means after a breakup and why trying to force connection will backfire.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#exback #getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex

When an avoidant pulls away, it's easy to assume they're relieved, unbothered and already moving on. But that's not always what's happening.In this video, I break down what your silence does to an avoidant after a breakup or pullback and why no contact can shift the dynamic.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #nocontact #radiosilence #getexback #getavoidantback

My client got his fearful avoidant ex back after 9 long months of no contact.In this episode I break down why she broke up with him, what happened during no contact and why she eventually came back on her own.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#exbacksuccessstory #gotexback #avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant

Have you finally stopped chasing an avoidant and now you're wondering what happens next? In this episode, I break down the stages an avoidant goes through when they realize you've given up - from internal panic, to loss of control, to testing whether they still have access to you.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #exback #getexback #nocontact #avoidantex

If an avoidant dumped you, ghosted you or pulled away, this episode is for you. I'm going to break down the 7 triggers that make an avoidant break their silence and reach out. You'll learn what really makes them feel the loss, why they often come back after distance, and what causes them to finally confront their feelings.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram!#avoidantattachment #getexback #exback #getavoidantexback

A lot of breakup advice about no contact is either oversimplified or flat-out wrong.In this episode, I talk about why no contact is not right for every situation, why "respond so you don't look angry" is terrible advice, and the exceptions to no contact that most people don't know about.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#nocontact #nocontactrule #getexback #exback

If they were consistent and then pulled away, don't assume it means you ruined it or they don't care.In this video, I break down the "Silence Loop" (the emotions that keep people from reaching out) and what to do so you don't make things worse.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#exback #nocontact #getexback #nocontactrule #avoidantattachment

When an avoidant goes silent, after they've ghosted or dumped you, sometimes they're waiting to see if you'll reach out first.In this video, ex back expert Lucia breaks down the subtle signs that an avoidant is watching from a distance and leaving the door slightly open - without ever saying it directly.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #exback #nocontact

If your ex hasn't reached out, it doesn't always mean what you think. Most people misread the silence - and make things worse.In this episode, ex back coach Lucia breaks down what it actually signals and how to handle it without sabotaging your position.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram!#nocontact #exback #nocontactrule #getexback

Every avoidant has one person they can never fully let go of emotionally, no matter how much time has passed. Are you that person?In this video, dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the specific traits and circumstances that make you unforgettable to someone with an avoidant attachment style.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #exback #nocontact

Most people think that dealing with an avoidant means explaining, checking in or trying to say things the "right way". That usually pushes them further away.In this episode, ex back coach Lucia walks you through taboo ways people unintentionally make avoidants miss them - by doing less instead of more.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#exback #avoidant #avoidantattachment #nocontact #nocontactrule

Blocking an avoidant ex feels powerful - but it often does the opposite of what you want.Ex back strategist Lucia explains why blocking can quietly backfire with avoidant attachment, what it does to their nervous system and the new rule you need to understand before you decide whether to block or not.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidNo Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #getexback #blockinganex

When getting back with an ex, people usually say they're going to "take it slow", but rarely do. Dating expert Lucia explains why pace is the deciding factor, especially with an avoidant ex and why talking doesn't actually move things forward.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#exback #getexback

Being patient with an avoidant doesn't save the connection - it often kills attraction.Dating expert Lucia explains why attraction fades when you're waiting, being understanding, and "not putting pressure on it". If you've been trying to stay calm and do the right thing while nothing changes, this episode is for you.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #breakups #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule

When you've been dumped, the urge to chase can feel overwhelming, especially if you still want your ex back.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains what actually changes when you stop chasing your ex, and why pulling back often shifts the dynamic in ways chasing never can.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#nocontact #breakuppodcast #gettingyourexback #getexback

You've been in no contact and after weeks - or even months - of silence, your ex suddenly texts you. What does it actually mean, and should you respond right away or wait?Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals why exes reach out during no contact, what they're really looking for, and how responding the wrong way can sabotage your chances.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#nocontact #exback #getexback #nocontactrule

If your avoidant ex's actions are confusing, there's usually a very good reason.Dating/relationship expert Lucia exposes the subtle behaviors avoidants show when they're starting to change their minds about the breakup.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex #avoidantattachment

If you're convinced your ex will never reach out, you're probably wrong. Silence after a breakup triggers fear-based thinking, and your brain fills in the blanks with the worst-case scenarios.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains the psychology behind why people assume they'll never hear from their ex, and why that belief is usually not based on reality.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule

If you're in no contact with an avoidant and wondering what they're thinking and feeling, this video will give you clarity.Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares what happens psychologically when you and your avoidant ex both stop contacting each other.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex #getexback #getavoidantexback

Have you been feeling stuck, confused or unable to move forward after a breakup?In this video, dating/relationship expert Lucia asks one powerful question that instantly brings clarity about your real feelings for your ex. Most people are shocked by their own answer!Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#breakups #detachfromex #howtodetachfromex#howtomoveon #howtomoveonfromex

There's a predictable window of time during the night when an avoidant is most likely to break their silence and reach out.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals what happens within this particular window that forces them to reach out, and what their text actually means.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #avoidantex #attachmentstyles #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule

Are you wondering if no contact even works on someone who's stubborn, prideful and/or has a big ego?Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the internal battle that happens inside a stubborn ex during silence.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#stubbornex #getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule #exback

Your ex isn't reaching out because they "miss you" and it's probably not because they suddenly want to get back together.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the real reason your ex is contacting you and pouring out emotional confessions.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule #howtogetmyexback #howtogetanexback

Everyone thinks the hardest part of no contact is the silence. Nope! The real danger begins when you finally hear from your ex.In this episode dating/relationship expert Lucia explains why many people mess up at this point and what to do instead, so you actually get your ex back.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#nocontact #nocontactrule #getexback

Your ex doesn't just suddenly decide to come back one day. There's a specific chain of events that have to happen first.In this episode, dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals how your silence works in your favor, even when it feels like nothing's happening.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#exback #getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule

If you've gone no contact with your avoidant ex and they still haven't said a word, this episode will tell you exactly what's going on in their mind.Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down each stage of what happens internally - from denial to realization - so you can understand why silence works better than chasing.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex #avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant #anxiousavoidant #dismissiveavoidant

Why is almost everyone so angry with people who have an avoidant attachment style? Are they evil or is something else going on?Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals what's really behind all the hate and what to do if you're dealing with an avoidant yourself.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #nocontact #avoidantex

When an avoidant wants to come back, they'll first test you - quietly, strategically and emotionally.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the 3 tests they'll give you and how to pass every one with flying colors.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#getexback #attachmentstyle #avoidant #avoidantattachment #nocontact #nocontactrule

You can't force an avoidant to apologize for hurting you, but you can understand what makes them feel safe enough to do it.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains exactly what you need to do to get your avoidant to apologize.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#avoidantex #getavoidantexback #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant #anxiousavoidant

Dismissive avoidants & fearful avoidants don't have the same reaction to no contact. Understanding the difference will make radio silence less scary.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains how the 2 attachment styles behave during no contact.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantattachment #getexback #nocontact #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant

Blocking an avoidant ex sets off a chain of psychological stages that most people don't expect.Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the 4 things that happen when you block an avoidant dumper.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#AvoidantEx #DismissiveAvoidant #FearfulAvoidant #ExBack

If your ex said they're done, don't panic. Once the silence kicks in and they start to feel the consequences of the breakup, they'll begin to question their decision.Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains why breakups aren't always final and you still have a chance to get your ex back.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#ExBack #BreakupAdvice #NoContactRule #GetYourExBack

No contact isn't enough to get an avoidant ex back. There's something even more powerful that overrides attachment style.Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the secret factor that determines whether your avoidant ex comes back or stays gone.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#NoContactRule #AvoidantEx #GetYourExBack #ExBack #NoContact

Your avoidant ex needs emotional space - 3 feet of it. Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the 3 Foot Rule that makes avoidants feel safe, stops the chasing game and actually draws them back to you.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#avoidantex #attachmentstyles #nocontactrule #getyourexback

Why do avoidants come back after no contact? Most people assume it’s because they miss you or realize your value—but the truth runs much deeper.In this episode, dating/relationship expert Lucia explains the Black Hole Effect: the powerful psychological pull that happens when you stop chasing and give an avoidant the space they need. You’ll learn why avoidants don’t miss you while you’re still reaching out, the stages they go through after a breakup, and the two main reasons they eventually return—even if it takes longer than you’d like.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#AvoidantAttachment #BreakupPsychology #EmotionalUnavailability #FearOfIntimacy #GetExBack #NoContact

Tempted to break no contact? Don't do it until you listen to this episode!Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals when breaking it might lead to reconciliation and when it's almost guaranteed to backfire.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#nocontact #breakupadvice #exback #getexback #nocontactrule

"No chance" doesn't mean it's over. In this episode, find out how to take back control and shift the way your ex sees you - so they may start rethinking the breakup.Dating/relationship expert Lucia shows you exactly how to change the dynamic, build attraction and create the best chance of getting them back. Press play to discover how to turn things around.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#GetYourExBack #BreakupAdvice #NoContactRule #SecondChances

Were you broken up with or had to walk away from an avoidant? Do you wonder if they miss you and regret to break up? Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares what happens when someone with avoidant attachment realize they lost someone irreplaceable. Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#AvoidantAttachment #BreakupPsychology #EmotionalUnavailability #FearOfIntimacy

Think avoidants aren't affected by no contact? Think again! In this episode, dating/relationship expert Lucia shares the 3 things they secretly hope for when you leave them alone after a breakup.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#AvoidantAttachment #NoContactRule #AttachmentTheory #BreakupRecovery

Struggling with no contact? If you have an anxious attachment style, silence from your ex can feel like physical pain.In this episode, dating/relationship expert Lucia shares why no contact is so hard for you and the dopamine hacks to use to rewire your nervous system.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hello on Instagram#nocontact #nocontactrule #anxiousattachment #getexback

Your ex finally reached out after no contact! This is where most people screw it up!Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares why most people mess it up when they hear from their ex and how to not be one of them!Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hello on Instagram!#nocontact #getexback #nocontactrule

Is your ex REALLY gone forever? Or will they return?Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the clear signs your ex is gone for good vs. the hidden clues they might return.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#nocontact #getexback #nocontactrule

Struggling with no contact? The rules have evolved! Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares the new 2025 no contact rules to help you get your ex back.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book#nocontact #nocontactrule #exback #getexback

Avoidant partners often appear cold or indifferent after a breakup. Does that mean they don't care?Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the psychology and regret timeline of avoidant exes.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

If you've been dumped, you're probably wondering:  Is my ex confused after the breakup?  Does my ex regret breaking up with me?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares why dumpers often second-guess their decision - and how their confusion puts YOU in a stronger position.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Women are in shock that Life Coach & YouTuber The Wizard Liz was cheated on by her fiance Landon Nickerson, while she's 4 months pregnant.   Dating/relationship coach Lucia explains why this was preventable and what you can learn from it.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Why do avoidants run away from someone they claim to love?  Why do they sabotage the love they crave?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares why avoidants prefer to be with someone they're not in love with.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book