The Bridge Between Us: A Guide For Christian Parents Navigating the LGBTQ Conversation

What do you do when you know an upcoming family moment is going to feel emotionally complicated? In this episode of Let's Walk This Out Together, Melinda responds to a listener who is preparing to meet her son's same-sex partner at his birthday celebration and is already feeling anxious about how to act, what to say, and whether simply showing up will communicate something she does not intend. Rather than focusing on having the perfect words, this conversation invites parents to prepare their hearts first. Because sometimes the wisest thing we can do is separate the event from the bigger relationship, slow down the fear that wants to script every possible scenario, and ask a better question: Who is God inviting me to be in this moment? This episode is for any Christian parent preparing for a visit, celebration, or family gathering where love, grief, conviction, and uncertainty all seem to be present at the same time. In This Episode Why it helps to separate the event from the larger relationship How fear can make us rehearse conversations that may never happen Why your presence can communicate love without resolving every question How to hold celebration and grief at the same time Why core values matter more than having the perfect script How prayer can help you prepare your posture before a difficult family moment What it looks like to focus on faithfulness for today instead of carrying the weight of the entire future A Question to Sit With Before your next difficult interaction, ask yourself: Am I preparing my heart—or just preparing my words? Then consider: What values do I want to carry into this moment? Do I want to be calm? Kind? Present? Respectful? Anchored? Loving? What would faithfulness look like for the next two days—not the next two years? Key Takeaway You do not have to solve every relationship question during one visit. Sometimes the purpose of the moment is simply to show up with love, remain anchored in God, and trust Him with what unfolds. You can celebrate your child while still carrying grief. You can remain faithful to your convictions without making every gathering about those convictions. And you can walk into a difficult moment without having every answer. Scripture for Reflection James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." Colossians 3:12 "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience." Let's Walk This Out Together Once a month, Melinda takes a real question from a listener and walks through it much like she would in a coaching conversation. Together, we slow down, look beneath the surface, consider what Scripture says, and discern what a faithful next step might look like. If you have a question you would like Melinda to consider for a future episode, submit it through the link in the show notes or reply to one of her emails. If you're wrestling with it, chances are another parent is too. Boots On the Ground If you find yourself asking, "What do I do in situations like this?", that is one of the reasons Melinda created Boots On the Ground. Inside the course, parents learn how to become spiritually grounded before difficult moments arrive, respond from their values instead of their fears, and navigate hard conversations with greater clarity, confidence, and peace. You'll find more information about Boots On the Ground HERE. Share This Episode If this conversation encouraged you, share it with another Christian parent who may be preparing for a difficult family gathering or carrying anxiety about an upcoming interaction with their adult child.

If I asked what you most want God to change about the situation with your child, you could probably answer quickly. Maybe you want a decision reversed. A relationship restored. A conversation to finally happen. Or you desperately want your child to see something you wish they could see. So you pray: "God, please change this." There is nothing wrong with bringing that desire to God. But what if there is another prayer to pray in this season? "God, what do You want to do in me while I wait?" In this episode, we're shifting some of the attention away from everything we hope God will do in our adult child's life and asking a harder—and potentially transformative—question: What might God be doing in us? I share the words of one parent who came into Boots On the Ground wanting God to change her daughter and walked away realizing that God had changed her. Her circumstances weren't suddenly under her control. Her daughter's choices hadn't become hers to manage. But those choices no longer had the same control over her. That's the kind of transformation we're talking about today. In This Episode, We Talk About: How our child's journey can slowly become the center of our spiritual attention Why praying for God to work in our children and allowing Him to work in us can happen at the same time What difficult circumstances may reveal about fear, control, identity, grief, and trust The difference between trying to "figure out the lesson" and simply becoming available to God How God may be teaching us to listen, surrender, trust, and hold truth and compassion together Why experiencing joy again doesn't require waiting for every family circumstance to be resolved A simple practice to help you pay attention to what God may be doing in you during this season Questions to Take to the Lord This Week Start with the prayer you may already be praying: "Lord, what do You want for my child?" Then make room for another: "Lord, what are You doing in me?" As you sit with Him, consider: What is this situation revealing about me? What fears or beliefs have surfaced? Where am I still trying to maintain control? Has my identity as a "good parent" become connected to my child's choices? What have I learned about God in this season? What have I learned about myself? Where have I grown? Where might God be inviting me to trust Him differently? You don't need to come away with ten answers. Maybe there's just one thing the Lord is putting His finger on today. One faithful next step is enough.   Boots On the Ground This is the kind of work we do inside Boots On the Ground. We don't spend seven weeks trying to figure out how to change our children. We look honestly at how we're showing up, what's driving us, what we're carrying, where God is leading us, and what faithfulness looks like in the relationships we're actually living. Our fall groups begin in September, with both daytime and evening options. If you're a Christian parent with an adult child who has embraced an LGBT identity and you're looking for support as you navigate faith, relationship, communication, boundaries, and your own walk with God, you can find the details and application in the links HERE.   Connect with Melinda:  www.melindapatrick.org    Your child has their journey. You have yours. Let's learn to walk yours faithfully.

When something is happening in your child's life that you desperately want to change, it can all start feeling like your responsibility. Their choices. Their relationship with God. Whether they understand what you're trying to tell them. Even what happens next.   In today's episode, Melinda shares a way that can help us determine where the lines of responsibility get blurred.  Listen in as she discuss how to determine what responsibility is ours, what is our childs, and what is Gods.    Releasing responsibility isn't the same thing as withdrawing love. Loving someone does not give me ownership over their choices. My child is a person God has created and there are parts of their journey that we cannot walk for them. Journaling activity: HOW DO I KNOW WHEN I'VE PICKED UP SOMETHING THAT ISN'T MINE? Am I constantly rehearsing conversations?  Does my peace rise and fall based on my child's latest decision?  Am I trying to prevent every consequence? Am I praying or strategizing? Am I more focused on what God needs to do in my child than what He might be doing in me?     Here is more information on the upcoming Boots On the Ground course.   Connect with Melinda: www.melindapatrick.org Please share this episode. If today's conversation encouraged you, would you share it with another parent who may be feeling stuck in fear, uncertainty, or doubt? You never know how God may use one conversation to bring hope to someone else's journey.     

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your adult child and spent the rest of the day replaying every word? Should I have said more? Did I say too much? Was I loving enough? Did I compromise my convictions? If you've ever found yourself caught in that cycle of second-guessing, you're not alone. In this episode, Melinda introduces one of the most important foundations for parenting with confidence and consistency: core values. Many parents believe they lack the right words or the perfect parenting strategy. But often, the real problem isn't a lack of love—it's a lack of clarity. When we haven't decided who we want to be before we enter a difficult conversation, we allow the moment—and our emotions—to decide for us. This episode will help you move from reacting out of fear, guilt, or uncertainty to responding from values that are rooted in God's character and the person He is forming you to become.   In This Episode Why many parents replay conversations long after they've ended The real reason we second-guess ourselves The difference between reacting emotionally and responding intentionally What core values are—and what they are not How your values become internal boundaries that guide your decisions Why confidence comes from knowing who you are, not from controlling the outcome How aligning your values with God's character brings greater steadiness and peace   Take some time this week to prayerfully reflect: What is currently driving how I show up in difficult conversations with my child? Am I responding from fear, guilt, or the desire to control? What values do I want to define how I show up as a parent? How would my conversations change if I stayed anchored in those values instead of my emotions? What kind of parent is God forming me to become in this season?   Scripture for Reflection Colossians 3:12–15 "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another... And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts..." This passage reminds us that our identity in Christ shapes how we respond to others. Our values are not something we simply choose—they grow out of the character God is developing within us.   Key Takeaway Confidence doesn't come from knowing exactly what to do in every situation. Confidence comes from knowing who you are when you step into it. When your values are rooted in God's truth instead of your emotions, you can leave a difficult conversation with peace—not because the outcome was perfect, but because you showed up faithfully.   Boots On the Ground This episode is inspired by one of the foundational teachings inside Boots On the Ground, where we go deeper into identifying the values that guide your parenting and learning how to live them out in everyday conversations and decisions. If you'd like to be among the first to know when the next course opens, be sure you're subscribed to my email newsletter. Subscribers receive updates, encouragement, and early access to new course enrollment. You can join the email newsletter through the link here or on my website.   Share This Episode If today's conversation encouraged you, would you share it with another parent who may be feeling stuck in fear, uncertainty, or self-doubt? You never know how God may use one conversation to bring hope to someone else's journey.  

One of the most common—and most heartbreaking—questions I hear from Christian parents is this: "Can I love my child without compromising my faith?" When your adult child embraces an LGBT identity, it's natural to wrestle with difficult questions about truth, love, boundaries, and what faithfulness looks like. How do you remain true to God's Word while continuing to love your child well? How do you know when your presence communicates love instead of approval? How do you honor both your convictions and your relationship? In this month's Let's Walk This Out Together episode, we slow down and thoughtfully walk through a real question from a listener who is wrestling with these very concerns. Rather than offering quick answers or one-size-fits-all advice, we explore the heart beneath the question, what Scripture reveals about God's character, and how to discern the next faithful step with wisdom, truth, and grace. If you've ever wondered whether it's possible to hold firmly to your faith while maintaining a loving relationship with your child, this conversation is for you. In This Episode Why the better question isn't "What should I do?" but "What does the heart of the Father look like in this situation?" The fear many Christian parents quietly carry about "getting it wrong" How Jesus modeled both truth and grace without compromising either The difference between conviction and rejection How to discern your next faithful step without allowing fear to lead Why every family needs wisdom, not a formula Reflection Questions Spend a few quiet moments with the Lord this week and reflect on these questions: What fear is shaping my decisions right now? 2.      What belief is driving my urgency? 3.      What kind of parent is God inviting me to be? 4.      What belongs to me and what belongs to God? Scripture for Reflection John 1:14 "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth." Romans 5:8 "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." Key Takeaway You do not have to choose between loving your child and remaining faithful to God. God has always been both holy and loving. As parents, we are called to reflect His character by holding onto truth while extending grace, compassion, and love. Remember: Your responsibility is faithfulness. God's responsibility is conviction. Let's Walk This Out Together This episode begins a new monthly feature on the podcast. On the first episode of each month, we'll take a real question from a listener and walk through it together—not with quick answers, but with thoughtful, biblical discernment. We'll slow down, look beneath the surface, consider what Scripture says, and explore what a wise and faithful next step might look like. If you have a question you'd like me to consider in a future episode, I'd love to hear from you. You can submit your question through my website (www.melindapatrick.org)  or simply reply to one of my emails. If you're wrestling with it, chances are another parent is too. Ready to Go Deeper? If today's conversation resonated with you and you're longing for more than information—if you're ready to put these principles into practice—I invite you to join me in Boots On the Ground. This coaching experience is designed specifically for Christian parents who have an adult child who has embraced an LGBT identity. Together, we'll learn how to live out truth and love with greater confidence, wisdom, and peace. Topics include: Identifying the beliefs shaping your parenting Defining the values that guide your decisions Learning to hear God's voice for your unique situation Building healthy boundaries that strengthen relationships Loving your child well without compromising your faith Understanding your role—and trusting God with His Enrollment for the next cohort is opening soon, and email subscribers receive the first opportunity to register. Join the waitlist here.    Share This Episode If this conversation encouraged you, would you consider sharing it with another Christian parent who may be carrying these same questions in silence? Together, we can remind one another that it is possible to walk in both truth and love—with wisdom, grace, and the steadfast hope found in Christ.

Fear is a natural response when someone we love is making choices we don't understand or when the future feels uncertain. For many Christian parents, fear can quietly become a constant companion—fueling worry, second-guessing, and an exhausting need to control outcomes. In this episode, Melinda explores how fear influences our parenting decisions and why it can become a hidden strategy for navigating difficult relationships with our adult children. You'll learn how to recognize fear-driven responses, distinguish fear from wisdom, and begin taking your next steps from a place of trust rather than anxiety. If you've ever found yourself replaying conversations, worrying about the future, or feeling responsible for outcomes you cannot control, this episode will encourage you to pause, reflect, and invite God's wisdom into the places where fear has been leading. In This Episode Why fear is a normal part of parenting adult children How fear can quietly become a parenting strategy Common ways fear shows up in relationships with adult children The difference between fear and wisdom Why fear often pushes us toward control How to recognize the beliefs underneath your fears Practical reflection questions to help you respond thoughtfully instead of react emotionally Reflection Questions Take some time this week to prayerfully consider: Where is fear showing up most often in my parenting? What am I most afraid will happen? What story am I telling myself about my child's future? Am I carrying responsibility for outcomes that belong to God? What would it look like to trust God with this situation today? What is the next faithful step God may be asking me to take? Scripture for Reflection Isaiah 41:10 "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." 2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind." Key Takeaway Fear may be part of your parenting journey, but it does not have to lead it. When fear drives our decisions, we often become focused on controlling outcomes. Wisdom invites us to trust God, remain present in the relationship, and take the next faithful step—even when we cannot see the entire path ahead. Stay Connected Make sure you're subscribed to Melinda's email newsletter for additional encouragement, resources, and updates designed specifically for Christian parents navigating complex relationships with their adult children. You'll also be the first to hear about upcoming enrollment dates for the Boots On the Ground course. New course dates will be announced soon, and email subscribers receive information and access before the general public. Sign up through this link or visit Melinda's website to join the community.   If this episode encouraged you, share it with another parent who may be struggling with fear and uncertainty in their relationship with an adult child. Together, we can learn to walk with wisdom, trust God more deeply, and find peace even when the future feels unclear.

Guilt is one of the heaviest burdens many Christian parents carry, especially when an adult child makes choices that differ from their values, faith, or hopes for the future. Questions like What did I do wrong?, Could I have prevented this?, or Did I fail as a parent? can quietly shape how we think, pray, and respond. In this episode, Melinda explores the difference between guilt and conviction and how unresolved guilt can influence our parenting in ways we may not even recognize. She discusses why many parents take responsibility for outcomes that were never theirs to control and how guilt can keep us stuck in the past instead of moving forward with wisdom and grace. If you've been carrying regret, second-guessing your parenting decisions, or feeling weighed down by what you wish you had done differently, this conversation will encourage you to experience the freedom God offers and begin parenting from a place of faith rather than guilt. In This Episode Why guilt is so common among Christian parents The difference between guilt and conviction How guilt can keep us trapped in the past Why adult children's choices are not always a reflection of parental success or failure The hidden ways guilt influences communication, boundaries, and decision-making How God's grace applies to parents, too Reflection Questions Take some time to prayerfully reflect on these questions: What parenting regrets do you find yourself revisiting most often? Are those thoughts leading you toward growth or keeping you stuck in shame? Is there a difference between what God is showing you and what guilt keeps accusing you of? How might guilt be influencing your current relationship with your child? What would change if you fully embraced God's grace for yourself? Scripture for Reflection Psalm 139:23-24 "Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." Romans 8:1 "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." Psalm 103:12 "As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us." Key Takeaway Healthy conviction leads us toward growth and restoration. Guilt keeps us trapped in self-blame and responsibility for things we cannot control. As parents, we can learn from the past without allowing it to define us. God's grace was never intended only for our children—it is available for us as well.   Connect with Melinda: [email protected] https://melindapatrick.org/   If this episode encouraged you, consider sharing it with another parent who may be carrying guilt or regret on their parenting journey. Together, we can learn to walk in truth, extend grace to ourselves, and trust God with the parts of the story that remain unfinished. Remember: God has entrusted this journey and your child to you. He will equip you for each next step.

As Christian parents, we often focus on our child's choices, behaviors, and circumstances. But what if some of our strongest emotional reactions are actually being shaped by our own beliefs that we haven't fully recognized? In this episode, Melinda explores the hidden beliefs that quietly influence how we parent our children—especially when we're navigating difficult situations involving faith, identity, relationships, or life choices we didn't expect. Many parents carry beliefs such as: "If my child is struggling, I must have failed." "It's my responsibility to fix this." "If I pray harder or say the right thing, I can change the outcome." "A good parent wouldn't be in this situation." While these beliefs often come from a place of love, they can also create fear, guilt, anxiety, and an overwhelming sense of responsibility. Join Melinda as she helps you identify what may be driving your parenting responses beneath the surface and discover how awareness can become the first step toward greater wisdom, peace, and freedom. In This Episode Why our beliefs often influence our parenting more than we realize Common hidden beliefs Christian parents carry The difference between responsibility and control How fear can become an unintended parenting strategy Why identifying unhealthy beliefs is essential for walking wisely A simple reflection exercise to help uncover what's operating beneath the surface Reflection Questions Take a few moments to prayerfully consider: What is your greatest concern about your adult child right now? What belief might be underneath that concern? Are you carrying responsibility for something that belongs to your child? Are you carrying responsibility for something that belongs to God? What would change if you released that burden? Scripture for Reflection Proverbs 3:5–6 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." Key Takeaway Many parents are carrying burdens they were never meant to carry. Wisdom begins when we honestly examine the beliefs shaping our thoughts, emotions, and decisions and allow God to replace fear-driven beliefs with truth. Connect with Melinda [email protected] https://melindapatrick.org/ If this episode encouraged you, share it with another parent who may need hope and perspective on their journey. You don't have to navigate this season alone. Remember: God has entrusted this journey and your child to you. As you engage with Him, He will equip you for each next step.

Many parents walking the difficult journey with an LGBT-identified child feel burdened by guilt, shame, regret, confusion, or fear. Some are estranged from their children. Others are trying to navigate relationships filled with tension and uncertainty. Most people focus on symptoms while ignoring the deeper issues beneath them. Whether it's same-sex attraction, family conflict, shame, anger, addiction, or relational brokenness, lasting change cannot happen if root causes remain untouched. As Justin explains, cutting weeds isn't enough. If the root remains, the problem continues to grow back.   In this powerful TBBU episode, Justin Greenfield brings both personal experience and ministry insight to this conversation. Having walked his own healing journey, Justin offers compassionate guidance to parents and individuals alike. He emphasizes the importance of identifying lies, wounds, unhealthy attachments, shame, and other root issues that often influence behavior. Melinda joins the conversation as a parent who understands the pain and complexity of this journey and encourages parents to pursue their own healing alongside their children.   Justin offers three key encouragements for parents: 1. Accept God's Grace 2. Give Your Child to God 3. Pursue Your Own Healing Journey   The healing journey isn't only for your child. God is inviting parents into deeper intimacy, freedom, and restoration as well. As parents heal, they become a source of hope and strength for others walking similar paths.   The Call to Action Ask God to reveal the root issues beneath the surface. Rather than focusing solely on changing behavior, invite Him to uncover: Unhealed wounds False beliefs Shame Unforgiveness Fear Family patterns Areas needing deeper surrender Then seek wise, trusted people who can help you walk through the healing process with biblical truth and practical wisdom.   When individuals and families embrace God's healing process: Shame loses its power. Relationships can be restored. Parents become healthier and stronger. Children encounter a different family dynamic. The church becomes equipped to minister with both truth and grace. Freedom and transformation become possible.   Resources Mentioned Justin Greenfield's Christian Post op-ed Connect with Justin Greenfield Restored Hope Network Gretchen Stockman's TBBU Episode Melinda Patrick's book: The Daring Rescue Melinda Patrick Ministries

Justin Greenfield is joining Melinda Patrick on The Bridge Between Us Podcast.   In Part One, Justin shares a portion of his testimony.    If you would like to understand the root issues of homosexuality, hear a few testimonies of those who now live a life beyond homosexuality through Christ and wisdom, or connect with healthy resources that address homosexuality check out godloveshomosexuals.com    If you're seeking spiritual direction, ministry consultation, would like to discuss a speaking engagement with Justin Greenfield, or would like to hear more about and support his ministry work go to greenfieldministries.com    Also, here are a couple to the study led by Vanderbilt University researchers on the adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) of homosexual individuals which Justin mentioned on the podcast:    Synopsis from Vanderbilt https://www.vumc.org/health-policy/LGBTQ-mental-health-adverse-childhood-experiences-research   Full Article: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/2789482 (Note that the synopsis does not include the ACE that I mentioned on the show - incarcerated household member. It is only in the full article.)

June can feel especially heavy for Christian parents navigating the complexities of loving a child who identifies as LGBTQ while also holding to biblical convictions. In this episode, Melinda Patrick offers compassionate encouragement for parents who feel caught between truth and relationship, conviction and compassion, grief and hope. This conversation is not about fear, outrage, or culture wars. It is about staying anchored in Jesus — emotionally, spiritually, and relationally — while walking a difficult parenting journey with humility, wisdom, and faithfulness. Melinda reminds parents that culture should never disciple our emotions more than Christ disciples our hearts. You will learn 7 ways to stay anchored:  Don't panic. Stay in prayer instead of control. Keep relationship where possible. Stay rooted in Scripture. Watch your tone. Allow yourself to grieve honestly. Remember God loves your child more than you can imagine. Mentioned in This Episode Piercing the Night by Lindsey Kiser Charles Spurgeon Dutch Sheets Still Faithful mini-series Episode 117 of The Bridge Between Us Encouragement for Parents As Pride Month unfolds: stay close to Jesus stay rooted in Scripture stay humble stay faithful The Gospel is still powerful. The Holy Spirit still moves. And Jesus is still drawing people to Himself. You are not alone in this journey. Keep abiding. Keep trusting. Keep re-presenting Jesus. Resources & Next Steps Listen to previous testimonies on The Bridge Between Us Begin the Still Faithful mini-series starting with Episode 117 Subscribe to Melinda's newsletter for ongoing encouragement and equipping Stay tuned for the upcoming mini-series: Walking Wisely, beginning July 1 Restored Hope Network annual HOPE conference - June 12-13 - Colorado Springs, CO

  After months of walking through grief, surrender, shame, boundaries, courage, renewal, and unresolved pain, we come to one final question in the Still Faithful series: Can new life still come from this? In this closing episode, we talk about hope — not the kind that demands immediate answers or guaranteed outcomes, but the kind that trusts God is still present and still capable of bringing life, even in difficult and unfinished stories. This conversation is for the parent who feels weary, uncertain, or afraid to hope again. It is a reminder that redemption does not erase pain, and that God often brings restoration in quieter and deeper ways than we expect. As this series comes to a close, we also begin looking ahead toward what it means to walk wisely through ongoing relationships, emotions, and decisions with greater steadiness and discernment. In this episode, we explore: • Why painful parenting seasons can make hope feel fragile • God's pattern of bringing life from places that feel barren • Why redemption does not minimize or erase grief • What "new life" may actually look like in unresolved stories • Learning to entrust both wounds and hope to God • How healing often begins in the parent, not just the circumstances • Transitioning from survival into wisdom and grounded living Reflection Questions • Where do I long to believe that new life is possible? • What might resurrection look like in my story — even in small ways? • What am I willing to entrust to God again? A Gentle Reminder Healing is not only about what happens around us. Sometimes healing begins in how we stand: Steadier. Softer. Wiser. More grounded in God. Looking Ahead In the upcoming Walking Wisely series, we'll begin exploring: • How to discern God's voice when emotions are loud • How fear and guilt shape parenting decisions • Emotional steadiness in difficult relationships • Grounded, faith-filled decision-making • Learning to move forward wisely in unresolved situations Because faithfulness is not only about surviving hard seasons. It is also about learning how to live wisely inside them. Support If you're realizing you want help living this out in real life — not just listening to it — coaching is available to support you as you discern your next faithful steps with greater clarity, steadiness, and wisdom. You can learn more at www.melindapatrick.org For more information on Restored Hope Network's HOPE 2026 Conference: HOPE

Mother's Day can be beautiful — but for many mothers walking difficult parenting journeys, it can also feel deeply tender. While others are celebrating, many moms are quietly carrying grief, estrangement, worry, disappointment, exhaustion, or unanswered prayers connected to their children. In this special Mother's Day episode of the Still Faithful series, we talk honestly about the emotional weight many mothers carry and the hope God offers in the middle of unfinished stories. This conversation is a gentle reminder that painful seasons do not make you a failure — and that your motherhood is not defined only by what is hard. If this day feels complicated for you, you are not alone. In this episode, we explore: • Why Mother's Day can stir grief and emotional pain • The invisible weight many mothers quietly carry • A different kind of hope for unresolved stories • Gentle reminders for mothers who feel weary or discouraged • Why your child's choices are not the full measure of your motherhood • God's care for the mother who has been carrying so much Reflection Questions • Where have I been carrying more than I was meant to carry alone? • What would compassion toward myself look like today? • What has God sustained me through that I haven't stopped to acknowledge? • Where might God be inviting me to receive His care again? A Gentle Reminder You are allowed to grieve what is hard. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to experience joy. And your child's story is not the full measure of your motherhood.   Connect with Melinda: [email protected] Related previous episodes: Gretchen Stockman: Help For The Parent Who Is Estranged Episode 27: Hope and Encouragement For All Moms   For more information on the HOPE 2026 Restored Hope Network Conference:  HOPE 2026  

After walking through pain, courage, renewal, and joy, many parents find themselves asking a new question: What does faith look like now? Not before the hardship. Not once everything is resolved. But here — in the middle of an unfinished story. In this episode of the Still Faithful series, we explore what it means to live out your faith in real, daily ways when life still feels uncertain. This conversation reframes faith as something active and present — not something we pause until circumstances improve. If you've been waiting for clarity before moving forward, this episode will gently remind you that faith is not about waiting for resolution, but about how you live and walk with God in the in-between.   In this episode, we explore: • Why faith is not just waiting, but a way of living • What it means to walk with God in the middle of uncertainty • How faith matures in the in-between, not after resolution • The difference between faith that deepens and faith that hardens • What everyday, lived-out faith can look like in this season   Reflection Questions: • How has my faith changed through this season? • What practices help me stay anchored now? • What kind of believer am I becoming?   A gentle reminder: Faith is not something you pause until life improves. It is something you live inside the uncertainty.   Support: For many parents, this is the point where something begins to shift. You may find yourself wanting to move from simply understanding these truths to actually living them out with clarity and consistency. Coaching offers a space to process what God is doing in your life, discern your next faithful steps, and stay grounded as you continue forward. You can learn more at www.melindapatrick.org Connect with Melinda: [email protected] For more information on Hope 2026 at Focus on the Family in Colorado Springs: www.restoredhopenetwork.org

After a long season of grief, uncertainty, and emotional weight, joy can feel complicated. Many parents find that when moments of lightness or happiness begin to return, they are quickly followed by guilt. It can feel wrong to experience joy when your child's story is still unresolved. In this episode of the Still Faithful series, we talk about what it means to rebuild joy without betraying the pain. This conversation offers permission to experience joy again — not as a replacement for grief, but alongside it. If you've been hesitant to receive joy, or unsure how to hold both sorrow and hope at the same time, this episode will gently remind you that both can exist together. In this episode, we explore: • Why joy can feel uncomfortable or even inappropriate in hard parenting seasons • How grief and joy can coexist without canceling each other out • Releasing guilt around happiness • Understanding that joy can actually strengthen your faith • God's delight in His children experiencing life, even in difficult seasons   Reflection Questions: • Where do I feel guilty enjoying life right now? • What brings me joy in this season — not before, not someday, but right now? • How might allowing joy actually strengthen my faith? A gentle reminder: Joy does not mean the pain didn't matter. It means God is still present. Closing Encouragement: You are allowed to experience moments of joy, even while your child's story is still unfolding. Joy is not a betrayal of love. It is often what sustains it.   Connect with Melinda: [email protected] For more information on coaching sessions with Melinda: Coaching For information regarding the Hope 2026 Conference hosted by Restored Hope Network. 

When a parenting story remains unresolved, courage can feel difficult to define. Many parents believe courage means having answers, confidence, or certainty about the future. But faith often asks something different. In this episode, we explore what courage looks like when the outcome is still unknown. Rather than dramatic strength, courage in these seasons is often quiet — choosing to stay open, continuing to trust God one step at a time, and showing up in love without guarantees. If you are navigating uncertainty in your relationship with your child, this conversation offers reassurance that courage does not require certainty. Sometimes courage simply means continuing to walk with God in the middle of the story. In this episode we explore: • The difference between courage and certainty • Why trusting God daily is more sustainable than trying to trust Him with the whole future • What it means to show up with love even when outcomes are unclear • How courage in painful parenting seasons often looks quiet rather than dramatic Reflection Questions • What am I afraid to hope for right now? • Where might God be inviting me to trust Him one step at a time? • What might courage look like in this season of my life? A gentle reminder Courage may not look like being strong. Sometimes courage looks like staying open before the Lord.   Connect with Melinda: [email protected] www.melindapatrick.org   Thank you for sharing this episode and Still Faithful Series with other families. 

After long seasons of grief, uncertainty, and emotional exhaustion, many parents find themselves in a kind of spiritual winter. Life has been focused on carrying, praying, waiting, and holding tension. But sometimes, quietly, something begins to change. In this episode of the Still Faithful series, we talk about what it looks like when God begins inviting you back into life again. Not with pressure or urgency, but with gentle renewal. This conversation explores spiritual winter seasons, the slow timing of renewal, and how to notice the small stirrings of life that God may be awakening in you. If you've felt emotionally dormant or unsure how to move forward after a long season of carrying so much, this episode offers reassurance that renewal does not require rushing or forgetting the past. God often restores life slowly — and slow restoration is still real restoration. In this episode, we explore: • Why spiritual "winter" seasons are a natural part of faith • How God often brings renewal quietly and gradually • The difference between rising again and rushing forward • Noticing the gentle stirrings of life after a season of dormancy • Why renewal does not erase love, concern, or the past Reflection questions: Take these slowly. There is no pressure to resolve anything quickly. • Where have I been emotionally dormant? • What feels like it may be beginning to stir in me? • What would it look like to say "yes" to life again — slowly? An important reminder: Renewal does not require forgetting the past. It simply means allowing God to grow something new alongside it. You are allowed to experience life again even while your child's story is still unfolding. Support: For many parents, renewal can feel unfamiliar after long seasons of carrying pain and uncertainty. If you're sensing new stirrings but feel unsure how to move forward with wisdom and steadiness, coaching can be a space to discern those invitations. You can learn more at www.melindapatrick.org

In difficult parenting seasons, it's easy to focus entirely on your child's needs while quietly neglecting your own. Over time, the emotional weight can become heavy — even if you appear steady on the outside. In this episode of the Still Faithful series, we turn the focus gently toward the parent who has been carrying so much. This conversation explores what it means to care for yourself without guilt, to rest without abandoning hope, and to remember that you are not only a steward in this story — you are also deeply loved by God. If you've felt depleted, spiritually tired, or unsure how to replenish your own heart while still loving your child faithfully, this episode offers steady reassurance and practical next steps. In this episode, we explore: The invisible emotional load many parents carry Why strength does not eliminate your need for care The difference between self-care and soul-care Signs you may be emotionally or spiritually depleted Practical ways to begin restoring your capacity The theological truth that you are not only the steward — you are also the beloved Reflection questions: Where am I most depleted right now? What would true rest look like for me in this season? What am I allowed to receive? If I believed God cared about my well-being too, what might I change? An important reassurance: You are allowed to experience peace even if your child's story is unfinished. Your rest is not abandonment. Your joy is not betrayal. Your steadiness is not indifference. Caring for yourself does not mean you love your child less. It often means you love better. Support: If you're unsure what healthy rhythms of restoration look like for you — or if guilt makes it difficult to prioritize your own well-being — coaching is available as a space to discern next faithful steps with clarity and support. You can learn more at www.melindapatrick.org. 

When parenting feels uncertain or painful, the desire to control outcomes can quietly take over. Not because we are manipulative — but because we care deeply. In this episode of the Still Faithful series, we explore what it truly means to let go of control without letting go of love. This conversation gently separates responsibility from outcome, and invites parents into a posture of surrender that is steady rather than anxious. If you've found yourself rehearsing conversations, managing reactions, or carrying the weight of your child's choices, this episode offers reassurance: control is not the same as care — and releasing outcomes does not mean releasing love. In this episode, we explore: Why control often feels like responsibility for parents The emotional exhaustion that comes from managing outcomes The difference between surrender and withdrawal How love changes when control loosens Trusting that God is at work beyond what you can see Reflection questions: Take these slowly — there's no pressure to resolve anything today. Where am I trying to manage outcomes? What fears sit underneath my need for control? What would it look like to entrust this area fully to God? How might my posture shift if I believed God loves my child even more than I do? A practice for this week: "God, I release what I cannot control. Help me love without grasping. Help me trust without managing." Surrender is not a one-time decision. It is a posture we return to again and again. An important reminder: Letting go of control does not mean letting go of love. It means allowing love to be steady instead of anxious.   Connect with Melinda: [email protected] https://melindapatrick.org/

Setting boundaries as a parent can feel confusing — especially in painful or estranged relationships. Many parents worry that boundaries mean rejection, distance, or giving up on their child. In this episode of the Still Faithful series, we talk about healthy, faith-aligned boundaries that protect love rather than punish it. This conversation reframes boundaries as stewardship — not withdrawal — and offers permission to care for your heart without guilt. This episode is especially for parents who feel emotionally drained, reactive, or consumed after interactions with their child, and who want to love well without losing themselves. In this episode, we explore: Why boundaries can feel so hard for parents who love deeply Boundaries as stewardship, not rejection Emotional boundaries that help parents stay grounded How to remain open-hearted without being consumed Why boundaries can actually preserve love rather than damage it Reflection questions: Take your time with these — there's no pressure to resolve anything quickly. Where do I feel most drained after interactions with my child? What boundaries might bring peace rather than distance? What am I allowed to protect — emotionally, spiritually, or relationally? An important reassurance: Setting boundaries does not mean you've stopped loving your child. Boundaries are often what make faithful, sustainable love possible. A gentle next step: For many parents, boundaries are where discernment becomes difficult. Knowing what to set, how to hold it, and how to release guilt takes support. Coaching is available for parents who want help discerning next faithful steps — without pressure, formulas, or forced decisions. You can learn more at https://melindapatrick.org/coaching-for-christian-parents-when-parenting-hurts/.

If January was about stabilizing the heart, February invites us to reimagine love — not as fixing or chasing, but as something steady, humble, and true. In this episode, we talk about what it means to love well when relationships are strained, distant, or uncertain. Together, we'll explore: Why love is not the same as control or agreement How to love without losing yourself What it looks like to respond instead of react How to anchor your heart in truth — even when outcomes are unclear You'll also find space to reflect on questions like: Where have I confused love with fixing? How has my definition of love changed? What does loving well look like from where I stand now? This is for the parent who's still showing up in faith — even when there's silence. Even when there's grief. Even when there's no clear path forward. Listen and share if you need the reminder: You can still love well. Even here. Even now. If this episode resonated with you, would you consider: Sharing it with someone who needs the same reminder Leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Following The Bridge Between Us so you never miss an episode Your support helps more parents find their way back to hope.   Subscribe to the Bridge Between Us Newletter for updates, equipping and encouragement:  https://mailchi.mp/1e8513b0df62/the-daring-rescue

Some parenting stories don't resolve neatly. Relationships remain strained. Questions remain unanswered. And the waiting can feel exhausting. In Episode 5 of the Still Faithful series, we talk about what faithfulness looks like when nothing is resolved — when there is no closure, no clear outcome, and no timeline for change. This episode invites parents to consider how to live fully, love well, and stay faithful even when the story is still unfinished. In this episode, we talk about: The emotional weight of unresolved parenting seasons Why faithfulness is not waiting for resolution before living How to hold hope without demanding outcomes Allowing joy and grief to exist together Moving forward while trusting God with what remains unanswered Reflection questions: Where am I waiting for resolution before allowing myself to live fully? What might it look like to move forward faithfully, even while something remains unfinished? How can I hold hope without attaching it to a specific outcome? A closing encouragement: Faithfulness does not require closure. It requires presence.   If you would like more information on the coaching Melinda offers, send an email to: melinda@melindapatrickorg  

Trusting God can feel especially fragile in painful parenting seasons. For many parents, faith doesn't feel confident or clear — it feels cautious, tender, and uncertain. In Episode 4 of the Still Faithful series, we talk honestly about what it means to stay rooted in Christ when trust feels shaky. This episode offers reassurance that fragile trust is still real trust — and that staying connected to God does not require certainty, clarity, or emotional confidence. This conversation is for parents who are still showing up, still listening, still praying — even when faith feels quiet or hesitant. In this episode, we talk about: Why trust can feel fragile after prolonged pain or unanswered prayers The difference between being rooted and being certain How faith often deepens underground, unseen What staying rooted can look like in everyday life Why small acts of faithfulness matter deeply A gentle reflection: Where does trust feel tender for me right now? What helps me stay connected to God, even when I feel unsure? What would it look like to trust God with just today — not everything at once? A reminder for this week: You don't have to trust God with the whole story. You can trust Him with the next step. God has entrusted this journey and your child to you. As you remain connected to Him — even quietly — He will equip you for each next step.   If you would like more information on coaching, send Melinda an email:  [email protected]

In hard parenting seasons, recognizing God's presence can feel complicated. Not because God is absent — but because His faithfulness often shows up quietly. In Episode 3 of the Still Faithful series, we explore what it means to notice God's hand without forcing gratitude, positivity, or resolution. This episode is an invitation to spiritual awareness rooted in honesty, not pressure. If you've ever wondered whether you're "missing" God in a painful season — or felt unsure how to talk about His presence when nothing feels resolved — this episode offers a gentle place to pause and reflect. This conversation isn't about finding silver linings. It's about making room to notice what's been steady, subtle, and sustaining.   In this episode, we talk about: Why God's faithfulness often feels quiet in hard years The difference between spiritual awareness and forced positivity How God's presence may show up through people, restraint, or truth rather than outcomes Why "I don't know yet" can still be a faithful answer How to remain open to God without demanding clarity   Reflection questions: Take your time with these — there's no rush. Where do I recognize God's hand, even faintly, in this past season? Who did God place in my life to steady me when I felt unsure? What truth did God gently remind me of when everything felt uncertain? And remember: If the answer feels like "I don't know yet," that's okay. God meets us there too.   A gentle reminder: God's faithfulness doesn't disappear in hard years. Sometimes it just shows up quietly. Faith doesn't require forced meaning or immediate clarity — only continued presence.   About the series: Still Faithful Still Faithful is a podcast series for Christian parents navigating painful, unresolved parenting journeys — including estrangement, distance, and seasons where a child's choices challenge deeply held beliefs. This series is designed to help you: Release shame Name pain honestly Recognize God's presence without pressure Stay rooted when trust feels fragile Move forward faithfully, one step at a time God has entrusted this journey and your child to you. As you engage with Him — even quietly, even uncertainly — He will equip you for each next step.

If you've ever whispered, "God, what do I do with this grief I can't even name?" — this episode is for you. So many parents are trying to stay faithful… while quietly carrying spiritual pain no one else sees. Grief that doesn't have a name. Disappointment that feels "un-Christian" to admit. Anguish that lingers, even when you're doing all the "right" things. In this episode, we talk honestly about the kind of pain that doesn't fit into neat categories — and the courage it takes to stay when your heart feels like it's breaking. What we cover: Why unspoken pain doesn't disappear — it just goes underground The difference between doubt and honest faith How lament can actually be one of the most faithful things you do Naming grief when your child is still alive What to pray when you're too tired for long prayers Why your sorrow does not disqualify your faithfulness Take this with you: You are not just a parent in pain. You are a parent in position. And God is still working in the dark. Mentioned in this episode: Last week's episode on releasing shame (Ep 1: "It Wasn't Your Fault") Scripture-based reflections on grief and lament A simple practice of honest prayer you can begin this week Resources for you: Morning Worship Text Series (Free) This is something I personally use to start many of my weekdays. It's short, simple, and it grounds my heart before I ask for anything. The time of worship includes a song and Scripture read aloud. You'll get a morning text with a link to worship — you can listen whenever it fits your rhythm. Here's the link: https://sing.theworshipinitiative.com Devotional Recommendation:  The Hidden Face of God: Finding the Missing Door to the Father Through Lament by Michael Card This book will meet you in the deeper place. If you're craving more intimacy with the Father — especially when He feels quiet — this is for you.  {This is an affiliate link - it doesn't change anything for you on your end but helps support my ministry if you decide to purchase through this link} Let's stay connected: If today's episode spoke to you, would you take a moment to share it with someone who's navigating a similar journey? You're not alone — and neither are they. 💌 Subscribe, review, or send me a message with what stood out. I'd love to hear from you. You can connect with Melinda: [email protected]

As we begin a new year, many parents are carrying more than they expected — unresolved relationships, unanswered prayers, and the quiet weight of loving a child through pain, distance, or deep disagreement. In this first episode of the Still Faithful series, we slow down together and begin with something essential: releasing shame. This episode is for parents who are questioning themselves, their faith, or what faithfulness looks like after a hard year. It's a grounding invitation to look back honestly — without self-blame — and to begin moving forward with steadiness, clarity, and grace. This is not about fixing your child or forcing outcomes. It's about strengthening you. In this episode, we talk about: The difference between faithfulness and outcomes How to look back at the past year without self-condemnation What you may be carrying that was never meant to be yours Why faithfulness can coexist with heartbreak How to begin a new year grounded rather than striving Reflection questions to sit with: Where have I been harder on myself than God has been? What did faithfulness look like for me this past year — even if it felt quiet or unseen? What responsibility or guilt do I need to release as I move forward? A gentle reminder: You can be deeply faithful and deeply heartbroken at the same time. Faithfulness does not require resolution — only presence. As we move through this series, we'll continue to explore how to stay spiritually anchored, emotionally steady, and rooted in love — even when the story isn't finished.   About the Series: Still Faithful Still Faithful is a season created for Christian parents navigating painful, unresolved parenting journeys — including estrangement, distance, and moments when a child's choices challenge deeply held beliefs. This series is designed to help you: Stay grounded when parenting hurts Discern next faithful steps without pressure Love well without losing yourself Trust God even when outcomes are uncertain  

As this year comes to a close, I want to take a moment with you — not to fix anything, not to sum it all up, but simply to pause. Reflect on these questions:  What did this year ask of you that you didn't expect? What did you continue to do this year, even when it hurt?   As this year closes, there may be things you're still carrying that were never meant to come with you into the next one. For just a moment, imagine setting those things down — not forever, but for now. They do not need to define the threshold you're crossing.   When we return in the new year, we'll be entering a slower, more intentional season together — one focused on helping you stay grounded and faithful when parenting hurts. If you need a place to land as the new year begins, I'll be here. For now, take care of yourself. Rest where you can. Celebrate where you can. And know that you are not alone.  

The holidays can feel especially heavy when your child is walking a path that doesn't reflect the way you raised them — spiritually, morally, or emotionally. If you've ever felt that quiet ache, this episode is meant to bring comfort, clarity, and hope. In today's conversation, we explore gentle, grace-filled ways to reconnect with your child during the holiday season without pressure, panic, or preaching. You'll hear why your presence matters more than "getting the words right," how to ask open, life-giving questions, and why small moments of warmth can rebuild trust over time. This is an episode for Christian parents who love deeply, hurt quietly, and want to keep the door open — even when the relationship feels complicated. What We Cover in This Episode: ❤️ Naming the Heartache Why the holidays magnify the distance, the grief, and the unspoken worries many parents carry. 🧠 Understanding Your Child's Internal World They may be navigating more fear, shame, or uncertainty than you think — even if they don't show it. 🌿 Five Gentle Ways to Reconnect This Season Leading with presence over correction Asking questions without hidden agendas Sharing warm memories instead of disappointment Releasing the pressure for holiday moments to "go somewhere" Praying quietly, loving loudly   Simple interactions become the first seeds of reconnection. A Gentle Reminder: You're not failing. You're navigating something complicated with love and courage. And God still moves in the places you can't reach. For Parents Who Need This Today: Save this episode for the tender moments… and feel free to share it with someone who is walking the same road.   Do you want to know more about the January 2026 FAST or make sure you do't miss out on any new opportunities? Subscribe here to receive emails to get the latest news.    Related episodes of The Bridge Between Us to help with the holidays: https://melindapatrick.org/2024/12/23/gretchen-stockman-help-for-the-parent-who-has-been-estranged-from-their-child-eps-78/   https://melindapatrick.org/2023/12/17/when-christmas-is-difficult-dont-let-the-enemy-rob-you-of-the-real-meaning-of-the-season-eps-47/   https://melindapatrick.org/2023/11/29/moving-from-fear-to-faith-and-taking-steps-to-have-a-trauma-less-christmas-with-jenn-hand-eps-44/   https://melindapatrick.org/2023/11/15/ways-to-thrive-this-holiday-season-when-skipping-isnt-an-option-eps-42/

Thanksgiving can be a beautiful day — but for many Christian parents of LGBTQ-identified children, it can also be complicated, emotional, or even painful. In this short, heartfelt Thanksgiving episode, Melinda offers encouragement, grounding truth, and three practical ways to prepare your heart before you prepare your home. If you're carrying tension, uncertainty, or grief into the holiday, this episode will help you slow down, breathe, and remember that God meets you right where you are. Three Practical Tips for Parents This Thanksgiving These simple but powerful steps can help bring calm, clarity, and connection to your holiday: • Set Realistic Expectations Your child may not respond the way you hope. The conversation may feel awkward. The day may not look like past Thanksgivings. Give yourself — and them — permission to be human. Release the pressure and embrace the day as it is, not as you wish it were. • Find the Common Denominator Regardless of disagreements or differences, there is something true and good you both value. Maybe it's laughter. Maybe it's family stories, food, football, games, or serving others. Look for common ground as a way to build connection, not conflict. • Go In with a Posture of Humility Before you set the table, set your heart. Before you open the door to your child, open your heart to Jesus. Let Him shape your tone, soften your responses, and steady your emotions. Humility doesn't mean compromise — it means choosing love over winning, and presence over pressure. Mentioned Episodes for Further Support If today feels heavy or confusing, these conversations will equip and encourage you: Two Sides One Family How To Talk About LGBTQ Issues When An Older Sibling Identifies as LGBTQ Responding To Family Conflict Finding Joy When Your Kids Walk Away Help For Estranged Parents How To Support Your LGBTQ-identified Child Without Endorsing The Identity They Embrace Loving Your LGBTQ-identified Child with Grace & Truth The Loudest Roar   These episodes offer practical language and faith-filled guidance for moments just like this. If This Episode Blessed You… Share it with a fellow parent who may be feeling alone this holiday. And be sure to rate the show — it helps other hurting parents find encouragement and hope.  

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How do you talk to your younger kids about LGBTQ topics when an older sibling identifies as LGBTQ? That's one of the most common—and difficult—questions parents and grandparents ask. Today on The Bridge Between Us Podcast, Melinda Patrick is joined by Elizabeth Urbanowicz, author, teacher, and host of the Foundational Worldview podcast, to discuss how to approach these conversations biblically, truthfully, and compassionately. Together, Melinda and Elizabeth tackle three key questions: 1️⃣ How can we protect (and prepare) our younger children when an older sibling embraces an LGBTQ identity? 2️⃣ What's the best way to discuss LGBTQ topics in a way that's both biblical and filled with grace? 3️⃣ How do we teach our children to love others well—without affirming what Scripture calls sin? In this episode, you'll discover: Why "protecting" your children isn't the goal—and what to do instead Three practical steps to prepare your younger children when a sibling or family member identifies as LGBTQ How to overcome the fear of saying or doing the wrong thing Whether you're a parent, grandparent, or family member seeking wisdom and peace in a divided culture, this conversation will help you walk in truth and love—right where God has placed you.   *Please share this episode with pastors and ministry leaders - they are always in search of biblically aligned resources to help those they are shepherding *There is another family out there searching for hope and help - be a resource and share this episode with them.    Connect with Elizabeth Urbanowicz: Foundation Worldview   Books mentioned:  Helping Your Kids Know God's Good Design by Elizabeth Urbanowicz

Laura Smalts and Melinda Patrick are continuing their conversation today on The Bridge Between Us Podcast.   In this episode, Laura shares how the Lord met her on her healing journey and the steps she took that led to her freedom and new found joy.  Listen in and discover:  *the one thing Laura did that has given her unspeakable joy *how a parent's healing journey is similar to that of their LGBTQ-identified child's *way God redeems and goes over and above   BONUS EPISODE: Listen to the bonus episode with Laura HERE.    Connect:  Connect with Laura Smalts:  Eden's Redemption Connect with Melinda Patrick: [email protected]   Books mentioned: The Prodigal Prayer Guide by Laura Perry Smalts Transgender to Transformed by Laura Perry Smalts The Daring Rescue by Melinda Patrick    

In this heartfelt episode, Laura Smalts opens up about her journey of transitioning to male and later detransitioning back to the woman God created her to be. Listen in and hear: *What Laura's parents did that left a lasting impact *the powerful transformation she witnessed in her mom *the question that left me speechless and soul-searching You'll also hear two of the most important prayers we can pray as parents walking through difficult seasons with our children. It's a story of truth, grace, and the redeeming love of Christ.   Connect with Laura Smalts:  Eden's Redemption   Books mentioned: Prodigal Prayer Guide Transgendered to Transformed Humility Absolute Surrender

Have you ever felt powerless — like you've prayed all the prayers, said all the words, and nothing seems to change? When your child embraces an LGBTQ identity, it's easy to feel like your hands are tied and your hope is fading. But here's the truth: you are not powerless. In this episode of The Bridge Between Us, host Melinda Patrick reminds Christian parents, pastors, and counselors that while you may not be able to change your child's choices, you can partner with God in powerful, peace-filled ways. Through six simple but life-giving actions — Pray, Nurture, Love, Trust, Remember, and Live — you'll discover how to stay anchored in faith, love your child well, and reflect Christ in the middle of your ache. Melinda shares biblical encouragement, practical wisdom, and a faith-in-action challenge to help you shift your focus from what you can't do… to what you can do. Because you're not powerless — you're a parent partnering with the God of the impossible. Key Takeaways: Prayer isn't passive — it's powerful. Invite God to teach you how to love your child His way. Nurture the relationship even when you don't agree; soft soil grows seeds of truth. Love doesn't mean compromise — it reflects God's character and kindness. Trust God's heart, even when you can't trace His plan. Remember His past faithfulness; write your story as a testimony. Live with hope and joy — your faith in motion is a living witness. Faith in Action Challenge: *Read Psalm 18. Make note of who God is. *Take time to write your testimony — where God met you and how He's been faithful. Ask Him to show you one way to live from that place of hope. You are not powerless. You are standing in the gap — and heaven sees you.   Scriptures mentioned:  Judges 13 Psalm 18 Connect with Melinda Patrick: [email protected]

When homosexuality enters a marriage, it can feel like the ground has been ripped out from beneath you. Confusion, pain, and even questions about your own worth can overwhelm your heart. You're not alone—and there is a way forward. In this episode of The Bridge Between Us, host Melinda Patrick welcomes back Joe Dallas along with his wife Renee Dallas to speak directly to spouses, strugglers, parents, and ministry leaders who long to understand the impact of homosexuality in marriage. Drawing from years of experience, Renee shares the AFTER acrostic—five practical steps that guide spouses toward healing—and explains the three types of wounds that can deeply affect a marriage in these moments. Together, Joe and Renee point to the root issues beneath homosexuality and reveal the two essential steps every person must take if they want to experience restoration and hope. You'll walk away with: Clarity on the three types of wounds that surface when homosexuality impacts a marriage Insight into the root issues of homosexuality The two major steps toward healing that every person needs A renewed belief that if there is good faith on both sides, there is hope for restoration This conversation is not just information—it's a lifeline of truth, compassion, and hope for every person navigating the heartbreak of homosexuality within marriage.   Prior episodes that relate to this episode: Longing for Intimacy, Walking in Freedom Eps 99 with Amy Riordan Christians In a Cancel Culture Eps 17 with Joe Dallas    Connect with Joe Dallas:  Joedallas.com Find out more about The Challenge for Pastors   Connect with Renee Dallas:  WifeBoat   Books mentioned: Order The Daring Rescue here.   Stay up to date by signing up here to receive the Bridge Newsletter.   To share your thoughts: Leave a note in the comment section below or send me an email to: [email protected] Leave an honest review on ITunes or your favorite podcast app. Your ratings and reviews help get this message of hope into the hands of hurting families and I read each one. 😊 Make sure to 'Follow' the Bridge Between Us Podcast on Itunes so you don't miss an episode. Subscribe to our newsletter now.

Are you feeling like life has collapsed around you—wondering if joy, peace, or even a sense of normal will ever return? You're not alone. In this episode of The Bridge Between Us, host Melinda Patrick welcomes back Jenn Hand, author of Hope Beneath the Rubble. Together, they talk about how to move toward hope and healing when it feels like everything in your world is falling apart. Using her powerful acrostic, RUBBLE, Jenn shares how to find steady ground and begin rebuilding your heart in the midst of trauma and loss. 💡 What you'll discover in this episode: The warning signs of trauma you may not recognize right away Simple, practical steps you can take today to move forward in hope A word of encouragement to strengthen your heart as you look ahead The reminder that you are not alone in this journey If you've been searching for hope, this conversation is your invitation to take one small, brave step today. 👉 Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode: Book: Hope Beneath the Rubble by Jenn Hand – Grab the first chapter here Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Listen to Jenn's prior episode: Moving From Fear to Faith with Jenn Hand (Ep. 44) Connect with Jenn: jenniferhand.org 📬 Stay connected: Sign up for updates + encouragement: Join our newsletter Share your thoughts. Send an email: [email protected] Leave a review on iTunes or your favorite podcast app – your feedback helps spread hope to families who need it most. 🎙️ Don't miss an episode! Be sure to Follow The Bridge Between Us Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen.

When someone in your family embraces a new identity, the ripple effects can leave you confused, isolated, and grieving in silence. Many parents and children feel like they must carry this pain alone. In this powerful episode, Denise shares her story of discovering her father's desire to become a woman when she was just nine years old. She opens up about the secret pain she carried, the identity struggles that followed, and how God met her in her darkest places. Through Scripture, prayer, and eventually forgiveness, Denise found a way forward. Her testimony shows that even when family wounds run deep, God offers hope, healing, and freedom. Listen in, be encouraged, and discover that you don't have to carry your pain alone. God can redeem even the most broken parts of your story. You'll Walk Away With: ✅ Understanding how hidden struggles within a family can impact identity and faith. ✅ A reminder that God's Word speaks truth into the darkest places. ✅ Encouragement to face secret pain instead of hiding it. ✅ Hope that forgiveness is possible—and healing follows. Please share this episode with another hurting family, pastor, or ministry leader.  Churches are always looking for biblically sound resources they can offer.  Resources & Next Steps: Scripture that anchored Denise: Proverbs 3:5 Connect with Denise Living Stones Ministry/ Help 4 Families My Daddy's Secret by Denise Shick When Daddy Leaves To Be a Girl by Denise Shick Connect with Melinda: [email protected] Grab Melinda's book: The Daring Rescue

Discovering that your child is addicted to pornography can leave you feeling shocked, betrayed, and unsure of what to do next. The swirl of emotions—anger, grief, confusion—makes it hard to know how to respond without damaging your relationship. You don't have to face this alone. In this episode of The Bridge Between Us Podcast, Melinda Patrick sits down with Barb Winter of Hopeful Mom to offer practical wisdom and biblical encouragement for parents walking through this painful reality. Together, we'll walk you through: What to do in the first moments — pause, pray, and process before responding. Understanding betrayal trauma — how your child's choices impact your emotions and relationship. Turning confrontation into conversation — how to create ongoing, open dialogue with your child. Steps toward healing — practical ways to foster connection, rebuild trust, and move forward in hope. 🎧 Listen now and learn how to move from fear and reaction into wisdom, healing, and grace. 👉 Connect with Barb Winter and Hopeful Mom here: https://hopefulmom.net/ Email: [email protected] FB: difficultconversationsforparents IG: difficult.conversations LinkedIn: barb-winters-b146882a Sexpectations at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3oCRxba 👉 Subscribe to The Bridge Between Us Podcast for more encouragement and practical tools for parents. 👉Share this episode with another friend, ministry leader, or pastor.  (Hint: pastors are always looking for biblically based resources for their congregation.)  A hopeful reminder: You can respond to your child's struggle in a way that protects your relationship, brings healing, and keeps hope alive. With God's help, you don't have to stay stuck in fear—you can walk in wisdom, love, and grace.  

Finding Joy When Your Kids Walk Away: Trusting Jesus Over Outcomes Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys we can experience. As Christian parents, we often dream of raising children who follow Jesus, make wise choices, and walk closely with God. But what happens when our children choose a different path? How do we find hope and joy when our kids seem far from the faith we love? In this episode of The Bridge Between Us Podcast, we tackle these difficult questions head-on with guest Mary DeMuth, author of Love, Pray, Listen. Together, we explore how parents can trust Jesus in seasons of uncertainty and heartbreak. When Outcomes Become Idols It's natural to want the best for our kids. But sometimes, even good desires can turn into idols. When we say, "I'll be okay if my kids do exactly what I want," we're putting our hope in outcomes, not in Jesus. As Mary DeMuth shares, this is a trap many parents fall into. We want control—but the truth is, we don't have it. God reminds us that our role is to love, guide, and pray, but ultimately, our children have free will. Finding Joy in Heartbreak One powerful theme from the conversation is the idea of finding joy even when life doesn't look like we planned. How do you celebrate the goodness of God when your heart is breaking? The answer is in understanding that joy is not based on circumstances—it's rooted in Jesus. Mary DeMuth reminds us that even God, the perfect Father, has children who rebelled. Our pain is something He understands deeply, and that connection can become a source of unexpected joy. Practical Tools for Grieving Parents Grief is real, and it's okay to lament. In this episode, you will be encouraged to use the biblical model of lament—pouring out your heart to God, describing your pain, and choosing to praise Him anyway. Writing your prayers, journaling your emotions, and finding a safe person to share with can help release the heavy burden of parenting heartbreak. Another powerful takeaway is learning to let go of specific outcomes in your prayers. Instead of telling God exactly how to move, Mary DeMuth suggests praying, "Surprise me with how You reach my child." This shift opens the door to trust and helps parents see God's creative work in ways they might have missed. Love That Transforms We close the conversation by unpacking 1 Corinthians 13—often quoted at weddings but originally written to a broken church. How can parents apply "love is patient, love is kind" to their parenting, especially with a child who's wandering? Mary offers insights on showing grace, patience, and kindness to our kids, and even to ourselves, on this journey. Key Takeaways Release control: God loves your child more than you do. Joy comes from Jesus, not perfect circumstances. Lament is a healthy, biblical response to grief. Trust God's timing and methods, even when they surprise you. Love your child and yourself with grace and patience. This episode is for every parent longing for hope in a hard season. Whether your child is questioning faith, making different choices, or simply testing boundaries, remember this: you are not alone, and Jesus is walking with you every step of the way. Resources mentioned:  https://www.marydemuth.com/ Here is your free download of 52 prayers. Call to Action: If this episode encouraged you, please share it with a friend and leave a review. Your support helps more parents discover hope and wisdom for the journey ahead.   Related podcast episodes: Overcome Grief When It Is Impacting Your Life and Relationships  Help For The Parent Who Has Been Estranged From Their Child  

Are you walking through questions of sexuality, codependency, or watching someone you love struggle—and wondering if freedom is possible? In this powerful episode, Emily shares her raw and honest story of navigating same-sex attraction, deep codependency, and the lies that held her captive for over a decade. Like so many of us, she tried behavior modification—cutting off the "fruit" of sin—only to discover that true transformation comes when God addresses the roots of the heart. Through vulnerability and truth, Emily shows us that freedom is possible when we place God first, surrender daily, and walk in community. Her journey isn't just for those struggling personally—it's a message of hope for parents, friends, and anyone who longs to love well and experience God's power to transform. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The difference between cutting off fruit and digging up roots. How codependency hides in friendships and relationships. The role of godly community and accountability in healing. Practical steps to guard your freedom and walk in surrender. Encouragement for parents carrying the weight of their child's choices. Resources & Links Mentioned: Emily's Book: What Good Little Church Girls Don't Always Look Like: Understanding Struggle in Light of the Gospel  Connect with Emily: • Instagram: @RebirthMinistries • Website: rebirthmin.com Melinda's Book: The Daring Rescue ReStory Ministries    Final Encouragement: "There is always hope. Even if it doesn't happen in your timeline, God is still working." – Emily  

This isn't just another episode… it's a milestone. Today we celebrate 100 episodes of conversations where faith, family, and identity intersect — and where God's truth and love meet in powerful ways. When The Bridge Between Us began, the goal was simple: ✅ Help one parent feel less alone. ✅ Give one family hope. ✅ Keep one heart connected to Jesus. God has done that — and so much more. In this special episode, Melinda looks back at key lessons learned from the past 100 conversations, honors the guests and listeners who have made this community what it is, and shares four powerful reminders for standing firm in God's truth while loving without fear. 4 Key Takeaways from 100 Episodes Never underestimate the power of listening. Testimonies build faith, compassion, and wisdom for how to pray for and love others well. Trust God's timing and ways. His methods are often unexpected but always purposeful. Grace and truth are not enemies. Both are essential for real transformation. We're not so different from those we're praying for. Healing starts with letting God minister to our own hearts. Daniel 11:32b — "But the people who know their God shall stand firm and take action." Reflection Challenge This week, take one intentional step to celebrate what God has done in your life on this journey. Grab a journal or note card and answer: How has God strengthened you along the way? How has He revealed Himself to you? What Scripture has He given you to stand on? Write it out and commit it to memory. Episode Resources 📖 The Grace & Truth Paradox by Randy Alcorn Related Episodes: Garry Ingraham Dee Barnes Ashley Little Wilna van Beek and Ryan Willey Kathy Grace Duncan Subscribe to The Bridge Between Us Newsletter 🎧 Listen now to be encouraged, challenged, and reminded that you are not alone — and that God is faithful for every step ahead.

When someone you love wrestles with sexual or relational brokenness—or when you're facing your own shame and questions—where do you turn? Too often, Christians feel unprepared, isolated, or powerless to help. Parents long to rescue their children, but instead end up feeling overwhelmed. Individuals struggle silently, afraid to bring their pain into the light. In this episode of The Bridge Between Us Podcast, host Melinda Patrick sits down with author and speaker Amy Reardon, who shares her deeply personal journey of same-sex attraction, shame, and healing. Amy's story is honest, vulnerable, and full of hope. Having walked through brokenness herself, she now ministers to women from all walks of life, pointing them to the freedom and intimacy found in Jesus. Hear Amy's story: growing up in church, unexpected relationships, marriage struggles, and a turning point that brought her back to Christ. Learn how shame loses power when we bring it to God. Discover practical ways to cultivate intimacy with the Lord—even if you've never known what that looks like. Gain encouragement as a parent or loved one walking alongside someone in their own healing journey. Healing is possible. Freedom is real. And your story doesn't disqualify you—it can become the very tool God uses to help others. Whether you're a parent longing for your child to experience wholeness or an individual carrying hidden shame, this conversation will remind you: God is faithful, He goes before you, and He provides everything you need for the journey. Resources Mentioned: Connect with Amy Riordan:  Walking In Freedom Ministries Longing For Intimacy: Hope For Women Struggling With Same-Sex Attraction by Amy Riordan **For more information or to register for the IN-person RHN Hope Conference Watch Party in Conyers, Ga:  Email [email protected] You can check out the speakers and workshops here: Restored Hope Network Annual Hope Conference  

What do you do when your child comes home and says, "Mom, Dad, I have same-sex attraction" or "I want to embrace an LGBT identity"? For many Christian parents, these moments stir deep conflict and fear. But what if conflict is not something to avoid, but an opportunity to grow in love, truth, and grace? In this episode, we dive into the heart of family conflict and discover how to handle disagreements without retreating or overreacting. Our guest. June Hunt, unpacks biblical wisdom on conflict resolution, identifying different relational "types" we encounter—attackers like the wolf, snake, and hornet, and avoiders like the turtle, chameleon, and weasel—and explains how to navigate these personalities with courage and compassion. You'll also hear powerful personal stories of growing up in a broken home, overcoming bitterness, and learning the power of forgiveness. Most importantly, we'll explore how Christ transforms our relationships when we surrender our need to win and instead choose to love. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why conflict in families is unavoidable—and how the Bible prepares us for it How to identify common conflict "types" and respond wisely to each Why forgiveness is essential even when others haven't changed How Christ's power makes true heart transformation possible If you're walking through tension with your kids, spouse, or extended family, this episode will give you practical tools and biblical hope for healing. Resources Mentioned: Key Scriptures: John 16:33, Proverbs 14:25, 29:25, Romans 8:29, 2 Peter 1:3 Conflict Resolution: Solving Your People Problems by June Hunt   June 1st @ 3pm EST- Melinda Patrick will be speaking with the Exchange Ministries Parent Group. This group is led by Mark Nelson.   *You may join in person at Trinity Church, Deltona, FL or on Zoom.  For more information, email: [email protected]   June 20-21st - His Wonderful Works is hosting an in-person watch party for the Restored Hope Network Annual Conference:   Please email:  [email protected] to register.   $30/day or $50 for both days.  This includes a box lunch. 

In today's episode, not only does Patti Height share the riveting 'next chapter' of her story, but she also answers one of the most asked questions we receive from parents, family, and friends:  "How can we best minister to those in the LGBTQ community with grace and truth?"    Listen in and discover: *God's heart for your loved one *ways to minister to the one in front of you *why pressing into Jesus for your joy is not just important to you but also to your loved one   Patti Height is a gifted communicator of the gospel of Jesus Christ. She is passionate about the word of God and seeing Jesus set people free. Through her own personal experience of secretly identifying as gay in her heart and mind at twelve and then coming out in her twenties, then getting radically and miraculously saved at 36, she has seen the hand of God at work in a very personal way. In 2012 Patti founded Out Of Egypt ministries, where she travels the country and internationally, in churches, high schools, colleges and other venues, equipping Christians to bring the gospel, via grace and truth, to the LGBT+ community.    Connect with Patti: Out of Egypt Ministries

Those who experience same-sex attraction or gender confusion aren't the only ones who fall into the trap of the Enemie's lies.   Our guest today, Patti Height, is all too familiar with the bondage that comes from believing and living in the deception of homosexuality.  Listen in to today's episode with Patti Height as she shares Part One of her God-story.   Connect with Patti: Out of Egypt Ministries   If you are needing some extra hope and encouragement this week, here are the top 10 Episodes for Moms (not in any particular order): Eps 27 Encouragement and Hope For All Moms: The Grieving Mother, The Mother Who Has Been Blocked Or Distanced From Her Child, The Mother Who Struggles With Mom Guilt and the Mom Who Is Doing Her Best To Stand Strong Gretchen Stockman – Help For the Parent Who Has Been Estranged From Their Child {Eps 78} Alicia Michelle – How To Show Up With Emotional Confidence with Family and Friends During The Holidays {Eps 72} Billie Jauss - To The Christian Parent With An LGBTQ-Identified Child: How To Tackle The Disturbing Thoughts That Keep You Up At Night {Eps. 51} Lori Margo: Tracking God – Positioning Ourselves to See God In the Midst Of A Difficult Season {Eps 48} Sarah Frazer – Navigating Through Life When This Isn't What You Signed Up For {Eps 46} How To Overcome Grief When It Is Impacting Your Life and Relationship With Your LGBTQ Identified Child {Eps 41} Taking Territory Back: How To Release the Power of God In Your Prayers For Your LGBTQ+ Loved One, Part Two with Lindsey Kiser Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity {Eps 31} Eps 9 – The Loudest Roar: Living In The Unshakable Victory Of Christ with Judy Dunagan

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Lindsey Kiser - a returning guest on The Bridge Between Us and author of Piercing The Night is extending invitation to band together as the Psalm 68 army of women in the place of intercession to contend for our LGBTQ loved ones and the generations.   "The Lord gives the word [of power]; the women who bear and publish [the news] are a great host. The kings of the enemies' armies, they flee, they flee! She who tarries at home divides the spoil [left behind]." Psalm 68:11-12 For more information or to register:  Frontier Company   To purchase Lindsey's book:   Piercing The Night: Strategic Intercession To Set the LGBTQ+ Captives Free   Previous TBBU episodes with Lindsey Kiser: Eps 37 - Piercing The Night: Strategic Intercession To Set The LGBTQ+ Captives Free Eps 38 - Taking Territory Back: How To Release The Power of God in Your Prayers For Your LGBTQ-Identified Loved One   Please share this episode.    *This shownote contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase through one of these links, I will make a commission at no extra cost to you.​    

Do you ever feel that if you stop praying for your loved one they won't come to know Jesus or that God will stop pursuing your child?  In today's Bridge Between Us episode, author and Executive Director of Restored Hope Network, Anne Edward, is joining Melinda Patrick.  Anne has a story that hopefully will allow parents to take a deep breath and rest as they continue to trust Jesus for the outcome of their loved one.  Melinda and Anne also talk about the importance of community and how you can find that through Restored Hope Network.   Anne Edward--formerly Anne Paulk--is the executive director and a board member of Restored Hope Network which is a coalition of over 50 ministries, pastors, spiritual mentors, and licensed therapists in the U.S. supporting individuals who are dealing with unwanted LGBT issues in their lives and who want to align with their values. Anne left lesbianism years ago because she wanted to align with her faith and found greater meaning, identity, emotional, and relational thriving than in her prior experience. For decades, she has advocated for men and women who are in various stages of dealing with unwanted same-sex attractions through writing books, articles, and giving radio, TV, and print interviews. Some of these included Oprah, Good Morning America, The Gospel Coalition, Focus on the Family, FamilyTalk, Newsweek, People, CBS Evening News, Coral Ridge, the 700 Club, and the Brad Dacus Show.   To connect with Anne Edward: Restored Hope Network   To connect with Melinda Patrick: www.melindapatrick.org   Discount code for RHN Hope 2025 - Bridge25  (**Code expires on May 9. 2025)   More information regarding RHN Hope 2025 watch parties: RHN watch parties   Prior episodes mentioned: Andrew Rodriguez Gretchen Stockman Dean Greer with Living Waters Kathy Grace Duncan with Portland Fellowship