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The Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum
by relationshipsadvice
Susan Lager is a psychotherapist, author, and relationship coach at her private practice, The Couples Center PLLC, in Portsmouth, NH. She is the Founder and Principal of Couplespeak™, the unique and innovative company providing exciting programs and vital tools for transformational relationship success. She has authored many published articles, as well as two new workbooks in The Couplespeak™ Series: "I'M TALKING! ARE YOU LISTENING?" FIX COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS WITH YOUR PARTNER IN NO TIME FLAT! is a short, humorous guide for the "do's" and "don't's" of better communication in close relationships. Her latest book "BECOME RELATIONSHIP SMART WITHOUT A LIFETIME OF THERAPY" is a useful resource for anyone wanting more joyful, meaningful relationships. Susan also gets “up close and personal” in two blogs, has produced a series of “Learn To Love” videos on her YouTube channel, and is available as a show-stopping speaker at special events in her “spare" time. You can reach her a
Episodes
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Couplespeak™: The Amazing Impact of Being Intentional in Your Marriage
Life, for the most part, doesn't just happen to us. We make thousands of choices, large and small, obvious and seemingly invisible, that color all our experiences. People in happy marriages didn't just happen to be "on the right line at the right time," but generally make more conscious choices...
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Couplespeak™: Dog Love in Your Life
Susan reveals how a dog generally impacts individuals and families, amplifying connection, empathy, vitality, and yes, work and cost as well. She also discusses the importance of rescue for not only dogs, but their humans as well.
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Couplespeak™: Signs That You're Being Gaslighted and What You Can Do About It
Gaslighting is unfortunately a fairly common abusive relationship dynamic predicated on manipulative power and control. In this brief episode Susan explores some of the underpinnings, tactics, dynamics, and strategies for coping and "holding onto oneself" for the victims, whose sense of self…
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Couplespeak™: Giving Up - When It Hurts and When It Helps
In this 20 minute episode Susan discusses the process of losing traction and determination around comittments, why it happens, when it may be a positive thing, and when it may signal some personal or relational shortcomings. At the time of this writing we're all hearing about thousands of people...
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Couplespeak™: "Are We Just Too Different?" When Is your Relationship Unfixable?
In this 20 minute episode Susan discusses differences and dynamics in relationships which clearly signal the probability of failure. Couples often wrestle with the issue of when efforts may be futile to reconcile or find more happiness and peace with each other. When is it time to let go, to…
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Couplespeak™: (Followup) - Not Just Surviving, But Thriving Amidst Covid 19
In a previous episode Susan delved into some strategies for living more fully amidst the Covid 19 pandemic. She discussed the physical and emotional challenges everyone faces, as well as the symptoms people were experiencing only a few months into the crisis. In this subsequent episode Susan goes...
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Couplespeak™: Strategies for Living More Fully Amidst the Covid 19 Pandemic
In this 20 minute episode Susan explores some of the most pressing issues most of us must face "hiding from death" in the Covid19 pandemic. She discusses the seemingly mundane, like the etiquette of mask wearing in public, to the heart-wrenching choices we're all faced with regarding uncertain...
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Passive Choices
In this 15 minute episode Susan discusses the issue of how we set the stage for certain outcomes with our inaction, avoidance, procrastination and denial in much the same way we shape outcomes with overt choices. These passive choices often accompany a "victim story" about things that people...
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Take the Dread Out of the Holidays with Some Simple Strategies
In this 20 minute episode Susan shares her insights about some of the common sources of holiday related anxiety and stress, and how being proactive and intentional can transform the season. If you have a history of some really negative experiences related to the holidays, and struggle with how to...
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Couplespeak™: How Do You Cope?
In this 15 minute episode Susan discusses different coping strategies, and invites listeners to look at the origins of their tools, and how well these tools serve their purpose. The episode focuses on the importance of being more conscious and intentional when dealing with frustrating or painful...
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Financial Equity in Marriage - A Simple Tool to Insure Fairness
In this 15 minute episode Susan shares her insights around some financial issues couples experience, how spouses can avoid criticism, control and financial unfairness, and move toward more respectful, equitable agreements in their marriages. Call 877-497-9046 to join in live with questions or...
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Couplespeak™: The Pitfalls of All or Nothing in Marriage and Life
In this 15 minute episode Susan explores the issue of a perfectionistic "all or nothing" attitude in marriage and life, and how it limits possibilities for connection, conflict resolution, and productivity, among other things. Tune into this brief episode for some insights and ideas about how...
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Couplespeak™: Being a Grownup When You Must - 6 Practical Tools
How do you get yourself to honor your legitimate "Shoulds"? How do you motivate yourself to do the right thing, taking care of the not-so-fun parts of your life which require attention? How do you attend to your connections and responsibilities to your friends and family when doing so may be...
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Couplespeak™: 4 Communication Styles That Can Ruin Marriage & Some Key Fixes
In this 30 minute episode Susan explores the effects of 4 particular ways of handling conflict in marriage which tend to destroy respect and trust, and often lead to divorce. She also discusses alternative communication strategies which open up more positive results.
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Couplespeak™: How to Interrupt Frustrating Impasses and Standoffs w Your Spouse
In this 30 minute episode Susan explores the frequently experienced issue of standoffs or impasses in marriage - those times when couples get "locked in" to a negative sequence when nobody feels heard or acknowledged, and nothing gets resolved. These "lock-in's" can be about critical issues of...
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Couplespeak™: Quieting the Noise in Your Head - Some Useful Insights and Tools
"You'll never finish that project!" "You're a loser!" "You're too fat and nobody will find you attractive!" "Nothing Will Ever Work Out for You!" "You're mean and selfish!" Chances are, at one point or another in time you've heard that noise in your head - the oppressive voices of self doubt and...
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Couplespeak™: Are You Addicted to Your Cell Phone? Take the Test & Make Changes
In this 30 minute episode Susan sheds light on the growing epidemic of cell phone addiction. She shares with listeners key signs and symptoms of addiction, and offers a self-test for those questioning if their own use is problematic. Susan also discusses some useful strategies to cope with the...
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Couplespeak™: What's in Your Personal Minefield?
In this twenty minute episode Susan reveals the issues around our "minefields" - areas of vulnerability created by past experiences and relationships. The podcast will help you learn to identify the nature of your "mines," how to manage yourself more effectively around them, and how to best bring...
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Couplespeak™: Facing Divorce? How a Divorce Coach Could Make All the Difference!
In this 45 minute Couplespeak™ podcast Susan meets with Lisa McNally, a mother of three who has 20+ years of experience working with divorcing individuals, couples and families in all aspects of family law matters including divorce, separation, child custody, co-parenting and parental rights.…
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Couplespeak™: How Good a Partner Are You? Take the Test
In this half hour episode Susan explores the issues involved with being either a clueless spouse / partner, or one who has healthy, loving partnership skills. This episode taps into emotional intelligence, how highly you would rate yourself when examining your attitudes, knowledge and practices…
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Couplespeak™: 5 Easy Ways to Build Couple Connection During the Holidays
In this 20 minute Couplespeak™ episode Susan Lager shares some connection tools from her many years of working with couples. In this bried podcast you will learn how you can, with minimal time and energy amidst what is often a whirlwind of busyness, build in a fun sense of "we-ness" with your...
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Couplespeak™: Cheap Forgiveness
In this 15 minute Couplespeak™ podcast Susan Lager shares her insights and experiences with the issue of cheap forgiveness - what it is, and how and when it may be adaptive as the best possible "solution" to emotional injury, vs. what the costs may be to the person bestowing it and to the...
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Couplespeak™: Letting Go of An Adult Child
In my work as a psychotherapist and in my private life I have encountered an issue which generally causes a great deal of anguish and uncertainty. It’s the process of an adult child who has married, often now has a child of his or her own, and is attempting to form a new family separate from the...
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Couplespeak™: 3 Key Signs of Unfairness in Relationships and How to Fix Them
In this 20 minute Couplespeak™ episode Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, discusses 3 major manifestations of unfairness in close relationships which come up with some regularity in her work with individuals and couples. Unfairness acts like a cancer in relationships, so Susan...
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Couplespeak™: 5 Communication Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them
In this 20 to 30 minute episode Susan Lager shares her experiences as a psychotherapist witnessing common communication blunders clients often make. Whether you're trying to communicate with a spouse, partner, friend or family member there are predictable and avoidable pitfalls you need to know...
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Couplespeak™: Avoid the 3 Mistakes Many Women Make That Repel Love
In this 30-40 minute episode Susan co-hosts with a unique relationship mentor, Valerie Greene, at www.CoachValerieGreene.com, who help couples to stop fighting and fall in love again, and who helps women inspire their husbands or partners into deeper love and intimacy. Providing a highly…
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Couplespeak™: Misplaced Financial Trust Before and During a Divorce
Whether you're in your 30's or 40's and have recently been married, or are in your 50's or 60's, and have been married for many years, you may have been in a traditional marriage where your spouse has provided and controlled the income, and you have managed the household and children. If you...
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The Amazing Power of Repetition - The Good and the Bad
In this 20 minute episode Susan Lager shares her knowledge and clinical experience regarding the effects of repetition, not only for individuals in solidifying good or bad habits, but also in fostering skill proficiency. What many people don't realize is that repetition can also be the driver of...
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Build a Problem-Solving Mindset with 7 Critical Tools
In this 45 minute episode join my guest, Carthage Buckley and me for an important lesson on the seven aspects of developing a problem-solving mindset, something vital in everyone's life challenges. Carthage Buckley is an experienced and enthusiastic learning and development professional with...
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How 'Noticing' Can Change Your Life
In this 45 minute episode Susan co-hosts with Cindy Giovagnoli, a photographer and writer who believes in curiosity, enthusiasm, meditation and mistakes, and who is constantly delighted by the never-ending lessons offered by the varied people and experiences of this world. She shares that delight...
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Couplespeak™: Discernment Counseling Update for Couples on the Brink of Divorce
In this brief episode, Susan Lager gives an update on her "Discernment Counseling" work, a special form of treatment for couples who are on the brink of a divorce, where one spouse has lost hope for a better marriage and is not particularly motivated to try to work on reconciling, while the other...
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5 Foolproof Ways to Ruin Your Holidays
Don't miss my next 25 minute BlogTalk Radio episode on Wednesday, December 14th at 8:30 PM EST If you've been telling yourself a story about all the stresses, expenses, difficult relatives, ridiculous gifts, cards to send, the hassles of putting up and decorating the tree, Chanukah forgotten,...
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How Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Can Transform Your Marriage
In this 45 minute episode Susan Lager co-hosts with Jill Fischer,of www.PositiveCouples.com, a top New England EFT trainer, and Naomi Rather, a therapist at www.RatherCounseling.com doing this work with amazing success. The three couples therapists discuss what EFT is, how it's different from...
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Marital Peace After An Affair
In this thirty minute episode Susan Lager co-hosts with Dr. Laura Louis, author of the popular book, "Marital Peace," which is a valuable resource for supporting couples throughout the challenges of marriage. Dr. Louis has specialized in helping distant couples heal after infidelity, and in the...
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How Curiosity Can Save Your Marriage
In this 30 minute episode Susan Lager shares tips from her popular book "Become Relationship Smart Without a Lifetime of Therapy" about the key role of curiosity as a connector in all meaningful relationships, especially in marriage. For people not familiar with this concept, Lager reveals some…
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Eight Practices Essential to a Happy, Fulfilled Life
In this 30 minute episode Susan Lager discusses an important frame for how to live with more joy and meaning. She shares what she's learned from her many years as a psychotherapist about the eight key practices conducive to the pursuit of happiness and fulfillment. You will find out about why and...
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Digital Infidelity: Is Your Spouse Just Texting or Cheating?
Modern technology has brought us all a mixed bag of useful tools as well as potentially boundary and trust violating capability through smartphones, iPads and laptops. The practice of creating or maintaining independent, private outside relationships via texting has become a hugh challenge to...
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The ABC's of Financial Goal Setting: What You Need to Know NOW
In this 45 minute episode, Susan's guest, Heather Brountas CFP, a popular financial advisor at Ameriprise Financial Services, shares key information about how we all need to manage the four major aspects of our financial lives. Heather is returning for another episode after her "Divorce and…
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"Living with Loss" - A Conversation with Ashley Davis Bush
In this 45 minute episode Susan Lager and Ashley Davis Bush discuss the process of grieving - the realities and the myths, as well as tools for coping, from her latest book, "Hope and Healing for Transcending Loss." Ashley's book is filled with small lifelines and glimpses of hope for coping with...
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Are You a Shopaholic? Take the Test Before the Holidays; Get 7 Tips for Help
If you've ever wondered if you're a shopaholic, then the holidays could be very difficult, even disastrous for you! Don't go it alone without help! Tune into this 30 minute spisode, "Are You a Shopaholic? Take the Test Before the Holidays" on Wednesday, November 18th at 8:30 PM EST. Get vital...
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I'm Talking! Are You Listening?: A Couplespeak Exercise For Better Communication
In this 30 minute episode Susan Lager teaches you a simple but very effective exercise which will help you to communicate better with anyone about important issues, especially loaded subjects which might involve or create conflict. In 30 minutes you'll have a new tool in your toolbox for better...
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Workplace Relationships: Dealing with Dreaded Drama of Conflict (Rescheduled)
In this 45 minute episode Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and coach at The Couples Center and Couplespeak™ in Portsmouth, NH, talks with Pattie Porter, The Texas Conflict Coach, about workplace conflict, why people are so frightened by it, how employees and managers avoid dealing with it, the...
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The Complications of Coupling: One Man's Controversial Views
In this 45 minute episode Susan Lager, a psychotherapist specializing in couples work, co-hosts with Dr. Charles Rawlings, outspoked author of "It Really Is That Complicated - The Myths That Exist About Male-Female Relationships," a book about his views regarding the challenges of coupling in...
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"Life Your Way" - A Talk with Author, Amy Wood
In this episode Susan Lager co-hosts with psychologist Amy Wood, author of this prize-winning, vital book which provides a compelling approach on how to manage the constant "Go! Do! Be Better" stresses of 21st century American life. Get some important insights on how you can use your instincts…
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Low Sex Drive in Women - What You Need to Know if You're Over 40
When one partner in a couple lacks much interest or desire for sex it can wreak havoc on the partnership. Often, women over 40 experience a significant loss of libido related to not only hormonal changes, but also circumstances surrounding their relationships. Husbands tend to feel rejected,...
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The Art of a Good Apology in Couplespeak™
In this half hour episode Susan Lager draws on her observations on remorse and forgivessness (or lack of it), from many years of working with thousands of couples. Tune in to learn about the four key parts to an effective apology, the importance of timing, and the predictable impact of a good...
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Are You Blind to Your Own Blind Spots? Take the Couplespeak™ Test!
In this thirty minute episode Susan Lager co-hosts with Meredith Richardson, a mediator and conflict coach who knows all too well how people, especially when in conflict, can be totally blind to their own emotional blind spots. When we refuse to acknowledge aspects of our personalities or…
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Healing Trauma Through Yoga - Hope for Survivors
In this 45 minute episode Susan Lager hosts a special guest, Lisa Boldin, a graduate of the Kripalu School of Ayurveda, and specialist in Trauma Sensitive Yoga. Together they discuss the unique advantages of this form of Yoga for anyone who is struggling with anxiety, emotional stress, or trauma...
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How To Avoid Some Really Bad Decisions in 2015
Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach at The Couples Center in Portsmouth, NH, explores the difference between making a mistake and making a bad decision, and why people make bad decisions which can ruin their lives. In this episode she discusses key behaviors and attitudes which...
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Couplespeak™ : Dealing With Toxic Relatives During The Holidays
In this half hour episode, Susan Lager addresses an issue so common to millions of people. Tune in and find out about key tools you can use to protect yourself from the "emotional vampires" who have the potential to undermine your feelings of peace and joy during the holiday season. Learn some…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Susan Lager is a psychotherapist, author, and relationship coach at her private practice, The Couples Center PLLC, in Portsmouth, NH. She is the Founder and Principal of Couplespeak™, the unique and innovative company providing exciting programs and vital tools for transformational relationship success. She has authored many published articles, as well as two new workbooks in The Couplespeak™ Series: "I'M TALKING! ARE YOU LISTENING?" FIX COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS WITH YOUR PARTNER IN NO TIME FLAT! is a short, humorous guide for the "do's" and "don't's" of better communication in close relationships. Her latest book "BECOME RELATIONSHIP SMART WITHOUT A LIFETIME OF THERAPY" is a useful resource for anyone wanting more joyful, meaningful relationships. Susan also gets “up close and personal” in two blogs, has produced a series of “Learn To Love” videos on her YouTube channel, and is available as a show-stopping speaker at special events in her “spare" time. You can reach her a
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