The Erotic Realm

Why is finding the right help for a sexual concern still so difficult?In this episode I’m joined by Michael Corner, founder of Orgasmic Wellness, to explore the fragmented systems surrounding sexual health—and what it might take to connect people with better care.We explore:What sexual wellness actually includes.Why finding the right sex therapist or practitioner is difficult.The barriers preventing people from seeking sexual-health support.What makes Orgasmic Wellness different from searching Google.The future of integrated sexual health and wellbeing.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do you build the world's largest BDSM community?In this episode I chat down with John Baku, the founder of FetLife, to explore the psychology behind one of the most influential platforms in modern kink.We explore:How FetLife was created.The psychology of building online communities.Why belonging is so important for kinky people.The future of FetLife and BDSM education.Community safety, moderation, and transparency.Advice for people joining FetLife for the first time.Research article: The Benefits of Facebook “Friends:” Social Capital and College Students’ Use of Online Social Network Sites.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if your erotic struggles aren't really about sex but about safety, connection, and your nervous system?In this episode I chat with Amber Ella-Vatrix—conscious kink educator, tantra practitioner, neuroscience-informed facilitator, and creator of The Erotic Edge.We explore:Conscious kink.Tantra and embodied sexuality.Heart-based dominance.Erotic transformation.The sacred prostitute tradition.Trauma, retraumatisation, and safety.Research article: Polyvagal Theory: A Science of Safety.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can some women experience super orgasms?In this episode I chat with down with Mae —educator, former professor, and creator whose work has placed her at the centre of thousands of deeply personal conversations about sexuality, fantasy, insecurity, and pleasure.We explore:Super orgasms and Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).Male sexuality and vulnerability.Consent, communication and respect.Kink and human connection.Sexual confidence.Why pleasure matters more than performance.Research article: Five Cases with Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when one of the world's leading sexuality educators spends decades teaching people that power, creativity, and pleasure can coexist?In this episode I sit down with Midori—international sexuality educator, author, artist, and one of the pioneers who introduced Shibari and conscious BDSM to Western audiences.We explore:The psychology of Shibari.Female dominance and leadership.ForteFemme.Creativity and eroticism.Sexuality education.The future of BDSM and Shibari.Research article: Role Congruity Theory of Prejudice Toward Female Leaders.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the most important skill in exploring your sexuality wasn't confidence—but curiosity?In this episode I chat with That_Scientist to explore the psychology of curiosity, brat dynamics, bisexuality, kink education, and why asking better questions may be one of the most powerful tools we have for understanding desire.We explore:The psychology of curiosity.Discovering bisexuality later in life.BDSM and sexual health.Asking better questions.Self-discovery through kink.Erotic psychology.Research article: Sexual health promotion and sti prevention on the margins: kink, bdsm, and sexually adventurous women.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do you find good educators of BDSM?In this episode educator and author AncillaL returns to the podcast to explore one of the most important—and surprisingly overlooked—topics in kink: BDSM education.We explore:How to choose a BDSM educator.BDSM mentorship.Communities of practice.Skill-based vs role-based learning.Education versus advertising.Building critical thinking in BDSM.Research article: Kink Community Education: Experiential Learning and Communities of Practice.Connect with AncillaL:https://fetlife.com/AncillaLhttps://www.patreon.com/c/ancillal?vanity=userhttps://www.instagram.com/ancillarykinksupport?igsh=MXYzeHBoZWliZjFmZw==Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when you're both dominant and submissive—and both feel completely authentic?In this episode I chat with Matcha to explore the psychology of switching, the emerging FemDaddy archetype, BDSM identity, power exchange, and the freedom that comes from embracing every side of yourself.We explore: BDSM switches and switch identity.FemDaddy dynamics.Forced feminisation.Gender expression in kink.Communication and empathy.Research article: “Switch it up”: A qualitative analysis of BDSM switches,Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when you finally give yourself permission to desire what you truly want?In this episode I chat with sex therapist and Shibari practitioner Julieta Chiara to explore the psychology of submission, women's desire, erotic permission, and the transformative power of saying "yes" to yourself.We explore:Women's desire and sexual permission.Submission and empowerment.Shibari and Japanese rope bondage.Why "your first Dom is you".Pain, presence, and transformation.Research article: Are Role and Gender Related to Sexual Function and Satisfaction in Men and Women Practicing BDSM?Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if sexuality wasn't simply about pleasure—but about becoming more fully alive?Grab your Splashblanket here - don't forget to use the code eroticrealm at checkout for a 10% discount!In this episode I sit down with legendary sexuality educator Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra and The Book of Ecstasy, to explore tantra, BDSM, conscious sexuality, erotic awakening, and the role pleasure plays in human flourishing.We explore:Sexual flourishing and wellbeing.Non-genital orgasms.Pleasure as a pathway to healing.Emotional armour and vulnerability.Sexuality during the AIDS crisis.The Book of Ecstasy.Research Artile: A new sexual wellbeing paradigm grounded in capability approach concepts of human flourishing and social justice.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when dominance is expressed through care rather than control?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with Mistress Mira — professional Dominatrix and Mommy Domme, to explore the psychology of nurturing dominance, BDSM stigma, erotic self-acceptance, and the surprising power of being fully seen.We explore:Mommy Dommes and nurturing dominance.Professional domination vs lifestyle BDSM.BDSM stigma and public misconceptions.Neurodivergence, autism, ADHD and kink.The psychology of erotic self-discovery.Research article: Perceptions of and stigma toward BDSM practitioners.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when curiosity about other people's desires leads you to discover your own?In this episode I sit down with J to explore a journey that began with curiosity and evolved into a deeper understanding of kink, intimacy, and erotic identity. Together we discuss her experiences in sex work, her fascination with the psychology of desire, and how joining FetLife to better understand other people's kinks ultimately helped her discover parts of herself she hadn't fully recognised.We explore:Kink curiosity and self-discovery.Introducing a partner to BDSM.Marriage and erotic exploration.Sex work and the psychology of desire.Ownership dynamics and intimacy.Women's pathways into kink.Research book: Women and Kink.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when your earliest education about sexuality comes from growing up around the adult industry?In this episode I chat with filmmaker and storyteller Laila Ocean to explore her unique experience of being the daughter of a porn performer, and how that shaped her understanding of sexuality, relationships, stigma, freedom, and desire.Laila is currently creating Unbound, a documentary exploring sexuality, identity, and the human stories behind the adult industry. We discuss what it was like discovering her father's profession, the assumptions people make about pornography, and how growing up around adult entertainment influenced her own erotic development.Here is the International Documentary Association fundraising page to support Laila's project: https://www.documentary.org/project/unbound-crowned-pleasure or connect with Laila on her Instagram @laila.ocean We explore:Growing up as the child of a porn performer.Sexuality, stigma, and identity formation.The making of the documentary Unbound.Media narratives around sex work and porn.Sexual freedom and cultural expectations.Parenting, sexuality, and honest conversations.Research Article: Adolescents and Pornography: A Review of 20 Years of Research.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when BDSM isn't really about sex?In this episode I chat with Ms Hyde — an asexual disciplinarian, BDSM educator, life coach, author, and craftsperson — to explore the psychology of power, discipline, communication, and consent.We explore:Asexuality and BDSM.The psychology of discipline.Therapeutic spanking and meaning-making.Beyond Vanilla and BDSM education.Repair, accountability, and relationship growth.Why pleasure and power are not opposites.Research Article: Making Sense of S&M: A Discourse Analytic Account.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the people with the richest erotic lives are often the ones you'd least expect?In this episode I sit down with Sarah—a self-described nerdy submissive to explore the intersection of kink, neurodivergence, fantasy, imagination, and hidden desire.We explore:The psychology of submission.Neurodivergence and kink.Dungeons & Dragons and erotic imagination.Hidden desires and secret erotic worlds.Non-extreme BDSM and everyday kink.Fantasy, belonging, and finding your tribe.Research article: The Prevalence of BDSM in Finland and the Association between BDSM Interest and Personality Traits.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do some people describe rope as a pathway into trust, presence, and altered states of consciousness?In this episode I sit down with Mark DeViate — Dominant, rope practitioner, polyamorous relationship veteran, and long-time member of the BDSM community, to explore the psychology of surrender, ethical dominance, and the transformative potential of connection-based kink.We explore:• The psychology of ethical dominance.• Shibari, rope bondage, and surrender.• Topspace, flow states, and altered consciousness.• Performance-based kink vs connection-based kink.• Long-term polyamory and relationship longevity.Research article: The Biology of BDSM: A Systematic ReviewSupporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can kink help people heal trauma—or is that a dangerous misunderstanding?In this episode I sit down with JDominatrix, a trauma-informed kink educator, Mistress, sadist, and community leader, to explore one of the most debated topics in BDSM: the relationship between trauma, healing, and erotic power.We explore:Trauma-informed approaches to BDSMCan kink become part of healing?Consent, trust, and ethical power exchangeThe psychology of Dominance and submissionRunning a dungeon and teaching kinkCommunity, growth, and erotic empowermentResearch article: Trauma-Informed Kink HealingSupporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a woman stops believing the myth that desire belongs only to the young?In this episode I’m joined by Brookiana to explore aging, erotic reinvention, and the psychology of becoming desired again.We explore:Noetisexuality and attraction to intellect and depth.Aging, femininity, and erotic reinvention.Returning to sexuality after abstinence.Why younger men are drawn to emotionally mature women.Writing erotica and reclaiming erotic identity later in life.Research article: Sex and the (older) single girl: Experiences of sex and dating in later life.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when desire is no longer seen as something personal — but something ecological?In this episode I’m joined by Sketchy to explore the intersection of queer identity, biology, and erotic connection. We unpack the idea of “the ecology of desire” — where attraction, intimacy, and sexuality are not just internal experiences, but relational processes shaped by our connection to the world around us.We explore:The concept of the ecology of desire.Queer erotics and nature as inherently diverse.Biology, symbiosis, and intimacy.Desire as relational rather than individual.Kink, identity, and connection beyond the self.Research article: Queer Ecologies: Sex, Nature, Politics, Desire.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when surrender isn’t weakness — but identity?In this episode I’m joined by Daniika — a submissive, masochist, and self-described slave exploring the psychology of power, pain, and total surrender.We explore:The psychology of masochism and meaning in pain.What “slave” and “ownership” actually mean in BDSM.24/7 power exchange in real life.Kink, identity, and the idea of orientation.Neurodivergence, structure, and erotic regulation.Research article: The Kink Orientation Scale: Developing and Validating a Measure of Kink Desire, Practice, and Identity.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when submission isn’t about obedience — but about play, tension, and choice?In this episode of I’m joined by Jade — a bisexual, bratty submissive navigating the psychological complexity of power, identity, and desire across both kink and swinging spaces.We explore:The psychology of brat energy and boundary play.Submission as choice vs identity.Kink vs swinging: key psychological differences.Navigating marriage alongside a D/s dynamic.Why people may already be engaging in BDSM without knowing it.Research article: From Fantasy to Communication: BDSM Engagement, Sexual Experience Breadth, and Pleasure Deservingness Among College Women.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when submission isn’t about giving up power - but finding freedom through it?In this episode I’m joined by Alixx Amour to explore a question that has fascinated me for years: Are some people born kinky? We talk about early awareness of submissive desire, the psychology of trust, sexual agency in BDSM, and whether kink can feel less like something learned and more like something recognised.We explore:Are some people born kinky?Submission as freedom rather than weakness.Trust, TPE and red flags in power exchange.What filming for Kink.com revealed about fantasy vs reality.Erotic belonging, community and finding your people.Research article: From Fantasy to Communication: BDSM Engagement, Sexual Experience Breadth, and Pleasure Deservingness Among College Women.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when kink is explored not just as desire but as a possible site of growth, agency, and healing?In this episode I’m joined by Aidan Sunassee — sexologist, researcher and Dominant to explore one of the most nuanced and controversial questions in BDSM psychology: can kink ever support healing from trauma?We explore:Can kink support healing from trauma?Asexuality and erotic power.Total Power Exchange and ethical dominance.Intentional vs incidental trauma play.Growth-oriented dominance vs control-based dominance.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Pleasure as a Catalyst for Post-Traumatic Growth and Courage Gain in Trauma PlaySupporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when kink becomes not just a practice but a path to freedom?In this episode I’m joined by Race Bannon — legendary BDSM educator, leatherman and author of Kink Is My Superpower to explore gay leather culture, power exchange, and the psychology of erotic freedom.We explore:Gay leather history and the evolution of BDSM culture.Dominance, submission and the psychology of switching.HIV, pup identities and changing queer erotic communities.Kink as identity, belonging and liberation.Can kink become a superpower?VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Faeries, Bears, and Leathermen: Men in Community Queering the Masculine.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when erections are understood not just as sexual function — but as health data?In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Elliot Justin, emergency physician and founder of FirmTech, to explore the surprising intersection of sexual wellness, preventative medicine and quantified desire.We explore:Erections as early cardiac warning signals.The real definition of erectile dysfunction.Five questions every man should ask about erectile health.Sextech, intimacy wearables and quantified desire.Can kinky communities and biohackers use erection tracking too?VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Erectile dysfunction as a harbinger for increased cardiometabolic risk.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido supportFlow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when consent is treated as more than a checklist and power becomes an ethical practice?In this episode I’m joined by Debs (The Kink Shrink) — therapist, educator and long-time kink practitioner to explore the psychology of consent, accountability and mature power exchange.We explore:Consent versus embodied accountability.BDSM, therapy and clinician bias.Free will, law and ethical power exchange.Compassion, boundaries and mature submission.What kink culture gets right — and where it struggles.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Investigating Bias in Psychotherapy with BDSM Clients.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when autism meets BDSM and kink becomes a language of structure, sensation, and connection?In this episode I’m joined by Umbra — a Dominant, sadist, and long-time kink practitioner to explore the psychology of neurodivergent desire and the evolution of kink across decades.We explore:Autism, neurodivergence & erotic identity.BDSM as structure, communication & sensory regulation.Sadism, bastinado & the psychology of impact play.Finding your tribe in kink communities.How kink has evolved from underground scenes to global networks.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Stimulation and Stimming: S&M on the Spectrum.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does it mean to decolonize sex and who gets to define desire?In this episode I’m joined by King Noire — award-winning performer, educator, and founder of Royal Fetish Films — to explore the intersection of BDSM, culture, and identity. We unpack how sexuality is shaped by history, race, and power — and what it looks like to reclaim erotic expression in a way that is intentional, ethical, and culturally aware.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!We explore:Decolonizing sex and reclaiming erotic identity.BDSM as connection, not just power or pain.Black love, representation, and cultural narratives.Sacred sex and erotic storytelling.Creativity, music, and dominance.Research article: Hormonal Changes and Couple Bonding in Consensual Sadomasochistic Activity.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!What if the reason intimacy feels hard isn’t lack of attraction — but lack of safety?In this episode I’m joined by Rachel Dorneanu — relationship and sex therapist — to explore the psychology of intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional connection.We explore:Vulnerability and emotional safety in relationships.Conservative upbringing and sexual shame.Communication and what makes a “safe partner”.Arranged marriages and cultural dynamics.Highly Sensitive People and intimacy.Research Article: Sensory-Processing Sensitivity and Its Relation to Introversion and Emotionality.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when sex education is left to shame, silence, and the internet?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Mark Schoen — sex educator, filmmaker, and founder of SexSmartFilms — to explore what decades of teaching human sexuality have revealed about shame, censorship, and sexual freedom.We explore: What decades of sex education have taught Mark about desire. Banned books, censorship, and why sexual honesty still scares people. How film can teach what classrooms often miss. Cultural differences in sexual messaging. Mark’s work with William Masters, Betty Dodson, and his transgender film project.Research Article: X-Rated: Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors Associated With U.S. Adolescents’ Exposure to Sexually Explicit Media.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when someone experiences little to no sexual attraction — but still has a deeply erotic life?In this episode I’m joined by GoddessMey — a dominant, sadomasochist, and asexual-spectrum kinkster — to explore the intersection of asexuality and BDSM.We explore:Asexuality and erotic identity.Female dominance and power exchange.Sadism, masochism, and sensation.Ethical findom and consent.Redefining desire beyond attraction.Research Article: Asexuality: prevalence and associated factors in a national probability sample.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if leadership isn’t about control but responsibility?In this episode I’m joined by Leadfromfront — a 75-year-old retired CEO and Dominant — to explore the psychology of power, leadership, and ethical authority.We explore:Leadership vs domination in BDSM.Consent as the foundation of power.The difference between hurt and harm.Ethical sadism and attunement.Aging, desire, and erotic longevity.Research book: The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a woman chooses her body, her career, and her desire — outside of expectation?In this episode I’m joined by Katija Cortez — a submissive, content creator, and professional girlfriend — to explore female autonomy, sterilisation, and the psychology of erotic agency.We explore:Sterilisation and voluntary childlessness.Stigma, autonomy, and cultural expectations.Sex work, desire, and emotional connection.The paradox of being both sovereign and submissive.How choice reshapes erotic identity.Research article: Stigma Management Among the Voluntarily Childless.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when sexual mastery becomes about presence, not performance?In this episode I’m joined by Kevin Anthony — sexologist, tantra counsellor, and men’s sexual mastery coach — to explore the psychology of masculinity, ejaculation, and erotic presence.We explore:Ejaculation, stamina, and sexual control.Masculinity and performance anxiety.Tantra as a lived erotic practice.Polyamory and emotional intelligence.Grief, loss, and erotic continuity.Research article: Men's gender role conflict: Psychological costs, consequences, and an agenda for change.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when the way your brain works becomes part of your erotic identity?In this episode I’m joined by Kritikl — a neurodivergent Dominant, sadist, rigger, and community space curator — to explore the intersection of autism, power, and desire.You may recognise his voice from the earlier Kink Intentions episode — and here, we go deeper into how his neurodivergence shapes the way he experiences connection, dominance, and kink.We explore:Neurodivergence and erotic identity.Pattern recognition as a form of connection.Dominance, sadism, and ethical power.Rope, sensory experience, and embodiment.Creating safe spaces for neurodivergent kinksters.Research Article: Autism, Sexuality, and BDSM.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a man’s desire to surrender clashes with everything he’s been taught about masculinity?In this episode I’m joined by Jack — a submissive man, anthropologist, and writer — to explore the psychological tension between masculinity, shame, and submission.We unpack how cultural expectations shape men’s relationship to control, performance, and sexuality — and what happens when those expectations no longer fit. Drawing on lived experience and sociological insight, this conversation explores how submission can become a site of authenticity rather than weakness.We explore:The conflict between masculinity and submission. Shame, ejaculation, and the male erotic nervous system. Female-led relationships and long-term D/s dynamics. The difference between consent and compatibility. How men can redefine power through surrender.Research Article: Hegemonic Masculinity: Rethinking the Concept.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when kink is built around people first and power second?In this episode I’m joined by Master Cat NYC and Master Joshua NYC — leather educators and co-founders of The Kink Collective — to explore the psychology of ethical power in BDSM.With decades of experience in kink and leather communities, they share how their understanding of dominance, identity, and responsibility has evolved — and why they centre their work around the principle of people before kink.We explore:Ethical dominance and responsibility in power exchange.Leather culture and evolving erotic identity.Consent as a form of liberation.Triads, poly dynamics, and relational complexity.Building kink communities rooted in care and accountability.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the problem isn’t sexual desire — but the shame surrounding it?In this episode I’m joined by psychosexual and relationship therapist Silva Neves to explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern sexuality: compulsive sexual behaviour.Rather than framing sexual compulsivity as “sex addiction,” Silva’s work examines how sexuality can become intertwined with emotional regulation, identity, shame, and relational needs.We explore:Why many sexologists reject the “sex addiction” narrative.How shame sustains compulsive sexual cycles.The difference between high desire and genuine compulsivity.Trauma, EMDR therapy, and erotic safety.What sexual integration actually looks like in therapy.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when someone refuses the rigid rules of gender — and instead creates their own embodiment of identity and desire?In this episode I’m joined by Dreamer — an altersex transgender woman, primal sadomasochist, leather Master, scientist, and educator — to explore the psychology of gender integration, power exchange, and erotic identity.Dreamer shares the deeply personal story of her gender transition, including her decision to undergo phallus-preserving vaginoplasty, a non-traditional form of gender-affirming surgery that reflects her unique experience of embodiment.We explore: What it means to identify as altersex. Thepsychological experience of gender transition. The difference between primal power and constructed authority. Leather culture, Mastery, and erotic truth. How embodiment shapes desire and power exchange.Research Article: Adult Development and Quality of Life of Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when we start treating sex as a form of personal sovereignty?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by legendary intimacy expert Susan Bratton — author, educator, and one of the most influential voices in modern sexual communication.We explore:How patriarchal sexual scripts shape modern intimacy.The real difference between having sex and making love.How couples sustain passion after decades together.Why attention may be one of the most overlooked erotic resources.How sexual sovereignty transforms relationships.Research Article: The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a CEO discovers submission?In this episode I’m joined by Calliope — entrepreneur, writer, and high-functioning submissive — to explore the psychology of control, grief surrender, and curiosity inside modern BDSM.We explore:Submission for high-performing professionals.The psychology of control and surrender.Curiosity as a gateway into kink.Intellectual stimulation inside D/s dynamics.Grief, writing, and the role of community in healing.Research Article: Masochism as Escape from Self.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if dominance wasn’t about intimidation — but presence?In this episode I’m joined by Dominatrix Rin, professional Dominatrix and dungeon owner, to explore archetypal authority, ritual aesthetics, and the psychology of emotional power in BDSM.We explore:The Dominatrix as archetype and psychosexual authority.Berlin vs San Francisco kink culture.The dungeon as ritual container and transformational space.Emotional labor in professional domination.Ownership, care, and embodied attunement.Power as presence rather than performance.Research book: The History and Arts of the Dominatrix.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can BDSM be a literary and philosophical pursuit?In this episode I sit down with Lenny, a 77 year old sadist, writer, and lifelong BDSM mentor whose journey explores the limits of pleasure, pain, and the mind’s role in eroticism.Lenny shares his experiences with hypnotic states, non-physical orgasms, and BDSM as a vehicle for transformation—both in real life and in literature.We discuss:The psychology of masochism and what pain really means in BDSM.Writing about dark desires and the philosophy of De Sade.Non-physical orgasms and how hypnosis can trigger deep pleasure.The intersection of tantra, breathwork, and erotic power exchange.Unusual fetishes he’s encountered including a garlic fetish!Research Paper: A Case of Female Orgasm Without Genital StimulationIf you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.Thanks for listening!EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if submission wasn’t about losing yourself — but about knowing yourself deeply?In this episode I’m joined by Sarah from Subinthecity — submissive, kink therapist, and educator — to explore feminist submission, sub frenzy, and integrative kink through a psychological lens.We explore:What sub frenzy really is — and how to navigate it safely.Feminist submission as sovereignty, not passivity.Erotic mismatch in D/s dynamics.Menstrual cycles and shifting kink desires.Shadow work and inner-child integration through power exchange.Research article: Reflections on a Career Dedicated to the Study of BDSM and Diverse SexualitiesLove Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when erotic obsession stops being fantasy — and starts rewriting your reality?Grab your FREE copy of The Venus Fly Trap here.In this episode of I’m joined by author Stephen Paul Edwards to explore the psychological depths of his book The Venus Fly Trap — a story described as equal parts Fifty Shades, Gone Girl, and a therapy session with the devil.In this episode, we explore:The psychology of erotic obsession.Fantasy vs manipulation in relationships.What destabilising attraction reveals about ourselves.Shame, secrecy, and the cost of silence.Why writing the truth can change the body — not just the mind.A live reading from the book.Research article: Confronting a traumatic event: Toward an understanding of inhibition and disease. Connect with Stephen:Instagram X FacebookLinkedInTikTok WebsiteLove Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if male submission wasn’t about giving up power — but about choosing where it belongs?In this episode we explore the erotic realm of Taylor Ellwood, a submissive, men’s coach, and writer living in a 24/7 female-led dynamic, to explore masculinity, devotion, and sovereign submission through a psychological lens. In this episode, we explore:Why submission must be chosen, not defaulted into.The difference between “nice guy” behaviour and genuine devotion.Submission as discipline, not self-erasure.Masculinity beyond performance and dominance.How erotic polarity and meaning shape long-term D/s relationships.Research article: Perks, problems, and the people who play: A qualitative exploration of dominant and submissive BDSM rolesDon't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if pleasure wasn’t the opposite of responsibility — but one of its foundations?In this episode I’m joined by Tanya Griffin — entrepreneur, sexual wellness and harm-reduction educator, and flow-state practitioner — to explore the psychology of pleasure, altered states, and embodied leadership.In this episode, we explore:Pleasure as a measure of freedom, not indulgence.Flow states in sex, embodiment, and longevity.Intention vs. compulsion in erotic and altered states.Conscious use of cannabis and psychoactives in sexuality.Shame reduction as harm reduction — in sex and substances.Research article: Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if brattiness wasn’t resistance — but discernment?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by AngelSnowflake, a collared submissive and self-described brat, to explore the psychology of chosen submission, erotic paradox, and identity that refuses simplification.In this episode, we explore:Why submission must be earned to be real.Brattiness as emotional and relational literacy.Fluid desire and refusing fixed erotic labels.Collars as lived psychological commitments.Parallels between kink, roleplay, and character formation.Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this fifth episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠Peak Erotic Experience 1: #33 The Lesbian Cuckcake: Iris on Poly Desire, Triad Love & HealingPeak Erotic Experience 2: #34 Master Xtac: The 12 Rules of Power, Leather Tradition & BDSM as a Sexual OrientationPeak Erotic Experience 3: #35 The Bisexual Switch: Sage on Embracing Both Sides of Power & DesirePeak Erotic Experience 4: #36 The Disciplinarian Domme: MistressBaton on Spanking, Sadism & the Psychology of PainPeak Erotic Experience 5: #37 From Pro-Domme to Submissive: Valkyrie on Regression, ABDL & Self-DominationThank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can voice alone create intimacy, arousal, and emotional safety?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by Call Me Phoenix — erotic audio creator, virtual companion, and switch — to explore the psychology of auditory erotics, voice-based desire, and intimacy without physical bodies.We talk about phone sex, asexual audios, nervous-system regulation, and why sound can feel safer and sometimes more intimate than touch or sight. Drawing on psychological research into ASMR, this conversation reveals how voice can calm the body while simultaneously creating erotic arousal.In this episode, we explore:How voice creates intimacy differently from touch or visuals.Erotic audio as self-soothing and nervous-system regulation.Why some people feel more “seen” through listening than looking.Auditory fetishism, auralism, and voice-based desire.Desire, connection, and presence without physical contact.Research article: The effects of autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) on mood, attention, heart rate, skin conductance and EEG in healthy young adults.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.