The Erotic Realm

What happens when submission isn’t about giving up power - but finding freedom through it?In this episode I’m joined by Alixx Amour to explore a question that has fascinated me for years: Are some people born kinky? We talk about early awareness of submissive desire, the psychology of trust, sexual agency in BDSM, and whether kink can feel less like something learned and more like something recognised.We explore:Are some people born kinky?Submission as freedom rather than weakness.Trust, TPE and red flags in power exchange.What filming for Kink.com revealed about fantasy vs reality.Erotic belonging, community and finding your people.Research article: From Fantasy to Communication: BDSM Engagement, Sexual Experience Breadth, and Pleasure Deservingness Among College Women.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when kink is explored not just as desire but as a possible site of growth, agency, and healing?In this episode I’m joined by Aidan Sunassee — sexologist, researcher and Dominant to explore one of the most nuanced and controversial questions in BDSM psychology: can kink ever support healing from trauma?We explore:Can kink support healing from trauma?Asexuality and erotic power.Total Power Exchange and ethical dominance.Intentional vs incidental trauma play.Growth-oriented dominance vs control-based dominance.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Pleasure as a Catalyst for Post-Traumatic Growth and Courage Gain in Trauma PlaySupporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when kink becomes not just a practice but a path to freedom?In this episode I’m joined by Race Bannon — legendary BDSM educator, leatherman and author of Kink Is My Superpower to explore gay leather culture, power exchange, and the psychology of erotic freedom.We explore:Gay leather history and the evolution of BDSM culture.Dominance, submission and the psychology of switching.HIV, pup identities and changing queer erotic communities.Kink as identity, belonging and liberation.Can kink become a superpower?VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Faeries, Bears, and Leathermen: Men in Community Queering the Masculine.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when erections are understood not just as sexual function — but as health data?In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Elliot Justin, emergency physician and founder of FirmTech, to explore the surprising intersection of sexual wellness, preventative medicine and quantified desire.We explore:Erections as early cardiac warning signals.The real definition of erectile dysfunction.Five questions every man should ask about erectile health.Sextech, intimacy wearables and quantified desire.Can kinky communities and biohackers use erection tracking too?VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Erectile dysfunction as a harbinger for increased cardiometabolic risk.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido supportFlow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when consent is treated as more than a checklist and power becomes an ethical practice?In this episode I’m joined by Debs (The Kink Shrink) — therapist, educator and long-time kink practitioner to explore the psychology of consent, accountability and mature power exchange.We explore:Consent versus embodied accountability.BDSM, therapy and clinician bias.Free will, law and ethical power exchange.Compassion, boundaries and mature submission.What kink culture gets right — and where it struggles.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Investigating Bias in Psychotherapy with BDSM Clients.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when autism meets BDSM and kink becomes a language of structure, sensation, and connection?In this episode I’m joined by Umbra — a Dominant, sadist, and long-time kink practitioner to explore the psychology of neurodivergent desire and the evolution of kink across decades.We explore:Autism, neurodivergence & erotic identity.BDSM as structure, communication & sensory regulation.Sadism, bastinado & the psychology of impact play.Finding your tribe in kink communities.How kink has evolved from underground scenes to global networks.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!Research article: Stimulation and Stimming: S&M on the Spectrum.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What does it mean to decolonize sex and who gets to define desire?In this episode I’m joined by King Noire — award-winning performer, educator, and founder of Royal Fetish Films — to explore the intersection of BDSM, culture, and identity. We unpack how sexuality is shaped by history, race, and power — and what it looks like to reclaim erotic expression in a way that is intentional, ethical, and culturally aware.VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!We explore:Decolonizing sex and reclaiming erotic identity.BDSM as connection, not just power or pain.Black love, representation, and cultural narratives.Sacred sex and erotic storytelling.Creativity, music, and dominance.Research article: Hormonal Changes and Couple Bonding in Consensual Sadomasochistic Activity.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

VOTE for The Erotic Realm to win best podcast here. Thanks for voting!What if the reason intimacy feels hard isn’t lack of attraction — but lack of safety?In this episode I’m joined by Rachel Dorneanu — relationship and sex therapist — to explore the psychology of intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional connection.We explore:Vulnerability and emotional safety in relationships.Conservative upbringing and sexual shame.Communication and what makes a “safe partner”.Arranged marriages and cultural dynamics.Highly Sensitive People and intimacy.Research Article: Sensory-Processing Sensitivity and Its Relation to Introversion and Emotionality.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when sex education is left to shame, silence, and the internet?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Mark Schoen — sex educator, filmmaker, and founder of SexSmartFilms — to explore what decades of teaching human sexuality have revealed about shame, censorship, and sexual freedom.We explore: What decades of sex education have taught Mark about desire. Banned books, censorship, and why sexual honesty still scares people. How film can teach what classrooms often miss. Cultural differences in sexual messaging. Mark’s work with William Masters, Betty Dodson, and his transgender film project.Research Article: X-Rated: Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors Associated With U.S. Adolescents’ Exposure to Sexually Explicit Media.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when someone experiences little to no sexual attraction — but still has a deeply erotic life?In this episode I’m joined by GoddessMey — a dominant, sadomasochist, and asexual-spectrum kinkster — to explore the intersection of asexuality and BDSM.We explore:Asexuality and erotic identity.Female dominance and power exchange.Sadism, masochism, and sensation.Ethical findom and consent.Redefining desire beyond attraction.Research Article: Asexuality: prevalence and associated factors in a national probability sample.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if leadership isn’t about control but responsibility?In this episode I’m joined by Leadfromfront — a 75-year-old retired CEO and Dominant — to explore the psychology of power, leadership, and ethical authority.We explore:Leadership vs domination in BDSM.Consent as the foundation of power.The difference between hurt and harm.Ethical sadism and attunement.Aging, desire, and erotic longevity.Research book: The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a woman chooses her body, her career, and her desire — outside of expectation?In this episode I’m joined by Katija Cortez — a submissive, content creator, and professional girlfriend — to explore female autonomy, sterilisation, and the psychology of erotic agency.We explore:Sterilisation and voluntary childlessness.Stigma, autonomy, and cultural expectations.Sex work, desire, and emotional connection.The paradox of being both sovereign and submissive.How choice reshapes erotic identity.Research article: Stigma Management Among the Voluntarily Childless.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when sexual mastery becomes about presence, not performance?In this episode I’m joined by Kevin Anthony — sexologist, tantra counsellor, and men’s sexual mastery coach — to explore the psychology of masculinity, ejaculation, and erotic presence.We explore:Ejaculation, stamina, and sexual control.Masculinity and performance anxiety.Tantra as a lived erotic practice.Polyamory and emotional intelligence.Grief, loss, and erotic continuity.Research article: Men's gender role conflict: Psychological costs, consequences, and an agenda for change.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when the way your brain works becomes part of your erotic identity?In this episode I’m joined by Kritikl — a neurodivergent Dominant, sadist, rigger, and community space curator — to explore the intersection of autism, power, and desire.You may recognise his voice from the earlier Kink Intentions episode — and here, we go deeper into how his neurodivergence shapes the way he experiences connection, dominance, and kink.We explore:Neurodivergence and erotic identity.Pattern recognition as a form of connection.Dominance, sadism, and ethical power.Rope, sensory experience, and embodiment.Creating safe spaces for neurodivergent kinksters.Research Article: Autism, Sexuality, and BDSM.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a man’s desire to surrender clashes with everything he’s been taught about masculinity?In this episode I’m joined by Jack — a submissive man, anthropologist, and writer — to explore the psychological tension between masculinity, shame, and submission.We unpack how cultural expectations shape men’s relationship to control, performance, and sexuality — and what happens when those expectations no longer fit. Drawing on lived experience and sociological insight, this conversation explores how submission can become a site of authenticity rather than weakness.We explore:The conflict between masculinity and submission. Shame, ejaculation, and the male erotic nervous system. Female-led relationships and long-term D/s dynamics. The difference between consent and compatibility. How men can redefine power through surrender.Research Article: Hegemonic Masculinity: Rethinking the Concept.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when kink is built around people first and power second?In this episode I’m joined by Master Cat NYC and Master Joshua NYC — leather educators and co-founders of The Kink Collective — to explore the psychology of ethical power in BDSM.With decades of experience in kink and leather communities, they share how their understanding of dominance, identity, and responsibility has evolved — and why they centre their work around the principle of people before kink.We explore:Ethical dominance and responsibility in power exchange.Leather culture and evolving erotic identity.Consent as a form of liberation.Triads, poly dynamics, and relational complexity.Building kink communities rooted in care and accountability.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the problem isn’t sexual desire — but the shame surrounding it?In this episode I’m joined by psychosexual and relationship therapist Silva Neves to explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern sexuality: compulsive sexual behaviour.Rather than framing sexual compulsivity as “sex addiction,” Silva’s work examines how sexuality can become intertwined with emotional regulation, identity, shame, and relational needs.We explore:Why many sexologists reject the “sex addiction” narrative.How shame sustains compulsive sexual cycles.The difference between high desire and genuine compulsivity.Trauma, EMDR therapy, and erotic safety.What sexual integration actually looks like in therapy.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when someone refuses the rigid rules of gender — and instead creates their own embodiment of identity and desire?In this episode I’m joined by Dreamer — an altersex transgender woman, primal sadomasochist, leather Master, scientist, and educator — to explore the psychology of gender integration, power exchange, and erotic identity.Dreamer shares the deeply personal story of her gender transition, including her decision to undergo phallus-preserving vaginoplasty, a non-traditional form of gender-affirming surgery that reflects her unique experience of embodiment.We explore: What it means to identify as altersex. Thepsychological experience of gender transition. The difference between primal power and constructed authority. Leather culture, Mastery, and erotic truth. How embodiment shapes desire and power exchange.Research Article: Adult Development and Quality of Life of Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when we start treating sex as a form of personal sovereignty?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by legendary intimacy expert Susan Bratton — author, educator, and one of the most influential voices in modern sexual communication.We explore:How patriarchal sexual scripts shape modern intimacy.The real difference between having sex and making love.How couples sustain passion after decades together.Why attention may be one of the most overlooked erotic resources.How sexual sovereignty transforms relationships.Research Article: The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a CEO discovers submission?In this episode I’m joined by Calliope — entrepreneur, writer, and high-functioning submissive — to explore the psychology of control, grief surrender, and curiosity inside modern BDSM.We explore:Submission for high-performing professionals.The psychology of control and surrender.Curiosity as a gateway into kink.Intellectual stimulation inside D/s dynamics.Grief, writing, and the role of community in healing.Research Article: Masochism as Escape from Self.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if dominance wasn’t about intimidation — but presence?In this episode I’m joined by Dominatrix Rin, professional Dominatrix and dungeon owner, to explore archetypal authority, ritual aesthetics, and the psychology of emotional power in BDSM.We explore:The Dominatrix as archetype and psychosexual authority.Berlin vs San Francisco kink culture.The dungeon as ritual container and transformational space.Emotional labor in professional domination.Ownership, care, and embodied attunement.Power as presence rather than performance.Research book: The History and Arts of the Dominatrix.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can BDSM be a literary and philosophical pursuit?In this episode I sit down with Lenny, a 77 year old sadist, writer, and lifelong BDSM mentor whose journey explores the limits of pleasure, pain, and the mind’s role in eroticism.Lenny shares his experiences with hypnotic states, non-physical orgasms, and BDSM as a vehicle for transformation—both in real life and in literature.We discuss:The psychology of masochism and what pain really means in BDSM.Writing about dark desires and the philosophy of De Sade.Non-physical orgasms and how hypnosis can trigger deep pleasure.The intersection of tantra, breathwork, and erotic power exchange.Unusual fetishes he’s encountered including a garlic fetish!Research Paper: A Case of Female Orgasm Without Genital StimulationIf you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.Thanks for listening!EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if submission wasn’t about losing yourself — but about knowing yourself deeply?In this episode I’m joined by Sarah from Subinthecity — submissive, kink therapist, and educator — to explore feminist submission, sub frenzy, and integrative kink through a psychological lens.We explore:What sub frenzy really is — and how to navigate it safely.Feminist submission as sovereignty, not passivity.Erotic mismatch in D/s dynamics.Menstrual cycles and shifting kink desires.Shadow work and inner-child integration through power exchange.Research article: Reflections on a Career Dedicated to the Study of BDSM and Diverse SexualitiesLove Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when erotic obsession stops being fantasy — and starts rewriting your reality?Grab your FREE copy of The Venus Fly Trap here.In this episode of I’m joined by author Stephen Paul Edwards to explore the psychological depths of his book The Venus Fly Trap — a story described as equal parts Fifty Shades, Gone Girl, and a therapy session with the devil.In this episode, we explore:The psychology of erotic obsession.Fantasy vs manipulation in relationships.What destabilising attraction reveals about ourselves.Shame, secrecy, and the cost of silence.Why writing the truth can change the body — not just the mind.A live reading from the book.Research article: Confronting a traumatic event: Toward an understanding of inhibition and disease. Connect with Stephen:Instagram X FacebookLinkedInTikTok WebsiteLove Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if male submission wasn’t about giving up power — but about choosing where it belongs?In this episode we explore the erotic realm of Taylor Ellwood, a submissive, men’s coach, and writer living in a 24/7 female-led dynamic, to explore masculinity, devotion, and sovereign submission through a psychological lens. In this episode, we explore:Why submission must be chosen, not defaulted into.The difference between “nice guy” behaviour and genuine devotion.Submission as discipline, not self-erasure.Masculinity beyond performance and dominance.How erotic polarity and meaning shape long-term D/s relationships.Research article: Perks, problems, and the people who play: A qualitative exploration of dominant and submissive BDSM rolesDon't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if pleasure wasn’t the opposite of responsibility — but one of its foundations?In this episode I’m joined by Tanya Griffin — entrepreneur, sexual wellness and harm-reduction educator, and flow-state practitioner — to explore the psychology of pleasure, altered states, and embodied leadership.In this episode, we explore:Pleasure as a measure of freedom, not indulgence.Flow states in sex, embodiment, and longevity.Intention vs. compulsion in erotic and altered states.Conscious use of cannabis and psychoactives in sexuality.Shame reduction as harm reduction — in sex and substances.Research article: Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if brattiness wasn’t resistance — but discernment?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by AngelSnowflake, a collared submissive and self-described brat, to explore the psychology of chosen submission, erotic paradox, and identity that refuses simplification.In this episode, we explore:Why submission must be earned to be real.Brattiness as emotional and relational literacy.Fluid desire and refusing fixed erotic labels.Collars as lived psychological commitments.Parallels between kink, roleplay, and character formation.Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this fifth episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠Peak Erotic Experience 1: #33 The Lesbian Cuckcake: Iris on Poly Desire, Triad Love & HealingPeak Erotic Experience 2: #34 Master Xtac: The 12 Rules of Power, Leather Tradition & BDSM as a Sexual OrientationPeak Erotic Experience 3: #35 The Bisexual Switch: Sage on Embracing Both Sides of Power & DesirePeak Erotic Experience 4: #36 The Disciplinarian Domme: MistressBaton on Spanking, Sadism & the Psychology of PainPeak Erotic Experience 5: #37 From Pro-Domme to Submissive: Valkyrie on Regression, ABDL & Self-DominationThank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can voice alone create intimacy, arousal, and emotional safety?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by Call Me Phoenix — erotic audio creator, virtual companion, and switch — to explore the psychology of auditory erotics, voice-based desire, and intimacy without physical bodies.We talk about phone sex, asexual audios, nervous-system regulation, and why sound can feel safer and sometimes more intimate than touch or sight. Drawing on psychological research into ASMR, this conversation reveals how voice can calm the body while simultaneously creating erotic arousal.In this episode, we explore:How voice creates intimacy differently from touch or visuals.Erotic audio as self-soothing and nervous-system regulation.Why some people feel more “seen” through listening than looking.Auditory fetishism, auralism, and voice-based desire.Desire, connection, and presence without physical contact.Research article: The effects of autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) on mood, attention, heart rate, skin conductance and EEG in healthy young adults.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when we stop leaving desire to chance — and start setting intentions for it instead?The powerful New Year ritual continues with this fourth and final instalment. Three real kinksters, (including the first couple!) step into the studio to openly share their erotic and kink intentions for the year ahead — what they want to explore, deepen, confront, or finally give themselves permission to desire.And this is only the beginning.Each of these guests will return at the end of the year so we can reflect on what actually shifted, what surprised them, and what happens when desire is treated as something we can consciously engage with, rather than wait on.Because we set goals for our careers, relationships, bodies, and finances.But when it comes to erotic desire, most of us were never taught how to set direction — only how to judge it, suppress it, or worry when it changes.This episode explores why intentionality matters in erotic psychology, and how attention — not pressure — shapes desire over time.In this episode:Three kinksters (including the first couple!) share their real erotic goals for the year ahead.Why desire responds to attention, not force.Erotic intention-setting as psychological and relational self-leadership.Plus: I introduce The Desire Diary — a psychological tool designed to help you track, understand, and work with your desire over time. Available now via this link or simply grab the Softcover here or Hardcover Here.Set intentions for your own desire and follow this year-long erotic experiment alongside us!Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if sound, pain, and pleasure were forms of communication — not spectacle?In this episode I’m joined by LadyRed, host of Interview My Kink. A Leatherwoman, impact switch, and community builder, we explore the psychology of power, sound, and service within kink and leather culture.We talk about learning pain tolerance, the role of sound in impact play, and how dungeon and leather spaces function as environments for trust, feedback, and erotic self-knowledge. Drawing on sociological research, this conversation reframes BDSM not as pathology, but as a process of embodied learning, identity formation, and community stewardship.In this episode, we explore:Why sound matters in impact play — psychologically and relationallyHow pain teaches body awareness and emotional limitsLeather as culture, not aestheticPleasure as a resource that must be stewardedService as an erotic and ethical practiceResearch article: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) Identity Developmentdynamics through sexual practice?Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when we stop leaving desire to chance — and start setting intentions for it instead?The powerful New Year ritual continues with this third instalment. Four real kinksters step into the studio to openly share their erotic and kink intentions for the year ahead — what they want to explore, deepen, confront, or finally give themselves permission to desire.And this is only the beginning.Each of these guests will return at the end of the year so we can reflect on what actually shifted, what surprised them, and what happens when desire is treated as something we can consciously engage with, rather than wait on.Because we set goals for our careers, relationships, bodies, and finances.But when it comes to erotic desire, most of us were never taught how to set direction — only how to judge it, suppress it, or worry when it changes.This episode explores why intentionality matters in erotic psychology, and how attention — not pressure — shapes desire over time.In this episode:Four kinksters share their real erotic goals for the year aheadWhy desire responds to attention, not forceErotic intention-setting as psychological and relational self-leadershipPlus: I introduce The Desire Diary — a psychological tool designed to help you track, understand, and work with your desire over time. Available now via this link or simply grab the Softcover here or Hardcover Here.Set intentions for your own desire and follow this year-long erotic experiment alongside us!Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when sadism is approached not as harm, but as ethical power?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by R1HZ — a humanist Top, compersive sadist, and athletic kinkster — to explore the psychology of ethical sadism, responsibility, and leadership in erotic power exchange.We discuss the shift from repression to expression, the quiet lives of under-the-radar sadists, and why ethical dominance often mirrors high-functioning leadership in the real world.In this episode, we explore:What happens when two sadists meet.Compersive sadism and why pleasure in intensity requires accountability.The parallels between athletic training and erotic discipline.Why ethical sadists often thrive as leaders, CEOs, and collaborators.How consent transforms power into intimacy rather than harm.and much more!Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see what else Emma is up to and reach out via [email protected] to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when we stop leaving desire to chance — and start setting intentions for it instead?The powerful New Year ritual continues with this second instalment. Four real kinksters step into the studio to openly share their erotic and kink intentions for the year ahead — what they want to explore, deepen, confront, or finally give themselves permission to desire.And this is only the beginning.Each of these guests will return at the end of the year so we can reflect on what actually shifted, what surprised them, and what happens when desire is treated as something we can consciously engage with, rather than wait on.Because we set goals for our careers, relationships, bodies, and finances.But when it comes to erotic desire, most of us were never taught how to set direction — only how to judge it, suppress it, or worry when it changes.This episode explores why intentionality matters in erotic psychology, and how attention — not pressure — shapes desire over time.In this episode:Four kinksters share their real erotic goals for the year aheadWhy desire responds to attention, not forceErotic intention-setting as psychological and relational self-leadershipPlus: I introduce The Desire Diary — a psychological tool designed to help you track, understand, and work with your desire over time. Available now via this link or simply grab the Softcover here or Hardcover Here.Set intentions for your own desire and follow this year-long erotic experiment alongside us!Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What makes surrender feel safe — and when does submission become destabilising instead of erotic?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, Kinkerbell joins M to explore the psychology of desire, power, and erotic trust, focusing on non-degrading submission, clear boundaries, and nervous system safety.Rather than framing submission as identity or ideology, this conversation centres on how safety creates desire — and why surrender only works when consent is embodied, not just verbal.In this episode, we explore: • The psychology of safe surrender and erotic trust • How boundaries create freedom in power exchange • Submission without degradation or self-erasure • Trauma-informed intimacy and nervous system cues • Erotic writing as emotional regulation • Desire evolving later in lifeResearch article: Feminist SM: A contradiction in terms or a way of challenging traditional gendereddynamics through sexual practice?Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when we stop leaving desire to chance — and start setting intentions for it instead?This episode opens Season Two of The Erotic Realm with a powerful New Year ritual. Four real kinksters step into the studio to openly share their erotic and kink intentions for the year ahead — what they want to explore, deepen, confront, or finally give themselves permission to desire.And this is only the beginning.Each of these guests will return at the end of the year so we can reflect on what actually shifted, what surprised them, and what happens when desire is treated as something we can consciously engage with, rather than wait on.Because we set goals for our careers, relationships, bodies, and finances.But when it comes to erotic desire, most of us were never taught how to set direction — only how to judge it, suppress it, or worry when it changes.This episode explores why intentionality matters in erotic psychology, and how attention — not pressure — shapes desire over time.In this episode:Four kinksters share their real erotic goals for the year aheadWhy desire responds to attention, not forceErotic intention-setting as psychological and relational self-leadershipPlus: I introduce The Desire Diary — a psychological tool designed to help you track, understand, and work with your desire over time. Available now via this link or simply grab the Softcover here or Hardcover Here.Set intentions for your own desire and follow this year-long erotic experiment alongside us!Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this fourth episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠Peak Erotic Experience 1: #27 The Fetish Lens: Erotic Photography & the Art of Visual Desire with Fet-Erotica.Peak Erotic Experience 2: #28 Erotic Resistance: Politics of Pleasure & Submissive Power with Auntie Vice.Peak Erotic Experience 3: #29 The Whip Master: Ritual, Rhythm & Erotic Precision with Dex.Peak Erotic Experience 4: #31 Master MissMarie: 40 Years of Domination, Devotion & Queer Power.Peak Erotic Experience 5: #32 The Trans Cuckquean: MelissaBound on Erotic Surrender & Submissive Wisdom.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this third episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠Peak Erotic Experience 1: Erotic Realm Episode 17 here.Peak Erotic Experience 2: Erotic Realm Episode 21 here.Peak Erotic Experience 3: Erotic Realm Episode 22 here.Peak Erotic Experience 4: Erotic Realm Episode 23 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 26 here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when masculinity is no longer defined by control — but by how power is held, shared, or even surrendered?In this thematic episode, The Erotic Realm explores the second gendered arc to emerge from its first year of conversations: men rethinking dominance, vulnerability, and erotic leadership in a culture that often mistakes sensitivity or submission for weakness.Drawing on episodes with romantic Dominants, queer sadists, male submissives, and emotionally devoted partners, this episode examines masculinity as an ethical and erotic practice — one that includes authority and surrender.Male guests speak openly about redefining dominance as responsibility, submission as devotion, and vulnerability as strength — pushing back against cultural narratives that flatten masculinity into performance or aggression.Following The Feminist Submissives, this episode completes the gendered inquiry within the wider thematic series. Together, these arcs reveal that the erotic psyche is not divided by gender — but by how we relate to power, trust, and care.Dominance as stewardship, not entitlement.Male submission and vulnerability beyond weakness narratives.Challenging performative and “toxic” masculinity models.Reflections from the first year of The Erotic Realm.Guest 1: #26 Healthy Masculinity & Queer Dominance: Biker Bear on Sadism, Power & PlayGuest 2: #34 Master Xtac: The 12 Rules of Power, Leather Tradition & BDSM as a Sexual OrientationGuest 3: #40 The Humiliated Devotee: Petitmortician on Cuckolding, Worship & the Psychology of Submission.Guest 4: #24 The Romantic Master: Arcane on Dominance & Devotion in a 24/7 M/s Bond (Part 2 of 2)Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this second episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Peak Erotic Experience 1: Erotic Realm Episode 10 here.Peak Erotic Experience 2: Erotic Realm Episode 11 here.Peak Erotic Experience 3: Erotic Realm Episode 12 here.Peak Erotic Experience 4: Erotic Realm Episode 14 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 15 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 16 here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Women can have power - and exchange it too.In this special thematic episode, The Erotic Realm explores a recurring pattern from its first year of conversations: women who experience surrender not as weakness, but as a conscious, embodied act of power.Drawing on stories from feminist slaves, sacred submissives, trans and queer women, and those reclaiming desire later in life, this episode reframes submission as choice — a form of erotic agency rooted in trust, embodiment, and self-knowledge.This is the first in a limited series examining the major psychological and cultural themes that emerged across Season One. While later episodes will explore masculinity and other shared arcs, this episode stays firmly with women — and with the radical act of choosing to yield.Feminist submission as agency, not erasure. Yielding as trust, embodiment, and reclamation. Women reclaiming power through conscious surrender. Reflections drawn from the first year of The Erotic Realm.Guest 1: #23 The Feminist Slave: Daphne’s Side of a 24/7 M/s Bond Episode here.Guest 2: #28 Erotic Resistance: Politics of Pleasure & Submissive Power with Auntie Vice Episode here.Guest 3: #17 Sex Magic, Shadow Work, and Sacred Kink: Magdalena on Leather, Pleasure, and Surrender Episode here.Guest 4: #42 Ask A Sub: Lina Dune on Feminist Submission, CNC & the Art of Surrender Episode here.Guest 5: #51 Feminist Submission, Masochism and Kink Education with AncillaL here.Guest 6:#45 The Psychology of Erotica: Aurore on Writing Desire, Healing Shame & Feminist Submission Episode here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this first episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Peak Erotic Experience 1: Erotic Realm Episode 3 here.Peak Erotic Experience 2: Erotic Realm Episode 4 here.Peak Erotic Experience 3: Erotic Realm Episode 7 here.Peak Erotic Experience 4: Erotic Realm Episode 8 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 9 here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when erotic curiosity, psychology, and lived experience collide?In this special solo episode, M reflects on turning 40 and one year of The Erotic Realm Podcast — sharing the personal, psychological, and erotic motivations behind creating a platform devoted to desire, power, and the erotic mind.In this episode, we explore:Why desire is as unique as personality.How power and eroticism shape identity across a lifetime.Midlife as a psychological turning point, not a crisis.What listening to hundreds of erotic stories has revealed.Autism, kink, and why structure can feel safer than spontaneity.How M became a Sexologist.What's next for The Erotic Realm and the Psychology of Desire.Research article: "Comforting, Reassuring, and…Hot": A Qualitative Exploration of Engaging in Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and (Sado)masochism and Kink from the Perspective of Autistic Adults.This episode is both a celebration and a thesis — a reflection on what the first year of The Erotic Realm has taught me, and where the psychology of desire is heading next.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?Recorded live at a real kink festival, this fourth and final episode in the series of the special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.We explore:• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: [email protected] Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here to receive the Female Orgasm Case File direct to your inboxWhat happens when a woman discovers she can climax again… and again… and again?In this episode, Thinker — a bisexual sensualist and rope bottom — joins M to explore hyper-orgasmic sexuality, erotic sensitivity, and what it means to reclaim pleasure after decades of repression.We discuss: • The four levels of orgasm and how she moves through them. • The psychology of erotic sensitivity and hyper-climaxing. • How religious repression shaped (and delayed) her erotic awakening. • Why mindfulness expands arousal and deepens sensation. • The emotional landscape of reclaiming desire after silence.Research article: Effects of mindfulness training on body awareness to sexual stimuli: implications for female sexual dysfunction.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What can decades of lived BDSM history teach us about power, desire and the erotic mind?We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.This week we go all the way back to episode 3 and explore The Hedonist Mentor: Kinkalong on 40 Years of BDSM, Bisexuality & Erotic PsychologyIn this episode, we delve into the rich experiences and wisdom of Marc, a bisexual hedonist, switch, and mentor with decades of involvement in the kink community.We discuss:The evolution of the kink scene over the past few decades.The intersection of bisexuality and mental health in navigating identity.Lessons learned from living the lifestyle as a mentor and switch.Balancing power dynamics in relationships with his Domme wife.And much more...Research paper: Disclosure and Concealment of Sexual Orientation and the Mental Health of Non-Gay-Identified, Behaviorally-Bisexual Men.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?Recorded live at a real kink festival, this third in the series of the special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.We explore:• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: [email protected] Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How can a feminist enjoy submission?We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.This week we explore Feminist Submission, Masochism and Kink Education with AncillaL.In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Ancilla, a 33-year-old polyamorous writer, masochist, and slave who has dedicated her life to exploring power exchange, pain, and the art of kink education. Ancilla’s journey intersects with her roles as a emotional masochist, and educator, creating a deeply personal and transformative story.We discuss:The strength in submission and what it means to her as a slave.The psychology of pain and how masochism connects to altered states and self-discovery.Her groundbreaking Sextbook Initiative and its mission to make kink education accessible and actionable.Balancing feminism and masochism in the kink world.And much more...Research article: No Pain, No Gain?: Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM Contexts.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when women stop apologizing for wanting each other? In this episode, Skirt Club founder Genevieve LeJeune joins M to explore the psychology, culture, and community behind the world’s largest movement for bisexual and bicurious women.We discuss: • The psychology of bisexuality and fluid erotic identity. • Skirt Club’s role in liberating women from sexual shame. • How curiosity becomes the first step toward freedom. • Bisexual invisibility and stigma in queer and kink spaces. • What Kinsey and modern science reveal about female desire.Research book: Bi: The Hidden Culture, History & Science of BisexualityInterested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.This week we explore the most common fetish out there- feet. Welcome to The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins with Feetfixations.Support The Erotic Realm for the price of a coffee a month by becoming a paid subscriber on Substack — and help this independent project keep exploring the science, symbolism, and stories of desire into 2026 and beyond.What is it about feet?In this episode we explore the psychology, sensuality, and stigma of foot fetishes with 53-year-old fetishist and photographer Larry.We discuss:Early foot memories.Where he thinks his fetish comes from.The different types of foot fetishists.The visual appeal of soles.The neuroscience behind foot-based arousal.and more!Research Article: Relative prevalence of different fetishes.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.