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Phil and Jess are catching up. Its been quite a year, and in this episode they will tell you about it. Jess talks about what its like being an introvert with a second child as well as how different it was being pregnant with her second baby. Phil talks about writing, life and a few life changes. Also, Phil and Jess have a couple of questions for you!

Jess and Phil have an important update. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

Jess and Phil have a confession. While its widely known that they will avoid acquaintances if they pass them on the street, its time to come clean and admit that they do the same, even if they see really good friends on the street. In this episode they talk about why they do it, and why they (mostly) don't feel bad about it. And why you shouldn't either. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

This podcast was inspired by a reddit post, where the OP (Original Poster) complained: I’m an introvert and I don’t have hobbies… how do I get one? In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about hobbies. Is it possible to have hobbies that don't have a social aspect? Does the fear of social hobbies keep some introverts from pursuing hobbies that they might otherwise pursue? Phil and Jess talk about hobbies they are currently pursuing, ones they started and abandoned, and more. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

We've been on hiatus longer than we anticipated. As we do when we come back from a break, we catch up on what's been going on, and let you know why we were away for so long. The TLDR: a lot happened. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

Do you ever feel like you’ve been singled out at a gathering, becoming the center of a conversation you never wanted to be part of? We're cracking open the less-spoken realities of being an introvert and the social punishment that often comes with it. This episode paints a vivid picture of the uncomfortable moments we introverts face, sometimes at the hands of well-meaning loved ones. The conversation dives into the lack of empathy behind passive-aggressive questioning of introverts- a painful practice that can start from school age and continue into adulthood. We share our personal encounters with this kind of social punishment, hoping to illuminate a topic that many introverts grapple with but seldom talk about. But fear not, this dialogue isn't just about airing grievances; we're here to arm you with coping strategies too. Navigating these social obstacles can be daunting, particularly when you're grasping for the right words in those heat-of-the-moment situations. Through shared experiences and advice, we explore the power of silence, or perhaps a well-placed stare, as effective responses. As we wrap things up, we also touch on the costs of running this podcast and how you, our trusty listeners, can help us carry on. Let's remember, our aim isn't to change who we are, but to better understand and negotiate our world as introverts. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

Ever been told your introverted nature is a misfit for your workplace? Well, we've got a story for you! Join us, your introverted hosts Phil Rickaby and Jess Gorman, as we navigate the complexities of introversion in professional settings. One listener shares their experience of being told by a manager that introversion doesn't quite cut it at work. We delve into this, reassuring you that your quiet nature is not equivalent to incompetence and certainly doesn't define your professional capabilities. As the conversation unfolds, we discuss a unique scenario - being introverted in a gym environment. Drawing inspiration from another listener's email, we affirm that introversion is not a crime, not even in a gym! We extend practical advice for handling such situations while emphasizing how different personality types can significantly impact workplace dynamics. Together, we explore the perceptions and misconceptions about introverts and extroverts, and how these play out in work relationships and productivity. Closing the episode, we highlight that everyone embodies a blend of introverted and extroverted traits. Upholding your unique mix is vital. It's crucial to question any discouragements, stay true to your personality, and continue to excel professionally. As we wind up this enlightening journey, we express our gratitude to our listeners whose support keeps us going. Whether you identify as an introvert, extrovert, or a bit of both, this episode will make you rethink the role personality plays in the workplace. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, we delve into the world of introverts, exploring why they are often misunderstood as aloof or intimidating. We uncover the unique challenges introverts face in social situations, discussing the perception of them being 'know-it-alls' due to their broad vocabulary and deep thought process. We also touch upon the concept of 'canceling plans' as an introvert's love language and the guilt that often accompanies it. Links in this episode: https://introvertdear.com/news/7-unintentionally-rude-things-introverts-do/ Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, inspired by a reddit post, Jess and Phil talk about how it sometimes seems like extroverts make all the rules in life, and the introverts just have to deal with it. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, IG2 returns from its hiatus, and Jess an Phil talk about what its like having to pretend to be an extrovert, either at work or in social situations. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this short episode, Jess and Phil talk about why we missed putting out an episode last week, and why we're going to take about a month's break before getting back to publishing again. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, we welcome two guests, Melanie and Adrianna, both of whom have found their socialization types changing over the course of the pandemic, starting as an ambivert and an extravert respectively. In this conversation we discuss how it felt to be forced into a new socialization pattern, and how the way they think about their socialization preferences have changed over time. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess and Phil ponder the question: Can introverts get lonely. They talk about times they have been lonely, what it takes for them to be lonely, how often it happens, and much more. Plus, your social media comments. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

On this episode, Jess and Phil revisit that topic that chills introverts to the bone: Parties. In this third episode on the topic, Jess and Phil address questions from introverts about parties and how to deal with them. Also, Jess presents suggestions for any introvert thinking of hosting their own party. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about dealing with being busy as introverts. Introverts tend to be sensitive, and so being too busy can be overwhelming. How do Jess and Phil keep from becoming overwhelmed by all the things they have to do? Plus, your suggestions from social media. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, we return to our "The Hill I Will Die On" series, and this time its Jess with the hill she will die on, which leaves Phil speechless. Listen and let us know: do you agree with Jess? Would you too choose this hill? Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess and Phil discuss how to deal with an uninvited visitor, whether friend or family member, and what to do (and perhaps not do) when there's an unexpected knock on the door. Also, your comments on how you have (or have not) dealt with similar situations. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about their favourite introverts in pop culture, and which ones that some people think are introverts might not be. Also, listener favourite introverts! Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about what success looks like for introverts, and how the idea of success that some people (usually non-extroverts) talk about, might seem unattainable for an introverted personality. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess plays the role of your "toxic" introvert friend as she and Phil talk about some bad habits that introverts might display that make their lives more difficult, or might cause drama in their lives. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

Around this time of year, those of us who made resolutions for the new year start to wonder if we made the right choice. Some of us may already be feeling like they failed. In this episode Jess and Phil talk about why they don't make resolutions, their past relationship with resolutions, and more. Also in this episode, Phil mentions an alternative to resolutions: taking stock of the year that was, and deciding what you want more of in the new year. We recommend the Year Compass for this at https://yearcompass.com/ Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

The holiday season can be overwhelming, with family obligations, parties and other gatherings. In this episode, Jess and Phil bring you some suggestions and tips for getting through the holiday season. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess and Phil try to come up with introvert friendly careers; Phil plays "career coach" for Jess as they try to come up with career choices that feed the introvert rather than ones that drain them. Links in this episode: https://www.careershifters.org/expert-advice/how-to-change-career-when-youve-no-idea-what-to-do-next Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode Jess and Phil talk about how to keep from resenting your introversion. How to stop letting other people's assumptions about what introversion is affect how you feel about yourself, and a reminder of how important it is to say what you need in your relationships. Links in this episode: https://getthefriendsyouwant.com/hate-being-an-introvert/ Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, we present Jess and Phil facing off in a semi-regular "game" we're calling "I will die on this hill" in which one of our hosts, presents the other with a controversial statement about a way they interact with the world, and the other reacts and tries to convince them otherwise. Here, Phil tells us what happens when a cafe he goes to knows his order before he gives it, and Jess reacts in horror. Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode Jess and Phil talk about big life changes. Jess talks about her recent big life change, as well as another big change (when she moved to a new city). Phil talks about starting a big new job. Also revealed: one of the two loves Temptation Island. Before listening, can you guess who? Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

Jess and Phil are back to the podcast again after 7 months. In this episode we catch up with them and find out what they've been up to (spoiler: Jess had a baby and Phil did a show). Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

Co-host Jess is still on maternity leave, but this week, Phil gives you a special episode from his theatre podcast, Stageworthy: a roundtable discussion with introverted actors. A lot of people think that actors are all extraverts, but as Jess and Phil have mentioned before, this just isn't true. On this episode actor and playwright, Stephen Near; actor & Singer-Songwriter Carolyn Fe; writer, composer & and performer, Kristen Zaza; playwright & performer, Genevieve Adam; writer & actor Michael Ripley, and your usual co-hosts, Jess McAuley and Phil Rickaby talk about being introverted in a profession that seems to expect extraversion. Support The Introvert's Guide To... Tip Jar: tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to

In this episode, Jess and Phil explore awkwardness and what to do when you experience that awkward feeling. Also, Jess will be taking some maternity time, so IG2 will be going on hiatus for a short while. We'll see you back here soon! Links in this episode: https://socialpronow.com/blog/socially-awkward/

In this episode, Jess and Phil answer a question from a listener, who is worried that not wanting to reconnect with a friend from high school makes them a bad person, which leads them to talk about the importance of boundaries, revisit the friend list on social media, and much more.

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being (perhaps a little) overly sensitive. Phil admits to not having watched The Office, and Jess considers whether they can still be friends because of that. Links in this episode: https://introvertdear.com/news/hsp-things-realize/

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about overthinking. They share times they have found themselves stuck in a thought loop, and how to break out of it. Links in episode: https://medium.com/@nishtha04/being-an-introvert-and-an-overthinker-at-the-same-time-c7d5c997a992

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about new beginnings, and how to handle them, from the first day of a new job, to impending parenthood, and try to find some helpful solutions to dealing with those first days and new beginnings.

In this episode Jess and Phil talk about making friends as an introvert (or even just as an adult), and how difficult that can be. Links In this Episode https://nandoodles.medium.com/the-extrovert-s-guide-to-making-friends-everywhere-you-go-4d07cbbe9dd3 https://observer.com/2015/07/an-introverts-guide-to-eating-and-drinking-out/

We've all heard it before: introverts are "antisocial". But what does that mean exactly? In this episode, Jess and Phil dive into this question, and whether social anxiety is necessarily a part of being an introvert, or something else entirely. And what do people mean exactly, whey they say we are antisocial? Links in this episode: https://www.healthline.com/health/anxiety/introvert-vs-social-anxiety#a-socially-anxious-introvert https://www.sheknows.com/living/articles/1113071/introvert-vs-antisocial/ Transcript at https://introvertsguideto.com/the-introverts-guide-to-social-anxiety-and-antisocial/

In this episode, as things begin to open up, and holiday gatherings are starting to happen, Jess and Phil talk about how to deal with the return to gatherings. Note: This episode was recorded before the current increases in cases of the Omicron variant of the COVID-19 virus. We decided to release this episode, for those who may still find themselves at gatherings this holiday season.

In this episode, Jess and Phil get a little heated as they respond to an article in Inc Magazine entitled T_here Are No Such Things as Introversion or Extroversion_. They have a lot of thoughts. Links in this episode: https://www.inc.com/joshua-spodek/there-are-no-such-things-as-introversion-or-extroversion.html

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about procrastination and admit to their worst habits where putting things off is concerned. They also offer some helpful tips for combatting procrastination, including when you might want to just give in to it. Links in this episode: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201204/the-paradox-procrastination https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2019/03/25/heres-how-you-procrastinate-based-on-your-myers-briggs-personality-type/#h-infps-and-isfps-can-procrastinate-about-taking-action

On this episode, Jess and Phil return after their hiatus, and catch you up on a) why the hiatus was necessary - and trust us, its amazing, exciting news - and b) what they have been up to. Also in this episode: how our perceptions of what makes a "crowd" has completely changed, as well as our notebook addictions, and more!

In this episode, Jess and Phil discuss returning to the office after a year and a half of working from home and provide some helpful tips on how to deal with that return. Links in this episode: https://www.truity.com/blog/back-work-survey-introverts-women-and-non-management-employees-may-dread-going-back-office

In this episode, Jess and Phil are joined by author Meghan Rogers to talk about creativity and the introvert. Meghan Rogers is a writer and an introvert living in the Philadelphia area. She’s the author of the young adult spy series, The Raven Files and the blogger behind createyourownreality.co where she blogs about a handful of topics including introvert life. When she’s not writing, she is most likely to be found on her couch, having opted out of a social invite. For more information on her books, you can visit her website, www.meghanrogersbooks.com or purchase them on Amazon. For more information on her blog, you can visit www.createyourownreality.co. You can buy Meghan's books as part of the Raven Files series at https://www.amazon.com/gp/bookseries/B01HP48O7O

In this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the pitfalls of being a perfectionist and suggest ways that an introverted perfectionist can loosen up and let a little imperfection in. Links in this episode: https://personalitygrowth.com/how-much-of-a-perfectionist-each-personality-type-is/

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about the expectations that people have about what an introvert is capable of and defying those expectations. Links in this episode: https://hbr.org/2021/01/can-introverts-thrive-in-extroverted-careers

In the last 15 months, we've all found ourselves on more video meetings than ever before, and for a lot of introverts, these are more difficult to deal with than in-person meetings. In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about why these are more taxing, and what tips and tricks you can use to get through them. Links in this episode: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/zoom-fatigue-may-be-with-us-for-years-heres-how-well-cope https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/coronavirus-zoom-fatigue-is-taxing-the-brain-here-is-why-that-happens

In response to an email from a listener, Jess and Phil talk about dealing with the guilt that sometimes comes from deciding to miss out on an event, whether work or otherwise. Links in this episode: https://createyourownreality.co/how-to-deal-with-introvert-guilt/

In this episode, Jess and Phil discuss dealing with "clingy" relationships; those friends that demand more time you can give, or the romantic relationship that anxious or upset if they can't be with you all the time. Articles referenced in this episode: https://www.talkspace.com/blog/am-i-clingy-what-to-do/ https://www.brides.com/how-not-to-be-clingy-4176696 https://www.wikihow.com/Gently-Dump-a-Clingy-%22Friend%22 Phil's Patreon: https://patreon.com/philrickaby

In this episode Jess and Phil talk about social media fasting, when to go on a fast, when not to, and how to have a more healthy relationship with social media.

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about things that are just wonderful for an introvert to hear. Those things that make the introvert just...melt. Things like "I have to cancel our plans" or "the party is cancelled", as well as some thing that just aren't.

In this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the importance of Routines, and how they can be very helpful for the introvert. Also: Phil learns a "horrifying" secret about Jess. Links in this episode: https://nesslabs.com/habits-routines-rituals

This week, Jess and Phil look at the Myers-Briggs test: Its origins, its uses, and it sometimes problematic aspects. Links in this episode: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19048975/) https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/c-g-jungs-theory.htm https://www.dnb.com/business-directory/company-profiles.the_myers-briggs_company.76632dd8acd83e7d95d18ab62c140624.html https://www.businessinsider.com/the-personality-types-that-earn-the-most-and-least-money-2015-2 https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/give-and-take/201309/goodbye-mbti-the-fad-won-t-die