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The Kink Compass
by Chris
Navigate your desires with confidence, curiosity, and consent. Hosted by Chris, The Kink Compass is your weekly guide to BDSM and kink — from negotiation and safety to play ideas and power dynamics. Whether you’re new, experienced, or curious, each judgment-free episode explores the practices, psychology, and connections that make kink powerful. New episodes every Sunday at 12 PM CET.You can follow Chris on Fetlife, where he is found under his nick Tittan
Episodes
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Conditioning: Training, Trust and Control
Conditioning. It can create ritual, trust, connection and powerful associations. It can also teach silence, fear and compliance. And sometimes, nobody intended to condition anyone at all. In this episode of The Kink Compass, we explore how Dominants and submissives condition each other, the...
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The BDSM Olympics - Humour Episode
Welcome to the BDSM Olympics. Rope untangling. Toy bag excavation. Maintaining Dominance during unexpected cramp. Synchronised aftercare snack retrieval. And, of course, the prestigious Getting Up From The Floor Without Making A Noise. Some parts of BDSM deserve to be taken very seriously....
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Reparations
What happens after we hurt someone? Saying sorry matters. But an apology doesn't undo harm, restore trust, or guarantee forgiveness. And inside BDSM, where negotiated power is part of the relationship, repair can become even more complicated. In this episode of The Kink Compass, we explore…
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The Journey: Becoming Part of the Community
You walked through the door. Now, months later, someone knows your name. In the final episode of The Journey, we explore what happens when the unfamiliar becomes familiar: finding your place, gaining experience, welcoming newcomers, sharing what you've learned, and perhaps one day becoming the...
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The Journey: I Thought I'd Feel Different
The scene is over. So... how are you supposed to feel now? In this episode of The Journey, we explore what happens afterwards: sub drop, Dom and Top drop, unexpected emotions, reflection, aftercare, talking things through, and why not every difficult feeling needs a label. You might feel...
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The Journey: Your First Scene
You've talked. You've negotiated. And now... You're actually doing this. In this episode of The Journey, we step into your first BDSM scene: excitement, nerves, safewords, checking in, things going wrong, aftercare, and the discovery that reality rarely looks quite like fantasy. Because your…
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The Journey: Your First Negotiation
You've met someone. You know what you're curious about. Now comes the terrifying part... Actually telling them. In this episode of The Journey, we explore the first negotiation: wants, boundaries, curiosity, saying no, saying “I don't know,” and why awkward conversations can be some of the most...
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The Journey: Finding Your Compass
You don’t have to like everything. You don’t have to collect labels, tick boxes, or somehow become “kinky enough.” In this episode of The Journey, we turn inward and start asking a different question: What do you actually want? We talk about exploration, curiosity, changing preferences, fantasy...
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The Journey: Your First Event
Walking into your first kink event can feel like stepping into another world. There’s equipment you’ve only seen in pictures. People actually playing. Sounds you weren’t expecting. Rules you’re trying desperately to remember. And then someone offers you cake. In this episode of The Journey, we…
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The Kink Compass is one year old!
One year. Fifty-one Sundays out of fifty-two. More conversations about kink, relationships, community, consent, pain, pleasure, mistakes, growth and occasionally sheep than I ever imagined when I pressed publish for the first time. So this bonus episode isn't about teaching anything. It's about...
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The Journey: The Scariest Coffee You'll Ever Drink
Your first munch can feel far scarier than your first scene ever will. You park outside. Sit in the car. Wonder whether everyone inside already knows each other. Whether they'll know you're new. Whether you'll say the wrong thing. Then you open the door. In this episode of The Journey, we follow...
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The Journey: Falling Down The Rabbit Hole
Every journey begins with curiosity. One question becomes another. One article becomes twenty browser tabs. New words appear everywhere, and before long you realise you've discovered far more than a new hobby. You've stumbled into an entire world. But then something unexpected happens. The…
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The Journey: So... Kink is real?
There wasn't supposed to be a journey. You were just browsing. Maybe it was a Reddit thread. A YouTube recommendation. A podcast. A documentary. Or a question you'd never dared type into a search engine before. In the first episode of The Journey, we explore the moment everything changes. The...
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The Journey: Session 0
Every journey has a beginning. In tabletop roleplaying games, a Session 0 is where everyone gathers before the adventure begins to discover the world they're about to enter. This is ours. Before we take our first steps into The Journey, let's meet our traveller and discover why they have no name,...
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Skin Care
Healthy skin heals remarkably well. Healthy kink begins long before the first strike and continues long after the last one. In this season finale, we explore the practical side of looking after skin before, during and after a scene, why small injuries deserve respect, and how good aftercare is...
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Doll Play
Doll play is often misunderstood. From the outside it can look like objectification, but for many people it's something far more nuanced. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind doll play, the trust it requires, why stillness can feel surprisingly powerful, and how communication and...
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Reality Always Gets A Vote
No scene ever unfolds exactly as planned. The doorbell rings. A rope slips. Someone starts laughing. The neighbour knocks. Reality has a habit of interrupting even our most carefully crafted moments. In this episode, we explore why adaptability is one of the most underrated skills in kink.…
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Kink in the Wild
Outdoor kink offers possibilities you simply can't recreate indoors. Beautiful locations, fresh air, adventure and memories that last a lifetime. It also comes with mosquitoes, curious dog walkers, unexpected police officers, changing weather and the occasional reminder that reality doesn't…
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False Masters Final Episode: The People Worth Finding
After several weeks exploring manipulation, unhealthy authority, coercion, dependency, and the misuse of trust, False Masters comes to an end with a very different question: What does healthy power actually look like? In this final episode, Chris reflects on more than three decades in the kink...
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False Masters: When Community Becomes Identity
We all want to belong. But what happens when the place that helped you become yourself becomes too important to question? In this bonus episode of False Masters, Chris explores community, identity, inner circles, loyalty, and the difference between belonging and dependence. Because healthy...
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False Masters, bonus, Sex, Spirituality, and Manipulation
Sex and spirituality have long been connected. Both can involve vulnerability, trust, transcendence, altered states, and a search for meaning beyond everyday life. In this bonus episode of False Masters, we explore why the combination can be so powerful, and why it can also be so easily abused....
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False Masters, The Grift
Most grifters don't begin with a lie. They begin with a truth. A real problem, a real pain, a real desire for connection, belonging, healing, or growth. In this episode of False Masters, we explore how charismatic leaders, communities, and systems can use genuine needs as the foundation for...
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False Masters Bonus Episode: The Aesthetics of Authority
Why do collars, uniforms, titles, rituals, and symbols feel so powerful? Why can a simple gesture change the emotional atmosphere of a room? In this bonus episode of False Masters, we explore the psychology behind the aesthetics of authority. Not to condemn them, because many of us genuinely love...
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False Masters: Good Girls, Loyal Boys, and Useful Pets
What happens when belonging becomes identity? And what happens when identity becomes something a community can control? In this episode of False Masters, Chris explores how manipulative groups slowly reshape the way people see themselves. Not through threats or force, but through approval,...
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False Masters, bonus episode: The Savior Dominant
Sometimes we get tired. Tired of carrying old wounds. Tired of uncertainty. Tired of trying to figure everything out alone. And when someone arrives who seems to have answers, who understands us, who offers guidance and certainty, the relief can feel extraordinary. But where is the line between...
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False Masters: The Velvet Trap
Some people make us feel safe. Some people make us feel understood. And some people make us feel as though they already know the answers to questions we're still struggling to ask. In Part 2 of the False Masters series, Chris explores the seductive pull of certainty, the psychology of authority,...
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False Masters, Bonus Episode: Finally Being Seen
What does it feel like to finally be understood? In this bonus episode of False Masters, Chris explores one of the most powerful human experiences: being seen. Why does belonging feel so intoxicating? Why does understanding matter so much? And why do manipulative communities so often begin by...
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False Masters: The Seduction of Belonging
You find a kink community. People are warm. Open. Understanding. For the first time in a long time, you feel seen instead of judged. Safe instead of ashamed. Like you may finally have found your people. And then, slowly, something begins to feel off. In the first episode of False Masters, Chris...
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Bonus Episode: Pervert
It's been weeks since the last bonus episode, so here's a quick one on the word "pervert". Where does the word come from, what does it mean, and how should we reclaim it if we want to? You can find the script on Patreon
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Cruelty vs Carelessness
This week on The Kink Compass, we step into one of the more uncomfortable, and important, conversations in kink: The difference between cruelty and carelessness. What separates attentive sadism from ego-driven intensity? Why do some people mistake escalation for skill? And what does good sadism...
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Hands On D/s
This week on The Kink Compass, we continue the Hands On series with an episode focused on D/s. Not as performance, but as interaction, attention, structure, and emotional weight. Through a series of practical exercises, we explore pauses, rituals, observation, authority, communication, and the...
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The Craft of Kink: Texture & Contrast
Sometimes the moments that stay with us in kink are not the hardest ones. They are the soft hand after impact. The silence after noise. The unexpected kindness after control. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores texture, contrast, atmosphere, and the strange ways small changes can...
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Hands On: Impact Play - Advanced Control & Expression
In this Hands On episode, we move beyond the basics of impact play and into what actually shapes the experience. Not just how to strike, but how to control, pace, and choose. Because impact isn’t defined by force. It’s defined by timing, restraint, and what happens between the strikes. You can…
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Easing Into: Power Exchange and Moving Beyond the Basics
At some point, kink stops being just something you do, and starts becoming something that matters. In this episode, we explore what happens in that shift. When scenes turn into connection, and connection begins to form a dynamic. Chris walks you through how to ease into power exchange without...
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Hands On: Understanding Impact Tools
What does a flogger actually do? How is it different from a paddle, a cane, or even your own hand? In this Hands On episode, we slow things down and look at impact tools from the ground up. How they work, how they feel, and how they shape the dynamic between you and your partner. With simple...
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Hands On: Receiving Impact. Breath, Presence, and Letting Go
Receiving impact isn’t passive. In this episode of Hands On, we shift perspective and explore the skill of being on the receiving side, through breath, awareness, and presence. With guided exercises, you’ll learn how to stay connected inside sensation, communicate from within the moment, and move...
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Hands On: Impact Play. Control, Precision, and Presence
This is where we get practical. In the first episode of the Hands On series, we move from theory into practice with impact play, focusing on control, precision, and presence. Through simple, repeatable exercises, you’ll learn how to build accuracy, develop rhythm, and create more intentional...
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Trust, And The Risk Of Letting Someone Matter
At some point, something shifts. What started as curiosity becomes connection. And suddenly, they matter. In this episode, Chris explores trust not just as safety, but as emotional exposure, and the quiet risk that appears when you let someone matter. Because even when everything is consensual,...
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Living with Depression in Kink
This is a bonus episode where I tell my story on how I live with depression, and kink. I hope it helps both others who struggle, and those who love them. I repeat several times in the episode that Kink Is Not Therapy, so if you are struggling please seek professional help. It is not as scary as…
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The Experience Gap
What happens when one person is new to kink, and the other has years of experience? The experience gap can feel exciting, grounding, and full of possibility, but it can also bring uncertainty, pressure, and subtle power dynamics that aren’t always easy to see. In this episode of The Kink Compass,...
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Presence and Attention
In this episode Chris tries to unlock the secret to magnetic connections. Attention is the real kink. Learn to be fully present, transforming scenes into experiences that resonate deeply. Discover practical ways to elevate your connection.
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Emotional Currents: Jealousy or The Fear of Not Being Chosen
Jealousy has a reputation for being ugly, but the internal experience is often far more vulnerable than that. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores what jealousy actually feels like, why kink dynamics can amplify it, and why the emotion often has less to do with distrust and more to...
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The Grey Zone Before No
Consent is often imagined as a clear yes or no. But many real interactions unfold in the grey space before a boundary is spoken aloud. In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores how subtle pressure, persistent escalation, and nervous system responses can quietly shift the burden of...
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The Craft of Kink: Endurance and Flow
Most scenes in kink stumble: A wobble, a missed beat, a drop in rhythm. But here’s the secret: Flow isn’t about perfection, it’s about how we repair when things go wrong. In this milestone episode of The Kink Compass, Chris dives deep into the human nature of endurance and flow, revealing why...
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When Power Becomes Authority.
Power exists in kink spaces. In scenes, in relationships, and sometimes in communities themselves. In this bonus episode, Chris explores how influence, leadership, and authority can form inside kink communities, and how healthy spaces keep power accountable. Not about accusing anyone, but about...
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You Are Allowed To Want
When people first discover a desire that excites them, the next thought is often: What does that say about me? This bonus episode explores the shame many people carry around pleasure, and why wanting does not make you lesser.
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Easing Into Roleplay
Roleplay is something many kinky people are curious about, and many find surprisingly vulnerable when they first try it. That moment where you know what you want to do… and suddenly don’t know how to begin. In this episode of The Kink Compass, we explore how to ease into roleplay in ways that…
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Loneliness in Kink
Loneliness is something many people experience in kink but very few talk about openly. In this deeply personal episode, Chris shares his own experiences of loneliness in the community, inside dynamics, and after connection ends, exploring why loneliness can affect both newcomers and seasoned...
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The Path to Growth: Rethinking Legitimacy in Kink Spaces
In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores how societal scripts about power, gender, and maturity influence our perceptions of readiness and legitimacy within kink communities. We reflect on how to foster safer, more supportive environments for everyone to learn, grow, and practice power...
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A Kinky Valentine's Day
A Kinky Valentine’s without the pressure. This bonus episode is an invitation to celebrate connection with intention, whether that means ritual, rest, power exchange, or simply choosing presence. No scripts. No performance. Just deliberate care.
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Navigate your desires with confidence, curiosity, and consent. Hosted by Chris, The Kink Compass is your weekly guide to BDSM and kink — from negotiation and safety to play ideas and power dynamics. Whether you’re new, experienced, or curious, each judgment-free episode explores the practices, psychology, and connections that make kink powerful. New episodes every Sunday at 12 PM CET.You can follow Chris on Fetlife, where he is found under his nick Tittan
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Navigate your desires with confidence, curiosity, and consent. Hosted by Chris, The Kink Compass is your weekly guide to BDSM and kink — from negotiation and safety to play ideas and power dynamics. Whether you’re new, experienced, or curious, each judgment-free episode explores the practices,...
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