The Men's Podcast

Welcome back to the podcast, men!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--

Welcome back to the podcast!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--

Welcome back to the podcast, men!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--

Welcome back to the podcast, men!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--NAVIGATING THE DATING JUNGLE: WISDOM FOR CHRISTIAN PARENTSDating isn't a topic with a straightforward "blueprint" in the Bible. While Scripture doesn't provide a direct manual for modern dating or courtship, it offers timeless wisdom that can guide parents as they lead their children through these formative years. In this episode, Pastor John is joined by Braun Khan and Michael Pate to discuss how to approach the dating conversation with humility, flexibility, and a focus on the heart.Principles Over DogmatismOne of the greatest risks for Christian parents is becoming overly dogmatic or heavy-handed. Whether influenced by past cultural movements like I Kissed Dating Goodbye or personal anxieties, a "forced compliance" model rarely reaches a child's heart. Instead, the goal is to provide guiding principles that help children honor God while maintaining open lines of communication.Setting the Foundation EarlyConversations about relationships should begin long before a romantic interest is on the radar.The "Passport to Purity" Approach: Many parents find success using intentional programs around age 12 to discuss purity and peer pressure before the pressure of high school begins.The "Brother/Sister" Rule: 1 Timothy 5:2 encourages us to treat younger women as sisters with absolute purity. This frames every potential date not as an object of affection, but as someone else's future spouse who deserves respect and protection.Practical BoundariesWhile every home is different, the common thread among these fathers was a preference for group settings over one-on-one dating during the high school years.Group Dating: Encouraging "dates" to happen in the context of friend groups or school dances to provide natural accountability.The Purpose of Dating: Helping children understand that the biblical purpose of dating is to investigate a potential marriage partner. If they aren't in a season where marriage is a possibility, "pumping the brakes" prevents emotional baggage and "catastrophic mistakes".Trusting the ProcessUltimately, parents are like warriors launching arrows; once the fletching is set and the arrow is released into adulthood, parents must rely on the Holy Spirit to continue the work in their children's hearts. Even when kids make mistakes or face heartbreak, these moments serve as opportunities for them to lean into their own relationship with Jesus.

Welcome back to the podcast! Philippians 4 gives us great instruction on how to deal with anxiety, but there is much more to the passage than that. We see calls for perseverance, reconciliation, and contentment. If we’re tempted to think, “That’s easy for Paul to say.”, remember, he wrote this from prison. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--Notes

Welcome back to the podcast! The Sermon on the Mount isn’t just a calling for the religious elite. It’s an exhortation for all of Jesus’ followers. When we approach him, we must recognize our need for him. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--

Welcome back to the podcast! The Bible has always declared the heavens and the earth had a beginning. God is the transcendent Creator who has eternally existed and exists outside of his creation. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--

Welcome back to the podcast, men!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--You Need a Do-Over (John 3)Some passages of Scripture are so familiar that we can miss how shocking they really are. For many Christians, phrases like “born again” or verses like John 3:16 feel normal because we’ve heard them countless times. But when Jesus first spoke these words, they were revolutionary. They challenged deeply held assumptions about religion, identity, and how someone could truly know God.In John 3, we meet a man named Nicodemus. He was not a skeptic or an outsider to religion. In fact, he was the opposite. Nicodemus was a Pharisee and a member of the ruling Jewish council known as the Sanhedrin. He was educated, respected, and deeply committed to the Law of Moses. If anyone looked qualified for God’s kingdom from a human perspective, it would have been Nicodemus.Yet when Nicodemus came to Jesus, he discovered that even the most religious person needs something radical: a spiritual rebirth.Seeking Truth in the DarkJohn tells us that Nicodemus came to see Jesus at night.John 3:1–2 (NLT) “There was a man named Nicodemus, a Jewish religious leader who was a Pharisee. After dark one evening, he came to speak with Jesus. ‘Rabbi,’ he said, ‘we all know that God has sent you to teach us. Your miraculous signs are evidence that God is with you.’”Many people assume Nicodemus came at night because he was afraid of what the other Pharisees might think. That may be part of the story. Later in John 7, Nicodemus shows hesitation when defending Jesus before the other leaders, suggesting he may have struggled with fear of their opinions.But another possibility is simpler: Jesus was constantly surrounded by crowds. Night may have been the only time Nicodemus could have a real conversation with Him.Whatever the reason, one thing is clear: Nicodemus was searching for truth. Unlike many religious leaders who accused Jesus of performing miracles by the power of the devil, Nicodemus acknowledged that Jesus’ signs pointed to God’s work.Still, Nicodemus was about to learn that recognizing Jesus as a teacher wasn’t enough.Religion Isn’t Enough — We Need New LifeWithout even waiting for Nicodemus to ask a question, Jesus went straight to the heart of the issue.John 3:3 (NLT) “I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the Kingdom of God.”This must have been shocking. Nicodemus believed that being born Jewish and faithfully following the Law put him in a good position with God. If anyone was ready for God’s kingdom, surely it was someone like him.But Jesus says something radically different: you don’t need improvement—you need rebirth.The phrase “born again” can also mean “born from above.” The idea is a complete spiritual restart. Our problem isn’t that we just need to clean up our behavior. Our problem runs deeper—we are spiritually broken and need new life that only God can give.Confused, Nicodemus asked how this could possibly happen.John 3:4 (NLT) “What do you mean?” exclaimed Nicodemus. “How can an old man go back into his mother’s womb and be born again?”Nicodemus took Jesus’ words literally, but Jesus was describing spiritual transformation. A person must be “born of water and the Spirit,” pointing to the cleansing and renewal promised in the Old Testament.Ezekiel 36:25–27 (NLT) “Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean… And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you.”Jesus wasn’t introducing a brand-new idea. He was revealing the fulfillment of God’s promise to cleanse His people and give them new hearts through His Spirit.God’s Love Made the Rescue PossibleLater in the conversation, Jesus explained how this new life would become possible.John 3:13–15 (NLT) “No one has ever gone to heaven and returned. But the Son of Man has come down from heaven. And as Moses lifted up the bronze snake on a pole in the wilderness, so the Son of Man must be lifted up, so that everyone who believes in him will have eternal life.”Jesus referenced a story from Numbers 21. When the Israelites were bitten by poisonous snakes, God told Moses to lift up a bronze serpent on a pole. Anyone who looked at it in faith would live.The solution sounded simple—even strange—but it required trust in God’s word.In the same way, Jesus would be lifted up on the cross. Salvation wouldn’t come through human effort or religious performance. It would come through faith in the One God sent.This brings us to the most famous verse in the Bible.John 3:16–17 (NLT) “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him.”God’s motivation was love. Jesus didn’t come primarily to condemn the world, but to rescue it. Through His death and resurrection, He makes it possible for anyone to experience the spiritual rebirth Nicodemus needed—and that we all need.The Same Invitation TodayNicodemus came searching for answers, and Jesus gave him something deeper than information. He gave him an invitation.The truth is that every one of us is more like Nicodemus than we might realize. We may try to clean up our behavior, rely on religion, or assume we’re good enough. But Jesus says the real solution is far greater: a brand-new life from God.Through faith in Jesus, we can experience the do-over our souls truly need.

Welcome back, men! We’ve all heard the phrase, “Familiarity breeds contempt.” The more often we see something, the easier it is to take it for granted. The same can happen with Scripture.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--The Good Shepherd: Rediscovering Psalm 23If you grew up in church, you’ve probably heard Psalm 23 so many times that it almost feels automatic. You may even have it memorized. But God’s Word is alive and active. These aren’t sentimental words for funerals—they are life-giving truth for everyday valleys.Psalm 23 invites us to see something stunning: the Almighty God of the universe is not distant or impersonal. He is our Shepherd.The Lord Is My ShepherdPsalm 23 opens with a deeply personal declaration: “The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need.” Psalm 23:1 (NLT)Notice “Lord” is in all capital letters. This is Yahweh—the covenant name of God. David isn’t talking about a vague higher power. He’s talking about the personal, promise-keeping God of Israel.David knew what a shepherd was because he had been one. When the prophet Samuel came to anoint Israel’s future king, David wasn’t even invited to the ceremony. He was out in the fields tending sheep. He had risked his life to protect them.1 Samuel 17:34–35 (NLT)“But David persisted. ‘I have been taking care of my father’s sheep and goats,’ he said. ‘When a lion or a bear comes to steal a lamb from the flock, I go after it with a club and rescue the lamb from its mouth… I catch it by the jaw and club it to death.’”David understood the fierce love of a shepherd. So when he called God his Shepherd, he meant protector, provider, and guide.Centuries later, Jesus used the same imagery:John 10:11 (NLT)“I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd sacrifices his life for the sheep.”John 10:14–15 (NLT)“I am the good shepherd; I know my own sheep, and they know me… So I sacrifice my life for the sheep.”David risked his life for sheep. Jesus gave His life for us. That’s the difference between a good shepherd and the Good Shepherd.Entering His Rest“I have all that I need.” Psalm 23:1 (NLT)We may not have all that we want, but in Christ we have everything we need. From an eternal perspective, what do we truly need? Forgiveness of sins. Righteousness before a holy God. Access to His kingdom. Jesus provides all of it.“He lets me rest in green meadows.” Psalm 23:2 (NLT)The image is nourishment and peace. Sheep only lie down when they feel safe. The Shepherd provides security so they can rest.Hebrews 4:9–11 (NLT)“So there is a special rest still waiting for the people of God… For all who have entered into God’s rest have rested from their labors… So let us do our best to enter that rest.”We rest in the finished work of Jesus. The Christian life is not passive—we work hard, we endure trials—but we no longer strive to earn God’s approval. While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. The pressure to prove ourselves is replaced by peace.“He leads me beside peaceful streams.” Psalm 23:2 (NLT)Water is life in the desert. Jesus satisfies the deepest thirst of our souls.Through the Darkest Valley“Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me.” Psalm 23:4 (NLT)Notice David says “when,” not “if.” Suffering is part of the journey.Jesus was honest about that.John 16:33 (NLT)“Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”If David was walking through the valley, it’s because the Shepherd led him there. A good shepherd doesn’t lose track of his sheep. Sometimes the route to green pastures goes through dark ravines. The Shepherd knows what lies on the other side.Romans 8:18 (NLT)“What we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later.”If you’re in a valley, it’s not an accident. God is not unaware. He is leading, even there.Protective, Not Restrictive“Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me.” Psalm 23:4 (NLT)The rod was used to defend against predators. The staff was used to guide wandering sheep. Both represent care.God’s boundaries are not restrictive; they are protective. David understood this well:Psalm 19:7–8 (NLT)“The instructions of the Lord are perfect, reviving the soul… The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart.”God’s Word revives, warns, and rewards. His commands are sweeter than honey and more valuable than gold. The Shepherd’s discipline and direction are evidence of His love.A Feast in the Valley“You prepare a feast for me in the presence of my enemies.” Psalm 23:5 (NLT)The enemies haven’t disappeared. The valley hasn’t vanished. Yet there is a banquet.God doesn’t always remove the threat; sometimes He sustains us right in front of it. One day we will join the ultimate feast, when sin and death are gone forever. But even now, He provides abundantly.“Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life.” Psalm 23:6 (NLT)Like a shepherd chasing after wandering sheep, God pursues us with goodness and mercy. And the psalm ends with hope that stretches beyond this life:“And I will live in the house of the Lord forever.” Psalm 23:6 (NLT)Jesus said He is preparing a place for us in His Father’s house. Our Shepherd not only walks with us now—He secures our forever.Psalm 23 is not sentimental poetry. It is a declaration of reality. The Lord is our Shepherd. In green pastures and dark valleys alike, He is enough.

Welcome back to the podcast, men! What does it really mean to be a provider?--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--Physical Needs are the StartBeing a Biblical provider is not limited to putting a roof over your family’s head and food on the table, but it certainly includes that.1 Timothy 5:8 But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.Just did a whole series on work and the fact that work is good. God created us to work. Not going to go back and dig into those specifics. You can go back and review those episodes.You should be the hardest working member of your household. I didn’t necessarily say you should be the primary breadwinner. I think you should be a breadwinner, but If you and your wife both work and she makes more than you, you shouldn’t carry around shame. I think the church in America has laid a lot of unnecessary guilt on both men and women in this regard. Read Proverbs 31. That was a wife who definitely contributed financially to the household and she’s praised for it. I know it was primarily an agricultural economy then, there wasn’t a lot of surplus, but I don’t think we should just throw that away in our current services and data centered economy.I know some couples who are very good stewards with the resources God has given them. They don’t spend lavishly. They’re generous, and they need two incomes to make ends meet. And there are other couples who could get by on one income, but choose not to because of their lifestyle.Affirm, Encourage, Correct As husbands and fathers we’re called to provide encouragement, affirmation, and correction to our wives and children.Difference between Affirmation and EncouragementAffirmationMatthew 3:16-17 After Jesus was baptized, He went up immediately from the water. The heavens suddenly opened for Him,[i] and He saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and coming down on Him. 17 And there came a voice from heaven: This is My beloved Son. I take delight in Him!Matthew 17:5-6 But even as he spoke, a bright cloud overshadowed them, and a voice from the cloud said, “This is my dearly loved Son, who brings me great joy. Listen to him.” 6 The disciples were terrified and fell face down on the ground.Encouragement1 Thessalonians 5:11 So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.1 Corinthians 9:24-27 Don’t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win! 25 All athletes are disciplined in their training. They do it to win a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize. 26 So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing. 27 I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified.CorrectionProverbs 15:5 Only a fool despises a parent’s[a] discipline; whoever learns from correction is wise.Proverbs 17:10 A single rebuke does more for a person of understanding than a hundred lashes on the back of a fool.Sure, John, why don’t you try correcting my wife and see how that goes. Does she trust you? Does she know you want the best for her? Some of that may be on her and I pray that other Godly women speak into her life. I pray that her pastor or other spiritual leaders can speak into her life.You need to be willing to receive correction from her. She’s your helpmate. She sees the blindspots most others won’t see.Talk the Talk and Walk the Walk We are called to create an environment where Gospel conversations are normal and the Gospel is modeled in our lifestyle. We are called to create an environment in our home where it is safe for our children to ask questions and be honest about doubts.2 Timothy 2:2 You have heard me teach things that have been confirmed by many reliable witnesses. Now teach these truths to other trustworthy people who will be able to pass them on to others.Are you connecting the hot buttons of today to the Gospel? Are you using tools like PG to have Bible based conversations on issues like pre-marital sex, drug use, suicide, homosexuality, transgenderism

Welcome back to the podcast, men! Today, we’re in our sixth episode of this, “Work as Unto the Lord” series. We’ve been looking to God’s Word to learn what that looks like practically. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--The Gospel is a New CompassAs followers of Jesus, the Gospel doesn’t just change our eternity. It changes everything for us, including our work. Colossians 3:23 Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.Those who take this Biblical directive seriously will seek the respect of their colleagues for the quality and integrity of their work. This means having a track record of saying what we mean and doing what we say, following through on commitments every time, whether formal or informal, and being transparent and fair minded. Many business ethics courses and books subtly argue that paying attention to the bottom line will force ethical and honest decisions in the long run. If you’re dishonest, it will hurt your reputation, which will lead to lower profits. Won’t there at least be some situations where the short term gains of an ethically questionable act will outweigh the risk? Proverbs 11:1 The Lord detests the use of dishonest scales, but he delights in accurate weights.Proverbs 11:11 Upright citizens are good for a city and make it prosper, but the talk of the wicked tears it apart.We are to be honest, compassionate, and generous, not because these things are rewarding,(which they usually are), but because they are right in and of themselves - to do so honors the will of God and his design for human life. Sometimes that will put us at a disadvantage, as Bible scholar Bruce Waltke points out, the Bible says the definition of righteous people is that they disadvantage themselves to advantage others, while the wicked are willing to disadvantage the community to advantage themselves. Work hard for the sake of working hard, not chasing. Not chasing wealth, power, validation, or significance The Gospel Gives Us a Different View of HumanityKnowing that all men are created in the image of God changes the way we view those in authority over us and those who work for us. Ephesians 6:5-9 Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ. 6 Try to please them all the time, not just when they are watching you. As slaves of Christ, do the will of God with all your heart. 7 Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. 8 Remember that the Lord will reward each one of us for the good we do, whether we are slaves or free. 9 Masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Don’t threaten them; remember, you both have the same Master in heaven, and he has no favorites.If slave owners are told they must not manage their workers in pride and through fear, how much more should this be true of employers. If slaves are told it’s possible to find satisfaction and meaning in their work, how much more should this be true of workers today? Employees - serve with deep respect and fear, serve them sincerely as you would ChristA different view of humanityAre relationships a means to the end of accruing power, wealth, and comfort? Or is wealth creation a means to serve the end goal of loving others? One goes against the grain of the universe made by a triune God, and therefore it can not honor him or lead to human flourishing. The other is the paradigm of Christian work. People vs. contacts - what can these contacts do for me? It’s even easy to measure congregants in terms of what they can do for the church in terms of service or finances. Treating people with dignity in the midst of a layoff. Sometimes parts do need to be sacrificed for the good of the whole. A Different Guidance and Audience The Gospel gives us a new audience and new guidance. The Holy Spirit directs our choices and empowers us to work in a way that honors God.A different source of guidance - wisdom is more than just obeying God’s ethical norms, it is knowing the right thing to do in the 80 percent of life’s decisions in which the moral rules don’t provide the clear answer. When God’s gracious love becomes not an abstract doctrine but a living reality, it means our heart is less controlled by anxiety and pride, two powerful forces that constantly lead us to unwisely over or under react to situations. Second, we must know ourselves. Many bad decisions stem from an inability to know what we are and are not capable of accomplishing. The Gospel keeps us from over or underestimating our own abilities because it shows us both our sin and God’s love for us in Christ. Matthew 6:25-27 That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? 27 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?31 So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. 33 Seek the Kingdom of God[e] above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Welcome back to the pod!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--HOW A BIBLICAL WORLDVIEW IMPACTS OUR WORKWork takes up a massive portion of our lives. For most of us, it shapes our schedules, our identities, and often our sense of worth. That’s why Scripture has so much to say about it. The Bible doesn’t treat work as a necessary evil or a purely secular task. Instead, it invites us to see work through the lens of worship, purpose, and redemption. When our worldview is shaped by the gospel, it transforms not only why we work, but how we work.One of the first ways work exposes our hearts is by revealing our idols. An idol isn’t just a statue or a false god—it’s anything we elevate above God or rely on to meet needs only He can fulfill. Work becomes an idol when it takes priority over obedience to God or becomes our source of identity, security, or meaning.Exodus 20:4–5 (NLT) says, “You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind… You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God.” While work is a good gift, good things often become the sneakiest idols. We justify them because they seem productive, responsible, or even virtuous. But when work dominates our thoughts, defines our value, or replaces trust in God’s provision, it has crossed a line.Jesus speaks directly to this tension in Matthew 6:31–34 (NLT). “So don’t worry about these things… These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs.” The issue isn’t thinking about work or provision—it’s what dominates our hearts. Scripture never calls us to escape the physical world. Ecclesiastes reminds us that enjoyment and satisfaction in work are gifts from God. But those gifts are meant to point us back to Him, not replace Him.The gospel reshapes how we see work by reshaping our worldview. Every worldview answers three core questions: How are things supposed to be? What went wrong? And how can it be fixed? The biblical worldview uniquely answers all three relationally. We were created for relationship with God. Sin broke that relationship. And grace restores it through Jesus.That framework changes everything about work. As Tim Keller explains, Christianity doesn’t locate the problem of the world in a specific group, system, or occupation—it locates it in sin itself. That means no job is inherently evil, and no field is beyond hope. God created the world good. Sin affected all of it. And God intends to redeem all of it.Romans 8:19–22 (NLT) describes creation itself groaning for redemption. Our work exists inside that story. We labor in a broken world, but not a hopeless one. Even now, God is at work restoring what sin has damaged, and He invites us to participate.That’s why believers shouldn’t compartmentalize work as separate from their faith. Work isn’t just something we do Monday through Friday while faith is reserved for Sunday. Ecclesiastes 9:10 (NLT) says, “Whatever you do, do well.” Excellence honors God—not because it earns His favor, but because it reflects His character.God often provides for people through the work of others. Farmers grow food. Builders create shelter. Teachers shape minds. This is true whether the worker is a believer or not. That reality should deepen our respect for all work, not just “ministry” roles.1 Peter 4:10–11 (NLT) reminds us that every gift is meant to serve others and bring glory to God. Whether we speak, build, design, manage, or serve, our work becomes worship when it’s done in dependence on God’s strength and for His glory.A biblical worldview doesn’t minimize work or idolize it. Instead, it integrates work into God’s bigger story—creation, fall, redemption, and restoration. When we work as unto the Lord, we find freedom from idols, dignity in our labor, and hope that even ordinary work matters in God’s eternal plan.

Welcome back to the podcast, men!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now--Working as Unto the Lord – Part 4: Thorns, Thistles, and a Better NameWork is a universal human experience. Whether you love your job, tolerate it, or feel stuck in it, work shapes our schedules, identities, and sense of purpose. In this series, Working as Unto the Lord, we’ve been exploring what the Bible teaches about work—not just as a paycheck or obligation, but as something deeply connected to God’s design for humanity. In this fourth lesson, we face an honest truth: work is good, but it is also deeply frustrating. And that tension is not accidental.From the beginning, work was part of God’s good creation. Adam was given responsibility in the garden before sin ever entered the world. Work itself is not the curse. But because of the fall, work no longer functions the way it was originally intended. What was meant to be joyful and productive is now marked by struggle, disappointment, and exhaustion.Genesis 3:17–19 (NLT) describes this reality clearly. God tells Adam that the ground itself is cursed because of sin. Humanity will now scrape a living from the earth “by the sweat of your brow,” battling thorns and thistles along the way. Gardening becomes a picture of all human labor. No matter the field—business, education, medicine, manufacturing, or ministry—our work will include resistance, setbacks, and frustration. Even when it produces fruit, it rarely delivers the deep fulfillment we hope for.This explains why work often feels discouraging. If every project succeeded, every relationship at work was healthy, and every effort paid off, we would love going to work every day. But that is not our reality. Because sin has distorted creation, work exists in a world sustained by God yet disordered by sin. This does not mean work is meaningless—but it does mean it is incomplete.Ecclesiastes helps us live wisely in this tension. Ecclesiastes 2:24 (NLT) says, “There is nothing better than to enjoy food and drink and to find satisfaction in work. Then I realized that these pleasures are from the hand of God.” Work is still a gift, even when it’s frustrating. It teaches dependence on God and stirs our longing for the new heaven and new earth, where work will finally be free from futility.Ecclesiastes 3:13 reinforces this truth: “People should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.” Satisfaction doesn’t come from perfect productivity but from receiving work as a gift rather than a god. God uses our work not only to provide but also to shape us—producing patience, faithfulness, self-control, and humility.However, work becomes deeply discouraging when we expect it to give us ultimate meaning. Ecclesiastes 2:18–22 exposes the emptiness of working only for temporary and material gain. Everything we build will eventually be handed off to someone else, and we have no control over how it will be stewarded. When work is viewed only “under the sun,” it is fleeting—like vapor. It cannot secure our future hope or lasting joy.Work also becomes dangerous when it turns inward. Genesis 11:1–4 tells the story of the Tower of Babel, where people worked together not to serve God or others, but to “make a name for ourselves.” In biblical language, making a name means constructing an identity. This temptation is especially strong when we tie our worth to our careers. Instead of serving our neighbor, work becomes a way to prove we matter.But Scripture offers a better name. 1 John 3:1 (NLT) declares, “See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!” Our identity is not earned through productivity or success. It is received by grace. We are sons and daughters of God, even on our worst days.Esther 4:14 reminds us that God places us where we are for a purpose greater than ourselves. The question is not whether our work will make us famous, but whether we will use it to serve God’s interests rather than our own.Work will always involve thorns and thistles in this life. But when done unto the Lord, it becomes a place of worship, service, and hope—pointing us toward the day when work will finally be everything it was meant to be.

Welcome back to the pod, men!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Living with an Attitude of Gratitude1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 (NLT) – “Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”Gratitude is more than a feel-good idea—it’s a spiritual discipline that shapes our bodies, minds, and souls. Scripture teaches that cultivating a thankful heart honors God, but modern research now confirms what the Bible has been telling us for thousands of years: gratitude is good for you. It brings peace, lowers stress, and reorients your focus away from what’s broken toward what’s true and unshakeable.And yet the Bible doesn’t command us to give thanks for all circumstances—but to give thanks in them. That distinction is everything. We don’t thank God for cancer, betrayal, loss, or heartbreak. Those things grieve God too. But we can thank Him in those moments because there are eternal truths that cannot be taken from us, no matter what life looks like.This study explores why gratitude matters, how it forms us, and what unchanging realities we can cling to when life feels anything but good. Whether you’re on the mountain or in the valley, God invites you into a life anchored by His goodness, His love, and His unshakable promises.1. Gratitude Is Good for YouProverbs 14:30 teaches, “A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body.” Long before scientific journals existed, Scripture connected internal peace with physical well-being. Gratitude activates your parasympathetic nervous system, lowers blood pressure, improves sleep, and calms anxiety. A grateful heart is a peaceful heart—and peace is the opposite of jealousy, envy, and comparison. Gratitude fuels contentment; envy corrodes the soul.Colossians 3:15 links peace and thankfulness: “Let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts… And always be thankful.” Gratitude is not a soft discipline—it’s a spiritual weapon against the corrosive forces of comparison, entitlement, and discontent.2. Give Thanks in All CircumstancesPaul’s command is famously difficult: “Give thanks in all circumstances.” Not for everything—but in everything. You don’t have to pretend evil is good or suffering is pleasant. You simply anchor your thankfulness in what remains true even when life falls apart.We avoid the comparison trap not by saying, “At least I’m not as bad off as someone else,” but by remembering that God is sovereign, present, and working all things together for good. Gratitude is rooted in God’s character, not in our circumstances.3. Thank God for the Eternal Truths Nothing Can TouchTo be thankful in all circumstances, you must cling to what can never be taken from you. Scripture gives us several unchanging realities:• You are made in God’s image.Genesis 1:26–27 declares your inherent worth. You reflect your Creator. Your life matters.• You are fearfully and wonderfully made.Psalm 139:13–14 shows that God crafted you with intention. Your existence is purposeful and precious.• God’s thoughts about you are countless and precious.Psalm 139:17–18 says His thoughts toward you outnumber grains of sand. God is mindful of you—not occasionally, but constantly.• God is good, and His love endures forever.Psalm 136 repeats this truth 25 times. No matter what changes, His goodness and love do not.• You have been reconciled to God through Christ.Colossians 1:21–22 says you once stood alienated from God, but now stand holy, blameless, and free from accusation. Through Jesus, your record is wiped clean.• Your suffering is temporary, but glory is eternal.Romans 8:18 promises that present pain doesn’t compare to future glory. Jesus will return to make all things right.These truths hold even when life feels like it’s falling apart. Gratitude doesn’t deny pain—it declares that pain doesn’t get the final word.ConclusionIf you’re in a difficult season and struggling to be thankful, focus on what’s eternally true. Your circumstances may change, but God’s character, His love, and His promises never do. Gratitude grows when we anchor our hearts to what cannot be shaken.

Welcome back to the podcast! How do we glorify God through our everyday labor? Whether you’re in ministry, business, trades, or stay-at-home leadership, Scripture teaches that our work is one of the primary places we honor God. In this episode, we explore three essential marks of working as unto the Lord: gratitude, perspective, and integrity.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Work with a Grateful HeartWorking “unto the Lord” begins with gratitude, not grumbling. Scripture commands us to rejoice, pray, and give thanks in all circumstances—including our 9-to-5.1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NLT) calls us to persistent joy, continual prayer, and an attitude of gratitude. Instead of seeing work only as stress or obligation, faith teaches us to view it as a gift: the ability to earn, provide, and contribute.Paul echoes this in Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT), urging us to bring every work anxiety to God with thanksgiving. Gratitude reshapes stress into trust.Solomon affirms the goodness of labor:Ecclesiastes 3:12-13 (NLT) and 5:18 (NLT) remind us that finding satisfaction in our work is a gift from God.Healthy bodies, steady income, meaningful productivity—these are blessings worth thanking God for every single day.Work Can Become an IdolWork is good, but work can also take God’s place when our ambition exceeds our devotion.Jesus warns us to keep our loves properly ordered: Matthew 6:33 (NLT) calls us to seek God’s kingdom first, not as an afterthought once the job is done.Good seasons can drift into unhealthy patterns. Long hours can slowly redefine identity, priorities, and relationships. Many men don’t notice the shift until someone close to them finally says something. Keeping work in its place begins with honest reflection:Do I chase work more than I chase God?Does my family get what’s left of me—or the best of me?Work with IntegrityWorking unto the Lord requires integrity, not shortcuts or hidden compromises. God takes honesty seriously:Proverbs 11:1 (NLT) — “The Lord detests dishonest scales…”Proverbs 20:23 (NLT) — “The Lord detests differing weights…”God doesn’t just dislike dishonest business practices—He detests them.Integrity means dealing fairly with customers, employers, team members, and vendors. It means no hidden fees, no loopholes, no cutting corners because “everyone else does it.”Jesus rebuked religious leaders for manipulating oaths in Matthew 23:16-17 (NLT), exposing the heart behind deceptive commitments. Today, integrity touches things like expense reports, remote-work honesty, hours logged, pricing transparency, and truthful representation of services.If our work is truly unto the Lord, then our ethics must reflect His character.CloseWorking unto the Lord is a daily posture: gratitude, perspective, and integrity. When we get these right, our work becomes more than a paycheck—it becomes worship.

Welcome back to the podcast, men!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --IntroColossians 3:23-24 Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. 24 Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ. In the immediate context of this verse, Paul is instructing slaves on how they should work for their masters. It is applicable for any working relationship. What does that look like? How do we work as though we were working for the Lord? I’m going to borrow heavily from scripture, but also from Tim Keller’s book, “Every Good Endeavor” The Right Mindset Towards WorkIt’s important that we start with the truth that we were created to work and be productive. Work isn’t a result of the fall.  If work was not beneath the Almighty God of the universe, it shouldn’t be beneath us. Genesis 2:1-3,15 So the creation of the heavens and the earth and everything in them was completed. 2 On the seventh day God had finished his work of creation, so he rested[a] from all his work. 3 And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because it was the day when he rested from all his work of creation.  The Lord God placed the man in the Garden of Eden to tend and watch over it. Keller: The Bible begins talking about work as soon as it begins talking about anything that’s how important and basic it is. God also brought the animals to Adam to be named. From the beginning, God invited man into partnership with him to steward his creation. Keller: God worked for the sheer joy of it.Work could not have a more exalted inauguration. God not only works, he delights in it. He saw all that he made and it was good.  I think of all of us can relate to that when we finish a project and look at it. We take delight in it. Something as simple as changing out the tail light and fixing a battery cable. Work is not a result of the fall, frustrating work is a result of the fall. We were created to work. It’s part of us being made in the image of God. Think about this: the Bible doesn’t say we should work one day and rest 6. It doesn’t even split it 50/50. The pattern was six days of work to one day of rest. How does this stack up to our modern dream of retirement?  Hard Work is GoodThe Bible points out the sin of laziness in multiple places. There is something about hard  work that resonates with a man because we were designed to be productive. Proverbs 10:4-5 Lazy people are soon poor; hard workers get rich. 5 A wise youth harvests in the summer, but one who sleeps during harvest is a disgrace.Proverbs 10:26 Lazy people irritate their employers, like vinegar to the teeth or smoke in the eyes.Proverbs 28:19 A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty.Part of working unto the Lord is doing the best we can.  It’s not taking shortcuts.  It’s giving the same effort when no one is watching as when the boss is looking over our shoulder. 1 Timothy 5:8 But if someone does not provide for his own,[a] especially his own family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.  (NET)Keller - The  commandments  of God in the Bible are a means of liberation, because through them God calls us to be what he built us to be. The Balance of Work and RestAlthough work is good, there is a balance of work and rest.  There is a rhythm of leisure and toil. When balanced  properly, each one enhances the enjoyment of the other. Genesis 2:3 And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because it was the day when he rested from all his work of creation.Did God rest because he was tired? Did he need to recover from fatigue? No. Now, because of sin, we do need restoration and times of recovery. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally because work in a fallen world isn’t always fulfilling. It isn’t always productive.Being created in God’s image we can assume that rest is good and life giving for us in and of itself.

Welcome back to the Men's podcast!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Hey, men.  Today we’re going to talk about receiving criticism from our wives.  If you’re like me, your wife is often the last person that you want to give you criticism. I have pretty thick skin, but I can get all bent out of shape at the slightest criticism from my wife.  I think that’s because there is no one in the world that I want to respect me more than my wife. In Emerson Eggerichs’ book “Love and Respect - the Love She Desires; the Respect He Desperately Needs.”, he points out that what a man desires most from his wife is to feel respected.  It’s hard to feel respected when you’re being criticized.  It’s a knee jerk reaction to feel disrespected when someone points out a shortcoming or a flaw. I know some of you may be in a marriage where your wife’s criticism is anything but constructive.  I pray that God continues to strengthen you to keep fighting for your relationship if that is the case. But for most of us, our wife isn’t criticizing us because she wants to belittle us or tear us down. She genuinely wants the best for us.  There is a difference between helpful criticism and constant nagging.Responding well to healthy criticism from our wives can help us grow as a husband and father.  It demonstrates we’re teachable. This is not the same thing as being emasculated by constant criticism. We should seek to give our wives the benefit of the doubt, but it may also be helpful to call in a trusted spiritual leader for discernment. Proverbs 25:24  It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic  than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.Give your wife the benefit of the doubt.  Treat her criticism as something she is offering because she wants the best for you.  She hopes to motivate you. She wants to see you be the kind of husband and father God has called you to be.. Ask her to be specific. Specific in ways that she sees need for improvement or change - Vague - I don’t feel like a priority any more. Specific - You’re coming home later and when you’re home, we rarely talk.  When you have time off, it is spent on your hobbies. Using “I feel because statements” can be very helpful here. If you do feel like your wife constantly criticizes, call in some help.  Get a spiritual leader or trusted brother and sister in Christ to listen in and give you insight. Don’t turn it into a gripe session. Give your spouse advance notice that you’re going to do this.Honey, it seems like in the majority of our conversations, you’re criticizing me.  I know I’m not perfect, but it’s out of hand. I’m asking for some help because I’m committed to our marriage. I’m committed to you, but it’s wearing me out and I need some help. Keep serving her.  Keep loving her like Christ loves the church. Ultimately, you practice love or respect because beyond your spouse you see Jesus Christ and you envision a moment when you will be standing before Him at the final judgment, realizing that your marriage was really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for your Lord.”― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately NeedsHelp her help you. Give your wife direction on how she can relay constructive criticism in a way that you’re more likely to receive it. The right truth at the right time. Not in front of the kids, not out in public, not when emotions are high. Proverbs 25:11 Timely advice is lovely, like golden apples in a silver basket.Do you need affirmation along with the criticism? The three to one rule.  Is your primary love language words of affirmation?  If it is, a critical word might be ten times heavier for you than for someone who has a different primary love language.  Get clarity on action steps moving forward. Those action steps should be measurable, specific, and realistic Get an accountability partner, aside from your wife, to help you stick to the action steps. You don’t want your wife having to be the one to call you on the carpet if you’re not following through. The wise seek instruction. God blessed us with our wives as our helpmate. He uses marriage to make us more holy and receiving feedback from our wife is part of that process. Proverbs 10:8  The wise are glad to be instructed, but babbling fools fall flat on their faces.Proverbs 11:2  Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.Proverbs 12:1 To learn, you must love discipline;  it is stupid to hate correction.Proverbs 13:13 People who despise advice are asking for trouble;  those who respect a command will succeed.Proverbs 13:18 If you ignore criticism, you will end in poverty and disgrace;  if you accept correction, you will be honored.Thank God for a wife that wants you to lead. Thank God for a wife that desires to see you be more like Jesus. That is a blessing, not a burden. This shift in how you view your wife’s feedback will make a huge difference in how you receive it. She sees the real you. She sees the you when you’re tired, when you’re stressed, when you’re hungry (or hangry). She sees the you that deals with disappointment. If you wonder why others don’t have the same feedback, they don’t see what she sees. Driving in traffic example, critical nature when my kids played spots - most people never saw that, but my wife sure did.

Welcome back to the podcast! Have you ever prayed and felt like your words were just bouncing off the ceiling? Maybe you’ve been praying for healing, provision, or direction — something that seems completely in line with God’s will — and yet nothing happens. You start to wonder: Is God even listening?--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Why Is God Not Answering My Prayer?The Bible reminds us that unanswered prayers don’t always mean unheard prayers. There are several reasons why we might feel like heaven is silent — and understanding them can deepen our faith and bring clarity to our prayer life.1. Sin Can Hinder Our PrayersUnconfessed sin and unhealthy attitudes can create distance between us and God. Psalm 66:18 says, “If I had not confessed the sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.” When we knowingly hold onto sin — pride, bitterness, lust, dishonesty — it affects our intimacy with God. Peter even tells husbands that mistreating their wives can hinder their prayers. 1 Peter 3:7.If your prayers seem unanswered, start by asking God to reveal any habits or attitudes that might be blocking the connection. Then confess and invite accountability so you can walk in freedom again.2. Doubt and Unbelief Affect Our PrayersFaith is central to prayer. Jesus told His disciples that faith could move mountains. Mark 11:22-25. James warns that those who doubt are like waves tossed by the wind and “should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.” James 1:5-7.That doesn’t mean you can never wrestle with questions — it means bringing those doubts to God, not away from Him. Like the father in Mark 9:24, we can pray, “I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!”3. God’s “No” or “Not Yet” Is Still an AnswerSometimes the issue isn’t sin or lack of faith — it’s timing. God’s plans are wiser, broader, and better than ours. Isaiah reminds us that God’s thoughts and ways are higher than our own. Isaiah 55:8-9. What seems like a delay or a denial might actually be divine protection or preparation.Think about Joseph, who was sold into slavery, falsely accused, and imprisoned before rising to power in Egypt. From his perspective, it must have felt like God was silent — but in hindsight, we see how every “no” or “not yet” led to a bigger purpose.4. Keep Praying — God Is Working Behind the ScenesEven when it feels like nothing is happening, God is listening. James 5:16-18 reminds us that “the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” Elijah’s prayers brought drought and rain, but it didn’t happen instantly. Prayer isn’t about manipulating outcomes — it’s about trusting God’s character.So when your prayers feel like they’re “hitting the ceiling,” remember: God’s silence is not His absence. He may be testing your heart, building your faith, or aligning your desires with His. Keep trusting, keep praying, and keep believing that His plan is good — even when the answer is different than you expected.

Welcome back to the podcast! The assassination of Charlie Kirk shocked many in our nation and left believers struggling with emotions of grief, fear, anger, and even hopelessness. Today, we're going to unpack that.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --While we must name this tragedy for what it is—an evil act—we must also allow God’s Word to shape how we process and respond. Scripture provides wisdom, perspective, and hope in moments when evil seems overwhelming.Calling Evil What It IsOne of the first steps in responding to tragedy is honesty. Isaiah warns, “What sorrow for those who say that evil is good and good is evil, that dark is light and light is dark, that bitter is sweet and sweet is bitter” (Isaiah 5:20 NLT). The murder of a husband, father, and leader is not simply unfortunate or politically charged—it is evil. And just as evil is real, so are the responses that flow from it. When people celebrate such acts, that too is evil. As Christians, we must resist the temptation to minimize or excuse what God calls wrong.Martyrdom and PersecutionSome may argue Charlie Kirk was targeted for his political positions, but many of his stances flowed from biblical principles. Jesus prepared His followers for this reality: “If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first. … Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you” (John 15:18, 20 NLT).The apostles in Acts understood this truth firsthand. After being beaten for preaching Christ, “the apostles left the high council rejoicing that God had counted them worthy to suffer disgrace for the name of Jesus” (Acts 5:41 NLT). Their perspective was not rooted in despair but in joy that their suffering connected them to their Savior.Today, many of us in the U.S. rarely face this kind of hostility. Yet globally, persecution is a daily reality. According to Open Doors, an average of 13 Christians are killed each day simply for following Jesus. This tragedy should remind us to pray for persecuted believers worldwide and to prepare our hearts to stand firm in our own faith.Wrestling with FearMoments like this can stir fear. If such violence can happen here, what could happen to us or our families? Jesus addressed this very question: “Don’t be afraid of those who want to kill your body; they cannot touch your soul. Fear only God, who can destroy both soul and body in hell” (Matthew 10:28 NLT).The psalmist also found confidence in God’s protection: “The Lord is my light and my salvation—so why should I be afraid? … Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even if I am attacked, I will remain confident” (Psalm 27:1, 3 NLT). Fear is natural, but faith calls us to trust God’s eternal security and His ever-present help.Wrestling with AngerIt is right to feel anger when evil takes a life. Scripture affirms this: “Be angry, and yet do not sin. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry” (Ephesians 4:26 NLT). Anger must not drive us to hate people, stereotype groups, or retaliate with violence. Instead, we are called to hate evil itself: “You who love the Lord, hate evil! He protects the lives of his godly people and rescues them from the power of the wicked” (Psalm 97:10 NLT).Our role is to expose darkness with light, not add more darkness to the world. God Himself promises to bring judgment: “I will take revenge; I will pay them back” (Romans 12:19 NLT). We can rest in the assurance that He will make every wrong right.Wrestling with HopelessnessPerhaps the greatest danger after tragedy is despair. When evil appears to win, it is easy to lose heart. Yet the gospel declares that the war has already been won. “What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us?” (Romans 8:31 NLT).The cross looked like defeat on Friday, but the resurrection on Sunday proved that Jesus is victorious. This hope anchors us in the face of suffering. Paul reminds us, “Let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up” (Galatians 6:9 NLT).Living with PerspectiveThe brevity of life should also sharpen our perspective. James writes, “How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone” (James 4:14 NLT). Missionary Jim Elliott captured this truth: “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”For believers, death is not the end. Jesus promised eternal life, and that reality gives us courage to face even the darkest events with hope.TakeawayCharlie Kirk’s death reminds us of sobering truths: evil is real, persecution is costly, fear and anger must be handled carefully, and despair is never the final word. But Scripture also reminds us that Christ has overcome the world. Our task is to cling to Him, call evil what it is, encourage one another, and keep proclaiming the hope of the gospel until He returns.

Welcome back men! Today, we finish our series on physical intimacy by unpacking exactly that: what it practically looks like to be physically intimate with your wife, in a way that honors God.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --God’s Gift of Physical IntimacyGod designed physical intimacy in marriage as a gift, not just for procreation but also for joy, unity, and delight. Yet many couples struggle because life’s responsibilities, physical health, or lack of intentionality can keep intimacy from flourishing. In this final episode of the series, we’ll talk about practical, biblical ways to nurture physical intimacy in marriage that both honors God and blesses your spouse.Take Care of Your BodyThe Bible celebrates the beauty and strength of the human body. Taking care of your health is not about vanity but stewardship. When we’re healthy and active, intimacy is often more fulfilling. Song of Solomon describes physical beauty in vivid terms. “His arms are like rounded bars of gold, set with beryl. His body is like bright ivory, glowing with lapis lazuli. His legs are like marble pillars, set in sockets of finest gold” (Song of Solomon 5:14-15). Good health blesses both you and your marriage. Simple practices like regular exercise, healthy eating, and even strengthening key muscle groups can enhance intimacy and honor God with your body.Know Your Wife’s BodyA thriving marriage includes learning how to lovingly serve one another in intimacy. Peter reminds husbands to live with their wives “in an understanding way” (1 Peter 3:7). That means listening, learning, and growing in your knowledge of what pleases your spouse. Explore together, communicate openly, and don’t take yourself too seriously. God designed the body with incredible sensitivity and potential for pleasure. Learning what your wife enjoys—whether through foreplay, touch, or intentional conversation—is part of honoring her as a partner in God’s grace.Create an Environment Free from Anxiety and DistractionMany wives carry heavy mental loads—responsibilities at work, with kids, and around the home—that can make intimacy difficult. One of the most loving things you can do is help relieve those burdens. Do the dishes, handle bedtime, or take on a few tasks so she can relax. Protect your space by locking doors, keeping kids out of the marital bed, and eliminating distractions. Plan extended times away or create intentional space where intimacy is unrushed. Song of Solomon captures this beautifully: “Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers. Let us get up early and go to the vineyards… There I will give you my love” (Song of Solomon 7:11-13).Be IntentionalPhysical intimacy doesn’t flourish by accident. Life is busy, so make time on purpose. Put it on the calendar if you need to. Plan date nights, short getaways, or quiet evenings at home. The health of your marriage depends not on spontaneous passion alone but on intentional choices to connect deeply, body and soul.

Wekcome back, men! In today’s episode, we’ll discuss why intimacy in marriage isn’t about taking—it’s about giving—and how getting your mind right can transform both your perspective and your relationship.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --God’s Gift of Physical Intimacy, Part 2: Get Your Mind RightIn our second week on God’s gift of physical intimacy, we’re focusing on something that happens outside the bedroom: getting our minds and hearts right about sex. Last time, we explored how serving and cherishing our wives in everyday life—like speaking her love language or helping around the house—sets the stage for intimacy. This week, we’re going deeper into the mental and spiritual foundation that fuels healthy physical intimacy in marriage.1. Intimacy Is About Giving, Not Just HavingMost of us were raised in a culture that trains us to think about sex selfishly. Movies, TV, and even locker-room talk usually frame intimacy as something to “get.” But the Bible paints a radically different picture.Philippians 2:4 (NLT) says: “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”Romans 12:10 (NLT) adds: “Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.”These verses remind us that intimacy is not about taking, but about giving. When a husband enters intimacy with the mindset of honoring his wife—meeting her needs, showing her she is desired, and giving her something he shares with no one else—it changes the entire experience. A marriage retreat speaker once put it this way: “Stop thinking about having sex, and start thinking about giving sex.” That shift in perspective can transform not only the bedroom but also the entire marriage.2. Reset Unrealistic ExpectationsAnother place many couples struggle is with false expectations. If your picture of physical intimacy has been shaped by media or pornography, you’ve been misled. Real intimacy in marriage does not look like a movie scene.Here’s the reality:It doesn’t always happen quickly.It doesn’t always look perfect.It isn’t about endless passion or flawless performance.Instead, God designed sex to be about genuine connection, patience, and love. A healthy marriage won’t mirror what’s seen online—it will reflect real life, with all its ups and downs. When we surrender our expectations to God and embrace reality, we free ourselves from disappointment and discover deeper satisfaction in His design.Romans 12:2 (NLT) says: “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”God’s will for intimacy is good, pleasing, and perfect—but only when we renew our minds to see it His way.3. Helping Your Wife Get Her Mind RightPhysical intimacy is not just physical—it’s emotional, relational, and spiritual. A wife who feels secure, cherished, and loved is far more likely to desire intimacy than one who feels neglected or criticized.The Song of Solomon shows us this principle in action. In chapter 1, the bride delights in her husband’s words of affection: “How handsome you are, my lover! How pleasant!” (Song of Solomon 1:16 NLT). In chapter 2, she feels safe under his care: “He escorts me to the banquet hall; it’s obvious how much he loves me” (Song of Solomon 2:4 NLT).This is a reminder: intimacy begins with cherishing. Husbands, don’t reserve compliments for when you want sex. Instead, cultivate a daily lifestyle of encouragement. Compliment her beauty, but also her character, her strength, and the unique ways she blesses your life. Show her she is treasured every day, not just when you’re hoping for intimacy later.And wives, receive the compliment. Let your husband’s words remind you of your worth. When both spouses choose to cherish each other, intimacy becomes an overflow of mutual love rather than a forced obligation.4. Building a Mindset for True IntimacyUltimately, “getting your mind right” about intimacy means viewing it through God’s lens:It’s a covenant gift, not a selfish act.It’s about connection, not performance.It grows stronger when we honor each other daily, not just in the bedroom.When husbands lead with love and wives respond with trust, intimacy flourishes. It becomes what God intended: a reflection of two becoming one (Genesis 2:24).Final ChallengeAsk yourself:Am I approaching intimacy with a giving mindset?Have I let culture shape my expectations more than Scripture?Am I actively cherishing and affirming my spouse in ways that build security and desire?God’s design for intimacy is not only about passion—it’s about partnership. When you renew your mind, cherish your spouse, and honor God’s design, you’ll discover that physical intimacy in marriage can be one of the most joyful, life-giving gifts He has given.

Welcome back to the podcast, men! The enemy is targeting our sons with lies about sex, and far too many are falling silently. This episode equips dads to speak truth early, clearly, and biblically — before it’s too late.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Raising Sons Who Flee Sexual ImmoralityIn today’s episode, we’re tackling one of the biggest—and most under-discussed—battles facing the next generation of young men: sexual purity. The statistics are staggering. Over 75% of young Christian men between the ages of 18–24 are actively searching for pornography. And the average age of first exposure? Just 13 years old.This isn’t just a cultural issue. It’s a spiritual battle. The enemy knows that sexual sin can derail a man’s future, destroy families, and distort God’s good design. And he’s coming for our sons early. If we want to raise sons who flee sexual immorality, we can’t wait until they’re in high school. We must start the conversation now—with wisdom, grace, and truth.Here’s what we’ll cover in this episode:1. Why This Matters So MuchSexual immorality is a trap with devastating consequences. Proverbs 2:16-19 and 5:1-6 paint a clear and sobering picture of what happens when a young man follows the path of seduction and lust. The Bible doesn’t shy away from these warnings, and neither should we. In fact, three of the first six chapters of Proverbs directly address this issue. Solomon knew the stakes—and so should we.2. Understanding the Enemy’s StrategySatan has been using the same tactic since the Garden of Eden: “God can’t be trusted. He’s holding out on you.” That lie still works today, especially in the realm of sexuality. Culture reinforces the message that freedom comes from doing whatever feels good, but Scripture shows us that true freedom is found in honoring God’s boundaries. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us to stay alert, because the enemy is actively looking for someone to devour.3. Start the Conversation EarlyToday’s kids are exposed to sexual content earlier than ever before. Some studies show that 15% of kids have seen porn by the age of 10. That means waiting until the teen years to talk about sex is too late. Proverbs 4:1-4 reminds us of the value of a father’s early instruction. Our sons need guidance before the culture has a chance to shape their understanding of manhood and sexuality.4. Answer Their Questions With TruthIf your son is brave enough to ask questions, that’s a gift. Don’t shut him down or dodge the conversation. Meet him with honesty and grace. Equip him to trust God’s design, not the world’s confusion. If we don’t answer their questions, someone else will—and that someone may not have their best interests in mind.Final ChallengeDads, this is your moment. The world is loud, but your voice can be louder—if you’re willing to have the hard conversations, grounded in Scripture and led by love. Don’t wait until he’s already entangled. Start now. Speak up. And help your son walk in the freedom that comes from honoring God’s design.Key Scriptures:Proverbs 2:16-19Proverbs 5:1-6Proverbs 4:1-4Proverbs 6 (overview)Genesis 3:4-51 Peter 5:8

Welcome back to the podcast, men! Today, we're continuing our "Fathers and Sons" series, talking about forgiveness, peace, and teaching our sons where to find their true value.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Raising Sons: Forgiveness, Peace, and True ValueRaising godly sons isn’t just about teaching discipline and work ethic—it’s also about shaping their hearts. In this conversation, we explore three essential values every dad should intentionally pass on to his sons: forgiveness, peacemaking, and knowing their true source of value. These character traits don’t just happen—they’re modeled, discussed, and prayed over.1. Teaching Forgiveness: Give It and Receive ItOne of the most powerful lessons we can give our sons is the ability to both ask for forgiveness and offer it to others. Paul encourages believers to "make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you" (Colossians 3:13 NLT). That means we need to expect that others will let us down—and decide ahead of time to respond with grace.Forgiveness starts with us. Model it by saying, “I’m sorry” and “I forgive you”—not “It’s okay.” Sin is never “okay,” but it is forgivable.Own your mistakes. There's nothing weak about asking for forgiveness. It shows maturity, strength, and humility. Some of the most memorable moments with your kids might be the ones where you admit you blew it.Forgive freely. Whether or not someone apologizes, we forgive because Jesus forgave us first (Ephesians 4:32). Unforgiveness leads to bitterness and restlessness (Matthew 6:14-15), and that’s not the kind of legacy we want to pass down.2. Raising Peacemakers in a Divided WorldJesus said, “God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God” (Matthew 5:9 NLT). In today’s world of constant division and outrage, men of peace are desperately needed—in homes, churches, and workplaces.Being a peacemaker doesn’t mean compromising truth. It means doing everything possible to maintain healthy, godly relationships.Train your sons to be good listeners. Teach them to practice reflective listening and avoid always preparing their rebuttal.Reconciliation starts with us. Especially in marriage, encourage your sons to be the ones who lead with humility and take the first step toward peace.At our church, one of our core values is: We work hard at healthy relationships. We assume the best about one another. That’s a value worth passing on.3. Helping Sons Know Their True ValueThe world tries to convince our sons that their worth is tied to what they earn, own, or accomplish. But Jesus points us to a different standard:“Don’t store up treasures here on earth... Store your treasures in heaven… Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” (Matthew 6:19-21 NLT)“You cannot serve both God and be enslaved to money.” (Matthew 6:24 NLT)Hard work is good, and we should absolutely teach our sons to value it. But career, money, and possessions can easily become idols.Help them resist materialism. Talk about wise stewardship, avoiding debt, and aligning financial habits with biblical values.Value comes from Christ. Build their identity in who they are in Jesus—not in what they own or how much they make.These aren’t just nice ideas—they’re kingdom values. And if we want our sons to live them out, we need to plant them early and water them often.

Welcome back to the pod, men! Spending quality time with our daughters is critical, even if it isn’t their primary love language.  They get to define what that quality time looks like for them.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Hey men, we’re in the last episode of our Fathers and Daughters series.  I hope this has been helpful.  I know it’s been convicting for me, but encouraging, too. I actually have some action steps coming out of today’s episode with my own daughter, and I’d encourage you to think about action steps for yourself coming out of it as well.   Let’s just do a quick recap if you missed the first two episodes in this series.  If you did, I encourage you to go back and listen when you have some time.  In the first episode we talked about the importance of loving our wives well so that our daughters can see what to look for in a man.  We talked about being intentional about speaking their love language and staying in our lane.  The truth is that there are some conversations better left to have between your daughter and your wife or another trusted Christian woman if you’re in a single parent situation. Last episode we talked about speaking   truth against the lies of the enemy in the areas of beauty,  differences between the genders, and purity.  Today, is going to be a little bit more of a mixed bag.  I knew it was the last episode for this series and just wanted to hit a couple of highlights.  This may not be as structured as our typical episode, but I’m hopeful and prayerful that it is still valuable.  Quality TimeSpending quality time with our daughters is critical, even if it isn’t their primary love language.  They get to define what that quality time looks like for them.Philippians 2:3-8 Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. 4 Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. 5 You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.6 Though he was God,[a]                 he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. 7 Instead, he gave up his divine privileges[b];  he took the humble position of a slave[c]  and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form,[d] 8   he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross. Our daughters should get a say on what constitutes quality time. Rhonda - loved to hike, camp, backpack, fish - didn’t like to shop.  Some of the reasons I was so attracted to her. We share a lot of similar interests. Healthy to expose them to new things, get them to try new things. Sometimes you discover something you love to do together.  But that’s not always the case. Sometimes you have to take one for the team and do something you don’t necessarily enjoy. Do it with the right attitude.   Love is a choice. I don’t think Jesus was giddy about going to the cross, but we know for the joy set before him, he endured the cross. Tenderness and Touch Appropriate levels of tenderness and physical touch by a father have a significant impact on the likelihood that girls will be sexually active. Watch your tone. Be gentle.   I’m not  against raising tough girls.  Girls who are mentally tough is a great thing.  Study after study link absent fathers with an increase in sexual activity for young women.                  Don’t Sacrifice for SuccessThere will always be stuff pulling for our attention.  Don’t let the urgent things get in the way of the important things. Sacrificing our relationships with our daughters to get ahead at work is never worth it. Judges 11:29-31 Judges 11:29-31 At that time the Spirit of the Lord came upon Jephthah, and he went throughout the land of Gilead and Manasseh, including Mizpah in Gilead, and from there he led an army against the Ammonites. 30 And Jephthah made a vow to the Lord. He said, “If you give me victory over the Ammonites, 31 I will give to the Lord whatever comes out of my house to meet me when I return in triumph. I will sacrifice it as a burnt offering.”Our sacrifices look different. Do we miss the band recital because of a deadline? Do we miss meeting the young man who is going to take our daughter on her first date because we’re working late at the office?  Men, if you’re in ministry, are your priorities in order? Capable not IndependentGive your daughters instruction and encourage them to seek wisdom.  Help them become capable, not independent.Proverbs 4:5-7 Get wisdom; develop good judgment.    Don’t forget my words or turn away from them.6 Don’t turn your back on wisdom, for she will protect you.    Love her, and she will guard you.7 Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do!    And whatever else you do, develop good judgment.

Welcome back men! Today we'll be discussing how to debate, or how not to debate, secondary issues!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Jesus prayed that believers would have unity like he and the Father have unity. He also said that the world will know we are his disciples by our love for one another.  There are secondary issues that have been debated by believers for centuries, but there is a right way and a wrong way to do itOver the last several years, I’ve taken some deep dives into secondary issues in the Christian faith.  I’d call them secondary issues. Some of you might think they’re primary, which is always part of the problem when having these kinds of conversations. I look at issues in four different categories - issues to die for, divide for, debate, or discuss.  The reality is that you and I probably don’t categorize everything the same way.  Some of the issues I think are worth dividing for you may not and vice versa. When I say divide, I don’t mean choosing one local church over another because of doctrinal distinctives or worship style, or things like that.  I’m talking about breaking fellowship with someone who claims to be a Christian but holds a belief that isn’t compatible with traditional Christianity. John 17:21-23  I pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one—as you are in me, Father, and I am in you. And may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me.    John 13:35 Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples Don’t make everything a to divide for issue - I don’t think the right attitude is, “well it doesn’t really matter. It will all sort out in the end.  It does matter. Someone is right and someone is wrong. Truth matters. There is a right answer. 1 Corinthians 13:6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Proverbs 23:23 Buy the truth and do not sell it—wisdom, instruction and insight as well. Are you listening? When you’re discussing a secondary issue with a fellow believer, are you really seeking to listen to them, or just preparing your rebuttal?  Do you find yourself interrupting them?Acts 15:4-12 When they arrived in Jerusalem, Barnabas and Paul were welcomed by the whole church, including the apostles and elders. They reported everything God had done through them. 5 But then some of the believers who belonged to the sect of the Pharisees stood up and insisted, “The Gentile converts must be circumcised and required to follow the law of Moses.”6 So the apostles and elders met together to resolve this issue. 7 At the meeting, after a long discussion, Peter stood and addressed them as follows: “Brothers, you all know that God chose me from among you some time ago to preach to the Gentiles so that they could hear the Good News and believe. 8 God knows people’s hearts, and he confirmed that he accepts Gentiles by giving them the Holy Spirit, just as he did to us. 9 He made no distinction between us and them, for he cleansed their hearts through faith. 10 So why are you now challenging God by burdening the Gentile believers[b] with a yoke that neither we nor our ancestors were able to bear? 11 We believe that we are all saved the same way, by the undeserved grace of the Lord Jesus.”Everyone listened quietly as Barnabas and Paul told about the miraculous signs and wonders God had done through them among the Gentiles.Proverbs 18:13 Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.Proverbs 18:2 Fools have no interest in understanding;  they only want to air their own opinions.Proverbs 18:15 Intelligent people are always ready to learn. Their ears are open for knowledge. What if you’re wrong? Have you ever taken an honest look at the dangers of being wrong? What if you’re wrong?  What are the dangers if you are holding onto the incorrect position on a topic?  Complementarian - missing out on great teachers, not empowering women to fulfill callings and exercise giftingsEgalitarian - health of the church is compromised because roles are blurred, men are not challenged to step up and leadCalvinism - not seeking excellence in ministry because God’s going to save whoever he’s going to save regardless of me, evangelism may take a back seat for the same reasonsArminianism - becoming too seeker sensitive, taking too much responsibility and credit for God’s work, always chasing the next big ideaEschatology - not living with a sense of urgency that Jesus could come at any moment, Revelation 16:15 Look, I will come as unexpectedly as a thief! Blessed are all who are watching for me, who keep their clothing ready so they will not have to walk around naked and ashamed.”Annihilationism - lack of urgency because punishment is eternalOne Trick Pony Do you find yourself only wanting to talk about a single issue?  Do you tend to bring it up in conversations even if the topic is about something different? Keep the Main Thing the Main Thing Keep the main thing the main thing.  Don’t get so caught up in secondary issues that you miss out on opportunities to share the gospel. 1 Corinthians 2:2 For I decided that while I was with you I would forget everything except Jesus Christ, the one who was crucified.

Welcome back to the podcast men! Today, we continue our series "Failure to Lead". Today's subject: King David. We'll focus not on his most infamous failure—his sin with Bathsheba—but on a broader pattern of decisions that ultimately led to devastating consequences.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Leadership Lessons from the Failures of King DavidKing David is often remembered for his triumph over Goliath and his deep love for God, but his story also serves as a powerful warning about the dangers of compromised leadership. A Promising Start Marred by TragedyDavid's leadership journey began with promise and courage. He boldly faced Goliath and resisted the urge to seize the throne from Saul prematurely, trusting instead in God's timing. However, over time, his integrity began to erode. Despite moments where he could have made righteous choices, David continued down a destructive path that culminated in murder and betrayal.When Success Breeds EntitlementDavid’s downfall began not with an act, but with an attitude.2 Samuel 11:1“In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. … But David remained in Jerusalem.”This detail is crucial. Spring was the traditional time for kings to lead their armies into battle. David broke with this norm, staying behind while his men fought. This wasn’t a time of peace—there was active conflict. His choice signaled a sense of entitlement and detachment from duty. Leaders today face different "battles," but the principle remains: when individuals neglect their responsibilities, temptation often finds them idle.A Snowball of Bad Decisions2 Samuel 11:2-4“From the roof he saw a woman bathing. … David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her.”David not only succumbed to lust, but he also involved others in his sin. Servants were tasked with fetching Bathsheba—likely aware of what was happening but powerless to question the king. This wasn’t just adultery; it was betrayal. Bathsheba’s husband, Uriah, was one of David’s loyal soldiers. David’s actions shattered bonds of brotherhood and integrity.Failing to Read the RoomAfter the Bathsheba scandal, David continued to demonstrate a troubling lack of discernment—particularly within his own family. His failure to recognize and respond to warning signs led to further tragedy.2 Samuel 13:6-7“Amnon asked, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and cook…’ So David agreed and sent Tamar to Amnon’s house.”David did not question Amnon’s odd request, and as a result, Tamar was left vulnerable. After Amnon assaulted her, David grew angry but took no action.2 Samuel 13:21-22“When King David heard what had happened, he was very angry. … But he did not punish his son Amnon.”Ancient texts like the Dead Sea Scrolls and the Greek versions suggest David’s inaction stemmed from favoritism—Amnon was his firstborn. But leadership isn’t about protecting favorites. It’s about justice, accountability, and courage.The Cost of Avoiding Hard ConversationsDavid’s refusal to confront sin had tragic ripple effects. Two years after Tamar’s assault, Absalom orchestrated a calculated revenge.2 Samuel 13:23-29Absalom invited the king’s sons to a feast and pressed David to send Amnon. Despite initial hesitation, David relented. At the feast, Absalom had Amnon killed.David's leadership faltered again. He failed to sense the undercurrent of tension and did not investigate further. Avoiding difficult conversations—especially ones involving family or close allies—may seem easier in the short term but can be disastrous long-term.A Modern Warning for Today’s LeadersThe life of David reminds leaders—whether in ministry, business, or the home—that failures rarely happen all at once. They begin with compromise, escalate through passivity, and culminate in destruction when left unaddressed.Modern leaders must stay engaged in the battles they’re called to fight. That might mean maintaining boundaries, seeking accountability, or confronting hard truths—even when it's uncomfortable.2 Samuel 11:1“But David remained in Jerusalem.”That single choice set into motion a chain of events that changed David’s life and legacy. It's a haunting reminder: leaders must never forget why they’re called, and whom they serve.

Welcome back to the podcast men! In the second episode of the Failure to Lead podcast series, the focus turns to one of Scripture’s most infamous leaders—King Saul. At first glance, Saul may seem like an obvious choice when discussing leadership failure...but Saul’s story is more complex than simple disobedience.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Leadership Lessons from King Saul: How Emotion, Disobedience, and Insecurity Lead to FailureIn the second episode of the Failure to Lead podcast series, the focus turns to one of Scripture’s most infamous leaders—King Saul. After all, his reign ended with God stripping the kingdom away from him and giving it to David. However, his leadership journey offers key insights into how even those who start well can stumble if their hearts are not continually aligned with God.A Good Start with a Changed HeartContrary to popular belief, Saul did not begin his reign as a failure. Scripture tells us in 1 Samuel 10:9, “As Saul turned to leave Samuel, God changed Saul’s heart.” God chose Saul, and early on, Saul demonstrated humility, restraint, and a willingness to follow divine instruction.When some people questioned Saul’s kingship, Saul chose silence over pride. 1 Samuel 10:27 notes, “They didn’t bring him any gifts. But Saul kept quiet about it.” And after his first major victory over the Ammonites, Saul refused to seek vengeance on those who had doubted him (1 Samuel 11:12–13). These were the marks of a humble and Spirit-touched leader.But leadership is not defined by a single moment—it’s tested over time.Emotional Decision-Making: A Trap for Every LeaderOne of Saul’s downfalls was his tendency to make rash decisions based on emotion. Good leaders understand the weight of their emotions and choose wisdom over impulse.In 1 Samuel 14:24–30, Saul made an emotionally charged vow that no one in his army could eat until he had avenged his enemies. This decision, though driven by zeal, weakened his troops and nearly cost his son Jonathan’s life. Jonathan, unaware of the oath, ate honey to regain strength. He later criticized his father's decision, saying, “My father has made trouble for the country.”Emotion-driven leadership, while often passionate, can blind decision-makers to long-term consequences. Leaders must pause, pray, and process before acting—especially in high-pressure situations.Model Obedience: Leaders Are Always Under AuthorityAnother key failure in Saul’s leadership was his disobedience. A leader under God’s authority must model obedience—not only for personal integrity but also for the health of those under their leadership.In 1 Samuel 13, Saul took matters into his own hands by offering a sacrifice reserved for the prophet Samuel. This impatience cost him dearly. Samuel rebuked him: “You have not kept the command the Lord your God gave you… the Lord has sought out a man after his own heart” (1 Samuel 13:13–14).Later, in 1 Samuel 15, Saul disobeyed God again by sparing King Agag and the best livestock, despite clear instructions to destroy everything. When confronted, Saul justified his actions, claiming he was saving the animals to sacrifice to God. Samuel responded with piercing truth: “To obey is better than sacrifice” (1 Samuel 15:22).Partial obedience is still disobedience. True leadership requires full submission to God’s commands, regardless of the perceived benefit of an alternative route.Jealousy and Insecurity: The Silent Killers of LeadershipPerhaps the most relatable of Saul’s failures was his struggle with jealousy and insecurity. These internal issues often lead to outward dysfunction in leadership.After David’s rise to fame—especially after defeating Goliath—Saul grew resentful. The people sang, “Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands” (1 Samuel 18:7), and Saul’s jealousy began to consume him. From that point forward, he viewed David not as an asset to the kingdom but as a threat to his throne.Healthy leaders celebrate the success of others. They identify and nurture talent, even if those under them surpass their own abilities. Insecurity, on the other hand, leads to control, manipulation, and division.Final Thoughts: Leadership Requires a Tender Heart and a Firm FoundationSaul’s story is a warning to every leader—especially those in spiritual leadership. His life shows that a strong start doesn’t guarantee a faithful finish. Leaders must remain humble, emotionally wise, obedient, and secure in their calling.A recurring theme in Saul’s decline is this: The condition of the leader’s heart determines the course of their leadership. Saul’s heart changed, but it did not stay aligned with God. Over time, pride, fear, and disobedience eroded the foundation of his reign.Let Saul’s life be a mirror, not just a story. Ask:Is leadership being driven by emotion or by wisdom?Is obedience to God full and immediate, or partial and convenient?Are the giftings of others seen as threats or as opportunities for growth?Ultimately, great leaders don’t just lead—they follow. They stay under authority, remain emotionally grounded, and model consistent obedience to God.

Welcome back, men! We’ve looked at how to lead from great leaders in the Bible, let’s see what we can learn from some guys who messed up and learn from their mistakes so that we don’t repeat them in this new series: Failure to Lead. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Coaching - if we learn from our mistakes, we’re going to be pretty good by the end of the season. If not, we’re going to lose a lot of games. You might be asking yourself, “why so much talk about leading on this podcast?” It’s simple, men are called to lead in the home and in the church. Ephesians 5:22-30 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.[b] 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body.We need to step up and lead. Genesis 3:9 Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” God called to the man.  He was holding Adam accountable. Adam didn’t lead. Genesis 3:16 And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.Part of this tension that is often felt when we try to lead in our home is a direct result of Adam’s failure to lead. This is the story we’re going to look at today.  Being a servant leaderProverbs 15:22 Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.Proverbs 15:31 If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise.Doesn’t mean that we lead tyrannically.  We seek input, particularly from our spouse.  We listen to constructive criticism.  Passivity is Poisonous Adam was passive.  He failed to step up and lead.  There was a crisis going on around him, and he stood there as a spectator instead of stepping up as a leader. Genesis 3:1-7 The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” 2 “Of course we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,” the woman replied. 3 “It’s only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we are not allowed to eat. God said, ‘You must not eat it or even touch it; if you do, you will die.’”4 “You won’t die!” the serpent replied to the woman. 5 “God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.” 6 The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. 7 At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.Hiding from Responsibility Instead of facing the consequences of a bad decision, Adam tried to hide. We’re all going to mess up sometimes. We’re going to make bad decisions as a leader. When that happens, we need to own up to it. Genesis 3:8-10 When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man[a] and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. 9 Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”10 He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.”What does hiding from God look like in our lives? Avoiding going to church, avoiding small groups, not wanting to spend time in God’s Word Not initiating reconciliation - just hoping it will blow over or sweep it under the rugPsalm 139 7-12 I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence!8 If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave,[a] you are there.9 If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans,10 even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.11 I could ask the darkness to hide me  and the light around me to become night—12 but even in darkness I cannot hide from you. Blame Shifting Adam tried the blame game instead of owning up to his mistake.  He even insinuated that God was partially at fault. Genesis 3:12 The man replied, “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.”Sound familiar? We blame others.  We blame our circumstances. We sometimes even blame God - It’s your fault.  You made me this way.

Hello men, welcome back to the podcast! What if the words you speak could shape the identity, confidence, and future of those you love—just as the blessings of fathers did in the Old Testament? Let's talk about it today!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --In the Old Testament, the blessings of fathers to their sons just seem to jump off the page. Isaac to Jacob and Esau, Jacob’s blessings over his sons. Controlling our Tongue Our words have the power to bring life or death. We should work to use our words to encourage and build up those around us.Ephesians 4:29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.Proverbs 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.James 1:19-20, 26 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.James 3:3-6 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.James 3:9:10 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.Offense vs. Defense Controlling our tongue to not respond harshly or critically is the first step. We can then learn to use our words to bring blessing and life. This takes intentionality and for most of us, practice. It is important to speak words of affirmation to those we love.  Mark 1:9-11 At that time Jesus came from Nazareth in Galilee and was baptized by John in the Jordan. 10 Just as Jesus was coming up out of the water, he saw heaven being torn open and the Spirit descending on him like a dove. 11 And a voice came from heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.”Mark 9:7 Then a cloud appeared and covered them, and a voice came from the cloud: “This is my Son, whom I love. Listen to him!”Our children need our encouragement.  If God the Father publicly affirmed God the Son, how much more so do our children need it?  Jesus knew exactly who he was.  He had no questions about his significance or value or identity.  Can our kids say that?  What if your child’s primarily love language is words of affirmation?  They need it even more.  Probably need it even more than you do. Speak affirmation on the things they can control. I’m proud of you. You are a blessing to me. You’re wise.  You’re humble. Significance of Ceremony Creating opportunities for more formal statements of blessing and encouragement can have a deep impact. There is power in ceremony. Look for significant events in the lives of your children and use those as opportunities to bring life with your words.Starting school, Starting Jr. High, starting HS, purity talk, First job, Driver’s license, graduation, first date, marriage, first child, purchase of a home or moving to a new location Work at it, write it down

Welcome back men! What do you do when your child pushes away from the faith, resists your leadership, or walks a path you never wanted for them? In this final episode of Leading When It’s Hard, we’re looking toward biblical wisdom for guiding rebellious kids. Don’t miss this crucial conversation!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --How to Lead When Your Kids Are Rebelling: A Biblical PerspectiveParenting is one of the greatest blessings and challenges in life. It becomes even more difficult when our children stray from the faith, resist authority, or make choices that go against our values. Today, we’re in the final week of our Leading When It’s Hard series, and we’re tackling a topic that many parents face: leading when your kids are rebelling.This conversation is complex because every family dynamic is different. Considerations include:Are your kids still living at home, or are they adults living on their own?How old are they?Are they biological children, or is this a blended family situation?Were you a believer before having children, or did you come to faith later, bringing significant changes to your household?While each situation is unique, the Bible provides timeless wisdom for navigating this difficult journey. Let’s explore three key principles: praying, training and modeling, and loving unconditionally without affirming sin.1. PrayFirst and foremost, cover your child in prayer. Ask God to soften their heart and grant you wisdom in how to best lead them.Philippians 4:6-7 – “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”Worrying about our children seems like a natural part of parenting. From infancy through adulthood, our concerns grow as the consequences of their choices become more significant. However, Scripture does not give us an exception for worrying about our kids. It commands us not to worry about anything but to bring everything before God in prayer.Additionally, while it’s natural to want to protect our children from pain, we should be careful not to pray away all consequences of their actions.Consider the Parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32)—it was only when the son hit rock bottom that he came to his senses. If the father had prayed for his son to avoid hardship, the young man might never have returned home in repentance.1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 – “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”2. Train and ModelLeading our children spiritually is not just about giving instructions—it’s about modeling the faith we want them to follow.Proverbs 22:6 – “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”This is a proverb, not a guarantee. While raising children in God’s truth increases the likelihood that they will remain faithful, they still have free will. However, a solid foundation makes a lasting impact.A key question to ask: Is their behavior in spite of my parenting or because of my parenting? If we need to seek forgiveness for past mistakes, we should humble ourselves and do so.Some parents emphasize righteousness and holiness but struggle to model tenderness and mercy. Others err on the side of being too lenient, attempting to be a friend rather than a parent. We must find balance.Ephesians 6:4 – “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.”If we’ve made parenting mistakes, it’s never too late to change. A sincere apology and a commitment to leading in love and wisdom can transform our relationship with our children.3. Love Unconditionally, Without Affirming Sinful BehaviorLoving our children does not mean condoning their choices. We can express love while standing firm in truth.Romans 5:8-10 – “But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God’s condemnation.”God’s love for us is unconditional, but it does not excuse sin. In the same way, we must extend love to our children while making it clear that sin has consequences.Some practical steps:Establish clear boundaries for children still living at home.If they are adults living independently, continue to be a loving presence while maintaining biblical convictions.Pick your battles wisely—especially if you are a new believer making household changes. Instead of demanding immediate compliance, allow your children to see the transformation in your life through the fruit of the Spirit.For example, instead of banning all secular music overnight, start by eliminating explicit content. If your child is no longer living under your roof, you can still engage them in meaningful conversations about faith without forcing them into compliance.\Final ThoughtsLeading when your children are rebelling is heartbreaking and challenging, but it is not impossible. Through prayer, godly modeling, and unconditional love, we can lead our children toward faith, even if they stray.God is faithful. Keep trusting Him, keep leading well, and keep praying. The seeds you plant today may bear fruit in ways you cannot yet see.Galatians 6:9 – “Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

Welcome back to the podcast, men! We’re in episode 2 of our series: When it's Tough to Lead.  Today’s topic: How do we lead if our wife is an unbeliever or is living in rebellion?--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Stay in your lane and pray, pray, pray Our role is to share the gospel and make disciples.  The Holy Spirit’s role is to bring conviction and change hearts.  Pray to the Holy Spirit, asking him to bring conviction to your spouse and to give you the strength to stay the course.One of the hardest things for us as men to remember is to stay in our lane.  What I mean by that is it isn’t our job to convict our wife or soften their heart.  Only God can do that.  That is the role the Holy Spirit. John 16:7-8 But in fact, it is best for you that I go away, because if I don’t, the Advocate[a] won’t come. If I do go away, then I will send him to you. 8 And when he comes, he will convict the world of its sin, and of God’s righteousness, and of the coming judgment.One of the primary roles of the Holy Spirit is to convict the world of sin. Acts 13:3 Acts 13:3 So after more fasting and prayer, the men laid their hands on them and sent them on their way.Context of this verse - sending Paul and Barnabas commission to go out on their missionary journey. The church knew the importance of praying for Paul and Barnabas and in praying for the Holy Spirit to move and soften hearts. Pray for the Holy Spirit to soften your wife’s heart and bring conviction.  Pray for the Holy Spirit to bring others into her life who will also point her to Jesus. Pray for strength.  Pray for endurance. Fight for your marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a fellow believer[c] has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. 1 Corinthians 7: 16  Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?If you were a Christian when you married and you married a non-believer, I want to say this as compassionately as I can, but let this be a good reminder to you that God’s boundaries are for your good.  Fight for your marriage.  Actions Speak Louder than Words Actions speak louder than words. Live with your wife in an understanding way and let your love and good deeds point her to Jesus.1 Peter 3:1-2, 7  In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives. In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.I know the verse is directed at wives who have an unbelieving husband but the pure and reverent lives part is certainly applicable to a husband who has a non-believing wife. You are a vessel that God wants to use to pour out his love and grace on your wife.We started this episode out by talking about the importance of prayer.  Here we’re told to treat our wives as we should so that our prayers will not be hindered.  We’ve all heard the phrase “1 step forward, 2 steps back”. That’s what’s happening if you’re praying for God to soften your wife’s heart and bring conviction, but then you’re not treating her the way you should treat her. If you want to lead her, serve her. Jesus said if we want to be first, we should be last. We’ve talked a lot on this podcast about Godly leadership and Godly leadership is servant leadership. Pick Your BattlesIf you make everything a black and white issue, your spouse is going to feel like you’re a dictator.  This requires us to be led by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God so that we can balance when to stand firm and when to compromise.Luke 14:25-27 A large crowd was following Jesus. He turned around and said to them, 26 “If you want to be my disciple, you must, by comparison, hate everyone else—your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple. 27 And if you do not carry your own cross and follow me, you cannot be my disciple.Clearly, we can’t compromise on everything.  We can’t let the fear of our wife being mad or leaving us have more authority in our lives than God’s truth. 1 Corinthians 5:12 It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning.Evaluating the difference between leading your wife and leading your children. Social media, media for exampleRequiring my kids to go to church, If your wife professes to be a believer, but is rebelling, bring in other believers. Matthew 18 protocol.  Bring in your church leaders. Matthew 18:15-17 “If another believer[d] sins against you,[e] go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. 16 But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. 17 If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. Then if he or she won’t accept the church’s decision, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector.CloseRomans 12:17-18 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.1 Corinthians 7:15 (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the believing husband or wife[e] is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you[f] to live in peace.)

Hey men, welcome back to the podcast! Today, we’re going to kick off a three part series titled, “When it is tough to lead.”  The Bible makes it clear that the mantle of leadership in the home and in the church has been placed on men. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Ephesians 5:22-30 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.[b] 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body.1 Corinthians 11:3 But there is one thing I want you to know: The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.I think the command is clear.  I think that men who are really pursuing God and trying to live by his standards want to do it, or at least recognize they’re called to do it.  But how do we do it? How do we do it when our wife has been a Christian longer or has more Bible knowledge than we do? How do we do it if our wife is walking away from God? How do we lead in the home when our children are rebelling from God?  That’s what we’re going to try and answer in this series.  Today, we’re looking at how to lead when our wife has been a believer longer than us, or has more Biblical knowledge than us.  And I want to start with this…Be Thankful If your wife has been a Christian longer than you, or has more biblical knowledge than you, thank God for her.I’m not saying that it can’t or doesn’t create a set of problems.  It can.  But what a great problem to have. If this is the episode in this series that you’re battling, I guarantee you the guys who are battling with the next episode, how to lead when your wife is walking away from God, would trade places with you in a heartbeat.  Let me read a couple of verses…Proverbs 31:10-11 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. 11 Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;  but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.Thank God for your wife and her love for him.  Thank your wife. Ask your wife to forgive you for not spiritually leading up to this point if you haven’t been. Initiate, Initiate, InitiateLeading means initiating.  Initiating time in prayer and initiating time in the Word. Leading isn’t the same as teaching. Teaching is an element of leading, but leadership is much broader.  You can lead in service, reconciliation, and direction for your family.  Ephesians 5:22-30, 1 Peter 3:7, Ephesians 4:32 Initiate Time in Prayer Initiate Time in the WordDoesn’t mean you have to give your wife a sermon.  You can read together.  You can ask her what God has been saying to her in her time in the Word.  You can share what God has been saying to you in your time in the Word. Initiate Connection1 Peter 3:7 In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.Some translations - the weaker vessel.  Physically weaker is part of that, but I think it’s more.  Treat her with care. Help her to feel cherished. When initiating connection, evaluate if your family is going in the right direction. Are you keeping the main things the main things? Initiate Reconciliation Ephesians 4:32  Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Lead for GrowthDon’t confuse Biblical knowledge or literacy with maturity. Help your family grow in maturity, not just knowledge.1 Corinthians 8:1 Now concerning[a] food offered to idols: we know that “all of us possess knowledge.” This “knowledge” puffs up, but love builds up. Hopefully, if your wife has ore biblical knowledge than you, she is also maturing in her faith.  She’s going full circle. If so, praise God.  She’ll probably be excited that you’re stepping up to lead now.  If not, help her grow in maturity. Luke 6:46 Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you? How do we approach our wives when we need to correct? We need to remember we’re a plank eyed sinner - check our motives, check our own sin issues, gentleness

Welcome back, men! We’re coming to the end of our Stormproof series. We’ve been looking at the book, “Stormproof” by Roger Frankhauser. The goal of the book is to help Christian men have sexual purity in a sex-saturated world. We’re finishing the series and at the same time we’re kicking off a new year.  --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Run Like Your Life Depends On It The Bible commands us to flee sexual immorality. This language is weighty.  We should recognize just how dangerous it will be if we don’t quickly put distance between us and temptation.1 Corinthians 6:18-20 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body [g]and in your spirit, which are God’s.2 Timothy 2:22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.We’re not called to stand and fight.  I find that so interesting.  We’re told to flee.  Run! This isn’t something we should be casual about.  We need to put as much distance between us and the temptation as possible.  Example of Joseph - Genesis 39:11-12 One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. 12 She caught him by his cloak and said, “Come to bed with me!” But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.Instead of fleeing, we so often dilly dally around.  We play with the temptation.  We ask,”How close to this thing can I get without getting burned?”  Would we do that in a life or death situation?  If a blazing fire was coming down the mountain on us, would we see how close we could get without getting burned, or would we put as much distance between us and the fire as possible? Part of the issue is we don’t recognize the seriousness of sin. It truly is life or death.  The bible says the wages of sin is death. Now, as believers, our position before God is secure, but it can kill our intimacy. Lot’s wife - didn’t run, stopped and wanted to linger - Is that our attitude with sexual purity?  Author talks about four categories where we need to fleeSexual distractions - beach, lingerie store, - The other woman - use common sense, say far away, avoid flirtatious talk, play the dweeb - story of McKenzie Electronic Devices - accountability software - covenant eyes, net nanny, Commercial sex industry - Sex outside of marriage - dating, cohabitationDon’t date a non-believerDon’t put yourself in compromising situationsClearly communicate boundaries - even if the other person professes to be a Christian Moving ForwardThere is a difference between knowing what purity is and how to experience it and actually experiencing it. You might be asking, “what do I do now?”.  We just finished the book, can you name the 5 principles we’ve covered the last three episodes? Connect with GodInvolve OthersControl your thoughtsControl your eyesFleeIf you remembered all five - congrats! If you’re like me, you probably already had difficulty remembering them all.  That’s normal.  We all need help from time to time remembering things we’ve learned and things we’ve read or heard.  Go back and re-read, Deuteronomy 6:4-9 - Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.Certainly not intending to elevate this book to the level of scripture, but thinking about it, reading it again, talking about it is the best way to help you remember it. Enjoy purity - rejoice in it, celebrate it.  Psalm 19:9-11 The fear of the Lord is pure,  enduring forever. The decrees of the Lord are firm,    and all of them are righteous.10 They are more precious than gold,  than much pure gold;they are sweeter than honey,  than honey from the honeycomb.11 By them your servant is warned; in keeping them there is great reward.Is that how we view God’s boundaries? Do we believe there is great reward in keeping them? Are they precious to us? For the married man pursue greater intimacy with your wife.  Not just in hopes that it leads to more or better sex, but for the sake of intimacy itself.  You’ve been commanded to love your wife and give yourself up for her as Christ did the church.  For the single man - God is enough.  Nothing can satisfy like he can. Matthew 22:29-30 But Jesus answered and said to them, “You are mistaken, since you do not [s]understand the Scriptures nor the power of God. 30 For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life;  you will fill me with joy in your presence,   with eternal pleasures at your right hand.NASB - You will make known to me the way of life;In Your presence is fullness of joy;In Your right hand there are pleasures forever.

Welcome back to the podcast men! We’re in our sixth episode of the Stormproof series, where we’ve been discussing the the book “Stormproof Men’ by Roger Fankhauser. Listening to this podcast is great, but just listening isn’t going to give you victory in this area. You need to implement the principles we’re talking about. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --James 1:22-25 says: "But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. 23 For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. 24 You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. 25 But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it." Control Your Thoughts The first key to controlling our thoughts is replacing our thoughts.  You have to fill the void with something else, or the initial thoughts will just creep back in. The longer we think on sinful things, the more enticing they become and the more we begin to justify them. You might respond to “control your thoughts” with “that’s easier said than done” or “how can I do that?”. I can’t help the thoughts that come into my mind. I would agree with you that to some extent you can’t help the thoughts that pop into your mind, but you can control what you do with them when you recognize they’re there. Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.Philippians 4:8-9 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. 9 Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.Killing sin when it is smallProcess - become aware of the thought, evaluate the thought, replace inappropriate thoughts Control Your Eyes  God made men visual creatures .  That isn’t an invitation to look lustfully at women or images of women.  Controlling what we’re looking at is critical to victory in the area of sexual purity. Job 31:1I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman. Job is protesting his innocence here.  He’s saying, “I was successful at this.  I kept the covenant.” I hope that is encouraging to us.  Matthew 6:22-23 Your eye is like a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is filled with light. 23 But when your eye is unhealthy, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!Story of David and Bathsheba   

Welcome back, men! Join us this week for episode five in our Stormproof series, where we tackle what it looks like to achieve and maintain sexual purity in today's sex saturated culture.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Storms are going to come in our lives in our battle for purity. Are we preparing? Are we looking for warning signs? Are we fleeing? Connect with God It is critical to connect with God on a regular basis. Spiritual disciplines such as prayer and Bible study aren’t ends in themselves, but instead they equip us for living and for experiencing a close relationship with God.Connect regularly with GodPractices such as reading the Bible and prayer are not ends in themselves. Instead, they equip us for living and for experiencing a close relationship with God. 2 Timothy 3:16 All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. 17 God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.  John Ortberg - There is an immense difference between training to do something and trying to do something. Respecting the distinction between training and merely trying is the key to transformation in every area of life.  God uses these disciplines to change us from the inside out. Psalm 119:9-16 How can a young person stay pure? By obeying your word. 10 I have tried hard to find you— don’t let me wander from your commands.11 I have hidden your word in my heart,  that I might not sin against you. 12 I praise you, O Lord;  teach me your decrees. 13 I have recited aloud all the regulations you have given us. 14 I have rejoiced in your laws as much as in riches.15 I will study your commandments and reflect on your ways.16 I will delight in your decrees and not forget your word.Obstacles to reading Guilt Difficult to understandChoosing to read - love is a choice example from marriage basics Nature of the Bible itself - spiritual warfare Prayer God is a personal God. We are his children.  He is our father. Might be difficult for those of you who had a strained relationship with your father or whose father abandoned them or was present physically, but not emotionally. God is a perfect father.  His judgment is always right.  He disciplines those he loves.  His discipline is just and appropriate. God is God and we’re not.  Great reminder of our dependence on him.  He’s the creator. We’re the creation. Walking in the SpiritFlesh can not defeat fleshMy efforts alone won’t produce Godliness. Galatians 3:2-3 Let me ask you this one question: Did you receive the Holy Spirit by obeying the law of Moses? Of course not! You received the Spirit because you believed the message you heard about Christ. 3 How foolish can you be? After starting your new lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect by your own human effort?Galatians 5:17 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions. How do we walk in the Spirit? Bottom of page 111Involve OthersAccountability only works when we invite someone in. We have to give them permission to ask the hard questions.  Mutual Encouragement Galatians 6:1-2 Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer[a] is overcome by some sin, you who are godly[b] should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. 2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.Perceptive trust - trust is earned - baby steps Praying for someone we’re helping, coveting he prayers of someone helping usAccountability only works when we invite someone in. We have to give them permission to ask the hard questions.  Mutual Encouragement Galatians 6:1-2 Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer[a] is overcome by some sin, you who are godly[b] should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. 2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.Perceptive trust - trust is earned - baby steps Praying for someone we’re helping, coveting he prayers of someone helping us

Hello men, and welcome back to the podcast! Today, we'll be continuing our Stormproof series, reading through the book of the same title by Roger Fankhauser. Listen now to dive into some practical application with us!--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --We’re jumping back into our Stormproof series after taking a quick one week break for the election podcast that we aired on the last episode.  I hope you’ve been praying for our newly elected leaders, regardless of how you voted. The M Word While there are no passages of scripture that explicitly condemn or condone masturbation, there are several Biblical principles that we can apply. These principals would cause us to view masturbation as almost always, if not always, sinful. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Galatians 5:22-23 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!There are four perspectives about masturbation you might hear in Christian circlesIt is a gift from God. It’s probably alright if I can do it without lustful fantasies or as long as it isn’t compulsive, done in groups, or produces guiltIt is usually wrong because it goes against nature and violates purity.It is always wrongI land somewhere between 3 and 4. I think theoretically there may be a time and place where it isn’t sinful, but practically I think it pretty much always is.                Biblical principles that speak against itLust vs. a pure thought lifeIntimacy vs. sexual releaseSatisfying a habit vs. self controlSelfish vs. selfless sex Creating problems for physical intimacy in marriage Building our Foundation on the Rock Theology matters.  An accurate view of God leads to sound thinking and practices. An inaccurate view of God leads to faulty thinking and dangerous practices. Do you spend time getting to know God? Psalm 42:1-1 As the deer longs for streams of water, so I long for you, O God.  2 I thirst for God, the living God. When can I go and stand before him?God is good.God is holy. God is love.God is forgiving.God is faithful.   Guilt vs. Shame Guilt and conviction are good and can be used to bring us in line with God’s boundaries. Shame is not from God for those that are in Christ Jesus and tends to diminish our relationship with him. Romans 8:1 Romans 8:1 So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. Guilt - I did something wrongCondemnation - There is something wrong with meConviction  typically has an action step.  We’re confronted with something we’ve done wrong and the Spirit shows us how to respond. Condemnation typically has no action step.  It’s just an accusation against us that we can’t address. Condemnation diminishes our relationship with God. When our relationship diminishes, we begin to forget who he really is and the attributes we looked at earlier.

Hello men, welcome back to the podcast! We’re in our third week of the “Stormproof” series based on the book by Roger Frankhauser.  His hope for the book is for men to have sexual purity  in a sex-saturated world. --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --What is the Target? It’s important that we know what we’re aiming for when we want to experience sexual purity.  As with any goal, being specific about the target gives us the best opportunity to achieve it. I want the guilt to go away.If the only thing we desire is for the guilt to go away, then we are focused on how we feel about our thoughts or actions rather than the rightness of them. 2 Corinthians 7:10 For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.  I want God to remove the temptation.God never promised to remove temptation.  He promised a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). How do we grow in our faith and submission to God without temptation? If this is our goal it can lead to us blaming God for not keeping promises that he never made. I want to say “no” to the temptation.I want to honor God.  This is the target that is most inline with God’s call on us as Christians.It is the target that gives us the best chance at victory. Romans 12:1  Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.1 Corinthians 6:12-13 You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. 13 You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies.Facing the StormsGod is never the source of sexual temptation. Temptation  falls under two broad categories - objective and subjective.James 1:13-16 And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong,[c] and he never tempts anyone else. 14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. Objective and subjective - external and internal External temptations never come from God. They come from the devil and the world. Storm WarningWe will encounter different levels of storms as we pursue purity.  We would be foolish to ignore the warnings that stronger storms are on the way. Rain ShowersSevere StormsEye of the StormHurricane Warning CloseWhat is our target? I want the guilt to go away.If the only thing we desire is for the guilt to go away, then we are focused on how we feel about our thoughts or actions rather than the rightness of them. 2 Corinthians 7:10 For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.  I want God to remove the temptation.God never promised to remove temptation.  He promised a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). If this is our goal it can lead to us blaming God for not keeping promises that he never made. I want to say “no” to the temptation.I want to honor God.  This is the target that is most inline with God’s call on us as Christians.It is the target that gives us the best chance at victory.

Welcome back to the podcast. We’re in our second episode of our Stormproof series. We’re looking at the book “Stormproof” by Roger Frankhauser.  The subtitle is sexual purity for Christian men in a sex-saturated world.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --In the Midst of the StormBecoming a Christian does not exempt us from the propensity to sin. It does give us the ability to overcome temptation and sin, but it does not eliminate the capacity to sin. Chapter 1 is titled, “In the Midst of the Storm”.  The storm is bigger than just a battle for sexual purity, it is a battle of the flesh and the Spirit. This battle spills over into all areas of our life.   It affects virtually all of our decisions - My flesh wants to take that bonus money I received and spend it on a new side by side.  The Spirit wants me to give some of it to God’s kingdom and some of it to a family in need.  My flesh wants to hold a grudge because I’ve been wounded.  The Spirit tells me to forgive. Galatians 5:16-17 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions.Romans 7:14-25 So the trouble is not with the law, for it is spiritual and good. The trouble is with me, for I am all too human, a slave to sin. 15 I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate. 16 But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good. 17 So I am not the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.18 And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[d] I want to do what is right, but I can’t. 19 I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. 20 But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.21 I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. 22 I love God’s law with all my heart. 23 But there is another power[e] within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. 24 Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? 25 Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin. You are a targetThe enemy is looking for opportunities to attack you in the area of spiritual purity.  We live in a culture that provides all too many opportunities to entice us to let our minds and our eyes wander.  Proverbs 9:13-18 The woman named Folly is brash.    She is ignorant and doesn’t know it.14 She sits in her doorway    on the heights overlooking the city.15 She calls out to men going by    who are minding their own business.16 “Come in with me,” she urges the simple.    To those who lack good judgment, she says,17 “Stolen water is refreshing;    food eaten in secret tastes the best!”18 But little do they know that the dead are there.    Her guests are in the depths of the grave.[a] We don’t have to look for trouble in this area of our lives.  It looks for us. Media, Social Media, the way people dressYour struggle is not uniqueYou are not the only one battling for sexual purity and the temptations that come along are not unique to you.  Don’t justify giving into temptation because you think your battle is harder than anyone else’s.  God always provides a way out.   1 Corinthians 10:13 The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.Sexless marriageSingle guyAbused as a child Hebrews 4:15  This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin.Fleeing isn’t the only principal Fleeing is the last step in our pursuit of purity. It isn’t the only weapon we have in the battle. Connect regularly with GodInvolve OthersControl Your ThoughtsControl Your EyesFlee

Welcome back to the Men's podcast! This week, we're starting a new series that covers topics from the book "Stormproof Men" by Roger Fankhauser. We'll dive into what it looks like to achieve sexual purity in a sex-saturated world.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Conversations about sexual purity can’t be had too often. As Solomon was passing on wisdom to his sons, four of the first seven chapters in Proverbs contain warnings about sexual immorality.  He obviously thought it was a big deal. Proverbs 2,5,6,7According to Common Sense Media, a child advocacy group 75% of teens have viewed porn online by age 17, the average first exposure is 12 years old I reviewed several other studies and the average ages of first exposure were from 11 to 13.3 years of age and some studies indicated nearly 100% of boys had viewed porn online by the age of 17.   4 Critical QuestionsThere are four critical questions that need to be asked as we journey towards sexual purity:   Do I want to experience purity? Is it possible to experience purity? What do I think God thinks of me? If it is possible, how do I experience purity? Do we want to experience purity?No book, no counseling, no program can make us want to - we have to start there. Should you put this book down if the “want to” is not there? Absolutely not! Our “want to” must flow from the heart, but perhaps reading what follows will help change your heart as you see the value of honoring God and experiencing purity. Psalm 19:14 May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you,O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.Excerpt from page 3 My “want to” story. Is it possible to experience purity?Job 31:1 I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman. Job is making a final protest of innocence here.  He is saying that he had victory in this area.  We know Job wasn’t perfect, since no one except Christ is perfect, but overall, Job had victory in this area of his life.  You might argue that Job didn’t live in a culture that was as sexualized as ours.  There is probably some truth to that statement, but Job had wealth in a time when prostitution wasn’t illegal. Ephesians 1:19-20  I pray that you will know how great His power is for those who have put their trust in Him. 20 It is the same power that raised Christ from the dead. This same power put Christ at God’s right side in heaven.What do we think God thinks of us?God keeps me as his child only if I meet certain performance standards. If I continually sin or lose my faith, I will lose my salvation. If I continually sin, then I never really believed in the first place.  God isn’t interested in me because I’m not a true believer. God is an angry God focusing on my failures.God does not see my sin, as it is all covered by the blood of Christ. God sees me as his adopted son, recognizes my sin, but encourages me to walk right. This view focuses on my position in Christ, but also recognizes that God does not ignore my sin. If it is possible, how do we experience purity? Original DesignGod’s original design for sex brings blessing physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Adam and Eve experienced a level of intimacy unlike most ever know because they brought no guilt, shame, worries of inadequacy, or wounds into the relationship. Genesis 1:27 And God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. Genesis 2:23-25 At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone,  and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” 24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.25 Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.No shame, no wounds, no feeling unloved, no feelings of inadequacy, no comparison to previous partnersGod can bring redemption from our past sins and wounds.  Pursuing purity is worth it.

Hello, everyone, welcome back to the podcast. Today we're talking about Bathsheba Syndrome, using King David's story as the basis for the discussion.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Hello, everyone, welcome back to the podcast.  I think today’s podcast may have a little different feel.  It is one that I hope will serve as a warning.  I’ve been told by one of my fellow pastors at our church that my preaching style is more like that of a shepherd  while others on our staff are more like that of a prophet.  I think my role today is going to be a little more like a prophet who is sending out a warning and the warning I want you to hear is that pride comes before a fall.  We’re going to get into that scripture and others like it, but we’re going to start with an academic paper.  Don’t worry, I’m not veering from God’s Word. God’s Word is going to be the primary source for our discussion today, but I remember reading this article as I was doing sermon prep years ago, and it stuck with me how much truth is in this.  We see it modeled in scripture and echoed in leaders all around us.  The Bathsheba Syndrome by Dean Ludwig and Clinton Longenecker.. Professors at U of Toledo.  I want to read an abstract from the paper, summarize it, and then dig into scripture.  Success not CompetitionThe hypothesis of the Bathsheba syndrome is that many moral and ethical failures by those in positions of power are the result of success, not competitive pressure. It was after King David had achieved success and relative peace in his kingdom that he abandoned procedural norms which led to his sin with Bathsheba.  Prior to this, David had multiple opportunities to take matters into his own hands in regards to his kingship, but instead, chose to submit to God’s boundaries and trust in his timing. 1 Samuel 16:1-13 The Lord said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way; I am sending you to Jesse of Bethlehem. I have chosen one of his sons to be king.”2 But Samuel said, “How can I go? If Saul hears about it, he will kill me.”The Lord said, “Take a heifer with you and say, ‘I have come to sacrifice to the Lord.’ 3 Invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will show you what to do. You are to anoint for me the one I indicate.”4 Samuel did what the Lord said. When he arrived at Bethlehem, the elders of the town trembled when they met him. They asked, “Do you come in peace?”5 Samuel replied, “Yes, in peace; I have come to sacrifice to the Lord. Consecrate yourselves and come to the sacrifice with me.” Then he consecrated Jesse and his sons and invited them to the sacrifice.6 When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord.”7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”8 Then Jesse called Abinadab and had him pass in front of Samuel. But Samuel said, “The Lord has not chosen this one either.” 9 Jesse then had Shammah pass by, but Samuel said, “Nor has the Lord chosen this one.” 10 Jesse had seven of his sons pass before Samuel, but Samuel said to him, “The Lord has not chosen these.” 11 So he asked Jesse, “Are these all the sons you have?”“There is still the youngest,” Jesse answered. “He is tending the sheep.”Samuel said, “Send for him; we will not sit down until he arrives.”12 So he sent for him and had him brought in. He was glowing with health and had a fine appearance and handsome features.Then the Lord said, “Rise and anoint him; this is the one.”13 So Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the presence of his brothers, and from that day on the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David. Samuel then went to Ramah. 1 Samuel 24:1-22 After Saul returned from pursuing the Philistines, he was told, “David is in the Desert of En Gedi.” 2 So Saul took three thousand able young men from all Israel and set out to look for David and his men near the Crags of the Wild Goats.3 He came to the sheep pens along the way; a cave was there, and Saul went in to relieve himself. David and his men were far back in the cave. 4 The men said, “This is the day the Lord spoke of when he said[b] to you, ‘I will give your enemy into your hands for you to deal with as you wish.’” Then David crept up unnoticed and cut off a corner of Saul’s robe.5 Afterward, David was conscience-stricken for having cut off a corner of his robe. 6 He said to his men, “The Lord forbid that I should do such a thing to my master, the Lord’s anointed, or lay my hand on him; for he is the anointed of the Lord.” 7 With these words David sharply rebuked his men and did not allow them to attack Saul. And Saul left the cave and went his way.8 Then David went out of the cave and called out to Saul, “My lord the king!” When Saul looked behind him, David bowed down and prostrated himself with his face to the ground. 9 He said to Saul, “Why do you listen when men say, ‘David is bent on harming you’? 10 This day you have seen with your own eyes how the Lord delivered you into my hands in the cave. Some urged me to kill you, but I spared you; I said, ‘I will not lay my hand on my lord, because he is the Lord’s anointed.’ 11 See, my father, look at this piece of your robe in my hand! I cut off the corner of your robe but did not kill you. See that there is nothing in my hand to indicate that I am guilty of wrongdoing or rebellion. I have not wronged you, but you are hunting me down to take my life. 12 May the Lord judge between you and me. And may the Lord avenge the wrongs you have done to me, but my hand will not touch you. 13 As the old saying goes, ‘From evildoers come evil deeds,’ so my hand will not touch you.14 “Against whom has the king of Israel come out? Who are you pursuing? A dead dog? A flea? 15 May the Lord be our judge and decide between us. May he consider my cause and uphold it; may he vindicate me by delivering me from your hand.”16 When David finished saying this, Saul asked, “Is that your voice, David my son?” And he wept aloud. 17 “You are more righteous than I,” he said. “You have treated me well, but I have treated you badly. 18 You have just now told me about the good you did to me; the Lord delivered me into your hands, but you did not kill me. 19 When a man finds his enemy, does he let him get away unharmed? May the Lord reward you well for the way you treated me today. 20 I know that you will surely be king and that the kingdom of Israel will be established in your hands. 21 Now swear to me by the Lord that you will not kill off my descendants or wipe out my name from my father’s family.”22 So David gave his oath to Saul. Then Saul returned home, but David and his men went up to the stronghold.Boundaries are GoodGod’s boundaries are in place for our good.  He isn’t holding out on us.  His plans are for our best and can be trusted.  When we start to come up with excuses for stepping outside God’s boundaries, we’re setting ourselves up for failure.  2 Samuel 11:1-272 Samuel 11:1-27 It should scare us when we start to think the rules don’t apply to us or we look for ways to get around them. Even if our original intentions are innocent, not abiding to boundaries and protocols can lead to danger and to failure. God Doesn’t Owe UsOur flesh will whisper to us that we deserve God’s blessing because of our obedience and service and that we’ve earned the right to step outside of his boundaries. Luke 17:7-10“When a servant comes in from plowing or taking care of sheep, does his master say, ‘Come in and eat with me’? 8 No, he says, ‘Prepare my meal, put on your apron, and serve me while I eat. Then you can eat later.’ 9 And does the master thank the servant for doing what he was told to do? Of course not. 10 In the same way, when you obey me you should say, ‘We are unworthy servants who have simply done our duty.’” Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall. James 4:10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor. CloseProverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall.James 4:10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor.Reports of ethical violations by upper level managers continue to multiply despite increasing attention being given to ethics by firms and business schools. Much of the analysis of these violations focuses on either these managers'lack of operational principles or their willingness to abandon principles in the face ofcompetitive pressures. Much of the attention by firms and business schools focuses either on the articulation of operational...

Today we’re wrapping up our series, “4 pillars of a man’s heart” written by Stu Weber.  We’ve looked at the king pillar, warrior pillar, mentor pillar, and today we close with the friend pillar.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --G.K. Chesterton - “The only two things that can satisfy the soul are a person and a story; and even the story must be about a person.” Weber - People connecting.  And you were made for it. Yes you, man. Right there, resident in your chest, there is - A king to provideA warrior to protectA mentor to teach and don’t ever forget it, a Friend to connect. But, for some internalized reason, we men find it difficult to accept that final pillar.  Most of us are happy to step into the responsibilities of a king or warrior.  We might struggle with the mentor pillar, but deep down that makes sense, too.  Men are supposed to know how things work, and that, too, represents strength, power, and authority. But this friend thing? We seem to hold back, reluctant to take the plunge. Even as I re-read this book, it was the friend pillar that I was the most reluctant to embrace.  It’s the one that caused me to inwardly groan just a little bit.  I felt more weight than the others. Why is that? We’re going to explore that today. But I think an underlying reason for me is simply selfishness.  We were created for connectionWe were created for relationship and connection; relationship with our creator and relationship with others.  God is a God of relationship, and we are created in his image. For many men, this is the pillar that seems the hardest to shore up. Genesis 1:26  Then God said, “Let us make human beings[a] in our image, to be like us.We were created in the image of God.  Part of the image of God is that he is a God of connection.  It is literally wired into us. The triune nature of God speaks to relationship between the persons of the Godhead - Father, Son, Holy Spirit.  God is relationship.  It is essential to his essence. It would be wrong to say God needs relationship, God doesn’t need anything, but there has never been a time when God existed outside of relationship.  Genesis 2:18 - It is not good for man to be alone.Immediate context is marriage, but I think there is an overarching principle here. We were created for connection.  Think of all of the one another verses in the Bible.  The commands of Jesus are to be lived out in the context of relationship.  Friendship with the King Our relationship with those around us will always be lacking if we haven’t developed our friendship with God. Does it blow your mind that God invites you to be his friend? John 15:15  I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.A friend knows what their friend likes.  Do you know what pleases Jesus?  Are you listening to him? What kind of friendship would you have without communication?  Communication is a two way street - there is listening and talking.  Are you praying?  In your prayer time, are you listening?  Are you listening as you read his Word?  Matthew 28:18-20  Jesus came and told his disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth. 19 Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations,[b] baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. 20 Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”Jesus gives us this command to be on mission and then he says, I will be with you always.  I’m right there.  Some of my closest friendships in high school were with teammates.  Friendship Comes at a CostThe friend pillar is difficult because it requires unselfishness and transparency.  It’s in the context of real relationships and all the messes of life that our true character is revealed.  That’s frightening for most of us, and many young men, in particular, have never learned how to be a friend.  1 Samuel 18:1-4 As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 2 And Saul took him that day and would not let him return to his father's house. 3 Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own soul. 4 And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was on him and gave it to David, and his armor, and even his sword and his bow and his belt.1 Samuel 20 - story of David and Jonathan   A one sided relationship is parasitic.  We can’t just be a taker. Sacrifice and unselfishness is key in any friendship.Transparency can be scary.  Keeping people at a distance is a protective measure. Social media is so easy to edit/manage to make sure we’re projecting the image we want to project.  It is a cheap substitute for real relationship.  CloseEcclesiastes 4:12 NLT: A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.Develop and pursue our friendship with Jesus and develop friendships with at least 2 to 3 other men.

Hello, men, and welcome to episode 3 of our 4 pillars of a man’s heart series, based on the book by Stu Weber.  Today, focusing on the mentor pillar which is a pillar that's central to why we even host this podcast.  --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --The word mentor is used in all sorts of settings in today’s culture; the business world, personal training and athletics, men’s groups and churches.  It may mean slightly different things depending upon the setting.  The origins of the word mentor come out of ancient Greece.  Our heart has always been to help men go full circle in their pursuit of God. That means they start a relationship with God by trusting in Jesus for salvation - trusting that his finished work on the cross is the only thing that can make them right with a holy God.  Once we’ve done that, we seek to live lives that honor God. We find out what pleases God, primarily through his Word, and then through the power of the Holy Spirit we endeavor to do those things that please him and eliminate those things in our lives that displease him. Lastly, we help someone else pursue God.  It is ultimately by helping someone else that we will mature in our faith. The purpose of this podcast, and all of the resources at pursue God, is not only to help you grow in your faith, but to equip you to have spiritual conversations with someone else so that you can help them pursue God as well.  Mentors have helped shape youThink about the men who had an impact on you growing up.  What did they have in common?  How were they different?  God uses all sorts of men to pour into us and help us grow. My Dad, Coach Doyle, Steve Timmons, Don Emerson, Jonathan Koehler, Chad Hewitt, Bryan Dwyer Mentoring should start in the homeOne of our primary roles as a parent is to mentor.  We’re supposed to teach our kids how life works. We should be modeling what it looks like to pursue God full circle, but we also need to be talking about it with our kids.  Proverbs 1:8-9 My child,[a] listen when your father corrects you.  Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.9 What you learn from them will crown you with grace and be a chain of honor around your neck.Proverbs 4:1-4 My children,[a] listen when your father corrects you. Pay attention and learn good judgment,2 for I am giving you good guidance. Don’t turn away from my instructions.3 For I, too, was once my father’s son, tenderly loved as my mother’s only child. 4 My father taught me,“Take my words to heart. Follow my commands, and you will live.Look at the intentionality here.  A good mentor doesn’t make it all about themselves.  They’re not insecure or seeking to build themselves up.  Think of all of the things you’ve taught your children. Some of it by specifically teaching them, but much of it, just by your example.  Your children have learned a lot about life, just by watching and observing.  My wife told me recently that she and my daughter Hannah were on a walk by our house and Hannah kept spitting.  Finally, Rhonda asked her if she was getting stuffy and why she was spitting so much.  Hannah said, “I’m just being like dad.” Evidently, I spit a lot when I go on hikes.  Ecclesiastes 7:12 Wisdom and money can get you almost anything, but only wisdom can save your life. Are you passing along wisdom? =God wants to use mentors to build his kingdom and his churchGod’s plan for building his kingdom and his church is to work through his people.  There are people in your circle of influence that need you to pour into them.  Mentoring sometimes requires us to speak hard truth. Titus 2:6-7  In the same way, encourage the young men to live wisely. 7 And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.We see again the importance of verbal coaching and coaching by example.  Encourage the young men to live wisely AND be an example to them.  He doesn’t say by being an example to them. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching - your lifestyle should reinforce what you’re speaking to these young men.  2 Timothy 2:2 You have heard me teach things that have been confirmed by many reliable witnesses. Now teach these truths to other trustworthy people who will be able to pass them on to others.Look at how many generations are represented in this verse - 5 levels1 Timothy 1:2 I am writing to Timothy, my true son in the faith. May God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord give you grace, mercy, and peace.The whole letter to Timothy is a form of mentoring. Discipleship is relationship.  Paul considered Timothy his “Son” in the faith.  CloseMentoring isn’t just for an hour on Tuesdays.  It’s moment by moment.  It’s a lifetime of pouring into others.  

Welcome, men! We’re in our second episode of a 4 part series called 4 pillars of a man’s heart.  This is based on the book with the same title that was written by Stu Weber. Today, we’re looking at the warrior pillar.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Hello, men.  Welcome back to the podcast.  Today we’re in our second episode of a 4 part series called 4 pillars of a man’s heart.  This is based on the book with the same title that was written by Stu Weber.  Last episode we looked at the King Pillar and we saw that Jesus has called us to lead, but that he has also given us very clear instructions on how we should lead and that is by being the biggest servants in our homes and our churches.   Today, we’re looking at the warrior pillar. Notice it isn’t called the fighter pillar.  There is a big difference between being a fighter and a warrior. A fighter is often short-tempered, quarrelsome, insecure, and selfish.  A warrior is self sacrificing, looking out for the greater good rather than his own good, and acts with self control.  In short, a warrior is meek. The word picture behind the word meek in the Bible is that of a bridled war horse.  It isn’t timid.  It isn’t weak.  It is powerful, strong, even ferocious, but it’s under control. Identifying the Enemy A warrior has to know who the enemy is.  Our enemy is cunning and is always looking for an opportune time to strike. If we’re not careful and intentional we can inflict casualties on our own side. Let's start with a couple of passages of scripture…Ephesians 6:12  "For we[a] are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places."It is so easy to forget who the real enemy is.  1 Peter 5:8 "Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour."Who is our great enemy? - The devil.  Our great enemy isn’t the other side of the political aisle. It isn’t the school boardTactics of Battle We do not wage war like the world does. A warrior needs to remember what the primary objective is and not allow distractions to pull him away from the objective. We would be foolish to enter this battle alone.2 Corinthians 10:3-5 "We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. 4 [a]We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. 5 We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ."Look at all of the action words in this passage - wage war, use mighty weapons, knock down strongholds, destroy false arguments, destroy obstacles, capture rebellious thoughts, teach them to obey Christ.  That’s a lot of work.  We can’t be lazy if we’re going to be warriors.  We need to be intentional.  We need to be on mission. What are these mighty weapons?  Power of the Spirit, Power of God’s Word, truth, Power of prayer Prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective What is our ultimate objective?  It is to go full circle in our pursuit of God.  That means trusting Jesus for salvation, seeking to live a life that honors and pleases him, and discipling someone and helping someone else go full circle in their pursuit of God.  That doesn’t end with your immediate family, but it sure better start in your household.  If you're not teaching your kids about God and his love for them, their brokenness and need for a Savior, and the truth of the gospel - you're not completing the primary objective. Proverbs 1:8-9 "My child,[a] listen when your father corrects you.  Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction. 9 What you learn from them will crown you with grace  and be a chain of honor around your neck."Proverbs 1:7 "Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline."Think of all the things you’ve taught your kids to do.  I’ve taught my boys how to throw a ball. They know to keep downwind when they’re hunting if it’s possible.  They know how to cast a lure and clean a fish.  They know how to change a tire, shave, tie a good tie knot.  They know how to frame a football when they catch it and how to keep their hips underneath them when they’re blocking someone.  Some of those are very good things to know, but none of them compares to knowing Jesus.  So many parents have lost sight of the primary objective.  They think it is getting their kids a good education, teaching them a good work ethic, making sure they have a comfortable lifestyle or that they make the varsity team in their chosen sport or first chair in the band, or student body president.  None of those things are bad in and of themselves.  They can all be good things, but they aren’t the main thing.  The main thing is for us to raise children who love Jesus, who understand how much Jesus loves them, and who want to share that message with a broken world around them.  Are the things you’re fighting for helping your kids to accomplish that primary objective or are they distracting them?  Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 "Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."Suiting Up for Battle A warrior needs to know how to handle his weaponsEphesians 6:10-17 "A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we[d] are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.13 Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. 14 Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. 15 For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared.[e] 16 In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil.[f] 17 Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere."Put on every piece of God’s armor. We're not putting on OUR armor.  Our armor wouldn’t be very effective.  It wouldn’t be powerful.  This is God’s armor.  It is from him and there’s also a sense in which it is his armor.  In the OT it is the Lord who wears the armor and now he shares that armor with us. Are you suiting up? Do you wear the belt of truth?  CloseThere is something in the way God wired us that causes us to resonate with warriors.  Think of your favorite Bible stories - David and Goliath, Gideon, Caleb taking the hill country in his 80s.  Real warriors stand in the gap. 

Hello men, thank you for joining us for another episode. Today, we start a new series unpacking the book "4 Pillars of a Man’s Heart", by Stu Weber. We’ll explore how these pillars play out in real life, the dangers of imbalance, and, of course, we’ll look to God’s Word as the blueprint. Today, we start with the King Pillar. So, let's dive in and understand what it means to be a servant leader, setting vision, protecting, and providing for those we love.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Kings are the Biggest ServantsBeing a king means we should be the biggest servants in our churches and in our homes. We take our marching orders from the King of Kings. Matthew 20:25-28  But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. 26 But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever wants to be first among you must become your slave. 28 For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.”The best kings are servant leaders.  As men we should be the biggest servants in our households and in the church. When we are serving our wives and giving ourselves up for them as Christ did the Church, like we’re called to do in Ephesians 5, we’ll find we create an environment where it is much easier for our wives to respond to our leadership.  We are called to lead.  That’s part of the King pillar.  When the King pillar is in balance, there is peace.  Borders are secure.  Our home is a refuge.  We’re scanning the horizon of the land looking for threats. When this pillar leans too far to the left, there is drift, lack of leadership, lack of clarity, lack of provision.  When this pillar leans too far to the right we become tyrannical.  Those under our care are afraid to communicate fears and concerns.  They feel unvalued. A King Sets Vision and A Course Kings are called to lead.  We don’t make decisions unilaterally and we don’t make them in a vacuum, but we do need to step up and be decisive. We need to set the course for our families. Genesis 3:6 … Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too.When this pillar leans too far to the left, there is drift, lack of leadership, lack of clarity, lack of provision.  When this pillar leans too far to the right we become tyrannical.  Those under our care are afraid to communicate fears and concerns.  They feel unvalued. Never do we see a clearer example of that than in Genesis chapter 3.  If you grew up in the church, you probably know that Genesis 3 is the fall.  It’s when mankind decided to follow their own thoughts, desires, and opinions over what God had declared to be true.  The serpent twisted God’s Words and when Eve said they weren’t to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil because they would die, The serpent told her, “You surely won’t die. God knows when you eat of it, you will be like God.”  And the woman saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she ate.  That is heart-breaking in and of itself, but as a man, here is the part that hurts even worse. A King Protects and ProvidesWhen the King pillar is balanced there is safety and peace.  Our home should be a place of refuge for our families.  We seek to make sure all of their needs are met, not just the material needs. In order for a King’s realm to be safe, it also means he’s aware of potential threats.  He’s on the lookout.  He takes initiative to scan the horizon. Are you aware of the potential threats to your family?   Do you know the friends your children spend most of their time with? Do you know the things that cause your wife the most stress and anxiety and have you thought of ways to encourage her, to help her, and remind her of God’s faithfulness?  Are you aware of threats directly aimed at you - like that female co-worker who frequently tells you that you look nice today.  Are you putting up strategic defenses before that threat gets too close?  Meeting NeedsPhysical needs - food, clothing, shelterEmotional needs - Are you filling their tank? Are you speaking their love language? Talk about 5 love languages. Relational needsSexual NeedsSpiritual Needs CloseA good king knows what it’s like to be under authority.  We take our marching orders from Jesus Christ and the Bible is our manual. Mutual submission is not an oxymoronWe submit to Christ’s authority 

We're in thew fourth installement in our "Is it a Sin?" series. It's a question many Christians find asking themselves on a day to day basis. Sometimes the answer is clear and easy, but other times it might seem to be a little more of a 'gray area'. Today's topic: R Rated Movies.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Welcome to the fourth and final installment of our “Is it a sin” series.  We’ve been looking at behaviors like smoking, drinking, and gambling that have been identified as sinful in many churches for many decades and we’re asking if the Bible says they’re sinful. Today, we’re talking about watching R rated movies.  You may be wondering why we’re even having this conversation.  You might argue that we have freedom in Christ so of course we can watch R rated movies.  As long as we don’t act out what we see in them, what’s the harm in watching?  Or you might be on the other side and say, “of course it’s a sin to watch an R rated movie.Garbage In - Garbage Out The Bible describes our eyes as a lamp that gives light to the body.  When our eyes are healthy our body is filled with light.  The world, and the powers behind it, are actively working to conform your thinking to align with theirs.  We are called to be transformed by the renewing of our minds.  Matthew 6:22, Romans 12:2, Ephesians 5:1-16 Ephesians 5:1-16 "Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. 2 Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us[a] and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. 3 Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people. 4 Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. 5 You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God. For a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. 6 Don’t be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the anger of God will fall on all who disobey him. 7 Don’t participate in the things these people do. 8 For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light! 9 For this light within you produces only what is good and right and true. 10 Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. 11 Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them. 12 It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret. 13 But their evil intentions will be exposed when the light shines on them, 14 for the light makes everything visible. This is why it is said,“Awake, O sleeper,    rise up from the dead,    and Christ will give you light.”Living by the Spirit’s Power15 So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. 16 Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. 17"Everything you do - that includes our entertainment choices, a good question to ask is would you keep watching the movie if Jesus came and sat down beside you? Why - because we are his dearly loved children.  He is a perfect father.  He wants the best for us and knows what is best for us. Obscene stories, foolish talk, course jokes - Are the movies I’m watching full of these, even if they’re not R rated, if this describes the movies I’m watching, that’s sinful.  Take no part - Shameful to even talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret Power of Media to influence usRomans 12:2 Romans 12:2  Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.The world is working to conform us to its image. I’ll bet most of us don’t realize how much the way we think is actually impacted by media and entertainment.  There is an agenda. Matthew 6:22 Your eye is like a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is filled with light.Commands in OT to the nation of Israel to tell the next generation about God’s deeds.Passover meal symbolism Lust Any movie containing nudity, sex scenes, or even large amounts of sexual innuendo is sinful for us to watch.  Jesus told us that if we’ve looked upon a woman lustfully, we’ve already committed adultery in our heart. Matthew 5:27-29“You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’[j] 28 But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 So if your eye—even your good eye[k]—causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.Soft porn is almost always the gateway to full on adult movies.  Vengeance is the Lord’sSupporting shows that promote unbiblical themes can cause us to begin to think unbiblically.  Many shows today have a theme of revenge or vengeance.  God’s Word calls us to forgive. It is God’s responsibility to make right the wrongs. We’re called to be peacemakersFoul languageMuch like our eyes are the lamp of our body, our ears filter what’s going into our minds.  If we listen to large amounts of foul and coarse language, it won’t be long before we’re speaking the same way.  Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.Money Talks If believers would draw a stronger line in the sand about the type of movies and shows they’d watch, you’d eventually see a shift in the kinds of movies and shows produced.  The entertainment industry is driven by profit and your money speaks volumes.  It’s not just “what” we watch, but “how much” we watch that we should consider.  Are we too busy entertaining ourselves to be on mission? 

We’re in our third installment of the “Is it a sin” series.  We’ve looked at drinking alcohol. We’ve looked at tobacco and marijuana use, and today, we’re looking at gambling.  Is it a sin to gamble?  What does the Bible say about it?  --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --It’s Not Black and WhiteThere is no explicit command in the Bible that says gambling is a sin. That doesn’t, however, mean that it isn’t sinful. Sin is not always a matter of doing something we shouldn't, it's also not doing something we should. James 4:17 says "Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it."Sins of omission vs. sins of commission Context of chapter 4 - jealous of what others have, not content with what we have, making business plans without considering God’s plan, friendship with the world makes us enemies of God Core Value - We give up things we love for things we love more. Slow and Steady Wins the RaceThe Bible has much to say about trying to get rich quickly. Those who build wealth slowly and steadily are more likely to manage it well than those who come into money quickly. Proverbs 13:11 says "Wealth gained hastily will dwindle, but whoever gathers little by little will increase it."Proverbs 21:5 says "The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance, but everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty." Nearly one-third of lottery winners eventually go bankrupt within three to five years, which is more likely than the average American, according to the Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards.Jul 19, 202390% of retail options traders lose money, 5.4 billion dollars lost in 12 month period ending March 2022. Network marketing - covetousness, lack of contentment, “dream building” Gambling is Addictive We’re commanded in scripture not to be controlled by anything. Gambling can be highly addictive.  1 Corinthians 6:12 says "You say, 'I am allowed to do anything'—but not everything is good for you. And even though 'I am allowed to do anything,' I must not become a slave to anything."Problem gamblers often lie about or hide their gambling, which can make it difficult for loved ones to recognize. The best prevalence research shows that somewhere between 1% and 2% of the U.S. adult population, or 2 to 4 million adults, will experience a gambling disorder in their lifetime.Feb 8, 2023Even when you’re losing while you’re gambling, your body is still producing adrenalin and endorphins," he says.Casinos thrive on other addictive behaviors - alcoholism, lust.  Almost every place you see a lot of gambling activity, you’ll see prostitution, strip clubs, etc.  Cause a Brother to Stumble It’s not just yourself you have to be concerned about.  If you’re playing cards or betting over a round of golf, you also have to be aware of the person you’re gambling against.  Is it a sin for them? Romans 14:13-14 says "Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. 14 I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself, but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it unclean."Even if it isn’t an issue for you, is it an issue for them? The goal isn’t to see how close we can get to the line before sinning.  It is how we can glorify God and be a light in the world.  

"Is it a sin?" is a question many Christians find asking themselves on a day to day basis. Sometimes, the answer is clear and easy. But other times, it might seem to be a little more of a 'gray area'. In this series, we're applying that question to some commonly debated habits.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Welcome back to our “Is it a Sin” series where we’re taking a look at different habits that if you grew up in the church, you may have always looked upon as sinful. It’s Sinful When…You’re addicted1 Corinthians 6:12 "You say, 'I am allowed to do anything'—but not everything is good for you. And even though 'I am allowed to do anything,' I must not become a slave to anything."Physical addiction, but also do you need it to get through the day or through a stressful situation?  Is it your go-to when you’re stressed out? You’re under age1 Peter 2:13 "For the Lord’s sake, submit to all human authority—whether the king as head of state, 14 or the officials he has appointed. For the king has sent them to punish those who do wrong and to honor those who do right."We’re called to submit to those in authority unless they ask us to do something that goes against God’s authority. You may not like the laws, You might even be able to argue that the laws aren’t logical, but that’s not the point. You’re Pregnant  If you smoke while you are pregnant you are at increased risk of a wide range of problems, including miscarriage and premature labor.Babies whose mothers smoke during pregnancy are at higher risk of sudden unexpected death in infancy (SUDI), having weaker lungs and having an unhealthy low birth weight.Second hand smoke around children Your wife doesn’t want you to smokeEphesians 5:25  "For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word."The Body is a TempleIf you’re going to argue that smoking a single cigarette, pipe, or cigar is sinful because it’s harmful to your body and your body is a temple, that’s fine.  But you need to be consistent. Do you drink diet soda?  Artificial sweeteners have been identified as leading to higher risk of cancer.  Do you eat processed foods?  Are you overweight? Marijuana 1 Peter 5:8 "Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour."1 Peter 1:13 "So prepare your minds for action and exercise self-control. Put all your hope in the gracious salvation that will come to you when Jesus Christ is revealed to the world."Peter knew the agony of failure.  He knew what it was like to have the mindset that “There’s no way I can fail.  I’m strong enough. I know I’ll be able to handle it.”  Only to have it all come crashing down. I know what it’s like to fail.  You’ve got to prepare your minds and exercise self control. 1 Corinthians 16:13 "Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. 14 And do everything with love."Marijuana use directly affects brain function — specifically the parts of the brain responsible for memory, learning, attention, decision-making, coordination, emotions, and reaction time.What are the short-term effects of marijuana on the brain?Recent marijuana use (defined as within 24 hours) in youth and adults has an immediate impact on thinking, attention, memory, coordination, movement, and time perception.What are the long-term effects of marijuana on the brain?Marijuana affects brain development. Developing brains, such as those in babies, children, and teenagers, are especially susceptible to the harmful effects of marijuana and tetrahydrocannabinol (THC). Although scientists are still learning about the effects of marijuana on developing brains, studies suggest that marijuana use by mothers during pregnancy could be linked to problems with attention, memory, problem-solving skills, and behavior in their children.Using marijuana before age 18 may affect how the brain builds connections for functions like attention, memory, and learning. Marijuana’s effects on attention, memory, and learning may last a long time or even be permanent, but more research is needed to fully understand these effects. Youth who use marijuana may not do as well in school and may have trouble remembering things.Mental HealthMarijuana use, especially frequently (daily or nearly daily) and in high doses, can cause disorientation and sometimes unpleasant thoughts or feelings of anxiety and paranoia.1People who use marijuana are more likely to develop temporary psychosis (not knowing what is real, hallucinations, and paranoia) and long-lasting mental disorders, including schizophrenia (a type of mental illness where people might see or hear things that are not really there). The association between marijuana and schizophrenia is stronger in people who start using marijuana at an earlier age and use marijuana more frequently.Marijuana use has also been linked to depression; social anxiety; and thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts, and suicide.CBD products that are THC free Jesus refusing the wine mixed with myrrh during his crucifixion. If you’re feeling conviction about it, even if you are only smoking occasionally, you need to submit to the Spirit. 

"Is it a sin?" is a question many Christians find asking themselves on a day to day basis. Sometimes, the answer is clear and easy. But other times, it might seem to be a little more of a 'gray area'. In this series, we're applying that question to some commonly debated habits.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --Today we’re starting a new series called, “Is it a sin?”  We’re looking at behaviors and habits that most people in the church have historically looked upon as sinful.  As always, we want to know what the Bible says about it, not just what tradition says.  Are they sinful? Are they always sinful, sometimes sinful?  If they’re sometimes sinful, what makes them that way sometimes but not at other times?  Today’s topic - drinking alcohol.  Talking Points:There is no place in scripture that makes a blanket statement forbidding someone from drinking alcohol.  Solomon encouraged his readers to drink their wine with a happy heart (Ecclesiastes 9:7).  Paul encouraged Timothy to drink a little wine for the sake of his stomach.Drunkenness is clearly a sin.  The bible is not ambiguous about it. In addition to its prohibition in Scripture, we see the consequences of drunkenness can be brutal. Even if you stop short of getting drunk, if you have to have a drink to make it through the day, or if alcohol is your “go to” when dealing with stress or frustration, that is sinful. There are a lot of situations where drinking alcohol might be sinful, and at the very least, it would be unwise.

This hot topic has sparked a wide ranging conversation recently, both in modern culture as well as the general Christian community.--The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now --In this conversation, Bryan and John discuss how Christians should view abortion. They address the changing cultural perspective on abortion and the need for Christians to have a firm biblical stance. The conversation encourages men to take responsibility and champion the lives of unborn children, while also extending God's grace and forgiveness to those who have made past mistakes. They also examine the biblical model for marriage and children, highlighting the importance of being open to having children within the context of marriage. Talking Points:Humans are created in the image of God.  As such, they have immeasurable worth and value, and this is true of every human. Life begins at conception.  A child in its mother’s womb is not a clump of cells.  It is a human, created in God’s image.  God has a purpose and plan for his/her life. Is family planning sinful for a believer?  If it isn’t, what is acceptable?

We’re tackling another controversial topic in the men’s podcast today.  A topic that has become highly politicized, and is sure to turn up the intensity of a conversation at the next family get together or company outing.  We’re talking about gun control.  How should Christiians view the gun control debate?  As with any other issue, what does God’s Word say about it?  Does it say anything about it?  I think we’re going to see today that it does offer wisdom on this topic.  --The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men.Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at [email protected] Now -- Our conversation today is really going to have three movements:Is a Christian justified in taking someone’s life in self defense or in the defense of others?  How we answer that question is going to have a big impact on how we view the gun control debate.  If we do believe there are times when that is justified, that leads to the question of is there a limit as to what extent a Christian is able to defend themselves or others?  In other words, are we saying it’s OK to use a baseball bat to defend your family as a Christian, but it is not ok to use a gun.  If it is OK to use a gun, should we put a limit on the types of guns you can use?  Would stricter gun laws reduce gun deaths?  Regardless of the answer to the preceding question, if stricter gun laws are enacted, are Christians obligated to obey them if they feel a moral obligation to protect those around them?  Lastly, as believers, what is our ultimate source of protection?  Where do we place our trust - in our arsenal or in Almighty God?  So that’s where we’re headed.  Let’s get into this first point of conversation.  Defense and ProtectionIs a Christian justified in taking someone’s life in self defense or in the defense of someone else? If this is justified, is there a limit to what extent a Christian is able to defend themselves or others? Exodus 22:2 - “If a thief is caught in the act of breaking into a house and is struck and killed in the process, the person who killed the thief is not guilty of murder. Breaking and entering a home in the night could expose the intruder to the loss of his life (justifiable homicide), in which case the householder would not be held responsible - Expositor’s Bible Commentary The next verse goes on to say, “If it happens in the daytime, he would be guilty of murder.” A man’s possessions are not worth another man’s life.  However, at night, without witnesses, there is no way to know the intentions of the man breaking in.  Is he just trying to steal good or does he have other intentions?  In the Ten Commandments, commandment number 6 is “Thou shall not murder.” It isn’t though shall not kill. Expositor’s bible commentary: The sixth commandment forbids murder. The ethical theology that lies behind this prohibition is that all humans have been created in the image of God (Ge 1:26-27; 9:6). While Hebrew possesses seven words for killing, the word used here (rasah; ) appears only forty-seven times in the OT. This is the one word that could signify "murder" where premeditation and intentionality are present. Thus this prohibition does not apply to beasts (Ge 9:3), to defending one's home from night-time burglars (Ex 22:2), to accidental killings (Dt 19:5), to the execution of murderers by the state (Ge 9:6), or to involvement with one's nation in certain types of war. It does apply, however, to self-murder (i.e., suicide), to all accessories to murder (2Sa 12:9), and to those who have authority but fail to use it to punish known murderers (1Ki 21:19).Matthew 5:39 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.This may be the argument used by Christian pacifists who would say it is never OK to kill someone because the new covenant replaced the law. Most people are right handed.  A slap on the right cheek is a backhanded slap.  It is primarily an insult.  It is not indicative of someone who is trying to kill you or cause you serious bodily harm. Jesus also commanded us to love our neighbor as ourselves. This creates a moral obligation for us to protect our neighbors, in addition to ourselves.  As a believer, there may be a time when God calls me to simply lay down my life.  I think of Christians in the middle east who have been lined up by religious terrorists and beheaded. They didn’t fight.  They knew God was in control.  But what about our neighbors that don’t know Jesus? It’s one thing for me to lay down my life knowing I’m going to meet my Savior and spend eternity with him.  It’s quite another to stand by and watch someone who doesn’t know Jesus head into eternal separation from God. Leviticus 19:16 “Do not spread slanderous gossip among your people. “Do not stand idly by when your neighbor’s life is threatened. I am the Lord” This is another commandment to protect those around us.  I believe there is a pattern we see in scripture where we are called to protect the most vulnerable.  There doesn’t seem to be limitations placed on how we are to protect.  There’s nothing expressly communicated in scripture that says we can only use our bare hands or that Even most “pro-gun” citizens acknowledge there is some limit to the types of weapons a private citizen should have.  You don’t find many folks arguing for hand grenades and RPGs in the home.  Our ability to protect ourselves and others needs to be on par with the level of the threat against our safety.Is it possible to love our enemies and pray for those that persecute us and still carry a firearm for personal protection?  Could we justifiably kill someone we’re supposed to love?  Sodom and Gomorrah Korah - earth swallowed and fire devoured  Government Control Would stricter gun laws reduce gun deaths, and if stricter gun laws are enacted, are Christians obligated to obey them?  U.S. owns more guns than any other nation - ranked 22nd in gun deaths per capita, remove suicides and it ranks even lowerI’m old enough to remember pulling into my high school parking lot and seeing more trucks than not that had rifles in the gun rack of the back windshield.  We never had any shootings in high school  Cities in the U.S. with the strictest gun control legislation regularly lead the nation in gun related deaths. Certainly it seems that data from other countries like Australia suggests that the total number of gun deaths would decrease if gun buy-back programs were mandated and the total number of guns was reduced.  But, are we protecting the most vulnerable if law abiding citizens agree to sell their guns, but the criminals don’t? We have a greater sin issue than we do a gun issueMark 7:21-22 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. 23 All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you.”What if stricter gun laws are enacted?  What is the Christian response? Romans 13:1 Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. 2 So anyone who rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished.Expositor’s Bible Commentary: The teaching in this section is addressed to "everyone," i.e., every believer. What Paul requires is to "submit" to those who ruled from Rome. Submission means placing oneself under someone else. Paul seems to avoid using the stronger word "obey" (cf. also v.5), probably because believers may find it impossible to comply with every demand of the government. A circumstance may arise in which they must choose between obeying God and obeying people (Ac 5:29). But even then they must be submissive in that, if their Christian convictions do not permit their compliance, they will accept the consequences of such refusal.1 Peter 2:13-14  For the Lord’s sake, submit to all human authority—whether the king as head of state, 14 or the officials he has appointed. For the king has sent them to punish those who do wrong and to honor those who do right.Acts 5:29  But Peter and the apostles replied, “We must obey God rather than any human authority.Context of religious leaders telling them not to speak in the name of...