The Message In The Mess!

Send a text When survival mode becomes normal, peace can feel unfamiliar. In today’s episode, we talk about why anxiety often shows up after life finally starts getting better — and how our nervous system must learn that it’s safe again. This conversation explores how trauma lives in the body, why calm can feel uncomfortable at first, and the gentle process of retraining ourselves to move from survival into safety, healing, and true presence. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel anxious even when everything is finally okay… this episode is for you. 

Send a text As we close out 2025, this episode is a pause and a reflection. I’m sharing an honest conversation about healing, letting go, forgiveness, family, gratitude, and grief. On the 27th, it marks one year since my dad passed, and I talk about finding comfort in love, loss, and the belief that those we love never truly leave us. This episode also includes gentle journal prompts to help you find peace right where you are. Thank you for listening and for being part of this journey — there is always a message in the mess. 

Send a textIn today’s episode of The Message in the Mess, we’re having an honest, soul-level conversation about the people we allow into our lives — and the power we have to choose differently.In a world that can feel loud, chaotic, and emotionally draining, it’s easy to believe we have to tolerate toxic relationships simply because they’ve always been there. But the truth is this: in a toxic world, you don’t have to choose toxic people.Together, we explore what it means to build a tribe that reflects who you are becoming, not who you once were. We talk about recognizing one-sided friendships, releasing relationships that no longer serve your growth, and giving yourself permission to let connections fade without guilt or drama.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt exhausted by friendships that drain their peace, confused by loyalty that costs too much, or afraid to choose themselves out of fear of being alone. Through reflection, compassion, and a little humor, we discuss how healthy relationships feel like home — safe, reciprocal, supportive, and grounding.If you’re in a season of growth, healing, or boundary-setting, this episode will remind you that protecting your energy isn’t selfish — it’s necessary. You deserve people who bring light to your table, not chaos.✨ Grab a drink, get comfortable, and give yourself permission to choose peace, growth, and the right people. This conversation may be the reminder your heart didn’t know it needed.

Send a text In this episode of The Message in the Mess, Heather gets raw, real, and a little hilarious about what it truly looks like to try and lose weight in your 50s. Spoiler: it’s not like your 20s… or your 30s… or honestly anything your metabolism ever tried to prepare you for. Heather opens up about walking back into the gym after years away — how the hardest part wasn’t the workout, but the courage it took to walk through the door. She talks about battling hormones, a slower metabolism, cravings that negotiate like seasoned lawyers, and the universal “Where did that come from?” moment in front of the mirror. But this episode isn’t about chasing “skinny.” It’s about chasing healthy. It’s about choosing YOU… even when it’s hard. Even when giving up feels easier. Even when the scale seems to be gaslighting you. Heather shares why you don’t have to give up ice cream, the occasional cocktail, or the soul-comforting macaroni and cheese. Instead, she talks about finding balance — real balance — not punishment disguised as discipline. With compassion, humor, and honesty, she reminds listeners that starting again in your 50s is not a failure. It’s courage. It’s strength. It’s a love letter to your future self. If you’ve ever felt frustrated, defeated, or like your body suddenly switched to “low power mode,” this episode will make you feel seen, supported, and inspired to keep going — one brave step at a time. 

Send a text The holidays aren’t joyful for everyone — and that truth deserves to be spoken out loud. In this heartfelt episode, Heather opens up about what it means to “hold space” during a season that can feel heavy, complicated, or painfully quiet. Whether you’re navigating grief, longing for someone you lost, wrestling with family dynamics, or simply feeling out of rhythm this year, this episode is a gentle reminder that your feelings matter. Heather shares personal reflections, real-life moments, and tender encouragement for anyone who needs to hear, “You’re not alone.” Together, we explore how to honor your heart, protect your peace, and create room for both the joy and the ache this season brings. If you’ve been carrying a lot this year, this is your space. This is your reminder to breathe. This is your permission to feel. Tissues may be needed — but so is this conversation. 

Send a textWelcome to The Message in the Mess—a podcast about finding purpose, strength, and truth in life’s messiest moments. This season, we're diving deep into a powerful and often overlooked tool that transforms lives: consistency.Let’s be honest—life is rarely tidy. It’s chaotic, unpredictable, and full of detours. But in the middle of that mess, there’s a message—and it reveals itself when we keep showing up.This podcast is for the woman who’s healing, building, stretching, or just trying to make it through the day. It's for the ones who feel tired but not done. The ones who know that growth isn’t about doing it all perfectly—it’s about staying committed, even when it’s hard.Every week, we’ll talk about how to build trust with yourself, create routines that serve your soul, and find peace in the process. Because consistency isn’t about being rigid—it’s about being faithful to who you’re becoming.You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to keep going.Come sit with me in the mess. There’s a message waiting for you here.

Send a textWelcome back to The Message in the Mess—where we dig through the chaos of life to find the truths that heal us, grow us, and connect us. I’m your host, Heather, and today’s episode is one that hits close to home for so many of us…Have you ever felt like you’re not enough? Like no matter how much you give, do, or try… it still doesn’t feel like you measure up? Maybe you’re carrying shame, guilt, or a quiet belief that you don’t deserve the good things in life. If that’s you—I see you. I’ve been you.Today, we’re going to talk about those moments—the ones where self-doubt whispers louder than truth. Where we confuse our worth with our productivity, our past, or the way others have treated us. We're going to unpack why those feelings of unworthiness show up, how to challenge them, and how to begin rewriting the story we've been telling ourselves.Because even in your most broken moments, there is a message. Even in your pain, your mess, and your silence—you are worthy. Not because of what you’ve done, but because of who you are.So take a deep breath. Grab a cup of something warm. And let’s walk through this together.

Send a textThis episode by far is the hardest one I have ever done, and to be honest I was not sure I wanted to do podcasts anymore! But with some time, and some healing here is a very small tribute to the first man I ever loved! This podcast is raw and real and filled with some tears!Much Love Heather

Send a textThis has been a struggle for me for a minute and I am learning how I can show up for myself, keep my word to myself and how to create healthy attainable goals! Let's smash our goals and heal together! You got this!

Send a textHow to deal with overly critical people! And some help if you are one of those people!If you enjoyed this podcast, please like and share!

Send a textOn this podcast we talk about why relationships/ marriages fail and how can we heal them!If my podcast touches you in any way please share it!Thank YouHeather

Send a textOn today's podcast I talk about letting yourself just be! How I am learning how to heal and get out of my head! We also cover politics and your mental health!I hope you enjoy!Much LoveHeather

Send a textOn today's podcast I share my thoughts on what is a true friend. I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject!I am thankful for ALL of you and thank you for making my life a better place. 

Send a textThis podcast is about self love, self compassion, self forgiveness and keeping promises to yourself!I hope you enjoy!

Send a textJune is Men's Mental Health Awareness Month. So today we focus on how we can show up, and support our men! If this touches you at all please share and download.Thank you for ALL your support!!!!

Send a textToday I talk about my walk with fear and how it brings up other emotions like guilt and shame. I share that 2024 is my year of healing and I am going to do it outloud and without ANY shame!

Send a textI really believe that we as a society are backsliding on this! People feel entitled to behave and say things that are just not okay! I also talk about my new healing venture of 365 of self-care and self-love! 

Send a textWords Matter, how you speak to others and yourself...mattersNo response...is a responseFamily, friends and letting people just be.

Send a textOn today's podcast I share about my own grief! I share how it effects every aspect of our lives including our bodies! How do we deal with it! When does it end? Does it end? How can we share our stories to help others?

Send a textLearning when it is time to let go ofFriendshipsRelationshipsFamily MembersA JobAnd me sharing a song I love!If this has an impact please like, share and download!

Send a textThis episode is raw and real! I will cover mental health, depression and PTSD.  I  also talk about healing and how I am working on me! Pull up a seat....I hope something I have shared touches something you need to hear!Thank you for your love and support! 

Send a textOn today's podcast Eric dives deep into how to get out of dept! I speak about my struggle with weigh loss and depression. As always we hope you get something out of our podcast and if you do please share!#deptfree#gethealthy#depression#yougotthis

Send a textToday Eric and I talk about how holidays can be hard. And things you should not talk about....like politics, religion and finances. I also shared how I have not spoken to one of my sisters since the 2016 election. There is a lot of laughter in this podcast and we hope we leave you with some takeaways. 

Send a textThis weekend Eric and I were invited to a renewal of vows! It brought up a lot of great topics so we thought we would share them with all of you! As always like and share so we can reach more listeners. 

Send a textOn this special Holiday podcast Eric and I talk about being thankful, kindness and having an attitude of gratitude even when you are struggling. 

Send a textOn today's episode Eric and I talk about how our phones, TV's and gaming devices can affect our relationships, and not in a good way. Let us know your thoughts on this subject! We would love to hear! 

Send a textEric and I open up and talk about how to tame your ego and not be selfish in your friendships and relationships! I absolutely love having my Husband co-host with me

Send a textOn this podcast Eric and I talk about how your partner has care instructions.  How do you show up for your partner? How do love, support, and encourage your partner? We hope you enjoy this podcast, and if you do, please hit the share button.  Thank you for taking the time to listen Heather & Eric

Send a textMy husband Eric shares what life is like living with me. You will get an inside look from my husband perspective.If this podcast makes you think, laugh or learn please hit the share button!

Send a textDating after divorce and much more! My amazing hubby joined me again! I love the fact we can just be honest and talk about our life before one another! We talk about family, friends and prenuptial agreements! If you like what you hear, please download and share, it helps us grow!

Send a textOn this podcast I have my first guest who is my amazing Husband Eric! We talk about how we met and how we make our marriage work!Relationships take time and communication to work...we talk about that and other ways we have found to make our relationship work for us!

Send a textIf you are battling anxiety and depression this podcast is for you! There should never be any shame in having conversation about this subject! September is suicide awareness month if you are struggling and don't have anyone to talk to please call 988  or reach out to someone you are close with! Your enoughness is enough! 

Send a textWhile we think feelings are simple, they are far from it! Anger is not just anger! It is also feeling let down, humiliated and the list goes on! Then if you dig a little deeper, I feel angry, humiliated, and disrespected! I am so excited to share this feeling wheel with all of you! It was a gift from Reiki practitioner Bonnie Sue. Here is her website if you are looking for healing! https://bonnisuehealing.com/As always thank you for your time! If you like my podcast, please share…. This is how I grow!Much Love Heather

Send a textMean Girls! How to spot them, and how to leave them where you found them! Don't allow your tribe to have these types of women in them! Also workplace mean girls and how to spot them and deal with them. 

Send a textTrigger Warning!This is part of my story of surviving domestic violence! I also share statistics on domestic violence. I ask that if this touches you, that you share. Silence kills!October is Domestic Violence awareness month!

Send a textToday's topic is about shame! There are several types and I cover most of them! Family ShameFriendship ShameRelationship ShameWork ShameAll of these are toxic and we need to learn how to heal from them so we don't in turn do this to others.  You may not even know you are one of these people! I also talk about shadow work and how you can heal your past traumas.

Send a textThis Podcast CoversTaking care of abusive parentsNarcissistic relationshipsFinding the right careerAnxiety in toxic situationsHow not to take things personallyPeople always seeking the bad in peopleI cover a lot in about 25 minutes! Thank you for taking the time to listen. #abuse #narcissist #findingyourcareer #don'ttakethingspersonally #kindness #justdoyou #anxiety #healing #findingyourtribe 

Send a textToday I talk about self worth and self esteem. If you feel you struggle in this area, join the club! I hope by me sharing it will help you start to heal those areas if need be! Your enoughness is enough!#selfworth#selfesteem#yougotthis#youareenough

Send a textWelcome to The Message in The Mess! This is my first episode and I hope it is the first of many! I have so much to share and hope I can help others along the way.