The Motherwhelm

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Alena to explore recurrent miscarriage, motherhood after forty, the realities of single motherhood, and how becoming a mother can become a catalyst for healing, self-trust, and coming home to yourself.Alena reflects on becoming a mother after a life marked by parentification, instability, adversity, and a deep longing to create the family she had always imagined. She shares her experience of separating from her eldest son's father when he was a baby, navigating seven years of single motherhood, and experiencing a period of homelessness while trying to build a safe and stable life for them both.We also discuss Alena's ten pregnancies, including pregnancy termination, multiple miscarriages, IVF, and the four-year journey that eventually led to conceiving her youngest child naturally at forty-four. Alena speaks openly about the complexity of reproductive loss, why miscarriage and termination deserve compassionate and nuanced conversations, and the intuitive sense that helped her continue when others thought she should simply let go.Together, we explore the perfect mother myth, inherited family patterns, maternal rage, depletion, boundaries, and the importance of caring for yourself as a woman rather than continually abandoning your own needs. Drawing on her work as a somatic therapist, Alena shares how awareness, emotional expression, self-compassion, and reconnecting with the body can help women come home to themselves.Alena also reflects on raising children across very different seasons of her life, giving birth in her twenties and forties, the isolation of single motherhood, and the communities that helped her feel supported and understood. We talk about integrating motherhood with ambition, work, relationships, spirituality, physical strength, and the many identities a woman carries throughout her life.This is a thoughtful conversation about resilience, intuition, maternal depletion, and learning that motherhood does not magically heal us - but it can give us a powerful reason to pursue healing for ourselves.If you feel like you've lost touch with yourself while caring for everyone else, I hope Alena's story reminds you that support is available, your needs matter, and it is never too late to come home to yourself.Resources mentioned:Alena's podcast, UnboxableThe Lion Life RoadmapLael StoneLouise HayDr Oscar SerrallachDr Zach BushPop Culture ParentingAlena's birth story on the She Births blogTopics discussed:recurrent miscarriage, pregnancy loss, termination, motherhood after forty, pregnancy in your forties, IVF, single motherhood, homelessness, motherhood after adversity, parentification, perfect mother myth, intergenerational trauma, epigenetics, intuition, somatic therapy, maternal depletion, postnatal depletion, maternal rage, boundaries, self-abandonment, self-compassion, emotional regulation, attachment parenting, motherhood identity, community, women's health, martial arts, birth experiences, postpartum support, healing and self-discovery.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Jess to talk about two vastly different birth experiences, the power of community, and how motherhood transformed not only the way she parents, but the woman she has become.Jess shares her journey from a fast-paced corporate career to unexpectedly becoming a mother during the COVID-19 pandemic. She reflects on preparing for an empowering physiological birth, experiencing the uninterrupted stillness of postpartum lockdowns, and later facing a completely different reality when a hidden placental haemorrhage led to an emergency caesarean birth at just 33 weeks and a NICU stay with her second baby. Together, we explore birth trauma, premature birth, the emotional complexity of having a baby in NICU, and the importance of processing difficult birth experiences rather than carrying them alone. Jess speaks candidly about rebuilding after trauma, trusting her intuition, and why every mother deserves access to compassionate birth trauma support. We also talk about the profound identity shift that comes with motherhood, leaving behind a successful corporate career, embracing slower seasons of life, and discovering a new passion for supporting women through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. One of the most beautiful parts of Jess's story is how loneliness led her to create the village she longed for - quite literally introducing herself to mothers walking past her house until a thriving community began to grow. This is a conversation about birth, healing, matrescence, and the courage to step outside your comfort zone. It's a reminder that while motherhood rarely unfolds the way we imagine, it often leads us exactly where we were meant to be.If you've experienced birth trauma, a NICU journey, the loneliness of early motherhood, or you're longing to find your village, I hope Jess's story reminds you that healing happens in connection, and sometimes all it takes is one brave conversation to change everything.Resources mentionedBooksTen Moons – Jane Hardwicke CollingsThe First Forty Days – Heng OuIna May's Guide to Breastfeeding – Ina May GaskinBooks by Sarah J. BuckleyAuthors & EducatorsJane Hardwicke CollingsIna May GaskinSarah J. BuckleyTopics discussed: physiological birth, birth trauma, emergency caesarean, placental abruption, retroplacental haematoma, NICU, premature birth, postpartum recovery, birth debriefing, breastfeeding, postpartum planning, motherhood identity, matrescence, career change, postpartum support, village-building, community, women's circles, motherhood friendship, intuition, COVID pregnancy, home birth planning, healing after birth trauma.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Jenna to talk about infertility, IVF, birth trauma, emotional regulation, and learning to trust yourself through motherhood.Jenna shares her long road to becoming a mother, from navigating endometriosis, blocked fallopian tubes, and IVF during the uncertainty of the COVID-19 pandemic, to welcoming her two boys after years of longing. She reflects on the heartbreak of infertility, the emotional toll of repeated setbacks, and the profound gratitude that followed becoming a mother.Together, we explore two traumatic birth experiences, the grief of an unexpected emergency caesarean, and the deep disappointment of preparing for a VBAC that ultimately ended the same way. Jenna speaks openly about birth trauma, postpartum mental health, infant feeding challenges, and the pressure she placed on her body after feeling it had "failed" her through infertility, birth, and breastfeeding.We also discuss motherhood identity, accepting help, raising emotionally secure boys, body image after motherhood, and the ongoing work of learning to regulate our own emotions while teaching our children to regulate theirs. Jenna shares how motherhood has transformed her confidence, strengthened her relationships, and taught her to trust her instincts above the endless noise of conflicting advice.This is an honest conversation about resilience, healing, letting go of perfection, and discovering that motherhood isn't about getting everything right, it's about showing up, repairing when we need to, and growing alongside our children.If you've experienced infertility, IVF, birth trauma, difficult postpartum emotions, or you've ever questioned whether your body has let you down, I hope Jenna's story reminds you that healing is possible, and that your worth has never been defined by how your motherhood journey began.Resources mentioned:Australian VBAC Stories PodcastAustralian Birth StoriesJess UrlichsMatrescent MuseRaising Boys – Maggie DentCatherine DennyEmma HeaphyTopics discussed:IVF, infertility, endometriosis, PCOS, blocked fallopian tubes, COVID fertility treatment, birth trauma, emergency caesarean, VBAC, birth debrief, postpartum mental health, breastfeeding challenges, formula feeding, body image, motherhood identity, emotional regulation, raising boys, gentle parenting, motherhood confidence, village, trusting your instincts.Resources mentionedTopics discussed:

In the very first episode of Motherwhelm Memos, mothers from around the world answer one simple question:What is something about motherhood that no one prepared you for?The answers are raw, funny, heartbreaking, validating, and deeply honest.From navigating mum guilt, advocating for sick children, coping with sensory overload and the relentless mental load, to grieving the loss of certainty, parenting neurodivergent children, and living with the physical realities of pregnancy and postpartum, these voice notes capture motherhood exactly as it's being lived.These aren't polished interviews or carefully crafted stories.They're real voice notes, recorded in cars, backyards, kitchens, and the small moments mothers could carve out for themselves.Because sometimes we don't need advice.We just need to hear another mother say,"Me too." If you've ever wondered whether you're the only one carrying the invisible weight of motherhood, this episode is a reminder that you are not alone.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Tahlia to talk about identity, community, and the often-contradictory emotions that come with becoming a mother.Tahlia shares her experience of becoming a young mum, navigating breastfeeding challenges, and the overwhelming transition into motherhood after expecting it to come naturally. Together, we explore the loneliness of being the first mother in your friendship group, the guilt of not instantly loving motherhood, and the relief of discovering that joy and struggle can exist side by side.We also discuss the pressure mothers place on themselves, the impact of birth interventions and early separation after birth, finding confidence in your own parenting, and why asking for help is one of the bravest things a mother can do. Tahlia reflects on how motherhood transformed her relationships, her career, and her sense of self, eventually leading her to create women's circles that foster the connection and community she longed for in her own postpartum journey.This is a thoughtful conversation about matrescence, identity, self-compassion, community, and learning that motherhood isn't about becoming the "perfect" mother, it's about becoming more fully yourself.If you've ever struggled with postpartum mental health, breastfeeding, loneliness, or wondered why motherhood felt so different from what you expected, I hope Tahlia's story reminds you that you're not failing, you're becoming.Resources mentionedAll About Love by bell hooksHeld by Tahlia (@held.bytahlia)Women's Circles facilitated by TahliaTopics discussed: breastfeeding challenges, formula feeding, birth interventions, early separation after birth, matrescence, motherhood identity, young motherhood, postpartum support, mothers' groups, community, women's circles, self-compassion, body image, relationships after children, postpartum intimacy, parenting confidence, mental health, village, motherhood expectations.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Sarah to talk about severe preeclampsia, birth trauma, and being diagnosed with autism and ADHD after becoming a mother.Sarah shares her experience of a high-risk pregnancy that ended in a traumatic emergency caesarean birth at 35 weeks, a stay in ICU, and a long physical and emotional recovery. Together, we explore what it was like to begin motherhood while recovering from a near-death experience, navigating postpartum PTSD, and learning to bond with her baby while fighting to recover herself.We also discuss the guilt of not loving stay-at-home motherhood in the way she expected, the importance of having an identity beyond motherhood, and why advocating for yourself during pregnancy can be lifesaving. Sarah speaks candidly about missed warning signs, weight bias in healthcare, recognising the symptoms of preeclampsia, and the lasting impact pregnancy complications can have long after birth.Later in the conversation, Sarah shares how motherhood led her to seek an assessment for autism and ADHD, opening the door to a completely new understanding of herself. We explore sensory overwhelm, masking, late diagnosis in women, and why so many mothers discover their neurodivergence after having children.This is an honest conversation about surviving birth trauma, rebuilding after medical complications, embracing neurodivergence, and learning that motherhood can reveal parts of ourselves we never knew existed.If you've experienced preeclampsia, birth trauma, postpartum PTSD, or you've found yourself questioning your own neurodivergence since becoming a mother, I hope Sarah's story helps you feel seen and reminds you that you're not alone.Resources mentionedSay HoorayPerinatal mental health supportTopics discussed: preeclampsia, severe preeclampsia, pregnancy complications, emergency caesarean, birth trauma, ICU, postpartum PTSD, postpartum recovery, premature birth, advocacy in pregnancy, medical bias, maternal mental health, motherhood identity, returning to work, autism in women, ADHD in women, AuDHD, late diagnosis, sensory overwhelm, masking, neurodivergent motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Bianca, a clinical psychologist and mum of two, to talk about pregnancy after loss, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), and the lasting impact of grief on motherhood.Bianca shares her extraordinary journey through an early miscarriage, the devastating loss of her daughter following a prenatal diagnosis, and the anxiety of navigating pregnancy after loss. Together, we explore the often-silenced reality of termination for medical reasons (TFMR), the complex grief that accompanies making an impossible decision, and why these experiences deserve greater understanding and compassion.We also discuss the anxiety of pregnancy after loss, navigating repeated high-risk pregnancies, advocating for yourself during birth, and the impact that difficult postpartum experiences can have on identity, perfectionism, and the mother-child relationship. Drawing on both her lived experience and her work as a psychologist, Bianca shares the strategies that helped her survive overwhelming anxiety, including the principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the importance of making space for difficult emotions rather than fighting against them.This is a deeply moving conversation about grief, healing, self-compassion, and learning that motherhood is not about doing everything perfectly. It is about showing up, allowing yourself to be supported, and trusting that even after unimaginable heartbreak, joy and hope can exist alongside grief.If you've experienced miscarriage, pregnancy after loss, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), birth trauma, postpartum challenges, or you're navigating the pressure of perfectionism in motherhood, I hope Bianca's story helps you feel seen, understood, and a little less alone.Connect with BiancaInstagram: @drbiancamastromannoTopics discussed: miscarriage, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), pregnancy after loss, prenatal diagnosis, recurrent pregnancy anxiety, birth trauma, postpartum recovery, perfectionism, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), self-compassion, maternal mental health, grief, motherhood identity.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Michelle to talk about miscarriage, motherhood after loss, surrender, and the unexpected lessons motherhood teaches us about letting go.Michelle reflects on becoming a mother after three miscarriages, navigating an emergency caesarean birth, and discovering that babies cannot be managed like projects. Together, we explore the tension between ambition and stillness, the pressure to parent perfectly, and the profound shift from living only for yourself to making decisions for your family.Michelle shares how pregnancy loss shaped her gratitude for motherhood, why community and mothers' groups became essential during the postpartum period, and the lessons she inherited from both her mother and grandmother. We also discuss raising an only child, parenting through the teenage years, creating meaningful family rituals after loss, and why surrender may be one of motherhood's greatest teachers.Motherhood also inspired Michelle to build Stella Says, a business that has grown from a thoughtfully developed head lice product into a mobile head lice removal service supporting families across Melbourne and Geelong. Her entrepreneurial journey is another reminder that motherhood can open unexpected doors, allowing women to combine purpose, creativity, and practical support for other families.This is a thoughtful conversation about grief, intentional parenting, community, and learning that motherhood isn't something we master through control - it unfolds through presence, surrender, and the courage to grow alongside our children.If you've experienced miscarriage, motherhood after loss, or you're learning to let go of perfection and embrace a more intentional way of parenting, I hope Michelle's story leaves you feeling encouraged and deeply understood.Resources mentionedMeshel Laurie (@meshel_laurie)Stella Says – stellasays.com.auTopics discussed: miscarriage, pregnancy loss, motherhood after loss, surrender, intentional parenting, family rituals, grief, emergency caesarean, career and motherhood, entrepreneurship, community, motherhood identity.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Tara, a mum of two, former emergency nurse, and founder of Proud Poppy, to talk about birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, and rebuilding yourself through motherhood.Tara shares her journey through a difficult first experience of motherhood, including a traumatic birth, postpartum anxiety and depression, infant feeding challenges, and the weight of trying to create the "perfect" family life she never had growing up. Together, we explore the pressure so many mothers place on themselves, the realities of maternal mental health, body image after children, and the lifelong work of healing childhood wounds while raising children of your own.We also discuss how motherhood became the catalyst for creating Proud Poppy, the clothing brand and community that grew from Tara's desire to help women feel seen, comfortable, and confident in their bodies. From fertility struggles and motherhood guilt to entrepreneurship, self-acceptance, and letting go of impossible standards, Tara's story is a powerful reminder that motherhood can become the beginning of finding yourself—not the end of who you are.Please note: This conversation was recorded around two years ago, so some details of Tara's business and family life have naturally changed since then. The heart of this conversation, however, remains just as relevant.If you've experienced birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, postnatal depression, or you're navigating the challenge of healing while raising your own children, I hope Tara's story reminds you that growth is possible and that you're not alone.Topics discussed: birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, postnatal depression, childhood trauma, healing childhood wounds, body image after pregnancy, entrepreneurship, Proud Poppy, self-acceptance, motherhood identity, maternal mental health, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Elizabeth, a fertility coach and mum of three, to talk about pregnancy after 40, miscarriage, fertility, and the many unexpected turns on the path to motherhood.After years of building a successful career, freezing her eggs, and believing motherhood would happen when the time was right, Elizabeth found herself navigating fibroids, recurrent pregnancy loss, fertility treatment, and ultimately welcoming three children after the age of forty. She shares the emotional reality of becoming a mother later in life while continuing to grow two businesses and redefine what success looked like for her.Together, we explore the often-overlooked emotional impact of infertility, the experience of miscarriage, difficult caesarean births, and the challenge of balancing ambition with the demands of motherhood. Elizabeth also reflects on why pregnancy loss deserves to be spoken about more openly, the importance of finding the right support, and how motherhood reshaped her identity in unexpected ways.Elizabeth's story is one of resilience, hope, and trusting that life's timeline doesn't always unfold as planned. It's a reminder that motherhood isn't about doing everything perfectly—it's about showing up, adapting, and allowing yourself to receive support along the way.If you're navigating fertility after 40, pregnancy after 40, egg freezing, miscarriage, or trying to balance career and motherhood, I hope Elizabeth's story leaves you feeling informed, encouraged, and less alone.Connect with ElizabethInstagram: @theofficialelizabethkingTopics discussed: pregnancy after 40, fertility after 40, infertility, miscarriage, recurrent pregnancy loss, egg freezing, fertility treatment, fibroids, career and motherhood, motherhood identity, caesarean birth, fertility coaching.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Sophie, a mum of two, to talk about postpartum psychosis, bipolar disorder, recovery, and finding hope after severe perinatal mental illness.Just days after the birth of her first baby, Sophie experienced postpartum psychosis, a rare and severe mental health condition that completely changed the course of her motherhood journey. What followed were multiple hospital admissions, a diagnosis of bipolar disorder, a long road to recovery, and the heartbreaking question of whether she could safely have another child.Together, we explore what it felt like to lose touch with reality, the trauma of being separated from her newborn, and the extraordinary support Sophie received through a specialist Mother and Baby Unit. She also shares her experience of navigating a second pregnancy after postpartum psychosis, the return of intrusive thoughts after birth, and the ongoing process of parenting while living with bipolar disorder.This is an honest conversation about perinatal mental health, resilience, advocacy, and the courage it takes to ask for help. Sophie's story is a powerful reminder that recovery is possible, that motherhood and serious mental illness can coexist, and that no mother should ever have to navigate these experiences alone.If you or someone you love has experienced postpartum psychosis, bipolar disorder, or severe perinatal mental illness, I hope Sophie's story offers hope, understanding, and reassurance that recovery is possible.Topics discussed: postpartum psychosis, bipolar disorder, Mother and Baby Unit, perinatal mental health, psychiatric admission, intrusive thoughts, recovery, motherhood after psychosis, maternal mental health, advocacy.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Sharon, a mum of two, to talk about birth trauma, home birth, informed consent, and finding your voice as a mother.Sharon shares two very different birth experiences. The first was a long and difficult hospital birth that left her physically and emotionally depleted. The second was a planned home birth that unfolded beautifully before a severe postpartum haemorrhage led to emergency surgery and a challenging hospital admission. Together, we explore the complexities of birth trauma, navigating the maternity system, medical advocacy, and what happens when parents don't feel heard.We also discuss informed consent, postnatal depression, raising children without nearby family support, building a village from scratch, ADHD and motherhood, balancing work and caregiving, and the ways motherhood has transformed Sharon's confidence, resilience, and sense of self.This is a conversation about trusting yourself, asking questions, advocating for your family, and recognising that healing often begins when mothers feel informed, supported, and empowered to use their own voice.If you've experienced birth trauma, are considering a home birth, want to better understand informed consent in maternity care, or you're rebuilding after a difficult postpartum experience, I hope Sharon's story reminds you that your voice matters.Topics discussed: birth trauma, home birth, postpartum haemorrhage, informed consent, medical advocacy, maternity care, postnatal depression, ADHD, motherhood identity, community, postpartum recovery.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Tess, a mum of two and women's health occupational therapist, to talk about matrescence, perfectionism, maternal wellbeing, and the profound identity shifts of motherhood.Tess's work centres around matrescence, maternal mental health, postpartum wellbeing, and supporting mothers through one of the biggest transitions of their lives. Drawing on both her professional expertise and her own lived experience, she shares a thoughtful perspective on the emotional, physical, and relational changes that accompany becoming a mother.Together, we explore perfectionism, people-pleasing, sensory overwhelm, postpartum recovery, changing relationships, and the pressure so many women feel to live up to the impossible expectations of the "perfect mother." Tess speaks openly about the assumptions she carried into motherhood, the realities she encountered, and the deep self-reflection that has shaped both her parenting and her work.We also discuss birth experiences, preparing for the postpartum period, the importance of community, and why mothers need other mothers. This is a conversation about letting go of perfection, embracing the ongoing process of becoming, and recognising that maternal wellbeing matters just as much as infant wellbeing.If you're navigating matrescence, struggling with perfectionism, or trying to find yourself again after becoming a mother, I hope this conversation helps you feel understood and reminds you that you don't have to carry motherhood alone.Connect with TessInstagram: @_ostara_otResources [email protected]@seasonsofmatrescence@coreandfloorrestore@raisedgoodBooksThe Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonRaising a Secure Child by Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper and Bert PowellThe Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did) by Philippa PerryMotherwhelmed by Beth BerryBody Full of Stars by Molly Caro MayPodcasts & programsThe Great Birth RebellionCircle of Security Parenting ProgramMama Matters AcademyRaised Good SummitTopics discussed: matrescence, maternal wellbeing, maternal mental health, perfectionism, sensory overwhelm, people-pleasing, postpartum wellbeing, motherhood identity, occupational therapy, community, relationships after children, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Julia, a mum of two, to talk about postpartum psychosis, postnatal depression, insomnia, and the long journey back to herself after becoming a mother.Julia shares how motherhood challenged the highly organised, perfection-driven identity she had built before having children. She speaks candidly about the shock of early motherhood, the relentless pressure to "get it right," and the devastating experience of postpartum psychosis and postnatal depression that followed.Together, we explore the role of insomnia in Julia's illness, the impact of severe perinatal mental illness on relationships and identity, and the courage it took to accept help and begin rebuilding her life. Her story is a powerful reminder that recovery isn't about returning to who you were before—it's about discovering who you are becoming.This is a conversation about surrendering perfectionism, healing after profound illness, and finding joy in the ordinary moments of motherhood once again.If you or someone you love has experienced postpartum psychosis, postnatal depression, postpartum insomnia, or severe perinatal mental illness, I hope Julia's story offers reassurance that recovery is possible and that no one should have to face these experiences alone.Topics discussed: postpartum psychosis, postnatal depression, postpartum depression, postpartum insomnia, perinatal mental illness, perfectionism, identity shift, recovery, motherhood, maternal mental health.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Jen, a mum of three and founder of Sleep Thrive Grow, to talk about birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, intuitive parenting, and learning to trust yourself as a mother.Jen reflects on her first pregnancy, an emergency caesarean birth, and a difficult postpartum period marked by physical pain, postpartum anxiety, delayed bonding, and a distressing early hospital experience. She shares with great honesty how those early challenges shaped her transition into motherhood, and how they ultimately led her to question perfectionism and reconnect with her instincts.As her family grew, so did her confidence. Through two planned caesarean births, Jen embraced a more intuitive, cue-based approach to parenting, discovering that there is no one-size-fits-all path through motherhood. We also discuss feeding challenges, the impact of motherhood on relationships, and the profound exhaustion that so many mothers carry.These experiences eventually inspired Jen to found Sleep Thrive Grow, where she now supports families with compassionate, responsive, and individualised sleep guidance. Her story is a beautiful reminder that healing doesn't happen all at once—it unfolds as we learn to trust ourselves, honour our children, and let go of impossible expectations.If you've experienced birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, delayed bonding, or you're looking for a more intuitive approach to parenting, I hope Jen's story leaves you feeling reassured, understood, and empowered.Topics discussed: birth trauma, emergency caesarean, postpartum anxiety, delayed bonding, matrescence, intuitive parenting, cue-based parenting, responsive parenting, infant sleep, motherhood identity, healing, Sleep Thrive Grow.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with my Aunty Anneliese, a mother of three, to talk about childhood trauma, breaking generational cycles, and raising neurodivergent children with love and intention.Anneliese shares her extraordinary journey of becoming a mother at just 21 years old while still healing from the effects of childhood trauma and abuse. Together, we explore what it means to parent differently from the way you were parented, the courage it takes to break generational cycles, and the resilience required to keep showing up for your children while continuing your own healing.We also discuss solo parenting, raising children with ADHD and autism, and the importance of recognising and supporting neurodivergent children in ways previous generations often couldn't. Through every challenge, Anneliese's story is one of fierce love, hope, and the quiet victories that come from choosing a different path for your family.If you've experienced childhood trauma, you're working to break generational cycles, raising neurodivergent children, or navigating solo motherhood, I hope Anneliese's story reminds you that healing doesn't require perfection—it begins with choosing a different way forward.Connect with AnnelieseSubstack: substack.com/@anneliesesennTopics discussed: childhood trauma, generational trauma, breaking cycles, solo motherhood, solo parenting, ADHD, autism, neurodivergence, abuse recovery, motherhood, resilience, feminist storytelling.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Ciara, a labour and delivery nurse, mama coach, and mother, to talk about ectopic pregnancy, IVF, postnatal depression, and the long road to motherhood.Ciara shares her deeply personal journey through ectopic pregnancy, pregnancy loss, and IVF, reflecting on the profound impact these experiences had on her body, her mental health, and her sense of self. Together, we explore the hope, heartbreak, and resilience required to keep moving forward when the path to motherhood is anything but straightforward.We also discuss perinatal mental health, Ciara's experience of postnatal depression, and the support that helped her navigate the postpartum period. Drawing on both her lived experience and her work as a labour and delivery nurse, Ciara offers thoughtful insight into the experiences of Black mothers within the maternity healthcare system and the systemic inequities that continue to contribute to disparities in maternal outcomes.If you've experienced ectopic pregnancy, IVF, pregnancy loss, postnatal depression, or you're interested in understanding Black maternal health, I hope Ciara's story leaves you feeling informed, seen, and reminded that your experience matters.Book mentionedThe Nurture Revolution: Grow Your Baby's Brain and Transform Their Mental Health through the Art of Nurtured Parenting by Greer KirshenbaumInstagram accounts mentioned@herblackwellness@antiracistnursecollective@thesleepdoctor@bundlebirthnursesTopics discussed: ectopic pregnancy, pregnancy loss, IVF, infertility, postnatal depression, perinatal mental health, labour and delivery nurse, Black maternal health, maternal healthcare, motherhood, resilience.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Caroline, a perinatal psychologist and now mum of two, to talk about postnatal anxiety, breastfeeding, and the identity shifts of first-time motherhood.This episode is a little time capsule.Recorded two years ago and recently recovered from the archives, this conversation captures Caroline in a very specific season of her motherhood journey—as a first-time mum navigating postnatal anxiety, a challenging breastfeeding journey, and the profound transformation that comes with becoming a mother for the first time.Since we recorded this conversation, Caroline has welcomed another baby. Listening back now feels like being invited into a moment that can never quite be recreated—only remembered. It's a beautiful reminder that motherhood is always evolving, and that every version of ourselves deserves to be honoured with compassion.If you're navigating postnatal anxiety, adjusting to first-time motherhood, or finding your own way through the early postpartum period, I hope this conversation reminds you that every season of motherhood has something to teach us.Topics discussed: postnatal anxiety, breastfeeding, first-time motherhood, motherhood identity, self-discovery, perinatal psychology, postpartum, maternal mental health, early motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Emily Souder, a mother of two, perinatal therapist, and co-author of Your NICU Story, to talk about chronic illness, neurodivergence, and embracing a different way of mothering.Emily shares her experience of navigating motherhood while living with chronic illness, Hashimoto's disease, and neurodivergence, reflecting on the ongoing process of surrendering expectations and creating a family life that aligns with her values rather than society's. Together, we explore the freedom that can come from letting go of perfection, embracing acceptance, and trusting that there is no single "right" way to raise a family.We also discuss homeschooling, caring for yourself while caring for others, and how Emily's personal experiences continue to shape both her motherhood and her work supporting families as a perinatal therapist. Her perspective is a gentle reminder that motherhood isn't about fitting into someone else's mould—it's about finding the courage to honour what your family truly needs.If you're navigating chronic illness, Hashimoto's disease, neurodivergence, or you're learning to release unrealistic expectations of yourself as a mother, I hope Emily's story encourages you to trust your own path.Podcasts mentionedMom and Mind with Dr KatBooks mentionedBody Full of Stars: Female Rage and My Passage into Motherhood by Molly Caro MayBirth Story Brave, Reimagined by Emily SouderBirth Story Held for Loss by Emily SouderYour NICU Story: Reflecting on Your Family's Experience by Emily Souder and Mahaley PatelTopics discussed: chronic illness, Hashimoto's disease, neurodivergence, ADHD, homeschooling, motherhood identity, surrender, acceptance, perinatal therapist, rejecting societal expectations, Your NICU Story, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Mahaley Patel, perinatal therapist, co-author of Your NICU Story, and mother of four, to talk about infant loss, birth after loss, surrogacy, and parenting through grief.Mahaley shares the story of losing her second daughter, Sacchi, and reflects on how that profound loss shaped every chapter of motherhood that followed. Together, we explore the complexities of infant loss, birth after loss, and her family's surrogacy journey, as well as the ongoing challenge of parenting while carrying both love and grief.We also discuss what it means to honour the child who died without allowing grief to overshadow the lives of the children who are here today. Mahaley speaks with extraordinary honesty about balancing fear with hope, making room for joy alongside sorrow, and creating a childhood for her children that is filled with love while acknowledging the daughter who will always be part of their family.If you've experienced infant loss, NICU loss, birth after loss, surrogacy, or you're navigating the lifelong journey of parenting while grieving, I hope Mahaley's story offers comfort, understanding, and the reassurance that love can hold both grief and hope at the same time.Books mentionedYour NICU Story: Reflecting on Your Family's Experience by Mahaley Patel and Emily SouderThe Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonHow to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber and Julie KingThe Family Firm by Emily OsterBooks by Dr Becky KennedyUntangled by Lisa DamourReviving Ophelia by Mary PipherTopics discussed: infant loss, neonatal loss, NICU, birth after loss, surrogacy, grief, parenting after loss, perinatal mental health, perinatal therapist, motherhood, healing.

In this episode of Motherwhelm Bites, I sit down with Ali Heppell and Bronte Taylor to talk about birth trauma, matrescence, healing, and what mothers really need after difficult birth experiences.Ali is a mother of two, postpartum doula, matrescence educator, motherhood studies practitioner, and women's circle facilitator. Bronte is a mother, accredited mental health social worker, motherhood studies practitioner, and EMDR and Schema therapist. Together, they bring a deeply compassionate, trauma-informed perspective to supporting mothers as they make sense of birth, identity, and the transition into motherhood.Together, we explore what birth trauma really is, how it can affect both the mind and body, and why so many mothers struggle to recognise or validate their own experiences. We also discuss matrescence, the cultural silence surrounding maternal suffering, and what genuine healing can look like after a difficult birth.This conversation is a thoughtful invitation to approach birth trauma with curiosity rather than judgement, and a reminder that healing isn't reserved for moments of crisis—it can begin whenever a mother feels ready to honour her story.Whether you've experienced birth trauma, support mothers in your professional work, or simply want to better understand the realities of maternal mental health, I hope this conversation leaves you feeling informed, validated, and hopeful.Connect with Ali & BronteInstagram: @aliheppell_mothercareInstagram: @bronte_heartfelttherapyTopics discussed: birth trauma, birth trauma recovery, healing after birth trauma, matrescence, EMDR therapy, Schema therapy, motherhood studies, postpartum doula, women's circles, maternal mental health, trauma-informed care, motherhood identity.

In this episode of Motherwhelm Bites, I sit down with Emily Souder and Mahaley Patel - therapists, authors, and mothers - to talk about NICU trauma, grief, healing, and their book, Your NICU Story: Reflecting on Your Family's Experience.Drawing on both their professional expertise and lived experience, Emily and Mahaley explore the complex emotional landscape of life after the NICU. Together, we discuss the lasting impact of NICU trauma, the many forms of grief families can experience, and the challenge of holding seemingly conflicting emotions—like gratitude for survival alongside heartbreak for what was lost.We also talk about the unique experiences of birthing parents, the often-overlooked perspectives of partners, and how writing Your NICU Story became a way of creating space for families to process, reflect on, and make meaning of their experiences. Their thoughtful, compassionate approach is a powerful reminder that healing doesn't mean forgetting—it means allowing every part of your story to be acknowledged.Whether you've experienced a NICU stay, infant loss, birth trauma, or you're supporting someone who has, I hope this conversation helps you feel more informed, understood, and less alone.Connect with Emily & MahaleyInstagram: @emily.souder.lscwcInstagram: @mahaleypatelYour NICU Story: yournicustorybook.comTopics discussed: NICU, NICU trauma, infant loss, grief, birth trauma, perinatal mental health, neonatal intensive care, trauma recovery, reflective journalling, partners in the NICU, healing after the NICU.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Haley, an actress and mum, to talk about postpartum depression, motherhood during the COVID-19 pandemic, and the identity shifts that come with becoming a mother.Haley shares her experience of navigating the isolation of the COVID-19 postpartum period, the emotional challenges of postpartum depression, and the ongoing work of staying true to her values while adjusting to life as a mother. Together, we explore how motherhood can prompt us to examine the patterns we've inherited, choose what we want to carry forward, and intentionally break generational cycles for our children.We also discuss the importance of speaking honestly about both the joy and the difficulty of motherhood, embracing the profound identity shifts that accompany this season of life, and finding connection even when motherhood feels lonely. Haley's story is a beautiful reminder that vulnerability creates space for other mothers to feel seen.If you've experienced postpartum depression, navigated motherhood during COVID-19, or you're learning to trust yourself while creating a different path for your family, I hope Haley's story reminds you that you're not alone.Resources mentionedInstagramWhole Body PregnancyLife After Birth with Yara HearyTerra de MamaThe Breastfeeding MentorBirth resourceThe Bradley MethodBooksGood Inside by Dr Becky KennedyThe Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonThe Gardener and the Carpenter by Alison GopnikTopics discussed: postpartum depression, COVID-19, pandemic postpartum, postpartum isolation, motherhood identity, identity shifts, breaking generational cycles, maternal mental health, motherhood, values-based parenting.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Ariane Beeston - author, psychologist, perinatal mental health advocate, and survivor of postpartum psychosis - to talk about maternal mental illness, recovery, and the healing power of storytelling.Ariane shares her extraordinary journey through postpartum psychosis, reflecting on the devastating impact it had on her sense of self, the long road to recovery, and the courage it took to tell her story publicly. Together, we explore the silence that so often surrounds maternal mental illness, the importance of compassionate, trauma-informed care, and how healing can begin when women feel truly seen and understood.We also discuss Ariane's memoir, Because I'm Not Myself, You See, and the role that writing played in helping her make sense of her experience. Her story is a powerful reminder that recovery is possible, that vulnerability can create profound connection, and that sharing our stories has the power to change lives.If you or someone you love has been affected by postpartum psychosis, perinatal mental illness, or you're searching for stories of hope and recovery after becoming a mother, I hope this conversation offers comfort, understanding, and reassurance that you are not alone.Resources mentionedBecause I'm Not Myself, You See: A Memoir of Motherhood, Madness, and Coming Back From the Brink by Ariane BeestonCOPE – Centre of Perinatal ExcellencePerinatal Stories Australia podcastKaren Kleiman & The Postpartum Stress CentreTopics discussed: postpartum psychosis, maternal mental illness, perinatal mental health, recovery, memoir, storytelling, identity after motherhood, psychology, trauma recovery, advocacy, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Madeline, a mum of two, cosplayer, gamer, and passionate maths teacher, to talk about motherhood identity, creativity, and honouring your own needs.Madeline shares how she has navigated the ever-changing landscape of motherhood while holding onto the passions that make her who she is. Together, we explore the importance of making space for creativity, embracing hobbies without guilt, and recognising that caring for ourselves is an essential part of caring for our children.We also discuss identity, self-acceptance, neurodivergence, and the ways motherhood can challenge us to redefine success on our own terms. Madeline offers a refreshing perspective on pursuing joy, celebrating individuality, and showing our children what it looks like to live authentically.If you've ever wondered who you are outside of motherhood, struggled to make time for the things you love, or you're learning to embrace your own unique way of thinking and parenting, I hope this conversation reminds you that your passions are still worthy of your time and attention.Resources mentionedTikTok: @domesticblistersInstagram: @biglittlefeelings, @responsive_parentingFacebook: Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsTopics discussed: motherhood identity, creativity in motherhood, honouring your needs, self-acceptance, cosplay, gaming, neurodivergence, ADHD, twice-exceptionality, motherhood, authentic parenting.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Jess, a mum of three, to talk about separation, co-parenting, motherhood identity, and the courage it takes to rediscover yourself.Jess shares with remarkable honesty the emotional journey of her marriage breakdown, the transition into co-parenting, and the resilience she discovered while rebuilding her life. Together, we explore the often-overlooked challenge of losing yourself in motherhood, and the empowering process of reconnecting with the parts of yourself that existed long before you became a parent.We also discuss perinatal mental health, counselling, and how understanding herself—including her experience with ADHD—helped shape the woman and mother she is today. Jess's story is a beautiful reminder that healing doesn't always mean returning to who you were before motherhood; sometimes it means becoming someone entirely new.If you're navigating separation, co-parenting, solo parenting, or you're trying to find yourself again after becoming a mother, I hope Jess's story leaves you feeling hopeful, encouraged, and reminded that it's never too late to begin again.Topics discussed: marriage separation, co-parenting, solo parenting, motherhood identity, self-discovery, perinatal mental health, ADHD, counselling, resilience, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Polly to talk about IVF, self-acceptance, and the life-changing impact of finding a supportive community in motherhood.Polly shares her journey to motherhood through IVF, reflecting on the emotional highs and lows of fertility treatment and the resilience it required. Together, we explore how motherhood challenged her relationship with herself, the ongoing practice of self-acceptance, and the importance of surrounding yourself with women who truly understand what you're going through.We also discuss strength, femininity, and the powerful influence mothers have in modelling body confidence and self-worth for the next generation. Polly's story is a beautiful reminder that motherhood isn't about striving for perfection—it's about learning to embrace yourself with compassion and allowing others to walk alongside you.If you've experienced IVF, you're navigating your own path towards self-acceptance, or you're searching for a genuine sense of community in motherhood, I hope Polly's story leaves you feeling encouraged and a little less alone.Topics discussed: IVF, fertility, assisted reproduction, motherhood community, self-acceptance, body confidence, strength and femininity, motherhood identity, maternal wellbeing, connection.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Alyce to talk about miscarriage, postnatal anxiety, body image, and becoming a young mother.Alyce shares her deeply personal journey through miscarriage, twin pregnancy, and the transition into motherhood at a young age. She reflects on navigating postnatal anxiety, finding the courage to seek support, and learning to care for her mental health while adjusting to the enormous changes that come with becoming a mother.Together, we also explore the complexities of body image after birth, the importance of a supportive community, and the grace it takes to accept ourselves through every stage of motherhood. Alyce's story is an honest reminder that healing isn't linear, and that vulnerability can become a powerful source of connection.If you've experienced miscarriage, postnatal anxiety, you're navigating body image after pregnancy, or you're looking for reassurance that asking for help is a strength, I hope Alyce's story helps you feel seen and supported.Topics discussed: miscarriage, pregnancy loss, twin pregnancy, postnatal anxiety, maternal mental health, postpartum support, body image, body image after pregnancy, young motherhood, church community, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Yara Heary, psychologist, mother, and host of the Life After Birth podcast, to talk about reparenting, self-compassion, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and letting go of the perfect mother myth.Drawing on both her professional expertise and her own experience of motherhood, Yara explores the profound intersection between healing ourselves and raising our children. Together, we discuss reparenting, the pressure to live up to the perfect mother myth, and how cultivating self-compassion can transform not only our parenting, but our relationship with ourselves.Yara also shares practical tools—including breathwork and principles from Internal Family Systems (IFS)—to help regulate the nervous system, respond to difficult emotions with curiosity, and create lasting change. This is a thoughtful, encouraging conversation about breaking old patterns, embracing imperfection, and finding confidence in your own way of mothering.If you're interested in reparenting, Internal Family Systems, self-compassion, or you're learning to release unrealistic expectations of yourself as a mother, I hope this conversation leaves you feeling lighter, more hopeful, and deeply understood.Connect with YaraInstagram: @lifeafterbirthpsychologyWebsite: lifeafterbirth.com.auTopics discussed: reparenting, Internal Family Systems, IFS, self-compassion, perfect mother myth, motherhood identity, nervous system regulation, breathwork, emotional wellbeing, psychology, maternal mental health, breaking generational patterns.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Rachel to talk about motherhood, community, identity, and creating a life that aligns with your values.Rachel shares how making a tree change transformed her experience of motherhood, allowing her family to embrace a slower pace of life and a stronger sense of connection. Together, we explore the friendships that sustain us, the ongoing evolution of motherhood identity, and what it means to intentionally build a life that feels true to who you are.We also discuss the challenges of staying politically engaged while raising children, and how activism can take on new meaning through the lens of motherhood. Rachel offers a thoughtful perspective on balancing family life with the desire to contribute to meaningful change, reminding us that motherhood can deepen—not diminish—our sense of purpose.If you're navigating a season of change, dreaming of a different way of living, or wondering how motherhood can reshape your priorities and identity, I hope Rachel's story leaves you feeling inspired to create a life that reflects what matters most to you.Rachel shares her empowering VBAC story on the Australian VBAC Stories podcast in Episode 8.Topics discussed: motherhood identity, tree change, country living, community, friendship, activism, political engagement, intentional living, VBAC, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Adelle to talk about birth trauma, postpartum rage, EMDR therapy, and the journey of healing after a traumatic birth.Adelle shares her deeply personal experience of recovering from birth trauma and reclaiming confidence in herself after a difficult start to motherhood. She reflects on the role of reparenting, EMDR therapy, and perinatal counselling in helping her process her experiences, move through postpartum rage, and develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance.Together, we explore how healing isn't about forgetting what happened—it's about creating space for a different future. Adelle also shares her HBAC (Home Birth After Caesarean) journey and the empowering experience of approaching birth again after trauma with knowledge, support, and trust in herself.If you've experienced birth trauma, postpartum rage, you're considering EMDR therapy, or you're preparing for a VBAC or HBAC after a difficult birth, I hope Adelle's story reminds you that healing is possible and that your story doesn't have to end where it began.Topics discussed: birth trauma, traumatic birth, postpartum rage, EMDR therapy, reparenting, self-compassion, self-acceptance, perinatal counselling, HBAC, home birth after caesarean, VBAC, healing after birth trauma, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Natalie, a hypnobirthing educator and mum of two, to talk about hypnobirthing, positive birth experiences, home birth, and the lasting impact birth can have on motherhood.Natalie shares how hypnobirthing transformed not only her birth experiences, but also the way she approached breastfeeding, parenting, and emotional regulation long after her babies were born. Together, we explore how preparing for birth can influence confidence, connection, and the way we respond to ourselves and our children throughout motherhood.We also discuss the role of breathwork, the importance of a supportive birth partner, and why a woman's birth experience extends far beyond the birthing room. Natalie's perspective is a powerful reminder that birth isn't simply a single day—it's an experience that can shape the way we enter motherhood and the relationship we build with ourselves.If you're preparing for birth, considering hypnobirthing or home birth, or you're curious about how birth experiences can influence the postpartum period and beyond, I hope this conversation leaves you feeling informed, empowered, and supported.Resources mentioned@evidencebasedbirth@thegreatbirthrebellionConnect with NatalieInstagram: @preparedtobirthWebsite: preparedtobirth.comTopics discussed: hypnobirthing, positive birth, positive birth experience, home birth, birth preparation, birth education, breathwork, emotional regulation, breastfeeding support, supportive birth partner, postpartum wellbeing, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Jane, an occupational therapist and mum of two from Melbourne, to talk about matrescence, birth trauma, infant sleep, and learning to trust your instincts as a mother.Jane shares how motherhood transformed the way she understands herself, reflecting on the concept of matrescence and the many identity shifts that accompany becoming a parent. Together, we explore the power of reframing birth trauma on your own terms, the importance of preparing for birth and the postpartum period, and why trusting your instincts can be one of the greatest gifts you give yourself as a mother.Drawing on both her lived experience and her background as an occupational therapist, Jane also shares her perspective on infant sleep, navigating the early months with confidence, and letting go of the pressure to do motherhood perfectly. Her thoughtful approach is a gentle reminder that there is no single right way to mother—only the path that feels right for you and your family.If you're navigating matrescence, processing a birth experience, wondering about infant sleep, or learning to trust yourself in motherhood, I hope Jane's story leaves you feeling reassured and empowered.Book mentionedMama Rising by Amy Taylor-KabbazTopics discussed: matrescence, birth trauma, birth stories, infant sleep, motherhood identity, occupational therapy, trusting your instincts, postpartum support, motherhood, self-trust.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Kaylee, a mum of three from Western Australia, to talk about preparing for a VBAC, birth stories, motherhood during COVID, and the power of finding the right support.Kaylee shares the stories of her first two births as she prepared for her VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Caesarean) journey. She reflects on becoming a young first-time mum during the COVID-19 pandemic, the isolation of navigating early motherhood without the village she expected, and the lessons those experiences taught her about trusting herself.Together, we explore how meeting the right birth support team—including a doula—completely changed Kaylee's perspective on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood. Her story is a beautiful reminder that knowledge, support, and feeling genuinely heard can transform the way we approach birth and parenting.If you're preparing for a VBAC, interested in positive birth stories, navigating motherhood after COVID, or wondering whether a doula might be right for you, I hope Kaylee's story leaves you feeling informed, empowered, and encouraged.Podcasts mentionedThe Great Birth RebellionThe Midwives' CauldronAustralian VBAC StoriesVBAC Birth StoriesVBAC Home Birth StoriesThe Renegade MamaThe Birth RealmBooks mentionedBirth After Caesarean by Hazel KeedleIna May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May GaskinReclaiming Childbirth as a Rite of Passage by Dr Rachel ReedHome Birth on Your Own Terms by Heather BakerPlus Size Pregnancy by Sara WickhamInstagram mentioned@wombtobloomdoulaTopics discussed: VBAC, preparing for VBAC, birth stories, vaginal birth after caesarean, birth preparation, doula support, COVID pregnancy, pandemic motherhood, young motherhood, positive birth, birth education.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Madeline, a counsellor for millennial women and mum of one from Melbourne, to talk about mum rage, self-compassion, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and the identity shifts that come with motherhood.Madeline shares how becoming a mother challenged her lifelong people-pleasing tendencies and became the catalyst for a deeper understanding of herself. Together, we explore how motherhood can uncover parts of ourselves we've spent years trying to silence, and how approaches like Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help us respond to those parts with curiosity and compassion rather than judgement.We also discuss mum rage, perfectionism, creativity, and the unexpected ways motherhood can reconnect us with who we really are. Madeline offers a thoughtful perspective on embracing our emotions instead of fearing them, reminding us that healing often begins with self-understanding rather than self-criticism.If you've experienced mum rage, you're learning to let go of people-pleasing, or you're curious about Internal Family Systems and self-compassion, I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone and a little more at home within yourself.Book mentionedNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. SchwartzTopics discussed: mum rage, maternal anger, Internal Family Systems, IFS, parts work, self-compassion, people-pleasing, motherhood identity, creativity, emotional healing, counselling, maternal mental health.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Grace, a mum of two living in New Zealand, to talk about pregnancy and postpartum during COVID, VBAC, home birth, and finding her way through motherhood far from family.Grace shares her experience of becoming a mother during the COVID-19 pandemic, navigating pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period while living overseas without the support of family nearby. She reflects on the isolation of those early months, the emotional transition from one child to two, and the village she had to build from afar.Together, we explore Grace's VBAC and home birth journey, the invaluable support of a doula, and her belief that motherhood can be a quiet, counter-cultural act of rebellion. Her story is a beautiful reminder that even in seasons of uncertainty and isolation, connection, intuition, and community can help us find our way.If you've experienced pregnancy during COVID, motherhood in isolation, you're planning a VBAC or home birth, or you're navigating life away from your support network, I hope Grace's story leaves you feeling understood and encouraged.Topics discussed: COVID pregnancy, pandemic postpartum, motherhood in isolation, VBAC, vaginal birth after caesarean, home birth, doula support, postpartum support, motherhood identity, New Zealand, community, resilience.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Kim to talk about conceiving through IVF, recovering from postnatal depression, and finding support through a Parent and Infant Unit.Kim shares her deeply personal journey to motherhood, from conceiving through IVF to experiencing postnatal depression after the birth of her daughter. She reflects on the challenges of recognising she needed help, navigating the mental health system, and the life-changing support she received through a Parent and Infant Unit.Together, we explore the realities of maternal mental health, the importance of timely and compassionate support, and Kim's experience of seeking an autism diagnosis for her daughter. Her story is an honest reminder that motherhood rarely unfolds the way we imagine, and that asking for help is an act of strength, not failure.If you've experienced IVF, postnatal depression, you're considering admission to a Parent and Infant Unit, or you're navigating an autism assessment with your child, I hope Kim's story helps you feel seen and reminds you that support is available.Perinatal mental health resourcesParent and Baby Unit (NSW)https://www.slhd.nsw.gov.au/mentalhealth/ParentBaby.htmlAdditional support@gidgetfoundation – gidgetfoundation.org.au@pandanational – panda.org.au@lifelineaustralia – Lifeline Australia (13 11 14) – lifeline.org.auTopics discussed: IVF, IVF pregnancy, postnatal depression, postpartum depression, Parent and Infant Unit, Parent and Baby Unit, Mother and Baby Unit, maternal mental health, autism diagnosis, neurodiversity, perinatal mental health, recovery, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Adele, a mum of three, to talk about becoming a young mother, surviving domestic violence, recovering from trauma, and rebuilding a life shaped by extraordinary challenges.Adele became a mum at just 19 years old. Since then, she has survived domestic violence, a near-fatal car accident, and continues to live with an active thyroid cancer diagnosis. Rather than allowing these experiences to define her, Adele reflects on how each chapter has shaped her perspective on motherhood, identity, resilience, and what it means to keep moving forward.Together, we explore the strength it takes to begin again after trauma, the ongoing process of rediscovering yourself through motherhood, and the way life's most difficult experiences can transform the way we love, parent, and show up in the world. Adele shares her story with remarkable honesty, humility, and hope, offering a perspective that is both deeply moving and incredibly inspiring.If you've experienced domestic violence, family violence, cancer, or you're rebuilding your life after trauma, I hope Adele's story reminds you that healing isn't about erasing what you've been through—it's about discovering your own strength on the other side.Podcasts mentionedArmchair ExpertBooks mentionedWomen Who Think Too Much by Susan Nolen-HoeksemaBooks by Robert SapolskyTopics discussed: domestic violence, family violence, young motherhood, trauma recovery, thyroid cancer, cancer diagnosis, resilience, healing, identity after trauma, motherhood, post-traumatic growth, self-discovery.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Nicole, a mum of three from Victoria, to talk about postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and finding confidence in your own way of mothering.Nicole shares her experience of becoming a young mum and navigating postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety while learning to trust herself in the face of overwhelming expectations. Together, we explore the challenges of early motherhood, the resilience she developed through those difficult seasons, and the confidence that comes with embracing your own parenting journey rather than trying to meet everyone else's standards.Nicole also reflects on pregnancy after miscarriage, raising a neurodivergent child, and advocating for her daughter after she was diagnosed with craniosynostosis. We discuss birth trauma, intrusive thoughts, medication, the realities of working motherhood, military family life, and the pressure mothers often feel to live up to impossible ideals. Throughout the conversation, Nicole shares how therapy, self-reflection, and experience have helped her become the mother she once doubted she could be.This is an honest conversation about maternal mental health, trusting your instincts, advocating for your children, and discovering that confidence in motherhood often comes not from getting everything right, but from learning to trust yourself.If you've experienced postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, pregnancy after loss, you're raising a neurodivergent child, or you're learning to let go of other people's expectations of motherhood, I hope Nicole's story reminds you that there is no single 'right' way to mother, and that you are capable of finding your own.Resources mentionedPerinatal mental health supportRoyal Children's Hospital Craniofacial UnitPilates (postpartum exercise)Topics discussed: postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, intrusive thoughts, birth trauma, maternal mental health, medication, therapy, young motherhood, military families, miscarriage, pregnancy after loss, neurodivergence, ADHD, craniosynostosis, NICU, birth advocacy, working motherhood, gentle parenting, confidence in motherhood.TitleDescription

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Kendra, a soon-to-be mum of two living in London, to talk about matrescence, breastfeeding challenges, postpartum isolation, and the identity shifts that come with becoming a mother.Kendra beautifully describes motherhood as a "coming home" to the essence of who she is—a perspective that completely reframed the way I think about the transition into motherhood. Together, we explore the concept of matrescence, the profound transformation that takes place as we become mothers, and the reckoning that occurs when past versions of ourselves no longer quite fit.Kendra also shares her experience of navigating breastfeeding challenges, the shock and loneliness that can accompany the postpartum period, and the importance of feeling seen and supported as we adjust to life with a new baby. Our conversation is a gentle reminder that motherhood isn't about losing yourself—it's about discovering a new version of who you've always been.If you're navigating matrescence, breastfeeding difficulties, postpartum isolation, or you're trying to find yourself again after becoming a mother, I hope Kendra's story helps you feel understood and reminds you that you're not alone in this transformation.Instagram accounts mentioned in this episode@drsophiebrock@amytaylorkabbaz@lifeafterbirthpsychology@raisedgoodTopics discussed: matrescence, motherhood identity, identity after motherhood, breastfeeding challenges, breastfeeding support, postpartum isolation, postpartum support, maternal mental health, motherhood, self-discovery.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Yong-Li, a business owner and mum of two, to talk about endometriosis, pregnancy after loss, Chinese postpartum confinement, and finding gratitude through motherhood.Yong-Li shares her journey to motherhood after living with endometriosis and experiencing pregnancy loss, reflecting on the emotional challenges of trying to conceive and the perspective those experiences have given her. She also opens up about the importance of practising gratitude for everything our bodies carry us through, even when the journey hasn't looked the way we expected.Together, we explore the value of community, the traditions of Chinese postpartum confinement, and the role they can play in supporting mothers during the fourth trimester. Yong-Li also shares how she balances motherhood with running a business, and the lessons she's learned about slowing down, accepting support, and appreciating each season of family life.If you've experienced endometriosis, pregnancy after loss, or you're curious about postpartum confinement traditions, I hope Yong-Li's story offers encouragement, perspective, and a reminder that every path to motherhood is unique.Resources mentioned in this episodeThe Wonder Weeks appThe Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. SiegelThe Postnatal Depletion Cure by Dr Oscar SerrallachYou can connect with Yong-Li and learn more about her business on Instagram at @enbacci.Topics discussed: endometriosis, pregnancy after loss, miscarriage, fertility, Chinese postpartum confinement, confinement, postpartum recovery, fourth trimester, motherhood, gratitude, business owner, maternal wellbeing, community.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with my beautiful friend Erin to talk about pregnancy with type 1 diabetes, birth trauma, PTSD, and recovering from postpartum depression.Erin shares her deeply personal journey through pregnancy and motherhood while living with type 1 diabetes, including the unexpected complications she experienced along the way. She reflects on a traumatic birth that resulted in PTSD and postpartum depression, the loneliness of navigating the early postpartum period, and the long road towards healing.Together, we explore the realities of living with a chronic illness during pregnancy, the emotional impact of birth trauma, and the strength it takes to keep moving forward when motherhood begins in ways you never imagined. Erin's story is an honest and courageous reminder that alongside the joy of motherhood can exist grief, fear, uncertainty, and incredible resilience.If you've experienced type 1 diabetes in pregnancy, birth trauma, PTSD, postpartum depression, or you're finding your way through a difficult season of motherhood, I hope Erin's story reminds you that you are not alone.Topics discussed: type 1 diabetes, pregnancy with type 1 diabetes, preeclampsia, PUPPP (PUPPS), birth trauma, traumatic birth, emergency caesarean, general anaesthetic caesarean, PTSD, postpartum depression, maternal mental health, resilience, motherhood.

In this episode of Motherwhelm Bites, I sit down with Lisa Quinney, a perinatal counsellor and mum of two, to explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how understanding the different parts of ourselves can transform the way we move through motherhood.Rather than simply explaining the theory, Lisa turns the conversation back on me, gently demonstrating how Internal Family Systems (IFS) works in practice. It was a fascinating experience that challenged the way I think about my own emotions, inner critic, and the different parts of myself that show up in motherhood.This conversation left me wanting to learn so much more about IFS, both for my own personal growth and as a future counsellor. Whether you're completely new to parts work or already familiar with the approach, I hope this episode encourages you to meet yourself with greater curiosity and self-compassion.If you'd like to hear more from Lisa, I also recommend Episode 17, where she shares her own motherhood journey and speaks openly about postnatal depression, matrescence, and learning to honour her needs.You can connect with Lisa on Instagram at @walk.with.lisa or visit walkwithlisa.com.au.Topics discussed: Internal Family Systems, IFS, parts work, inner critic, self-compassion, emotional healing, maternal mental health, counselling, motherhood, personal growth.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Lauren, a perinatal psychologist and mum of two from Melbourne, to talk about hyperemesis gravidarum, the importance of holding the mother, and honouring the postpartum period.Drawing on both her professional expertise and lived experience, Lauren shares her journey through motherhood, including her experience with hyperemesis gravidarum (HG), the ongoing process of getting to know herself, and the profound transformation that comes with becoming a mother.Together, we explore why so much of our attention is directed towards the baby while mothers themselves are often overlooked, and why holding the mother is essential for the wellbeing of the whole family. Lauren also shares her insights into perinatal mental health, the importance of respecting the postpartum period, and how we can approach motherhood with greater compassion, curiosity, and care.I learned so much from Lauren—not only as a psychologist, but as a woman and a mother. I hope this conversation leaves you feeling equally supported, understood, and reminded that mothers deserve to be cared for, too.If you've experienced hyperemesis gravidarum, you're navigating the identity shifts of motherhood, or you're looking for guidance on postpartum recovery and perinatal mental health, I hope this episode offers reassurance and practical wisdom for your own journey.Influential texts mentioned in this episodeNobody Told Me by Hollie McNishThe Good Enough Mother Podcast by Dr Sophie BrockConnect with LaurenInstagram: @tendpsychologyWebsite: tendpsychology.com.auTopics discussed: hyperemesis gravidarum, HG, perinatal psychology, perinatal mental health, postpartum support, postpartum recovery, matrescence, motherhood identity, holding the mother, maternal wellbeing, psychology, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Lisa, a perinatal counsellor and mum of two from Geelong, to talk about postnatal depression, matrescence, self-compassion, and learning to honour your needs in motherhood.Lisa shares her personal experience of postnatal depression, reflecting on the challenges of early motherhood, the importance of seeking support, and the gradual process of reconnecting with herself. She also introduces the concept of matrescence—the profound physical, emotional, psychological, and social transformation that takes place as we become mothers—and explores how understanding this transition can change the way we experience motherhood.Together, we discuss why motherhood often asks us to slow down, listen to ourselves, and embrace the version of ourselves that is emerging alongside our children. This conversation is a beautiful reminder that caring for yourself is not separate from caring for your family—it's an essential part of it.I truly felt like I found a kindred spirit in Lisa, and I hope her story leaves you feeling seen, encouraged, and a little more compassionate towards yourself.If you've experienced postnatal depression, you're navigating the identity shifts of matrescence, or you're learning how to prioritise your own wellbeing without guilt, I hope this conversation reminds you that you deserve the same care and compassion you so freely give to others.Instagram accounts mentioned in this episode@lifeafterbirthpsychology@drsophiebrockBook mentionedMatrescence by Lucy JonesTopics discussed: postnatal depression, postpartum depression, maternal mental health, matrescence, motherhood identity, self-compassion, honouring your needs, perinatal mental health, motherhood, identity after becoming a mother.

In this episode of Motherwhelm Bites, I sit down with Lisa Quinny and Lauren Beatty to talk about loneliness in motherhood, maternal mental health, and the importance of finding connection.Loneliness is one of the most common yet least talked about experiences of motherhood. Together, we explore how maternal loneliness can take us by surprise, why it's possible to feel lonely even when we're surrounded by people, and the practical ways we can begin to rebuild connection with ourselves and others.This conversation came together unexpectedly. Lisa from Walk with Lisa and Lauren from Tend Psychology had planned to host an Instagram Live on this important topic, but when technical difficulties got in the way, I was grateful to be able to use The Motherwhelm as a platform to bring the conversation to life.Whether you're a new mum, feeling isolated after having a baby, or simply longing for deeper connection in motherhood, I hope this episode reminds you that you're far from alone.The Republic of Motherhood – Liz BerryI'll Show Myself Out – Jessi KleinThe Grand Shattering – Sarah MangusoMatrescence: On the Metamorphosis of Pregnancy, Childbirth and Motherhood – Lucy [email protected]@tendpsychologytendpsychology.com.au@gidgetfoundationgidgetfoundation.org.au@pandanationalpanda.org.au@lifelineaustraliaLifeline Australia (13 11 14)[email protected] discussed: loneliness in motherhood, maternal loneliness, postpartum isolation, maternal mental health, making mum friends, finding your village, motherhood community, connection, matrescence, perinatal mental health, Maternal Journal.Books mentionedPerinatal mental health resourcesLearn more about Maternal Journal

In this episode of Motherwhelm Bites, I sit down with Rebecca Gilchrist, a clinical psychologist registrar, to talk about mum rage, anxiety, guilt, and why these difficult emotions may be trying to tell us something.Rebecca works primarily with women and mothers living in rural Australia, and in this bite-sized conversation she shares a compassionate new way of understanding some of the most common emotional experiences of motherhood. Rather than seeing anger, anxiety, and guilt as problems to eliminate, Rebecca explains how they can act as important signals—if we learn to ask the right questions.This conversation completely shifted the way I think about these emotions. It helped me move away from judgement and towards curiosity, and I hope it offers you the same sense of understanding and self-compassion.If you've experienced mum rage, maternal anxiety, mum guilt, or you're looking for practical insights into maternal mental health, I hope this short episode leaves you feeling more equipped to understand yourself with kindness.You can connect with Rebecca on Instagram at @her_rural_psychologist or learn more about her work at rgpsychology.com.au.Topics discussed: mum rage, maternal anger, maternal anxiety, mum guilt, therapy, maternal mental health, emotional regulation, self-compassion, counselling, psychology, rural maternal mental health.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Amy to talk about first-time motherhood, self-care, work-life balance, and the importance of family and community.Amy shares the challenges she faced as a first-time mum, the unexpected lessons she learned during the early days of motherhood, and the emotional strength she discovered through the birth of her son. Together, we explore the realities of balancing work and family life, prioritising your own wellbeing, and navigating the constant juggle that so many mothers experience.One of my favourite parts of our conversation is Amy's beautiful philosophy on the importance of spending time with the people we love. She reflects on the value of slowing down, leaning on your village, and making intentional choices about how we spend the limited time we have with our families.Whether you're navigating first-time motherhood, searching for a healthier work-life balance, or looking for encouragement to prioritise self-care without guilt, I hope Amy's story reminds you that motherhood isn't about doing it all—it's about making space for what matters most.Instagram accounts mentioned in this episode@[email protected]@birthwithbeth_@australianbirthstories@australianvbacstoriesTopics discussed: first-time motherhood, self-care, work-life balance, family, community, motherhood identity, maternal wellbeing, parenting, mental health, finding your village.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Rebecca to talk about premature birth, life in the NICU, giving birth on an air ambulance, and motherhood in rural Australia.Rebecca is a mum of two and a clinical psychologist registrar specialising in perinatal mental health. She shares the extraordinary story of giving birth to her first daughter at 33 weeks' gestation aboard an air ambulance at 13,000 feet before beginning an unexpected journey through the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU).Living on a sheep and cattle farm in New England, NSW, Rebecca also reflects on the unique realities of raising a family in a rural community and the challenges many regional mothers face in accessing maternity and mental health care. Drawing on both her professional expertise and lived experience, we explore the importance of compassionate perinatal support, advocating for yourself, and finding strength through unexpected beginnings.Whether you've experienced premature birth, life in the NICU, or you're navigating motherhood in a rural or regional community, I hope Rebecca's story leaves you feeling seen, supported, and reminded of the resilience mothers carry through even the most extraordinary circumstances.You can connect with Rebecca on Instagram at @her_rural_psychologist.Topics discussed: NICU, premature birth, 33-week baby, air ambulance birth, aeromedical retrieval, rural motherhood, regional Australia, perinatal mental health, maternal mental health, NICU journey, psychologist, motherhood.

In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Kaitlyn to talk about giving birth at 27 weeks, life in the NICU, PTSD, maternal mental health, and finding strength through the unexpected.Kaitlyn shares the story of her daughter, Gianna, who was born at just 27 weeks' gestation, and reflects on the emotional realities of becoming a mother in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). She opens up about the lasting impact of the NICU experience, navigating PTSD, prioritising her mental health, and the role medication played in her recovery.Together, we explore the resilience it takes to adapt when motherhood begins differently than expected, learning to pivot through uncertainty, and finding hope in even the most challenging seasons. Kaitlyn also shares her experience with exclusive pumping, advocating for her daughter, and the unwavering love that carried her family through their NICU journey.Whether you've experienced premature birth, life in the NICU, NICU PTSD, or you're supporting someone through a difficult start to parenthood, I hope Kaitlyn's story reminds you that healing is possible and that strength often grows in the places we never expected.You can connect with Kaitlyn on Instagram at @themothergoodblog.Topics discussed: NICU, Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, premature birth, 27-week baby, PTSD, maternal mental health, postpartum mental health, medication, exclusive pumping, NICU journey, resilience, parent advocacy, motherhood.