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The Original Self Podcast
by Evet DeCota
The Original Self Podcast explores the psychology of resilience, identity, and meaningful personal change. Hosted by life coach Evet DeCota, a psychology-informed life coach, each episode blends real-life insight, coaching perspective, and practical mindset shifts that help you reconnect with who you truly are. Through honest conversations and reflections about confidence, habits, self-doubt, and growth, this podcast invites you to return to the version of yourself that has always been there beneath the noise.
Episodes
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Why You Feel Empty After Getting What You Wanted | Conditions of Worth Explained
You got what you wanted. Why doesn’t it feel the way you expected it to? A longtime salon client tells Evet, “It’s not the hair; it’s me.” She describes looking forward to something, getting it, and still feeling empty. Her words open a question: what are we expecting our goals to change for us?…
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Why Disagreement Feel Personal | The Psychology of Conflict
When did “I think you’re wrong” become “I think you’re a bad person”? A conversation about gas prices left me looking at my own delivery. I disagreed with a client’s explanation, then commented on how recently she had moved to California. It sounded like a question. I wasn’t really asking. In...
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ADHD in Midlife: What It Takes to Look Fine | Jen Walters Interview
What can look like “having it all together” from the outside feel like on the inside? In Episode 33 of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota welcomes Jen Walters for a personal conversation about ADHD in women and the years before an explanation made certain patterns easier to understand.…
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Why ADHD in Women Gets Missed | The Original Self Podcast
What does it take to look like you have it all together? In Episode 32 of The Original Self Podcast, I explore why ADHD in girls and women can be missed for years—and what it can cost to appear fine while working so hard behind the scenes. A woman may remember every appointment because she checks...
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Does Your Former Self Have to Die For Growth?
Does Your Former Self Have to Die For Growth? What if people do not recognize the new you because the person they knew no longer exists in the same form? In Episode 31 of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota sits down with Joseph Okoroji, Muay Thai martial artist, personal trainer, and author…
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Why Do I Persist When It's Not Working | Intermittent Reinforcement Explained
How do we know whether continuing is an act of meaningful perseverance—or evidence that we’re having difficulty letting go? In this episode of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota examines that question through her own experience of creating a podcast while watching analytics that do not always...
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Why People Treat You Differently When You Change
A coworker once made a blunt observation about a client who had lost a significant amount of weight: she used to be nice, and now she was difficult. The comment stayed with Evet because it turned a person’s complicated change into a complete story without describing what had actually happened. In...
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How a Person's Belief Can Change Your Life | Self-Efficacy
Why do certain people’s words stay with us while other compliments disappear? Sometimes it is because those words come from someone who has paid attention to who we are becoming. In this episode of The Original Self Podcast, Evet reflects on the clients, teachers, and mentors whose belief helped...
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The People We Carry: How Relationships Shape What We Notice
Some people leave us with memories. Others quietly change the way we see our own lives. After cutting Loren's hair every six weeks for sixteen years, Evet came to recognize his unusual gift: he knew how to live inside an ordinary moment. Whether he was eating a sandwich in a crowded deli, sharing...
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RE-RELEASE: The Hidden Pattern Behind Procrastination
Episode 5 of The Original Self Podcast offers an honest, research-backed look at why we avoid the things that matter most to us. The episode begins by distinguishing procrastination from other forms of delay, arguing that not everything we label procrastination actually is procrastination, and…
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Why We Seek Validation: The Psychology of Feeling Seen | The Original Self Podcast
In this episode of Lessons from Behind the Chair, Evet shares stories from nearly forty years behind the salon chair to explore validation, attention, reassurance, and the quiet ways we seek to feel seen. From repeated selfies to interrupted conversations, she examines how external reassurance,...
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You Cry, I Cry: What Women Facing Cancer Taught me About Presence
Hair can be one of the first visible losses during cancer treatment, but the deeper experience is often one of identity, grief, and learning to recognize yourself through profound change. In this deeply personal episode of The Original Self Podcast: Lessons from Behind the Chair, Evet shares two...
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The Version of Us Stress Reveals
This episode begins a new chapter of The Original Self Podcast. Topics include: • Stress responses • Expectation violations • Attachment and belonging • Identity threat • Nervous system regulation • Reacting vs. responding • Curiosity over judgment The real question isn't, 'What's wrong with this...
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Coming Home: Learning to Trust Yourself Again
Evet DeCota is the owner of DeCota Life Coaching and a psychology-informed life coach exploring resilience, mindset, and the courage to become your authentic self. Between the salon chair and the coaching session, she's spent years watching people move through life in patterns they rarely notice....
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Episode 21-Food Addiction and The Science Behind Diet Culture Guilt
Is it addiction, or is it something else wearing the same symptoms? Episode 21 opens the final section of A Psychology of Food, The Self, by taking on the food addiction debate directly, then following the thread into the binge-restrict cycle and the cheat day culture that keeps it spinning. What...
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Episode 20- Menopause, Metabolism, & the 8 PM Problem
Episode 20 turns to one of the most misunderstood stages of a woman's life: menopause and the very real metabolic and neurological shifts that come with it. Evet DeCota walks through why the strategies that worked in your twenties and thirties stop working the same way at midlife, and why that…
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Episode 19- Born into It: Where Your Relationship with Food Really Began
When most people think about their relationship with food, they point to their first diet, a painful comment about their body, or years of struggling with emotional eating. But what if the story began much earlier? In this episode of The Original Self Podcast, we explore the science behind how…
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Episode 18- The Neuroscience of Why You Eat: Stress, Dopamine & Why Willpower Is Often the Wrong Explanation
Have you ever reached for food and only realized what you were doing after the fact — as if the decision had already been made without you? You're not imagining it. In this episode of The Original Self Podcast, psychology-informed life coach Evet DeCota explains why that experience is...
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Episode 17- Food Noise: Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Food
You've probably heard the term food noise showing up in conversations about GLP-1 medications like Ozempic and Wegovy. But food noise isn't new — millions of people have been living with it for years without a name for it. Food noise is the constant mental chatter around food that exists whether...
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Episode 16 The Engineered Plate: How Hyper-Palatable Foods Are Designed to Defeat You
Have you ever told yourself you would stop after a few chips, one cookie, or one episode — and then couldn't? Have you spent years believing the problem was your willpower, your discipline, or your relationship with food? You are not broken. You were never supposed to easily resist what the food...
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Episode 15 Before The Rules: An Introduction to A Psychology of Food Series
Welcome to Before the Rules, a special series from The Original Self Podcast. In this opening episode, Evet DeCota introduces the central question that will guide the entire series: "Who were you before all of this told you who to be around food?" This conversation is not about dieting, weight...
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Episode 14-The Fullest Empty Life: Why You’re Always Busy but Never Fulfilled
Are you always busy but never truly fulfilled? Do you schedule every hour, stay constantly productive, and still go to bed feeling like something is missing? You are not alone — and you are not broken. In Episode 13 of The Original Self Podcast, psychology-informed life coach Evet DeCota explores...
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Episode 12 Part 2: The Witness- True Crime Obsession Explained | What Happens When You Stop Watching and Walk into the Room
If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, start there. This episode will hit differently if you do. In Part 1, we explored the psychology behind our true crime obsession — the science, the costs, and the ethical questions the genre rarely asks. In Part 2, we go somewhere the research can’t take us....
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Episode 12- Part 1: True Crime Obsession Explained | The Psychology Behind Why You Can't Stop Watching
You told yourself you were going to bed early. And yet here you are. In Part 1 of this two-part series, psychology-informed life coach Evet DeCota breaks down the real science behind our true crime obsession — and why it says more about us than we think. This isn't about morbid fascination. It's...
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Episode 11- Why We Say "I'm Fine" When We Are Not: The Psychology of Hiding Your True Feelings
Most of us learned to say “I’m fine” long before we understood what it was costing us. In Episode 11 of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota shares how a childhood bone disease, the loss of her best friend, and a love she was too armored to fight for all shaped her into someone who buried her...
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Episode 10: They Couldn't Do It Without Us: The Psychology of Normallizing Deviance
Episode 10: They Couldn't Do It Without Us — Normalizing Deviance In this episode, Evet DeCota examines one of the most urgent and underexamined forces shaping our culture: the normalization of deviance. Drawing on psychology, sociology, and deeply personal experience, she explores how sexual,...
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Episode 9: Why You Feel Disconnected from Your Life and How to Come Back to It
Have you ever looked at your life and thought: Everything is fine, so why doesn’t it feel like me? That low, steady sense of disconnection — when nothing is obviously wrong, but something still feels off — is one of the most common and least talked-about experiences there is. And in this episode,...
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Episode 8: Are You Self-Aware or Self Absorbed: The Truth About Why We See Ourselves the Way We Do
Most of us have been around someone who makes every conversation about themselves, reacts before thinking, and never seems to notice the effect they have on others. And most of us have, at some point, been that person without realizing it. In this episode, I draw a clear line between...
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Episode 7: Toxic Positivity vs. Real Resilience: Why Hope Without Action Is a Trap
Toxic positivity doesn't feel like positivity when you're on the receiving end. It feels like shame. In this episode of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota explores the real difference between toxic positivity and genuine resilience — and why hope without action becomes one of the most…
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Episode 6: The Ego Trap: What Happens When Self-Focus Disconnects You From Everyone Else
In Episode 6, Evet opens with a simple observation from a friend that raises a bigger question: when did kindness become remarkable? From there, the episode moves through the psychology of hyper-individualism and its three measurable costs — loneliness, polarization, and empathy erosion — tracing...
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Episode 5: Why You Procrastinate: The Emotional Pattern Keeping You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone
The Original Self Podcast Episode 5: The Hidden Pattern Behind Procrastination: How Your Brain Turns Discomfort into Delay If you have ever cleaned your entire kitchen, reorganized a drawer for the third time, or started a four-season show instead of the one task that has been sitting at the top…
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Episode 4: What Grief Does to Your Identity: Who You Become After Loss
Every loss changes the shape of the life around it. Some losses are announced with funerals and flowers. Others happen quietly, without ceremony, and nobody thinks to ask how you are doing. In this episode of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota is joined by her brother Stefan DeCota for an...
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Episode 3: The Authentic Algorithm-Can AI Enhance or Destroy Who You Really Are?
You are using AI right now. Maybe to search, to write, to plan, or to process. But here is the question nobody is asking loudly enough: what is it doing to who you actually are? In this episode of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota takes an honest look at one of the most pressing questions of...
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Episode 2: Small Shifts, Big Identity Change: How Tiny Choices Quietly Reshape Who You Are
What if the change you have been waiting to make doesn't require a dramatic overhaul, a perfect plan, or even the right amount of motivation? What if it only requires one small decision, made quietly, on an ordinary day? In this episode, Evet DeCota explores the psychology behind why big changes…
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Episode 1: Who You Were Before the World Told You Who To Be | Authenticity & Identity
Before the expectations. Before the corrections. Before you learned which parts of yourself were acceptable and which ones needed to be managed, there was a version of you that was simply, completely, yourself. This episode is about that person, and what it means to find your way back. In this...
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The Original Self Podcast explores the psychology of resilience, identity, and meaningful personal change. Hosted by life coach Evet DeCota, a psychology-informed life coach, each episode blends real-life insight, coaching perspective, and practical mindset shifts that help you reconnect with who you truly are. Through honest conversations and reflections about confidence, habits, self-doubt, and growth, this podcast invites you to return to the version of yourself that has always been there beneath the noise.
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