The Perfect Mess Podcast
by Ray Molina
Live on TikTok 8p-10p PST (M-TH) follow: @itsraymolina • Interact w/me Live!A podcast by Ray Molina.A man who lost it all, divorced, broken and nearly gave up. Instead, I grew from it…used my pain as motivation to become a better man and better father than I ever dreamed. My life is simple now, but it wasn’t always. A former graffiti artist, turned graphic designer, turned national touring hip hop artist, turned baseball coach, turned podcast host and more recently; furniture restoration dude. I’ve been through the wringer but I’m still here and I’m happy to share my story….hope it helps someone along the way.My life isn’t perfect, often times it’s a mess…but for me; it’s The Perfect Mess.Website: www.raymolina.comIG/TikTok: @itsraymolinaIG: @theperfectmesspod
Episodes
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Ep. #256 - Plant the Seed
Sometimes all it takes is for you to plant the seed and watch them grow let’s talk about the new position I have at a continuation high school and celebrating the small victories.
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Ep. #255 - Woke Up, Thankful.
Some days you wake up and almost instantly evaluate where you are currently in your life… and you start your day grateful thankful. Today was one of those days for me. Let’s talk about it.
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Ep. #254 - Pause Think Then Decide
Sometimes you need to give yourself time to process bad news or something that upsets you in general. Especially if it requires you to make a decision. You need time to digest what just happened process it and then make a decision on your next move with a clear head. Let’s talk about it.
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Ep. #253 - The Prayer I Used to Pray
“There was a time in my life when all I prayed for… was the chance to matter. Not fame. Not money. Not attention. I just wanted my life to make an impact. I wanted to be the kind of man that could help people breathe again when life was crushing them. And now… I’m living inside prayers that I…
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Ep. #252 - A Strange Place
We all know the day is coming, boy did we not think it was going to arrive this fast? It’s a strange place when your kids start to grow up and not need you to hold their hand for a lot of things now. It’s both a blessing and a curse. Because you realize you probably need them more than they need...
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Ep. #251 - Truth, Love & Accountability
When delivering a message or should I say when delivering a difficult message it is very important to make sure there is some truth some love and some accountability attached to it. It’s important so your message gets through clearly and then it is up to the person you’re telling it to on how…
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Ep. #250 - Composure Over Chaos
Some of the biggest lessons, young men will ever learn won’t come from what you say they’ll come from how you react. Especially when things get heated. Because when you’re a leader… A coach… A father figure… You’re being watched in the moments where it would be easiest to lose control.
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Ep. #249 • Let’s Catch Up!
I know I know I know I have been gone a little while, but it is baseball season and those are you who know me know that I’m a baseball coach and I am knee-deep into a baseball season. So please forgive me, but I am checking in with you guys to say hello to tell you that I miss you and I hope you...
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Ep. #248 • Blindsided: A Father’s Reality After Divorce
“Nobody really talks about what a father goes through when divorce hits him out of nowhere. One day you’re a husband, a dad, a provider, a protector— and the next day, the ground disappears beneath your feet. No warning. No countdown. Just loss… and responsibility at the same time.” “Today, I…
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Ep. #247 - Loving Them Means Accepting Your Limits
“There’s a specific kind of pain that comes with loving someone deeply… and realizing you can’t give them what they need. Not because you don’t want to. Not because you don’t care. But because you’re simply not capable of it.” We don’t talk about this enough. We talk about effort. We talk about...
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Ep. #246 • The Dating Fatigue
There comes a point where dating doesn’t feel exciting anymore. It feels exhausting. Not because you don’t want connection… but because you’re tired of the games, the small talk, the ghosting, the almosts, and the emotional whiplash. And if you’re listening to this thinking, “Man, I’m tired—but…
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Ep. #245 - When You Say You’re a Friend, You Show It
Let me say this upfront— Words are cheap. Presence is not. Everybody says, “I’m here for you.” Everybody says, “You can count on me.” But when life gets uncomfortable… when it’s inconvenient… when it requires effort… most people disappear. So today, I want to talk about what it really means to…
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90 Seconds of Inspiration - Young Athletes Final Year
Graduation feels like the finish line—but for young athletes, it’s really a crossroads. Too many walk away for a year thinking they’ll figure it out later… and later never comes. Today we’re talking about why momentum matters, why continuing your education and athletics keeps doors open, sharpens...
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Ep. #244 • Making Peace When What You Wanted, Didn’t Happen
Some of the hardest pain in life isn’t failure. It’s disappointment. It’s when you did the work. You showed up. You prayed. You waited. And the thing you wanted… still didn’t happen.
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Ep. #243 • Beasts by Nature, Redeemed by Choice
Most of us walk around pretending we’re better than we are. We clean it up. We filter it. We hide it behind good intentions and social media quotes. But the truth is this: every single one of us since daily. Not occasionally. Not, when things get hard. But daily. And that does not make you evil.…
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Ep. #242 - Becoming the best you, requires a lot of goodbyes
“Nobody tells you this part. They tell you to level up. They tell you to grow. They tell you to ‘become your best self.’ But what they don’t tell you… is that becoming your best self means saying goodbye—over and over again.” “Goodbye to people. Goodbye to habits. Goodbye to versions of yourself...
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Ep. #241 - A Man Without A Mission Is a Dangerous Man
Men – especially fathers – aren’t wired for comfort. We are wired for responsibility, challenge, and mission. When a man loses his purpose, he doesn’t drift… He deteriorates. And when fathers lose their edge, families feel it. If you are a man who feels stuck, bored or restless… This is for you.…
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Ep. #240 - Holiday Peace Hits Different When You’ve Earned It
There was a time when the holidays didn’t feel peaceful at all. They felt heavy. Loud. Forced. Smiles on the outside, chaos on the inside. This year feels different. Not perfect – but peaceful. And what I’ve realized is… Peace hits different when you’ve learned it. Not when life is easy. Not when...
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Ep. #239 - Make Me Useful
I’ve prayed for a long time for God to not let everything that I’ve gone through in my life to not be in vain. I have often prayed for him to use my life and give me the courage to speak about the things that have hurt me the most so that I could be of service to others. And boy is he working……
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Ep. #238 - Work Behind Those Prayers
Prayer without any work just doesn’t work and I’m going to explain to you why. Sometimes God blesses you in ways you don’t expect. God will always give you what you need, but not always what you want. On this episode, God did both for me and I am super thankful. Let’s talk about it…
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Ep. #237 • Time for a Real Talk
It’s time we had a real talk parents. It’s time we understood how important it is to protect our babies and take a pass on some events that we’re invited to and people we allow our children to be around whether it be family, friends or acquaintances.
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Ep. #236 • Perspective: More Than a Coach
There are a lot of coaches that coach and then there are coaches like myself who not only coach between the lines, but Coach you in life as well even when you don’t want it or you feel like you don’t need it.
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Ep. #235 - Thank You.
Just a simple, thank you to everybody who believes in me and what I do. From the podcast, to TikTok, to coaching, to mentoring, to everything in between… Thank you.
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Ep. #234 - Trick or Treat
Tricks are for kids and unfortunately it seems there are still adults who like to play kid games. Let’s talk about it!
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Ep. #233 - Let’s Talk Ownership
There are too many young kids who are being taught not to own their shit. Too many kids are being taught to point a finger and look for an out. There are not enough kids who are learning to be disciplined and who are learning how to CYA. And what is CYA you ask? Cover your own ass because if…
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Ep. #232 - We Can Talk Life
Coaches this one’s for you. More often than not what we do that makes the biggest impact is what happens outside the lines not in between the lines. Let’s talk about it.
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Ep. #231 - Tip Your Cap
There is something about being in that zone as a man who is only concerned with his mind, body and spirit, his finances, his health and his children, and you know you’re in that zone when a woman approaches you or walks by you and gives you a compliment and you tip your hat tell her thank you and...
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Ep. #230 - Difficult Talks
One of the biggest problems I see with today’s society is that we struggle to have difficult talks. Anytime someone has a different opinion than ours. We get really defensive combative and we shut everybody out. The most damaging thing that we do is we stop talking. There are no solutions that…
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Ep. #229 - Left on Read
Keep playing the game…watch what it leads to. A wise word to those people who are “So Busy” but are looking for love.
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Ep. #228 • Perspective: is it ever enough?
Is it ever enough? Like is it ever truly enough for someone to stay with someone?
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Ep. 227 - Weather the Storm
I have no problem admitting that I am in a storm smack dab in the middle. It’s a very tough moment for me, but notice I said moment. I will get through this somehow someway and I will keep faith in God. But sticking to the script I am going to share with all of you so those of you going through…
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Ep. #226 • Perspective - Something So Simple
This little thing this little adjustment helped me have such a better coparenting relationship with my ex-wife. And if you can get there, I promise you it’s beneficial for you and your children.
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Ep. #225 - A Chance
You know when you’re chasing a dream in life… All you can ask for is a chance. A chance to give it your best shot and let the chips fall where they may. Today, one of those chances showed up. And I’m excited for the opportunity. My son has. So let’s talk about it.
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Ep. #224 - Your Apology Matters
Do you struggle with apologizing to your children when you fly off at the handle sometimes or when you realize you made a mistake? Did you deal with that as a kid like I did let’s talk about how to get past that and work through it so you don’t make the same mistakes
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Ep. #223 - It’s Happening…
My son is about to start driving…lord is life moving fast. Let’s talk about it Yall!
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Ep. #222 - You don’t want that
I apologize in advance or should I say sorry not sorry… But this episode had to be done. So I hope you listen with an open mind open heart and open your ears. Let’s talk about dating and all of the chaos going on around it now.
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Ep. #221 • Perspective - Sometimes Easy is Hard
Sometimes no matter how easy you make it for some people they continue to make it difficult.
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Ep. #220 - Where Ya Been?
Where have I been? Well it’s the year and for the school and that means my kids are moving up in grade and my youngest is now attending high school school. I’ve had graduations. I’ve had parties, I’ve had award ceremonies… You name it. So let’s catch up what’s been going on with me and my kids…...
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Ep. #219 - Help Somebody
If we took time out of our day to help people every now and then I think it would make a little bit of a difference. Maybe I’m wrong but it’s worth a shot.
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Ep. #218 • Perspective - Get Back on the Horse
You only fail if you stop getting back on the horse. Stay in the game and when you stumble, pick yourself up and get back on the horse.
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Ep. #217 - I’m the King of…
You ever feel like one of your gifts and your curses is doing stuff for people at Lil to no cost and those same people just not doing the same for you? You ever feel like things are just not happening fast enough in your life? Let’s talk about it because that’s where I am right now.
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Ep. #216 - Gotta Find It
It’s somewhere in there. What is it? That dog. That fight. That grit. Too many are passive today and we’ve got to fix it.
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Ep. #215 - Let’s Catch Up
Let’s catch up real quick. It’s been a minute. I forgot to talk to you about Arizona and my trip out there with my youngest son. And let’s talk about Life as a high school baseball coach in the JV division. I hope you guys have a wonderful day and thank you for following and sharing.
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Ep. #214 • Perspective - Be Aware of Your Surroundings
I can’t stress to you how important it is for you to be aware of your surroundings at all times nowadays… Let’s talk about it
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Ep. #213 - Run With It
Sometimes your plan takes a turn that’s unexpected and you just have to run with it because it just makes sense. Let’s talk about it.
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Ep. #212 • Perspective - Be Thankful
Be thankful for even the littlest things…
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Ep. #211 • Perspective - Shoot Straight
Ep. #211 - Shoot Straight #raymolina #theperfectmesspod #podcast
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Ep. #210 • Perspective - Fallback
Fall back… #raymolina #theperfectmesspod #podcast #fallback
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Ep. #209 - This Last Month
What an absolute whirlwind of a month it was been. Baseball kicked off and it’s been fun and already wild ride. But then here comes…you guessed it: TIKTOK…(wait what?) yea, let’s talk about what is going on with my TikTok and my Lives. Wow…so much to talk about.
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Ep. #208 • Perspective - Excuses
We all have them and if we go searching we will find one to get us through doing something we know we should be doing.
About this show
Live on TikTok 8p-10p PST (M-TH) follow: @itsraymolina • Interact w/me Live!A podcast by Ray Molina.A man who lost it all, divorced, broken and nearly gave up. Instead, I grew from it…used my pain as motivation to become a better man and better father than I ever dreamed. My life is simple now, but it wasn’t always. A former graffiti artist, turned graphic designer, turned national touring hip hop artist, turned baseball coach, turned podcast host and more recently; furniture restoration dude. I’ve been through the wringer but I’m still here and I’m happy to share my story….hope it helps someone along the way.My life isn’t perfect, often times it’s a mess…but for me; it’s The Perfect Mess.Website: www.raymolina.comIG/TikTok: @itsraymolinaIG: @theperfectmesspod
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