The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast
by Tera Vee
Welcome to The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast, where my kink is life’s discomforts. In this podcast I will confront taboos and stigmas surrounding everything from sex, relationships, mental health, and everything in between.I’m Tera Vee, and as the host of The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast my goal is to be your new safe word. As an adult content creator who can’t hide my own kind of weird, I’m here to show you that we ALL get uncomfortable at times. It’s time to push past the discomfort, talk about the stuff people are too scared or embarrassed to discuss, and realize that you are not alone. Ever. Join me for the discomfort!
Episodes
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"I Don't Want To Sleep With You": Navigating a Disappointing Herpes Disclosure: Rejection vs Decision
Here's the shocking thing about herpes- it's not a big deal. No really, it's not a big deal. It can seem that if you have herpes, that is just the story you need to tell yourself to make the sting of having an STI feel better. But here's the thing about having herpes, or any STI; suddenly you are...
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Welcome To The Pity Party: When To Feel Sorry For Yourself, And When To Move Forward
Consider this your formal invitation to my pity party. In this episode I sit down to discuss why I have had such a hard time producing more podcast episodes, how I like to indulge at my pity parties, and how I am learning to show up- even when I absolutely don't want to. We all have moments, some...
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The Silent Treatment: Ignoring Confrontation Is Not A Healthy Boundary
The silent treatment seems like a childish game...but it can have a heartbreaking effect on a person. It's easy to want to just ignore an uncomfortable situation, maybe you want to prove to your partner that your mad, so you will just ignore them, or maybe you become like a turtle in the face of...
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So You Have Chlamydia, Now What? : How To Manage A Positive Diagnosis- Whether It’s Your Own Or Your Partners
"Hey, I know it's been a while since we've talked, and I'm really sorry to send you a message like this, but I just tested positive for chlamydia, so you should probably go get tested and see if you need meds." No one wants to get a message like this. It's no fun sending that message either. But…
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Sexless Marriages: How They Happen, What To Do If You Are In One, And Is It A Valid Reason To Look For Sex Elsewhere?
Sexless relationships is a topic that is not discussed often enough. So many couples suffer silently behind closed doors embarrassed to discuss a problem that a surprising amount of couples are going through. Inspired by a listener question inquiring if it is ok to look for sex elsewhere if his...
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What Women Wish More Men Knew About Sex, Pt. 2: Simple Ways To Improve Your Sex Life And Satisfy Your Partner
Welcome back to part two of the episode where I share with you what women wish that more men knew about sex. Part two brings the conclusion of the list, sharing simple things that you can do to help improve your sex life with your partner. While this list is compiled from research on what women...
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What Women Wish More Men Knew About Sex, Pt. 1: Simple Ways To Improve Your Sex Life And Satisfy Your Partner
All of our egos can get pretty attached to our sex lives. It can be hard to think that maybe you could be doing something better. Or maybe even LOTS of things better. I know it can be hard. But if you are able to set your ego aside and listen with an open mind, you might find some simple ways to...
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5in5: Listener Questions Answered: BDSM, Trolling, Long Distance Relationships, Having A Threesome With Your Partner, Getting Started In Adult Content Creation
Welcome to another Listener Questions 5 in 5! In these episodes I answer 5 randomly selected listener questions, each answered in five minutes or less. In this installment I cover everything from what BDSM is, to advice on how a couple can bring a third person into the bedroom. If you want your...
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The B-Sides: The Anal Training Guide; A Simple Beginner’s Guide To Train Your Body To Experience Pleasure And Avoid Pain
This B-Side is a companion to Ep. 36 "Butt Plugs; Plugging Into Pleasure: A Beginner's Guide To Looking Past The Taboo And Exploring The Pleasure Potentials Of Butt Plugs" In episode 36 I wanted to make sure that you understood that playing with plugs does not automatically mean you need to…
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Butt Plugs; Plugging Into Pleasure: A Beginner’s Guide To Looking Past The Taboo And Exploring The Pleasure Potentials Of Butt Plugs
When it comes to sexual taboos, any kind of anal play it right there at the top of the list. Sheesh, just saying the word anal can lead to embarrassment, judgment, and awkwardness. The opinions on anal play can be very polarizing- they love it or they hate it, but rarely do you hear someone in…
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My Journey To Madness, Pt 2: Surviving Myself And Finding Beauty In The Wreckage
In part 2 of "My Journey To Madness" we pick up where we left off from part 1. After a long and violent day, I find myself on the way to the emergency room, where I know I will inevitably then be sent to be admitted into a mental health facility. I bring you through the degrading process of being...
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My JourneyTo Madness, Pt. 1: The Roadmap To A Mental Breakdown
In honor of premiering the first episode under the new name, The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast, I chose to get, well.....uncomfortable. In this raw and vulnerable episode I share a story that I have never publicly shared before. One that is, quite honestly, filled with a lot of shame and...
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The Stigma of Being Single: What’s Someone Like You Doing Single? Well, Funny You Asked...Let Me Tell You!
"What?! YOU'RE single? I don't believe it!" "You're too good looking to be single!" "What is someone like you doing single? That seems impossible!" When did being single become such a terrible, shocking thing? And WHY? For many, being single shows strength. Strength that they are making their way...
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5 in 5: Listener Questions Answered: My New Bionic Back, Diarrhea Before Dates, Sliding Into The DMs, Being A Cougar, & A Sales Pitch For My Feet
5 listener questions randomly selected, each answered in 5 minutes. In this episode I randomly select five questions that were sent from YOU! This was a fun episode that discussed everything from depression after a major surgery to how to get more confident with re-entering the dating world, and…
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The B-Sides: I Got Not Dumped But Dumped From A Thing That Wasn’t A Thing But Was Something
Welcome to another B-Side episode! In this B-Side I revisit episode 29, where I discussed how difficult it can be for me to be complimentary to a partner. How I struggle with the feelings that come up when I show kindness to a partner. And how I was proud of myself for working to change that....
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The B-Sides: My Crazy Idea To Re-Brand...What’s In A Name?
Imagine this: you start a podcast. You brainstorm with a friend and end up with the most amazing name for your podcast. You love it. You want to roll around in it, fold it up and put it in your pocket to take it with you everywhere, you want to live inside the name. Ok ok, maybe I got a little...
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Giving Compliments To Men: Why I Feel So Vulnerable With The Simple Act Of Giving A Compliment
Hey you! Yes, you. Look at you looking all gooood over there. You are looking GOOD today, has anyone told you that yet today? Hopefully they have...but I probably haven't. Over the years I have struggled with the simple act of complimenting my partners. It has created problems that should have…
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Friends With Benefits: The FWB Starter Pack
The classic friends with benefits scenario: have a friend, add some fun, and throw in a few orgasms with zero commitment. What could possibly go wrong? A broken heart is sitting on the sidelines, just waiting to be called into the game. But I'm here to say that there is also the argument that a…
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The G-Spot: Find This Hidden Gem And Bring Her To An OMGGGG Orgasm
The G-Spot. Is it real? Is it not? Do we care? In this episode we explore the history of this elusive erogenous zone, and HOW to explore it. Once you find it, your partner (or yourself) may be screaming omGGGG! ……. Stay connected with Pretty In Kink and Tera Vee: Pretty in Kink | Instagram Pretty...
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Herpes & OnlyFans: How An STI & An Adult Content Site Share The Same Stigmas & Why We Should Rethink Our Judgements
You have herpes. You KNOW sooo many other people have it. YET. You are still too nervous to openly discuss it with people in your life because you have heard the jokes, the judgements, the stigmas that make you feel embarrassed of something that is incredibly common. You create adult content for...
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The Anatomy of Foreplay: How Being In The Know Can Bring Her An O
"You wouldn't go down a waterslide if it wasn't wet"...while researching for this episode I read this line and immediately knew there was no better way to get my point across. Foreplay seems to be a bit of a lost art. Sure, there's some kissing. Maybe a hot little make out session. But the kind…
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Change Your Dating Habits: Dating Advice From Someone That Is Really Bad At Dating
Dating can be exhausting. You meet. You have fun. Things get serious. And then BOOM you're crying alone on your bed on a Saturday night. You eventually wipe your tears away, get brave, and get back out there. But you get a sense of déjà vu as you are once again spending the weekend with your cat....
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Suicide Is Not a Choice: Mental Illness and Those Losing The Battle To It Deserve More Compassion
In the same way that death comes when someone loses their battle with cancer, so too does death come when someone loses their battle with mental illness. May is Mental Health Awareness Month, which is a topic that lives close to my heart. I have had this episode on my mind since even before…
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Porn Sex Is Not Real Sex: Stop Trying To Perform and Start Giving Pleasure
Porn can be a useful guide to exploring your sexuality, discovering new techniques, and unlocking new desires. But it should never be your rule book. It should not be an instruction manual. If your main point of reference for your sex life comes from porn there is a chance that you have been…
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Ghosting: What Is Ghosting, Why Do People Do It, and Is It Ever OK To Ghost?
Last night you had the most amazing second date. Things went great and you can't wait to see them again, so you text them to tell them exactly that. You hit send, and your heart flutters in anticipation, waiting for them to respond that they feel the same. A couple minutes go by. Ok, maybe…
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Introducing Kinks: How To Not Make It Weird If You Want To Get Weird In The Bedroom
You were watching a movie the other night. And there was that super sexy scene...you know the one I'm talking about. The one that made you feel all tingly, that made you feel curious, made you think, "hmmm, I want to try THAT!" And now you are wondering- how can you ask your partner for this...
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Depressed, Overwhelmed, & Struggling: How Two Simple Words Helped Me Feel Like I Could Make It Through
There are times in life that things just get...hard. Hard to stay positive. Hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Hard to feel like you can make it through. And then the internet tells you that you are not doing enough. Just meditate. Read that popular self-help book. Change your…
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Faking Orgasms: Let’s Turn Those Fake O’s into Standing Oh-Ohhh-Ohhhhhvations
It's easy to fake an orgasm. We can make it pretty believable, I promise. Oh, you don't believe me? Go watch this classic scene from When Harry Met Sally. Go on, I'll wait. Ok, you're back. See? I told you so. But here's the problem, when we fake it all we're doing is tricking our partners into...
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Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence: KnowYou’re The Sh*t and Stop Tolerating Bullsh*t
You look in the mirror. You take a second look. You think "dammmmn" as you admire your reflection. And then you immediately feel guilty. You think, "I can't act like I'm a hottie, what will people think?" It has been ingrained in many of us that to shine bright is equivalent to showing off. That…
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The B-Sides: Ladies, Let’s Look At The Dating World From a Man’s Perspective.
The B-Sides...where I take content from the cutting room floor of the previous episode to share in a mini-episode. Episode 15, The B-Sides: In episode 15 we talked about if size matters. I touched on the fact that we also judge on another aspect of a man's size...his height. In this companion...
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Does Size Matter: The Long & Short of The Age Old Question...Does It Actually Matter?
After years and years of feeling insecure about my bra size, I scheduled an appointment with a plastic surgeon. And just like that, I had new boobs. I could suddenly feel more confident and comfortable in my appearance. But what happens if you aren't happy with the size of your penis? There is no...
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The B-Sides: A Partner’s Reaction to a Herpes Outbreak- Both Mine AND His
The B-Sides...where I take content from the cutting room floor of the previous episode to share in a mini-episode. Episode 13, The B-Sides: The nerves of telling a new partner about your positive herpes status. The surprise of him waking up after a date and he has a coldsore. The worry that…
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Herpes Disclosures: Don’t Leave Your Partners Out in The Cold...You Need To Disclose If You Get Coldsores
You get coldsores. One pops up, and you get annoyed. Maybe you even vent about it to a friend or a coworker. And then it goes away. And you don't think about it again. You don't think it's a big deal. And you certainly don't think you need to tell a prospective sexual partner about the nuisance...
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The Art of The BJ: Giving It Shouldn’t Be So Hard- The Lowdown on Going Down
Ahhhhh, the blowjob. Men love it, and the givers? Well...for many, they'd rather go clean the baseboards than take part in this timeless sexual act. From a former BJ-hater to a proud Throat Goat, I want to show you that BJs don't have to be, and SHOULDN'T be, a chore. I want you to WANT to give...
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The Art of The BJ: Men, Let Me Help You Not Blow Your Chances For an Amazing BJ
Ahhhhh, the blowjob. Man's best friend. The act that, for many men, kicked off not just their journey towards sex, but also something that has become one of the most expected sexual acts to receive. The problem? Not everyone on the giving side of things has the same enthusiasm to give as the men…
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Living with Invisible Struggles: Hello Darkness, My Old Friend
*listen, if you don't see what I did there with the title, I'm not sure that we can be friends. Anyways, on to the episode..... Hello, my name is Tera and I will pretend like everything is ok, even when I am drowning in the darkness. Because unless I LET you see it, my struggle is almost…
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Porn & It’s Effects on Body Image: Porn Taught Me Something That Anatomy Class Never Did
My naked body is all over the internet. Doing naked body things. The internet is a cruel place, so it would be a safe assumption that in all that nakedness, the exposure would become exceptionally damaging to my mental health. My perspective on the topic may be unexpected; I am here to tell you...
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Is This Normal? A Kink, a Quirk, a Hobby; Why Being Unique Is More Fun Than Fitting In
You see a woman in high heels. It makes that little heart of yours go pitter patter. You realize you want to see MORE feet in heels. And before you know it, a kink is born. But now, while your heart is going pitter patter, your brain is starting to question itself. Is this normal? Am I normal for...
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Single on Valentine’s Day: Do You NEED a Relationship, or Do You WANT a Relationship?
Are you feeling nauseous as you scroll through social media during Valentine's Day and all that you are seeing is love, Love, LOVE? Are you feeling slightly bitter while you watch your co-worker receive a dozen roses? Yet you also are independent and usually quite happy rocking your single…
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Butt Stuff: Your Key to the Backdoor- A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Play
You have one. I have one. All of our cute little bums hold the potential to have some amazing orgasms...but oof. That taboo, right? The shittiest part (sorry, I couldn't help myself) of anal play is the stigma and taboo attached to it. Maybe you have been too nervous to discuss it with your...
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Dating with Herpes: You’re Still F*cking Fabulous...and Absolutely F*ckable
You're told you have herpes. It feels like your life is over. Will you ever have sex again? Will anyone ever want to date you if they know? Is your dating life completely OVER? I'm here to tell you...ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY NOT. Your dating life does not need to suffer simply because you have an...
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Slut Shaming: Hi, I’m a slut. Can we still be friends?
"You're a slut." Has anyone ever said that to you? Or have you said it to someone else? I have been shamed for my sexual experiences, and as hard as it is to admit, I have also been the one doing the shaming. Who gets to decide what a slut is? What number of sexual partners suddenly switches you...
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Kinks: Shame on You for Kink Shaming
Let's explore the difference between not understanding or not liking something, versus creating judgement and shame towards a person. Through my explorations and experiences in dating I have been able to evolve from being a person that was incredibly judgmental into someone that thoroughly enjoys...
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The Anatomy of a Porn Name- How the worst Tinder date of my life led to my stage name
A first Tinder date created a torn vagina, which led to an emergency surgery and BOOM! The name Tera Vee was born! In this episode I share with you the hilarious, if not slightly embarrassing, story that showcases the origins of my porn name. After years of celibacy, I went on a Tinder date. And...
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Who The Fuck Do I Think I Am?
Welcome to the premier episode! Why the fuck should you even listen to me? I'm here to show you that it is ok to talk about our struggles, and talk about the stuff that might be uncomfortable. I want you to know you have a safe space where we can talk about sex, dating, STIs, mental health…
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Welcome to Pretty in Kink Trailer
Welcome to the Pretty in Kink podcast trailer. We are going to be exploring the awkward side of sexy, the sweet side of dirty, and the beauty in the mess of that thing that we call life. Let me be your new safe word. Be sure to follow @PrettyInKink on Instagram to stay up to date!
About this show
Welcome to The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast, where my kink is life’s discomforts. In this podcast I will confront taboos and stigmas surrounding everything from sex, relationships, mental health, and everything in between.I’m Tera Vee, and as the host of The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast my goal is to be your new safe word. As an adult content creator who can’t hide my own kind of weird, I’m here to show you that we ALL get uncomfortable at times. It’s time to push past the discomfort, talk about the stuff people are too scared or embarrassed to discuss, and realize that you are not alone. Ever. Join me for the discomfort!
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Tera Vee