The Queer Family Podcast – LGBTQ Families & Queer Parenting Stories

When a clip from one of our earlier Tea Time episodes sparked a heated debate online, we knew we had to dedicate an entire episode to it.This week, we're unpacking the history of "lesbian bed death"—where the term came from, why many researchers now reject it, and whether it's time for queer women to reclaim it altogether. We talk about intimacy, consent, long-term relationships, aging, emotional connection, and why comparing queer relationships to heteronormative standards misses the point entirely.Whether you're in a decades-long partnership or just moved in together, this is one of our most thoughtful (and funniest) Tea Time conversations yet.Why You'll Love This EpisodeThis isn't just a conversation about sex—it's a conversation about how queer relationships are often misunderstood. Jaimie and Dianni challenge decades of assumptions, share personal experiences from opposite ends of long-term relationships, and ultimately ask a bigger question: What if we've been measuring intimacy all wrong?🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysThe surprising (and problematic) origins of the term "lesbian bed death."Why measuring queer relationships through a heteronormative lens misses the point.How consent, changing bodies, and life stages naturally affect intimacy.Why emotional intimacy often looks different in queer relationships.Jaimie's case for reclaiming "lesbian bed death" as something empowering instead of shameful.A thoughtful discussion about comparing relationships—and why frequency isn't the same as satisfaction.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Dianni is Jaimie’s friend, fellow queer human, and co-host of Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni, a short-form bonus series featuring casual, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. Together, they spill the tea on what’s happening behind the scenes, compare notes across generations and life stages, and talk about the things that don’t always make it into a regular episode of The Queer Family Podcast.Funny, curious, and always ready to ask the follow-up question, Dianni helps turn Tea Time into the kind of conversation that feels like eavesdropping on two friends catching up.🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Dianni Hall 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Anne has officially finished her final cancer treatment.In this special Tea Time episode, Jaimie sits down with her pal Dianni for an honest conversation about what comes next for her family after a year and a half of chemotherapy, surgeries, radiation, targeted treatment, and caregiving.Jaimie talks about how cancer changed their family, what it was like watching their children navigate the journey, rebuilding intimacy after illness, and the unexpected routines that helped her stay grounded through it all.It's a quieter, more vulnerable conversation than usual—one about hope, healing, and finding your way forward after surviving something life-changing🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysAnne reaches the end of her cancer treatment journey.What healing looks like after months of surviving.How caregiving changes a marriage.Supporting children through a parent's illness.Finding routines that provide comfort during difficult seasons.Holding onto tenderness after trauma.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Dianni is Jaimie’s friend, fellow queer human, and co-host of Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni, a short-form bonus series featuring casual, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. Together, they spill the tea on what’s happening behind the scenes, compare notes across generations and life stages, and talk about the things that don’t always make it into a regular episode of The Queer Family Podcast.Funny, curious, and always ready to ask the follow-up question, Dianni helps turn Tea Time into the kind of conversation that feels like eavesdropping on two friends catching up.🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni is a subscriber-only bonus series where Jaimie and her friend Dianni sit down for short, fun, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. It’s casual, behind-the-scenes, and a little messy—in the best way.This week, the tea is hot. ☕️Jaimie and Dianni are pulling back the curtain on what really happens behind the scenes of The Queer Family Podcast—from the secret ways Jaimie can tell whether a potential guest has actually listened to the show to people who come on just to push their wares, and one particularly frustrating mansplaining interview.Jaimie opens up about what it takes to produce the show, why she feels so protective of her audience, and what happens when a guest confidently pushes back with information she knows isn’t right.Plus: the very specific question hiding in Jaimie’s guest questionnaire that tells her almost everything she needs to know. 👀Short, messy, unfiltered, and a little feisty. Just how Tea Time should be.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysJaimie has a few sneaky ways of figuring out whether potential guests have actually listened to The Queer Family Podcast.A great pitch doesn’t always mean someone understands the show—or the assignment.Behind every episode is a lot of time, care, research, and money, which makes it especially frustrating when guests show up unprepared.Jaimie shares what happens when a guest confidently pushes back with information she knows isn’t right.Protecting the audience sometimes means challenging misinformation, even when it creates an uncomfortable moment.The heart of The Queer Family Podcast will always be everyday LGBTQIA+ families sharing stories that deserve to be heard.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Dianni is Jaimie’s friend, fellow queer human, and co-host of Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni, a short-form bonus series featuring casual, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. Together, they spill the tea on what’s happening behind the scenes, compare notes across generations and life stages, and talk about the things that don’t always make it into a regular episode of The Queer Family Podcast.Funny, curious, and always ready to ask the follow-up question, Dianni helps turn Tea Time into the kind of conversation that feels like eavesdropping on two friends catching up.🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTubeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Wilma and Marilyn—better known as The Rainbow Aunties—have loved each other for more than four decades. But for much of that time, they couldn't live openly as a couple.In this moving conversation, they share how they fell in love in college while Marilyn was in a relationship with a man, why they spent years hiding their relationship, and how military policies, religion, fear, and the threat of losing their children shaped every decision they made.Despite every obstacle, they quietly built a family together, raised two daughters, became grandparents, and eventually found the courage to tell the world the truth about their love.This episode is a powerful reminder that Pride exists because generations before us fought simply to love openly. Wilma and Marilyn's story is one of resilience, sacrifice, family, and a love that never let go.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysLove can survive extraordinary circumstances when rooted in commitment.LGBTQ elders paved the way for the freedoms many queer families experience today.Family building doesn't always follow traditional paths.Living authentically sometimes takes decades—and that's okay.Protecting children often meant remaining closeted for older generations.Representation matters at every age.Pride is both a celebration and a remembrance of those who couldn't safely live out loud.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s) Wilma and Marilyn, known online as @therainbowaunties_, are authors, content creators, grandparents, and longtime advocates for LGBTQ visibility. Together for more than forty years, they share stories about love, aging, family, and queer history with warmth, humor, and honesty. Through their social media and their memoir, From Pain to Love: Our Journey Outside the Rainbow, they remind people of every generation that it's never too late to live authentically.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When Calypso and her wife Nat decided to start their family, they never imagined the twists and turns ahead. From navigating the UK's fertility system and searching for a known donor to traveling internationally for IVF, their journey was filled with unexpected setbacks, difficult decisions, and more than a few emotional rollercoasters.In this episode, Calypso shares how one embryo became one pregnancy, the health challenges that changed their plans, and the lessons they learned about resilience, trust, and queer family building along the way.It's a hopeful, honest conversation about what it takes to create a family—and why sometimes the path that unfolds isn't the one you originally planned.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysFamily building rarely goes according to plan—but that doesn't mean it won't work out.Queer people often rely on community, shared stories, and online creators as our version of "the birds and the bees."Fertility journeys can uncover important health information that impacts far more than family building.Choosing a donor is deeply personal, and there is no one right way to do it.Known donors, anonymous donors, and everything in between can be beautiful paths to parenthood.IVF involves far more waiting, uncertainty, and emotional ups and downs than most people realize.Sometimes the hardest part of family building is adapting when the original plan changes.Being in a queer relationship can create opportunities for flexibility and choice that don't always exist in heterosexual fertility journeys.One embryo really can be enough.Sharing our stories helps the next family feel a little less alone.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Calypso Barnum-Bobb is a queer creator, storyteller, and founder of Mother Calypso, a platform documenting her and her wife Nat's journey to parenthood. Through honest and heartfelt content, she shares the realities of queer family building, fertility treatment, donor conception, and the emotional highs and lows that come with creating a family.Based in London, Calypso is also the co-founder of People Like Us Retreats, which creates transformative retreat experiences for queer women, trans, and non-binary people around the world. Her work centers on visibility, community, and helping LGBTQIA+ people feel less alone in their journeys.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentionedhttps://www.instagram.com/mothercalypso/https://www.wearepeoplelikeus.com/https://www.instagram.com/peoplelikeusretreats/https://www.youtube.com/@mothercalypso🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jake and Sean never expected a conversation on Grindr to lead to marriage, parenthood, and three kids at once.Raised in conservative Mormon families, both men spent years trying to reconcile their faith with their sexuality. In this episode, they share how they met while still closeted, fell in love while trying to "find wives," navigated coming out, left the LDS church, and eventually built their family through surrogacy.They also open up about pregnancy loss, the emotional realities of family building, and the unforgettable moment they learned they weren't having one baby—or even two—but triplets.It's a beautiful conversation about faith, love, resilience, and creating the family you once thought was impossible.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysGrowing up Mormon and realizing they were gayMeeting on Grindr while trying to "find wives"The pressure of faith, repentance, and belongingComing out to their familiesLeaving the LDS church togetherBuilding careers with family as the goalChoosing an egg donor and creating embryosPregnancy loss and the emotional toll of surrogacyThe shocking ultrasound that revealed tripletsRaising triplets as gay dadsHow they talk to their children about surrogacy and donor conceptionBreaking cycles of shame and creating a different future for their kids🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Jake and Sean are Utah-based dads to triplets, former Mormons, real estate professionals, and LGBTQ+ family advocates. Through their social media platform, @daddiestothree, they share the joys, challenges, and everyday realities of raising triplets while helping normalize queer families for millions of viewers. Their story of faith, love, surrogacy, and parenthood has inspired families around the world..🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The babies aren't babies anymore.In this candid conversation, Jaimie sits down with returning guest and friend José Rolón (NYC Gay Dad) to talk about parenting preteens and teenagers as LGBTQ+ parents. From puberty and emotional regulation to first crushes, social media, and navigating the outside world's assumptions about queer families, this episode explores what changes—and what stays the same—as our kids get older.Jaimie and José share honest stories about raising confident kids, keeping communication open during the middle school years, helping children navigate questions about their families, and finding humor in the chaos of parenting adolescents. They also discuss what it's like when your family exists in the public eye and how to empower kids to feel proud of who they are and where they come from.Because it turns out building the family was only the beginning.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysWhy puberty can feel like a return to your child's toddler years.How queer parents can keep communication open as kids become more independent.Helping children navigate questions and assumptions about LGBTQ+ families.What happens when your family's story exists publicly online.Why humor can be one of the most powerful parenting tools.Raising confident kids who are proud of their families.The challenge of balancing protection and independence during the tween and teen years.José's surprisingly satisfying take on raising a straight son as a gay dad.Why connection often happens during activities—not formal sit-down conversations.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)José Rolón is the creator of NYC Gay Dad, an author, advocate, and one of the most recognizable voices in LGBTQ+ parenting. As a father of three teenagers, José has spent years sharing the realities of queer family life, fatherhood, and raising confident, compassionate children. He is also Jaimie's co-host on Love, Take Two, the podcast celebrating life's second acts and proving that sometimes the sequel really is better than the original.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Resources MentionedLove, Take Two🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In Part 2 of the conversation with donor conception expert, author, therapist, and podcaster Lisa Schuman, Jaimie flips the roles and asks the questions, diving deep into donor conception, queer family building, and the emotional realities of parenting in donor-conceived families.Drawing from decades of experience in reproductive medicine, Lisa shares what research reveals about communication openness, why honesty with donor-conceived children matters so deeply, and how LGBTQ+ families have helped shape the conversation around intentional parenting.The conversation explores internalized homophobia, non-biological parenting, genetics, identity, and the fears many queer parents quietly carry. It is an affirming and thoughtful discussion about trust, openness, and the many valid ways families are created.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysWhy communication openness matters more than donor opennessThe importance of talking to donor-conceived children early and oftenHow queer families helped shape donor conception researchInternalized homophobia and the pressure queer parents put on themselvesWhy there is no “right” way to build a familyThe emotional differences between queer and non-queer family building journeysHow intentionality impacts LGBTQ+ parentingWhy honesty builds trust in donor-conceived families🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Lisa Schuman is a therapist, author, adoption and donor conception expert, and the founder of the Center for Family Building. She is the co-author of Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception and host of the podcast Building Your Family with Lisa Schuman. Lisa has spent decades helping individuals and couples navigate infertility, donor conception, adoption, and the emotional complexities of family building.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Resources MentionedLisa’s website: The Center For Family Buildinghttps://familybuilding.net/🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jaimie sits down with therapist, author, podcaster, and donor conception expert Lisa Schuman. Lisa turns the mic on Jaimie as they explore the origins of The Queer Family Podcast, the emotional realities of donor conception, the fears many queer parents carry around biological connection, and why queer families are some of the most intentional families out there. They also discuss humor, resilience, Pride, and the importance of showing up for the entire LGBTQIA+ community right now.They also discuss:LGBTQIA+ family buildingDonor conceptionNon-biological parentingInfertility in queer familiesThe emotional realities of donor conceptionBonding with children as a non-bio parentQueer parenting and intentionalityTalking to kids about donor conceptionHumor and normalization in queer householdsThe current political climate for LGBTQIA+ familiesTrans rights and queer community solidaritySecond-parent adoption and legal protections🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysQueer families are some of the most intentional families out there.The emotional realities of non-bio parenting deserve to be talked about openly and without shame.Infertility can impact queer families too — and it can feel incredibly isolating without representation.Biological connection does not define the strength of a parent-child bond.Bonding with a child is not always instant, even for biological parents.Humor can be a powerful tool for normalizing donor conception and queer family structures for kids.Representation and storytelling matter deeply for LGBTQIA+ people navigating family building.Today’s political climate is creating real fear for many LGBTQIA+ families, especially trans and nonbinary people.Legal protections like second-parent adoption remain critically important.Pride is not just celebration — it is resilience, visibility, advocacy, and community care.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Lisa Schuman is a therapist, author, adoption and donor conception expert, and the founder of the Center for Family Building. She is the co-author of Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception and host of the podcast Building Your Family with Lisa Schuman. Lisa has spent decades helping individuals and couples navigate infertility, donor conception, adoption, and the emotional complexities of family building.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Resources MentionedLisa’s website: The Center For Family Buildinghttps://familybuilding.net/🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jaimie and special co-host José Rolón (@nycgaydad) sit down with married couple Jake and Hannah Graf — authors, advocates, and parents of two — to talk about love, transition, intentional family building, and the beautiful chaos of parenting.Jake shares why he chose to pause testosterone and create embryos years before meeting Hannah, while Hannah opens up about transitioning while serving in the British Army and believing she’d never experience love or parenthood. Together, they talk about finding each other, navigating surrogacy as a trans couple, becoming parents during the height of the COVID lockdowns, and the powerful realization that biology is only one small piece of what makes a family.They also discuss:trans fertility and preserving options for future parenthoodwhy queer families are often forced to have “the big conversations” earlythe emotional realities of non-biological parenthoodparenting through fear, uncertainty, and a global pandemicthe importance of representation and telling joyful trans family storiestheir new children’s book, The Silly Frilly DressThis conversation is funny, emotional, deeply affirming, and a reminder that queer families don’t just exist — we thrive.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysQueer family building requires extraordinary intentionalityFertility preservation can create future possibilities for trans peopleNon-biological parenthood is every bit as real and powerfulSurrogates are truly life-changing partners in queer family creationThe “instant bond” narrative around parenthood can be harmfulRepresentation matters — especially joyful trans family representationKids thrive when they’re allowed to express themselves authentically🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Jake Graf is a filmmaker, writer, actor, and director based in London. A longtime advocate for trans visibility and LGBTQ+ families, Jake has worked extensively in film and television and is passionate about telling authentic queer stories.Hannah Graf is a former British Army officer, public speaker, and advocate for trans inclusion. After becoming one of the first openly trans officers in the British Army, Hannah has used her platform to champion visibility, inclusion, and family representation.Together, Jake and Hannah are parents to two daughters and co-authors of the children’s book The Silly Frilly Dress, a story about self-expression, identity, and allowing kids to be exactly who they are.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Resources MentionedHannah on InstagramJake on InstagramOrder The Silly Frilly Dress in the USOrder The Silly Frilly Dress in the UK🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Vanessa and Jory of @modernfamilynextdoor join the Pride Extravaganza to share their journey from closeted college classmates to raising three children together. They open up about religious shame, coming out to family, known donor conception, reciprocal IVF, difficult pregnancies, and the emotional realities of non-bio parenting in queer families. This conversation is funny, vulnerable, and deeply relatable for anyone navigating LGBTQ family building.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysVanessa and Jory share how growing up religious shaped their experiences with internalized homophobia and delayed coming out.The couple discusses falling in love after meeting in college — despite both initially trying to avoid their attraction to women.They open up about coming out to family members, navigating acceptance, and the emotional impact of feeling like they might lose family relationships.Vanessa and Jory explain how they built their family through known donor conception and later expanded their family through reciprocal IVF.The conversation explores the unique emotional realities of non-bio parenting in queer families, including fears around bonding and identity.Vanessa shares the painful assumptions strangers made about her relationship to her son because she is Mexican and her son is white with red hair.They discuss how little information and representation existed for LGBTQ+ families when they first started trying to conceive in 2015.The episode highlights the intentionality, resilience, and complexity that often comes with queer family building.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Vanessa and Jory are the creators behind @modernfamilynextdoor where they share the realities of raising a queer family online with honesty, humor, and heart. Through their content, Vanessa and Jory have become a source of visibility and representation for other LGBTQ+ families navigating similar journeys.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Chase and Oliver share their journey to becoming parents as two trans dads navigating IVF, pregnancy, identity, and queer family building.The couple opens up about meeting as lesbians before both later coming out as trans, deciding who would carry, stopping testosterone to conceive, navigating failed IUIs, finding the right donor, and ultimately becoming pregnant through IVF.They also discuss trans visibility, redefining masculinity, pregnancy dysphoria, chest feeding, queer travel, and what it means to raise a child in today’s political climate. It’s a deeply honest, funny, and hopeful conversation about intentional parenthood and building a family on your own terms.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysChase and Oliver met as lesbians before both later coming out as trans and eventually beginning their journey to parenthood together.The couple shares what it was like for Oliver to stop testosterone in order to conceive and navigate pregnancy as a trans man.After multiple failed IUIs with a sperm bank donor, they ultimately conceived through IVF using a different donor.The episode explores the emotional complexity of donor selection, queer family building, and the intentionality required to create LGBTQ families.Chase and Oliver open up about redefining masculinity, fatherhood, and what being “real dads” means to them.They discuss pregnancy dysphoria, reconnecting with the body, and the importance of visible trans parent representation.Throughout the conversation, the couple reflects on how queer and trans self-discovery has prepared them to raise a child with empathy, acceptance, and authenticity.🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Chase and Oliver are trans dads, content creators, and queer travel advocates based in the Chicago area who document LGBTQ-friendly destinations and community spaces through their platform, @explorewithchase. In this episode, they share their journey to parenthood — from transitioning together after first meeting as lesbians, to navigating donor conception, IVF, pregnancy after testosterone, and what it means to redefine fatherhood and masculinity as they prepare to welcome their first child.🏳️‍🌈 Thanks to our sponsorsCalifornia Cryobank Use code QUEERFAM26 for a free level 3 subscription to their donor catalogue!🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentioned@explorewithchase on all social media platforms🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our websit🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Episode Summary (Podcast Apps)Dianni is spiraling a little… because she and her girlfriend are talking about moving in together. 😅In this Tea Time episode, Jaimie and Dianni get real about lesbian U-Hauling, commitment anxiety, ADHD messiness, relationship fears, and what actually happens when your life starts getting more serious.From clutter fights and “where does this belong?” energy to deeper conversations about intimacy, long-term partnership, and building a life together, this episode is basically queer couples therapy… but funny.Also: Jaimie accidentally becomes the queer fairy godmother again.Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni is our new Patreon bonus series — and for the next two weeks, we’re giving everyone a free taste before these episodes disappear behind the paywall on June 1st.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysWhy moving in together can feel exciting and terrifying at the same timeThe difference between avoidant attachment and classic lesbian U-HaulingADHD habits, clutter, and the fights couples actually haveWhy relationships aren’t always romance and butterfliesHow partnership becomes teamwork during real life challengesThe “you done with this?” strategy for cohabitation survivalWhy love often looks like learning each other’s weirdest habits🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Co-Produced by Jaimie Kelton & Dianni Hall 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Episode Summary (Podcast Apps)Welcome to Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni — a brand new bonus series from The Queer Family Podcast.For the next two weeks leading up to the Pride Extravaganza, we’re giving listeners a free taste of the Patreon-exclusive chaos before these episodes disappear behind the paywall on June 1st.In this first episode, Jaimie gives us a brutally honest recap of the recent gay family cruise she went on. From lesbian vs. gay boy energy to cruise culture, parenting exhaustion, queer community dynamics, and all the chaos in between — nothing is off limits.This episode is free on the main feed for a limited time before the series moves exclusively to Patreon on June 1st.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysJaimie shares her honest experience attending a gay family cruise.The episode explores differences between lesbian and gay male social culture.Jaimie reflects on parenting exhaustion versus child-free queer life.Dianni and Jaimie discuss queer community spaces and generational differences. • The new Tea Time series will move exclusively to Patreon after June 1st.🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Co-Produced by Jaimie Kelton & Dianni Hall 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What happens when a kid from a queer family chooses to stand up and defend his family in front of lawmakers?Zach Wahls—author, advocate, and Iowa State Senator—first made national headlines as a teenager when he spoke out in support of his two moms during a marriage equality hearing. The moment went viral and helped shift the conversation around LGBTQ+ families.But this conversation goes far beyond that speech.Zach shares what it was really like growing up with two moms in the Midwest—from navigating homophobia in school to the fear of speaking up, including the moment he stayed silent as a kid and how that experience shaped his path into advocacy.The conversation also explores the intentionality behind queer family building, how parents can support their kids in finding their own voice (without forcing them into advocacy), and what it means to grow up in a family that’s often politicized.Now running for U.S. Senate, Zach also speaks to what’s at stake in the current political moment—and why this fight still matters.This episode is about courage, timing, and finding your voice—when you’re ready.If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it—and don’t forget to follow, rate, and review The Queer Family Podcast to help more families find these stories.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysGrowing up with two moms wasn’t the hardest part—navigating the world’s reaction wasThe moment Zach didn’t speak up—and how it shaped his future advocacyWhy intentional parenting is a defining trait in queer familiesHow to support kids in advocating for themselves—without forcing them into itWhat’s at stake politically right now for LGBTQ families and beyondWhy finding your voice is a process—not a requirement🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Zach Wahls is an Iowa State Senator, author, and nationally recognized advocate for LGBTQ+ families. Raised by two moms, he first gained national attention for his viral 2011 testimony in support of marriage equality. Today, he continues his advocacy through public service and is currently running for the U.S. Senate.🏳️‍🌈 Resources MentionedWebsite: https://zachwahls.com/🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Co-Produced by Jaimie Kelton & Dianni Hall 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Kaya Colin—therapist, couples coach, and parent of two—shares a deeply layered journey through identity, belonging, and queer family building.From an unexpected first pregnancy that challenged how others saw their queerness, to navigating single parenthood, to falling in love with their transmasculine partner and building their second child through reciprocal IVF—this story is complex, resilient, and deeply honest.We unpack what it means to feel “not queer enough,” the emotional toll of fertility journeys, and how to stay connected to your partner through identity shifts and everything that comes with building a family.Kaya also shares their decision to use a known donor, how they talk to their kids about their origin stories, and why their family is preparing to leave the U.S. in search of safety and alignment.This is a conversation about redefining family, reclaiming identity, and choosing your path—even when it doesn’t fit into anyone else’s box.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysIdentity isn’t always linear—especially within the queer communityExperiencing both external and internalized gatekeeping around queernessBecoming a parent while navigating a major identity shiftBuilding a relationship while already parenting a young childA partner’s gender transition within the relationshipReciprocal IVF (RIVF) with a trans partner and the physical/emotional tollFertility struggles, miscarriage, and the impact on relationshipsChoosing and navigating a known donor relationshipRaising kids with open, age-appropriate conversations about their origin storiesUsing books and language to normalize queer family buildingThe importance of staying connected as a couple during TTC and parentingMaking the decision to leave the U.S. for safety and alignment as a queer family🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Kaya Colin (she/they) is a queer, non-binary therapist, couples coach, and founder of The Relational Compass. With over 15 years of clinical experience, Kaya specializes in helping couples navigate transitions, connection, and communication through a neuroscience-informed, relational approach.They are a parent of two and bring both professional expertise and lived experience to their work—particularly when it comes to relationships, identity, and family building within the LGBTQ+ community.🏳️‍🌈 Resources MentionedWebsite: https://therelationalcompass.comInstagram: @therelationalcompass🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email [email protected]🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email [email protected]—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Co-Produced by Jaimie Kelton & Dianni Hall 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy