The Raising Kids with Purpose Podcast

You may have been told to praise your kids when they're "being good." So you tell them, "Good job" any time they make a good choice; you may use sticker charts and other forms of praise. What if that well-meaning praise is quietly working against the very confidence and motivation you're trying to build? In this episode, we're digging into what the research actually says about generic praise and why the small shift from praise to encouragement changes everything for your child's brain, resilience, and long-term motivation. In this episode you'll learn: Why "good job" isn't actually helping your child (and what's happening in their brain instead) The 3 types of praise — and which ones build a growth mindset vs. a fixed one Carol Dweck's research on person praise and why calling your kid "smart" can backfire The strength-based encouragement formula that combines the best of both worlds The Sportscaster Method — the easiest way to encourage without empty praise How to flip from "I'm so proud of you" to something that actually builds self-worth Practical phrases to use in the moment (even when your brain goes blank) Resources mentioned in this episode: Free Strengths Toolkit — Discover your child's core character strengths so you can encourage them intentionally in the moment. 👉https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/d5l5j6  Read the full blog post — includes the strength-based encouragement infographic, printable phrase guides, and deeper research breakdowns. 👉 raisingkidswithpurpose.com/strength-based-encouragement Mentioned in this episode: EP 9: The Lie We've Been Told About Consequences — if this episode resonated, go back and listen to Episode 9 where we unpack another big myth about what actually motivates kids: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/9-the-lie-weve-been-told-about-consequences-and-rewards/id1879606964?i=1000760441242  Books referenced: Mindset by Dr. Carol Dweck - https://amzn.to/4odKb8O The Strength Switch by Dr. Lea Waters - https://amzn.to/4ukPh4v The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey - https://amzn.to/4udwxUk *The links above are affiliate links. If you purchase through my links, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I only recommend books I've personally read and love! Work with Adriane: If you're ready to go deeper, not just with how you talk to your kids, but how you show up regulated, connected, and intentional, the P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program is where we do that work together: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com 

A lot of parents grew up without getting their emotional needs met. They may have grown up emotionally unsupported and left to work through hard feelings on their own, mostly because their parents, even if well-intentioned, had to work and were busy. Or they grew up in homes where feeling disappointed, sad, or mad simply wasn't allowed. And out of love, many parents are now overcorrecting. They're removing every uncomfortable moment from their child's life because watching their child struggle feels unbearable. Here is the truth nobody is saying out loud: when we shield our kids from every hard moment, we are not protecting them. We are robbing them of one of the most important skills they will ever need: frustration tolerance. And tolerating frustration is needed to build resilience. In this episode, Adriane shares a real story about wanting to rescue her son from disappointment, but she made a different choice. She illustrates a powerful example of what it looks like to stay present with your child in their hardest moments without fixing it for them. Frustration tolerance is not something children are born with. It is a skill that must be practiced. Their brains are literally under construction, and their frontal lobe, the part responsible for regulating emotions and understanding cause and effect, are not fully developed until their mid-twenties. Our job as parents is not to remove the frustration. It is to be the scaffold while they learn to move through it. This episode covers: Why so many well-intentioned parents have swung the pendulum too far, and what it is costing their kids What frustration tolerance actually is and why it is one of the most critical skills to build in early childhood The pickleball court story and what it taught both Adriane and her son about resilience, repair, and trying again How to recognize when you are managing your own discomfort instead of supporting your child through theirs Three practical things you can do this week to start building frustration tolerance in your child Resources and Links Mentioned: How to Become Your Child’s Emotion Coach: Episode 12 -  https://theparentingwithpurposepodcast.podbean.com/e/emotioncoach/  Play with Purpose Parenting Class: This class is designed to help parents connect with their children through intentional, purposeful play while building the skills kids need to thrive. https://raisingkidswithpurpose.thrivecart.com/play-with-purpose/ The P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program: Adriane's signature 7-step framework for parents who want to regulate themselves first so they can show up fully for their kids in the moments that matter most. https://raisingkidswithpurpose.thrivecart.com/1-1-purpose-parent-program/  Book a call with Adriane: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat  

This episode is about the 8th sensory system — interoception, and it’s the sense no one talks about. It's the one that connects your child's meltdowns, their anxiety, their inability to notice they're hungry until they're already falling apart, their emotional dysregulation, and so much more. And it's the one that, when I researched it, explained a lot about who I was as a child. This episode closes out the 3-part series on the 8 Sensory Systems, and it's the one I'd hand to every parent, teacher, and caregiver who has ever looked at a child in a full meltdown and had absolutely no idea what triggered it. In this episode: What interoception actually is — the nervous system's process of sensing, interpreting, and integrating signals from inside the body, including heart rate, hunger, temperature, pain, and emotional states What a large interoceptive cup looks like — deeply tuned in to hunger, fullness, bathroom needs, body temperature, and emotional shifts What a small interoceptive cup looks like — missing hunger cues until complete breakdown, potty accidents, not noticing they are overheating, unable to identify where discomfort is coming from The direct connection between interoception and emotional regulation — why children who can sense what is happening inside their bodies regulate better The highly sensitive child who absorbs everyone else's energy and emotions — what is actually happening neurologically A personal story about growing up with interoceptive hypersensitivity, being called a crybaby, and the shame that came with it What to do — practical tools including body check-ins, body awareness language, predictable schedules, and validating your child's physical experiences How all 8 cups interact with each other, and why a child can go from fine to completely dysregulated so quickly The school angle — why children with unidentified sensory needs are frequently mislabeled as defiant, and how understanding this makes you a more powerful advocate in every school meeting A note on microschools and co-ops as alternative environments worth exploring The shift this series is meant to create: No cup size is wrong. Your job is not to change your child's cup — it is to understand it. That understanding is what moves you from frustration to empathy, from confusion to confident advocacy. You stop being just the disciplinarian and start being the person who truly knows your child. Resources mentioned: Full blog post with all 8 systems: raisingkidswithpurpose.com/sensory-processing-systems Free Sensory Profile Worksheet — fill it out for each of your kids: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/h9m3f5 Work with Adriane — coaching programs for parents who want personalized support, understanding and advocating for their child: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat  Missed the earlier episodes in this series: Episode 13 covers the foundation of sensory processing, the cup analogy, and the tactile, vestibular, and proprioceptive systems. Episode 14 covers the auditory, visual, olfactory, and gustatory systems — including a complete reframe on picky eating and why noise-sensitive children are often the loudest ones in the room. A note before you go: Take the reflection question from this episode seriously — which cup surprised you the most, and which one finally explains something about your child that has been confusing you? Then download the free Sensory Profile Worksheet and fill it out for each of your kids. That one exercise will change the way you see their behavior, possibly forever. Thank you for spending this series with me. Sharing this podcast with another parent who needs it is one of the most meaningful things you can do — for their family and for mine.

Why Your Kid Covers Their Ears, is Super Loud but Hates Loud Places & Won't Eat Certain Foods Has your child ever covered their ears at their own birthday party — the very one they begged for? Or do you have a kid who will only eat plain pasta and you've spent years calling it picky eating? Or maybe you've walked into a store and your child immediately starts shutting down, and you can't figure out why? None of that is behavior. None of it is defiance. And none of it has anything to do with how you're parenting. In Part 2 of this 3-part series on the 8 Sensory Systems, we're covering the four senses most parents think they already understand — and completely reframing what's actually happening in your child's nervous system. This episode is full of real stories from my own house, the science explained simply, and practical things you can start doing today. In this episode: The auditory sensory system — why your noise-sensitive child is also the loudest human in your house (the science behind this one is wild) The visual sensory system — what's really happening when your child is overwhelmed by clutter, bright lights, or screens The olfactory sensory system (smell) — why this sense has the most direct pathway to your child's emotional brain, and what that means for their behavior The gustatory sensory system (taste) — the "picky eater" reframe that changes everything, and why pressure at mealtimes always backfires Real stories from my boys, including why I couldn't take my toddler into a public restroom with self-flushing toilets Why stress makes ALL of these systems harder to manage A note for parents who are also neurodivergent — this episode might explain some things about YOU too Resources mentioned: Full blog post: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/sensory-processing-systems Free Sensory Processing Profile — fill it out for everyone in your family: landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/h9m3f5 Picky eating resource I love: Feeding Littles (I have a friend who knows her personally — her approach is the real deal): instagram.com/feedinglittles The Sensory Diet Book (affiliate link): amzn.to/4dibEB8 Want personalized support? If you're listening to this series and thinking, "this is exactly my child", or "this is totally me", let's talk. I'd love to help you connect the dots and figure out what YOUR child specifically needs. Find a time to chat: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat Missed Part 1? Episode 13 covers the foundation — the cup analogy, sensory seeking vs. sensory avoidant, and the tactile, vestibular, and proprioceptive systems. Start there if you haven't already. Up next — Part 3: We're covering interoception, the 8th sense almost no parent has heard of, and the one that connects everything — including your child's emotional regulation, meltdowns, and ability to read their own body. Don't skip this one. If this episode helped you see your child differently, will you share it with another parent who needs to hear it? That's how we change the conversation — one family at a time. Thank you for being here.

Part 1/3: The 8 Sensory Systems Every Parent Needs to Understand If you've ever googled "why is my child so difficult," this one's for you! Because here's what I know: your child isn't difficult. Their brains are wired differently than you think. And once you understand how, everything changes the way you see their meltdowns, the way you respond to their big behaviors, and the way you show up as their advocate. In this episode, I'm kicking off a brand new series on the 8 sensory processing systems. This is going to be one of those episodes you send to every parent you know. Most of us grew up believing we have 5 senses. We actually have 8 sensory systems. And every single one of them plays a role in how your child behaves, regulates, learns, and connects. Today, we're starting with the foundation: What sensory processing actually is, why your child's "cup" is uniquely theirs, and we're diving into the first three systems: touch, movement (vestibular), and body awareness (proprioceptive). In this episode: Why there are actually 8 sensory systems (not 5) and why this changes everything The cup analogy and why no cup size is wrong, just different Sensory seeking vs. sensory avoidant: what each looks like in real kids The tactile system: why tags, light touch, and messy play are about more than preference The vestibular system: what's really happening when your kid can't stop spinning (hint: it's not just because he or she is hyperactive) The proprioceptive system: the "organizing" sense and why heavy work is magic for every child Real stories from my own three boys, including Nolan's coloring pages in preschool and what co-regulation looked like in our hallway Resources mentioned: Full blog post: raisingkidswithpurpose.com/sensory-processing-systems Free Sensory Profile Worksheet: fill this out for each of your kids: landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/h9m3f5 Instagram Reel mentioned in this episode: instagram.com/p/DJFoA7ZTMPU Want to go deeper? If you're ready to stop reacting and start understanding your child's unique wiring, that's exactly what we do inside my coaching programs. You'll learn to become your child's strongest advocate, in your home and in every room you walk into on their behalf. 👉www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat  This is Part 1 of a 3-part series. Next week: We're covering the auditory, visual, smell, and taste systems, including why "picky eating" is NOT a behavior problem and why your kid covers their ears at their own birthday party. If this episode resonated with you, will you take 30 seconds and leave a review? It helps other parents find this podcast, and that matters so much to me. Thank you for being here.

5 Steps to Become Your Child's Emotion Coach The moment your child is at their most emotional is not a problem to solve. It is actually the most important opportunity you have with them. In this episode, Adriane walks through the five steps to becoming your child's emotion coach, explains why validating feelings is not the same as condoning behavior, and shares a story about a client who had never formally studied emotion coaching but was doing every single step beautifully without even realizing it. That story alone will give you so much hope. This episode is the foundation for everything else in connected parenting. If you have ever felt like you are trying to correct behavior that just keeps coming back, this is where the real shift happens. In This Episode You'll Hear: Why your child's meltdown is not the enemy and what it actually is The neuroscience behind naming emotions and how labeling a feeling measurably reduces its intensity in the brain Why there are no "bad" emotions, only comfortable and uncomfortable ones, and what that reframe changes for your parenting The five steps of emotion coaching and how to move through them in real time Why Step 1 starts with YOU and your own emotional awareness before you can coach anyone else How connection always comes before correction, and what happens to a child's brain when you lead with empathy first The difference between validating feelings and permitting behavior, and why parents confuse these two things constantly A real client story about a parent who was already doing this work naturally and what that looked like in action Why kids who feel understood actually behave better, not worse How emotion coaching builds the brain pathways your child needs for lifelong emotional intelligence and healthy relationships   Experts and Research Referenced: Dr. Dan Siegel Psychiatrist, author, and clinical professor at UCLA School of Medicine. Adriane references two concepts from his work: "name it to tame it," the research showing that labeling an emotion activates the prefrontal cortex and reduces the intensity of the emotional response, and Mindsight, his framework for developing the capacity to understand your own mind and the minds of others. Learn more at drdansiegel.com Dr. Gordon Neufeld Developmental psychologist and author of Hold On to Your Kids. Adriane references his principle of "collect before you connect before you correct," the idea that a child needs to feel attached and safe before any teaching or redirection can actually land. Learn more at neufeldinstitute.org The Gottman Institute The emotion coaching framework taught in this episode is rooted in the research of Dr. John Gottman, whose studies found that a parent's ability to emotion-coach their child is one of the strongest predictors of that child's social, emotional, and academic outcomes. His research identified the five steps of emotion coaching that Adriane walks through in this episode. Learn more at gottman.com Free Resource: Free Emotion Coach Toolkit - https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/i1x5n9  A printable resource to help you put the five steps into practice right away, including emotion vocabulary tools, sentence starters for each step, and guidance for getting through hard moments without losing the connection. Work With Adriane: P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program For parents who are ready to go beyond listening and actually apply this work to their specific child, their specific triggers, and their specific family. The P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program is where the deeper work happens. Emotion coaching, co-regulation, connection rituals, boundaries, and repair are all woven throughout the program with personalized coaching support. https://raisingkidswithpurpose.thrivecart.com/1-1-purpose-parent-program/  Setting Boundaries with Purpose Toolkit A companion resource for families working through how to hold limits with empathy and without power struggles. Pairs directly with the emotion coaching framework because boundaries land so much better when the connection is already there.  https://raisingkidswithpurpose.thrivecart.com/setting-boundaries-toolkit/  Book a Discovery Call  If you want personalized support and a plan built around your family, book a discovery call with Adriane www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat  Connect With Adriane: 🌐 Website: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com 📸 Instagram: www.instagram.com/raisingkidswithpurpose If this episode resonated with you, share it with another parent who is in the thick of the hard moments and needs to hear that those moments are actually the doorway to connection. Leaving a review helps other parents find this show.

How Screen Time Isn't the Break You Think It Is   Have you ever handed your child an iPad to get five minutes of peace, eat out at a restaurant, shop without distraction, or get anything done? Separately, you wonder why it's so hard to parent your kid because of the emotional reactivity, lack of sleep, big behaviors, and more. You're not imagining it. In this episode, I'm breaking down what the research actually says about screens and young, developing brains, why handheld devices are in a completely different category than watching a movie on TV, and what to do instead. This one is for parents of young kids: toddlers, preschoolers, and early elementary. A future episode will cover older kids and cell phones specifically. In This Episode You'll Hear: Why the "break" the iPad gives you may be making behavior harder in the long run What's actually happening in your child's brain during screen time and why the 0–5 window is so critical The difference between quick dopamine and slow dopamine, and what it means for your child's ability to self-regulate Why I disagree with the AAP guidelines and what I believe instead about handheld devices The cognitive decline data from Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath's 2026 U.S. Senate testimony, and why it should make every parent pay attention The socialization myth: why gaming "with a friend" isn't actually building real social skills Two real families I worked with and how we broke the screen-behavior cycle Practical first steps to start reducing screen time without going cold turkey Mentioned in This Episode: Free Screen Time Menu A curated list of alternatives to screens, sorted by category and energy level so you always have an answer to "but what do I DO instead?" 👉 https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/p1s3x2 Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath Cognitive neuroscientist and author of The Digital Delusion, Dr. Horvath testified before the U.S. Senate Committee on Commerce, Science, and Transportation in January 2026. His research showed that Gen Z is the first generation in recorded history to score lower on standardized cognitive measures than the generation before them, with the decline tracking directly to the widespread introduction of screens in schools and daily life around 2010. His words: "Our kids are less cognitively capable than we were at their age." Learn more about his work at lmeglobal.com Book a Parent Support Discovery Call If you'd like personalized support building a plan for your specific child and family, I offer discovery calls where we can talk through what's happening and map out what might actually work. 👉 www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat Research Referenced: Hutton et al. (2022) — early screen time linked to reduced brain cortex thickness Tamana et al. (2019) — preschool screen time linked to increased attention problems in later childhood Fitzpatrick et al. (2024) — tablet use at 3.5 linked to increased anger/frustration at 4.5; self-reinforcing cycle Radesky et al. (2023) & Konok et al. (2024) — using devices to calm dysregulated children prevents the development of self-regulation skills Lin et al. (2022) — small portable screens as neurodevelopmental disruptors of sleep Pempek (2014) — background TV reduces toddler vocabulary and caregiver-child conversation Zhao (2018) & Chen (2019) — blue light from close-range screens, retinal damage, and melatonin disruption Cris Rowan / Zone'in Research Fact Sheet — https://crisrowan.com/fact-sheet/  Connect With Adriane: Website: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/raisingkidswithpurpose

Does your child tune you out, ignore your requests, not do their chores, or make good choices? Then they will sometimes respond when you raise your voice or threaten to take something away? And you're in constant power struggles?  In Episode 10, we're talking about the one parenting tool that actually breaks the cycle: Collaborative & Proactive Solutions, developed by Dr. Ross Greene. This is the tool that stops recurring battles, builds real cooperation, and opens up your relationship with your child in ways you didn't expect. What We Cover Why threatening screen time works for about four minutes and keeps failing long-term Plans A, B, and C; and why Plan B is the game-changer The three steps of Plan B so you can start using it this week What actually happens when parents first try this tool and why kids respond differently than expected The cooperation that builds over time when CPS becomes your go-to The Three Steps of Plan B Empathy — Understand your child's concern first. What's hard for them? Define the Problem — Share your concern too. Both perspectives on the table. Invitation — Brainstorm a solution that is realistic and works for both of you. Resources Dr. Ross Greene — Lives in the Balance The home of Collaborative & Proactive Solutions, including free tools and resources for parents. https://livesinthebalance.org/our-solution/ Free CPS Paperwork & Tools: https://livesinthebalance.org/cps-materials-paperwork/ The Explosive Child *Affiliate link Raising Human Beings *Affiliate link Think: Kids — Collaborative Problem Solving (MGH) A related but distinct evidence-based approach developed at Massachusetts General Hospital. https://thinkkids.org/ Note Added After Recording I briefly mentioned in the episode that there are two approaches that share very similar names. Here's the quick distinction: Collaborative & Proactive Solutions — Dr. Ross Greene's original model, housed at Lives in the Balance Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS/TK) — A related but distinct approach developed at Massachusetts General Hospital through the Think:Kids program, led by Dr. Stuart Ablon Both are evidence-based and share the same core belief that kids need skills, not just consequences. In this episode, I focused on Dr. Greene's approach. For a full side-by-side comparison: https://livesinthebalance.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/cps-vs-cps_edit2.pdf This Week's Action Step Think of the one fight that keeps happening in your house. Don't try to solve it yet, just ask yourself: "What do I think is hard about this situation for my child?" That question is the beginning of Plan B. Work With Me Setting Boundaries with Purpose Toolkit: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.thrivecart.com/setting-boundaries-toolkit/ A practical resource to help you move from reactive to intentional.  Purpose Parent Transformation Program Ready for personalized support? Book a discovery call to learn more. www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat 

This may challenge everything you believe about parenting: consequences do not teach. The research (and so many people's personal experiences) have been this super clear. By the end of this episode, you'll understand why what you were taught isn't working and what to actually do instead. We've been handed a lie: that kids need to feel bad to do better and that without punishment, there's no discipline. For decades, adults have falsely believed that consequences are how children learn. They learn the opposite of what they need to behave better.  In this episode, we're talking about: Why consequences don't actually teach, and what neuroscience says about why The prefrontal cortex development truth that changes everything about how you see your child's behavior Why a dysregulated brain literally cannot learn, no matter how logical the consequence is Alfie Kohn's research on punishment and why short-term compliance is NOT the same as long-term learning Why rewards aren't the answer either  The "overjustification effect" and how well-meaning reward systems quietly kill your child's intrinsic motivation What to do instead: practical, brain-based shifts you can start using right now The one question that will change how you respond to every behavior from here on out Your kid will learn far more through co-regulation, connection, and play.  Books & Research Mentioned in This Episode: Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn* — The research on why rewards and punishments both undermine the behavior change you actually want.  Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason by Alfie Kohn* — Moving away from control and toward connection The Overjustification Effect — Lepper, Greene & Nisbett (1973) — The classic drawing study on intrinsic motivation and external rewards *As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases Related Resources:  Setting Boundaries With Purpose Toolkit — Stop relying on punishments and rewards and start using boundaries that actually work WITH your child's brain. This toolkit gives you the framework and the scripts. P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program — Ready to go deeper? This is where we address the root — your nervous system, your patterns, your wiring. Ready to stop surviving and start thriving? If this episode resonated and you're ready to go beyond behavior management and actually understand what's driving your child's actions, connect with Adriane using the links below.  Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a parent support discovery call: www.raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

"I'm a terrible mom or dad." "I'm failing my kids." "I keep losing it, and I don't know how to stop. I'm a failure." If you've ever said any of those things, out loud or just in your head, this episode is for you. You are not alone. And feeling like you're failing doesn't mean you ARE failing. In this episode, we're getting honest about the shame spiral so many parents are stuck in and talking about what's really going on underneath it. In this episode, we're talking about: Why the guilt you're feeling is actually evidence that you CARE and that it means that you're feeling, not failing The trap of "doing it right" and why chasing the perfect parenting standard is exhausting your nervous system What's really happening in your body when you lose it (and why trying harder doesn't work) The missing piece nobody talks about: how your OWN wiring as a parent (including undiagnosed neurodivergence) could be impacting your ability to regulate How to break the trigger → react → shame → repeat cycle Three practical things you can do right now to start shifting out of "I'm failing" mode The cycle stops with you. The healing starts with you. And imperfect progress still counts. Book Mentioned in This Episode: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy — A must-read on connection-based parenting and seeing the good inside your child (and yourself) The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron, Ph.D Rupture and Repair research Resources & Links Mentioned: P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program — Ready to do the deep work? This is where we go beyond strategies and address the root cause — your nervous system, your patterns, your wiring. This is how real change happens. Setting Boundaries with Purpose Toolkit Pausing - check out Episode 2 // The Power of Pausing in Parenting: How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding Ready to stop surviving and start thriving? If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to go deeper and understand your own nervous system, work through the patterns underneath the reactions, and become the regulated, connected parent you want to be, Adriane would love to chat! Book a free discovery call with Adriane Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a parent support discovery call: raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

A family’s culture is the invisible thread that holds a home together. If you are looking for practical ways to build your family culture intentionally, this episode is a must-listen! Before listening to this episode, be sure to tune into Episode 1, 2, and 3 of the Building Your Family Foundation series, which are linked below. In the fourth and final episode of this series, we are diving into what a family culture is (and isn’t) and 7 ways to build a strong family culture.  We’re chatting about simple ways to build your family’s culture, including:  Defining your family values Establishing meaningful family rituals & traditions Prioritizing open communication & emotional safety Spending intentional time together And more! Building a strong family culture is a journey and the fact that you're here, listening, doing the work — that IS the culture. You're already building it! Other Episodes in This Series: Episode 4 // How to Define Your Family Values Episode 5 // 6 Ways to Make your Family Values Stick Episode 6 // How to Make Your Kids Feel Seen and Heard Links Mentioned in This Episode:  Family Meeting Agenda P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program Setting Boundaries with Purpose Toolkit Word of the Year Toolkit Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a discovery call: http://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

If you are looking for real, practical ways to get your kids to listen while improving your overall family communication, this episode is for you! Before listening to this episode, be sure to tune into Episode 1 and 2 of the Building Your Family Foundation series. In this third episode of the series, we’re talking about one simple tool that will connect your family, so that your kids are feeling heard and you are parenting without yelling.  We’re chatting about how to create family meetings your kids will ACTUALLY want to attend, with 4 easy steps:  Topics of discussion Calendar or important events Items of the week (words or skills to focus on, goals, etc.) “Don’t forgets” (a time to show appreciation, give compliments, do a fun activity, or give allowance) Family connection doesn’t just happen, it takes intention. Family meetings are a great way to give everyone in your family a voice, so that everyone feels seen, heard, and understood - and the result will be a more connected and peaceful family life.  ➡️ Don't miss the next episode in our series to learn about building a strong family culture! Links Mentioned in This Episode:  FREE Family Meeting Agenda Family Values and Goal-Setting Toolkit P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program Blog Posts on Family Meetings:  Simple Family Meeting Agenda Ideas 8 Tips for Having a Family Meeting Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a discovery call: http://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

Now that your family has a compass, let’s make those values something your kids can actually see, feel, and live out.  Before listening to this episode, be sure to tune into Episode 1 of the Building Your Family Foundation series. In this second episode of the series, we’re talking about how to get your family values to stick, so they are not just on a poster on the wall but instead guide your family in hard and happy moments. We’re chatting about the 6 ways to help your family values stick:  Define and revisit your family values together often Make your family values the language of your home Connect your emotions to values Model, model, model Make your values part of your decisions (and say them out loud!) Be consistent, not perfect Having family values isn’t just something you talk about. To truly live out these principles, choose one of the strategies we talked about today and begin to embed them into your family culture. ➡️ Don't miss the next episode in our series to learn about how to make family meetings something your kids WANT to attend! Links Mentioned in This Episode:  Stop the Fighting Parenting Toolkit Read the blog HERE Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a discovery call: http://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

If you want to parent with more clarity, confidence, and calm — your family needs a compass. In Episode 1 of the Building Your Family Foundation series, we’re talking about how to define your family values so they guide your decision-making, create a sense of belonging in your family, and build a strong family culture. We’re chatting about the 4 steps to defining your family's values:  Choose the value categories that are most important to you Reflect on the values your family is already living out Narrow your list down to 5-8 core values with examples of how they practically look for your family Write your values down and make them visible in your home When you take the time to define what matters most to your family, you’re giving your children something invaluable: a compass to guide them through life’s biggest and smallest decisions. You can be the change your family needs and it starts with your values. ➡️ Don't miss the next episode in our series to learn about the 6 practical ways to make your family values stick! Links Mentioned in This Episode:  Download your FREE Family Values List and Worksheet HERE Kelly McGonagal - The Upside of Stress Stop repeating yourself 100 times a day and get your kids to listen with the Setting Boundaries Toolkit Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a discovery call: http://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

If your child is having tantrums, talking back, refusing to listen, or acting “defiant”… what do you actually believe about them in that moment? Do you believe they’re being manipulative? Strong-willed? Disrespectful? Or do you believe they’re struggling? In this episode of Raising Kids With Purpose, Adriane unpacks the hidden parenting beliefs that shape how you respond to toddler tantrums, power struggles, and teen attitude — and why mindset matters more than any discipline strategy. In this episode, we’re chatting about: • Where our beliefs about “difficult” or strong-willed children actually come from • Why behavior is never the whole story (especially in defiant child moments) • The difference between the problem lens and the curiosity lens • One simple question that reduces power struggles and builds connection Above the surface, you see meltdown, refusal, backtalk, shutdown. Below the surface? Developmental limits, unmet needs, sensory overwhelm, lagging skills. Same child, same moment, completely different outcome because of a mindset shift. If you’re exhausted by constant power struggles or feel stuck in cycles with your strong-willed child, this episode will help you see what’s really happening and how to shift it. ✨ If this conversation encouraged you, subscribe and keep walking this journey with me. Links Mentioned in this Episode:  If you’re ready to dig deeper into the belief work underneath your parenting, you can book a Parent Support Discovery Call at raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat  Beyond Behaviors by Dr. Mona Delahooke PURPOSE Parent Transformation Program Check out Conscious Stories, incredible books to read to your kids right before they fall asleep. Click here to get 10% off. *Affiliate link Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a discovery call: http://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

If you’ve ever promised yourself you wouldn’t yell — and then yelled anyway — this episode is for you. You know what to do. But in the moment, something takes over. In this episode of Raising Kids With Purpose, Adriane explains what’s actually happening in your brain and body when you react and the neuroscience behind it. When your child won’t put on their shoes and you’re already late, your nervous system detects threat. Your thinking brain goes offline. Fight-or-flight takes over. And then comes the guilt. But there’s a way to interrupt the pattern. In this episode, we’re chatting about: • Why your nervous system reacts before your logic can step in • What “the pause” really is (it’s more than counting to ten) • Three questions that shift you from control to connection • A simple 10-second “Name It to Tame It” tool you can use in real time ⭐ Weekly Challenge: Practice the pause just once this week. One trigger moment. One breath. One different response. ➡️ Subscribe and follow the show so you never miss an episode! Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Adriane's P.U.R.P.O.S.E. Parent Transformation Program Parent Support Discovery Call: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a discovery call: http://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I stay calm with my child when I know what to do?” — this episode is for you. You’re not broken. Your child isn’t broken. But your nervous system may be stuck in survival mode. In this first episode of Raising Kids With Purpose, Adriane shares how her early childhood experiences shaped her parenting — and the turning point that changed everything. After struggling with traditional discipline methods that didn’t work, she discovered the power of co-regulation, nervous system healing, and connection-based parenting. In this episode, we're chatting about: • Why parenting feels harder when you’re dysregulated • What co-regulation really means in everyday life • Why calm is contagious — and so is chaos Adriane is sharing the science behind co-regulation and practical steps you can take to become a calmer, more regulated parent. The cycle stops with you. The healing starts with you. Links Mentioned in this Episode:  The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel   Connect with Adriane: Instagram: @raisingkidswithpurpose Website: https://raisingkidswithpurpose.com Email: [email protected] Book a discovery call: http://raisingkidswithpurpose.com/chat ✨ We’re building something powerful here. Subscribe now so you don’t miss Episode 2 and the power of pausing in parenting!