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The Rare On Purpose Podcast with Jay Floyd
by Jay Floyd
Rare On Purpose is a leadership podcast for people who refuse to drift through their careers and lives on autopilot.Hosted by leadership coach and author Jay Floyd, the show explores what it means to build a life, career, and identity with intention. In a world obsessed with trends, influence, and external validation, Rare On Purpose challenges listeners to slow down, reflect, and take the driver’s seat of their own growth.Each episode blends leadership insight, personal reflection, culture, and real coaching lessons to help managers, aspiring leaders, and thoughtful professionals develop clarity, confidence, and purpose in how they lead and live.This isn’t about chasing titles or copying someone else’s blueprint.It’s about becoming the kind of leader who understands who they are, what they stand for, and how they move through the world.Because the goal was never to blend in.The goal is to be Rare On Purpose.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Your Life Is a Bad Query
Most people think they’re burned out.They’re not.They’re misaligned.In this episode, Jay Floyd breaks down how database concepts like indexing and query optimization map directly to your strengths, your energy, and how you design your life.If everything feels harder than it should, this will explain why.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Nobody’s Handing You Clarity
A lot of leaders are frustrated by vague managers, moving targets, weak one-on-ones, and unstable expectations. The mistake is thinking clarity is something a good boss is supposed to hand you. It is not. In this episode, Jay Floyd breaks down why strong leaders stop waiting to be managed perfectly, how to create clarity in the middle of fog, and why your one-on-one should be used to reduce ambiguity, sharpen alignment, and make your value more legible. If your work is strong but your leadership signal is inconsistent, this episode is for you.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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A Polished Life Can Still Be a Borrowed One
In this episode of The Rare On Purpose Podcast, Jay Floyd breaks down a tension a lot of capable people are living with but rarely name: a life that looks strong, stable, and successful on the outside while feeling disconnected on the inside.This conversation is about what happens when adaptation starts masquerading as identity. When being useful, impressive, dependable, sharp, or high-performing gets rewarded for so long that you stop asking whether that version of you is actually rooted. Jay explores how borrowed identity forms, why it often gets mistaken for maturity, and how it quietly shapes leadership, peace, decision-making, and self-trust.Inside this episode:Why a borrowed life usually begins with adaptation, not deceptionWhy the most dangerous misalignment is often the kind that still gets complimentsHow borrowed identity shows up in leadership through overexplaining, approval-seeking, overfunctioning, and unstable presenceWhy performance can produce results but never produce rootednessWhat honest inventory looks like when it is time to stop managing the performance of a lifeIf you have ever felt strangely absent from your own success, this episode will give language to that tension and challenge you to confront what is polished but not rooted.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Most People Do Not Need More Hype. They Need More Honesty.
This episode marks the official launch of The Rare On Purpose Podcast.Jay Floyd opens this new chapter by naming a problem a lot of capable people are living with: a life that looks strong from the outside but feels disconnected on the inside. In this episode, he breaks down why so many people are performing instead of becoming, why clarity matters more than hype, and why leadership gets shaky when identity is borrowed instead of owned.This is not a conversation about image. It is a conversation about alignment.If you have been building, achieving, producing, and showing up for everyone else while quietly feeling off-center, this episode is for you. Jay lays out the mission of the podcast and the standard behind it: identity before image, clarity before noise, ownership before excuses, and leadership that starts within before it ever shows up in a title.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Stop Naming What You Don’t Want: Attention Economics 101
Most people think they’re being “realistic” when they lead with what they don’t want. They’re not. They’re paying attention to the wrong thing, and attention is a currency. You spend it with repetition.In this episode I break down a simple truth using two everyday scenes. First, the coffee shop example where people talk more about what they do not want than what they actually want. Then I anchor it in a personal story from my childhood: I asked my brother to bring me a seafood and crab sub from Subway, changed my mind at the last minute, and he still brought the original. Not out of spite, but because I made myself synonymous with it.Let me be clear. I am not talking manifestation. This is not magic. This is mechanics. What you name and rehearse becomes what your mind searches for, what your mouth amplifies, and what your behavior builds around.Then I widen it to society and politics. Criticism can be necessary, but if all you do is criticize, you become an amplifier. I make the case for becoming the antipattern instead of just calling out the pattern.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Champions Hurt
Belts get lifted by bodies that ache. Champions smile with stitches. That is the truth under every highlight. In this episode I map the Champion Loop I use to turn pain into progress without burning out. Break down, repair, adapt, repeat. You will leave with a ten-minute drill you can run today and a model card for your team.What you’ll hear:• Why hurting and winning live in the same moment• The Champion Loop: break down, repair, adapt, repeat• Sparring vs fight night at work• A feedback format that lands: one aim, one flaw, one drill• Construction rules for tough seasons• A ten-minute Champion Day Drill to start nowRare Note:Champions hurt. They do not panic. They finish the round.https://www.rareonpurpose.comKeywords: leadership, resilience, practice, feedback, performance, mindset, habit, coachingHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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You Want It One Way. It’s The Other Way
I hear Marlo in my head. You want it to be one way. It is the other way.My emotions want rescue. Reality brings the bill. Most days that bill is exactly what I need to grow. In this episode I map a simple system I run when feelings and facts clash so I can lead on hard days without panic. I call it the Reality Stack. Five steps, fifteen minutes, real peace.What you’ll hear:• The rescue reflex vs the resolve choice• How to read the system under the scene so you stop arguing with headlines• Regulated transparency at work when the storm hits• The Reality Stack: Feel, Fact, Frame, System, Step• A 15-minute Reality Reboot you can run todayThe Reality Stack (quick reference):Feel: name the emotion out loudFact: write three things that stay true when your mood changesFrame: what is this here to teach meSystem: incentives, gatekeepers, constraint, scoreboardStep: one move in 24 hours that respects all fourrareonpurpose.com.ThinkingHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Between Cabrini and Love Jones: The Common Ground between Two Worlds
Common once said, “My circumstance is between Cabrini and Love Jones.” That line has always hit home for me.This episode is about what it means to grow up between struggle and success — to carry both stories inside you and figure out how to honor them both.My parents worked at the United States Postal Service. They were solid, steady people who built their lives around reliability. But when they divorced, everything shifted. Our plans fell apart, and so did our sense of safety. My mom went from holding things together to fighting for survival, raising us in neighborhoods that tested her every day.We ended up in the hood, not because of bad choices but because life rerouted us. Still, my mom refused to let that be the end of the story. She crafted a master plan to get us out and keep us out — no matter how many times we got evicted. Every time we packed up, she’d find another place to land. The zip codes changed, but her determination didn’t.That’s where I started to understand the quiet power of dual consciousness. I was living a suburban reality we could barely afford, surrounded by people who never had to think about survival. But I also carried the wisdom of those who did. I could hear both sides of the story, read both rooms, and move through both worlds without losing myself.Cabrini–Green represented everything my mom was trying to save us from — systemic limits and daily struggle. Love Jones represented everything she believed we could become — creative, confident, and fully realized.Somewhere between those two worlds is where I grew up. That space in between became my education.Now, as a father, I’m raising kids who live on the other side of that dream. They don’t know what it feels like to watch the lights get cut off or move overnight. Their normal is the stability I once prayed for.That’s a blessing, but it comes with a challenge. How do I teach them the value of struggle without recreating it? How do I help them develop gratitude when they’ve only known comfort?This episode is about that tension — the beauty and the burden of being the bridge.Because the truth is, being between worlds doesn’t mean you’re confused. It means you’re fluent.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Spaceships, Rearview Mirrors & Andre 3000: How Forward Beats Backward
[THEME]:What it really means to move forward—and how fear loses its power once you do.[SUMMARY]:Andre 3000 once said, “Spaceships don’t come equipped with rearview mirrors.” It sounds clever until life puts you in a moment where looking back feels safer than moving forward.A few weeks ago, I went in for a simple physical. While they drew blood, the room tilted and went white. Next thing I knew, I was on the floor. The fear that followed was worse than the fainting itself. I didn’t want to go back. But the next week, I did—and that moment taught me something simple but deep: fear doesn’t disappear, it just waits for you to move first.In this episode I break down what that means in real life. Why reflection matters but fixation steals momentum. Why our design is closer to a spaceship than a sedan. And how learning to default to action can turn panic into clarity.It’s not just about courage; it’s about learning to see through the windshield that’s already bigger than the mirror behind you. Because spaceships don’t come equipped with rearview mirrors—and neither should we.[ANCHOR_MOMENTS]:• The doctor’s office and the moment of blackout • The quiet hesitation before going back • The decision to move anyway • The realization that action rewires fear[SIGNAL_WORDS]:fear, movement, forward motion, reflection, rumination, mindset, Andre 3000, growth, Rare On Purpose, clarity, leadership, self-awareness[RARE_NOTE]:“Fear doesn’t disappear. It just waits for you to move first.”[CTA]:Listen now on all platforms. Think deeper. Move different.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Life Is Coaching You: Stop Taking It Personal, Start Taking It as Training
We talk about mentors, coaches, and leaders shaping us—but what if life itself is your coach? In this episode, I break down why you need to stop seeing everything as “happening to you” and start seeing it as feedback for you. From culture to bias to personal opinions, none of it controls the movement of life. Life is rolling on, teaching, shaping, and guiding—if you’re willing to pay attention. Think of it like a people-mover at the airport: step on, let it carry you forward, and learn what it’s showing you along the way.This one isn’t just motivation—it’s perspective. And it might change how you see every challenge in front of you.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Why Survival Mode Makes Bad Leaders
You’ve been praised your whole life for being adaptable. For surviving chaos. For doing more with less. But here’s the truth: survival skills don’t scale. As leaders, the very instincts that kept us alive can destroy our ability to lead. In this episode, I break down the trap of over-adapting — through the lens of faith, trauma, and the workplace. I share how my upbringing gave me a PhD in survival, how it built my career, and how it nearly cost me in leadership — and most importantly, what I had to do to break free. If you’ve ever been told to ‘just make it work,’ this one is for you.#RareFrequency #TechCoachUnc #LeadershipUncut #FromSurvivalToStewardship #AuthenticLeadership #TraumaToTriumph #BlackVoicesInTech #FaithAndWork #AdaptiveLeadershipHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Born Leader or Built Leader? The Truth About Leadership DNA
Some people just have it—that spark, that energy that makes others follow. We call them “born leaders.” But here’s the truth: raw talent without sharpening gets wasted, and plenty of so-called “non-naturals” have outworked the naturals to become exceptional leaders.In this episode, Jay Floyd breaks down the myth of the born leader, shares personal stories (including a powerful lesson from his 11-year-old daughter), and unpacks why leadership is both gifted and grown. From sports analogies to real-world coaching insights, you’ll walk away with a new lens on what makes a leader last.👉 Whether you believe you’re a born leader or you’re building brick by brick, this episode will challenge you to sharpen your edge and put in the reps.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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T-N-T: Blow Up the Excuses That Keep You Stuck
Too many leaders confuse procrastination with laziness. The truth? Most delays are artificial—born from clutter, confusion, and systems that drain energy instead of creating clarity. In this episode, I break down the T-N-T principle—Today, Not Tomorrow—and show you how to spot hidden delays, simplify your systems, and move with explosive clarity. If you’re ready to stop paying the tax of confusion, this is the episode you can’t afford to put off.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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She Lost Her Husband—Now She’s Teaching the World How to Love Again
After losing her husband, LaKisha Williams faced a crossroads: let grief close her heart, or let God expand it. In this moving Uncut Gems conversation, Jay Floyd sits down with the founder of Reignite Love to talk about faith, loss, resilience, and the surprising truths she now teaches about love. Discover:The moment she chose hope over heartbreakWhy grief and joy can—and must—coexistHow faith reshapes the way we date and loveThe top 8 things men actually want in a relationship This episode is proof that love still works, especially when God writes the story.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Money On The Wood: Redefining Your Compensation
In this episode of Uncut Gems, Jay Floyd challenges the traditional idea of compensation and breaks down the hidden currencies we often overlook—growth, friction, opportunity, and culture. Whether you’re in a thriving environment or stuck in a dead zone, this message is a call to recognize where the real value is showing up in your life. Because sometimes the sharpest paychecks don’t come in dollars. They come in development. That’s "money on the wood."Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Hustle Culture Is a Cult. I Almost Joined.
High achievers, listen up: the grind is lying to you. Jay unpacks how hustle culture masks itself as ambition—but slowly robs you of peace, presence, and purpose. This episode is a call to reject performance addiction and reclaim your soul from the noise.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Your Title Is Lying to You
You are not your LinkedIn headline. In this episode, Jay exposes how our job titles, roles, and achievements can quietly hijack our identity. If you’ve ever felt lost without your label, it’s time to come back to who you were before the world needed a resume.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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You don’t need a guru—you need a reminder
You don’t need a guru—you need a reminder. In this kickoff episode, Jay Floyd dismantles the performance-driven, expert-worshipping culture of self-help and calls you back to something deeper: your original design. If you’ve ever felt buried under expectations, this one’s for you.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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This Isn’t Just a Book—It’s My Decision to Be Whole
What do you do when you’ve got too many stories to tell and too many gifts to box up?In this episode of Uncut Gems, Jay Floyd gets all the way real about the release of his newest book, Rare On Purpose—and the internal tug-of-war it took to bring it into the world. He opens up about the creative overload, the pressure to “pick a lane,” and the personal decision to stop fragmenting his voice just to be more palatable.This isn’t a promo episode. It’s a truth session. It’s about identity. Alignment. Calling. And the journey toward wholeness.Jay also shares:Why Rare On Purpose was the first book he chose to releaseWhat it means to lead with truth instead of performanceHow he’s learning to show up with all of who he is—coach, tech leader, fiction writer, and man of faithIf you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink your story to fit the feed—this one's for you.📍Bonus: Jay will be at the Databricks + AI Summit in San Francisco this week. If you see him, say what’s up—especially if it starts with “I bought your book.”Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Systems vs Goals: Why You Keep Failing
We explore the transformative power of building systems tailored to your unique design rather than forcing yourself to fit into structures that weren't made for you. James Clear's quote about failing to the level of your systems serves as a powerful reminder that our struggles often stem from system incompatibility, not personal shortcomings.• Forcing yourself to fit into incompatible systems is like installing Mac OS apps on Windows and expecting them to work• Using your unique design as a strength rather than trying to conform to standardized expectations• The wrestling analogy: don't force Jeff Hardy to wrestle like Bret Hart - it's not a behavior problem but a design conflict• Understanding that you ARE the system, not just talent within a system• Building calendar blocks and accepting "losses" when distracted as effective strategies for ADHD• Designing your workflow around your natural rhythms instead of borrowed systems• Embracing your differences as your blueprint rather than seeing them as weaknessesEmail me at [email protected] or DM me on LinkedIn at I am J Floyd if your organization wants me to deliver my 60-minute workshop on finding your rareness. You can also reach me through my website imjfloyd.com.Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Stop Being a Robot!
AI is getting better at being a robot.You better get real good at being human.This episode ain't about fearing the future—it’s about refusing to flatten yourself to fit it.If you’ve been following systems that dull your edge, shrinking your story to fit job descriptions, or feeling lost in the noise of automation and burnout—this is your wake-up call.You’re not replaceable.You’re just overdue to move out of the robot’s seat and reclaim your own.Let’s talk about what it really means to out-human the machine.Go check out my new book! iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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The Low End Theory: Why Quiet People Are Your Team's Secret Weapon
Ever notice how some people hold everything together without making noise about it? They're the human equivalent of a bassline in music—not always noticed until they're gone, when suddenly everything falls apart.This episode dives deep into the power of quiet leadership and the essential role of steady, consistent contributors who don't seek the spotlight. Drawing from my experience as a tech leader, I share the story of an engineer who rarely spoke in meetings but consistently solved impossible problems while stabilizing team dynamics. Her quiet competence initially flew under my radar—a mistake too many leaders make when they confuse volume with value.Through musical metaphors and wrestling analogies (yes, the Undertaker makes another appearance!), we explore how true leadership often hums at a frequency you only feel when it's absent. In performance reviews, team dynamics, hiring panels, and beyond, we've developed a dangerous habit of rewarding the high notes while overlooking the low end that holds everything together.If you're the quiet force in your workspace who doesn't perform leadership loudly but makes everything function smoothly—this one's for you. And if you're leading others, I challenge you to identify: Who's the bassline on your team? Who's holding it all together even when they're not raising their hand? Are you celebrating them or sleeping on their contributions? Because sometimes the most powerful leadership isn't heard—it's felt. Stay tuned for the next episode, "Design to Fail," where we'll explore why brilliance breaks down when forced into systems it wasn't designed for. If this resonated with you, share it with someone who deserves recognition for their quiet strength. Better yet, tell them directly that you see their value.Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Booked Wrong: What Happens When Talent Is Miscast
Send us a textWhen professionals are misaligned with their roles, it's not about lacking talent but being placed in the wrong story. The path to authentic success comes from recognizing your unique shape and leaning into it rather than contorting yourself to fit predetermined expectations.• The Rock initially failed as a smiling, high-energy baby face despite his wrestling pedigree• His career transformed when he aligned his character with his natural energy and audience response• Job descriptions rarely capture what companies truly need from you• We're trained to bend ourselves into bullet point lists instead of showing up in our rare, natural shape• Wrestling legends like Mick Foley and The Undertaker succeeded by embracing their unique qualities• Performance problems are often storyline problems—"it's not the player, it's the placement"• Some people are atmospheres, not employees—squeezing them into task lists kills their powerPlease like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who's been labeled difficult, lazy, or "not a fit." Connect with me on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/iamjayfloyd or visit my new website at iamjayfloyd.com to learn about my upcoming book and workshops designed to help people find their shape. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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The World's Motion Sickness
Send us a textMotion sickness provides a powerful metaphor for finding spiritual steadiness in a chaotic world, revealing how cognitive dissonance between stillness and movement creates disorientation in both physical and spiritual realms.• Personal experience with car sickness when reading comics as a passenger but never when driving• Scientific explanation: motion sickness occurs when eyes focus on stillness while body experiences movement• Apple's "vehicle motion cues" feature provides peripheral dots that move with the vehicle, reducing dissonance• Spiritual parallel: we experience dissonance between focusing on unchanging truths while living in rapidly changing times• Spiritual "dots" like wisdom, community rhythms, and mentors help us stay oriented without overriding truth• Psalm 46:10 teaches that stillness is internal awareness of God even during external motion• Wisdom comes from using spiritual orientation tools without fearing changeKeep your eyes focused on what you know is true, things that are greater than you. Don't move in fear. Use the dots to stay clear in a moving world. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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My Brother Julius: Genius, Republican, Gang Member
Send us a textHave you ever wondered what a long-gone voice would say about our increasingly polarized world? That's the question I explore in this deeply personal episode about my brother Julius - a true paradox of a human being whose absence I feel more acutely as our society grows more binary.Julius was no ordinary kid growing up in the Cleveland projects. Born four years before me in 1972, he embodied contradictions that would make him impossible to categorize today: street-smart yet academically brilliant, the natural leader of every group he joined, and perhaps most surprisingly - a Black Republican from an inner-city family with deep roots in Democratic politics and civil rights activism. His Republican identity wasn't performative contrarianism; he genuinely believed in economic self-determination, telling me "If you want the money, you got to go where the money is."From standing on milk crates to boil eggs at age seven (resulting in serious burns) to teaching me coding on his Commodore 64, presenting it as a magic trick, Julius packed immense wisdom into his short nineteen years. Some of his insights still resonate decades later: "Whoever told you that life would be fair?" and "If I have to live scared, then that's not living." He embodied fearless curiosity, describing Homer's Iliad with the same excitement others might discuss video games.When Julius was murdered in 1992, just months before his 20th birthday, the world lost a uniquely complex voice. Today, as AI, politics, and questions of purpose collide in unprecedented ways, I wonder what he would contribute to our conversations. Would his Republican leanings have evolved toward MAGA politics? Would his entrepreneurial mind have created the next tech breakthrough? Would today's tribal thinking have space for someone who refused to fit neatly into expected categories?Who's the person whose voice you wish was still in the room? What would they say about where you're headed? How might you carry their unique genius forward in your own way? Share your thoughts in the comments or send me a DM about your "Julius" - that rare voice you still carry with you. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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We Are Both Sides: Finding Wholeness in a World That Demands You Choose
Send us a textThe invisible war raging through our society isn't about politics or technology—it's about the fundamental duality of human nature. In this thought-provoking exploration, Jay Floyd breaks down how we're collectively torn between two powerful forces: the cold, calculating, results-driven side that dominated much of the 20th century, and the warm, empathetic, relationship-centered approach that has gained prominence in recent decades.Drawing from personal experience as both a leader and coach in the tech world, Jay shares a profound insight: this isn't a battle where one side should or even can win. The pendulum of human behavior swings naturally between these poles, with each representing vital aspects of our shared humanity. When one dominates too heavily, the other becomes invisible, creating backlash and division. "That's not hypocrisy," Jay explains, "that's humanity."What makes this episode particularly powerful is its call to wholeness. Rather than choosing sides in this cultural war, Jay challenges listeners to recognize the complex interplay of these forces within themselves. The executive who appears cold but cries in secret. The empathetic coach who negotiates fiercely when protecting their rates. These aren't contradictions—they're complementary facets of being fully human. In a world obsessed with picking sides, embracing your complete self might be the rarest and most revolutionary act possible. Consider where you might be suppressing part of yourself, and what genuine wholeness could look like in your life and leadership. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Are You Shouting or Shifting?
Send us a textWe spend too much time posting, watching, and scrolling with hopes of sparking change, when real impact starts in the mirror through internal alignment rather than external noise. • Introduction to a three-part series called "The Real Reach" exploring how true influence begins with clarity, proximity, and identity• Being informed is not the same as being aligned—we need to filter information through the lens of our unique purpose• The most meaningful stages in life reflect what we built in silence through facing internal gaps• Impact doesn't start when the world listens to you—it starts when you listen to yourself• Your assignment is already within you—you are the uncut gem, carrying something rare• Creating meaningful change requires turning energy inward to identify strengths and alignment• Impact grows organically when we shine our light in our close circles before expanding outwardTake time for an alignment check: What's one area in your life where you've been loud but not aligned? Don't ignore it, because what you ignore will eventually lead you. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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The Day I Died Pt. 2: One Step Backward to Go Forward
Send us a textChildhood trauma doesn't simply vanish when the moment passes—it silently shapes our lives for years, even decades. Standing at the edge of a high school swimming pool at 14, my heart pounding as I faced away from the water, I was about to confront a fear that had controlled me since I nearly drowned at age five.For years, I'd expertly masked my terror of water. I hid behind the stereotype that "Black people don't swim," creating a convenient shield to avoid pools, water parks, or anything involving submersion. This fear wasn't loud or obvious—it whispered like wisdom, sounding protective while actually keeping me confined to a dark, metaphorical crawl space beneath my life. "Don't do it. Stay away from that. Remember what happened?" These quiet thoughts disguised as self-preservation were actually preventing my growth.My journey included a traumatic fourth-grade swimming class where a teacher physically forced me into deep water, reopening old wounds and reinforcing my fear. But standing on that high school pool edge years later, when instructed to take one step backward into the unknown waters, something remarkable happened: I didn't panic. Though I lacked swimming skills, I managed without terror for the first time. This breakthrough revealed that my fear wasn't just about drowning—it was about failure, appearing weak, and not being enough.What fears have been silently shaping your life? What limitations have you accepted that were never yours to begin with? Your traumas aren't meant to diminish you—they're meant to make you unique, like an uncut gem. Share your story of what fears have been holding you back. Together, we can knock off the dust that prevents us from shining as the rare, valuable, one-of-one gems we truly are. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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The Day I Died: Part 1
Send us a textJay Floyd shares the dramatic story of his childhood drowning experience at age five, exploring how this traumatic event shaped his life and psychology.• Growing up in Cleveland after his parents' bitter divorce• Living with cousins in a low-income neighborhood where kids roamed freely without supervision• Visiting a public pool despite not knowing how to swim• Experiencing drowning and a near-death experience with vivid hallucinations• Being resuscitated by a lifeguard and feeling immediate shame• Getting driven home by a neighborhood man who turned out to be a known child predator• Developing a long-term fear of water and sensory triggers that persist into adulthood• Processing childhood trauma through storytellingTune in next time for part two of this story, where Jay will explore how this experience continued to impact his relationship with water throughout his life. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Why Sharing Your Journey Matters: A Call to Action
Send us a textSharing your story holds the power to inspire and connect with others. This episode emphasizes the importance of documenting personal narratives in our digital age while challenging listeners to reflect and embrace their journeys.• The value of personal narratives • Relating and connecting through shared experiences • Balancing social media usage to foster storytelling It’s time to take action! Next time you post on social media, ask yourself, "Have I told my story?" Share your journey and leave a record for those who come after you. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Keeping Your Balance: Personal Agency in a Shifting Landscape
Send us a textIn a world where change is constant, finding our footing can feel overwhelming. Join us as we unpack the complexities of navigating change fatigue, especially during swift leadership shifts. Our host shares personal experiences, illustrating the importance of fostering agency in our personal lives and how our choices today can shape a better future.We dive into the intricacies of impulsive leadership and its potential ramifications on morale and productivity, drawing parallels with established business principles like Six Sigma. This structured approach helps identify and address core issues, allowing for more thoughtful changes. What emerges is a vital conversation about hope—the audacity to see silver linings even in challenging times. This episode encourages listeners to focus on what they can control rather than getting lost in the chaos around them. Stay engaged and inspired as we explore pathways that allow us to reclaim our power and rise above external challenges. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share your insights! Together, let’s walk each other home in this journey of growth and resilience. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Navigating Modern Tribalism pt 1
Send us a textEver wondered how tribalism shapes our interactions in the digital world? Join me, Jay Floyd, as I weave together personal stories and cultural critiques to unwrap this complex topic. Picture me sipping a Chick-fil-A frosted coffee while my kids are off to Ninja Camp, setting the stage for a lively conversation about Kendrick Lamar's Super Bowl performance. I dive into the heated Kendrick versus Drake debate, questioning whether industry algorithms are pulling the strings on public opinion. By comparing Kendrick to Prince and Drake to Michael Jackson, I highlight the distinct, sometimes cryptic, nature of Kendrick's pro-black messaging and what it signifies about generational shifts in musical communication.Moving forward, I tackle the age-old challenge of unity in a world driven by inherent tribal instincts. Reflecting on the hurdles these instincts present, I encourage you to join the conversation on how we might overcome them to build a more peaceful and unified society. Your thoughts and insights are not just welcome; they're essential as we explore these pressing issues together. Stay engaged with me on social media as we probe what it truly means to foster collective harmony in today's fragmented world. Let's stay thoughtful and work towards peace, one conversation at a time. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Publishing the Book of Your Life
Send us a textThis episode dives into Jay Floyd's journey of publishing his first fiction novel while celebrating Black History Month. He shares insights on the importance of storytelling, representation, and finding one's voice in the publishing world. • Understanding the significance of Black History Month • Introduction to the coloring book "Burnt Sienna" • The inspiration behind the book's title • Importance of representation in children's literature • Jay's journey toward publishing his first fiction novel • Value of knowing and articulating your story • The importance of genre in storytelling • Encouragement for listener support and involvement Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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You are in Rare Form
Send us a textHave you ever considered that your life, with all its intricacies and challenges, makes you as unique and captivating as a live performance by Prince? Join me as we embark on a journey to uncover what it truly means to be in "rare form." Inspired by the iconic scene from "Purple Rain," we reflect on how each of us, much like Prince on stage, embodies a one-of-a-kind masterpiece. Our conversation is a celebration of the inner spark that defines us as extraordinary individuals, urging you to recognize and embrace the miracle that is your body—a wondrous entity that persists and thrives despite life's hurdles. Together, we explore the idea that our existence, marked by a constant inner fire, positions us as remarkable beings ready to captivate the world with our uniqueness.Let's pause and savor the present moment, where your wisdom and vitality intersect beautifully. Right now, you are at the peak of your life's journey, combining the richness of experience with the vibrancy of youth. During our time together, we reflect on the marvels of human life, acknowledging the complex processes that enable even the simplest actions, like breathing and thinking. Embrace the aches and pains as part of this incredible journey, and let gratitude guide you in appreciating the here and now. This episode is a heartfelt tribute to the miracles that allow us to exist and thrive, urging you to savor every moment of your unique and remarkable life. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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The Power of Transparency
Send us a textDiscover the transformative power of communication as we unravel the distinction between honesty and transparency with your host, Jay Floyd. How can embracing transparency redefine personal and professional relationships? In this episode, Jay promises to guide you through the nuances of being not just honest, but transparently open about your intentions, feelings, and mistakes. We explore the profound impact this can have on building trust, fostering accountability, and creating stronger, more informed communities. Whether you're a leader looking to cultivate a more authentic environment or someone seeking deeper personal connections, the insights shared here could be pivotal.Join us on this journey of self-discovery and growth as we challenge conventional communication habits. Jay encourages listeners to experiment with transparency in their daily interactions, reflecting on its influence and sharing their experiences, whether they are transformative or bring about discomfort. Feel the potential of embracing transparency as a catalyst for personal development, and learn how this practice might just be the key to unlocking meaningful change in your life. Your insights and reflections are not only welcomed but essential, as together we navigate the path to more genuine and impactful communication. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Why YOU are a Rare Piece of Art
Send us a textWhat if the key to unlocking your full potential lies in transforming your deepest pains into your greatest strengths? Join me, Jay Floyd, as I share my transformative journey across the realms of technology, writing, music, and acting, highlighting how personal hardships have fueled my creativity and personal growth. From leading in the tech space as a data engineering manager to writing books like "The Poet Who Watched the Whole Parade" and "The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood," I open up about how embracing life's challenges has propelled me forward. Explore my passion for music with over 10 albums produced and my acting ventures, including an audition for an ABC sitcom, all while emphasizing the power of storytelling and pursuing passions.Celebrate the intrinsic value of life with me as we explore the uniqueness of our existence, drawing parallels between human life and masterpieces like the Mona Lisa. I reflect on how our living form makes us extraordinary and how the fleeting nature of life puts us in "rare form" when we think and create. As we wrap up this vibrant discussion, I invite you to appreciate your own unique value and encourage you to continue following this inspiring journey. With a touch of humor and a hopeful eye toward a Spotify contract, this episode promises to uplift and inspire, reminding us all of the special spark that keeps us alive. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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My Toy Inchworm and How it got Destroyed.
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Rethinking Humpty Dumpty
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The Cost to Acquire Your Customers
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How a Commodore 64 Sparked a Career
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Critics Don’t Cross Finish Lines
Send us a textWhat if you could silence the sideline critics and finally take control of your life’s steering wheel? Today, I'm sharing insights from my latest book, "The Driver's Seat: How to Get Out of the Backseat of Your Life and Drive in Your God-Given Purpose." We’ll uncover why it's vital to cut the ties holding you back and courageously step into the driver's seat of your life. Forget about those who prefer to critique from the sidelines while they themselves remain stagnant. Life is an incredible journey, and it’s time to drive your unique vehicle forward, embracing the miraculous nature of our existence as time travelers who can only move forward.Join me, Jay Floyd, as I challenge the prevalent culture of criticism that keeps so many parked on the sidelines. We’ll explore the dangers of expending energy on judgment rather than fueling your own journey towards your goals. Whether you're a celebrity or an everyday person, the key is to maintain momentum despite the noise. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion about taking action over judgment and how focusing on your path will keep you moving forward. Your life’s direction is too important to leave to the opinions of others—let’s get moving. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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Tradin' Places starring...Drake and Kendrick Lamar?
Send us a textEver wondered if the biggest stars in music are genuinely the most talented, or just the most accessible? Join me as I rebrand my podcast from "What's Good" to "On Everything." This transformation parallels my own personal and professional journey, rooted in the streets of Cleveland, Ohio, during the vibrant 80s. Here, under the banner of Open Book Media, I embark on a mission to share untold stories from the black and urban culture of that time. My past as a rapper comes to life as I reflect on my experiences with groups like Rhyme Royal and the 12 Monkeys, and I share my excitement for future creative projects, including an upcoming fiction book.The podcast takes a critical look at the music industry's dynamics, spotlighting the rivalry between artists Drake and Kendrick Lamar. I stir the pot by challenging the idea that popularity equals talent, arguing that media manipulation and accessibility play pivotal roles. With a nod to the classic film "Trading Places," I introduce a theory that likens their rivalry to the movie's plot. Could the music industry be orchestrating a modern-day social experiment, complete with its own "Duke brothers" pulling the strings? My skepticism about Drake’s meteoric rise and Kendrick’s unconventional rhyme schemes adds fuel to this captivating discussion.Finally, let's rethink the very nature of success in the entertainment world. As I explore Drake's potential departure from music, I ponder if he's seeking freedom from the industry's constraints, much like 50 Cent's transition to acting. The conversation considers the broader implications of power and control, drawing parallels to "Trading Places." By examining the uphill battle against industry giants like Universal Music Group, and how algorithms might shape what music gets heard, I invite listeners to question if success is born of talent or nurtured by industry machinery. Join me for a thought-provoking journey that questions the status quo in music and beyond. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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What's Good About Pressure
Send us a textWhat if the pressure you're feeling could mold you into something extraordinary rather than break you? Join us as we explore this compelling analogy between life's pressures and the high-stakes world of football, focusing on how even the smallest habits can prepare us for the ultimate tests. Imagine an inexperienced quarterback facing relentless blitzes—this is the reality we navigate daily. We discuss how building good habits and preparing for inevitable pressures can transform us, rather than break us. This episode dives deep into the importance of self-awareness and integrity, offering insights on how to turn moments of high pressure into opportunities for growth.In this spirited discussion, we reflect on how resilience and transformation can be our greatest allies. Through relatable real-life examples and sports scenarios, we highlight the significance of honest self-assessment and the courage to correct our flaws before the pressure mounts. Whether you’re facing challenges at work or in your personal life, the habits you cultivate now could determine whether you turn into a diamond or crumble under the stress. Tune in to discover how embracing and preparing for pressure can lead to extraordinary transformation. Don't miss out on these invaluable lessons that could shape your future. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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What's Good About Embracing Your Past
Send us a textEver wondered how your past selves influence your present and future? Join us as Coach Jay Floyd guides us through a transformative Throwback Thursday, where he reveals the power of building a healthy relationship with each stage of our lives. Jay shares invaluable insights on how honoring and forgiving our past selves can break through anxiety and pain, creating a new path for growth and success. Whether you're holding grudges against your teenage self or struggling to set boundaries, this episode offers tools to nurture self-love and overcome life's hurdles.Coach Jay Floyd isn't just about nostalgia—he turns it into a powerful exercise in self-discovery and transformation. Using creativity to turn life's challenges into stepping stones, Jay invites us to reframe Throwback Thursday from a mere social media trend into a meaningful journey of personal growth. Tune in to learn how to embrace all parts of yourself, set proper boundaries, and build a brighter, more fulfilling future. This episode is your chance to change the narrative and use your past to propel you forward. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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19. What's Good About Baby Steps
Send us a textWhat if the secret to monumental success lies in the small, seemingly insignificant actions we often overlook? Join us as we uncover the profound concept of "baby steps" and how these tiny yet enormous efforts can transform your life. Drawing inspiration from the sheer determination of a baby's first steps, we discuss the importance of resilience, trust in oneself, and the willingness to embrace discomfort as critical components for personal growth. This episode encourages you to identify your own "baby steps"—those pivotal actions that may seem daunting but are essential to your journey of development.Inspired by Matthew 18:3, we'll explore the idea of adopting a child-like mindset where every minor achievement is celebrated and every setback viewed merely as a stepping stone. Reflect on the resilience that pushes a baby to try again after falling, and apply this same tenacity to your endeavors. We'll challenge you to lift your head, roll over, and take that next unsteady step towards your goals. Celebrate the small victories, trust in your own developing abilities, and find the courage to step off balance as you ascend to new heights. Tune in and transform how you perceive growth and progress in your life. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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18. Potential and Pressure
Send us a textHave you ever felt the crushing weight of expectations, or found yourself grappling with the bittersweet dance of potential and pressure? That's the beating heart of our latest episode, as my wife Dania and I peel back the layers of our life together on the "Open Book Podcast." We're not just partners in marriage, but also in creativity, having birthed the inclusive coloring book "Burnt Sienna" – a celebration of Black historical figures designed to deepen cultural appreciation.This week, I'm laying bare the struggles with depression and PTSD that have shadowed my journey and how these experiences have sculpted the man, the father of three, and the husband that I am today. Dania joins me in a candid conversation about the obstacles and growth that come from facing life's pressures head-on. Together, we explore the strength found within supportive relationships and how they propel us toward fulfilling our potential. Tune in to share in our reflections, challenges, and the wisdom gleaned from over a decade of marriage and mutual support.Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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17. Defeating Giants by using Self Awareness
Send us a textEver felt like an underdog facing an impossible challenge? Let me, Jay Floyd, take you on an epic journey through the power of strength finding, unraveling how your own strengths, much like David's in the face-off with Goliath, can be the key to conquering life's daunting 'Goliaths'. As we navigate the complexities of leadership, personal growth, and overcoming obstacles, I'll reveal how strategic thinking and a strong self-awareness can turn the tides in your favor. Discover with me the transformative potential of recognizing and applying your life-equipped abilities, be it in steering an organization, nurturing a family, or overcoming personal trials.Hold onto your hats as we venture into the heart of self-discovery, where your past battles - those bouts with addictions, losses, or just a path less traveled - can be the forge for your greatest strengths. Together, we'll dissect the importance of these life experiences and how they shape us uniquely to face new challenges head-on. No guest, just you and me, engaging in an honest dialogue about self-awareness and the profound impact it has in sculpting a successful, fulfilled life. Tune in for a powerful episode that promises to arm you with the confidence and insight needed to leverage your strengths and emerge victorious, no matter the size of your giants. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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16. What's Good About Securing Necessities
Send us a textEver faced a project that felt like navigating a maze blindfolded? I certainly have. Through a candid recount of my corporate escapades, I unveil the imperative of securing what we need to thrive. Picture this: me, embarking on a journey through the corporate wilderness, armed with nothing but a pressing need for clarity and the audacity to ask questions. It's a story filled with trials, but also triumphs, and it's one that highlights the sheer importance of confidence and effective communication in not just professional scenarios, but in every facet of life. Plus, we'll explore why skating by with limited resources can give you a rush, but it's a practice best not indulged as the stakes in our careers elevate.As the episode winds down, I can't help but feel a rush of appreciation for you, the listeners, who've made this podcast a shared journey of growth and reflection. You've been the backbone of this amazing community, and as we wrap up today's chapter, I can't stress enough how your support has been the cornerstone of this endeavor. So, before we part, do us both a favor – hit that like button, subscribe, and turn on those notifications. We're more than a podcast; we're a sanctuary for the soul. So stay tuned, stay inspired, and let's keep connecting with every episode that comes our way. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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15. What's Good About Tough Conversations
Send us a textEver faced a mountainous challenge and found strength you didn't realize you had? That's the gold we're mining today—transforming life’s toughest moments into the foundation of unshakeable confidence. Join me, Jay Floyd, as we uncover the power of the stories we tell ourselves, particularly how we can pivot our perspective to view our past not just as obstacles we've hurdled, but as integral parts of our unique success narratives. It's a session that celebrates the diversity of our journeys, especially for those from underrepresented communities, and a deep dive into how to channel those experiences into greater fulfillment and purpose in every aspect of life.Then, we're navigating the winding roads of tough conversations, a territory I've become well-acquainted with as a manager of data engineers. Here's where the rubber meets the road in personal and professional growth. Discover actionable tactics for engaging in those inevitable, often uncomfortable, but crucial discussions that fuel progress. Whether it's a heart-to-heart with a loved one or a strategic meeting at work, I share insights on embracing the discomfort, admitting what we don't know, and confidently stepping forward into the unknown. Get ready to embrace the lifeblood of achievement—the art of tough conversations—and how mastering them is your secret weapon to a successful and deeply satisfying life. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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14. What's Good About Transparency
Send us a textHave you ever worn a mask, not of deception, but out of fear that being seen might make you vulnerable? That's a question I, Jay Floyd, grapple with as we unpack the essence of transparency in our latest heart-to-heart talk. As a certified Life Coach and Data Engineering Manager, I've discovered that showing up authentically, without prompting, can bridge the gap between who we are and how we connect with those around us. This isn't just about spouting the truth—this is about peeling back layers to reveal our unvarnished selves, and in doing so, fostering trust and clearer communication in our relationships and workplaces. Support the showhttps://iamjayfloyd.comHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Rare On Purpose is a leadership podcast for people who refuse to drift through their careers and lives on autopilot.Hosted by leadership coach and author Jay Floyd, the show explores what it means to build a life, career, and identity with intention. In a world obsessed with trends, influence, and external validation, Rare On Purpose challenges listeners to slow down, reflect, and take the driver’s seat of their own growth.Each episode blends leadership insight, personal reflection, culture, and real coaching lessons to help managers, aspiring leaders, and thoughtful professionals develop clarity, confidence, and purpose in how they lead and live.This isn’t about chasing titles or copying someone else’s blueprint.It’s about becoming the kind of leader who understands who they are, what they stand for, and how they move through the world.Because the goal was never to blend in.The goal is to be Rare On Purpose.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
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