The Raw, Real & Rebelicious Podcast - with Michelle Rebelle Coops

Welcome to another soul-stirring podcast episode. This time, we'll be diving deep into a critical question - how do you prioritize yourself in a healthy way? This is especially important in an era of over-giving, where we often forget to put ourselves first. In society, the concept of self-prioritization is often justified with popular notions of self-care and autonomy. We'll question that view and challenge the common but misleading perception that self-autonomy means a hierarchy that unintentionally places others on the back burner. We'll explore a different conceptual slant. Self-prioritization isn't an either/or choice, nor should it create hierarchy. The key to a healthy balance, lies in redefining the narrative: it isn't about 'me first', but 'me as well'. This view recognizes that while all individuals, including ourselves, are important, circumstances and relationships can influence where the most attention is required at a given time. This shift helps recenter us back into the cranial fabric of our communities, fostering stronger, healthier relationships with others and ourselves. Join us on this enlightening episode, as we dismantle black and white sayings, and embrace a more inclusive, relatable approach to self-care. Discover how a healthy balance of autonomy can color your life and inspire you to mature in your sovereignty. So, get ready to embark on a redefined journey of self-prioritization, where every soul matters!

Do you find it hard to deal with conflict and disagreements in your relationships? This insightful podcast episode dissects the multifaceted nature of relationships, reminding us that it’s not always going to be roses and rainbows. Instead, it touches upon the importance of repair when conflicts arise, providing practical tips on how to efficiently resolve issues to maintain and enhance the connection in your relationships. Every relationship has moments of disruption, but it's the way we respond and the attempts we make at repair that matter more. Delve into this episode for six essential tips on mending relationships, from expressing emotions rather than projecting stories to making your request clear and simple. Equally important is the trust that your partner is on your team, has your back, and doesn’t intend to hurt you. The episode wraps up on a lighter note, suggesting that sometimes words aren’t the best form of communication- a simple hug or physical touch can restore the connection more potently. A must-listen for those finding it challenging to handle the conflict in relationships or anyone simply interested in improving their communication and relational skills. Tune in to hear more and take your relationship to the next level.

In this inspiring and insightful podcast episode, we seek to explore the relationship with self, focusing on the crucial topic of the fear of abandonment. A basic human instinct that goes back years to when survival relied on being part of a tribe, this fear has evolved into more complex forms, manifesting in our relationships and our interactions with the world. We delve into how fear of abandonment may be dictating our responses, choosing a life of misery over the fright of being alone, or holding on too tight to avoid giving others the space to go. The central theme remains the same: deep down, it's all about not wanting to be left alone without the protection of the tribe which essentially translates to the fear of death. Through personal experiences and psychological insights, I present how overcoming this fear can only be achieved if we prioritize ourselves and nourish the relationship with self above anything else. Recognize your fears, feelings, stories, physical discomforts, all in an effort to understand that there is a part of you that longs for recognition and attention. Explore an intriguing concept of reparenting ourselves where you express love, empathy, and strictness towards your inner child. It's about teaching ourselves that it's completely okay to be available for our emotions, needs, desires, to give voice to them, and ultimately to be available for us. Tune into this episode for a deeper understanding of yourself, to work your way towards overcoming fears, and forming a stronger, healthier bond with yourself.

Welcome to a captivating exploration of the complex world of relationship dynamics. In this podcast episode, we delve deep into the familiar dance between love and fear; discussing the delicate equilibrium of emotional space and connection, and the subconscious dance where each partner has contrasting needs. We uncover the underlying causes of one partner's retreat and provide practical strategies to help manage this effectively. Also, we explore withdrawal as a coping mechanism, the significance of hormones and attachment styles in the mix of things. Understanding your partner's withdrawal as their safe haven during stress can, often times, change your perspective. This episode aims to help you empathize with your partner's retreat as being unrelated to the relationship and more as a coping mechanism. In the midst of all this, acknowledging your own feelings becomes equally important. This self-awareness can help decipher whether your impulse to hold on stems from a genuine desire to support your partner or a less selfless need to feel needed. The episode also dives into the concept of "promised returns" - assuring your partner of reconnection after periods of self-regulation – an understanding which can provide a sense of security to the anxious partner. By addressing these challenging situations, this discourse helps you navigate the common relationship trials with understanding and empathy, facilitating a way for stronger and healthier relationships. Join us in this illuminating discussion and gain valuable insights into managing emotional spaces in your relationship, fostering personal growth, and creating a lasting, mature connection. Every relationship is a rhythmic dance of closeness and distancing, with the perfect balance struck in understanding, patience, and love - the core ingredients of the symphony of love. Visit michellecoops.com for more enlightening content on relationships and subscribe to our weekly newsletter for regular, insightful discussions. Stay raw. Stay real. Stay rebelicious.

Yes, you're so independent. So empowered. So self-reliant. Yet, if deep down you long for a deep connection, feeling like a team, this kind of 'individualism' might sometimes stop you from really leaning into 'togetherness'. In this episode, I (a recovering 'ultra-independent) share with you 3 things I needed to acknowledge before I could open up to somebody and become a team. Ready?    I'd love to inspire you more. Feel free to download the 6 commitments and deepen your relationality!

You might sometimes feel challenged in your relationships with all this old stuff coming up... but so will your lover! And boy oh boy, that can be tough. Especially if you're the punching bag who gets to take in all their sh*t. It's easy to become defensive, angry, or withdraw. But... what if there was another way? In this episode we turn to the golden question: what would love do? And no, love would not be a doormat ;-) Learn to become responsive instead of reactive by downloading the 6 commitments now. It will serve you so much!

It's not just rainbows and roses... The reality is that relationships can be brutally challenging at some point. Your partner is a living, breathing, walking, talking mirror who reflects all your deepest wounds.  Sounds fun, eh ;) Yet, relationships also bring ultimate growth... Are you open to this? Let's dive in... Download the 6 commitments and grow even more! 

Our languages exposes a lot. Our state, how we see ourselves, how we see the other. Similarly, our state influences our language - yes, it goes both ways. How can you improve your relationship with yourself, others and your view on the world through your language? That's what we dive into today.  If you really want to dive in deeper, download the '6 commitments', a free tool and training that will help you improve communication and language to deepen your relationships. 

Passion! We all believe that losing it will never happen to us, because we are different than the rest of the world ;-).  And yet, as life happens, time progresses, it might just happen that work, kids, life sucks us in and we forget to make time for each other. One of the biggest challenges is making sure that all entities in the relationship are nourished: you, your partner, and... the relationship itself. But... what's the key ingredient if you want your passion to reignite?  The answer is: otherness.  In this podcast we dive into how keeping a healthy sense of 'otherness' helps rekindle desire, even when feeling enmeshed into 'us' brings so much security.  ...Enjoy!

It's like the holy grail of dating: to have chemistry, that deeeeeep connection that leads to endless convos and mindblowing s.x. Chemistry is great!   But it's not all.   In fact, there are 4 determining factors in relationships. You need all four for a relationship to have any chance of becoming long-term. In this episode, you'll learn about these 4 pillars one by one.    Want to get clear for yourself about what you want in the relationship? Download the Clarity Quadrant now!

We want it all, it seems: the closeness, safety and predictability of an intimate relationship, as well as the adventure, novelty, exploration and surprise of desire.    How can you honor both needs within you and within your (future) romantic partner? This episode is for all lovers out there. Those who want a relationship, those who are dating, and those who are in a long term relationship.   I introduce you to the concept of the Us space, the Me space and the Them space, which allows you to understand how you can maintain novelty and desire even in close proximity of your love interest. Enjoy!

Why is communication só challenging sometimes, when it's part of our every-day being? Why do we say one thing, and it's received as something else? Why do we sometimes become reactive over the smallest, futile thing?   In this episode I share with you my lessons after 2 decades of working in communication and working with human beings, while introducing you to a new framework to improve your communication with your loved ones. Download that framework here:   English version of the 6 commitments Dutch version of the 6 commitments   May it inspire you!

The quality of relationships basically determines how well we do in other areas of our lives. When the relationships we have with others support us, we thrive. When they are imbalanced, with ongoing fights and triggers, maybe even toxic behavior, parts of us wither away.   So how can we influence our relationships, so that we can all thrive? This is your ability to lead yourself. By training your Inner Leadership Muscle you can positively impact the authenticity of your relationships.    In this episode I share with you what I believe is essential in training this inner leadership muscle. If you feel inspired, I'd love to hear from you! Contact me on Instagram @michellecoops or check out my free stuff on michellecoops.com.

Sooo creative, so many talents, so many things you LOVE! How can you still build a strong personal brand with a clear message? How can you honor your gifts and your need to express yourself fully? In this episode I talk about how to maintain clarity in how you present your gifts, while being the full creative soul you are.

Ever felt out of balance? Talked about how you need to learn to find the middle ground? I call BS on this. In the middle there's no friction, only mediocrity and lifelessness (death). Life is not about stillness or perfection; it's about polarity: breathing in and out, feeling joy and sadness, being awake in light or asleep in the dark. Walking towards the middle is still walking away from one of these polarities. Truly finding balance means working with polarity and honoring all contrasts in us. Curious? 

Those who inspire are those who are remembered. But how can you inspire when you're not feeling even the least bit of inspiration?! In this episode I share 5 strategies I use to get myself inspired again. Get ready for some hands-on inspi!   Rather watch? Check it out on YouTube!

The idea that we all need to reach our highest potential and that there's no time to waste is the recipe for burn-out, if you ask me. In this episode I talk about this in relation to who we are, which is an existential and fundamental question when you want to build a personal brand and attract clients. Let's reframe this 'highest potential' BS goal and choose who we WANT to be.     Video available on YT: https://youtu.be/rnEPYEZ7LY0

You might not realize it, but the personal branding thing? It’s happening now. Even when you don’t realize it. The question is... are you doing what you've always done, being a creature of habit, getting the same results as always? Or are you ready to take the Lead and really get what you long for, attracting the people you want to serve, fully expressing yourself UNAPOLOGETICALLY? That's bad-ass, honey...

Safety is KEY in any partnership: business and private. So if you want people to invest money into your services - money they've worked their ass off for and spent time on they can never get back - you need to make them feel SAFE. In this episode i give you TONS OF hands-on tips on becoming that safe haven - a true home - to your clients. Get pen and paper, you wanna make notes ;).    Check out the Instagram post about certainty here www.beabrandrebel.com  for more cool stuff!

They say that Consistency is crucial to build trust, and trust it crucial if you want to be successful as a personal brand. But... even though consistency is a beautiful quality to develop, it can feel EXHAUSTING to 'have to' do all the work consistently. The same sh*t over and over and over again. Recognize this resistance? Listen to this podcast and take on a healthy approach to consistency. 

In this podcast we explore how you can show up authentically and unapologetically in your relationships - romantically and otherwise. By sharing thought-provoking insights on how our inner leadership impacts our relationships, you will be inspired to re-think your own choices, while becoming more connected, courageous, and confident. Curious for more? Check out michellecoops.com - feel free to contact me anytime! 

What on earth does it mean to 'live in alignment'? Is it merely a buzz word, or is there an actual practice to it that we can learn? In this episode we learn from number 1 Alignment Coach Divera van der Elst about the profound simplicity - and complexity at the same time - of getting into alignment... and staying there. Listen and enjoy!!! 

Does intuition sometimes sound a little woowoo or abstract for you? Are you stuck in the old way of pushing and hustling your way through the work day? In this inspiring interview Bilyana Georgieva, a digital nerd and spiritual soul, talks about how she has learned to amplify her professional success by trusting her gut. She shares hands-on techniques and insights on how you can create a lot more pleasure in your work life too. 

In this vibrant episode I have an inspiring, hands-on chat with Helen Bartram, psychologist, happiness coach, Tedx speaker, wife and mum, who has personally and professionally researched how we can embody more happiness and consequently inspire others with our energy. As Leaders, our energy is perceived first and foremost. Happy vibes will have more impact than any other frequencies as we can all imagine. So how can you elevate your vibrancy to become that Leader of Life and others?   Check Helen's magic at helenbartram.com

We're not merely victims of what's happening on the inside... whatever we feel, experience, sense can be an invitation to explore. Will you change your inner state and step into your Leadership, so you can show up in the best way possible? Will you explore everything that's presented to you and transform it into magic? 

Self-doubt, procrastination, insecurity, fear... we all feel that sometimes. But when it stops us from doing what we love and what we're here to do, you're making it too much about you. Consider the option that it's not about you at all; it's about all the people you can serve with your talents, wisdom, products... your magic. Who are you NOT to help them?

There's truth in the saying: you gotta put your money where your mouth is. Gotta walk the walk, talk the talk. But ever considered the reverse? For me, putting my money somewhere has always given me an incentive to make that investment worthwhile. YES. I would choose to consider this monetary investment as an energizer, knowing I would consciously act and speak accordingly. How do you consider your investments? Your time, effort, money... do you let that energy help you to reach your goals? 

What if every single moment in your life could become so yummy, so exciting, so invigorating... what if even the shittiest moments could become moments to embrace. What if you could let every second penetrate your experience, so you can penetrate life with your strength? That's what this episode is about. Enjoy... 

Let's dive into becoming a Luscious Leader with the amazing Lorin Krenn. Follow his amazing content on Instagram (@lorinkrenn), subscribe to his YouTube channel, check his website lorinkrenn.com, or listen to the 'Awakened Masculinity Podcast' on iTunes or Spotify.  In this 1 hour episode we talk about modern-day leadership and how to integrate spirituality and sexuality in our every day business life. Yes, we're getting juicy! Enjoy... 

'I could NEVER do that, I'm too jealous.' That's what almost all people say when they hear about my polyamorous life. I wonder... when have we become so afraid of uncomfortable feelings? What if we could learn more about ourselves through these fears?

Is confidence a real thing?! Or is all this 'believing in yourself' mumbojumbo just here to annoy us and make us feel miserable? I went on a quest years ago. Here's what I found out. 

Your Personal Brand = who you are on the inside, expressed to the outer world and experienced by others. So tell me... what flavors are you expressing? Are you showing all of your qualities for the sake of yourself and others? 

Does life suck? Do people suck? Does the world suck? Do you think YOU suck? Well, my friend... you don't, but you may have been scarred and scared. Time to become a LEADER instead. A Leader of Life. 

I like to stir shit up. So yeah, I'll talk about braless titties, nudity, sex, love. It really isn't about those topics; it's about questioning the status quo and giving new meaning to our values. It's time to stop what we're doing and question the rules... so we can create our own. 

Do you simply accept everything you've been told is right? Do you follow the status quo, ignoring that inner voice that desires to express another truth? True Leaders live a life that's courageous and in line with who they want to be. Don't let your past define your future. 

Past experiences and trauma may have caused you to believe there's something wrong with you. But is there? No, my love, there isn't. It's nobody's fault actually. But... once you're aware of it, it is your responsibility to deal with this. Why? Because if you want to live, love, express yourself truthfully, being your most exquisite self, there's no escaping your own shit!

For a woman to allow a man between her legs, we need this: trust and safety. For a client to open up their wallet they need the exact same thing. In this episode I share some of my thoughts around trust, different levels of trust, and how vulnerability - with yourself and the other person - is key to preserve a sense of safety. 

Do we really act selflessly when we do something right? Or is there always an element of 'needing to be validated, wanting to get that confirmation that 'we did good'? In this episode I talk around our basic need to be seen, validated and recognized for our inner goodie goodie. Imho there's nothing wrong with wanting a little bit of validation ;)

How do you choose to look at the world? Yes, some things are sh*t. And there's not always a reason for it other than it being f*cked up. But you can still decide not to fall a victim, and decide to look at life's wonders by putting on the best pair of sunglasses there are: pink ones! 

It's so easy to say: "I don't care about other people's opinions!." But actually showing up congruently, is a whole different ballgame. Why do we care about other people's opinions so much? How can we step into our own autonomy even more? 

A client of mine shared his personal struggles with relating with me. He was forcing himself to find a solution for his marriage that they both didn't want to be in anymore. What stopped him? 

We all desire safety and belonging. We also all seek for freedom. How can you balance these two polarities? Our need to be accepted and fit in can sometimes lead to pleasing others. We cage ourselves by adjusting who we are...