The Second Closet with Juan Galan
by Juan Galán Politi
A podcast for gay men on sex, dating, God and the patterns we can't stop repeating.Most of us came out once. We said the true thing, we survived it, and years later we found a second room we were still hiding in, the one that holds the wanting to be held, the fear of being too much, the reaching for a man at eleven at night when we already know how it ends. Nobody throws you a party for leaving that one.This is not a show about arriving. It's made by someone still inside the work, talking about it while it's happening. Hosted by Juan Galán.
Episodes
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At 75, I Finally Stopped Waiting for the Unavailable Man to Come Around With John Mifsud
John was my first guest on The Second Closet, and he was also my very first Coming Home client. He's 75, he lives in Malta where he was born, and he just threw himself a birthday party with a table for his meditation circle, a table for his family, a table for his friends and a table for all the...
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The Grief Nobody Let You Have at the Funeral
After the grief post went up, one man left a comment I haven't been able to stop thinking about. He said I'd left out the biggest grief of all, the AIDS years, and that men of his generation have been carrying a grief the size of a planet while younger men keep telling them to get over it. He was...
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The Grief Nobody Let You Call Grief
Most of us don't walk around thinking we're grieving. We think we're tired. We call it burnout, or a bit of depression, or we decide we're just someone who runs a little low, while the job's fine, the friends are there, and there's still a weight we can't explain to anyone who asks. In this...
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Why Gay Dating Is Harder, and Why You Keep Picking The Same Man Anyway
Dating as a gay man really is harder, and I want you to hear me say that before anything else. The pool is small, the apps have trained us to reject, racism and ageism are all over the scene, and a whole generation of men who could have shown us what a long relationship looks like aren't here.…
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Why The Guys On Grindr For Sex Are Happier Than The Ones Looking For Love
It's late, you're in bed, there's nothing left in the day that needs you, and your hand goes to your phone. Most of the time you're not even horny. You open Grindr anyway, scroll past the same men you saw last night, and you already know you won't close the app at one in the morning feeling...
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I Came Out Of The Closet And Walked Straight Into A Second One
When I came out, I thought the hard part was over. I'd finally said the true sentence, I could love who I wanted, and for a while that felt like freedom. It took me fifteen years to see that I'd walked out of one closet and straight into another, still performing, still hiding, still doing...
About this show
A podcast for gay men on sex, dating, God and the patterns we can't stop repeating.Most of us came out once. We said the true thing, we survived it, and years later we found a second room we were still hiding in, the one that holds the wanting to be held, the fear of being too much, the reaching for a man at eleven at night when we already know how it ends. Nobody throws you a party for leaving that one.This is not a show about arriving. It's made by someone still inside the work, talking about it while it's happening. Hosted by Juan Galán.
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Juan Galán Politi