The Self-Hype Podcast

If you’re currently sobbing over someone who abruptly decided to walk away, this episode is a massive, warm hug for your nervous system. Eli sits down with poet and bestselling author Cailin Hargreaves (whose viral words probably saved you at 3 AM) to talk about the brutal, unfiltered reality of sudden heartbreak. Cailin gets incredibly vulnerable about her own current separation, breaking down the literal physiological shock and trauma of experiencing an avoidant discard. They unpack why you absolutely cannot force yourself to "heal" in the middle of a storm, how childhood trauma shapes our coping mechanisms, and why your body is just trying to protect you. Tune in to learn why you need to stop aggressively rushing your healing process, how to find meaning in your absolute deepest pain, and why getting left behind is sometimes the exact catalyst you need to meet the most evolved version of yourself. About the Guest: Cailin Hargreaves is a London-based poet, digital creator, and author of the poetry collections Be the Light and Glimmers. After surviving a life-altering autoimmune diagnosis and sudden hearing loss at age 10, Cailin turned to writing as a survival tool to process her trauma and find the light in the darkness. Today, she uses her massive platform to create a safe, comforting corner of the internet for anyone navigating grief, chronic illness, and heartbreak. She is currently working on her debut memoir. Follow Cailin: @cayswords_   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Why does someone seem to move on so quickly after a breakup, especially when you’re still trying to pick up the pieces? In this deeply personal episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez shares his own experience as a former avoidant who entered a rebound relationship while still emotionally raw from heartbreak. He opens up about the fear, loneliness, need for validation, childhood wounds, and emotional patterns that can make a new connection feel intoxicating before the old relationship has truly been processed. Eli also reflects on how avoidant attachment affected his relationships, why forgiveness without communication isn’t enough, and how his biggest dating mistakes ultimately forced him to confront the parts of himself he needed to change. Most importantly, this episode isn’t about obsessing over why your ex chose someone else. It’s about understanding that their next relationship is not a measurement of your worth, taking the lessons from what happened, and using heartbreak as an opportunity to become a healthier version of yourself. Sometimes moving on isn’t about finding someone better. Sometimes it’s about running from feelings you haven’t learned how to face.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this spicy, highly requested solo episode, Eli dives deep into the controversial truth about why modern men are so terrified of settling down. He spills the tea on the male psychology behind dating, breaking down how the endless dopamine loop of hookup culture has completely warped men's sense of self-worth. Eli gets real about the massive difference in social pressure between men and women, using a brilliant Matthew Hussey analogy to explain the timeline gap. But this isn't just about dragging guys who are stuck in their 20s—Eli flips the script to show you how to stop dating your own abandonment wounds, why a man's inability to commit is actually a massive blessing in disguise, and how to set boundaries that protect your peace. Prepare to be frustrated, liberated, and ready to make rejection your new best friend.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this powerhouse guest episode, Eli sits down with digital creator and advocate Sander Jennings to completely dismantle the toxic man playbook. Sander gets totally unfiltered about his journey from a college guy to politically active advocate who knows true strength means crying with your friends. They roast the red pill manosphere’s obsession with "getting rich, ripped, and laid," and break down why emotional intelligence, empathy, and respecting women is the actual flex. If you've ever wondered if healthy masculinity exists—or if guys actually talk about this stuff behind closed doors—this episode is your proof that doing the inner work is the absolute hottest thing a man can do. About Our Guest: Sander Jennings is a digital creator, strategist, and founder of DigiEmpower with 1.7M+ followers across platforms. He creates authentic content bridging lifestyle and politics, using his platform to advance LGBTQ+ rights, reproductive freedom, and healthy masculinity. His work extends beyond the camera through creator training programs, nonprofit partnerships, and digital strategy consulting that helps movements build community and shift culture. He believes real impact comes from showing up authentically, doing the work to know yourself, and using whatever privilege and platform you have to stand up for others.   Follow Sander: https://www.instagram.com/sander_jennings/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this highly requested episode, Eli steps slightly outside of his usual relationship advice to go completely unfiltered on the manosphere. As a reformed "dusty man" turned dating coach, he debunks the most toxic Red Pill myths currently poisoning modern romance. From tearing apart the "80/20 rule" to calling out why the obsession with being a stoic, dominant "Alpha Male" is actually just a massive neon sign for deep-seated insecurity, Eli holds absolutely nothing back. He breaks down the delusion that women hit a "wall" at 30, why suppressing your emotions makes you weak (not strong), and how internet echo chambers are terrifying an entire generation into avoiding real love. If you’re tired of the algorithmic gender wars and want the real tea on what healthy masculinity and high-value dating actually look like, this episode is your ultimate antidote.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this raw and unfiltered solo episode, Eli hits pause on the usual relationship psychology to get real about aging, anxiety, and why getting everything you ever wanted can actually feel like a massive letdown. Celebrating his 36th birthday from his new Chicago apartment, Eli takes us through the terrifying "exposure therapy" of slowing down after years of digital nomading and chasing dopamine. He breaks down the hard truth that we are all secretly mourning the timeline of our goals—and why the fantasy of success rarely matches the reality. From unpacking why you can't just slap "numbing ointment" on deep emotional wounds, to realizing that surviving your messy 20s means your 30s are primed for greatness, Eli holds nothing back. You’ll feel seen, you’ll feel called out, and you’ll leave with a reality check on why stopping the relentless hustle—and refusing to be a dick to yourself—is the ultimate flex.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this AMA episode, Eli dives into the Instagram mailbag to answer your most burning questions about avoidant exes, messy breakups, and the reality of the healing era. He tackles the ultimate question: can an avoidant ex actually process your breakup while monkey-branching into a new relationship? (Spoiler: Hell no.) Eli breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain goes through literal drug withdrawals and why your biological "tribal" instincts trick you into feeling guilty for leaving a toxic situation. He also unpacks why avoidant men use rebounds as emotional crutches to avoid facing their own core wounds. You’ll leave this episode understanding that heartbreak isn't just sadness—it's grief—and why sitting in the discomfort is the only way to truly rewire your nervous system.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Welcome back to the Selfhype Podcast! This week, Eli is diving into the sweet, beautiful, and absolutely terrifying world of rejection. If you’re letting the fear of a "no" hold you back from your dream career, your personal growth, or filtering out that dusty-ass ex, it's time to wake up. We’re talking all about rejection therapy, having the audacity to take up space, and training your nervous system to realize that a "no" is just a stepping stone to your true potential. Stop living in your comfort zone and start building iron-clad discipline over fleeting motivation. Hit play, take notes, and then go out and get rejected—you deserve it.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If your knee-jerk reaction to conflict is to shut down or freak out, your subconscious might be stuck in the third grade. In this incredibly nerdy and insightful episode, Eli geeks out with Danny B, a certified aerospace mental fitness coach who works directly with the teams at NASA. Dani breaks down the literal neuroscience of how our brains get programmed, and hands you the exact blueprint to rewire those outdated neural pathways. From mastering the STEA process (Stimulus, Thought, Emotion, Action) to shifting out of a chronic fight-or-flight state, this episode bridges the gap between rocket science and relationship psychology. You’ll learn why your phone is a "weapon of mass distraction," how to physically change through repetition, and why regulating your nervous system is the ultimate life hack.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you just caved and texted your toxic ex, hooked up with him, or stalked his new girlfriend’s Instagram story—take a deep breath. In this solo episode, Eli is letting you off the hook. He breaks down why failure in your healing era is not actually failure; it's a completely normal biological response to losing your "tribe." Eli explains why beating yourself up is a waste of energy and challenges you to ask a different question: What did touching the hot stove teach me this time? You’ll learn how to reframe your missteps as vital data points, why true mental fitness requires daily practice (just like going to the gym), and how to translate your momentary "failures" into strict new boundaries.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you have a history of making a man the absolute center of your universe and abandoning your own life, this episode is your intervention. Eli is breaking down exactly how to protect your independence without sacrificing a secure partnership. He unpacks the harsh truth that your partner is supposed to be your support system, not your cure—and if you expect him to fix your anxiety or loneliness, you're setting the relationship up for failure. Eli shares the "blueprint" for maintaining your personal non-negotiables, why "bending" for a partner breeds resentment but "considering" them builds trust, and why keeping your friendships alive is actually crucial for the health of your romance. If you’re terrified of losing yourself again, tune in to learn how to keep your tribe, protect your joy, and make yourself a priority.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

What happens when your "perfect on paper" life suddenly falls apart? In this episode, Eli sits down with author and former corporate lawyer SC Perot to talk about surviving the ultimate life plot twist. SC opens up about the acute grief of navigating divorce during the pandemic—losing not just a partner, but her community, her house, and her dog. She explains how she traded her corporate blazers for feather boas, using long walks and a Harry Styles-themed "Eat, Pray, Love" adventure to slowly regulate her nervous system and find herself again. Eli and SC break down her four-pillar framework for cultivating joy, why true joy requires us to embrace our grief, and how to unlearn the toxic conditioning that happiness is something you have to constantly achieve. If you are going through a messy life transition, this episode is your reminder to trust the process.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? LEARN MORE ABOUT SC Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you are terrified of losing yourself in another relationship or repeating the same toxic patterns, this episode is your official game plan. Eli answers one of the most common questions he gets: How do I actually "do the work" when I don't currently have a partner triggering me? He breaks down why you can't truly simulate a romantic relationship while single, but how you can still prep your nervous system for a secure one. Sharing his own current journey of facing fears (like finally signing a 12-month apartment lease after years of being a digital nomad), Eli explains how to identify the deep-rooted fears running your life. You’ll learn how to trace your people-pleasing and overachieving back to your childhood, how to reframe your survival traits as gifts, and exactly how to practice setting boundaries in your daily life before you ever go on another first date.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this highly requested solo episode, Eli takes a hilarious, unfiltered look at the classic Disney princess movies that secretly ruined our dating expectations. He breaks down why we’re all addicted to a delusional, “fairytale” view of love—and how media propaganda has conditioned us to chase a non-existent spark. From dragging Snow White for moving in with seven roommates, to questioning how Ariel expected to build a life with a guy who literally eats her oceanic friends, no nostalgic film is safe. Eli unpacks the bizarre trend of men falling in love with unconscious women (looking at you, Sleeping Beauty), and why forced romances in movies like Mulan teach us that we are only as good as our relationship status. You’ll laugh, you’ll feel called out, and you’ll leave with a reality check on why unlearning this "relationship porn" is the first step to building real emotional intelligence.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

We all know the post-breakup urge to grab mimosas, turn up, and numb the pain. But in this episode, Eli and guest Colleen Freeland break down exactly why drinking through your heartbreak practically guarantees you’ll repeat the exact same toxic patterns in your next relationship. Using her own story of navigating divorce and high-functioning alcohol dependency, Colleen explains how outsourcing your sense of safety to a bottle (or a rebound) keeps you stuck in an abusive relationship with yourself. Eli and Colleen dive deep into why we are so terrified of our own feelings, how to sit with the discomfort of a breakup, and why treating the symptom will never cure the root wound of low self-worth. You’ll leave understanding that your biggest fear isn't actually being alone—it's failing to live up to your full potential.   Explore More About Colleen: Follow here   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli is dropping the ultimate truth bomb for anyone stuck in a frustrating relationship trying to "fix" their partner: you cannot change a man. In this quick, hard-hitting solo episode, Eli breaks down why dating for potential—when it's entirely one-sided—is just delusion in disguise. He shares his own journey of doing the inner work, revealing that he didn't heal his avoidant tendencies to save a relationship, but because he wanted to reach his own potential. But if you’re already in deep and want things to improve, Eli explains how to actually inspire growth. You’ll learn why you have to become the mirror for the communication you want, how your anxious attachment might be overloading him, and the psychological hack of using positive reinforcement instead of criticism to make a man actually want to step up.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this solo episode, Eli is hitting you with the ultimate post-breakup reality check: when are you actually ready to start dating again? He breaks down the crucial difference between just "healing while single" and giving your nervous system the required time to fall in love with your own life. If you are downloading dating apps out of FOMO, anxiety, or the fear of being left behind, this episode is your intervention.    Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

It’s time for the quarterly Q&A! In this episode, Eli opens the mailbag to answer the wild, messy, and deeply relatable questions submitted by the Selfhype community. He breaks down exactly why men use "gray language" to keep you in a situationship, the real reason an avoidant jumps right into a new relationship (and why it’s not a reflection of your worth), and why your ex blocking you everywhere is actually a sign of his own fragile ego and hurt feelings. Eli hands you the exact "fun, flirty filter" script to text a guy who is dragging his feet on a second date, and explains why agreeing to be a side piece makes you a "public park" instead of a protected prize. You’ll learn how to stop defining your self-worth by another woman, why you need to switch gyms immediately if your ex is there, and how to stop asking "did I do something wrong?" when an avoidant runs away from repair.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli uses the latest season of Love is Blind as a masterclass in modern dating psychology and attachment styles. He breaks down the painful phenomenon of men on “autopilot”—guys who stick around and coast through a relationship simply because they don't want to be the bad guy, leaving you anxious and begging for their attention. From analyzing why some women double down when a man pulls away, to unpacking why a stable, consistent partner often feels "boring" to a dysregulated nervous system, this episode is a reality check. Eli also dives into the importance of holding your ground on non-negotiables (like having kids) instead of settling just to keep the relationship alive. Whether you watch the show or not, this is your guide to spotting red flags, understanding male behavior, and choosing secure attachment over toxic cycles.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Is your attachment style standing in your way? Our guest this week, published author, licensed therapist and attachment coach Jessica Da Silva breaks down the science of why we love the way we do. We’re talking childhood wounds, fear of failure, and how to tell if you’re actually ready for intimacy or just performing. Stop running from the "scary monster" of vulnerability and learn the tools to sit, regulate, and repair. You aren't stuck with the hand you were dealt—it’s time to rewire your nervous system for the love you deserve. We unpack attachment and so much more!   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you’ve ever said “He’s avoidant, but our connection is different,” this episode is your intervention. Eli walks you through the real post-breakup cycle of an avoidant man—from love bombing and intensity, to shutdown and defensiveness, to the late-night “Hey stranger” text that has you questioning everything. Using his own past as an avoidant, he explains why him watching your stories, texting you, or wanting to “try again” is usually about his fear, ego, and loneliness—not some epic, healed version of him suddenly waking up. Then he hands the mic back to you: What did this relationship expose about your attachment style, your boundaries, your inner child, and your fear of being alone? You’ll leave with a checklist of what actually needs to change for a reunion to be healthy (on both sides), how to create a “third option” that isn’t just yes or no, and how to turn this breakup from a waiting room into your personal bootcamp for building a secure relationship with yourself.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Tiffany Yu didn't just survive a car accident at nine that killed her father and left her with a paralyzed arm—she built one of the most impactful disability advocacy platforms in the world. In this raw conversation, she takes us through the process of not only loving herself but turning it into action and advocacy. Tiffany shares how she went from a nine-year-old to the founder of Diversability, a global movement born from her own exclusion. She explains why disability needs to be more than just known but integrated in society as whole. Her book the Anti-Ableist Manifesto, explains just that. If you’ve ever felt like you had to "fix" yourself to be worthy of taking up space, this episode is your permission slip to take even more space, unapologetically.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This episode is for the girl in the oversized sweater, scrolling couple photos, lowkey raging at Walgreens heart displays, and wondering why this day hurts so much. Eli walks you through how to survive Valentine’s Day when you’re single — not with fake “I don’t care” energy, but with honest, messy, human feelings that actually lead to healing. He gives you permission to be sad, angry, or triggered, while also challenging you to take real-world actions that ground your nervous system and make you feel in control of your day again. From buying your own damn chocolates to taking yourself out, to creating emotional “anchors” you’ll remember years from now, this is your no-BS guide to getting through the day and quietly proving to yourself: “I still got me, even now.”   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

On this episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli sits down with Gina Moreno, a coach helping high-achieving women — especially Latinas — navigate ambition, self-care, and relationships. Gina shares her journey from tech prodigy and TED Talk speaker to discovering her true purpose: coaching women to break generational patterns and embrace their full potential. They dive into her early successes, the quarter-life crisis that shifted her path, and how she turned her own healing and growth into a mission to empower others. Gina opens up about balancing family expectations, cultural pressures, and personal ambition, and Eli unpacks the lessons for listeners seeking to align their achievements with purpose.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This week we're talking rebounds — why they're not “moving on,” why they’re actually the loudest, clearest red flag your ex could ever wave, and why you should be doing a happy dance when you find out he already jumped to the next one. This episode breaks down the mental & emotional game men play when they can’t sit with their feelings, why rebounding is just external validation on steroids, and how it’s literally PROOF that you dodged a walking trauma bond.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Sam became a double hand amputee overnight — and nothing about his life was the same afterward. In this deeply honest episode, Sam shares what it’s like to lose not just your hands, but your sense of normalcy, confidence, and control. We explore the emotional weight of trauma, from mourning the life you had to facing a world that suddenly feels inaccessible and unfamiliar. Sam speaks candidly about relearning daily routines, confronting anxiety and self-doubt, and redefining masculinity, independence, and self-worth. He reflects on how community, vulnerability, and storytelling helped pull him out of isolation and reminded him that he wasn’t alone in his experience. This episode is a reminder that healing isn’t linear, resilience isn’t glamorous, and strength often shows up quietly. It’s a powerful conversation about rebuilding identity, honoring grief, and choosing to keep going even when the path forward is unclear.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli doesn’t just talk about “dating app tips.” He pulls the curtain back on the whole system — because these apps are designed to keep you swiping, not to help you find a partner. In this episode, you’ll hear how men move on the apps (spoiler: it’s not deep analysis, it’s survival mode), why men get fewer matches, why women end up “CIA-agent screening” everything, and how both sides start treating humans like dopamine notifications. Eli also calls out the most common profile mistakes that sabotage you: confusing group photos, artsy mystery angles, one-line prompts with no substance, aggressive wounded bios, and IG handles that scream “I’m here for followers.” You’ll leave knowing what men notice, what they assume, and how to build a profile that filters out the unserious ones before you waste a single mascara application.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli breaks format and goes straight from the heart — reflecting on the fears he faced this year, the wounds that still sting, and what it really looks like to keep going when life isn’t cute. Because healing isn’t a movie. Sometimes it’s tears, shutdown, and still showing up anyway. This episode is built like a personal wellness coaching session. Eli gives you a step-by-step “think day” framework to close out the year: write down your five fears, trace them to the first time you felt them, figure out what they’re protecting, and turn that into real action for 2026. Then he adds a second tool: asking your people what makes you unique — and what you need to hear going into the new year. If you’re done chasing goals to feel “enough,” this is how you start building from self-worth instead.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this episode, Eli and Meg Reynolds break down why modern dating feels harder than ever — and why so many people stay stuck in relationships that drain them. Meg introduces the idea of the “ambition gap,” explains why emotional availability matters more than money, and shares how she learned to walk away sooner instead of negotiating her needs. They talk low-effort dating, inconsistent communication, why “he’s just busy” is usually a red flag, and how boundaries aren’t ultimatums — they’re clarity. Honest, validating, and unfiltered, this conversation is for anyone tired of blaming themselves for wanting consistency, growth, and real emotional connection.   Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If the holidays make you feel like the only single person in a sea of matching pajama sets and forehead kisses, this episode will feel like a warm hug. Eli yaps, rants, and gets real about what it means to feel lonely during the “happiest time of the year” — even when you’re in a relationship. He breaks down how comparison steals your joy, why every emotion that surfaces right now is a teacher, and how to treat this season like a lesson in self-love instead of a reminder of what you don’t have. You’ll learn how to set boundaries with messy family members, honor your capacity, lean into gratitude, and make this your season — not your ex’s, not society’s, not Instagram’s. If you’ve ever felt behind, broken, or “too much,” this episode is the reminder that your story has always been yours. And this time of year? It’s for you. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

What happens when the life you built collapses overnight? Sahara Rose joins Eli for a profound conversation about feminine healing, spiritual awakening, and reclaiming your identity after betrayal. She shares how one devastating confession shattered her marriage—and how it initiated her into a deeper version of herself she didn’t even know existed. Sahara breaks down the truth about spiritual healing (hint: it’s messy, ugly, and absolutely necessary), why women stay in relationships that starve their souls, and how to stop living on breadcrumbs of love. They dive into sacred sexuality, the porn-driven crisis in masculinity, and how partners can create deeper emotional and spiritual intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that heartbreak isn’t the end—it’s the portal into your most aligned, awakened self. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you’re exhausted by ghosting, low-effort conversations, and another “promising” match that fizzles out, this episode is your deep breath. Eli breaks down what dating burnout actually does to your nervous system, why you don’t have to be a “super dater” 24/7, and how to see your love life in seasons instead of a constant grind. He walks you through taking a real break (yes, deleting the apps), negotiating with your anxiety, and honoring your emotional capacity without giving up on love. This is about playing the long game, not sprinting into the wrong relationship out of fear. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship that looked great on paper but felt terrible in your body, this one’s for you. Eli shares a recent experience witnessing an ICE raid in Chicago — and connects it to why so many of us normalize anxiety in our love lives. He dives into anxious attachment, “cool girl” behavior, and the kind of partners who leave you scared to speak up. Together, you’ll unpack what emotional safety actually looks like, how to stop dating like you’re trying not to get in trouble with a parent, and how to see if someone has the capacity to hold your feelings. This episode is your invitation to stop performing, start telling the truth, and only invest in love that feels like a safe home, not a constant threat. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

When Jenny lost her husband in a tragic plane crash, she didn’t just face grief—she faced herself. In this powerful episode, Eli and Jenny explore the full spectrum of healing: from shock and survival to rediscovering purpose, love, and joy. Jenny shares how she learned to care for herself while caring for her husband, the moment she decided to live again, and how listening to her intuition guided her toward a second soulmate. This isn’t a story about loss—it’s a story about what it means to truly live. Expect tangible takeaways: the head–heart–body check for tough decisions, how to let community in, and gentle ways to shift from guilt to self-compassion. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Love Is Blind! I’m ranting, reflecting, and dropping some truth bombs about what went wrong this season of the popular Netflix series. I'm unpacking the messy dynamics and explaining how you can avoid making the same mistakes. The season proved that love isn’t blind, but your standards don’t have to be—if you’re willing to do the work. We’re diving deep into why “love will grow” outside of attraction is just a fairy tale in most cases, why one-sided caretaking kills chemistry, and how to date with more intention and clarity. Listen for the laughs, stay for the lessons, and leave with the tools you need to build better relationships. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli sits down with Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator Dr. Mindy DeSeta to flip the script on consent. This episode turns “awkward talks” into real-time foreplay—how to ask with finesse, lead with vulnerability, and keep things safe without killing the vibe. They break down why so many daters freeze from performance anxiety, how to start a spicy convo the right way, and why safety actually makes intimacy hotter. Plus, a look at Hily’s new Consent Guard Feature that protects you from any unsolicited spicy pics or sexts. If you’re dating online, this is your playbook for confidence, clarity, and connection. Download Hily Here:  https://hily.go.link/8i2VX Learn More About Dr. DeSeta Here: https://www.instagram.com/drmindydeseta   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

What do men want in relationships today? It’s more than just chemistry or physical attraction. Eli breaks down the key qualities men look for in long-term partnerships, focusing on emotional maturity, accountability, and how well you manage your emotions. In this episode, Eli discusses why emotional regulation is one of the most underrated yet crucial aspects of a successful relationship and how men are drawn to women who can be both vulnerable and self-aware. He also touches on the importance of understanding one’s own worth and behavior, especially when dealing with conflict and making decisions as a couple. Get ready to hear about what men need from women in a partnership and why it’s essential to align with these desires if you want to build a strong, lasting connection. This episode will leave you with a deeper understanding of the dynamics between men and women and how to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Join the Skool Community https://www.skool.com/heal-your-attachment-style-1096   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Your circle isn’t just there to nod and say “girl, same.” Eli shows you how to transform friends into an accountability squad: ask permission before you vent, set the lane (listen vs. advice), and leave with one next step plus a date to report back. This is how support stops being emotional clutter—and starts becoming your healing engine. We unpack this and so much in stepping into your own power by stepping into your own vulnerability.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Join the Skool Community https://www.skool.com/heal-your-attachment-style-1096   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Ever been blindsided by a breakup, replaying every what-if, asking “Was it me?” Eli gets it. This week, he dives into the messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes hilarious reality of closure. Why it’s not always about answers, why secure people get triggered too, and why the “closure you want” isn’t always the closure you get. Through this episode, you’ll learn to parent your inner child, recognize avoidance, and understand that his limitations do not define your self-worth. If you’re ready to stop holding onto someone else’s dysfunction and start owning your healing journey, this episode is your roadmap.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Join the Skool Community https://www.skool.com/heal-your-attachment-style-1096   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

That instant spark, the butterflies, the “oh my God he’s hot” moment—it’s thrilling, it’s intoxicating… and it can make you blind. In this episode, Eli dismantles the myth that chemistry equals compatibility. He shares raw insights from years of coaching, personal experience as a former avoidant, and real stories from clients who got caught chasing sparks instead of substance. Learn how to pump the brakes, ask the right questions, and track emotional competency before you fall too fast. This episode isn’t about killing romance—it’s about making sure your heart doesn’t pay the price for fleeting attraction, and why slow-burn connections with intentional boundaries are the real game-changer.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Self-care isn’t spa days and margaritas. It’s facing yourself with intention so you can raise the standard for your whole life. In this episode, Eli breaks down why real self-care is actually selfless, how “survival mode” keeps you burned out, and a simple intention-first system you can use today. He shares the BuzzFeed solo-date story, the backyard picnic that changed everything, and practical prompts to turn any activity into healing work. Plus: details on Eli’s Oct 19 Chicago in-person wellness day benefitting a local nonprofit serving immigrants and refugee human rights. Link in show notes or DM Eli to learn more!   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

You asked, and Eli answered. In this special community-driven episode, host Eli Vazquez dives headfirst into your most burning questions about dating and heartbreak. Wondering what he’s really thinking in that rebound relationship? Confused about the difference between boundaries and rules? This is the episode for you. With his signature mix of tough love, relatable humor, and actionable advice, Eli tackles everything from avoidant attachment to starting your therapy journey. Get ready for a raw, unedited Q&A session that feels less like a podcast and more like a strategy session with your wisest, most unfiltered friend.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

You don’t need six months to see the truth—you need a process. In this episode, Eli gives you a three-date blueprint to identify avoidant patterns early: intentional check-ins, direct values alignment (marriage, kids, faith, location), and real talk about conflict and repair. You’ll learn how to calm an anxious attachment by building self-trust, practice reparenting with curiosity and compassion, and recruit a tiny “accountability squad” to keep you from texting your ex. It’s bold, loving, and wildly practical—designed to help you choose the partner who can meet (or exceed) your standard.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In a refreshing and honest conversation on the Selfhype Podcast, Eli Vasquez welcomes the infectiously positive Suzi Jalowsky to share the story behind her viral fitness fame. What began with workout DVDs in her garage after putting the kids to bed has blossomed into a million-follower community inspired by her simple and effective approach to health. Together, Eli and Suzi explore the power of starting small, the mental game of showing up for yourself, and how to build a life where fitness feels like a reward, not a punishment. Tune in for a dose of real-world motivation that cuts through the noise and proves you don’t need fancy gyms or complicated diets to transform your life.   Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Why does dating feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment? Eli dives into the sneaky ways social media rewires our brains to expect heartbreak, distrust, and division in love. From heartbreak content loops that keep wounds open, to confusing growth with potential in relationships, he exposes the traps that leave so many burnt out in the digital streets. But it’s not all bad news—Eli shares how to break free from the heartbreak algorithm, lean into real self-awareness, and start creating connections that actually feel good.   Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Episode Introduction: Erin Valente is a compassionate therapist and content creator whose deep curiosity about people and their stories fuels her mission to make mental health more approachable and relatable. On this episode of the Selfhype Podcast, Erin joins Eli Vasquez to unpack the realities of trauma, healing, and the human experience. With years of experience supporting clients through diverse challenges, Erin empowers others to embrace vulnerability, discover their unique paths to resilience, and recognize that feeling “broken” is simply part of being human. Through honest conversation and her multi-faceted therapeutic approach, Erin—alongside Eli—offers listeners practical insights and encouragement for their own journeys.   Learn More About Erin Here: https://www.erinvalentetherapy.com/    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this raw and real episode of the Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez delivers a no-nonsense wake-up call about the trap of falling for "potential" in relationships. With his signature wit and straight talk, Eli breaks down why chasing someone’s unrealized potential is a recipe for heartbreak and how to shift your focus to reality. He gets candid about his own journey, from his "dusty" days to becoming "Mr. Clean with good ass hair," emphasizing that real change starts with self-awareness, not wishful thinking. Eli challenges you to stop enabling toxic patterns, set clear boundaries, and ask yourself tough questions: Why are you so scared to lose someone who disrespects you? Why are you betting on their potential instead of your own worth? He offers practical steps, like identifying small, actionable changes to test a partner’s commitment, and stresses the importance of a baseline of trust, curiosity, and consideration. Tune in for a hilarious yet heartfelt push to prioritize partnership over pipe dreams, reflect on your own insecurities, and take control of your dating life.    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This episode of the SelfHype Podcast features Brittani Ard, a resilient architect and storyteller who transformed personal pain into a powerful narrative. Brittani shares her gripping story with Eli, diving into her experience with a manipulative relationship that unraveled a web of deception, leading to her viral podcast season that reached #1 in five countries. Through raw vulnerability, she reflects on her childhood trauma, the longing for love, and the self-reflection that helped her reclaim her worth.   Discover how Brittani turned heartbreak into healing, connecting with women across the country to uncover shared stories of resilience. She offers candid insights on spotting red flags, embracing flaws, and navigating the messy world of dating with grace. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about self-acceptance, the courage to be vulnerable, and the power of owning your story.   Learn more about Brittani Ard Here: https://brittaniard.com/about   Want To join my dating and healing program w/ exclusive clips and guest coaching from the show? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice  

This week Eli breaks down how we constantly end up with same type of people and how on a inner work level challenge yourself to uncover not only why you do so but how to break the cycle for good. All so you can finally have the healthy, mature love you so desperately deserve!    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This episode of the SelfHype Podcast features Michele Locke, a dynamic divorce lawyer who’s lived every angle of family law—from navigating her parents divorce as a child to facing her own after 22 years of marriage. Michele shares her raw and inspiring journey with Eli, diving into how her life-altering decision to prioritize herself which led to profound transformation while sharing knowledge on Divorce as well. Michele talks how she turned pain into purpose while building a platform to empower others through her legal work, content and podcast, Love, Lust, Law. She offers candid insights on recognizing red flags in relationships, the power of saying “no,” and the importance of protecting your peace post-divorce.    Learn more about Michele Lock Here: https://www.michelelocke.com/   Want To join my dating and healing program w/ exclusive clips and guest coaching from the show? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice