The Sharing Space: Conversations for Mental Wellbeing

Bounce Back-ability, Flexibility, Growth Mindset. However you want to describe it, Resilience is the topic for this episode. Luke & Crispin are joined by Kat and Ray for a chat around experiences, fluctuating resilience levels and our current strategies.Hope you enjoy and if you want to contact us with any of your thoughts you can do so here: [email protected]

A pared down episode with just Luke & Crispin delving deep into personal and uncomfortable experiences of comfort zone limitations and avoidance techniques.If any of this resonates with you then you may find this episode brings you some comfort to hear others vocalise similar struggles and perhaps even motivates you to push yourself beyond your own limitations.Enjoy!Share your stories: [email protected]:00:00 Welcome to The Sharing Space00:00:38 Defining Comfort Zones & Avoidance00:01:37 Host Backgrounds & Introductions00:05:33 Overcoming Mental Health Layers00:10:54 Lockdown & Teams Meeting Anxiety00:16:32 Widening Your Zone Step-by-Step00:22:02 Cultural Impacts on Confidence00:25:24 Embarrassing Teenage Avoidance Stories00:29:30 Three Types of Avoidance00:32:23 Travel and Connections00:38:58 Email as an Avoidance Technique00:40:22 Uni, Low Self-Esteem & Tension00:44:15 Using Alcohol as a Coping Tool00:48:00 Presentation Axiety Story & Imposter Syndrome00:50:31 Feedback and Feed Forward00:53:55 Advice to My 21-Year-Old Self00:56:52 Opening Up About Antidepressants01:04:53 Tech, Boundaries & Avoidance01:07:26 Strategies & benefits of pushing beyond comfort zones01:12:35 Like-minded people & Regret

Matthew shares with us some significant life events, his personal growth story and his inspirational journey towards creating a charity to help people connect with each other.Sit back and enjoy Matthew's tales of his eventful life and his ambitious aspirations.Share your thoughts: [email protected]:00:01 Welcome to The Sharing Space00:01:24 Formats, Headline Topics & Growth00:02:56 Live, Love, Learn, Grow, Evolve00:04:18 Turning Knowledge into Wisdom00:05:40 Shifting from Logic to Intuition00:06:39 Grief, Travel & Weight Loss00:09:50 Limits of Science and Religion00:12:33 Reframing Death & Continuation00:14:46 Breaking Cycles of Conformity00:17:17 From Military to Airline Pilot00:20:37 The Simon Sinek Car Analogy00:22:59 Resigning on the 4th of the 4th00:26:05 Space for New Creativity00:27:49 Mind Dumps and Dream Lists00:30:00 Terrifying Online Interviews00:33:09 Documentaries & Hypnotherapy00:36:14 Charity Work for Lonely Souls00:40:00 Conscious vs Subconscious Mind00:43:12 Childhood and Familiar Gravity00:45:36 Tools for Emotional Awareness00:47:10 The Subconscious 90% Filter00:51:06 Replacing Judgment with Curiosity00:54:21 Thoughts and Emotional Charges00:57:39 Surrender, Acceptance, Gratitude00:59:33 Shifting Perspective on Thoughts01:03:23 The Present-Past Loop & Anxiety01:09:54 Duality and Discomfort in Change01:12:05 Tuning Into the Energy Body01:15:14 Reclaiming Vital Alone Time01:16:47 Heart Processing & Hypnotherapy01:20:18 Luke's Calling Toward Counseling01:22:42 A Literal Breaking Point Hike01:24:56 Stepping Through the Three Doors01:27:28 Episode Wrap-up & Final Remarks

Hello!In this episode, Crispin, Luke and Zanne discuss the topic of purpose & aimlessness.Why do we feel pressure to have a purpose?Can we be content without a purpose?Can you live without purpose without being aimless?Does having a purpose cause stress?We discuss these questions as well as our personal experiences, thoughts and strategies.Share your thoughts: [email protected]:00:00 Welcome to The Sharing Space00:01:07 Special Guest Zanne & Topic Definition00:03:03 Scoring Personal Purpose Out of Ten00:05:34 Religious Upbringings & Shared Values00:07:09 Latent Potential vs Chosen Paths00:09:10 Can you live without purpose without being aimless?00:10:56 Is this a modern phenomena?00:12:05 Social Media Grind Cult & False Purposes00:13:41 Can a search for Purpose be a cause of stress?00:16:45 Mel Robbins & Shifting Energy Levels00:20:27 Age Box Anxiety & Biological Timelines00:22:20 Carl Jung's Archetypes & The Self00:23:46 The Eternal Child Urge & Nostalgia00:27:53 Self Development & Self Discovery00:31:58 Ikigai: The Four Intersecting Elements00:33:40 Viktor Frankl & Man's Search for Meaning00:37:20 Is Everyone's Purpose to Serve Others?00:38:29 Triggers of Aimlessness: Boredom & Psychological Pain00:43:00 Social Anxiety as a Motivator00:46:13 Toastmasters & Reigniting Creativity00:50:31 The Rat Park Experiment00:52:30 Strategies to at least reduce aimlessness if findng a purpose is too challenging00:55:30 Hot Ears

Hi!In this episode, Luke, Nick & myself chat about making friends (sometimes in in unusual places), the importance of social connection, self awareness, the detrimental impacts of loneliness & isolation, getting outside your comfort zone and lots of other bits & pieces.If you're feeling lost or looking for help in dealing with your struggles then I hope that this brings you some comfort, relief, insights & inspiration.Enjoy!Crispin.Email: [email protected]:01:08 does it get harder to make friends as you get older?00:02:04 defining connections00:04:09 stats, loneliness, sleep & mortality00:06:30 Nick Littlehales TED talk on sleep00:07:40 lacking capacity for new relationships00:08:10 isolation & solo travelling00:14:20 meditation downsides00:18:10 blushing, feeling on show00:20:20 making friends later in life00:30:00 normalising the normal - getting outside comfort zone00:30:40 self help can be a lonely activity00:32:00 three needs for good mental health00:32:55 the impact of rejection on mental health00:35:50 everyone likes you more than you think they do00:36:30 tips for making friends & stories from the sauna 00:43:40 small talk tactics00:44:40 strategies for making connections00:46:15 self-awareness & insecurities00:48:20 public speaking00:49:30 having things in common00:50:05 Nick’s experience of being the outsider00:52:00 strategies continued00:53:20 NLP and CBT differences00:57:00 childhood experiences 00:59:25 parental and environmental impact01:00:20 attachment theory01:02:39 things not to do

Hello!In this episode Nick and Ray join me to chat about anxieties, fears, embarrassments and the fight/flight/freeze response when speaking in front of groups.There is also chat around origins of issues, TV appearances, ADHD, upbringings, strategies and Toastmasters.Hopefully you will feel comforted from other people talking similar things that may be affecting you.00:00 intro01:20 learning public speaking vs natural confidence05:25 experience of asking a question at a gambling summit 07:50 the benefits of social connections09:00 delving into Nick’s experience11:40 being on TV12:40 not seeing improvements13:50 Nick’s journey to Toastmasters & school stories16:15 intrinsic personalities17:00 possible childhood traumas17:50 unable to understand the fight or flight response 18:50 the difference between normal and abnormal nervousness21:20 anxiety experiences22:10 delayed/dormant anxieties27:00 neurodiversity29:30 same upbringing different results32:00 confident kids34:00 intelligence & confidence35:05 inheriting confidence/shyness37:45 intense daydreaming40:30 stimming, Autism & layers of quirks44:00 a career that fits your quirks45:40 thoughts on how the episode went & some random chat

Welcome to the debut episode and thanks for joining us.I hope some of our conversations resonate with you, help you feel less alone and spur you on to improving your situation.Future episodes will feature conversations between 3-4 people for a more diverse perspective but for this debut outing we're keeping it simple with just Crispin and Luke.We spend some time delving into the intention of the podcast before discussing our first ever topic: goals & ambitions.Enjoy!00:00 intro01:25 The Sharing Space concept and intentions04:45 the loneliness of self help07:15 how we’ll manage the topics07:50 goals & ambitions discussion09:58 why should we have goals?11:22 is goal-setting a stressor?14:40 the dilemma of comparison18:28 infectious generosity (Chris Anderson TED talk)19:40 a story of an unachieved goal23:40 having big goals27:00 our values32:40 the importance of social connections & friendships41:30 some thoughts & strategies