The StoicMom Project
by Using my daughter's trans ID as inspiration to become a better human.
At this point, I have embraced this destabilizing, sometimes excruciating, sometimes wondrous experience of having a trans-IDed child as “curriculum of the soul.” Because I can’t help but imagine how different the world might be if we could all take the hardest thing in our lives and view it as this, as curriculum of the soul. Practitioners of Stoicism might say, "the obstacle is the way." These are my conversations and reflections--along the way. stoicmom.substack.com
Episodes
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Ep 14 of Attachment Matters: Life is gonna have its way.
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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My life matters too. -with Dana
This conversation is part of a special series in which I talk with other moms determined to find healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes. Moms whose stories and strategies may inspire you. I suspect many listeners will resonate with much of Dana’s experience in the early days of...
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The Paradox of Motherhood (take one)
This shorter episode is not an interview, but rather a presentation that I’m working on for my coaching website (where you can learn more about me, and check out my coaching testimonials and FAQs.) I think I credit all the quotes I share except this one by Marianne Williamson, which I realized I...
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Ep 13 of Attachment Matters: Q&A Part 2, The Gift of Pain
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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Finding Purpose in Suffering -with Erin
This conversation is part of a special series in which I talk with other moms determined to find healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes. Moms whose stories and strategies may inspire you. Such a pleasure to have Erin (pseudonym) back on. You can listen to our first conversation...
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Closing a Chapter -with Meredith
This conversation is part of a special series in which I talk with other moms determined to find healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes. Moms whose stories and strategies may inspire you. I loved Meredith’s quiet wisdom. She let me know that she didn’t plan to listen to this...
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Ep 12 of Attachment Matters: Q&A Part 1, That Golden Moment
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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The Webs We Get Stuck in -with Ana Luisa
This conversation is part of a special series in which I talk with other moms determined to find healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes. Moms whose stories and strategies may inspire you. Ana Luisa—who gave permission to use her real name and leave in any details she...
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Ep 11 of Attachment Matters: "You've Got a Fast Car"
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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Confronted with my own emptiness -with Louise
This conversation is part of a special series in which I talk with other moms determined to find healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes. Moms whose stories and strategies may inspire you. Louise is a pseudonym and her voice has been disguised to protect her anonymity. The audio...
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Shifting away from fighting a losing battle -with Christine
This conversation is part of a special series in which I talk with other moms determined to find healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes. Moms whose stories and strategies may inspire you. Such a fun conversation with Christine! We begin with her describing how she became more...
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Ep 10 of Attachment Matters: What We See Shapes What We Do
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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I will not lose my family over this -with Kelly
This is Episode Eleven of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to build capacity and get bigger than the...
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Carrying the courage of my convictions -with Kim
This is Episode Ten of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to build capacity and get bigger than the...
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Ep 9 of Attachment Matters: the Necessary Safety of Forever Relationships
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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I'm gonna be okay, regardless of the outcome. -with Dee Schumacher
This is Episode Nine of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to build capacity and get bigger than the...
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Find inner peace no matter who's elected -with Political Detox Coach, Chuck Gafvert
I had a great time interviewing one of my Jungian coaching colleagues, Chuck Gafvert whose work “to help clients find inner peace, regardless of the chaos occurring in the external political environment” becomes more and more crucial with each passing day. He beautifully describes his own midlife...
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Cultivating the capacity for surrender and adaptation -with Dr. Maggie Goldsmith
It was so much fun to have Dr. Maggie Goldsmith back on to talk about one of my favorite subjects that also tends to get me into trouble with listeners: surrender. Maggie shares some of the consistencies she’s seen in the families she’s worked with and we marvel at how we’ve arrived at many of…
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Ep 8 of Attachment Matters: Let's talk about 'Alpha' (We've got you!)
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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How good can life be? -with Regina aka Ex-woke Mom
This is Episode Eight of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to build capacity and get bigger than the...
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Ep 7 of Attachment Matters: Finding Faith and Rest in Nature's Design
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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Ep 6 of Attachment Matters: Q&A part 2, Retreat into Relationship
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. As mothers, both…
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The Wilderness of Modern Parenting -with parent coach, Vashti Summervill
Inspired by personal circumstances, Vashti Summervill sought certification in parent coaching so she could help other parents struggling to help their children come of age in these dark and chaotic times. Seven years later, Vashti published the timely and painfully relatable book, Letters from…
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Ep 5 of Attachment Matters: Q&A part 1, What does maturity look like?
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. Rose was…
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The courage (and consciousness) to change the things we can -with Eloise
This is Episode Seven of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to build capacity and get bigger than the...
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Ep 4 of Attachment Matters: Holding On and Letting Go
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. Rose was…
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Ep 3 of Attachment Matters: The Generous Invitation
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things. Rose was…
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What doesn't kill you... -with S. Bee
This is Episode Six of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to inspire personal healing and growth. This...
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Ep 2 of Attachment Matters: Playing the Long Game
Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations between two moms who love to nerd out on the subject of attachment. We’ll dive into what it is, what it isn’t, what it relates to, what it can mean for parenting, and how it can help us explain the current state of things Rose was…
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Taking the Oxygen out of this -with Rachel
This is Episode Five of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to inspire personal healing and growth. This...
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Ep 1 of Attachment Matters: How we got here
(A quick note about the sound editing: I have edited Rose’s voice to perserve her anonymity. I’ve since learned how to record the conversation to facilitate editing and eliminate the disconcerting drops in my voice in future episodes.) Welcome to Attachment Matters. A series of conversations...
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Learning to "come home to myself" -with Marie
This is Episode Four of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to inspire personal healing and growth. This...
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Q&A with Dr. Maggie Goldsmith
If you haven’t yet, you can listen to the main interview with Dr. Goldsmith here. Below are the questions submitted by the SMP online learning community that Maggie and I discuss in this segment of our conversation. This was such a great conversation packed with practical wisdom and tips! As...
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The painful and scary task of separation -with Dr. Maggie Goldsmith
I think for most listeners of conversations along the way, Dr. Maggie Goldsmith needs little introduction. Maggie uses a pseudonym since she is the parent of a formerly trans-identified daughter. As she says in our conversation, she “drank from this cup before offering it to you” and is…
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Whether to wrestle a serial killer- with S. Bee
This is Episode Three of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to inspire personal healing and growth. This...
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Down the Rabbit Hole and Back Again -with Motherforever
This is Episode Two of conversations with stoic mamas along the way, part of a series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to inspire personal healing and growth. This...
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Changing the Dance -with Regina
This is the first episode in a sponsored series of conversations with moms who’ve consciously chosen to shift the way they’re relating to this circumstance; using the context of parenting a trans-identified child to inspire personal healing and growth. Wait, did I just say this was a sponsored...
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Q&A (and bonus content) with Julie Henderson
If you haven’t yet, you can listen to the main interview with Julie here. Below are the questions submitted by the SMP online learning community that Julie and I discuss in this segment of our conversation. Julie also explains what it can look like to do the shadow work that is so important for...
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From Mother to Matriarch (the Power phase) -with midlife mentor, Julie Henderson
I loved this conversation with my new friend, Julie Henderson. We had an interesting experience when we first connected that we discuss in this episode of catw. We also talk about the four phases of motherhood, the wisdom of the body, and the profound invitation midlife affords us to tune into...
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Q&A with Lisa Marchiano
If you haven’t yet, you can listen to the main interview with Lisa Marchiano here. Below are the questions submitted by the SMP online learning community that Lisa answers in this segment of our conversation. Lisa responded to these thoughtful questions with wisdom I found to be surprising and...
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Q&A (+ bonus content) with Patrick Ryan
I apologize if this is a duplicate for you. It didn’t publish correctly the first time. PLEASE READ: Pat shares some suicide-related statistics in his first response that didn’t sink in when we were speaking and that I found confusing when I went to relisten and edit the episode. I’ve sought some...
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"Prisons of Specialness" with Cult Mediation Specialist, Patrick Ryan
This was quite a lengthy conversation with Cult Mediation Specialist, Patrick Ryan. I had planned this conversation to go a little differently, but Pat’s approach of sharing his own story of a unique worldview he held for 8 years of his early adulthood, gives us a fascinating glimpse into the…
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Deep (Parenting) Wisdom and Destiny -with Lisa Marchiano
What an absolute treat to get to have this conversation with Lisa Marchiano, who has been such a huge influence on keeping me tethered to sanity and then eventually figuring out how to tap into my own deep wisdom, which as we discuss, is part of human nature. We hit a number of topics, focusing...
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"I'm the mom" -with graduated coaching client, Sara
I so enjoyed catching up with graduated coaching client, Sara (pseudonym.) Every mom I’ve had the privilege of welcoming into my coaching practice has been an amazing woman and mother! Like all these women, Sara had lots going for her when we began working together. We talk about some of Sara’s...
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Q&A with Dr. Roger McFillin
If you haven’t yet, you can listen to the main interview with Dr. McFillin here. Below are the questions submitted by the SMP online learning community that Dr. McFillin answers in this segment of my conversation with him. He was very impressed with these questions: How would you approach the…
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Transforming Our Idea of Emotional Pain -with Dr. Roger McFillin
Dr. Roger McFillin, host of the Radically Genuine podcast, is passionate about his mission to “educate the public on what are normal developmental processes, and what it means to be human” and “to communicate messages that actually work and help people.” This conversation may challenge your...
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Q&A (+ bonus content) with parent coach, Scott Noelle
You may be happy to learn this is the last time you have to “hear” me say, today is the final day to upgrade to Paid Subscriber and lock in the lower price forever. It goes up tomorrow, November 1 to reflect the new educational components being added including helpful concepts along the way and...
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Unconditionality-with parent coach, Scott Noelle
I’m realizing Scott is the first male guest I’ve had on the podcast! I loved this conversation, and while we talk about parenting, this is more of a philosophical discussion with the main focus on what I like to call The Big Shift. I frequently reference, and even read from Scott’s article, ‘What...
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Finding healing and joy and life again - with Lynn aka Gender_Apostate
As difficult a conversation as I anticipated this could be, I have to say, I had such an amazing time visiting with Lynn. It truly became a conversation about finding healing and joy and life again, and I’m so grateful to have had this opportunity to connect with someone who has done so much for...
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Looking for Miracles -with Erin
I’m so excited to publish the first podcast episode with the new title, “conversations along the way”! Erin and I recorded this the night before I finally figured out how to change the title and get this podcast out of the trenches. Pretty sure this conversation helped me get there! Erin authored…
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About this show
At this point, I have embraced this destabilizing, sometimes excruciating, sometimes wondrous experience of having a trans-IDed child as “curriculum of the soul.” Because I can’t help but imagine how different the world might be if we could all take the hardest thing in our lives and view it as this, as curriculum of the soul. Practitioners of Stoicism might say, "the obstacle is the way." These are my conversations and reflections--along the way.
stoicmom.substack.com
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Using my daughter's trans ID as inspiration to become a better human.