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The Teenage Guide
by Ashley Chandler
All parents want their t(w)een to be kind, happy-ish, confident, and motivated, with a trusting, respectful relationship to boot. But, how? Does it have to be a grind? Does it have to be complicated? The short (exciting) answer: No.Welcome to Teenage Guide podcast where Ashley Chandler combines her 18+ years as an Educator and Coach for Parents, Tweens, and Teens with the latest soul-to-systems research and her personal experience so parents and t(w)eens are connecting and gaining skills in ways that last a lifetime.
Episodes
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EP. 68: When Your Teen Is Stuck and You Can See the Solution (But They Won’t Listen)
EP. 68: When Your Teen Is Stuck and You Can See the Solution (But They Won’t Listen) You can see exactly what your teen needs to do. You know the answer. You’ve lived through something similar. You’ve tried to share it — calmly, directly, with the best intentions — and they shut down completely....
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67: Executive Function 101 — The Skills Critical to 'Success' for You and Your Teen
67: Executive Function 101 — The Skills Critical to 'Success' for You and Your Teen Ahhh... one of my specialties! I love helping parents and teens truly understand these skills and how practicing them makes life so much more enjoyable, independent, and connected. You've probably heard the term...
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66: [Quick Win] How to Get Your Teen to Listen and Do What They Need to Do — A Real Plan That Works
EP. 66 (QUICK WIN): How to Get Your Teen to Listen to You — A Real Plan That Works Look around your space right now. Everything you can see — aside from nature itself — was once an idea in someone's mind. The chair. The phone. The microphone. Someone believed it was possible. They built the...
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65: What Are You Believing? Real client stories — and the one shift behind every real breakthrough
EP. 65: What Are You Believing to Be True? Real client stories — and the one shift behind every real breakthrough Most of the time, when parents come to me, they want to fix something specific...about their teen. The grades. The attitude. The relationship. The morning battles. And what they...
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64: The October 'Slump' is Coming: What You Need to Have on Your Radar
Episode 64: The October Slump — What Every Teacher Knows (and Most Parents Don't) There's a pattern every teacher sees every single October — and most parents don't catch it until it's already a full-blown battle or stress breakdown at home. It's called the October slump, and it shows up as...
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63: Three Practices That Give You (& Your Teen) Your Time and Energy Back
EP. 63: Three Practices That Give You (& Your Teen) Your Time and Energy Back We talk a lot about relationships and skills — the two things that can help you solve almost any challenge with your teen. But underneath both of those is something more foundational. Your daily rhythm. The practices…
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62: Who Are You Parenting With? — How to Build Your Dream Village
EP. 62: Who Are You Parenting With? How to Build Your Dream Village Somewhere along the way, our parenting village starts to disappear. When our kids are little, there are playgroups, preschool pickup, birthday parties, and other parents standing beside us in the same season. Then adolescence…
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61: Why You Lose Them in the First 5 Seconds of 'Helping'
EP. 61: Why You Lose Them in the First Five Seconds of "Helping" You love them. You can see the solution. And somehow — the moment you open your mouth to help — you've already lost them. This is the moment almost every parent I work with describes. The homework meltdown at 7pm. The raised voice....
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60: Back to School With Teens: Connection, Confidence, & Motivation Starts Here
Back-to-School Stress With Teens: What to Focus on Instead of Grades Back-to-school season has a way of bringing everything to the surface. The schedules. The lunches. The homework. The missing assignments. The conversations about motivation. And underneath all of that, the quiet questions so…
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59: Real Parents, Real Teens, & The Formula That Changes Everything
EP. 59: Real Parents, Real Teens, & The Formula That Changes Everything What actually changes when you stop trying to fix the behavior you can see…and start paying attention to what’s happening underneath it? In this episode, I’m taking you inside the experiences of two real families I’ve worked...
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58: 5 Parenting Myths That Are Making Your Teen's Behavior Worse
5 Parenting Myths That Are Making Teen Behavior Worse (Without You Realizing It) What if the strategies you've been been told will fix your teen are actually keeping your family stuck? If it's late at night, sound off, and you're scrolling the internet looking for parenting answers because you're...
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57: [For Parents & Teens] When You Know This - You're Unstoppable
EP. 57: When You Know This — You're Unstoppable Some episodes are about strategy. Some are about skill. This one is about something deeper. In this episode, Ashley shares one of the most profound moments of her life — day eight of hospice with her mother — and the four words that came to her in...
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56: Why Your Teen Won't Tell You What's Really Going On (And How to Change That)
56: Why Your Teen Won't Tell You What's Really Going On (And How to Change That) Your teen's social world is one of the most powerful influences on their emotional well-being, identity, and decision-making. Yet it's often the part of their life parents know the least about. If you've ever…
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55: It's Not Therapy, but it Feels Therapeutic [What I Do & Why it Works]
EP. 55: It's Not Therapy, But It Feels Therapeutic — What I Do and Why It Works If you've ever wondered whether what I do is therapy, whether I can help with your family dynamic, school, or friendships — this episode is the answer. I get some version of this question almost every week. And the...
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54: The (Sneaky) Ways Fear-Based Parenting Creeps Into Everyday Life
It's June. The house looks like a small civilization moved in overnight. One cracker left in the package. Milk on the counter without the lid. Crumbs everywhere. And suddenly — you're staring at a dirty dish and predicting your kid's work ethic at 35. That spiral sound familiar? That's fear-based...
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53: Summer With Teens: The Tools Helping Me Right Now
3 Tools I'm Using to Make Summer Feel Lighter Summer with teenagers is a whole thing. Yes, we love summer for slowing down in some ways. But, in other ways, as parents we have more to manage. More mess. More groceries. More (possible) taxi driving. More free time to wonder what is happening when...
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52: What Waiting is Costing You and Your Teen
EP. 52: What Waiting Is Costing You and Your Teen When you're caught in a cycle of conflict with your teen, it's easy to focus on the daily frustrations — the arguments, the resistance, the exhaustion. But what if the real cost runs much deeper than that? In this episode, I'm exploring the...
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51: Stop Trying to Make Summer Magical (and Focus on This Instead)
EP. 51: Stop Trying to Create the Perfect Summer: What Your Teen Actually Needs Most Summer has a way of bringing unexpected pressure. The school year ends and suddenly it feels like we're supposed to produce a season full of memorable vacations, exciting experiences, and picture-perfect family...
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50: Confidence, Connection, and the One Decision That Changes Everything
Episode Title: Confidence, Connection, and the One Decision That Changes Everything Episode Description: What do parents want most for their teens? After years of working with families and listening to the questions parents ask, the answer keeps coming back to two things: confidence and…
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49: Why You Recreate the Parenting Patterns You Want to Stop
Why You Keep Recreating the Parenting Patterns You Want to Stop Why do we keep falling back into the exact parenting patterns we desperately want to change? In this episode of The Teenage Guide Podcast, I’m breaking down why so many parents unconsciously recreate stress, conflict, overcontrol,...
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48: Caring for My Mom While Raising Teens: What Caregiving, Grief, and Generational Healing Taught Me About Parenting
In this deeply personal episode of The Teenage Guide Podcast, Ashley shares the story of caring for her mother through cancer while simultaneously parenting teenagers, running a business, and navigating her own midlife transformation. This conversation is about more than caregiving. It’s about…
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47: Reset Series (Part 3 of 3): The Three Selves — Self-Compassion
What if the missing piece in your parenting reset isn’t another strategy… but the way you speak to yourself after hard moments? In this final episode of the Reset Series, Ashley walks parents through the third and often overlooked piece of sustainable change: self-compassion. Because awareness...
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46: Reset Series (Part 2 of 3): The Three Selves — Self-Regulation
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I know better… so why do I keep reacting this way?” — this episode is for you. Here’s what’s really going on: this isn’t a willpower problem. It’s a nervous system pattern. In Part 2 of the May Reset Series, we move one layer deeper—from awareness into...
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45: Reset Series (Part 1 of 3): The Three Selves — Self-Awareness
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a thought loop… replaying the same worries, reacting in ways you wish you hadn’t, or feeling like you know what to do but just can’t seem to do it—this episode is for you. This is Part 1 of the Reset Series, where we’re beginning with the foundation of...
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44: Your Teen’s Behavior Isn’t the Problem — It’s Communication (What It’s Really Telling You)
If your teen seems “fine” at school but comes home and shuts down, snaps, or explodes… this episode will help you understand what’s really going on. Here’s what’s really going on: your teen isn’t becoming someone disrespectful — they’re releasing what they’ve been holding all day. In this…
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43: What If Your Hardest Relationship Is Your Greatest Teacher?
Here’s what’s really going on… So many parents come into this season of adolescence believing the relationship is the problem — the conflict, the attitude, the distance. But what if none of that is actually the problem? What if it’s the doorway? In this episode, we explore the idea that...
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42: [EXPLICIT] It’s Not Just Screen Time — Understanding Distraction in Parents and Teens
We’re living in an age where attention is constantly being pulled, fragmented, and monetized—and it’s impacting not just our teens, but us as parents too. In this episode, we slow things down and look beneath the surface of distraction. Because this isn’t just about phones, social media, or “lack...
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41: When Motivation Disappears: What’s Really Going On Beneath Your Teen’s “I Don’t Care”
If your teen seems unmotivated, withdrawn, or like they’ve simply stopped caring, this episode is for you. Here’s what’s really going on: nothing has gone wrong. In this conversation, we gently unpack the belief that teens need more pressure to perform and replace it with something far more...
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40: What's Next for Me + My Case for a Reset for You
Listen in to hear what I'm up to, and what that means for you. Remember, when you slow down, get quiet, and listen - you'll be guided. No need to force, hustle, or prove. You and your teen...you're enough! Get ready for some magic. See you soon, Ashley
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39: Summer Screens with Teens without Battles
Hey parents, summer can easily turn into endless screen time and chaos — but what if it became your biggest opportunity to build your teen’s confidence, independence, and real-life skills that stick all year? In this episode: ✨Understand the unique challenges of managing screen time during summer…
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38: Why Now is the Perfect Time to Reset Your Parenting
Let's face it: summer isn't really much of a break for parents. Unstructured time often equals more chaos Teens often dysregulate in summer without rhythm. And, you're dysregulated at the thought of them being dysregulated (aka you're snappy at the thought of them being moody) In this episode: ✨...
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37: Setting Up Summer with Your Teen for Success That Lasts All Year Long
Hey parents, summer can easily turn into endless screen time and chaos — but what if it became your biggest opportunity to build your teen’s confidence, independence, and real-life skills that stick all year? In this episode: Redefine what summer success really means for your teen and your family...
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36: [Time & Energy 3] Solution-Focused Boundaries that Motivate Teens
To culminate this 3-part series on time and energy (and how to make the most of it!) I wanted to focus on an area that comes up a lot in my coaching practice with parents and my THRIVE membership parent group: boundaries that motivate our teens and lead to more connection, follow-through, and...
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35: [Time & Energy 2] How to Actually Make Time for the Things that Make a Real Difference in You and Your Teen's Lives
May-cember (as it's affectionally called in some circles) brings so many layers! Mother's Day Graduations End of Year Finals, Projects, Grades Parties Obligations Whether you feel 'up' to them or can actually enjoy them, or not! That’s why in this part 2 of the Time + Energy series TG35, "How to...
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34: [Time & Energy 1] How to reclaim your time and energy (when you're always so busy)
Welcome back to The Teenage Guide podcast! Between ping-pong schedules, being pulled in a million directions, and the emotional rollercoasters that April and May can bring, we've got to become intentional with our time and energy so that we can actually enjoy and be present for these (very…
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33: How we (unintentionally) sabotage our teen's motivation and success
Welcome back to The Teenage Guide podcast! Listen, I know you want the best for your teen. And, at the same time, sometimes even with the best intentions, we unintentionally sabotage their motivation and success. In this powerful episode, I’m breaking down: Where you need to shift your focus (and...
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32: The 6 keys to an unbreakable bond & to having the most (positive) influence in your teen's life
Welcome back! Inside this episode, I’ll walk you through The RELATE Method™—my 6-part framework to build an unbreakable bond with your t(w)een, no matter how distant or challenging your relationship can feel. 🎯 Inside you’ll learn: What matters more than your “perfect” response How to listen in…
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31: How to unlock more peace (and potential) with your teen by the end of school year
Wish your teen had the tools and confidence to reach their full potential? Feeling the pressure of end-of-school year within sight? Wish you could help them, but they're full of excuses, resistance, or they're shutting you out? May is notoriously full for both parents and teens—projects, finals,...
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30: How to help your teen who 'hates' school
Got a teen who 'hates' school? You're not alone. Hearing this from our tweens and teens is more common than you might realize. With finals, projects, their ever-changing social world, and the pressure of the school year winding down, you may feel like you have little control over how it all...
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29: The keys to parent with more peace and instantly de-stress your life
I won't sugarcoat this: stress is all around us. You know it and feel it. What you may not realize is what it really is and how it's impacting connection with your teen, and their ability to do what they need to do. Knowing this is the foundation of self-regulation. In this episode, I'm sharing...
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28: Got a disrespectful teen? Here's why →
Getting through to your teen can feel impossible when they're disrespectful, disregard and ignore you, or push back on everything you say. But what if there’s a deeper reason behind it? In this episode, I break down: ✔️ Four key reasons your teen may be shutting you out ✔️ How your own words and...
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27: Got Rage? How to Move Through a Parenting Shame Spiral
Ever feel like your teen knows exactly how to push your buttons - or you're on edge a lot —and before you know it, you’re snapping, yelling, and instantly regretting it? You’re not alone. In this episode, I dive into: ✔️ Why we lose our cool—and how to recognize your biggest triggers ✔️ Simple...
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26: How To Parent With Intuition vs. Fear (& why it's critical to your teen's behavior)
Ever catch yourself second-guessing every parenting decision or reacting out of fear instead of trust? You're not alone… In this episode, we’re unpacking: ✔️ The key difference between intuitive parenting and fear-based reactions ✔️ How to tune into your inner wisdom and trust your gut with your...
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25: Must-Have Stress-Reducing Systems For You and Your Teen
Welcome back to the Teenage Podcast! If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, constantly juggling your teen’s schedule, or stuck in a cycle of stress and frustration, this episode is for you... In this quick episode, I dive into... ✔️ The key systems every parent needs to reduce stress (for you and your...
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24: 4 Questions All Parents of Teens Need To Be Asking Themselves (& why answering them moves you closer to peace)
[Note: Sensitive Content Warning + Medical Disclaimer] Welcome back to the Teenage Guide podcast! If you’ve ever find yourself filled with rage, fear, big emotions, or you're micro-managing your teen's life, this episode will help you uncover why... In this quick episode, I dive into: the…
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23: Why your teen isn't listening or opening up to you
Getting your teen to listen, engage, and actually hear what you’re saying can feel like an uphill battle. If conversations turn into one-word answers, excuses, or complete shutdowns, there’s a reason behind it—and a way to turn things around. In this episode, I break down: ✔️ Four surprising...
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22: How to foster your teen's self-drive
One question I hear on repeat: How do I get my teen to do what they need to do? Motivating a teen and fostering self-drive can feel tricky, I know. I’m sharing: ✅ The #1 mindset shift that will change how your teen defines success ✅ How to tap into their strengths to boost confidence and drive ✅...
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21: How to guarantee you and your teen's success this year
What if this year could be the one where you and your teen truly thrive—without the frustration, miscommunication, and constant power struggles? Inside this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Why getting uncomfortable is the key to real growth (for you and them!) ✅ How to identify hidden beliefs that are...
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20: Happy NYE! Why 2025 Will Be You and Your Teen's Best Year Yet
✨ Happy New Year! ✨ As we step into 2025, what will make this year different for you and your teen? In this episode, I reveal the #1 reason why this year will be your best yet. It’s not about resolutions or wishful thinking—it’s about choosing a new path for yourself and your teen. I’ll walk you...
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19: The Neuroscience of Soul-Connection and Spirituality with your Teen (& Why it's So Important)
Merry Christmas Eve, Hannukah Eve, and Kwanzaa is also in a few days, along with other spiritual traditions and celebrations! What if the key to your teen’s confidence, resilience, and well-being lies in something deeper than just good parenting? I love intersecting science and spirituality....
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
All parents want their t(w)een to be kind, happy-ish, confident, and motivated, with a trusting, respectful relationship to boot. But, how? Does it have to be a grind? Does it have to be complicated? The short (exciting) answer: No.Welcome to Teenage Guide podcast where Ashley Chandler combines her 18+ years as an Educator and Coach for Parents, Tweens, and Teens with the latest soul-to-systems research and her personal experience so parents and t(w)eens are connecting and gaining skills in ways that last a lifetime.
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All parents want their t(w)een to be kind, happy-ish, confident, and motivated, with a trusting, respectful relationship to boot. But, how? Does it have to be a grind? Does it have to be complicated? The short (exciting) answer: No.Welcome to Teenage Guide podcast where Ashley Chandler combines her...
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