The Undone

Hi besties! I'm back in your ears with a mini dating diary confession AND some exciting news. We've got a brand new podcast for you. It's called Things You Didn't Learn In School and you can listen to it right now!  Listen on Spotify here Listen on Apple here We learned a lot of things in school that we’ve never actually needed to know in real life. Meanwhile, important things like how to nail a job interview, how to do taxes, and whether buying or renting is a better financial option were conveniently left off the curriculum. That’s where we come in...Comedian Bec Melrose and your bestie (Em Vernem) are here to walk you through the lessons you’re too embarrassed to admit you still don’t know. So come and give us a listen. School is in session xxSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 67 episodes (14 recorded from home) The Undone is coming to an end. In this final episode, Lucy and Em reminisce on some of their favourite memories, from the funniest to the most important. But don't worry, Lucy and Em aren't going anywhere. You can follow them on Instagram at @emilyvernem and @lucymneville to keep up with what they're up to. Thank you to all our listeners for tuning in every week, submitting dating diary stories and confessions, and being a part of the show. We'll miss you. THE END BITSTo listen to all the episodes mentioned in today's episode click here. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Audio Producer:  Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

'Pegging', Thanks to Married At First Sight (MAFS) is currently trending in google searches. But don't worry, we've got you sorted and we're going to save you that google search. So what is pegging and how do you start the conversation with a sexual partner around it?  Also, Em gets vulnerable with us and shares more on her vaginismus PLUS a Dating Diary of her very own. Was Em 'love bombed?'.  THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson & Rose Kerr Audio Producer: Leah Porges Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you're on your period, is sex off the table for you? Or are you extra horny? There should be no stigma around period sex, but it can be daunting. So, Lucy has put together a bunch of tips to make that time of the month extra pleasurable, as well as clear up some misconceptions. Also, Em and Lucy answer a listener dilemma from someone who's (smaller) friend called themselves 'fat' and wants them to understand why this hurt. PLUS we read a listener's Dating Diary about a drunken date that ended with a serious dose of the ick. THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Audio Producer: Ian Camilleri Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we thought Lucy hijacked our confessions form (which you can submit to here). But it turns out the fear of running into your ex is so much more common than we thought.  And, a worthy and necessary tone shift: Em shares a story about famous Australian-Indian actor Pallavi Sharda's recent upsetting experience after being told by a hair removal salon that she had too much hair on her face and that the women working at the salon felt uncomfortable working on her. Em gives us tips on how you can be an ally and help people of colour feel accepted in Australia... The End Bits  Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emma Gillespie Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever used a dating app? While a lot of us have, some people are just getting on them for the first time (or re-downloading them). Emily and guest host Emma Gillespie discuss how to create an authentic profile, the red flags to watch out for and what to expect from the people on them. Also, guest host Emma NEEDS to talk about an article she read recently, written by an intern in New York who was pursued by a very famous man...and whether a relationship with such a huge power imbalance can work. PLUS Emily recounts a dating experience where she was love-bombed to the extreme, and unfortunately Emma can relate. THE END BITS Read The Movie Star and Me by Domenica Feraud. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Emma Gillespie and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Emily has brought her own Dating Dilemma to this episode of The Undone, after she matched with a friend's brother on a dating app. She wants to know, is it ever ok to date your bestie's brother, or is it asking for trouble? Also, these days it's pretty standard procedure to split the bill after the first date. But considering that the wage gap in Australia still exists, and the cost that goes into going on a date if you're a woman- is that actually fair? Plus we read a Dating Diary from someone who was asked out by a man with a very strange request... Don't worry, we found out exactly why! THE END BITS Click here to write to your local MP about the Uluru Statement from the Heart. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You've probably heard of your Love Language, but what about your Argument Style? According to this article, knowing how you argue could be the key to a happy relationship. Em and Luce break down the six styles PLUS how to have a healthy fight with the people in your life that you care about. Also, according to TikTok, "Twee" is back (if you don't know what that is, think Peter Pan collars, bangs and moustaches on everything), but is there a dark side to this returning trend? Plus, we read a dating diary story from a listener whose date ended with the most common bodily fluid we get told about on The Undone (and it's not the one you think). THE END BITS If you or someone you know is struggling with disordered eating, please visit The Butterfly Foundation or call 1800 33 4673 RECOMMENDATIONS:  Watch Cheer Season 2 on Netflix GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This holiday season we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. A few months ago we released an episode called When The Cringe Keeps You Up At Night, about those embarrassing moments that don't leave your brain. You loved our cringy stories so we thought we'd bring you a whole episode that'll have you wincing in second hand embarrassment. THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Holidays! This holiday season we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. It's the segment we get the most submissions, feedback and laughs from, Dating Diary! We get so many stories to our Anonymous Confession Form that we wanted to fill a whole show with your tragic, hilarious stories. Em and Luce read stories about dates that end in anaphylactic shock, a gifted vibrator and explosive diarrhea (all different stories, thank god). Plus, we received a listener dilemma from someone who isn't sure they want to keep sleeping with their FWB after finding out their an anti-vaxxer, begging the question, can you sleep with someone even if you have different morals? THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Holidays! This holiday season we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. This episode, it's all about Em's unpopular opinions. We all know she loves dropping a controversial opinion, so she rounds up the ones that got the most heat online, plus a few of our listeners spicy thoughts. Also, we dive a little deeper on an unpopular opinion of a listener that it's problematic to prefer tall men for Dating Diary. THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Holidays! It's almost Xmas so we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. First up, Lucy's thoughtful (and admittedly unqualified) advice. We get tons of dilemmas from listeners, so we break down her most asked questions about body image, breaking up a share house, dropping out of uni, plus Em's most requested advice about dating with strict parents. Also, we answer a dilemma for Dating Diary from a listener who wants to have casual sex, but is always catching the feels. THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you heard of No Date December? Probably not, because it's something Em made up. She refuses to date anyone in December because of something called 'Wedding Reception Syndrome'. Plus, we look back at the year that was with The Undone Unwrapped, including how many listeners wrote in to tell us they had vomited on someone's penis (way too many).  And we read a Dating Diary from a listener who went on a date with her favourite musician and attempted to play it cool. THE END BITS RECOMMENDATIONS:  Listen back to some of our favourite episodes of The Undone:A Guide To Going Down (On Someone)Should You Be In A Long-Term Relationship In Your 20s?When Fetishes Turn DeadlyHelp! I Can’t Orgasm Without A VibratorEverything We Wish Someone Told Us About Sex Watch Insecure on Binge. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode with special guest host Emma Gillespie, Lucy and Emma break down the clues on someone's social media that they've been dumped, from the meaningful quote, to the hot selfie, to dying your hair blonde.  Plus, after such a rough year, we're focusing on Xmas gifts that cost little to no money, because who needs the added stress. And Emma tells a dating diary about the time she got the ick mid-hookup that had Lucy rolling on the floor laughing, literally. THE END BITS RECOMMENDATIONS:  Listen to Extraordinary Stories on MPlus. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emma Gillespie Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2021 is almost in the rear view mirror and we are not looking back. This year we've  seen some dating trends we never want to encounter again, so Em breaks them down, from the ridiculous to the insidious. Plus, we all have some toxic traits when in relationships (except Em, apparently). Whether it's giving the silent treatment, starting a fight on purpose or asking a question you don't want the answer to, Lucy acknowledges her own and the ones our audience relate to the most. And Em reads a Dating Diary from a listener who got puked on on a date...twice. THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you feel about dating post-lockdown? Most of us are excited to date, but also want to just spend time with our friends, and have also forgotten how to date properly and don't know what we want out of it. In other words, we're confused. Em has discovered a new dating trend she thinks sums up these feelings. Plus, we need to discuss the dating PR campaign. It's when you tell your friends you're breaking up up with your partner, only to get back together, so you have to sell their good traits back to your friends. We're sorry to tell you, it never works. And Lucy tells a story for Dating Diary about meeting a guy in real life she matched with on tinder she was sure was a bot, and awkwardness ensued. THE END BITS RECOMMENDATIONS:  Watch The Sex Lives Of College Girls on Binge. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you heard of Authority Anxiety? Maybe you haven't heard of it, but a lot of us have felt it. It's a very specific anxiety that many people feel when they talk to people like doctors, police, teachers and their boss, and we need to talk about it. Plus, last week Kendall Jenner wore a dress to her bestie's wedding that really stole the stole. It infuriated Lucy so we have a chat about some other times it's not cool to take the attention away from a friend. And we read a dating diary from a listener who did the dirty at work, and paid the price. THE END BITS RECOMMENDATIONS:  Watch The Cry on Netflix. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Hosts: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dating with an STI can be hard, but it's definitely not uncommon. This week, we explore the stigma related to STIs and get some advice from a listener who has been dating with her herpes diagnosis for 4 years, and speak to Dr Ginni Mansberg about how to make sure you're practicing safe sex. Plus, Em breaks down the four stages of grieving a situationship, aka a relationship that never passed the casual stage. And, for dating diary we read an anonymous confession from a listener who had a first date with more red flags than a soccer game (ok...we don't watch sport). THE END BITS RECOMMENDATIONS:  Watch Morning Wars on Apple TV+. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at [email protected] Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem With thanks to our guest Dr Ginni Mansberg. You can follow her here. Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.auSupport the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What’s the difference between Main Character Energy and Main Character Syndrome? And is it really a bad thing to have MCE? Plus, Em is back to dating and has trusted her gut when it comes to deciding whether to continue seeing someone (well, kind of), and Lucy reads a dating diary story from a listener who had a bloody good one night stand at a festival. The End Bits  Listen to Emily and Lucy on Will & Woody. Listen to Extraordinary Stories on MPlus. Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our 50th episode! So we thought we'd answer one of the questions Emily and Lucy are asked most: how does having a sex and dating podcast affect your dating life? Plus, we discuss a very common dilemma amongst our listeners; what if you don't like your friend's partner? It's not an easy situation to navigate but we have some advice. And we're joined by Will McMahon from KIIS FM's drive show, Will & Woody, to hear about his worst date ever (and it's a cracker). The End Bits  Listen to Will & Woody. Watch You Season 3 on Netflix. Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our confessions form (which you can submit to here) has been overflowing with hilarious stories lately, and there's one type of experience that we keep getting over and over...people vomiting on d**ks. It's inspired us to release this bumper episode on all things oral sex. Lucy tells us about her first experience giving head (if you can call it that), plus we read some of our audiences funniest stories, before giving some tips for going down on both penis and vulva owners, sans vomit. Finally, Em reads a Dating Diary story about someone who went on a date and ended up paying for it, dearly. The End Bits  Listen to Waking up as the ✨main character✨ in a 2000s coming of age movie Buy By Charlotte Friendship Bracelets Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you heard of 'meditative orgasms'? They're orgasms you can achieve with your mind, without touching your genitals at all. Emily gave it a go and the results were, well, explosive. She describes exactly how to achieve this "12/10 experience". Plus, a tweet about the weirdest thing we've gotten in trouble for at work had Em and Lucy laughing, and reflecting on times they've gotten in trouble (perhaps deservedly) in the workplace, and Em reads an anonymous dating story from a listener who saw right through a first date's weird lie. The End Bits  Read "I wasn't allowed to laugh." 37 women on the weirdest thing they ever got in trouble for at work. Follow UN Women Australia on TikTok and learn the #EmpowerMoves dance Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On the 11th of October, it's the International Day of The Girl, our favourite day of the year. To celebrate, Emily and Lucy chat about advice they'd give their younger selves, from "you've got this", to "don't dye your sideburns". Plus, what does your phone's note app say about you? Some people use it for shopping lists, but some of us use it to draft break up messages, write down their manifestations, or pass on silent messages to people. Em breaks down the four types of people based upon their phone notes. And we read out an anonymous confession from a listener who's period sex ended up with her partner holding a pair of tongs... The End Bits  Watch Emma on Netflix. Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are two types of friends, and Emily and Lucy are opposites. Emily believes in friendship minimalism; culling friends that don't spark joy. However Lucy disagrees, and reckons that friends from all walks of life can be valuable. Which one are you? Plus, we dissect the '75 HARD' challenge that has been making the rounds on TikTok for what it really is; disordered eating. Lucy opens up about her experience in this area, and why this challenge is more dangerous than it seems. And on Dating Diary, Emily reads an anonymous dating story about a bad date that had her crying laughing. The End Bits  Visit The Butterfly Foundation or call 1800 33 4673. Watch Squid Game. Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we had a listener contact us about this feeling they had that this pandemic had stolen a huge part of their 20s, and we have to agree. Our 20s are meant to be a time of traveling, hooking up and making mistakes, so how do we reconcile the loss of that? And is there anything we've gained instead? Also, we bring you a bumper recommendation segment of all our favourite sex accessories, from lube, to lingerie, to glass dildos and something called a Drip Stick. Plus, we hear a listener confession about a date that ended in a soggy bed and a pillow fort. The End Bits  Lucy's recommendations:Womaniser x Love Honey Pro 40LBDO Essensual VibeRosewell BendREFLEX: QUESTIONS ABOUT SEXRosewell Conversation CardsLBDO Essensual LubeLBDO Essensual OilBASICS Slimline Butt PlugTracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo SetMoments condomsShiver CondomsDora LarsonBimbi and Roy Em's recommendations:DripstickRice Bran OilHappy Rabbit Mini Ears Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most of the country has been in lockdown for a while now, but we don't want to stop dating or having sex, so we're resorting to dating on FaceTime. But it can be daunting. Lucy dated her boyfriend for months via FaceTime before meeting, so has some tips for breaking the ice when you're separated by a screen, plus some virtual date ideas and ways to get freaky via your phone. We also discuss what happened when a prominent influencer and journalist posted an offensive story on her Instagram last week, and how she should have apologised, and Em tells the story of the first, and last time she tried getting kinky in the bedroom. The End Bits  Follow Alyssa Ho Read Lucy's article "I roadtested 6 types of condoms to see if there's ~actually~ any difference." Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What makes you decide to hit that unfollow button on Instagram? With a certain big Australian influencer losing followers by the tens of thousands due to her anti-vax views, we thought we'd dive into what makes us switch off from wanting to see someone's content. Plus, have you heard of the Girlboss? Well, she's dead. The girlboss was everywhere a few years ago, but after the fall of many high profile female CEOs, we're rejecting the girlboss for good. The End Bits  Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How many besties do you have? One, or a bunch? Emily is looking for her one true best friend, but Lucy reckons you can have as many as you want. Plus, we discuss Instagram's move to get rid of it's 'swipe up' story feature for people with 10k+ followers and how it might (or might not) democratise the platform more, and we answer a listener confession from someone who is concerned that they haven't been in love by 22... The End Bits  Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you go through an 'awkward phase'? Usually between about 10 and 16, it might have involved questionable make up, clothes we thought were cool, and a stack of photos we wish we could bury. But young Gen Z kids seem to be skipping this phase altogether thanks to social media, and we're not sure that's a good thing. Plus, we discuss a feature on Tinder that asks people if they're sure before sending an abusive message, and Lucy and Em want to know if this is just protecting the wrong people, and we break down an anonymous confession from someone wondering if they're shallow after a date didn't meet basic hygiene standards. The End Bits  Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lucy reckons there's two types of people in lockdown: those who save and those who shop. If you are the latter you have probably made some great purchases, and not so great. Lucy and Em talk round up our listener's best and worst lockdown purchases so far. Plus, we speak to Mamamia's Head of People and Culture, Nicolle Stuart, about exactly how to ask for a mental health day at work, and answer a listener dilemma from someone who can't seem to get past the first date. The End Bits  Need extra support? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Click here to read Exactly what you can do to help people in Afghanistan right now. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On today's episode, Em and Lucy are joined by queen of the internet and hilarious human Tanya Hennessy, to tell us some of her worst dating stories, and they. Are. Wild. She also tells us about what it's like dating her younger partner, and gives some very practical advice to Em for meeting people on dating apps. Plus, we discuss why this lockdown this year feels VERY different from last year. Thanks to our guest, Tanya Hennessy. The End Bits  Click here to read 'My sister got me through lockdown in 2020. Now she's not here and I'm lost.' Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chantelle Otten is one busy woman. Not only is she a psycho-sexologist and writer, she is also the host of Sealed Section, Mamamia's sex podcast where nothing is off limits. She joins us this episode to chat about how she became a sexologist, the problems she hears most often at her practice, and the one client that managed to surprise her. She also answers a few anonymous listener questions about vibrators, masturbating when you live with your parents, and being 'better' at sex. Also, can you give yourself a nickname? In the FYI Lucy tells Em about the time she tried to 'reinvent herself' with a new nickname, and it didn't go down well. The End Bits  Thank you to our guest Chantelle Otten. You can listen to Sealed Section here. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How many group chats are you in right now? According to Emily, there are 7 different types of people in the group chat (and they're not all good), and Lucy breaks down the chat etiquette rules. Plus, lately we've received some dm's about friendship breakups, and how heartbreaking they can be. Em and Lucy discuss how to save a friendship, whether it's worth it and how to let go. And, our friend and colleague Maddie joins us to tell us about the date that literally changed her life, and it all started with changing her dating profile preferences. The End Bits  Click here to read Maddie's article "I found myself wanting to kiss her." I thought I never wanted to have sex. Then, at 24, I met a woman. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last week, Lucy asked her Instagram followers what they wished they could tell their younger selves about sex, and was inundated with responses. Some were funny, but all of them were telling about how damaging a lack of understanding and education about sex can be. Lucy and Em discuss some of the responses, and what they wish they'd known. Plus, does your skin somehow get worse during lockdowns, despite wearing less makeup and using more skincare? You're not imagining it, it's called 'Isolation Skin' and You Beauty's Erin Docherty joins us to give us some tips. And we read an anonymous listener confession that had Lucy and Em in stitches. Trigger Warning: During The Big Issue we discuss sexual assault. The End Bits  Listen to You Beauty here. Click here to read Lucy's article 28 women on what they wish their younger selves knew about sex. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mahalia Handley has a face you might recognise; she's an internationally regarded model who has has worked for some of the world's biggest brands, and she's also an activist who tirelessly campaigns for more diversity and inclusion in the modelling industry. But this interview is about something else: Body Dysmorphic Disorder. BDD is an illness that makes people who experience it incredibly anxious about perceived flaws in their appearance, and Mahalia is open and candid about her diagnosis and treatment. In this interview (which was recorded pre-lockdown) Em and Lucy discuss with Mahalia about how she manages her BDD when modelling, how social media plays into it and why she still loves her job. Trigger Warning: we discuss eating disorders extensively in this episode. If you need any support please visit visit The Butterfly Foundation at butterfly.org.au/ or call 1800 33 4673.  Thank you to our guest Mahalia Handley and Vivien's Model Management. CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's week three of lockdown in Sydney (and a whole lot of other states around Australia) and we're still recording in blanket forts! It's been a tough time for a lot of people so Lucy and Em have collated some tips that make them feel good and get out of a slump, lockdown or not. Also, we discuss dating safely when using apps; what are some red flags, where to meet and how to keep your friends in the loop at all time, plus for Dating Diary Em breaks down the three types of people you'll definitely end up dating sooner than later (you might even be one yourself). The End Bits  Listen to Lucy's Spotify playlists Serotonin and Mellow Sign up to Mamamia's Newsletter The Pick Me Up Click here to read Emily's article There are 3 people you'll date in your 20s. You need to be wary of all of them. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Emily and Lucy are still in lockdown and recording in their closets and under doonas, but the show must go on! On today's Big Issue, Em and Lucy have a tough conversation about accountability, and apologising to your friends. It isn't the easiest thing to do, so we go through the best ways to go about it. Plus, have you ever been a 'Pick Me Girl'? Most of us have, at one point or another. We break down exactly what this is, and Em tells us the story of one of her worst dates on Dating Diary, which ended in a very long rejection text. The End Bits  Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever experienced something so cringy that you still lie awake at night thinking about it? Come on, we all have. Em and Lucy spill their stories so we can all feel the shame together. Plus, we discuss whether you can still consume someone's art when they've been cancelled, and Mamamia's Jessie Stephens joins us for Dating Diary to tell us about the worst date of her life (and it's a shocker). The End Bits  Thanks to our guest Jessie Stephens, who you can listen to on Mamamia Out Loud and True Crime Conversations. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When Lucy posted a confession about someone 'settling' in their relationship on Instagram, she got tons of messages from people who related. We thought we'd unpack the concept of settling in a relationship, and in life. Lucy and Em also discuss the exclusion of diverse shades of foundation in Australia, and  for Dating Diary Lucy describes the one night stand that changed her standards forever. The End Bits  Click here to read Why is it still so hard for women of colour to find their foundation shade in Australia? by Erin Docherty Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There's only one thing we can think about recently, and it's the treatment of the Biloela family by our government. Emily opens up about how we can help. Plus, we break down exactly how to cancel plans properly, and Lucy tells a dating diary story that is too outrageous to include details here... The End Bits  Click here to sign the change.org petition Bring Priya and her beautiful family back home to Biloela, Queensland You can read Emily's article here: "The Biloela family have been made an example of for 3 years. And they look like my own." Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Lucy and Em discuss everything from Instagram's decision to bring back 'like' counts, to whether you can truly balance a career AND a relationship. We're also joined by comedian Becky Lucas for Dating Diary, and she fills us in on her woeful sex education, plus Emily and Lucy tell some truly embarrassing 'first time' stories. The End Bits Thank you to our guest Becky Lucas. You can get her book Acknowledgments: Stories of Friends, Enemies and Figuring Things Out here. Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to The Undone! A podcast for people navigating their 20's without a GPS. Last week Emily revealed she had never got a pap smear, even though she'd just turned 25, so we decided to get a real doctor in to bust some myths. Dr Ginni Mansberg is a GP with a passion for women's health, and you won't believe the what we learn from her. Also, we discuss Naomi Osaka's brave decision to forgo post match interviews for her own mental health, and Lucy tells a truly horrendous Dating Diary story that ends with the advice, "don't drive your booty call home". The End Bits Thank you to our guest Dr Ginni Mansberg. Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last week on The Undone we discussed being 'cheugy', and we think we've found the male equivalent: 'the ick'. It's the feeling you get when a guy does something that makes you less attracted to him, and we have a few (ok, many) examples. We are also joined by host of The Spill Laura Brodnik to chat about the highs and lows, but mostly highs, of being a woman who lives alone. Plus, Em opens up about the loneliness she often feels on her birthday and why everyone should take themselves away for a birthday alone at some point. The End Bits You can read Laura's articles “Every person who lives alone has the same embarrassing fear.” and "I heard a strange scratching at my door": The unspoken fear some women feel living alone. Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chances are you've heard of So Dramatic, the reality TV podcast that creates as much news as it breaks. We're so excited to have host Megan Pustetto join us to spill the tea on having the most notorious podcast in the country, including the wildest tip off she's ever received, her diagnosis of PTSD from being trolled, and how she deals with a DM folder fills with thousands of messages. Plus, Emily and Lucy discuss why being called 'cheugy' is making millennials SO mad. The End Bits Thank you so much to our guest Megan Pustetto. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you on the 'edge of burnout'? Lucy feels like she is and has bought an old alarm clock to try and beat it. Plus, we have a listener dilemma about the pros and cons of moving out with friends, and we discuss red flags; the ones we can laugh at and the ones that are more insidious. The End Bits You can read Mamamia's article on financial abuse here: Do any of these apply to you? The warning signs of financial abuse. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected] CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to [email protected]  This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.