The Upgrade Edit

Many women assume a lack of desire is a hormone problem.But what if it's actually a reflection of chronic stress, self-abandonment, nervous system dysregulation and a life that no longer feels nourishing to your soul?As an energetic healer, embodiment coach and somatic practitioner, I've noticed a common thread amongst women who feel disconnected from their sexuality. More often than not, they're not disconnected from sex. They're disconnected from themselves.Their joy.Their creativity.Their pleasure.Their playfulness.Their truth.In this episode, we're diving into the connection between the sacral chakra, nervous system regulation, self-abandonment and desire. We'll explore why so many women struggle to access pleasure when they're living in survival mode, constantly over-giving, people-pleasing or abandoning their own needs.We'll also unpack why desire isn't something you force, but something that naturally emerges when the conditions are right.Inside this episode we explore:• The sacral chakra and its connection to pleasure, sensuality, creativity and receiving• Common signs your sacral energy may be depleted or blocked• Why self-abandonment slowly disconnects women from desire• The nervous system's role in pleasure, intimacy and sexual expression• How chronic stress impacts your capacity to receive and feel• The link between integrity, self-trust and feminine magnetism• Why your partner can't give you what you're unwilling to give yourself• Practical ways to reconnect with pleasure, play, creativity and your life force energyIf you've been telling yourself that you have a low libido, this episode invites you to ask a different question:What if your body isn't broken?What if it's simply asking for more truth, more pleasure and more of you?Because sometimes the path back to desire isn't found in the bedroom.It's found in the way you live your life.Connect with Davina:Instagram: @davvyxxWebsite: www.theupgradebydavina.comIf this episode resonated with you, share it with a woman who needs this reminder and tag me on Instagram so I can hear your biggest takeaway.With love,Davina x

Why is it that some of the most intelligent, successful, self-aware women can find themselves completely distracted by a man?Why do we suddenly start checking our phones more often, replaying conversations in our heads, neglecting our routines, and feeling emotionally impacted by someone we've only known for a matter of weeks?In this episode of The Upgrade Edit, I'm diving into the fascinating neuroscience behind attraction, attachment, and self-abandonment.After spending almost three years celibate, I experienced some of the biggest growth of my life. My business expanded, my confidence deepened, my connection to myself strengthened, and I built a life that felt rich, purposeful, and aligned.Now that I'm dating again, I've found myself reflecting on a powerful question:Why do so many women lose themselves in love?Together, we'll explore the role dopamine plays in attraction, why your brain can mistake chemistry for compatibility, how attachment patterns influence dating behaviours, and why your nervous system is often seeking familiarity rather than what's actually best for you.This isn't an episode about becoming independent or avoiding relationships.It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself whilst allowing love into your life.Because the goal isn't to stop loving others.The goal is to stop abandoning yourself in the process.In this episode, we explore:• Why early-stage attraction can feel addictive• The role dopamine plays in dating and relationships• Why your brain is wired to seek connection• How attachment styles shape romantic patterns• The difference between chemistry and compatibility• Why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar• How women are conditioned to prioritise others over themselves• The subtle signs of self-abandonment in dating• What three years of celibacy taught me about self-worth, purpose, and fulfilment• How to remain grounded, embodied, and connected to yourself whilst datingReflection Questions• What happens to my energy when I start dating someone?• What parts of myself tend to shrink when romantic feelings grow?• Am I seeking connection, or am I seeking validation?• What practices help me stay anchored in myself?• Am I building a life that feels exciting outside of a relationship?Connect With DavinaFollow along on Instagram: @davvyxxExplore retreats, coaching, embodiment work, and upcoming events via the links in my bio.If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend or post it to your stories and tag me. Every share helps this message reach more women who are ready to stop chasing love and start coming home to themselves.Because the healthiest relationships aren't built by two people looking to be completed.They're built by two whole people who choose to walk alongside one another. ❤️‍🔥

We spend so much of our lives looking ahead.Manifesting the relationship.Manifesting the milestone.Manifesting the next chapter.Always reaching for what's next, believing that's where happiness, fulfillment, and abundance live.But what if we're so focused on what's missing that we're overlooking the beauty of what's already ours?In this episode, I share the unexpected lessons that came through during a beautiful weekend away with my daughter, Mila. A weekend that reminded me to slow down, be present, and fully receive the life that's already unfolding in front of me.We explore the kind of love that isn't often celebrated, the magic hidden within ordinary moments, and how constantly chasing more can sometimes disconnect us from the abundance that's already here.I also share the beautiful download I received for my newest passion project, The Village | Mama & Child Connection Retreats — a heart-led offering inspired by the connection, presence, play, and community that Mila and I experienced together.This conversation is an invitation to soften, slow down, and remember that perhaps the life you've been longing for is already here, waiting for you to notice it.Follow along:Instagram: @davvyxxInstagram: @thevillageconnectionretreats

In this Manifestation Special episode, Davina dives deep into the emotional and energetic side of manifestation and the “secret weapon” most people completely overlook when trying to call in more love, money, success, opportunities, confidence, and aligned relationships.This episode explores how your nervous system, emotional state, thoughts, and energetic patterns shape the reality you continue to experience and why manifestation is about so much more than vision boards and positive thinking.Inside this conversation, Davina shares:• Why your emotions are actually a built in alignment GPS• How your emotional state impacts what you attract into your life• The connection between embodiment, nervous system safety, and manifestation• Why your body must feel safe to receive the things you desire• How your thoughts and attention influence your energetic reality• The difference between manifesting from alignment vs anxiety• Why “the better it gets, the better it gets”• The role of self awareness in shifting emotional and energetic patterns• How to begin creating new neural pathways through intentional focus and embodied awareness• Why pleasure, aliveness, and emotional honesty matter in manifestation workThis is a grounded, candid, and deeply expansive conversation for anyone wanting to better understand the relationship between their inner world and the reality they are creating around them.If you’ve been feeling stuck in cycles of stress, fear, overthinking, or emotional overwhelm while trying to “manifest” a different life… this episode will completely shift the way you view the process.Instagram: @davvyxx