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Send me a message or any questions!You can plan the most personal ceremony in the world and still get tripped up by one simple question: when should we book the officiant? I’m Amanda, and I’m answering the real FAQs I hear from couples all the time, including the ones people forget to ask until they’re already stressed. If you’re planning a wedding in a busy season or a competitive market, this conversation will help you build a timeline that leaves you choices instead of leftovers.We talk through why a consult call matters even if you think you already know what you want. I share what I’m listening for on that first conversation, how to show up “50% prepared” when you’re still figuring out your style, and how ceremony length affects everything from pricing to pacing. We also get practical about writing your own vows, different ways to deliver them, and how to find a format that feels like both of you instead of a performance.Then we get into the legal essentials: marriage license basics, authorization rules, witnesses (sometimes), and the key lines that turn a wedding into a legal marriage. From there, we cover rehearsal options (Zoom, in-person, and what you can skip), what happens when something goes wrong on the day, and whether officiants usually stay for the reception. If you want a ceremony that feels human, calm, and unmistakably yours, this is your roadmap. Subscribe, share this with a newly engaged friend, and leave a review with the biggest question you want me to answer next.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Most couples think hiring a wedding officiant is simple: send a message, sign a contract, done. The truth is the process matters, and when you understand it, you avoid date confusion, last-minute stress, and that uneasy feeling of not knowing what you’re paying for.I’m Amanda, and I’m pulling back the curtain on how working with me actually flows from start to finish. We start with the inquiry and the few details that instantly change everything: your wedding date, ceremony start time, location, and how flexible you are. I explain why those basics help me confirm availability, estimate travel, and even suggest a better-fit officiant if I’m already booked. You’ll also hear how my officiant network works and why personality, ceremony style, and even scheduling preferences can shape who’s best for your day.From there, I walk through the complimentary consult call and the exact questions I ask to build a ceremony that sounds like you. We talk vows, readings, unity rituals, ceremony length, tone, and the marriage license. I also share why “we don’t need a consult call” can be a red flag and how a clear process protects you from scams and misunderstandings. Then we get into the quote, what a soft hold really means, how booking is finalized with a deposit and plain-English e-contract, and why communication naturally goes quiet until the two-month mark when we lock in the script, rehearsal plan, timeline, and license steps.If you’re planning a 2026 wedding or beyond, this is your roadmap for vendor communication, wedding planning logistics, and a smooth ceremony experience. Subscribe for more wedding stories and planning clarity, share this with a recently engaged friend, and leave a review so more couples can find the show.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!A wedding can be a life-changing promise without being a legal contract, and that difference matters less to love than most people think. I’m Amanda, an officiant for 12 years, and I’m pulling back the curtain on commitment ceremonies: the weddings that look and feel like a traditional wedding day, complete with vows, rings, guests, and celebration, but skip the marriage license and the state paperwork.We dig into the real reasons couples choose a non-legal wedding or commitment ceremony, from student loan debt and medical bills to alimony clauses, custody concerns, health insurance costs, VA or disability benefits, and the tax surprises that come with “filing jointly.” I also talk about later-in-life partners who have done the legal part before and want to protect assets, while still choosing each other fully. The throughline is simple: skipping legal marriage is not anti-love. It’s intentional love.Then we get practical. I explain what I can and cannot say as your wedding officiant when there is no license, why language like “union” and “partner” can matter, and how common law marriage rules vary by state. We also tackle the big etiquette question: do you have to tell your guests it’s not legal? Finally, I share planning tips for booking vendors, deciding how public you want to be, and designing a ceremony that reflects your story without over-explaining it.If this sparks questions or sounds like your path, listen now, then subscribe, share with a friend who’s wedding planning, and leave a review so more couples can find these options.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Coming back after a break feels weirdly like walking into school mid-year. You’re excited, you’re rusty, and you’re not totally sure where your rhythm went. That’s where I’m at right now, stepping back into podcasting while stepping into a packed wedding season as an officiant in Northeast Pennsylvania, with maternity leave planning in the background and a calendar that suddenly has zero empty space. I share what “wedding season” really looks like from the vendor side, including why fall is the true peak here, why spring is a close second, and why July weddings often get skipped. We talk about the whiplash between the slow season and the moment wedding expos hit, when consult calls and last-minute elopement requests stack up fast. If you’re planning a ceremony, work in events, or you’re just curious about the behind-the-scenes pace, this is a real look at how quickly the workload ramps. Then we get practical: how I balance quick sign-and-go paperwork ceremonies with longer, more personal wedding ceremonies that need real lead time. I walk through the systems that keep me sane, like a heavily labeled Google Calendar, task timelines for script writing and reminders, and tools like Motion AI to prioritize what actually needs doing first. I also talk about learning to say no, building recovery time, and leaning on a trusted referral network so couples still get someone who can show up fully present. If you’re in your own restart season, I hope this gives you momentum and a little calm. Subscribe to The Wedding Where, share the show with a friend who loves weddings, and leave a review so more listeners can find the stories and the planning advice.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!A fever, a delayed start, and a flying pair of slippers push Amanda to the edge, then sharpen her standards. We share the red flags, the chaos, and the exact boundaries that turned a near-quit into better work and clearer contracts.• the difference between normal stress and cruelty• early red flags and why cancellations matter• rehearsal missteps and payment/license issues• timeline collapse and ceremony tech gaps• the slippers incident as a boundary line• compressing a 30-minute script to 10• vendor coordination, meals, and respect• contracts, clauses, and clear scope of work• office hours, arrival windows, and audio requirements• lessons for couples and vendors to protect the dayIf you haven't already, please subscribe, like, comment, and share to help us reach even more listeners who might laugh a little at the wedding wearFor the links referenced in the show, visit Linktree at OfficiatingByAmandaIf you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast, just send an email to theweddingwear podcast at gmail.comIf you're ready to inquire about officiating services for your own big day, you can reach me at officiatingbyamanda at gmail.comSupport the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!The love story you rarely see on TV is often the one that endures: two people who build a life first, then choose the moment that truly fits to say I do. We open up about couples who didn’t rush—some waited through degrees and residencies, some raised kids and paid mortgages, and others navigated health realities and insurance choices before making it legal. Along the way, we unpack how pop culture’s whirlwind romances can distort expectations, and why the slower path can be just as passionate, more grounded, and often more joyful.I share favorite ceremonies that prove time is a powerful witness. You’ll meet second-grade sweethearts who honored a playground promise as adults, a pair who turned twenty years of “someday” into a celebration of everything they’d already built, and college friends who reconnected after other marriages and timed their wedding to gather kids, aging parents, and even early grandkids in one room. We also talk candidly about COVID’s hard lessons: in states without common law protections, legal marriage can unlock hospital access and decision-making rights when it matters most.If you’re feeling pressure to follow someone else’s timeline, breathe. There’s no deadline on commitment, and no single script for a meaningful ceremony. Long-term couples bring humor, calm, and deep knowing to their vows—not as a beginning, but as a continuation. Whether you’re newly smitten or decades in, you get to choose the moment that makes sense for your life, your family, and your values. If this resonates, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs permission to wait, and leave a review with your own slow-burn love story—we might feature it next.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!A year ago I hit record with one simple goal: save the wedding stories I’d been telling in kitchens, cars, and green rooms for years. Twelve months later, we’re celebrating a wild first season filled with real ceremony chaos, heartfelt wins, and the kind of lessons only learned when microphones, timelines, and emotions meet. This anniversary special blends gratitude with good data, spotlighting the moments you loved most and the surprises I never saw coming.We walk through the numbers that actually matter: 1,313 plays, a catalog that stretched from regular episodes to a vow mini‑series, and streams from 19 countries with unexpected momentum in Japan and the Netherlands. I revisit the gateway episodes—yes, the infamous prison bra story—and unpack why listeners keep returning to candid takes on timelines, vendor boundaries, and designing ceremonies that feel like you rather than a Pinterest board. Along the way, I recap standout interviews: a first bride’s behind‑the‑scenes honesty, an officiant’s hard‑won pet peeves, a photographer’s art-versus-wrangling balancing act, and a counselor’s pre‑“I do” checklist that saves couples stress.Then we look ahead. Season two keeps the heart and raises the bar with more reaction episodes, smarter planning insights, and fresh guest voices from across the wedding ecosystem. I share realistic scheduling gaps, why the show’s name leaves room for guest hosts, and tease new stories like forgetting to write the script, doing a ceremony backwards, and the clause you inspired in my contract. If you’re a vendor, a past couple, or someone with a wedding tale that deserves the mic, consider this your open invite to join the conversation.If these honest, unvarnished wedding stories make you laugh, nod, or rethink your plan, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review. Your support helps more people find the real side of weddings—and gives us more reasons to keep telling these stories.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Waterfall ceremonies surged for us this year, from hidden Poconos drops to popular park spillways, and each one taught us how to balance beauty with access, rules, and sound. We share real venues, what worked, what failed, and the simple choices that keep vows audible and guests safe.• why spring flow and fall color create different risks and rewards• managing sound near loud water without overpacking tech• permit rules, deposits, and venues that ban weddings• accessibility, footwear, and realistic guest planning• when to step back for vows and move close for photos• lessons from Marshall’s Falls, Illick’s Mill, Nolde Forest, Hawk Falls, Dry Run Falls, Sweet Arrow Lake• backup plans for no cell service and limited parking• nearby dream locations to consider across the region• concise ceremony pacing to respect public spacesIf you haven't already, please subscribe, like, comment, and share to help us reach even more listeners who might laugh a little at the wedding wearFor the links referenced in the show, visit Linktree at OfficiatingByamandaIf you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast, just send an email to theweddingwear podcast at gmail.comIf you're ready to inquire about officiating services for your own big day, you can reach me at officiatingbyamanda at gmail.comSupport the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!A creekside ceremony. A missing bartender. A bar cart staffed by two kind owners who had never poured a drink. I walked into a spiraling setup and turned it around with calm, clarity, and a stripped-down playbook that kept the couple smiling and the guests safe.Welcome back for 2026 - a candid reset for the new year and a reminder of our no-judgment ethos. Then the story takes off: a Facebook Marketplace bar cart changes hands, the promised mentor vanishes, and cocktail hour looms. With the venue coordinator juggling fires, we jump in, cut the chaos, and teach a crash course in service basics—ice-first, portion control, and a radically simple menu. One person batches the signature cocktail, another handles two-ingredient orders, and we set up visual guides to prevent over-pours and mystery mixes. The result: steadier lines, fewer mistakes, and a couple blissfully unaware that anything had gone sideways.Beyond the drama, we dig into the practical playbook couples actually need. Learn how to vet vendors when a deal looks too good to be true, what to ask if a contract transfers to new owners, and why preferred vendor lists are about reliability, not kickbacks. We share checklists for bar service that work under pressure—short posted menus, cold mixers, batching the signature, clear roles—and talk about building teams who default to solutions. Experience costs a bit more, but it buys calm, speed, and fewer surprises when the room gets loud and the timeline tightens.If you’re planning a wedding, you’ll walk away with real questions to ask, red flags to avoid, and smart safeguards that turn potential chaos into smooth celebration. Subscribe, share with a friend who’s planning, and leave a review with your best “you’re not going to believe this” wedding story—we might feature it next.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Numbers don’t tell the whole story, but they make a great map. We just wrapped a year that stretched every muscle: 84 weddings booked from 98 quotes, 13,587 miles on the road, and a growing network of trusted officiants to keep quality high without burning out. What made it meaningful wasn’t the scale alone—it was the shift in how couples are designing ceremonies that feel like them, not just tradition on autopilot.Across Pennsylvania, we saw fall fully eclipse summer as the new prime season, with September and October turning into joyful marathons. Couples experimented with structure: fewer formal bridal parties, clearer unplugged guidelines that guests actually respected, and rehearsals replaced by focused Zoom run-throughs. Vow volleys emerged as a favorite for personal promises without stage fright, while unity ceremonies leveled up—from warming hands over hot coffee on a freezing day to crystal blends, family paintings, a 3D-printed heart, and yes, an unforgettable sword exchange. The classics stayed strong, with handfasting leading the pack for depth and symbolism.We share demographics that help shape tone and pacing, from first-time vows at 64 to blended families crafting rituals that include kids. We also dig into what makes venues a joy to return to—tight teams, clear timelines, and spaces that match a couple’s vision. Pricing and packages evolved to reflect that care: the most popular option balanced travel, custom scripting, and space for unity rituals without rushing the moment.If you’re planning for 2026, this is your field guide: what trends actually worked, which logistics saved the day, and how to design a ceremony that’s honest, warm, and fully yours. Subscribe, share with a friend who’s planning, and leave a review to tell us your favorite unity idea or vow style—what should lead the way next year?Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!We bring back Jocelyn of Danny Mae Photography for a candid look at vendor chemistry, safety, pricing realities, and the art of keeping a wedding day calm. From an out-of-control bridesmaid to Pinterest expectations, we break down boundaries that protect joy and great photos.• setting harassment and safety clauses to protect vendors and couples• booking timelines, hot dates, and when to reserve early• what you actually pay for in photography rates• handling timeline shifts and family wrangling with calm leadership• translating Pinterest boards into your real style and venue• why vendor collaboration beats competition• how to choose vendors you genuinely vibe with• unspoken extras vendors do to keep the day smooth• when to say no and preserve safety and qualityFollow Danie Mae Photographer at https://www.facebook.com/dmaephotographyPlease subscribe, like, comment, and share to help us reach even more listeners who might laugh a little at the wedding wearSupport the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!The best wedding photos don’t happen by accident—they come from preparation, clear boundaries, and a team that reads the room. We sat down with Jocelyn of Danny May Photography to trace her journey from high school photo staff to 30+ weddings a year, including the hard reset that forced her to sell gear, rebuild, and go fully legit with an LLC, insurance, and sustainable pricing. Along the way, a supportive partner learned to second shoot, a local media editor amplified her work, and a studio inside the historic Yuengling Mansion gave her a creative home grounded in preservation.We dig into the shots that truly hold a day together: intentional detail images and thoughtful lay flats that honor the hours couples spend choosing rings, invites, heirlooms, shoes, and florals. Jocelyn explains why some trends sing and others fall flat—especially fully blurred frames that hide the memory instead of elevating it. She shares the reception calculus most couples miss: after toasts, cake, and special dances, galleries often get repetitive, so decide day-of whether extra hours are worth it. And yes, we wade into the bouquet and garter toss debate with real-world stories where age gaps, crowd energy, and tone turned fun into cringe—or pure comedy gold.This conversation doubles as a field guide for new photographers and engaged couples. You’ll hear why ethical portfolio building matters (no stock or borrowed images), how to set up a foolproof backup plan with multiple camera bodies, and simple prep lists that prevent last-minute scrambles. We also talk about phone-free aisles, aisle blockers, and how families can support the vision without hijacking timelines—especially at golden hour when the light won’t wait.If you’re planning a wedding or building a creative business, you’ll walk away with clear, practical takeaways: protect your time, communicate your boundaries, and invest in vendors who are as prepared as they are kind.Follow Jocelyn on Facebook at Danie Mae Photography LLC or catch her around Schuylkill County capturing all of the best moments as a 'lifetime' photographer! Enjoyed the episode? Follow, share with a friend who’s planning, and leave a quick review to help others find the show.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Weather doesn’t ask permission to crash a wedding, and that’s exactly why we’re talking about it. From a four-degree ceremony on Mount Penn to a triple-digit barn field with no shade, I’m sharing the real stories and the hard-won strategies that keep ceremonies meaningful without risking your health. If you’ve ever wondered how pros decide when to shorten vows, skip a unity ritual, or move locations on the fly, you’ll learn the cues I use, the policies I’ve added, and the gear that saves the day when the forecast goes sideways.I walk through the moment I slashed a ten-minute script to four as wind chill dove below zero, and how that day reshaped my contracts with a winter weather fee and a safety-first right to speed things up. On the other extreme, we break down heat management for outdoor weddings: shade priorities, hydration plans, attire choices that won’t knock the groom flat, and my subtle “wind it up” signal that lands a ceremony within three minutes without feeling rushed. We also get honest about wind and rain—their photo magic and their logistical chaos—and what actually works when pages fly, veils lift, and lawns turn to soup.You’ll leave with a practical weather ladder: Plan A for ideal, Plan B for rain, Plan C for extremes. We cover blankets, parasols, clear umbrellas, indoor backups, timeline buffers for icy roads, and when to cut to the legal essentials so your people stay safe. Plus, a preview of our upcoming guest, Jocelyn from Danny May Photography, and a quick look at holiday bookings and our year-in-review milestones. If you’re planning an outdoor ceremony or you work weddings, this is a must-listen guide to weatherproofing your “I do” without losing the magic.If you enjoyed this, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review to help more couples plan smarter. Got a wild weather story or a question you want answered next? Send it our way—we’d love to feature it.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!A wedding can hold more than one truth at once. We walk through a ceremony where grief didn’t just peek in—it shaped the room. From an opening moment of silence and an in‑memory candle to vows that named loss and a unity ritual layered with tokens for loved ones, the choices were heartfelt yet heavy, and the energy turned somber. That experience raises a vital question for any couple: how do you honor those you miss without letting sorrow overshadow the day you’re building together?I unpack the emotional physics of ceremonies that try to give love and loss equal airtime, and why that balance often tilts toward grief. You’ll hear practical, compassionate options for remembrance that keep joy central: a reserved chair with a flower, a short and purposeful silence, a line of scripture or a poem chosen for hope, quiet keepsakes sewn into outfits or tucked into bouquets, and subtle unity add‑ins that nod to memory without turning the ritual into a eulogy. We also talk about recency of loss, who was lost, and how language can lift a room—because a single sentence can change the arc from mourning to celebration.Threaded through are personal stories from ceremonies I’ve officiated, including times couples asked for no mention at all and why that boundary is valid. The guiding principle is simple: your loved ones would never want your wedding to become a memorial service. The truest tribute is a day that honors their impact while letting laughter, vows, and dancing lead the way. Listen for ideas you can adapt to your own style, and share the tributes that moved you most—I’m collecting thoughtful ways to help future couples find their balance.Enjoyed this conversation? Subscribe, rate, and share with someone planning a wedding. Your reviews help more couples find guidance they can trust.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!We share the story of a couple who wanted a full wedding while telling most vendors it was a “family brunch,” and how that choice created confusion, stress, and last-minute improvising. Practical advice follows on budgeting ethically, setting priorities, and being transparent so vendors can deliver.• why mislabeling events breaks logistics and trust• how wedding pricing reflects staffing, risk, and prep• simple swaps to cut costs without cutting joy• when to choose micro weddings, elopements, or off-peak dates• the value of a coordinator and clear timelines• contract updates to protect against scope creep• honesty with vendors as the easiest savings• setting priorities to align vision and budgetIf you haven't already, please subscribe, like, comment, and share to help us reach even more listeners who might laugh a little at the wedding wearFor the links referenced in the show, visit Linktree at OfficiatingBy AmandaYou can also follow the business on Facebook, Weddingwire, and then not to stay up to date on everything going onIf you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast, just send an email to the WeddingWare Podcast at gmail.comAnd if you're ready to inquire about officiating services for your own big day, you can reach me at officiatingbyamanda at gmail.comSupport the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!One breathtaking candlelit aisle almost turned into a crisis, and that single moment changed how we think about ceremony safety without sacrificing style. We walk through the real story behind a near-miss with a billowy dress and open flames, then unpack the quiet hazards many couples overlook: narrow aisles, wind-tossed veils, slick runners, uneven pavers, and those picture-perfect docks that flex under a full wedding party.From there, we get practical. We share simple swaps and smart adjustments that keep the romance intact: LED pillars that still glow warmly, wider aisle design for layered gowns, enclosed hurricanes for any must-have flames, and camera tricks that deliver the “Pinterest look” with zero burn risk. We talk waterfront ceremonies and how to plan weight limits, positions, and movement so the kiss looks cinematic instead of chaotic. We round out the checklist with footwear tactics for bridesmaids and grooms, rehearsal walk-throughs with the actual shoes and dress, and veil strategies when wind threatens the arch.As an officiant who’s seen more than 200 ceremonies, I also reveal my quiet contingency playbook: how I scan for hazards, assign quick helpers, and keep a cool tone if something snags so the moment stays joyful. The theme isn’t to say no to beauty—it’s to design beauty that loves you back. If you’re planning a ceremony with candles, waterfront views, or complex terrain, this conversation gives you the playbook to get the shot and protect your people. Subscribe for more real stories, smart fixes, and behind-the-aisle wisdom—and tell us: what’s your non-negotiable safety tweak?Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!A thousand listens later, we’re clinking an imaginary glass and sharing the real secret that makes a ceremony feel like yours: a thoughtful consult call. Before timelines tighten and group chats explode, that first conversation gives us a clear read on your voice, your values, and how you want to feel standing there. We walk through the questions that matter—how long you want to be up front, whether you want vows out loud or private, how to handle unity rituals, and what “no religion” or “please skip objections” actually looks like in practice.You’ll hear how we translate “short and sweet” into minutes and moments, not clichés. We talk through venue realities like microphones versus waterfalls, keeping grandparents in the loop, and crafting a plan B that protects your words if weather flips. Family dynamics get care too: kids with rings, blended parents, honoring loved ones who’ve passed, and avoiding assumptions that can bruise feelings. Along the way, we show how hobbies, inside jokes, and favorite shows can slip into the script without turning the ceremony into a skit—subtle lines that make guests think, this is so them.We also open the books on how quotes are built—length, customization, unity elements, rehearsal needs, travel—and why clarity now beats confusion later. Then a little party favor: our end‑of‑year bonus wheel for couples who complete a consult between Thanksgiving and New Year, with perks like 25% off, an included unity ceremony, two hours of vow help, or rehearsal support, plus a small extra for anyone who mentions the podcast. If you’re getting married in Pennsylvania, New York, or New Jersey—or you’re ready to fly me somewhere meaningful—let’s talk.Enjoyed the episode? Follow, rate, and share with a couple who wants a ceremony that feels personal, calm, and true to their story. Subscribe for more behind‑the‑mic insights, and tell us: what element would you add to your dream ceremony?Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Love feels invincible at the altar, but real life has a way of testing vows. After officiating around 250 weddings over more than a decade, I’ve seen both the glow and the grit—how small patterns at a rehearsal can foreshadow big challenges, and how couples you’d bet on sometimes unravel while others quietly grow stronger. Today I get candid about divorce, the 48‑hour marriage that stunned me, and why choosing each other is still the bravest move we make.We unpack what actually shifts after the party ends: expectations, family pressure, money, moving, and the everyday frictions that add up. I walk through the nuts and bolts of marriage licenses and timing—when a marriage is legally recognized and what happens if doubts rise after the papers are mailed. We also step inside a world most people never see: prison weddings. The constraints are real, the strain is intense, and yet tenderness and hope still show up under strict rules and fluorescent lights. It’s a human reminder that connection matters, even when the odds are rough.I share fresh stats from recent ceremonies—how many were first marriages, how many couples brought prior marriages into the room—and why second, third, or fifth chances aren’t failures but evidence of growth. Through it all, one theme stays steady: marriage works when both partners keep fueling the fire with care, repair, and honest talk. If you’re curious about red flags, resilience, second chances, or the legal side of “I do,” this one will meet you where you are.If the conversation resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and share it with someone who loves love but wants the truth about what keeps it alive. Your stories and questions guide future episodes, so send them our way and let’s keep learning together.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!We share the untold realities of backup officiating, from inclusive ceremonies to last‑minute saves that keep couples on track to say “I do.” The throughline is simple: presence beats perfection, and a real backup plan protects the day.• why vendors need clear contingency plans• inclusive officiating when paperwork lags identity• handling illness, emergencies and no‑shows• COVID‑era safety choices and policies• stepping in with hours’ notice and staying calm• doing the extras that ease stress on the day• building and using a trusted officiant network• questions couples should ask every vendorIf you haven’t already, please subscribe, like, comment, and share to help us reach even more listeners who might laugh a little at the wedding wearFor the links referenced in the show, visit Linktree at officiating by AmandaIf you have a question you’d like me to answer on the podcast, just send an email to the WeddingWare Podcast at gmail.comIf you’re ready to inquire about officiating services for your own big day, you can reach me at officiatingbyamanda at gmail.comSupport the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!What if the best way to plan a meaningful wedding is to slow it down, laugh on purpose, and design rituals people can feel? That’s the heart of Emily and Bobby’s story: a small, dog-forward elopement followed by a family-packed “sequel” ceremony with a five-cord handfasting that brought parents and godparents into the center of the moment.We talk through the craft of vows that actually land—how a single well-timed joke can center a nervous partner, and how to rewrite promises for different audiences without losing the soul of your words. You’ll hear how a custom father–daughter song, “Heart to Heart,” came from one simple line in sample vows and turned into a memory everyone still talks about. We also dig into practical wins: a weather pivot that moved everything indoors in minutes, breakfast-for-dinner catering kids loved, and a guest-photo system that guaranteed every family left with a portrait. If you’ve ever left a wedding wishing you had one picture with the couple, you’ll want to borrow this playbook.Personal details make the day feel like you. Fandom silhouettes replaced table numbers, vintage frames kept it classic, and a teacup escort display doubled as a take-home favor guests still display. Emily’s handmade hair combs and tie clips became family heirlooms, and a table of home keepsakes—ticket stubs, mini-golf pencils, early love notes—showed a relationship’s timeline better than any speech. We don’t shy away from misses either: forgetting a memorial display, and how to prevent that with a “memory captain” and a quick officiant cue.Along the way, we share advice worth saving: laugh more, especially when things get weird, and start couples therapy before a crisis. A neutral guide helps you sort money, family roles, fertility, adoption, or elder care so you can keep space for joy. Subscribe for more candid stories, practical planning tactics, and ceremony ideas that turn a busy day into a memory that sticks. If something here helped, share it with a friend and leave a review—what detail will you borrow for your big day?Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!The best wedding stories aren’t polished—they’re true. Emily and Bobby take us from OKCupid chaos to a tractor-stalled first date, then straight into two ceremonies that honored both practicality and heart: a tiny elopement with dogs and koi pond serenity, followed by a vintage garden party built on lawn games, Peaky Blinders flair, and a soundtrack curated with zero compromises.We dig into the choices that actually reduce stress: separating the legal moment from the big celebration, creating a guest-list matrix so invites feel fair, and naming must-haves early so everything else can flex. You’ll hear how they wove history-loving aesthetics with subtle fandom nods, why they swapped the cake for pies, cannoli, and chocolate-dipped cupcakes, and how rain forced a full layout flip in minutes—without derailing the joy. Their stance on music is a masterclass in boundaries: no crowd-pleasers needed if they don’t fit your taste, because the day should sound like you.Along the way, they share the real support that made it work: how to make dogs work at an elopement, a groom hauling and building what mattered, and an officiant who welcomed a two-ceremony plan instead of policing it. If you’re wrestling with vendor fit, family politics, or theme overload, this conversation offers clear, lived-in strategies: test vendors when you can, keep instructions simple, and remember that the essentials are shockingly few—two people and the words that bind them.If this resonates, hit follow, share with a friend planning right now, and leave a quick review. It helps more couples find calm, make braver choices, and design days they’ll actually love living.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Ever wonder why we still say “tie the knot” and what it actually means? We pull the thread from ancient handfasting to today’s ceremonies and show how a simple cord can turn your vows into something tangible, visual, and deeply personal. From Celtic villages and seafaring towns to pagan blessings and churchyards, this ritual has traveled centuries because it adapts to the couple in front of it.I share how to place handfasting at the perfect moment in your ceremony to steady nerves and add focus, why an infinity knot photographs beautifully, and how the final pull symbolizes the effort it takes to make a marriage hold. We get specific about materials—satin cords, tartan, lace, braided ribbons, even rustic rope—and what to consider so the knot is secure, comfortable, and meaningful. Then we dig into color symbolism: red for passion and courage, blue for trust and calm, green for growth and renewal, gold for abundance and endurance, purple for creativity and depth, white and silver for clarity and new beginnings. Naming each color turns the ritual into a story your guests can instantly feel.You’ll also hear ways to involve family and friends: parents placing cords with a short blessing, kids picking colors, or guests adding supportive knots below the couple’s knot. We talk through themed twists, like anchoring a braid around a keepsake ring, and what to do with your cords afterward so they become a daily reminder rather than a forgotten prop. The takeaway is simple: love isn’t an accident; it’s a choice you make and remake, together, every time you pull on that knot.If this sparked ideas for your ceremony, follow along, subscribe, and share with someone planning their wedding. Got photos or questions about your own handfasting? Send them my way—I’d love to feature your knot and your story in a future episode.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!What if the most important choice you make for your wedding isn’t the venue or the vows, but who gets a seat in the room? We dig into the real work behind guest lists—why they’re emotional, political, and surprisingly revealing—and how to choose people who protect your peace rather than drain it. From intimate ceremonies where every guest was a friend to larger parties balanced around values, you’ll hear stories that challenge the default assumption that family automatically comes first.I share a simple “guest list math” that helps you evaluate invites with clarity: presence over time, reciprocity over obligation, and respect for your partner above all. We talk about money with strings attached and the conversations worth having before you accept help. We also get honest about hot-button timing—like weddings near elections—and how to handle strong opinions in mixed company without sacrificing the spirit of your day. These moments aren’t about being ruthless; they’re about being aligned.If you’re planning now, try a gut-check: who showed up for you, made you laugh through the chaos, and believed in your future together? Those are your people—whether you share a last name or not. You’ll come away with practical strategies, permission to choose peace, and the confidence to build a guest list that reflects who you are as a couple. If this episode resonates, tap follow, share it with someone wrestling their own list, and leave a review to help more couples find a path that fits them.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!A vow can land like a lightning bolt—simple words that suddenly feel heavier than the room they’re spoken in. Thank you for joining me back from my break - a whirlwind stretch of 29 fall weddings, a new nine-to-five, and a house move, I’m back with a new idea: officiant reacts. We unpack Frank and Monica Gallagher’s vow renewal on Shameless, and use their messy, memorable promises to explore why certain lines stick—and how you can shape vows that survive the noise of real life.I share what surprised me about their words, the tension between promise and action, and the quiet power of remembered vows. Then we get practical. You’ll hear how to anchor your vows in specific behaviors, how to avoid filler language without losing heart, and how to weave in family tie-ins—readings, heirloom details, meaningful music—that add depth without hijacking your ceremony. We also talk about the “priority gap” couples face after the confetti falls, plus simple ways to revisit and renew your promises so they keep working for you in year one, year ten, and beyond.Whether you’re writing vows from scratch, tailoring traditional lines, or simply curious about what makes a ceremony feel honest, this conversation is your guide. Stream it now, share your favorite vow line, and tell me which fictional weddings you want me to break down next. If this episode helped, subscribe, leave a review, and send it to someone crafting their ceremony today.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Love speaks in many languages, and personalized wedding vows might be the most beautiful dialect of all. As we wrap up our six-week exploration of wedding promises, this final episode celebrates the magic that happens when couples put their authentic selves into the words they'll exchange on their special day.What makes personalized vows so powerful? It's the way they capture the unique rhythm of your relationship. Like the yoga instructor who calculated she'd loved her partner for "5 million, 825 heartbeats" – transforming a simple measurement into a breathtaking testament to devotion. Or the bride who promised to "always fake enjoy listening to your country music, even when I only want to listen to Machine Gun Kelly." These authentic moments create ripples of recognition and joy throughout your ceremony that generic vows simply cannot match.Many couples worry their partner won't craft something meaningful or that public speaking anxiety might derail their special moment. As an experienced officiant, I've seen grooms surprise everyone (especially their brides) with unexpectedly heartfelt promises. And for those unexpected day-of challenges? The right officiant will ensure everything flows smoothly, whether someone loses their voice or needs a last-minute format change. Your vows should be as flexible as your relationship – able to bend without breaking, just like the promises you're making to each other.Ready to craft vows that truly reflect your unique love story? Listen for inspiring examples, practical advice, and the reassurance that your promises – whether funny, profound, or a bit of both – will become the emotional cornerstone of your ceremony and marriage. Subscribe to the WeddingWare podcast for more insights as we return to our regular format next week!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Searching for the perfect wedding vows that balance tradition with personality? Look no further than "vow volleys," this year's refreshing trend for couples who want custom vows without writing them separately.Vow volleys create a beautiful rhythm to your ceremony through alternating promises—you say something, your partner responds with their promise, and back and forth you go. This collaborative approach solves the common challenge of vow imbalance while letting both your personalities shine through. As a wedding officiant who's helped countless couples craft their perfect ceremony, I've seen firsthand how this format creates memorable moments that authentically capture relationships.The beauty of vow volleys lies in their versatility. You can start with traditional elements like promising faithfulness and support before transitioning into personalized pledges that reflect your unique bond. In this episode, my husband Nick joins me to demonstrate a real example from a recent ceremony, where promises range from the profound ("I will be faithful to you and give you all my heart") to the sweetly specific ("I promise to always make you heart pizzas that say I love you" and "I promise to always share the remote").Whether you're just starting to think about your ceremony or feeling stuck with traditional vow options, this episode offers practical inspiration for creating vows that feel authentic and balanced. Consider how vow volleys might work for your wedding, and tune in next week when I'll share some of the best lines from personal vows I've witnessed throughout my career as an officiant. Subscribe now and discover how your vows can become the most meaningful part of your wedding day!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Amanda explores repeat-after-me wedding vows as part of her six-week mini-series on vow options for couples planning their ceremonies. She provides practical advice for those who want meaningful vows without the pressure of memorization or writing completely custom promises.• Repeat-after-me vows are broken into small chunks by the officiant for easy repetition• These vows require minimal preparation while still feeling personal and meaningful• Amanda references the famous "Ross takes thee Rachel" Friends scene as a cautionary tale• Example vow shared: "I will love you as my husband/wife, as friend and mate"• The example acknowledges both joys and challenges of marriage through balanced language• Couples can adapt these vows into I-do's or personalize them further• Next episode will explore custom vow options and vow volleysSupport the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Amanda explores the art of "repeat after me" wedding vows in this episode of the Vow mini-series, offering practical guidance for creating simple yet meaningful promises that couples can easily repeat during their ceremony.• Part of a six-week deep dive into different wedding vow options• Explains how any traditional or custom vow can be adapted into a repeat-after-me format• Highlights the importance of clear pronunciation, slow speech, and simple word groupings• References the famous "Friends" episode where Ross mistakenly says Rachel's name• Provides a sample vow that can be broken into approximately 15 manageable couplets• Demonstrates how vows can be customized with personal references while maintaining simplicity• Advises against using lengthy, complex vows for the repeat-after-me formatKeep thinking of vows, and until next time, this has been Amanda.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Have you ever wondered about all the different ways to say "I do"? In this episode of the Vow mini-series on The Wedding Where, I'm exploring one of my favorite traditional vow formats—a comprehensive four-question approach that packs multiple commitments into one powerful moment.As a wedding officiant, I've seen firsthand how this particular vow structure resonates with couples who want something traditional but meaningful. The beauty of this format lies in its completeness: it combines promises of partnership ("taking each other as spouse and best friend"), commitment through life's ups and downs ("with all joys and sorrows, happiness and hardships"), mutual support ("cherishing and respecting... honoring dreams and goals"), and faithful love—all culminating in that simple yet profound "I do."What makes this episode especially insightful is the behind-the-scenes perspective on how these vows work in real ceremonies. Sometimes couples surprise me by wanting to affirm each question individually rather than waiting until the end, reaffirming their commitment multiple times. Other times, I've had to pivot when a groom expected to just say "I do" but was faced with "repeat after me" vows we had planned. The flexibility of this format allows for personalization too—whether adding fandom references for die-hard fans or acknowledging the witnesses present to create a sense of community support.Perhaps most powerful is the reminder that marriage isn't just about two people in isolation. As I share in this episode, "You might be two people falling in love, but you aren't the only two people in the world and you're not doing it a thousand percent and solely alone." Your vows are witnessed by the very community that will help sustain your marriage through challenges. Listen now to explore if this traditional-yet-comprehensive vow format might be perfect for your ceremony, and stay tuned for more vow options in the coming weeks!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!What exactly are you promising when you say "I do"? Wedding vows represent the heart of any marriage ceremony, yet many couples don't fully consider their options beyond tradition. In this first installment of our special mini-series on wedding vows, we explore question vows – those traditional promises where the officiant asks and the couple responds with "I do" or "I will." As a professional wedding officiant, I break down why these remain the most popular format and what makes them legally binding. We examine the classic promises: "for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health," exploring their timeless meaning while acknowledging how they've evolved.Did you know the phrase "to obey" has largely disappeared from modern ceremonies? I share how I've adapted traditional vows for today's couples, adding meaningful elements like "through laughter and tears" that acknowledge the importance of humor in marriage. For pop culture enthusiasts, I even offer Harry Potter-inspired alternatives like "until the very end, and always" – because vows should reflect who you truly are as a couple.Whether you're planning your own ceremony or simply fascinated by how wedding traditions evolve, this episode provides valuable insights into crafting promises that honor both tradition and personal values. Subscribe now for the full six-week series where we'll continue exploring different vow options to help make your ceremony uniquely meaningful.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Milestone moments deserve reflection! Having just completed my 200th wedding ceremony, I'm pulling back the curtain to share fascinating trends emerging in 2025. This mid-year review reveals how modern couples are reshaping wedding traditions while honoring meaningful commitments.The data tells an interesting story: today's brides average 30 years old while grooms trend slightly older at 32-33. Nearly a quarter of couples include at least one previously married partner, reflecting evolving attitudes toward second chances at love. But perhaps most surprising has been the surge in waterfall weddings, with six ceremonies taking place at these natural cathedrals already this year. These breathtaking backdrops require extra preparation but deliver unforgettable moments for everyone involved.Unity ceremonies continue evolving in fascinating ways. While hand fasting remains extraordinarily popular, I've witnessed truly innovative approaches including 3D-printed unity hearts, crystal sand ceremonies featuring meaningful minerals like rose quartz, and even my first lock-and-key unity where the couple literally locked their commitment and tossed away the keys. Equally exciting is the rise of "vow volleys" where couples alternate reading promises to each other—balancing heartfelt sentiments with humorous pledges while reducing the pressure of writing complete vows independently.The wedding journey continues to surprise and inspire me, whether officiating at a state correctional facility or helping a couple reorganize with just 24 hours' notice when their venue suddenly changed. After 5,000+ miles traveled serving couples across multiple states, I'm taking a brief summer respite to regroup while continuing to share wedding wisdom through upcoming mini-episodes featuring various vow samples. Connect with me at [email protected] to discuss your own special day or share your favorite unity ceremony ideas!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Ever wondered what surprises lurk beneath those winter wedding parkas? Let's wraps up the "We Listen and Don't Judge" series with a heartwarming tale of unexpected revelations and thoughtful timing. This episode features a seemingly straightforward winter elopement that took a surprising turn when the bride removed her heavy coat after the ceremony to reveal a beautiful baby bump. The quick-to-plan, private ceremony suddenly made perfect sense—the couple wanted to announce both their marriage and pregnancy to family during Christmas gatherings, presenting their loved ones with the complete picture rather than facing questions about timing.I reflect on how pregnancy often influences wedding plans, sharing stories of couples who reschedule ceremonies, plan strategic elopements, or even orchestrate surprise weddings at gender reveal parties to navigate family expectations. Remember -  "first babies come whenever, but second babies take nine months"!Have you experienced unexpected moments at weddings? Share your thoughts and subscribe to The Wedding Where with Officiating by Amanda for more heartwarming, sometimes surprising, and always authentic wedding stories!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Have you ever sat through a wedding speech so painfully long that it made you reconsider your own wedding plans? That's exactly what happened when I witnessed a father of the groom deliver what might be the most uncomfortable wedding toast I've ever experienced.The speech started with an ill-conceived toilet paper prop (yes, really) before launching into a methodical breakdown of all twelve points of the Boy Scout motto. For each attribute—trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent—he shared lengthy anecdotes about the groom. What could have been a touching five-minute speech ballooned into a fifteen-minute monologue that left guests squirming and groomsmen visibly embarrassed as they were repeatedly called out against their will. The experience was so impactful that I immediately went home and wrote "SPEECH TIME LIMITS" in bold Sharpie in my wedding planning binder.This episode explores the delicate art of wedding speeches and the boundaries you might want to consider for your own celebration. Should you set time limits? Preview speeches beforehand? Designate someone to intervene if things go off the rails? When you hand someone a microphone on your wedding day, there's always risk involved—even with the most reliable people. I share how I implemented two-minute limits for parent speeches at my own wedding and arranged signals with my DJ to politely cut off anyone who went overtime. Whether you're planning your wedding or have been asked to give a speech, this cautionary tale offers valuable perspective on keeping toasts meaningful without testing your guests' patience.Have you witnessed (or delivered) a wedding speech disaster? What would you have done in this situation? Share your stories and thoughts—we're listening, and maybe judging just a little.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Wedding traditions carry the weight of generations past, but do they still serve today's couples? That's the exciting journey we embark on in this episode of The Wedding Ware, where we explore how time-honored customs can be reimagined, refreshed, and sometimes respectfully retired.From the classic "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" to the father walking his daughter down the aisle, we dive into the origins of these traditions and how they've evolved. Did you know the practice of "giving away" the bride dates back to times when marriages were essentially property exchanges? Yet today's couples are transforming this moment into meaningful family involvement or even powerful "group giveaways" where the entire community affirms their support of the union. The beauty lies not in rigid adherence to tradition, but in how we can breathe new life into these rituals to reflect our values.Reception traditions receive equal attention as we discuss the fading popularity of bouquet and garter tosses, alternatives to traditional cake cutting (Twinkies, anyone?), and regional customs like dollar dances. The episode emphasizes that there are no mandatory components to your wedding day—not even religious elements like "dearly beloved" or Bible readings, though many couples include them to honor family traditions. Whether you're planning to have bridesmen, best women, grandparent flower people, or completely reimagined ceremonies, what matters most is that you're creating a day that feels authentically yours.Have you personalized a wedding tradition in a creative way? I'd love to hear your story! Share how you made these rituals your own, and you might even be invited on a future episode to inspire other couples looking to craft ceremonies that truly represent their unique relationships.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Amanda shares a unique wedding scenario where she conducted a non-legal commitment ceremony for a couple who were still married to other people. Let's explore the ethics and practicalities of commitment ceremonies versus legal marriages, unpacking various reasons couples might choose this path.• Couples requested a budget ceremony on the opposite side of Pennsylvania• They revealed they wanted a non-legal commitment ceremony via Zoom• Both individuals were still legally married to other people but in the divorce process• Amanda carefully explained the non-binding nature of the ceremony• Commitment ceremonies serve many purposes beyond cases like these• Financial considerations often drive decisions about legal marriage• Immigration status can prevent couples from legally marrying• Amanda conducted the ceremony via Zoom as they stood by a lake with candles• The podcast theme "We listen and we don't judge" guided the approachIf you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast, email [email protected]. For officiating services inquiries, reach me at [email protected] the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Verlyn Tarlton returns to share insights from her work as a pre-marriage counselor, including a revealing wedding story where a bride's disrespectful cake-cutting behavior foreshadowed their eventual divorce, and three key pieces of advice for couples planning to marry.• Spend more time planning your marriage than your wedding—many couples invest more energy in selecting signature drinks than in their vows• Communication with comprehension is key rather than just communication alone—listen to understand, not to defend or deflect• When conflict arises, don't just apologize; ask "How can I make it right?"• Small behaviors during weddings can reveal deeper relationship dynamics—"how you do one thing is how you do everything"• How we treat our spouse can be viewed as a precursor to how we might treat children or others• Learning to listen for understanding rather than preparing responses improves communication dramatically• Being willing to find resolution without "being wrong" helps couples move forward constructivelyFind Verlin on Instagram at before_you_do, on Apple and Spotify podcasts at "Before You Do," on Facebook as "Podcaster-Author Verlyn Tarlton," and at verlyntarlton.com.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Most couples will spend a year planning their wedding but barely a moment envisioning their actual marriage. In this eye-opening conversation with Verlyn Tarlton, author and host of "The Before You Do Podcast", we explore the critical conversations every couple should have before walking down the aisle.Verlyn shares how she started her podcast after years of having the same conversation with women who all expressed one common regret: "Why didn't I know this before I got married?" Drawing from decades of personal experience and coaching couples, she explains why marriage requires effort—not just work—and how proper preparation can prevent the shock many newlyweds feel once the honeymoon phase ends.The discussion dives into what it means to create a shared vision for marriage, comparing it to how businesses operate with mission statements and clear objectives. Verlyn emphasizes that couples must discuss expectations openly, examining how their unique backgrounds and family histories shape their views on everything from conflict resolution to parenting approaches. These conversations might feel unromantic, but they're essential for building a foundation that will sustain a lifetime together.One particularly powerful insight is the distinction between supportive partners and professional help. While your spouse should be your person, they shouldn't be your only support system—especially when dealing with past trauma. As Verlyn notes, "A fresh start is not a fresh start if you don't deal with old traumas." The conversation also explores the value of pre-marriage coaching with an unbiased third party who can help identify issues without taking sides.Whether you're engaged, newly married, or simply curious about building stronger relationships, this episode offers practical wisdom for approaching marriage with intention rather than just idealism. Listen now to discover why investing in your marriage before saying "I do" might be the most important wedding planning you'll ever do.Find and follow Verlyn and her podcast here:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorverlyn.tarltonSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dwQ9IbAJfR2FwmP9ThTzV?si=1027ccf3923d4918Website: https://verlyntarlton.com/Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Amanda shares a memorable wedding story where the mother of the bride was significantly intoxicated during the ceremony, offering thoughtful reflections on how alcohol impacts wedding celebrations.• The mother of the bride had consumed too much champagne during morning preparations• She treated the wedding ceremony like a call-and-response church service, vocally responding to the officiant• The groom responded to the situation with remarkable grace, telling his embarrassed bride "She's our family"• Alcohol is deeply embedded in American celebration culture, particularly at weddings• Different drinking patterns often emerge between bridesmaids (mimosas, white claws) and groomsmen (shots, beer)• Legal concerns arise when wedding participants are too intoxicated - couples cannot legally consent to marriage while drunk• Practical tips for managing alcohol at weddings include limiting quantities, choosing pre-portioned drinks, and assessing your guest list• Amanda suggests June might become "the month of we listen and we don't judge" for the podcastIf you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast, just send an email to [email protected], and if you're ready to inquire about officiating services for your own big day, you can reach me at [email protected] the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!We celebrate 11 years in the officiating business by sharing milestones in our podcast journey and revealing the scams targeting wedding vendors. This bonus episode combines gratitude for our growing international audience with practical warnings about common industry fraud schemes that nearly ended our career.• Our podcast has reached 622 listens across 22 episodes with international listeners from the Netherlands, Estonia, Australia, Lebanon, Brazil, Germany, Turkey, and Italy• Preparing for an upcoming wedding marathon of six ceremonies in 36 hours• Warning signs of wedding vendor scams include rushed timelines, no consultation calls, and payment amounts that exceed quotes• Detailed account of a check fraud scam where we were asked to deposit an oversized check and forward money to other "vendors"• Tips for wedding professionals to protect themselves from fraud through contracts and verification processes• Advice for couples on researching vendors thoroughly and recognizing suspicious behaviorIf you have questions you'd like answered on the podcast, send an email to [email protected], and if you need officiating services, reach out to [email protected] the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Ever wonder where wedding officiants draw their ethical lines? That dilemma sits at the heart of this raw, unflinching look at one of my most challenging ceremonies - a wedding where the groom showed up sporting a fresh black eye.The journey began with troubling signs: a bride who initially canceled because "the groom hit her," only to reconcile weeks later claiming a "misunderstanding." As someone educated in domestic violence dynamics, I found myself wrestling with whether to proceed. When I arrived at the venue (a converted auto body shop rather than the originally mentioned Knights of Columbus hall) to find the groom visibly injured, that internal struggle intensified. The flimsy explanation that "decorations fell on him" didn't match what I observed, yet there I stood, facing a profound question: Was this my place to judge?My guiding philosophy as an officiant has always been meeting couples where they are without imposing personal judgments. I've conducted ceremonies in prisons and commitment ceremonies for couples awaiting divorce decrees. Yet this situation pushed me to define clearer boundaries. It taught me that maintaining professional distance is sometimes necessary - I don't need to befriend every couple or track their marital outcomes. While I maintain firm limits (I won't marry teenagers or people to their pets), I recognize that adults make their own choices, however questionable they might seem to outsiders.What lines have you drawn in your professional life? How do you balance judgment with respect for others' autonomy? I'd love to hear your thoughts on navigating these murky ethical waters. Share your experiences or reach out if you'd like some Wedding Wearer swag - I'm always thrilled to connect with listeners!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Have you ever witnessed a wedding officiant roar like a dinosaur during the ceremony? In one of my most memorable weddings, that's exactly what happened - and it wasn't even planned! I share the delightful story of arriving at what appeared to be a traditional wedding only to discover everything from the centerpieces to the place cards featured elegant rose gold dinosaurs, inspiring an impromptu prehistoric declaration of love during the vows.This episode dives deep into the art of wedding personalization and finding that sweet spot between honoring the sanctity of marriage while authentically representing each couple's unique personality. I explore different levels of customization - from subtle "sprinklings" to going "whole hog" - and why the most impactful personal touches often happen organically in the moment. You'll hear why I embrace the "yes, and" philosophy from improvisation, supporting couples who want to incorporate their own special elements without compromising the ceremony's integrity.My greatest reward comes when guests say, "That ceremony was them" rather than just complimenting my performance. A truly successful wedding ceremony gives attendees insight into why the couple loves each other while foreshadowing their marriage journey ahead. Whether it's changing lyrics to "The Ratlin' Bog" during a ring exchange or adding dinosaur references for paleontology enthusiasts, these personalized moments create ceremonies that feel authentic rather than formulaic. What unique elements would you include in your perfect ceremony? Subscribe for more stories, tips, and inspiration for creating wedding moments that roar with personality!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Weddings are days full of emotions, especially nerves, and as an officiant I often step in to calm anxious couples, attendants, and family members before the ceremony begins.• Nerves stem from the significant time, money, and planning invested in creating the perfect day• Helping calm nerves can involve everything from reassuring flower girls to tying ties for shaking fathers• Humor, particularly "clean dirty jokes," can be especially effective with nervous grooms• The "12-inch pianist" joke has become my go-to for breaking tension with groom's parties• An unexpected encounter with a curious 10-year-old boy added an extra layer of humor to the joke• Situational humor must be appropriate to the audience and consider religious and family dynamics• My philosophy: "If you can laugh at yourself, you'll be fine; if you can allow others to laugh with you, you'll be great"• Flexibility to add or remove elements from the ceremony in the moment enhances the wedding experienceSend me your favorite "clean dirty jokes" that might work for wedding day situations via email at [email protected] or reach out about officiating services at [email protected] the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!What does a wedding officiant actually bring to your ceremony? In this celebratory bonus episode marking over 500 listens, I'm unzipping my officiating bag to reveal the essential toolkit that helps me navigate wedding days with confidence and composure.From the moment I arrive at a venue until the final signature on your marriage license, my trusty black bag (emblazoned with "and so the adventure begins") contains everything I might need to handle any situation. You'll discover why I always pack protein drinks and snacks, how my elaborate binder system preserves memories of every ceremony, and why I carry backup unity elements like hand-fasting cords that have saved the day when last-minute inspiration strikes.The wedding world is full of surprises - like the Irish grandmother who inspired an unplanned hand-fasting ritual at the rehearsal dinner, or the melted Hershey Kisses that create havoc at the bottom of my bag. I'll share my biggest officiating challenge (correctly identifying townships for marriage licenses) and my dream of creating a specialized app to solve this common problem for wedding professionals.As my podcast journey continues to evolve alongside my officiating career, I'm grateful for each listener who's joined me since launching in January. Whether you're planning your own wedding, work in the industry, or simply enjoy wedding stories, I hope this peek behind the curtain gives you appreciation for the preparation that goes into making ceremonies appear effortless. What items would you suggest I add to my officiant toolkit? I'd love to hear your thoughts as we continue this adventure together!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Unexpected moments can define our professional boundaries. After officiating a beautiful ceremony for Amanda and Tito, I found myself unexpectedly called upon to deliver the reception blessing—a task that had specifically been assigned to the bride's uncle. Three Jolly Rancher cocktails deep and with absolutely no preparation, I somehow managed to cobble together a meaningful blessing that incorporated Bob Dylan lyrics and brought the house down.This pivotal experience transformed how I approach my role as a wedding officiant. While I once eagerly attended receptions as a young professional looking to network (and yes, enjoy free food and drinks), this unexpected spotlight moment forced me to reconsider where my professional responsibilities begin and end. The incident raises fascinating questions about vendor boundaries at weddings: When is it appropriate to have a drink? What happens when you're asked to perform duties outside your agreement? How do you maintain professionalism while still honoring the celebratory atmosphere?The wedding industry presents unique challenges for setting boundaries. Unlike typical 9-to-5 jobs, weddings blur personal and professional lines in ways that can catch even experienced vendors off guard. Whether you're planning your own wedding or work in the industry, this story offers valuable insights about clear communication, setting expectations, and handling those inevitable unexpected moments that make each wedding uniquely memorable. And for those curious about that Jolly Rancher cocktail that played a supporting role in this tale—you might just find the recipe in our show notes!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Part two of what should be called "A Few Drinks In", Amanda reflects on her wedding day eight years later, sharing intimate details and offering wisdom for couples on maintaining their connection through life's challenges.• The ceremony and vows were the most special moments, creating an intimate connection while being surrounded by loved ones• The unity box included a private note for their daughter, creating a meaningful connection between their wedding and their child's future• Using her parents' wedding song for the father-daughter dance created a profound connection with Amanda's late father• DIY elements and personal touches reflected both families' cultures and personalities• Family support was evident as both sides had already bonded through their daughter before the wedding• Staying present and intentional about observing special moments helped create lasting memories• Regular date nights are essential for maintaining connection after children, careers, and other responsibilities• Tito's advice: "Continue to water your tree of marriage - even if the tree gives you fruit, you still need to water it"Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!This episode could have been best described as "a few drinks in".Bride Amanda joins Amanda as she shares her wedding journey, from meeting her husband on Tinder to planning their family-centered celebration while juggling nursing school and a newborn daughter.• Meeting online after a friend convinced her to try Tinder in Rehoboth Beach• Knowing immediately he was "the one" - telling her sister she would marry him after their first date• Getting engaged in a hotel when her now-husband waited on one knee for her to come out of the bathroom• Planning a wedding while in nursing school with a newborn baby• Creating DIY centerpieces and decorations that family members still display in their homes• Incorporating navy and gold colors to balance masculine and feminine elements• Making family the central focus of their wedding celebration• Finding meaningful ways to honor absent loved ones• Managing the challenges of narrowing down a 150-person guest list• Getting invaluable support from her twin sister and grandmother throughout the planning processJoin us for part two of this interview coming soon, where we'll dive deeper into the details of Amanda's special day. If you haven't already, listen to "The Wedding Where I Cried" episode for more context about this memorable celebration.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!I share the story of the wedding that made me break my professional composure and cry during the ceremony. This emotional experience changed how I approach my role as an officiant, allowing me to be more flexible with ceremony scripts and more authentic with showing emotions.• Young couple incorporated their two-month-old daughter into the ceremony• Bride wanted special tributes to her late father throughout the wedding• Days before the wedding, bride discovered a 20-year-old message from her father in a book• The quote perfectly captured the moment of creating a new family while honoring her father's memory• Reading the quote during the ceremony led to tears from everyone, including myself• This experience taught me to balance professionalism with authentic emotion• Changed my approach to writing ceremony scripts, now keeping them digital and editable until the last minuteWhat are some emotional wedding moments you have experienced? If you're planning your wedding, consider how you might incorporate meaningful quotes or tributes from loved ones who can't be present.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!What makes wedding officiants silently cringe during your special day? Amanda and guest officiant Tristan pull back the curtain on the pet peeves that haunt even the most professional ceremony leaders in this milestone 250-listener bonus episode.Nothing throws an officiant off quite like the jarring visual of a bride in a $10,000 designer dress at an otherwise casual backyard barbecue. This conversation dives deep into budget imbalances that leave guests confused and vendors questioning. The hosts share candid thoughts about wedding priorities and how couples might better distribute their spending for a more cohesive experience.Ever wonder what happens when you hand your officiant a ring box with no warning moments before the ceremony? Tristan recounts her nightmare experience juggling unexpected duties while Amanda speaks to the frustration of arriving at venues where no one has considered the officiant's role. Their practical advice on communication might save your ceremony from awkward pauses and logistical disasters.Perhaps most cringe-worthy are the vows frantically written at 2 AM (often after several drinks) that lead to everything from pronunciation struggles to inappropriate jokes that fall flat. The officiants offer genuine guidance for creating meaningful vows without last-minute panic, and address the uncomfortable dynamics of over-respect versus disrespect that they frequently navigate. Their stories range from eye-opening to hilarious, providing valuable insights for anyone planning a wedding ceremony.Want to work with Amanda or Tristan? Contact [email protected] for booking inquiries or send podcast questions to [email protected]. Your dream ceremony awaits – just avoid these pet peeves!Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!Wedding planning involves countless decisions, expectations, and potential pitfalls. Drawing from my extensive experience officiating ceremonies, I'm sharing fifteen essential wedding tips that can transform your planning process and wedding day experience.The absolute must-dos begin with having realistic backup plans. While you can't anticipate everything, thinking through alternatives for weather, timing delays, and unexpected hiccups provides crucial peace of mind. Equally important is the contract process – couples should thoroughly read and understand agreements, while vendors need clear documentation of services, policies, and procedures. Personalizing your ceremony creates meaningful memories that endure long after the celebration ends, while managing your energy and building positive vendor relationships contribute significantly to a smooth, joyful experience.Beyond these fundamentals, consider your budget priorities carefully, communicate attire expectations clearly but respectfully, and plan thoughtfully around family dynamics. Every wedding experiences some unexpected chaos – it's how you respond that determines whether these moments become cherished stories or lasting disappointments. Perhaps most importantly, know when to say no – to unreasonable requests, family pressures that contradict your vision, or proceeding with marriage if significant doubts exist.Equally valuable is understanding what to avoid. Don't make assumptions about what your partner or clients want without explicit discussion. Never rely solely on couples for wedding day logistics, and don't recycle generic ceremony scripts when each celebration deserves personalization. Pay attention to warning signs during the planning process, whether communication issues, payment concerns, or contractual problems. Most critically, amid all the planning and details, don't forget to stay present and enjoy this extraordinary milestone.Whether you're a couple planning your celebration or a vendor serving them, these practical insights can help navigate the complexities of wedding planning while preserving the joy that should define this significant life event. What unexpected wedding wisdom has shaped your approach to celebrations? Share your experiences and let's continue building a community of supportive wedding professionals and informed couples.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.

Send me a message or any questions!I am normally a person to run around from project to event to task to meal, so why should officiating schedule be any different!  Today's episode talks about my marathon days and how communication is key in making sure everything can run smoothly for three very different couples and three vastly different weddings - all happening in 24 hours.Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.