Interview with Verlyn Tarlton, host of "The Before You Do" Podcast

Send me a message or any questions!Most couples will spend a year planning their wedding but barely a moment envisioning their actual marriage. In this eye-opening conversation with Verlyn Tarlton, author and host of "The Before You Do Podcast", we explore the critical conversations every couple should have before walking down the aisle.Verlyn shares how she started her podcast after years of having the same conversation with women who all expressed one common regret: "Why didn't I know this before I got married?" Drawing from decades of personal experience and coaching couples, she explains why marriage requires effort—not just work—and how proper preparation can prevent the shock many newlyweds feel once the honeymoon phase ends.The discussion dives into what it means to create a shared vision for marriage, comparing it to how businesses operate with mission statements and clear objectives. Verlyn emphasizes that couples must discuss expectations openly, examining how their unique backgrounds and family histories shape their views on everything from conflict resolution to parenting approaches. These conversations might feel unromantic, but they're essential for building a foundation that will sustain a lifetime together.One particularly powerful insight is the distinction between supportive partners and professional help. While your spouse should be your person, they shouldn't be your only support system—especially when dealing with past trauma. As Verlyn notes, "A fresh start is not a fresh start if you don't deal with old traumas." The conversation also explores the value of pre-marriage coaching with an unbiased third party who can help identify issues without taking sides.Whether you're engaged, newly married, or simply curious about building stronger relationships, this episode offers practical wisdom for approaching marriage with intention rather than just idealism. Listen now to discover why investing in your marriage before saying "I do" might be the most important wedding planning you'll ever do.Find and follow Verlyn and her podcast here:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorverlyn.tarltonSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dwQ9IbAJfR2FwmP9ThTzV?si=1027ccf3923d4918Website: https://verlyntarlton.com/Support the showThank you for sharing the podcast with others who may enjoy it!  Share your funny wedding stories with me at [email protected].  Any links referenced are on linktree.