There You Are

FEAR-Face Everything and RiseA listener requested we talk about fear.  We feel this when we think something bad is going to, or might happen.   Jess talks about where that that fear lives in our brain—in the Limbic region.  It does not speak a language there—it messages us with images or sensations.  Our brain wants a story and sometimes it confabulates something that could be false.  We can change and re-write that story so we don’t get triggered.  Cathy talks about fear and how it can get in the way of the rider.  She wants to know if there is fear and then it can be talked about. Preparation in our riding and in other things in our life can help us not let the fear take hold and control what we want to do, or how we want to live!Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Cathy and Jess talk this morning about preparation.  Preparing correctly helps you live in the moment, knowing that you are ready—   Jess is taking her boat, The Relation Ship back to Canada at the end of June.  She has made sure the boat was “summerized”—the wheel bearings done on her trailer, and the brakes looked at.  Her truck just was serviced.   They keep lists of things that need to be done.  Cathy is preparing to put out jumps for the MidSouth Horse Trial.  She has driven over the land to see the best placement, she has measured the arena for the show jumping.  We all have to “think ahead”, do what needs to be done, and that helps us live in the moment, in peace to enjoy it!Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Reunions of our People and PlacesIt’s Monday, June 1, Jess just had her 50th high school reunion festivities, and Cathy had a weekend Horse Trial at the Indiana Hoosier Horse Park.  They talk about the people, and the stories.  Cathy has been here in Kentucky for 48 years teaching and training. There is a beauty in knowing people for that many years.   Jess graduated from Sacred Heart Academy in 1976.   She loved all of the conversations and reconnecting with old friends.   There is such a rich history in our lives of the people and the place.    Thank you for listening!  Please give us a rating, and subscribe!   Peace and Love!  Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

  Being Brave comes in all waysBeing brave comes in all forms—Cathy pushing her transmission temperature as she goes up a hill in West Virginia, to riding at upper levels around a cross country course.  It could be having that tough conversation, making changes in your life that you have never known before—   One thing about it, being brave is contagious.  When you are brave it helps all the people around you!  Listen up, like, subscribe and share it!  You got this!  Peace and Love!   Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Getting Tools for Life!  It is all about relationship.  Jess and Cathy are so grateful to have learned tools that help them.  We don’t know what we don’t know!  Early in their relationship, when Jess was getting her Masters of Social Work, she learned about the Getting the Love You Want work of Harville Hendrix.  She and Cathy went to a weekend workshop in the Maggie Valley of North Carolina.  It has given them the tools to have a rich relationship that evolves daily!  Jess became certified in that work, and many other modalities to help her clients the most.  Cathy talks about Natural Horsemanship and how it helps the relationship with the horse and rider.  They can then reach the goals that the rider has.  It is all about what we can learn—what tools can you pick up to help you and others?   Peace and Love!  Subscribe and share!    Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

May 11, 2026  Staying ConnectedJess and Cathy have shared their lives together for 32 years, and oftentimes they are not physically in the same space.  They have learned what they need to do in an intentional way to stay connected.  There are also the people in their lives, both personal and business that they make sure they have the times for.  What traditions and in what ways do you stay connected to the people important to you?  Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Endings Lead to New BeginningsJess and Cathy discuss the circle of life—when one thing ends, a new beginning starts.  They reflect on their careers—how there are different phases.  Cathy grew into being an upper level competitor and that entailed going to Florida 8 weeks during the winter, renting a barn, being closer to her instructors that teach upper level competitors.  She taught less, she didn’t have as much time for the business side of her work, and had less money. Now she says doesn’t miss competing, she has more time for her students, and has an expansive course design profession.  Jess was not a professional with horses, but competed at the preliminary level for a lot of years.  When motherhood came along, she didn’t want to compete as much.  Her horse had retired.  Now she rides just for the fun.  Jess also talks about the sadness seeing this past week her old fruit and vegetable building had been torn down.  There are always new things on the horizon to do and become!Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

The Good Stuff and the Hard Stuff—always best when we are connected.Jess and Cathy share their highs and lows from the past weekend.  The “Best Weekend of the Year”—the Kentucky Three-Day Event was this past weekend.  It is a five star event—bringing the best riders from the world. Cathy is involved with her expertise in course design, helping repair any footing and jumps that might get compromised during the cross country phase.  She also did color commentating for the show jumping on Sunday for anyone that bought headsets to listen.  Jess had good friends in for it—her riding buddies from 55 years ago, whom she has remained close. The low was losing their little Boston Terrier, Tessa on Sunday morning.   They go on to say how important each of their dogs have been their whole lives, commemorating different chapters of their lives.  It is all so rich, this love we have for people and for our animals, and so the grief is felt and it too, is rich and necessary.   Let us know what you think—subscribe, share and leave a comment!  Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Growing up the Same House my whole lifeJess and Cathy continue talking about their childhoods.  Unlike Cathy moving around every 2-3 years, Jess grew up in the same house her whole life.  9114 Darley Drive.  She even remembers her phone number. No matter where you live, childhoods are full of all kinds of experiences growing up—cousins, neighborhood friends, family activities.  They shape who we become!  Have fun listening—and how was this similar or different from your childhood?  Let us know in your comments!   Spread it out—like, follow, subscribe and send to a friend!Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Growing up Everywhere!  Perspective is Everything!Cathy claims that growing up with her Dad as a Navy pilot and moving every two or three years was a wonderful adventure!   In this episode, she recounts hopscotching different places in the country, including three years in Northern Ireland.   Her Mom got into training ponies as a little girl, and the stint in Ireland gave her certification teaching English riding.  After they returned to the States, Cathy still left handed, the kids were connected to the United States Pony Club.  This gave them a sense of belonging whenever they moved to a new place.   Cathy moved in 1978 to Lexington Kentucky and has been planted here ever since!  Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Jess and Cathy discuss showing up, doing your best, not matter how you feel!  How good connection is—in partnerships, doing things together whether it is just with your horse, or a whole basketball team—It is always a “We”, there is no “I” in Team.   Working together, giving something your all is how we show up!  Even when it is hard.    We appreciate you showing up and listening, please sign up, like, and share.  Just talking with you all this morning, makes us feel better and maybe it will you also!      Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Welcome to Episode number 1!  Jess and Cathy want to welcome you, and say, There You Are!  And here we are! Our first episode.  We will share what we know, (you don’t know what you don’t know), and we don’t know everything for sure.  We are all learning, living and loving.  We have been in relationship for 32 years. We will be talking some about that—what work it has been.  We will be talking about what we do in our lives—Cathy is a teacher of horses and people in the sport of 3-Day Eventing.  Jess is a licensed clinical social worker, and has her office in the back of the house here on the farm, where she counsels individuals, couples, and families. We try to live our lives fully in this adventure of life!   Thanks for joining our conversation!  Please subscribe and share.Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for. Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is: https://www.cwevent.comJess is a licenced clinical social worker.  She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.   Her website is:https://www.jessicabollinger.com