This Trusted Place with John-Paul Davies: Mental Health, Therapy & Becoming a Therapist

Send us Fan MailFour years after my first "Day in the Life" video, I’m revisiting what a typical day looks like as a private practice therapist. In this video, I share the habits, routines, and boundaries that have helped me build a sustainable career over the last 15 years.In this video, I revisit my “day in the life of a therapist”, not as someone newly qualified, but years into building a private practice.What does the work actually feel like now?What’s become easier… and what still matters just as much?I take you through a typical day, from my morning regulation routine to supervision, client sessions, and the reality of administration,  including some of the things I wish I’d known when I first qualified. We also look at how the profession is changing, including the rise of online therapy and using platforms like YouTube to reach a global audience.Along the way, I share some of the things I wish I’d known earlier, especially if you’re thinking about becoming a therapist, currently in training, or finding your way in the early stages of your career.How to design your therapy room video link: https://youtu.be/pAYPNF_7PiU🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.**📹 More videos just like this:**(https://youtu.be/bv5sDWM-7TI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0FT3jEKjXI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j84cmhWOFN0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUCQ481nYP0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVnUo3BFoq8)🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailHave you ever had the feeling that your life looks right on the outside… but doesn’t quite feel right on the inside?Whether it’s your career, your relationships, or your identity, many of us reach a point where something feels off, like we’ve been living a version of ourselves that works… but isn’t really us.In this video, I explore the idea of the “true self” and the “false self”, not as something fake, but as a version of you that developed to survive, succeed, and belong.I talk about why this can come up in so many areas of life:– Changing career– Becoming a therapist– Being in therapy– Sexuality, indentity and coming outAt the heart of it, this is about the gap between who you really are… and who you’ve learned to be.I talk about:– Why we develop a “performative” self (fear and status)– The emotional cost of living out of alignment– How this shows up in career and identity– Reconnecting with who you really are– Why finding the right people matters✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."#Psychotherapy #CareerChange #TrueSelf #Authenticity #Bisexuality #MentalHealth #JohnPaulDavies #PersonalGrowthSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailHi, I’m John-Paul, and a warm welcome back to the channel. Today’s conversation is an important and often emotional one - what happens when sexual identity is disclosed within a relationship, particularly when disclosure comes after the relationship has already been established and it doesn't go well. For many people, it can feel like a shock, or even a betrayal, but it can also be the beginning of something more integrated, and potentially more connected.In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Joshua Gebhart, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specialises in working with mixed-orientation couples, particularly where one partner identifies as gay or bisexual within a previously 'heterosexual' relationship.We explore:• Why disclosure can feel so destabilising• The difference between identity and behaviour• What happens when sexuality hasn’t been fully understood or expressed• The role of shame, secrecy, and compartmentalisation• How couples move through crisis into something more stable• Why “stay together or break up” is often the wrong question• What actually helps relationships survive, or end wellIf you or someone you know is navigating this, I hope this offers some clarity and reassurance, that there are options, and that you’re not alone in it.✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."If anything in this video resonates with you, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments, I read every one.Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailHi, I’m John-Paul Davies and welcome back to the channel.In this conversation, I’m joined by Dr Henry Aughterson (currently working as a doctor and training to become a therapist at Re-Vision in London) to explore what it’s really like to train as a therapist, especially when coming from a medical background.We talk about the differences between the medical model and psychotherapy, the depth and challenge of therapy training, and the personal journey that often sits underneath the decision to become a therapist. In this video, we explore:• Moving from medicine into psychotherapy• The limitations of the medical model in addressing mental health• What therapy training is actually like (and how intense it can be)• The balance between intellect and emotion in becoming a therapist• Social prescribing and the role of community in wellbeing• Building an authentic presence on social media as a therapist• Advice for anyone thinking about trainingHenry also shares openly about his own experiences of mental health, identity, and navigating uncertainty, something many people considering this path will relate to.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.📹 More videos like this:Why I Became a Therapist (From Law to Therapy)(https://www.youtube.com/...)A Day in the Life of a Therapist(https://www.youtube.com/...)5 Things I Love About Being a Therapist(https://www.youtube.com/...)If anything in this video has touched something for you, or you're considering your own path into therapy, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments, I read them all.And if you’d like to follow Henry’s journey, I’ll include his Instagram below.https://www.instagram.com/doctor_mentalhealth?igsh=MXdjMng0MTB0eTE1Zg==Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this video I’m talking about one of the most difficult and important questions when starting or running a private practice: How much should you charge?There’s no single “correct” fee for therapy, which is exactly why this can feel so confusing. In this video, I explore a more grounded way of approaching your pricing, one that takes into account your financial reality, your local context, and the psychological factors that can lead many therapists to undercharge.I also share how I’ve approached setting and increasing my own fee over time, and why I believe demand, rather than comparison, can be a helpful guide. If you’re starting out, or thinking about raising your rate, I hope this gives you something to work from.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this conversation, I’m joined by therapist and coach Gavin Lashley to explore a topic that often may not get enough attention the psychological journey of the non-birth partner, affectionately, “Dad”.Gavin is an integrative therapist working with CBT and Internal Family Systems, and he’s also a relatively new father himself. Together, we explore what it really means to become a parent, not just practically, but emotionally and relationally.We talk about:• The identity shift of becoming a Dad• Protecting and providing versus connecting and regulating• Hormones, expectations and the pressure on modern Dads• Community, isolation and the changing role of grandparents• The impact on intimacy and the couple relationship• Psychological preparation before the baby arrives• Resentment, repair and communication under pressure• Trauma anxiety and the fear of “getting it wrong”• Why perfection isn’t the goal, repair isYou can find out more about Gavin and his work here:Website: (https://www.gavinlashleytherapy.com)Instagram: (https://www.instagram.com/gavinlashleytherapy/)Gavin also wrote a blog article exploring different approaches to fatherhood using the analogy of ecosystems, which links really well to this conversation: (https://www.gavinlashleytherapy.com/blog/cultivating-fatherhood/)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when someone discloses that they’re bisexual within a relationship? For some couples it’s straightforward, but for others it can bring up shock, fear, confusion, or insecurity for both partners.In this video I share some reflections on why disclosure can feel destabilising at first, how both people’s reactions are understandable, and how couples can move toward integration over time. I also talk about common myths around bisexuality, including fears about infidelity or commitment and why honesty, while sometimes painful, can ultimately deepen connection.If you or your partner are navigating this situation, I hope this offers some reassurance and perspective.I’ll also be exploring this topic further in an upcoming interview with Dr Joshua Gebhardt, a therapist who works with mixed-orientation couples.My bisexuality playlist for all the full videos:  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxi2ytIA_kG2JG_7Evikg8E0✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 My FREE personal development course Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailStarting to see clients for the first time can feel surprisingly nerve-wracking. In this video I share some reflections on how to steady yourself in those early sessions and what really matters when you first sit down with a client.I talk about four foundations you can rest on: what you already bring as a person, the active role of the client, the power of the relationship between you, and the wider support that holds you as a therapist. I think a helpful aim isn’t to perform or impress, but to create a safe, attentive human connection.If you’re just beginning to see clients, or about to start, I hope this offers some reassurance and perspective.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 My FREE personal development course Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.Life Unlimited Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailHuman Connection in a Digital WorldIn this video, I’m sharing a practice version of a talk I gave for Rail Wellbeing Live on one of the most important foundations of good mental health: connection. After 15 years as a therapist, I’ve come to see connection, to ourselves, to others, and to the wider world, as central to wellbeing, meaning, and resilience.In this talk, I look at:• Why connection is vital for both mental and physical health• Why so many people feel increasingly disconnected, despite knowing this• How our survival, reward, and connection systems shape the way we relate• Practical ways to strengthen connection with ourselves• How digital media, social media, and AI can both support and undermine connection• The role of face-to-face relationships, nature, and small moments of human contactThis is a reflective, practical talk rather than a polished studio video, shared here for anyone interested in wellbeing, mental health, and how we stay human in an increasingly digital world.If you find this helpful, it would mean a lot if you could like the video, subscribe to the channel, or share it with someone who might benefit. It really helps the channel grow and supports me in making more content like this.✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you’re curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."📹 For more videos on general mental health topics, here's my playlist:https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxgkW-m76gMYwIEq_IZUv8slSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailThinking about a career change? If you’ve been wondering whether it’s possible to leave a job that isn’t fulfilling and explore something completely new, like becoming a therapist, this video is for you. I share clips from my own journey, plus insights from people making the change right now, to help you feel more ready to take that first step.This video is a compilation of some of the most helpful moments from my videos on career change and therapist training, alongside reflections from people who are currently on that path themselves.We talk about:– What draws people towards becoming a therapist– The emotional and psychological side of training– The importance of self-development, not just theory– Fear, doubt, and how not to let them dominate decisions– Why this path can feel like coming home and coming aliveIf you’re feeling stuck, unfulfilled, or quietly wondering whether there’s something more meaningful for you, I hope this video helps you listen to that part of yourself that’s already moving you forward.I’d really love to hear about your own experience or where you are on your journey, so please do feel free to comment below.Playlist containing at the full videos here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxjNIi7jqHqNHDcaHqhApCoN🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.💬 ‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailThis is a compilation of what I think are some of the most meaningful moments from my videos and conversations on bisexuality so far, including pieces from my chats with Rob Brooks Cohen, Robyn Ochs, Tom Ward-Thomas and Mark Cuzack, as well as clips from my own videos on self-acceptance, coming out, finding community and living more fully as a bi person.Bisexuality can be a really misunderstood and underrepresented experience. I hope this compilation brings together some honesty, vulnerability and helpful advice from everyone who’s contributed, from personal stories to conversations about identity, self-acceptance, loneliness, integration and community. If you’re questioning, exploring, or just looking to feel less alone, I really hope this helps.My bisexuality playlist for all the full videos:  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxi2ytIA_kG2JG_7Evikg8E0If you’d like to explore more from Mark or Rob, you can find their channels here:Mark Cuzack – (https://www.youtube.com/@notdefining)Rob Brooks Cohen – (https://www.youtube.com/@2biguys)If anything in this video connects with you or brings things up, you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk).✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this video I’m talking with Dr Will Dobud about something I’ve barely touched on before: youth mental health. Anxiety, depression, self-harm and distress in teenagers are reported to have risen dramatically in recent years, even as diagnoses, services and medications have increased. Will and I explore why that might be and, crucially, what actually helps.Will is a social worker, therapist, educator and researcher based in Australia, and co-author (with Dr Nevin Harper) of the book “Kids These Days”, which I highly recommend if you’re interested in youth mental health and what adults can realistically do to support young people.In this conversation we talk about:* Why distress in teenagers appears to be rising and why “kids these days” might not be the real problem* Social media, phone bans and whether banning tech actually improves mental health* Loneliness, “engagement problems” and why so many young people feel unseen even when surrounded by others at school* Outdoor and adventure-based therapy, and how mastery and success experiences support wellbeing* Labels, self-diagnosis and identity, including the risks of young people becoming their diagnosis* The importance of relationship and connection in therapy and in families* Parents’ and caregivers’ own anxiety and histories, and how that shapes how we respond to teens* How everyday activities, rituals and shared experiences can build stronger relationships with young peopleI really hope this feels supportive whether you’re a parent, carer, therapist, teacher or simply someone who cares about the young people in your life.You can find more about Will and his work here:Kids These Days book and resources: (https://www.kidsthesedaysbook.com)Will’s website: (https://www.willdobud.com)The Celebrate Everyday video: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/16YtPy4tJM/✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website.🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships wiSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailChanging career doesn’t start with confidence, I think it starts with small choices that help you feel more connected to yourself.In this video I talk honestly about confidence and career change and why you don’t need to feel confident before you start. I share how my own move from law into psychotherapy began not with certainty, but with small choices based on connection: taking a career break, trying out training, volunteering and noticing where I felt most “at home”.I walk through a simple process of connection → choice → competence → clarity, and how confidence tends to grow naturally from those stages rather than being a starting point. I also talk about bringing your existing skills with you, planning realistically for the financial transition, and how your relationship with money, status and success may change over time.Towards the end of the video I share two “compare and contrast” memories, one from a high-pressure financial close as a lawyer and one from a 40-year celebration at my psychotherapy college, to give you a felt sense of the difference between a more disconnected life and one that feels aligned and alive.If you’re thinking about changing career or retraining as a therapist, I hope this gives you some reassurance, some practical ideas, and a bit more compassion for yourself, especially if you don’t feel ready yet!If anything in this video connects with you, I’d really love to hear from you in the comments with any questions, worries, hopes, or your own experience of thinking about a career change. And if you find it helpful, please do like, share and subscribe, it really helps the channel.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this interview with Dr Ron Siegel, we look at the complexities of narcissism, its psychological roots, and the broad spectrum of behaviours it can cover. Ron is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, a long-standing clinical psychologist and a leading voice in mindfulness-based psychotherapy. He’s known for his ability to bridge solid academic thinking with warm, practical wisdom, and he brings real clarity, care and decades of clinical experience to this topic.We discuss everything from overt grandiosity to the quieter, more subtle forms of self-preoccupation that often go unnoticed or misunderstood. Narcissism is frequently stigmatised, but Ron offers a grounded, compassionate way of understanding these traits, exploring how they often stem from attempts to manage deep feelings of inadequacy.We talk about the challenges therapists can face when supporting people with narcissistic traits, especially around motivation, defensiveness and genuine engagement in therapy and Ron highlights the importance of fostering self-awareness, empathy and the transformative power of self-compassion.Through personal stories and examples, we also look at how narcissism affects relationships and wellbeing, as well as the cultural and evolutionary factors that shape these patterns. The conversation ends on a hopeful note, encouraging viewers to pursue real connection, curiosity and self-compassion as meaningful pathways to healthier relationships and personal growth.📹 More videos like this in this playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxh_yMaPLgYA_4aNE-9xp9OMIf you find this helpful, it would mean a lot if you could like the video, subscribe to the channel, or share it with someone who might benefit. It really helps the channel grow and supports me in making more conversations like this. Thank you!📚 Ron Siegel’s website: (https://drronsiegel.com)🎙️ My podcast ‘This Trusted Place’: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk/podcast)🌐 My website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include: "The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing soSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailWhat if Snow White wasn’t just a fairy tale but a potential mirror for our own inner journey? In this episode, I explore how Disney’s remake of Snow White reveals powerful lessons about overcoming narcissism and finding true inner integration. I’ll look at how the film’s archetypes and characters can guide us from grandiosity and self-protection towards self-acceptance and alignment and what that means for healing the split between our inner feminine and masculine.By understanding the parts of ourselves we often push away, like anger, the heart, and the shadow,  we can move toward authenticity, balance, and a more grounded sense of wholeness. Stay till the end for practical insights on how to work with these inner dynamics in your own life and relationships.✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you’re curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."📹 For more videos on narcissism, here's my playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxh_yMaPLgYA_4aNE-9xp9OM**Fair Use/Fair Dealing Notice:**This video contains brief clips from Disney’s Snow White remake used under the principles of fair dealing (UK) / fair use (US) for the purposes of commentary, analysis, and education. All clips are used transformatively to illustrate psychological and symbolic ideas being discussed, and do not substitute for or compete with the original work.Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailBeing a therapist is really enjoyable, meaningful work, but it can also come with some surprises. In this video, I share 5 things that have been hard on my journey as a therapist: the unexpected challenges, the moments of learning, and the human realities that perhaps  don’t often get talked about.I talk about:* The general lack of oversight and accountability.* The questionable ‘empathy’ I occasionally see in other therapists.* The relative silence on the lack of male therapists.* How deeply relational this work really is.* And the occasional sense of being ‘discarded’ by clients.These are honest reflections from my own experience and I’d love to hear your thoughts, whether you’re a therapist yourself, thinking of becoming one, or simply curious about what really goes on behind the scenes in this profession.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."**📹 More videos just like this:**(https://youtu.be/bv5sDWM-7TI)(https://youtu.be/qvUrvcXjwno)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0FT3jEKjXI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j84cmhWOFN0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUCQ481nYP0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVnUo3BFoq8)If anything in this video resonates with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below — and if you’d like to see more videos like this, please do like, share, and subscribe. It really helps more people find the channel, and I so appreciate your support.Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailKati Morton is one of the world’s best-known therapist–creators on YouTube, with almost 1.5 million subscribers, bestselling books and a hugely popular podcast. In this conversation we explore how she’s built such a successful platform, what she’s learned along the way, and the challenges of being such a public voice on mental health.We cover:– How Kati’s career as a therapist shaped her content and community– Her journey from initial reluctance to a global audience– Why authenticity matters more than chasing algorithms– The balance between audience needs and personal interests– What she’s working on now, including her new book and workshops– Her favourite piece of life advice!This is hopefully a thoughtful and inspiring discussion for anyone interested in mental health, content creation, or the realities of life of a professional online.👇 Links:📺  @Katimorton 's  YouTube channel: (https://www.youtube.com/user/KatiMorton)📚 Books by Kati Morton: (https://www.katimorton.com/books)🎙️ Ask Kati Anything podcast: (https://open.spotify.com/show/2J1zPz2uG0HdGg7Nw8oYV3)🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book ‘Finding a Balanced Connection’ is available on Amazon here: https://mybook.to/Z8i2🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."📹 More videos like this:– Conversations Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxiVulgcTWjDEs_azwcApTEy– General Mental Health Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxgkW-m76gMYwIEq_IZUv8sl– Being and Becoming a Therapist Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxjNIi7jqHqNHDcaHqhApCoNSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this video, I speak with Robyn Ochs, a leading advocate for bisexuality and bi+ identities. Robyn shares her experiences and insights on bisexuality, pansexuality and the broader spectrum of non-binary sexualities, reflecting on identity, self-expression and community.We talk about the complexities of coming out, not just as a personal step but as an act of love and authenticity that deepens our relationships. Robyn also speaks about the challenges and stigma bisexual people face, the role of supportive communities, and her ongoing work with Bi Women Quarterly, the oldest publication dedicated to bi+ women’s voices.**Key Topics**Understanding bisexuality and bi+ identitiesComing out as an act of loveChallenges and stigma in the bisexual communityThe role of support networksRobyn’s advocacy and activismResources: @BisexualKilljoy   - https://www.bisexualkilljoy.com/ Bi Women Quarterly - https://www.biwomenquarterly.com/Bisexual Resource Center - https://biresource.org/Bi+ World Meetups - https://biplus.nl/biplus-world-meetup/ @twobiguys podcast and YouTube channel ✅ Support for Bisexual and Bi+ IdentityAs a therapist, I work with people exploring any and all aspects of a bisexual or bi+ identity — whether you’re questioning, coming out, navigating relationships, or simply wanting a space where your experience is fully seen and understood. You can find more about how I work and booking info at: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, again, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem and confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."📹 **More videos like this**https://youtube.cSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this YouTube video I talk about making the transition from a current career to becoming a therapist, addressing two common concerns: the length of qualification and the financial transition involved in this career change.1. Qualification Length: many people seek the quickest route to start their private practice, but, while the theoretical part of the training might be completed more quickly, the psychological shift required  for many can significant and ongoing. 2. Financial Transition: the financial aspect of transitioning to a therapist is another major topic and I say some more about this in this video. I talk, for example about the importance of building a financial buffer and considering part-time or flexible work to sustain an income during the transition and qualifying as soon as someone can. 3. Psychological and Emotional Considerations: I also touch on the psychological challenges of this career change, such as managing fear and anxiety, which can impact the ability to build a successful practice.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website:(https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."**📹 More videos just like this:**(https://youtu.be/bv5sDWM-7TI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0FT3jEKjXI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j84cmhWOFN0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUCQ481nYP0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVnUo3BFoq8)Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I’m joined by Nick Duffell, psychotherapist, psycho-historian and author, known for his pioneering work with people who attended boarding schools.We explore:• Nick’s background and the 1994 film 'The Making of Them'• His latest book 'The Unmaking of Them: Clinical Reflections on Boarding School Syndrome'• What “Boarding School Syndrome” means and how it shows up in adult life• How boarding schools have been normalised in British society• The impacts on intimacy, emotions and relationships• The different typologies of survivors and how therapy can help• Strengths that can also come from the experience• The psychology of parents who send children away, and the wider culture that sustains the systemNick also shares hopeful strategies for recovery, showing how healing is possible for those affected.📚 **Find out more about Nick Duffell’s work**Website: (https://www.boardingschoolsurvivors.co.uk)Books:– 'The Making of Them'– 'Wounded Leaders'– 'The Unmaking of Them: Clinical Reflections on Boarding School Syndrome'www.woundedleaders.co.uk www.genderpsychology.com'The Making of Them' movie is available on http://youtu.be/2uRr77vju8U✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I talk about the vital role that community plays in supporting mental health for bi+ individuals, asking questions about whether you have experienced the pressure of conforming to political ideologies within communities and inviting you to share your experiences and thoughts on the topic.**Bi+ Therapy & Support**If you're looking for a therapist who understands the unique experiences of being bisexual or bi+ — including identity, belonging, invisibility, relationships, coming out, and navigating assumptions — you're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk). I offer therapy and support that’s grounded, non-judgemental and informed by lived experience.**🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change'** is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."**📹 More videos like this**Watch more content exploring bisexuality, identity, community and mental health here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLo_MH8E2y3lTqZCkPiWwNdeJ9SDoLwTHDSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I explore the pressure that therapy trainees, and therapists more generally, can sometimes feel to go along with dominant views within training groups, supervision, or wider therapy spaces.What happens when we don’t feel safe to express a different opinion?What are the effects on our growth, learning and sense of self when we hold back?And how do we create environments where difference is truly welcome?I’d really love to hear your thoughts on this one, especially if you’ve experienced something similar in your own training.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website:(https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."**📹 More videos just like this:**(https://youtu.be/bv5sDWM-7TI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0FT3jEKjXI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j84cmhWOFN0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUCQ481nYP0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVnUo3BFoq8)Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIf you're a therapist or therapist-in-training looking to enhance your social media presence while staying true to your values, hopefully this video is for you.I explore your WHY, your WHO, and your WHAT — three key questions if you want to grow on social media in a way that feels sustainable and authentic. Drawing from my own experience, I share how social media can support (rather than drain) both your practice and your personal life.In this video, I cover:1. Why social media matters – The potential benefits and the costs of putting yourself out there2. Intentional use – How to make sure it adds value rather than overwhelm3. Authenticity – Why showing your real self can help build deeper connections (while also staying aware of boundaries and ethics!)4. Do you need a niche? – Thoughts on whether to start with one, and how it can naturally evolve5. Managing the challenges – Including anxiety, comparison, and the psychological impact of being onlineWhether you're just starting out or trying to grow, I hope this gives you encouragement and clarity.🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.**📹 More YouTube videos just like this:**(https://youtu.be/bv5sDWM-7TI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0FT3jEKjXI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j84cmhWOFN0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUCQ481nYP0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVnUo3BFoq8)🌐 Website at: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."#therapytraining #psychotherapy #counselling #mentalhealth #becomingatherapistSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailDiscover the top 5 reasons why I love being a therapist! From leading a more loved life to experiencing real human connection, constant learning, feeling part of a community, and avoiding negative impacts on my well-being. If you find the video helpful, please feel free to SHARE it, tap 'LIKE' to show your support, and do SUBSCRIBE for more content like this!🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📹 More YouTube videos just like this:(https://youtu.be/bv5sDWM-7TI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0FT3jEKjXI)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j84cmhWOFN0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUCQ481nYP0)(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVnUo3BFoq8)🎧 My podcast with the audio of this video is at: (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2067601)🌐 Website at: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on my YouTube homepage.Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.""The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."#therapytraining #psychotherapy #counselling #mentalhealth #becomingatherapistSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I welcome Patricia to discuss the complex subject of anxiety and the role of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in managing it. Key Topics:1. Introduction to Anxiety:   - We look at what anxiety is, a fear-based emotion that can dominate life if not managed properly.   - How fear and anxiety, while often seen as negative, can be valuable when understood and managed correctly.2. Using ACT skills to manage anxiety effectively:  - We look at the concept of 'becoming' through values-based actions.  - The importance of taking intentional steps towards who you want to be, despite internal fears, helping individuals become who they want to be. - The importance of responding to both external and internal stimuli in a way that aligns with personal values.3. Patricia shares her personal experiences with anxiety, including giving a TEDx talk, which was a significant anxiety-provoking event for her.4. We talk about lots of practical advice and suggestions for people experiencing anxiety based distress.5. Patricia also shares her advice for those entering the profession and her favourite piece of life advice for people generally!Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Patricia’s links:Latest book:  The ACT Workbook for the Anxious Procrastinator: How to Accept Yourself, Get Things Done and Do More of What MattersOnline classes: https://courses.thisisdoctorz.comPersonal website: www.thisisdoctorz.comTherapy/coaching website: www.eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.comBooks: https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/books/Instagram: Dr. Z.https://www.instagram.com/dr.z.passionatebehaviorist/Twitter https://twitter.com/DrZ_behavioristFacebook East Bay Behavior Therapy Center https://www.facebook.com/EastBayBehaviorTherapyCenterFacebook: Dr. Z.https://www.facebook.com/Dr-Z-102029237841421Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patricia-e-zurita-ona-psy-d-949b5a15/***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you’ll discover it’s carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: “John-Paul’s course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.” and“The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul’s warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend.”For additional resources and insights, be sure to visit my website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk?sub_confirmation=1.Stay tuned for future videos on various topics related to personal groSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan Mail***NOTE: I'd love to have more stories, experiences and journeys about bisexuality/bi+ on this channel, whether that's in-person guests like this one, or reading out someone's story. If you feel you'd like to do either of these, do just either message me in the comments below, or email me on [email protected] to have a chat about itThanks! John-Paul***In the latest in my ongoing series focused on bisexuality and bi+ identities, in this episode, I welcome Rob Cohen  @twobiguys , author of the book 'Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity', to discuss the nuances of bisexuality, identity, and authenticity and the broader themes of acceptance and self-discovery within a straight or 'straight facing' relationship. Some topics covered:  -  some statistics about the bisexual community, emphasising the prevalence of bisexual people in mixed-gender relationships. - Rob shares his personal story of identifying as straight until his late 20s and the subsequent exploration of his bisexual identity, highlighting the significance and life-changing benefits of being authentic and vulnerable,- the challenges and benefits of 'coming out' within a straight facing relationship, - challenges bisexual people face in terms of acceptance and the importance of self-acceptance and community support generally,- discussion about the relationships that tend to last when someone discloses their bisexuality,- an exploration of the differences between the sexual and romantic aspects of relationships in this context, - lots of insights from Rob's book as he shares his thoughts on living authentically and the impact it can have on oneself and the world - healing oneself and influencing others positively,- a discussion about community for bisexual/bi+ people looking to establish or join some kind of bisexual community, - great advice from Rob for anyone at the early stages of discovering a bi identity and his favourite piece of life advice!Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!More videos just like this:https://youtu.be/e9FIQbVeC_4?si=qJhKoqKtfqaJYScchttps://youtu.be/baqmVJtuCV0https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olW2-s3IM6shttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-EJgAoHessRob's links:My coaching website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/coachingTwo Bi Guys: https://zencastr.com/two-bi-guysMe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robertbrookscohen/Two Bi Guys on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/twobiguys/Me/Two Bi Guys on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robertbrookscohenFluid Conversations Series: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/fluid-conversationsMy podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. 'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."***Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailTherapy Training: the CONs (and some PROs!) ft Charlotte BattistaIn this episode, I welcome Charlotte Battista to discuss the challenges and some of the benefits of therapy training. Charlotte is in the early stages of her counselling and wellbeing career, with a passion for corporate work and an interest in relationships. This episode provides a comprehensive look into the world of therapy training, offering practical advice and personal experiences.Charlotte shares her background and what drew her to the field of therapy, influenced by her father's career as a mental health nurse.  The conversation then delves into the potential challenges faced during therapy training, including time management, getting placements and balancing academic commitments, as well as what she might plan to do looking into the future. We talk in detail about all aspects of Charlotte's experiences to date in the training, including being one of the youngest people on her course and what that's been like for her. She also offers valuable advice for those considering a career in therapy and the significance of social media in building a professional presence and networking and shares her favourite piece of life advice: "Worry is a waste of the imagination"!Charlotte's social media links:https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlotte-battista-bacp-b3b534286/https://www.instagram.com/charlotte.battista?igsh=d2lubmdkMGVnbHVm&utm_source=qrhttps://www.tiktok.com/@charlotte.battista?_t=ZN-8uodwzHNETW&_r=1Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Other similar videos include:Harry Japp - https://youtu.be/UBcLgpOy8CAMaria Parker - https://youtu.be/ajWo-N_PSRULee Rasberry - https://youtu.be/04j8fVhTVTwRichard Campbell - https://youtu.be/FuBe9lghF9wRobert Cuming - https://youtu.be/KYaD6-ARSnAMichael Toller - https://youtu.be/ZxDuaHRnFEYBob Heath - https://youtu.be/AjXbtGgTidEFahim Ahmed - https://youtu.be/bS05Lt2WfOgMy podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I welcome Mark Cusack from  @notdefining an author, lecturer, content creator, and coach specialising in supporting individuals with complex, fluid, or undefined orientations and genders. Mark shares insights from his personal experiences and professional expertise, focusing on bisexuality and the broader spectrum of sexual orientation and gender identity.1. Introduction to Mark:- Mark's background as an author and content creator.- His work with  @notdefining a platform for educational content on sexuality and gender diversity2. Mark's Personal Journey:- Growing up with diverse attractions and the struggle with identity in a binary world  - The motivation behind starting his YouTube channel and writing his book "Fluid"3. Understanding Bisexuality:- Common misconceptions about bisexuality and the importance of visibility- The challenges faced by bisexual individuals in relationships and society4. Community and Support:- The role of online platforms like YouTube in providing community and support- Recommendations for finding bisexual communities and resources5. The Five Things all Bisexual People should know: - It's way more common than you think- Can be very vulnerable to mental health issues / how to heal- It often changes and shifts- There are many different types of bi+- Absolutely "queer enough"6. Mark's Advice and Insights:   - Encouragement to embrace one's identity and live authentically   - The significance of self-acceptance and advocating for oneselfThank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!More YouTube videos just like this:https://youtu.be/baqmVJtuCV0https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olW2-s3IM6shttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-EJgAoHesshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XH7w0l3hFPQhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L5YIsXwH2mMhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QyFTqHQpjgMark’s book and YouTube links below:https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/mark-cusack/fluid/9781805013686/https://www.youtube.com/@notdefiningMy podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include "The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailTherapy's FUTURE?: Exploring the Integration of Neuroscience and AI in Therapy Training and Therapy (Subscriber's Question)Here is the Subscriber's question: 'Moving over from an industry that has become dominated by AI (and having a lot of working years left), one of my concerns is for longevity of a profession. A friend of mine who recently finished a therapy adjacent Masters thinks that as mental health becomes increasingly integrated into the health system, less 'scientific' qualifications like a Diploma may hold less long-term value in terms of professional recognition or legal right to practice. Would you be able to offer your view on the topic (or dismiss it!), or point me towards any sources that offer some insight before I make my choice of training?'In this episode, I addresses a subscriber's question about the future of the therapy profession and therapy training, focusing on the integration of neuroscience and artificial intelligence (AI). I explore how these fields are influencing training and practice in therapy, and the potential impact on the profession over the next 10 to 15 years.1. Neuroscience in Therapy Training and Therapy:   - The increasing integration of mental health into the health system in the UK.   - The role of neuroscience concepts such as the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, windows of tolerance, and polyvagal theory in trauma treatment and therapy training   - The importance of combining scientific and symbolic approaches in therapy, allowing for a more holistic understanding of clients2. Artificial Intelligence in Therapy:   - The use of AI tools like ChatGPT in providing support between therapy sessions, offering quick, balanced cognitive assessments   - The potential benefits and limitations of AI in therapy, including its inability to replace the empathetic and relational aspects of human therapists. Looking at issues including care, empathy and attunement, challenge, imperfection, embodiment and intuition.3. The Future of Therapy Training:   - The evolving nature of therapy diplomas and the integration of neuroscience into training programmes   - The potential for therapy to become a more regulated profession, with a focus on maintaining the relational aspects of therapy alongside scientific advancements and the importance of integrating both scientific and relational approaches in therapy to address the diverse needs of clients.Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this really insightful and hopefully helpful podcast, I interview Karl Melvin, a therapist with over 13 years of experience in the area of navigating family estrangement. Karl defines estrangement as creating distance between family members, which can vary in degree and form, which can be emotional, geographical, or communicative. The discussion highlights the challenges and dynamics involved in estrangement, emphasising its complexity and the continuum from complete disconnection to minimal contact.Karl shares some therapeutic approaches for dealing with estrangement, focusing on individual circumstances and the importance of understanding family dynamics. He discusses the role of communication in reconnection, suggesting the use of different mediums like video and voice notes, and stresses the importance of timing and changing circumstances.The conversation also covers emotional and practical support strategies, including some from Karl's book, "Navigating Family Estrangement," offering insights and tools for understanding and managing this difficult and complex issue. These include Karl's "estrangement toolbox," which offers tools including emotional validation and practical planning for family events. Karl encourages resilience and maintaining hope, advising viewers not to give up on themselves despite the difficulties they face and the challenges of estrangement. As ever, I hope it's helpful.Karl’s Socials: Website: https://karlmelvin.com Email: [email protected]  LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karl-melvin- psychotherapist-ma-miacp-2a29679/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karl.melvin/  FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/ToxicEscape/  ResearchGate: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Karl-MelvinThank you for listening to this podcast. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it and please do FOLLOW to show your support, it would be much appreciated!My podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I give some reflections on this Subscriber's Question: "Would you talk about if it makes sense to try to become a therapist if one is not healed herself, Is 'I can do this as a therapist because this helps me as a patient' realistic or delusional? Thanks!"I talk about the complexities of being a therapist, focusing on the psychological state required to effectively support clients, revolving around the idea of whether therapists need to be fully healed themselves to offer meaningful therapy and how our personal development plays a crucial role in the therapeutic process.Some areas I cover include:1. The Therapist's Self as a Tool:   - The importance of the therapist's personal development and self-awareness in creating a therapeutic relationship.   - How the therapist's own journey and emotional regulation can influence the therapy process2. Healing and Emotional Well-being:   - Exploration of what it means to be "healed" and how therapists can manage their own emotional challenges while supporting clients.   - The concept of healing as an ongoing process rather than a permanent state3. Therapist's Emotional Regulation:   - The role of emotional regulation in therapy and how therapists can maintain a balanced emotional state to effectively support clients.   - Discussion on the unrealistic expectations placed on therapists to be emotionally perfect4. Realistic vs. Delusional Expectations:   - Addressing the question of whether it is realistic for therapists to believe that helping others can also aid in their own healing.   - Insights into the mutual benefits of therapeutic relationships for both therapists and clients5. Challenges and Responsibilities:   - The challenges therapists face in managing their own emotional triggers and the responsibility to provide a safe and supportive environment for clients.   - The importance of self-reflection and choosing the 'right' clients to work withAs ever, please do share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section!Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan Mail***Note: all therapy/counselling courses are different and it would be great to hear how yours is similar/different to Harry’s. Please do therefore feel free to comment on this below and on anything raised in the conversation generally***Harry Japp is a trainee psychotherapist at CCPE in London, and YouTuber at https://youtube.com/@UC2H_W34ylBp3nPvv6orhG8w where he shares insights from his training journey.In this episode, Harry and I discuss his experiences and insights gained from his foundation course psychotherapy training, including the potential costs of training. Key Points include:- how the course includes lectures, experiential work, and personal therapy with an explanation and exploration of all these various elements, - the financial aspects of training, including tuition and additional costs for personal therapy and resources. The need to be aware of potential 'hidden costs' other than just the course fees, with details of these potential costs, -  Harry shares some experiential exercises to give an idea of what to expect of this aspect of the  course, including creating masks to symbolise persona and true self, highlighting the emotional differences when interacting as each,- an explanation of the 'triad' work involving the roles of therapist, client, and observer that's a part of therapy training courses, - great advice for anyone looking to begin a therapy course, - Harry's personal experience of both the benefits and the challenges of undertaking a course such as this.  Overall, the episode provides really valuable insights into what to expect from therapy training and the  journey of self-discovery within the context of the training.Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Other similar YouTube videos include:Maria Parker - https://youtu.be/ajWo-N_PSRULee Rasberry - https://youtu.be/04j8fVhTVTwRichard Campbell - https://youtu.be/FuBe9lghF9wRobert Cuming - https://youtu.be/KYaD6-ARSnAMichael Toller - https://youtu.be/ZxDuaHRnFEYBob Heath - https://youtu.be/AjXbtGgTidEFahim Ahmed - https://youtu.be/bS05Lt2WfOgWebsite at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailThis podcast features my conversation with Lindsay Percival, focusing on the integration of spirituality and psychotherapy, along with talking about Lindsay's practice as a medium. Lindsay shares her journey from journalism to therapy, emphasising her spiritual awakening through experiences with healing energy. Some of the many topics covered include: - Lindsay discusses the intersection of psychotherapy and mediumship, highlighting how her mediumship work aims to provide comfort to those grieving and to help heal relationships that may have been strained before a loved one's passing. She expresses her belief in the continuity of the soul beyond a physical end.- Lindsay introduces her program called "Soul Power," which aims to help individuals connect with their authentic selves and personal power. She discusses the importance of understanding one's soul's yearnings and the transformative journey involved.- We cover various therapeutic techniques used in her practice, including visualisation, creative imagination, and the development of a "Soul Care Plan" to help clients manifest their desires and needs. - A significant theme is the need for individuals to reconnect with themselves to gain clarity about their lives and desires. Lindsay emphasises the importance of intuition in therapy and the role of the therapist in facilitating this connection.- The conversation touches on the importance of self-love and the ongoing journey of personal development, encouraging individuals to validate themselves and cultivate healthier relationships.- Lindsay gives some great advice to therapists in training and also some very valuable general life advice.Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Other similar YouTube videos include:Maria Parker - https://youtu.be/ajWo-N_PSRUJames Hawes - https://youtu.be/7Hg_pGVP6EIDr Nicholas Brüss - https://youtu.be/pDAcrbcdZ0MPhilippa Smethurst - https://youtu.be/Bm_0g6hfCCsMichael Toller - https://youtu.be/ZxDuaHRnFEYBob Heath - https://youtu.be/AjXbtGgTidEFahim Ahmed - https://youtu.be/bS05Lt2WfOgMy podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailFull YouTube videos here:Maria Parker - https://youtu.be/ajWo-N_PSRUJames Hawes - https://youtu.be/7Hg_pGVP6EIDr Nicholas Brüss - https://youtu.be/pDAcrbcdZ0MPhilippa Smethurst - https://youtu.be/Bm_0g6hfCCsMichael Toller - https://youtu.be/ZxDuaHRnFEYLindsay Percival (coming 5th March)Bob Heath - https://youtu.be/AjXbtGgTidEFahim Ahmed - https://youtu.be/bS05Lt2WfOgThis is a compilation of responses to the question of what's your favourite piece of life advice that I've asked experienced therapists over the course of my conversations on this channel. Some suggestions include: - Self-Reliance vs. Connection: the balance between being self-sufficient and recognising the need for connection with others. - The importance of staying curious and open to new experiences and the significance of knowing oneself deeply.- Finding Your Voice: the journey of finding one's voice and being our authentic true selves.- Embracing the Moment: a powerful reminder to be present and appreciate the moment.- Insights from Ralph Waldo Emerson about starting each day anew.Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!My podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I've put together the best advice for the journey of becoming a therapist from many of the great YouTube conversations I've had. We discuss the importance of personal growth, ongoing education, and the therapeutic relationship, with my guests sharing valuable insights and advice for those considering, or starting, a career in therapy. Full videos here:Michael Toller - https://youtu.be/ZxDuaHRnFEYLindsay Percival (coming 5th March)Robert Cuming - https://youtu.be/KYaD6-ARSnALee Rasberry - https://youtu.be/04j8fVhTVTwRichard Nicholls - https://youtu.be/2MG1JJK_wc4Caz Binstead - https://youtu.be/AfpcssE6df8Richard Campbell - https://youtu.be/FuBe9lghF9wLou Lebentz - https://youtu.be/PXx5DQEnVJkBob Heath - https://youtu.be/AjXbtGgTidEDr Leslie Lund - https://youtu.be/8kqTXs9qRsgMark Brayne - https://youtu.be/UJvVz0gCKhkSome insights include: - Personal Growth: Becoming a therapist is not just about acquiring knowledge; it's about personal development and understanding oneself. Continuous growth is essential throughout your career  -  Importance of Therapy: Engaging in therapy as a client can provide invaluable insights into the therapeutic process and help aspiring therapists understand their motivations - Finding the Right Programme: It's important to choose a training program that resonates with you. Research different modalities and institutions to find the best fit for your personal and professional goals- Self-Care and Burnout Prevention: Therapists should prioritise self-care to avoid burnout. Recognising personal limits and maintaining a healthy work-life balance is vital- The Role of Curiosity and Courage: Successful therapists often embody curiosity and courage, allowing them to connect deeply with clients and facilitate meaningful change- Commitment to Service: A career in therapy is a lifelong commitment to serving others, requiring dedication and a genuine desire to helpThank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!My podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of psychedelic assisted therapy, discussing various substances such as ketamine, MDMA, and psilocybin. Nick shares personal experiences and insights on how these medicines can facilitate profound healing and self-discovery, particularly when combined with Internal Family Systems ('IFS'). We explore the neurological effects of these substances, the importance of integration sessions, and the therapeutic processes involved in working with different parts of the self.Key Topics Discussed:- Psychedelic Substances: an overview of ketamine, MDMA, and psilocybin and the differences between synthetic and naturally occurring psychedelics.- Therapeutic Benefits: How psychedelics can help reduce fear and enhance trust in relationships and the role of these substances in revealing deeper aspects of the self.- Safety and Guidance: The significance of having a therapist or guide during psychedelic experiences and strategies for creating a safe environment for exploration.- Integration Process: Importance of preparation and integration sessions with psychedelic experiences.- Techniques for building relationships with different parts of oneself through the use of IFS.- The transformative potential of psychedelics in understanding vulnerability and compassion and the ongoing journey of integrating insights gained from psychedelic experiences into daily life.Nick's web and social media links:IG: @drnickbrussWebsite: www.apracticeoffreedom.comhttps://psychedelics.berkeley.edu/https://doubleblindmag.com/He'll be presenting with Dick Schwartz (IFS founder) on psychedelics at a trauma conference in Oxford in Sept: https://mastersevents.com/oxford-2025/Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I discuss growing a YouTube channel, particularly for a therapists, based on my own experiences and offering practical tips to enhance channel growth and engagement.Key Topics Covered:1. Three Key Areas for Growth   - Video 'Packaging':     - The significance of eye-catching thumbnails and compelling titles.     - The role of dramatic descriptions in increasing click-through rates.   - Content Creation:     - Importance of creating engaging and relevant content.     - Exploring various mental health topics that resonate with viewers.   - Community Engagement:     - Building a supportive community around your channel.     - The impact of regular interaction with viewers.2. Utilising YouTube Shorts:   - How posting Shorts can drive traffic to your channel.   - Tips for integrating Shorts with long-form content.3. SEO and Discoverability:   - The role of tags and descriptions in improving video visibility.   - Strategies for optimising content for YouTube's algorithm.4. Consistency is Key:   - The necessity of regular content posting for channel growth.   - Balancing personal interests with audience expectations.5. Final Thoughts:   - Encouragement to embrace creativity and authenticity in content creation.   - Invitation for viewers to reach out for one-on-one consultations regarding channel development.   - The importance of passion and consistency in creating content that not only attracts viewers but also fosters a meaningful community.Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!My podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I'm so pleased to welcome Mark Brayne, a hugely experienced psychotherapist specialising in the trauma treatment - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). We begin with Mark's fascinating career and his reasons for becoming a trauma therapist, through his previous career as a BBC journalist and foreign correspondent, including him interviewing George Michael from Wham! when they visited China back in the 1980s. We then cover the complexities of trauma, the effectiveness of EMDR, and the nuances of attachment-focused EMDR therapy, including: - an Introduction to EMDR, as Mark explains the fundamentals of the therapy, its phases, and how it differs from traditional therapeutic approaches.- Understanding Trauma: the conversation covers the various types of trauma, including 'big T' and 'small T' trauma, and how they impact individuals.- The Role of the Nervous System: Mark discusses how the nervous system processes trauma and the importance of understanding this in therapy.- Mark takes me through an exercise in 'real time' to identify a core memory and then explains next steps.- Bilateral Stimulation: An explanation of how bilateral stimulation works in EMDR and its significance in processing traumatic memories.- Attachment-Focused EMDR: Mark explains the concept of attachment-focused EMDR and how it simplifies the standard protocol for better outcomes.- Practical Applications: practical insights on how EMDR can be applied in therapeutic settings, including online therapy adaptations.- Mark gives some great advice for anyone coming into the profession who wants to train as a therapistMark's website links :https://braynework.com/ and https://emdrfocus.com/faces/mark-brayne/Thank you for watching listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on my YouTube channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan Mail***NOTE: I’d love to be able to have more stories, experiences and journeys about bisexuality on this channel, whether that’s in-person guests like this one, or reading out someone’s story. If you feel you’d like to do either of these, do just either message me in the comments below, or email me on [email protected] to have a chat about itThanks! John-Paul***In this episode, I welcome Tom Ward-Thomas, a writer and actor, to discuss his journey with bisexuality. We look into his personal experiences, societal perceptions, and the importance of representation in media. This episode offers valuable insights into the complexities of bisexuality, the importance of representation, and the journey of self-acceptance. Watch for hopefully an engaging conversation that highlights the richness of diverse sexual identities.Key Topics Discussed:  - Tom shares his background and how he identifies as bisexual.  - Discussion on the journey of self-acceptance and acknowledgement of bisexuality.  - The effects of acknowledging one's sexuality on mental health.  - Tom discusses the challenges faced by bisexual individuals in navigating relationships and societal perceptions.  - Tom reflects on his dating history and the realisation of his bisexual identity.  - The impact of societal expectations and stereotypes on bisexual individuals.  - The importance of accurate representation of bisexuality in film and television.  - Tom's involvement in projects that aim to normalise bisexuality and showcase diverse narratives.  - Encouragement for those exploring their bisexual identity to seek support and be open about their experiences.  - The significance of having trusted individuals to confide in.Tom also shares his current projects, including a short film on the festival circuit and upcoming writing projects.Tom’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomwardthomas/Tom’s IMDb page: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm4792976/?ref_=ext_shr_lnkBisexual Brunch Podcast: https://bisexualbrunch.buzzsprout.com/Thank you for watching. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE and FOLLOW to show your support, it would be much appreciated!My podcast with the audio of this video is at: https//www.buzzsprout.com/2067601Website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I welcome Dave Birchmore, a career transition expert, who shares insights on navigating career changes using his innovative model, VIA NOVA. This model, meaning "new path," is designed to help individuals successfully transition from one career to another.Dave talks about his background in healthcare as a radiographer, his shift from a corporate role to entrepreneurship and, most recently, founding VIA NOVA to assist others in career transitions. We then talk in detail about the model itself, with me applying it to my own experience of becoming a therapist and subsequently setting up a private therapy practice. The 7 steps of the model we talk about are as follows:    1. Value: identifying transferable skills.    2. Imagine: the importance visualising future career aspirations.    3. Affordability: understanding all of the financial implications of a career change.    4. Now What: deciding whether to stay in the current role or pursue a new path.    5. Overcoming Barriers: addressing any mental, physical, and social obstacles to career change.    6. Validation: confirming decisions with support from peers and mentors.    7. Action: taking definitive steps towards the new career.Along the way we also talk about the potential challenges in career transitions, such as the  emotional and financial hurdles faced and the societal pressures associated with leaving established careers. Dave gives lots of advice for aspiring career changers, including the importance of reaching out to those who have made similar transitions and an emphasis on the value of passion and fulfilment in one's career.Dave's website and social media links:www.vianova.lifehttps://www.facebook.com/vianovahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/davidbirchmorehttps://www.linkedin.com/company/vianovalifehttps://www.youtube.com/@vianovaplanningThank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'FOLLOW' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on my YouTube channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailBreaking Free From Trauma: A Conversation with Trauma Therapist and Author Philippa Smethurst  In this episode, I welcome experienced therapist and author Philippa Smethurst to discuss the complexities of trauma, its manifestations, and ways to heal. Philippa shares insights from her recently published book, "20 Ways to Break Free From Trauma," and explores the various symptoms and responses associated with trauma.Key Topics Discussed:- Introduction to trauma and its significance in therapy.- Philippa's background and her journey from Tiananmen Square into trauma specialisation.- The definition of trauma and its broad impact on individuals.- Different manifestations of trauma, including anger, depression, and loneliness.- The importance of understanding trauma as a multifaceted experience.- Insights from Philippa's book, including some of the many symptoms of trauma.- The role of the body in processing trauma and the concept of sensory motor therapy.- The impact of external events, such as news and global crises, on personal trauma.- The concept of post-traumatic growth and finding purpose after trauma.- Practical self-help strategies and exercises for trauma recovery.- The significance of therapeutic relationships in healing trauma.Guest Information:- Philippa Smethurst is a trauma specialist and author of "20 Ways to Break Free From Trauma." She has over 30 years of experience in the field and is passionate about helping individuals understand and heal from their trauma.Resources Mentioned:- Philippa's book: "20 Ways to Break Free From Trauma": https://philippasmethurst.com/bookshop - press release about the book: https://philippasmethurst.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Press-Release-F3.pdfFollow Philippa:- YouTube Channel: Break Free from Trauma, https://youtube.com/@philippasmethurst- Newsletter Sign-Up: https://philippasmethurst.com/news#contactform7 - Website: philippasmethurst.com- Instagram: 20waystobreakfreefromtrauma/- X: @philippatherapy- Facebook: philippatherapy- LinkedIn: Philippa Smethurst- Link to Philippa being interviewed by Sir Terry Waite, former hostage and human rights advocate about trauma and the book: https://youtu.be/Er1ayJyE8Ys?si=X1wNLf09bXsDputUThank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to follow to show your support, it would be much appreciated!***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on this channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailTraining to be a therapist can have a profound impact on relationships. In this episode, I address a subscriber's question about how therapy training affects romantic and close relationships. While I can't provide specific advice, I offer reflections on the potential effects and how to navigate them.Therapy training can help us develop better communication skills and boundaries, which can really benefit our relationships, but it's important to acknowledge that change may not always be easy, especially in long-standing relationships. Ultimately, therapy training can lead to personal growth and improved relationships, but I think it's important to approach it with realistic expectations and a willingness to work on ourselves. Let me know your thoughts as ever, I'd love to hear them!Here's the subscriber's question: 'I'm currently going through training to become a therapist (very early on) I'm a little concerned that once I'm super aware of my relationships and my personality etc, that I'm going to try and change my wife / give advice to, or push ideas onto her, around her personality traits and I'd obviously like to leave my personal relationship alone. How do you navigate seeing traits in someone close to you, that you dislike or don't align with?'Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to SUSBCRIBE for more content like this!***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on my YouTube channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."#TherapyTraining #Relationships #PersonalDevelopmentSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I  show you around my therapy room with some advice on setting up a therapy room at home. Based on my own experience, I discuss various elements that can enhance both the therapist's and clients' experiences, including lighting choices, comfortable seating, time management, digital interaction and temperature control. As ever, do let me know your thoughts and experiences on setting up a therapy room, including any tips you've found helpful. Thank you for listening to this episode. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to SUBSCRIBE for more content like this, it would be much appreciated***My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change is now available on my YouTube channel in a playlist you'll find on the channel homepage. Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – see this free course and you'll discover it's carefully designed to help you to do this.***  'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include: "John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others." and"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I welcome Lee Rasberry, a trainee therapist, to discuss his potential career transition from engineering to counselling. Lee shares insights from his journey, including challenges, passion, and has lots of valuable advice for those considering a similar path.Key Points:1. Lee's background: his experience in engineering and product management, completing an MBA at Warwick Business School and discovering a passion for psychology and organisational behaviour.2. His catalysts for change: major life events, such as becoming a parent and the COVID pandemic, prompted Lee to re-evaluate his career, as well as personal experiences with counselling that ignited his interest in becoming a therapist.3. Deciding to pursue counselling: Lee's realisation that a human-centered career path is likely to suit him better than his role in engineering, looking at the importance of self-reflection and identifying personal values.4. Training at Matrix College: he talks about the integrative counselling degree course that he's  currently studying, the balance of academic work and practical experience within the program.5. Great advice for Aspiring Therapists: Lee has lots of suggestions for ideas to bear in mind in making the career change: 1 - What you do tomorrow doesn't devalue what you did today or yesterday.2 - Change is inevitable, in you and in the world.3 - Listen to your gut, give the cognitive muscle a rest.4 - Explore and understand your values - recognise when they change.5 - Seek new experiences that get you in touch with different sides of yourself.6 - Expand your circle, look for variety in your connections.7 - You cannot mitigate all the risk, dangers and unknowns. Change will cost time and money.8 - You may never know if you don't have a go.9 - Think about what you are moving away from, and towards.10 - Think about the WORK, and HOW the work is done.6. Challenges Faced: he talks about the potential challenges faced including balancing study, work, and family life while managing stress and deadlines.7. Future Aspirations: Lee's goal of establishing a private practice while keeping an open mind about potential career developments as he encourages listeners to trust themselves and explore their passions.Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to 'SUBSCRIBE' to show your support, it would be much appreciated!Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailSubscriber’s question: ‘I'm struggling with this question right now. I've had a long career in technology, but am burned out from it and need to do something else. I also started getting counselling myself a few years ago and find it helpful and very interesting.I'm also very much an introvert, and not really a people person at all, although I'm very sensitive and empathetic. How the heck do i know if i could be a good counsellor? Does a masters program sort of transform you into one?Thanks!’This podcast is a response to the above subscriber's question about how to know if one would be a good counsellor, given that they don't consider themselves a great "people person" and are more introverted.  It also addresses a comment from another viewer about the need for a "portfolio career" to earn enough as a therapist. I explore what I think are many of the common traits and qualities of a 'good therapist', such as:- Curiosity and openness to new ideas      - Self-reflection and tolerance      - Empathy and sensitivity      - Emotional intimacy and vulnerability      - Active listening and communication skills      - Optimism and hope      - Good boundaries - Honesty      - Warmth and kindness    The podcast also mentions other qualities like creativity, connection to nature, and lack of competitiveness. Looking specifically at the subscriber's question, I suggest that their perception of themselves as not being a "people person" or being introverted may be shaped by their past experiences and environment.   The training and being around other therapists can help transform these beliefs and bring out the qualities that are valued in the profession, encouraging the subscriber to be curious and observant about how they feel in the training environment and to trust their own experience.Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailToday is the release day of Caz Binstead's new book "Relational Ethics in Psychotherapy and Counselling Private Practice: Solidarity, Compassion, Justice (Ethics In Action)" (published by Routledge), which also features a short case study on my YouTube channel! An excerpt from the Amazon book description: 'This book explores the ethics around everything connected with setting up and running a therapy private practice... The book provides exercises, examples, and vignettes, in addition to the author's own unique working model, to help the reader bring theoretical reflections into their own everyday practice...and... will help private practitioners feel more confident and grounded in their private practice and up-to-date with developing thoughts. It will also appeal to training institutes, supervisors, and students.'In this podcast, I had the pleasure of chatting with Caz about her journey to releasing the book and the importance of ethics in private practice. She's an experienced private practitioner, supervisor, writer, and facilitator, with a passion for ethical and thriving practice. She has helped hundreds of therapists with their private practices and believes in the importance of balancing ethical considerations with business growth. The book covers various topics, including solidarity, compassion, justice, and the importance of endings in therapy. Caz also runs projects like Trainee Talk and Therapists Create, which provide support and opportunities for therapists and trainees to connect and explore their creativity. If you're interested in learning more about ethical practice and the journey of releasing a book, this podcast is for you.Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to share it, don't forget to subscribe to the channel to show your support. Also, please do subscribe to my YouTube channel for more content like this!Don't forget to check out Caz's new book and support her amazing work. You can find out more about Caz via her website:www.cazbinstead.comIf you are interested in joining in with any of Caz' projects - #TherapistsCreate or #TraineeTalk, or, to find out more about the #TherapistsConnect community, please email her on [email protected], feel free to connect with Caz on social media:https://www.facebook.com/caztc https://twitter.com/cazbinny https://www.instagram.com/night_owl_counsellor/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/caz-binstead-385873302?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_apphttps://www.tiktok.com/@cazbinny?_t=8r0YYxI2lLU&_r=1https://bsky.app/profile/cazbinny.bsky.socialSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailMen's Mental Health Awareness Month continues in November! In this podcast, I look into the importance of empathy for men and how it can help manage anger, foster vulnerability, and improve relationships by way of a thought experiment. Imagine a life where your close friends are gone, your internal guidance system is severed, and your worth is solely based on competitive wins or losses. This experiment sheds light on the daily struggles faced by many men - isolation, estrangement, shame, rage, and despair. I think empathy is a key to change. By establishing empathy for ourselves and experiencing it from others, we can often understand more and address the root causes of our challenges. Coupled with a commitment to do things differently, empathy becomes a powerful catalyst for personal growth and healthier relationships. Please do share your reflections and thoughts on this experiment and feel free to email me separately, I'd love to hear your insights. Take care of yourselves and stay tuned for more content. Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to share it, don't forget to subscribe to the channel to show your support. Also, please do subscribe to my YouTube channel for more content like this!Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn today's podcast, join me as I chat with James Hawes, an experienced therapist and author of 'The Secret Lives of Men', to discuss the topics of men and anger, as well as empathy and intimacy and the effects all of these have on men's lives and relationships.  Anger is a complex emotion that can have a significant impact on men's psychological and physical health. Often associated with protection and survival, it can be a valuable asset if managed consciously, however, if left unchecked, it can have catastrophic consequences. A lack of empathy can similarly strain relationships and hinder personal growth, as can a lack of intimacy, which plays a vital role in healthy relationships. James is a therapist with extensive experience working with men and has a deep understanding of the impact of these issues on men's lives. During our conversation, he shares his insights into anger, emotional fitness, and the importance of empathy and intimacy. He discusses various therapeutic approaches and exercises that can help men develop emotional fitness and connect with their emotions and emphasises the significance of creating a safe and supportive environment for men to explore their emotions and vulnerabilities.We also touch on the role of banter in male relationships and how it can sometimes hinder vulnerability and intimacy. James provides valuable insights into how men can navigate these challenges and foster healthier connections with others.In conclusion, anger, empathy, and intimacy are interconnected aspects that significantly impact men's lives and relationships. By developing emotional fitness, cultivating empathy, and embracing vulnerability, men can enhance their overall well-being and create more fulfilling connections with others.Thank you for listening. If you do enjoy it, please feel free to share it, don't forget to subscribe to the channel to show your support. Also, please do subscribe to my YouTube channel for more content like this!James' Links:Link for website - https://synergycounselling.com/LinkedIN - https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-r-hawes/Book from Amazon https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1916279007?pf_rd_r=J98NF1AGJ2FB9E4WYXMB&pf_rd_p=6e878984-68d5-4fd2-b7b3-7bc79d9c8b60&pd_rd_r=bdc038e5-5dcc-4dee-9f71-8f763282ac09&pd_rd_w=EMxmG&pd_rd_wg=LrgDB&ref_=pd_gw_unkX - https://x.com/jamesrhawesSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan Mail1. Introduction to Nelly Khanum and her work with therapeutic art at the Fire Pit studio in London. 2. Nelly's personal journey into therapeutic art, finding creativity as a form of escapism and self-expression.3. Description of the structure and format of Nelly's art therapy workshops, including: - Challenging participants with activities like blindfolding, using two hands, and passing artwork around. - Incorporating music, poetry, and affirmations to create a safe and supportive environment. - Encouraging participants to express themselves freely without judgment or comparison. 4. The benefits of Nelly's art therapy workshops, including: - Helping participants rediscover their inner child and sense of creativity. - Building confidence, self-belief, and the ability to 'trust the process'. - Facilitating connections and learning from one another in a group setting.5. The challenges Nelly faces, such as coming up with new and engaging workshop ideas, and helping participants feel comfortable opening up. 6. Nelly's perspective on the innate nature of creativity and how it can be expressed in various forms beyond traditional art. 7. Nelly's advice for incorporating creativity and self-expression into everyday life, even in small ways. 8. Information on how to connect with Nelly and the Fire Pit studio, including their social media and upcoming workshops.Nelly's social link: https://www.instagram.com/nellyk_arts/profilecard/?igsh=cG4wNGVqNjdydDR4 If you enjoy this thoughtful exchange, please feel free to SHARE it, don't forget to subscribe to the channel to show your support, it would be much appreciated.  YouTube channel:https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnPaulDaviesTTP?sub_confirmation=1. For additional resources and insights, be sure to visit my website at: https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk?sub_confirmation=1. Thank you, John-PaulSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Send us Fan MailIn this conversation, we explore the  importance of ethical considerations and obligations that are involved in being a therapist in private practice, which are so important as we navigate our professional journeys. We discuss a wide range of topics such as the key role of supervision, which provides therapists with guidance and support, insurance, necessary for protecting both the therapist and clients, the clinical will, outlining a therapist's wishes in case of incapacitation, and contracts, which establish clear boundaries and expectations between the therapist and their clients. We also spend some time looking at the significant and ever-evolving use of social media by therapists, the importance of continuing professional development to enhance skills and knowledge, and the vital importance of self-care, which is often overlooked but is essential for maintaining a healthy therapist-client relationship. I hope this conversation will really help anyone who's thinking about these important issues in the field of therapy. Whether you've been in practice a while or are just starting your journey in this field, this discussion is designed to provide valuable insights and practical advice that will be beneficial for your practice.If you find this podcast helpful, please feel free to share it, don't forget to review to show your support, it would be much appreciated and please do follow this channel and my YouTube channel for more content like this! Thank you, John-Paul  YouTube channel:https://www.youtube.com/@JohnPaulDaviesTTPYou can contact Michael on: https://clinicalwill.app and https://www.michaeltollerpsychotherapy.co.ukSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk