Turned On With Sue And John
by BTR
Sue McGarvie is best known as "Sex With Sue!" A sex therapist, relationship expert, coach, author and speaker. Her Sunday night call-in radio show took Canada by storm in 1993. John is a freelance radio host heard across North America, and a champion for mental health, knowing all too well how fears about revealing our sexual kinks, desires and orientations can affect us. He has normalized conversations about sex on his show for years! Together, these longtime friends now bring you an outrageously fun, weekly, immersive, grown up sex education course that is unique in the world of podcast. This is Turned On With Sue & John.
Episodes
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Fetishes - You Want Me To Do WHAT?
This week, an incredible deep dive into fetishes. We'll discuss why so many people live in fear of someone finding out what we secretly desire, and why so many hide from their truth. And we also have a very real conversation about how best to make your partner aware of what you truly desire…
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What Men Wish Women Knew About Sex
They don't teach you this in high school health class. Where else are you going to learn about HOW to give oral sex? Or how to play with the balls? That's what this podcast does better than anyone! And today, Sue and John bust open the doors and reveal the things that men wish women knew about…
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Why Sex Is Better Than Porn
Porn. We know it's theater and yet... We seem to forget that it is. This week remind you why sex is, in fact, better than porn. Today, Sue and John will give you some tips so that you can make sex as good as, or even better that what you're seeing online. Beginning with recognizing that porn…
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What Women Want In Bed
Today you get to find out exactly what it is that her clitoris wishes you knew... And by the end of this episode you WILL know! Including: The clitoris: what science is finally discovering—and what to do with that information. How do you turn her on before touching her clitoris? How should you...
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Why Doesn't My Partner Want Me?
What happens when one partner keeps reaching, the other keeps retreating, and both end up feeling rejected? And... How do you talk about it? Well today, we do talk about it. Everything from the loneliest six inches in a relationship to when "not tonight" starts to mean "not you." Sue helps you...
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How Long Is Sex Supposed To Last?
25 minutes and 51 seconds. That is the most lied about number in sex. Today, Sex With Sue (Sue McGarvie) and John explain why as we discuss how long sex usually lasts, and how long is SHOULD actually last. We'll address the question you've asked yourself in bed but never said out loud... "Is my…
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When Orgasms Go Rogue
It's an entire show devoted to the inability to achieve orgasm. Sex With Sue is North America's leading expert on human sexuality and today she and John discuss this issue, which is more common that most probably realize. It not only affects individuals, but can impact your partner as well. We'll...
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How to Get as Hard as Possible
What do you do when you have a hard time getting hard? Or staying hard? Today, we talk about it. Including new treatments, and how commonplace erection medications are on porn sets, and at swinger clubs. In this week's swinger segment we'll get into why some men can't get hard even in that...
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How To Actually Get Someone Into Bed
Hey it's Sue and John - your guides today on how to better your odds of ending up in bed with someone you are attracted to! A 40 minute conversation that covers that space between flirting and spending the night together. We'll reveal where most people either freeze, fumble or accidentally kill…
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Behind the Dungeon Door: The Life of a Professional Dominatrix
Today we bring you inside a BDSM dungeon! It's an enormous space, in a very small community, in small town New Brunswick Canada! We'll introduce you to Mistress Aaliyah and Her husband Chuck, who is also the dungeon master. In just a few short years they turned their lifestyle into a space that...
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The Gigolo
Today... Meet a gigolo! Sue speaks to an Australian man who makes a living catering to the sexual needs and desires of women. It's a very usual occupation, and we'll explore who the woman are that use his service. This week we also guide you through what to expect if and when you visit a sex…
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The Sex Questions Everyone Is Really Asking
Welcome to the 200th episode of Turned On With Sue And John! Our friendship began when we both worked at the same radio station in 1992. John was a music DJ and Sue hosted a nationally syndicated, call in show about all things sex, including countless phone calls from people with questions that...
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Why Are We Turned On By Weird Things?
It's show #199! This week - Weird kinks. Or what we something believe are weird, until we meet others who share it. We'll explore the museum of unusual turn ons... From bug sex to human furniture and more! Listener questions this week include someone wondering if you can be too good at oral sex,...
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The Biggest Lies We've Been Told About Sex Over 40
This week we're going straight at the biggest lie we've all been told: that sex after 40 is a slow fade to nothing. It's not. It's a total rewrite — and most people never bother to read the new rules. What's On This Week's Show The Biggest Lie About Sex After 40: That your libido is supposed to...
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Swingathon, Naughty N'Awlins And What's New In Swinging
Sue is back from Swingathon UK with a first hand account of this growing swinger festival, plus details of Naughty N'Awlins which was also a HUGE success! And, we dive into what is NEW in the world of swinging, or ENM or any of the newer "lables" being attached to the lifestyle. Sue's Sassy Sex...
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Why Receiving Pleasure Is Harder Than Giving It
Sue McGarvie has been talking sex on the radio, in seminars, and in print since the early 90s! And now on this podcast - Turned On With Sue And John - the sex education you WISH someone would have pulled you aside and given you decades ago. This week... Pleasure! And why receiving is harder than...
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What Is The Best Kind Of Sex?
What is the best kind of sex? This week on Turned On With Sue and John we’ll help you answer that, including a list of the 10 best kinds, according to therapists around the world. Plus, we’ll discuss some types of sex that you may not believe are good, although, they actually are! Sue’s Sassy Sex...
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How Many Sex Partners Is Too Many?
1... 2... 3... How many sex partners have you had? Don't answer that. Because, the reality is, it doesn't matter. Your sexual history isn't a report card, or a scoreboard. Today Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and John discuss "The Body Count." Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week: The "Pulse and Pause"...
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The Sex Advice That’s Secretly Making Your Sex Life Worse - And What Actually Works
There is so much bad sex advice out there. And, sadly, a lot of people hear it, try it and things end up worse than they were. Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie has been a leading expert on this since the early 90s and on today's episode of Turned On With Sue And John, she addresses a lot of the bad...
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Lust
Have you ever just been in the presence of someone, even just in passing, and get an undeniable, overwhelming feeling of desire for them? Instantly? Today's conversation is all about lust. Merrium-Webster defines it as: usually intense or unbridled sexual desire : lasciviousness an intense…
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It's The End For Sexy Men
The flowing hair, the six pack abs, the tall dark and handsome figure who looks like he belongs on the cover of a romance novel... He is not what women really want. We'll even take a huge dick and fat wallet out of the equation. Today, Sex With Sue's Sue McGarvie reveals the things that women...
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Oral Sex
Today’s oral presentation is all about… Oral! We’ll introduce you to Jasmine, who partnered with Sue last weekend for an entire workshop devoted to oral sex! As a working professional, she’ll let you in on all kinds of tips (pardon the pun) and tricks! Sue also discusses some of the biggest oral...
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Has Swinging Become Too Mainstream?
Perhaps you see more of it because of the algorithm... Especially if you're in the lifestyle already and tend to search a lot of content on ethical non monogamy. But, swinging does seem to be much more common online and in the public discourse than ever. Has it become TOO mainstream? We dive into...
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What Makes You Feel Desired?
What makes you feel desired? A touch? A text? Holding hands? Today we talk about how to open up to your partner about what YOU need from them in order to feel desired... And sexy! On this episode we offer up some examples of questions you can ask them, or even ask yourself in order to start…
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Weird Things Humans Are Doing To Their Junk
Ballmaxing. It was the subject of an article published a few days ago that caught our attention and it's something Sue gets a lot of questions about. For a variety of reasons, people love to experiment with their privates! From injecting saline into the balls, to inserting sounding instruments…
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Why Sex Is Weird
It's a hot topic on Reddit right now... How awkward and weird humans are about our sexual desires, kinks, and behaviors around sex. On this episode we get into WHY we're so weird. From how we eroticize, literally, everything from spread sheets to bed sheets, to aliens. We discuss what it is that...
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Why You’re Missing the Best Part of Sex
Today, in a nutshell, we're going to address why most sex feels... Fine... But not amazing. You're going to get amazing tips on how to slow things down, how to connect better, and by the end of this episode you'll have incredible tools to put to use to better understand why your body responds the...
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Sex That Feels Like A Drug
It's National Superhero Day today and your Superhero Of Sex - Sue McGarvie is here to talk about the sex that feels like a drug. The kind that can turn into a problem. Sue and John discuss what people mean when they say "sex addict" plus compulsive masturbation and the "addictive partner...
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SIZE! Bigger, Better… or Just Louder?
Bigger, Better… or Just Louder? What actually creates enlarged parts - and what is complete BS! This episode of Turned On With Sue And John is all about size! Including - Can you actually change your body, or just how it performs? The difference between growing and enhancing - including breast…
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Your Crazy Sex Drive
Your sex drive. It can be a crazy ride. From highs to lows and often, you can be completely distracted. Let's get you back in your lane! In this conversation, Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie gives you 5 Ways to Turn Up the Heat (Without Trying Harder) AND you'll also hear TEN things you can do if…
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Orgasm Control - What You Can Do When You Just Can't Get There
Orgasms. What do you do when you just can't get there? It happens! Today's conversation with Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie, and John, is all about the BIG O. And Sue will even share with you her 10 Fixes for Orgasm Roadblocks! We'll also discuss the refractory period and how to come back faster…
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Sperm, Testosterone & Why Your Body Is Weird
Welcome to another sex ed lesson that nobody gave you in high school. Sex ed for grown ups with Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and co-host John. Today we talk sperm. And testosterone. And why your body is, frankly, weird. Plus we introduce you to an incredible new app called Moanr™ with its…
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How To Actually Get A Woman Into Bed
Men... We are about to change your life on today's podcast. You're welcome! Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and John share the best tips you'll find anywhere on what you need to do in order to generate the response from her that you've been hoping for. It comes down to being engaged, invested and...
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Chemistry, Hookups, And Getting Lucky
It's the St. Patrick's Day edition of Turned On With Sue And John... Today is all about getting lucky! Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie offers some of her best tips on what works to get you laid... Beginning with understanding the three little brain hormones that can make that happen! Plus sex, scent...
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Sex Work
Sue is just back from two weeks in Thailand, where the attitude about sex work is incredibly different from the norm. Today we discuss Fantasy, Money, and the World’s Oldest Transaction! First up - the thing nobody wants to admit about sex work, and why so many are attracted to it. The money...
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The Prostate
It's what people are desperate to talk about, but are too shy to talk about. Sex. And we talk about it here, on Turned On With Sue And John! Today, at the request of one of our listeners, we devote over an hour talking about the prostate. And we're joined by Caitlin V, host of HBO's GOOD SEX, and...
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Seduction
You are about to get an incredible lesson on seduction! Today, Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and John discuss seduction techniques that nobody has ever pulled you aside to teach you. Until right now! On this episode you'll hear seduction truths, and what swingers know about seduction... Often…
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Arousal
It's actually why we chose to call our podcast TURNED ON. We knew we'd be having important and intimate conversations about everything that turns us on. In other words; arousal. Today, Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and John do a deep dive on the topic. Including why low libido is usually just…
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Dommes (And Doms)
It's the Domme (or Dom) show - where we do a deep dive in the dark and mysterious world of BDSM. Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and John do a deep dive into everything from misconceptions about what goes on in the dungeon to defining the euphoria known as "sub space." More often than not, the…
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TABOOS
Oooh this is an especially spicy conversation today! Sex With Sue's Sue McGarvie and John talk about Taboos, and the sex you really want when no one is watching. What do we mean by that? The kinks we're too nervous to admit to anyone that we have. The things we secretly watch on porn sites.…
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Exploring The Vagina
We absolutely love when YOU, our listener, determines what is discussed on this podcast! Last week’s episode on the penis was inspired by a request from our audience, and this week, in response to many who wrote to us to ask if we’d talk about her parts as well, we are! This is the “Vag Show”…
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Penis Size
It’s another, in a long list of things, that people really want to talk about, but are too shy to talk about. Penis size. On this episode of Turned On With Sue And John, we’re talking about it! Including, what things actually work to increase length and girth. There are some crazy things on the...
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Desire
Thanks for getting Turned On With Sue And John… It’s sex ed for grown ups! Every week we talk about the number one thing that everybody wants to talk about… Which is also the number one thing people feel uncomfortable talking about. SEX! This week’s conversation centres around desire. From desire...
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Masturbation And Self Pleasure
At the request of a listener, today's show is all about masturbation. Sue and John discuss how touching ourselves changed during the pandemic, and some new tricks now that, that's in the past. What to do when you're at the nude beach but you get excited... And secrets of the clit! We introduce…
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What You Learned About Sex In 2025
It’s time to get Turned On With Sue & John one last time in 2025! But we’re back next week with our first conversation of 2026! On this episode, one of the top sex educators in the world, Sex With Sue’s, Sue McGarvie, looks back on some of the most important sex lessons you learned in the past 12...
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Sex And What You Secretly Want
As the Spice Girls said... Tell me what you want, what you really, really want. And that holds true in sex as well! Today we discuss why being subtle will lead to disappointment. Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie will explain why you need to be clear with your lover about your desires. John weighs in...
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The Winter Sex Survival Guide
This week Sex With Sue helps you navigate sex during the darkest time of the year with her Winter Sex Survival Guide, including the importance of light, things you can do at home to boost your desire and, even why biology wants you to have sex right now. We'll discuss the Santa fetish, which so...
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The Seduction Spectrum
Sex With Sue is back with another incredible conversation about... SEX! The thing people are most uncomfortable talking about is exactly what we talk about here on Turned On With Sue And John! This week it's all about desire and the secrets of seduction. We talk chemistry, and curiosity! Are you…
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Sexual Anatomy & Your Sex Bits
These are the question you want answer to, but are too shy to ask! They are the things we talk about on Turned On With Sue And John. Yes, we talk about SEX! This week, Sue ("Sex With Sue") guides us on a wildly entertaining but informative conversation about our sex bits - our dicks and our…
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The Sexiest Things You Can Do In Bed
This week, Sex With Sue dives into the sexiest things you can do in bed! Did you know that you can project sexual energy? You can! And you do! But how to tune into that? We'll give you some tips, of course! Lesbians are a great resource for insight into the hottest things in sex, and we'll find…
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About this show
Sue McGarvie is best known as "Sex With Sue!" A sex therapist, relationship expert, coach, author and speaker. Her Sunday night call-in radio show took Canada by storm in 1993.
John is a freelance radio host heard across North America, and a champion for mental health, knowing all too well how fears about revealing our sexual kinks, desires and orientations can affect us. He has normalized conversations about sex on his show for years!
Together, these longtime friends now bring you an outrageously fun, weekly, immersive, grown up sex education course that is unique in the world of podcast.
This is Turned On With Sue & John.
Hosted by
BTR