Two Guys Having A Conversation

Nobody really prepares modern men for what happens when they become fathers. You can love your child deeply and still feel lonely. You can be grateful and resentful. You can want more closeness with your partner while also knowing she's overwhelmed. You can become so focused on providing and protecting that you stop noticing what you need until resentment starts speaking for you. In this conversation, Aaron and Kirill explore the less-discussed emotional territory of early fatherhood: the loss of intimacy, the pressure of becoming “the provider,” resentment toward partners and children, and the shame about having those feelings. They also explore a different way forward: learning to recognize what's happening in your body, developing the capacity to regulate yourself, finding connection beyond your relationship, and building a sense that you don't have to carry all of this alone. Because becoming a father changes more than your responsibilities. It changes you. The question is whether you have the support, awareness, and connection to meet that change without losing yourself in it.   MENTIONED IN THE SHOW   FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence   SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY  https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-therapy-in-calgary   RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session     Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute   Connect with Kirill: https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/ For upcoming men's groups: [email protected]  

The last thing a man needs is more emotional control. At some point, we have to unlearn the managing skills and learn how to regulate through our experiences. This is not another thing to “fix”. Emotional regulation a natural flow of being that we get disconnected from during childhood, then spend a lifetime trying to manage, suppress or numb from. For many, the idea of being "emotionally regulated" is a complete mystery in practice. In this episode we attempt to simplify your understanding through the lens of nervous system physiology in the most practical way possible. Listen to PART 2 afterwards for guided somatic experiences to help enhance your understanding of how to regulate through emotional arousal in your nervous system.   In This Episode You'll learn: - A simple guided practice for nervous system regulation - Why certain emotions are off-limits for men - How to find and stop your energy leaks - The ways you perpetuate your dysregulated nervous system - The difference between "regulation" and "control" - Where your dysregulation started in the first place - Whether repair is possible (or if it's too late) - The simplest way to find regulation, no matter where you are     MENTIONED IN THE SHOW   MECHANISMS OF MASCULINITY: 6-WEEK LIVE PROGRAM (OCTOBER 2026) https://momence.com/l/8MhqyPKV   FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence   SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY  https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary   RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session     Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute   Connect with Kirill: https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/ For upcoming men's groups: [email protected]  

In order to define what society labels as "toxic masculinity," we must explore what it means for  to show up as a healthy and integrated man.  This short conversation is ultimately an invitation to get curious about how masculinity, or the absence of it, was modelled for you.   MENTIONED IN THE SHOW   FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence   SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY  https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary   RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session     Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute   Connect with Kirill: https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/ For upcoming men's groups: [email protected]

If you learned this one specific skill, about 80% of your miscommunications, ruptures and misattunements would just smooth out. Talking would feel safer, your relationships would be more harmonious, and you’d actually enjoy being with your partner more. No joke. In this episode, we talk through a powerful shift. It's simple, but not necessarily easy. It doesn't come naturally for most men, and we'll talk about why.  Listen to the episode, then try it with your partner tonight. It’s weirdly hard at first, but totally doable with practice. If you want your partner to feel safe, important, and actually heard, this is a good place to start.    MENTIONED IN THE SHOW   Find a Spring https://findaspring.org/   FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence   RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session   SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY  https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary   Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute   Connect with Kirill: https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/  

If you’ve ever felt like you had to tough it out alone, this episode is for you. Two Guys Having a Conversation dives into why so many men suffer in silence: the cultural messages we absorb, the ways trauma gets trapped in the body, and how that all shows up as anxiety, isolation, or shame. Aaron and Kirill talk real, practical stuff: how our modern, individualistic world pulls us away from the tribe we’re wired for, why control is often an illusion, and what true presence and grounding actually feel like. They walk through how simple daily practices can begin to restore calm to a dysregulated nervous system. There’s a gentle reminder here that healing isn’t about doing it alone: co-regulation, community, and asking for help (yes, really) are essential muscles to build. If you need a way back into connection, with yourself or other people, this episode gives compassionate, accessible steps and a short guided exercise to try right now. It’s honest, warm, and practical, like a conversation you’d have with a trusted friend who gets it. Give it a listen, try the somatic exercise at the end, and maybe reach out to someone. You might be surprised how many men are looking for the same thing.   MENTIONED IN THE SHOW   FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence   RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session   SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY  https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary   Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute   Connect with Kirill: https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/