U Up?
by Betches Media
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches
Episodes
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Are Situationships Helping You Find Your Soulmate?
Jared and Jordana are reading The Cut’s new article, “The Case for the Entry-Level Boyfriend,” and discussing how maybe you should date someone who doesn’t check every box, and how, maybe, maybe, situationships can teach you more than you think! It’s Halloween week, and Jordana hopes doctors…
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We Broke Up Over Bad Bunny, but He's Still in My Football Pool
Jared and Jordana are diving into listener emails, and one is about an ex who still wants to join a football betting pool even after a breakup over Bad Bunny the day before an important abortion appointment. Another emailer asks J&J how to get out of a 14-year situationship with her ex’s parents,...
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Would You Let Your Ex Officiate Your Wedding to Your New Husband?
Jordana and Jared learn that Tobey Maguire officiated his ex-wife’s wedding just weeks after finalizing their divorce, and they debate whether it’s sweet or just super weird. They then help a newly married listener who can’t fall asleep without listening to a podcast while her husband needs...
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Can Friendship Breakups Be Fixed in Therapy? ft. Esther Perel
Esther Perel is back to join Jordana and Jared to talk about AI girlfriends, if using AI to write a love letter is dishonest, and the real reason we are choosing our phones over in-person connection. J&J and Esther talk about friendship breakups and whether going to therapy with your friend will...
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My Mother-in-Law Stalks My Husband’s Ex and Keeps Comparing Me to Her
This week, J&J learn that Hinge is banning screenshots, and they question whether this is good for dating or helps cheaters get away with it! They Jordana and Jared see a man who posted his divorce announcement with a thoughtful, brief FAQ and discuss whether all breakups should have posts like...
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My BF Asked His Ex-Wife for Her Engagement Ring Back, What an ICK
Jared and Jordana are learning about Instagram’s new blur feature for “soft launching” couples in their new segment, Are U Up to Date? They then answer a listener’s email about asking for an engagement ring back after years of marriage and whether it’s petty or prudent. Lastly, they help an…
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I Thought We Were in Love, But Then He Listed 20 Reasons to Break Up!
Jordana and Jared are reading through a listener’s breakup texts, and the list of reasons to end it is long! A cozy cabin weekend in the woods was not as romantic as she thought, with complaints about restaurant choices, what time to go to the farmers market, and feeling judged for her kinks. J&J...
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Can Your Marriage Survive Living With Your Parents? ft Heather McMahan
Heather McMahan joins Jordana & Jared to talk about living with her mom after becoming a newlywed and getting fired from the Ryder Cup! She talks about how meeting her husband in a gay bar made her feel love at first sight, and she shares her direct advice on how to pick a life partner! Lastly,...
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My Boyfriend Has a High-Conflict Baby Mama – Help!
It’s a rapid fire episode with 10 relationship questions from YOU, the listeners. Jordana and Jared answer questions about how long is too long to go without sex or a marriage proposal! They discuss whether high-drama baby mamas are worth it long-term, how to split chores at home, and how to...
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She's Older, He's Younger: Is a 7-Year Age Gap Too Much?
It’s autumn, and Jordana & Jared are challenging their listeners to put down their phones, get out of the house, and talk to people! They then get into questions from you and decide if secretly hiding your partner’s ugly clothes is petty or prudent. Or just helpful?! Lastly, they help a woman...
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My Husband Used AI to Write Me a Birthday Card!
Jordana discovers her husband used an AI chat to help him write her birthday card, and she has some feelings about whether a love letter still counts when chat gpt edits it for you! Jared and Jordana then get into listener questions, answering a woman who found her husband texting an ex, whether...
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My Boyfriend Won’t Propose Until I Run 125 km!
Jordana tells Jared how her vacation ended up being the busiest and most unrelaxing, but also the most fun, due to Ronnie the dog getting kicked out of boarding for peeing and joining the family’s chaotic Montauk trip! They then get into listener emails and discuss whether a partner should wait…
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Would You Be a Wedding Crasher If Your Date Asked You?
Jared and Jordana discovered that you can crash a wedding and think it’s the best way to spend a night out with someone you’re dating! From black-tie dress codes to open bars and live bands, it’d probably make the best eighth date. They also advise a listener to take a break from dating apps…
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I’m ICKed Out Over My Boyfriend Fangirling Over a Tennis Player
It’s Jordana’s birthday, Happy Birthday, Jordana! J&J debate wedding plus-ones, jealous partners, and how much texting is too much when you’re dating. They also dive into a text thread discussion of a boyfriend fangirling over a professional tennis player and his girlfriend is getting the ICK!…
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Lauren Lapkus Has a Dating App Imposter
Lauren Lapkus joins Jordana and Jared to talk about dating actors, marriage, kids, and whether being good at acting makes someone too good at lying?? The three play red flag or deal breaker, asking Lauren on everything from an ex’s wedding dress to bad breath, Disney adults, and having a sexual...
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How Long Should Your Husband Wait to Remarry After You Die?
Jared shares about meeting his girlfriend’s friends, how he got questioned about his phone use, and how being in a relationship means meeting the friend group! Then J&J discuss how men really feel about losing a partner, how they would go about life after a partner’s death, how often your spouse...
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How Do You Start Dating Again After Divorce?
Jordana and Jared watch a TikTok of a groom zip lining into his own wedding and debate whether a groom spending $24K is a major ICK. They then answer a question from a newly single mother who is nervous about dating again, and they call Jordana's mother! Jordana's mom is a gynecologist who has...
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Does a Texting Lull Mean the Date Is Off?
Jordana and Jared discuss a dating app match who canceled a first date after there was a lull in texting and then sent practically a full dissertation explaining his communication style as if his date was in the wrong for not knowing. J&J also answer whether wearing an ex’s gift years later means...
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Would You Take a Sperm Donation From A Married Friend?
It’s a Friday Feels episode and J&J are questioning, "would you pay $5,000 to break up with someone"? The two then get into listener questions and discuss whether it’s petty or prudent to ask for your shared spicy toy back after a breakup. They also read a question from a single woman who is...
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Your Crush Is Dating Your Friend. What Do You Do?
Jordana and Jared discuss what to do when your friend starts dating your crush, whether the way you handle getting roasted at a comedy show is an ick, and how to handle overbearing in-laws. They also talk summer dating, waiting for your partner at the airport, and using AI to write a prenup. Also...
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Harry Jowsey Wants to Be a Stay-at-Home Husband
Harry Jowsey joins Jordana and Jared to talk about how he was engaged to 20 women at once for his new Netflix’s show, Let’s Marry Harry, what changed for him after losing his father and why dating is harder when it's played out on social media! Harry weighs in on listener questions where the guy...
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Can You be Engaged for Years without Getting Married?
Jordana and Jared debate whether it’s okay for your boyfriend to go on a trip with his ex, especially when they still own an apartment together. They also decide if an ex was petty for showing his former girlfriend the engagement ring he bought for her, and whether a bad first kiss is enough to…
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What Do Men Actually Want on Their Wedding Night?
Jared opens up about a fear of his when getting serious with his partner, figuring out how to balance love, family, and a career that keeps him on the road. Then J&J debate whether a husband should text his ex happy birthday and solve a bride’s very specific $10,000 wedding dress wedding night...
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Jordana Is Looking for a New Sister-in-Law!
Jordana and Jared get a visit from Jordana’s brother, Jon! He joins to pick up a toothbrush but ends up talking about dating in San Francisco, why he wants more banter and “relational chaos,” and whether Jordana can help him find a girlfriend. Then J&J play Second Date Yay or Nay after a three…
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How to Survive Wedding Season Alone
Jordana and Jared discuss a petty or prudent and whether a brutal Costco-inspired rejection text was justified? They discuss what singles mixers are really like and why SIMPLE first dates usually beat elaborate plans! They then help a listener who feels like the only single person at every…
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The Situationship Trap Nobody Talks About
Jordana and Jared are back talking about what it means to feel successful, happy, and “content” while still chasing the next big thing! They break down the confusing world of dating labels after a Love Island conversation about situationships, exclusivity, and when someone is actually your...
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Does Cheating Justify Public Humiliation?
Jared calls his parents with some BIG news about a very important award, and you won't believe their guesses! Then, Jordana and Jared get into listener questions, breaking down a woman posting flyers about her ex all over Indianapolis in the Are We Dating The Same Guy Facebook group, and a new...
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Would You Date Someone Who Sees Their Ex Every Month?
Jared and Jordana are talking about kids and whether Jared would actually make a good father, since icky things don't seem to phase him! Jared encourages people to be present this summer, delete the dating apps, and get outside. They then get into a listener question about hanging out with your...
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He Emotionally Cheated. Is That Enough for Divorce?
Jared and Jordana begin today’s Friday Feels by talking about the viral memoir Strangers and why breakup books hit differently than breakup TikToks! They reminisce about their fully remote recording days and how pandemic dating advice was really different and its own time vault. J&J get into your...
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Five Dates, No Kiss. Now What?
Jared and Jordana are in the studio talking about their morning commute, which was delayed due to Taylor Swift’s Madison Square Garden wedding! They kick off today’s episode with Who's Your Hall Pass? Dua Lipa did not make Jared’s list! Then J&J continue with questions from you and have a Summer...
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Does Right Person, Wrong Time Exist?
Jared’s Netflix special is coming out in the fall and he recalls a roasting bit with Rob Lowe, and why meeting him completely changed his mind. J&J then debate whether it's petty or prudent for a guy to text his ex that he won a $50 competition just one week after dumping her. They also unpack a...
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My GF Is a Phillies Fan and She Won't Shuttap About It
Jared and Jordana debate whether dating a diehard Philly’s sports fan is a harmless quirk or a real relationship problem. Can passion be just plain obnoxious? They also unpack the internet debate over women proposing to men, why Taylor Swift rumors about an MSG wedding sparked such strong...
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Is Fourth Of July The Best Weekend To Meet Someone?
Jared and Jordana are getting ready for Fourth of July weekend, where Jared will be staying with Jordana, finally! Then Jared shares the funniest wedding guest he's ever met, a guy with Oakleys on the back of his head who somehow became the life of someone else's wedding. Plus, they debate…
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Should Married People Reply To Exes?
Jared is back from his book tour convinced dating is rougher than ever, and he and Jordana break down why so many singles are feeling burnt out. Then they tackle whether asking for someone's Instagram or Snapchat before a first date is a hookup red flag, if you should reply when an ex apologizes…
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Is Using ChatGPT For Relationship Advice A Red Flag?
Jared shares the wildest piece of weight loss advice he's ever gotten from a fan at a country club, leading to a discussion about criticism, internet comments, and why the people who care enough to complain might actually be your biggest fans. Then, J&J debate whether it's an ick or just being...
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How Do I Stop Getting Attached So Fast?
The Knicks' recent success is creating a wave of new fans, and Jared explains why sports foster community, connection, and shared experiences, while Jordana compares it to the passion people have for Bravo and reality TV. Then J&J tackle one of adulthood's biggest questions: how do you know if…
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Should You Tell Dates You're on a GLP-1?
Jordana risks a parking ticket after creating her own train station parking spot, while Jared celebrates a glowing dentist report and shares why his gums are finally growing back. Then J&J debate whether a hinge date carrying a gallon jug of water everywhere is an instant ICK or just a dedicated...
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My Fiancé Is Cheating Through The Notes App!
Jared is officially OVER hearing himself talk after weeks on his book tour, but appreciates all the great feedback from fans who have read his book. J&J get into listener questions, reacting to a woman who discovers her fiancé secretly messaging his ex through a shared Notes app, leading to a...
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Would You Date a Man Who Had Four Kids Via Surrogacy?
Summer is finally here, and Jared and Jordana are feeling the relief after what felt like New York's longest winter. They dive into the realities of parenting twins, why single parents deserve way more credit, and the surprising story of Olympic champion Alysa Liu's father choosing surrogacy and...
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My Boyfriend's Side Hustle Is Ruining Our Relationship
Jared recaps his Kelly Clarkson appearance, the launch of his new book, and why seeing your book in an airport might be the ultimate career milestone! J&J then unpack listener questions: a first vacation to Morocco that had daily sex but zero "I love yous," and debate whether a romantic getaway…
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Why is My Ex-Fiancé's Profile Picture My Dog?!
Jordana opens this episode with a question for Jared: do some men really think parents find out they’re having twins at the delivery room? That kicks off a hilarious conversation about prenatal care, “punch bowl” movie myths, and just how little some people know about pregnancy. Then J&J debate...
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Does He Just Want a Wife?
Jared is packing a tux for a black-tie-optional wedding, which leads to a debate about plus-one etiquette and who should pay for the wedding gift when you're newly dating. Then they discuss a listener’s theory that the best place to meet men is a Wednesday night bowling alley and introduce…
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Bumble’s New AI Matchmaker “Bumblebee” Explained
J&J get into a recent article where they mention dating has become a luxury in 2026! From $20 coffee dates to the hidden “pink tax” women pay just to get ready, maybe it really is too expensive to date these days. Then they break down Bumble’s new AI matchmaker “Bumblebee,” why Jared thinks…
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Can Someone Truly Change After Cheating?
This week J&J unpack why lying in a relationship can be worse than cheating itself and debate whether an ex warning a new girlfriend is “helpful” or completely unhinged. They break down a breakup that left one listener scrambling for a new apartment and explain the difference between being petty...
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Dr. Orna On The Biggest Mistake Couples Make
This week J&J welcome Dr. Orna Guralnik from Couples Therapy to talk about the biggest mistakes couples make before they ever step into therapy! Dr. Orna explains why “agree to disagree” is usually just code for “I’m exhausted trying to change you.” The conversation gets hilarious when Jared...
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Should You Tell Your Ex You’re Pregnant?
Jordana and Jared are judging Mother’s Day Instagram tributes like they’re relationship crime scenes. And honestly, some of these captions are screaming “save the marriage post!” They debate whether a woman should warn her ex that she’s pregnant with her new boyfriend’s baby, discuss a first date...
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Married a Gay Man… And We’re Completely Monogamous ft I Married a Gay Man
J&J are joined by Samantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff, the married couple behind the “I Married A Gay Man” podcast, to unpack the relationship dynamic that has the internet completely fascinated! They tell their story of meeting during a Fiddler on the Roof audition, becoming inseparable best...
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Is a Breakup Revenge Post Ever Okay?
Jordana and Jared hang in Florida and we hear about it on today’s ep! Jordana shares what no one tells you about traveling with twins, including getting interrogated by strangers about her fertility journey, making up fake answers about how many minutes apart the babies were born! J&J get into...
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He Won’t Go To Therapy But Says I’m the Problem
Jared and Jordana are back with a Friday Feels episode covering everything from postpartum “groove returns” and winter baby timing to why February birthdays hit differently! They revisit the good times of Facebook event invites, group emails, and how dating used to feel before constant texting…
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About this show
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com
Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches
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