Unbox Yourself: Sexual Identity and Coming Out Later in Life with Samantha Fox®

It's the question that keeps you up at night. What if I'm wrong about this? What if I blow up my life for nothing?Sam welcomes her friend Sogol, a late bloomer who realized she was a lesbian while in a straight marriage, for a raw and empowering conversation about trusting yourself when everything inside you is screaming for attention and everything outside you says stay put.They explore why Sam calls it "coming in" instead of coming out, how Sogol trusted her inner knowing without needing to "try" with a woman first, how rage and desire became doorways to authenticity, and why the path forward doesn't have to mean blowing up your entire life (even though sometimes it does).This episode is for every woman sitting with the self-doubt, the fantasies she can't explain away, the fear of ending up alone, and the quiet voice underneath all of it that already knows. Sam and Sogol talk through the many ways this journey can unfold, because there's no one right way to do it.If you're a woman questioning your sexuality later in life, exploring whether you might be bisexual or lesbian, or trying to figure out what comes next while married, this conversation will make you feel seen.Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox® is the podcast for late bloomer women ready to stop performing and start living.

Episode 52 is the year-one finale of Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®. One year ago, Samantha set a bold goal...release one episode every week for a full year. In this closing chapter of season one, she reflects on what the commitment taught her about courage, grief, uncertainty, and becoming.Samantha shares the behind-the-scenes reality of starting a podcast with no technical knowledge, the power of choosing progress over perfection, and how giving herself longer-form space expanded her voice beyond short social clips. She also speaks openly about women’s conditioning, the lasting impact of hetero-patriarchy and religious constructs, and the high stakes of making life-altering choices before true self-awareness is online.This episode is for anyone navigating late-in-life coming out, questioning their sexuality, rebuilding after an identity shift, or feeling the tension between who they’ve been and who they’re becoming.Follow the show to stay tuned for what’s next, and connect with Samantha at unboxyoursexuality.com.compulsory heterosexuality, questioning my sexualtiy, am I gay, am I lesbian, am I bisexual, late-in-life coming out, coming out later in life, sexuality coach, lesbian curiosity, questioning sexuality, women’s empowerment, authenticity, self-trust, patriarchy, religious conditioning, hypervigilance, highly sensitive person, introvert, grief, loss, healing journey, imperfect action, personal growth, identity shift, unboxing yourself, women and relationships, midlife awakening, queer stories

In this episode, “She’s Attractive but I’m Not Attracted: Unboxing Desire and Conditioning,” Samantha Fox explores how society, religion, culture, heteronormativity, and the male gaze condition us to confuse being desired with genuine attraction. She unpacks the difference between recognizing someone’s beauty and feeling real sensual desire, and shares how many women experience attraction through emotional safety, energetic fit, and connection over time (including demisexuality). This episode is an invitation to step off the “conveyor belt” of approval, question mainstream rules about sex and romance, and compassionately discover what attraction and intimacy actually mean for you.Keywords:attractive vs attracted, demisexual, demisexuality, lesbian attraction, queer desire, late bloomer lesbian, coming out later in life, heteronormativity, compulsory heterosexuality, comphet, male gaze, patriarchy, women and desire, emotional safety, intimacy, sensuality, sexuality spectrum, asexual spectrum, internal family systems, IFS, self-acceptance, unlearning conditioning, romantic spark, queer relationships

TRIGGER WARNING- Traumatic topics discussed in this episodeIn this episode of Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®, Samantha talks with Mandy about trauma, complex PTSD (CPTSD), and sexuality, and what it can look like to be coming out later in life (as bisexual/queer) inside a long-term marriage.Mandy shares her story of starting therapy in 2020, coming out in 2022, and navigating the nervous system reality of healing: codependency, fight-or-flight, feeling “too much,” internalized homophobia, and the grief that can come when a partner can’t fully accept your identity. They also discuss the stigma and complexity of divorce, co-parenting after separation, and why sexuality is about more than sex, it’s about self-trust, belonging, and being seen.If you’re navigating CPTSD, a mixed-orientation marriage, late-in-life coming out, or rebuilding after divorce, this conversation will help you feel less alone.

In this episode of Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®, we explore why a not straight awakening can feel emotionally overwhelming for women coming out later in life, whether you’re realizing you’re gay/lesbian, bisexual, or queer after years of living a straight, heteronormative life.If you’re experiencing shame, guilt, fear, or self-judgment as you notice same-sex attraction, you’re not broken—your emotional system may be stuck in survival mode, using protective strategies to keep you safe. Samantha breaks down the core emotions we’re wired with, how childhood conditioning can teach us to shut feelings down, and why those “protective parts” get loud when you begin exploring your sexual identity.You’ll leave with a compassionate reframe for the inner backlash (including internalized shame/internalized homophobia), and a path toward moving from surviving to thriving so you can access what’s truly authentic for you—without forcing one “right” outcome for your relationship or your life.***I create this content for a general audience and may not address every access need or circumstance in each episode. Please adapt what you hear to your own body, mind, and lived experience, and seek appropriate support when needed

Summary:In this heartfelt episode of Unbox Yourself®, sexuality coach Samantha Fox is joined by two former clients, Rebecca and Trish, who came out as gay later in life after long marriages with children ranging from teens to adults. Together they explore the fear behind the question “What about the kids?”, the reality of the messy middle of separation/divorce, and what happens when you stop living “half-dead” and start living authentically. This conversation offers reassurance, real-life perspective, and practical emotional guidance for anyone navigating late-bloomer coming out, parenting, and family change.Keywords: coming out later in life, late bloomer lesbian, gay later in life, sexuality coach, sexuality coaching, LGBTQ+ parenting, telling your kids you’re gay, divorce with kids, separation, co-parenting, internalized homophobia, authenticity, messy middle, resilience, Glennon Doyle Untamed

What’s the difference between a soulmate and a karmic relationship and why do some connections feel so magnetic you can’t stop thinking about them? In this episode of Unbox Yourself,® Samantha sits down with her spiritual life coach, Angela, to unbox the language of spiritual love and soul-level bonds with clarity, compassion, and depth.Together, we explore how relationships can act as mirrors, revealing our deepest core needs (like the longing to be seen and witnessed) and guiding us back to our highest timeline. Angela shares her personal path into intuitive work including channeling, the Akashic Records, and shamanic journeying and introduces the healing practice of soul retrieval for the moments when you feel lost, fragmented, or like traditional “mind work” isn’t reaching the root.We also touch on why “twin flame” can be a trendy label that doesn’t always support healing, and how a divine partnership is less about obsession and more about mutual willingness, growth, and aligned evolution.If you’re navigating an intense connection and wondering whether it’s soulmate medicine, karmic lessons, or a sacred invitation to come home to yourself… this conversation is for you.

In this episode, Samantha Fox speaks to women who are partnered or married to “a good man” yet feel a powerful late-in-life lesbian awakening. Intense same-sex attraction, obsession, fantasizing, emotional disconnection, and a growing resistance to physical intimacy with their male partner.If you keep thinking, “My biggest fear is hurting him,” Samantha invites a deeper question: Is the fear of hurting him masking the fear of facing your own gayness shaped by compulsive heterosexuality and internalized homophobia?You’ll learn common ways queerphobic conditioning can show up, including:Self-gaslighting (“Is what I’m feeling even real?”)Judging queer people as “too gay” or only feeling safe with straight-passing partnersAvoiding certain types of intimacy or pleasure because it feels “too gay”Over-performing femininity to “fit in” with straight friendsSamantha also explores a hard truth: staying while disconnected and miserable may already be hurting both partners and honesty can be the first step toward freedom, healing, and aligned love.If this resonates, Samantha shares a self-led course designed to help you unbox yourself from queerphobic conditioning.

Are you suddenly questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself-especially your sexuality, your relationships, or your identity later in life?You're not alone.In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Sam Fox explores the real fears and surprising freedom that come with embracing uncertainty after years (or decades) of “certain” living.🌱Hear true stories of women rocked by unexpected connection. Dig into why our brains crave certainty, why “playing it safe” isn’t always safe, and how the roots of shame, traumatic aloneness, and regret can haunt (and heal) us.🌱Sam shares practical ways to befriend the unknown, validate your own messy questioning, and discover why not-knowing may be the bravest thing you do.In this episode:The panic (and possibility) of not-knowingWhy “eternal safety” is a dangerous mythBeing alone vs. traumatic alonenessThe reality of coming out laterLearning to live and love in the presentIf you need reassurance, real talk, and permission to not know what's next, this one’s for you.Listen now and claim your seat in the messy, beautiful unknown.Resources Mentioned:Unbox Your Sexuality Program: HEREConnect with Sam: HEREJoin the community: HERELove this episode? Rate, review, and share! Questions or thoughts? Reach out to Sam on Instagram or TikTok

SummaryKicking off 2026 with raw honesty and heart, Samantha Fox reflects on a year of grief, transformation, and coming home to herself. Inspired by lessons from her parents (especially her father’s unusual embrace of being different), Samantha explores the bittersweet aftermath of coming out and unboxing one’s true self especially for queer women breaking free from expectations and “normal.” With empathy and realness, this solo episode looks at grief (yes, it’s part of the journey!), the myth of normalcy, reclaiming your power, and how honoring your difference is a radical gift. Samantha shares her own experience, lessons from her clients, and a soulful invitation to embrace your own unique, beautiful path this year.KeywordsComing out later in lifeGrief and self-acceptanceQueer women’s journeysPatriarchal norms & liberationUnboxing your sexualityPower & financial independenceEmbracing differenceFamily lessonsAuthentic livingHealing after divorceWelcome to 2026 and a deeply personal solo episode with Samantha Fox. In this kick-off for the new year, Samantha:Reflects on the challenges, losses, and transitions of 2025 (including the passing of her father, who inspired this podcast and her embrace of being “different”).Shares raw stories of grief-her own and her clients’. Why is it so common to feel lost and sad after breaking free? And why is this grief not only valid, but necessary?Explores the myth of “normal” and the immense pressure to fit in especially for women and queer folks. What happens when we unlearn those old scripts?Offers candid insights on why financial independence is crucial for women’s empowerment (and why getting “unstuck” often means walking away from dependency, even if it’s scary).Looks at her parents’ unconventional choices and how those “pioneer” spirits paved a path for her to embrace her own unique, beautiful journey.Extends heartfelt encouragement (with a little tough love): give yourself permission to grieve, and to be different. The pain is real, but so are the gifts on the other side.Invites you to celebrate your difference and to find ease, curiosity, and self-love as you chart your course for 2026.Connect with Samantha:WebsiteInstagram: @lesbiancuriositycoachTikTok: @lesbiancuriositycoach

Ever look in your closet and wonder: who am I actually dressing for? In this episode, Samantha Fox and polyamory coach Heidi Savell get radically honest about ditching “the male gaze” and rediscovering style as true self-expression. From family scripts to femme fatigue, queer visibility to creative play, Sam and Heidi share their journeys—awkward moments, aha’s, and joy included. If you’re ready to trade ‘flattering’ for authentic and wear what lights you up (especially this holiday season), hit play. Your closet—and your soul—may never look the same.Show NotesWelcome – Sam and polyamory coach & dear friend Heidi Savell dive deep into style, identity, and the unlearning of dressing for the male gaze.The Wake-Up Call – Both share personal stories of realizing their fashion choices were unconsciously shaped for male approval—and what happens when you opt out.Identity, Family & Femme Conditioning – How families (and society) teach compulsory femininity, “flattering” bodies, and critical self-gaze.Evolving Style – Heidi’s journey from compulsory “flattering” and femme to playful, creative self-expression—and how Sam’s path moved her toward androgyny.Queerness & Clothing – How clothing choices both reflect and shape queer visibility, and the relief of dressing for your own joy.Fashion as Art – Reframing style as an evolving personal art project, not a contest to shrink or please.Creative Experiments – From playing dress-up to thrift treasure-hunting, learning to find clothes that truly feel like “you.”Holiday Encouragement – Listeners are invited to claim joy, break the “shoulds,” and use fashion as a form of authentic self-celebration—especially as a New Year begins.“Let your clothing be a canvas for your evolving self—not a uniform for someone else’s gaze.”Highlight Themes: Unlearning, queer identity, family legacy, creative expression, joy in fashion, body image, and letting yourself take up space.Learn more about Heidi Savell on IG @Steadypolyamory

Keywordsauthenticity, relationships, sexuality, self-discovery, societal expectations, women's struggles, personal growth, therapy, literature, self-loveIn this episode of “The Grass Isn’t Greener-It’s Realer,” Samantha Fox explores authenticity, self-discovery, women’s empowerment, and breaking free from societal and sexual expectations. She shares real stories from the Bi Life community and her Unbox Your Sexuality program, helping women transform relationships, overcome fear of being alone, and reclaim pleasure and personal growth.Samantha shares how common it is for women to feel trapped in lives they didn’t consciously choose and why the solution isn’t just seeking escape, but waking up to your real self.She reads a powerful listener message about loyalty, guilt, and the fear that authenticity might seem reckless or selfish.Samantha shares her own journey from blowing up her life to finding freedom and speaks candidly about the uncertainty, reckoning, and growth this work requires.She offers real-life examples of women navigating authenticity: staying married but opening up; moving from romance to friendship; or leaving altogether.Samantha shines a light on the hardest truths: the deep terror of being alone, and how cultural scripts keep women in roles that drain self-trust and agency.She recommends essential reading (The Tragedy of Heterosexuality, The Bitch in the House, and Flux) and reflects on her own “punch in the gut” moments of awakening.Samantha shares how her Unbox Your Sexuality program and the Bi Life community are transforming fear into self-love, pleasure, and real belonging.She wraps with encouragement to honor your truth not because the grass is greener, but because real life is finally, unapologetically yours.

TRIGGER WARNING*** SA and CSA***TRIGGER WARNINGkeywords: trauma, sexuality, sexual fluidity, relationships, healing, women, desire, attraction, LGBTQ+summary: In this conversation, Samantha Fox explores the complex relationship between trauma and sexuality, particularly focusing on how traumatic experiences can influence women's understanding of their sexual identities. She discusses the societal conditioning that affects women's perceptions of pleasure and desire, and how healing from trauma can lead to a deeper understanding of one's sexual fluidity. Through personal anecdotes and insights from other women, Fox emphasizes the importance of recognizing and unpacking trauma to fully embrace one's sexual identity.takeaways:Many women feel unsafe with men after traumatic experiences.Trauma can lead to confusion about one's sexual orientation.Societal conditioning impacts women's understanding of pleasure and their ability to deeply know themselvesTrauma may be a catalyst for a change in ones sexual orientationInternalized homophobia can affect self-identity.Desire and attraction can evolve post-trauma.Trauma can act as a catalyst for exploring new relationships.Understanding oneself requires unpacking layers of conditioning and the affects trauma has had on you

Keywords:LGBTQ, Coming out later in life, Societal expectations, Good woman myth, self-sacrifice vs. Self-Care, Permission to change, Guilt and shame, Female liberation, Reclaiming desire, Self-worth, Breaking rules, Authenticity, Women’s empowerment, Women's liberation, Unpacking and Unlearning, Healing from oppression, Marital Duty, Self-betrayal, Grace, Self-compassion, Hetero PatriarchySummary:In this honest, soul-baring episode, Samantha Fox unpacks the deep, often-unspoken burdens that women carry when it comes to living “the right way.” Drawing from candid conversations with clients and her own journey, Samantha shines a light on how societal and religious expectations pressure women to stay in unfulfilling marriages, deny their desires, and measure their worth by self-sacrifice.She explores the emotional weight of believing you are “owed” something for years of rule-following, and how guilt and shame creep in when women dare to imagine another life beyond the confines of prescribed roles.With compassion and radical permission, Samantha invites listeners to name the rules they’ve followed, feel what arises, and notice where duty has overtaken self. She shares stories from the BiLife community—revealing a collective “me too” moment that uncovers how many women dream of freedom, only to feel shame for wishing things could change. Sam reminds us: these feelings are not faults, but signals from souls hungry for liberation.The episode ends with a warm, welcoming offer for listeners to join the journey: to unlearn, unbox, and reclaim their right to live authentically—supported by Sam, the BiLife community, and the healing power of shared truth.

TRIGGER WARNING*Keywordsidentity, self-acceptance, LGBTQ+, CSA, Ethical Non-monogamy, ENM, Polyamorous, Coming out later in life, Later in life lesbianSummaryIn this conversation, Nikki shares her brave, painful and beautiful journey of healing, self-discovery and acceptance as a lesbian later in life while married to her best friend, a man. Learn about the transformative moments that led her to embrace her identity as a gay woman and how she was able to navigate stepping into a non-traditional relationship style, ENM, by finding joint core values with her male partner that help them stay on course and continue to partner in life, family and friendship.

Keywordsgender identity, gender transformation, self-perception, gender presentation, coming out later in life, leaving the church, later in life lesbian, deconstructing, self-acceptanceSummary: In this episode Samantha and Buffy explore how transforming ones gender presentation can open up identities that have been repressed for years. Join in the conversation as Buffy shares her journey where one decision to cut her hair leads her down a path of discovering her authentic Self. Looking for a safe, supportive community where you can explore your sexuality with other like minded women? Learn more about The Bi LIfe HEREAre you ready to Unbox Yourself from adhering to the expectations society has put on you as a woman in the world and finally FREE YOURSELF to live who and what aligns with you authentically? Learn more about Unbox Your Sexuality®- A Sexuality Liberation Program HERE

Keywords   relationships, identity, personal growth, LGBTQ+ experiences, same-sex attraction, internalized misogyny, Gen X women, internalized homophobia, patriarchal conditioning, WLW attraction, bisexual, sex parties     Summary   In this conversation, MJ shares her personal journey of marriage, divorce, and early in life experimentation with same-sex encounters. Calling herself an oportunistic hedonist, she asks Samantha to help her unbox what it is that keeps her from being able to see that a woman could also be a life partner. fears of what her family members would all say about her, and her own discomfort with her body as she enters her 50's. Together this raw conversation uncovers the deep conditioning that comes from misogyny, comphet and homophobia, and people pleasing.   Learn more about MJ Eldridge on her TikTok Page @inappropriatemommie   Are you tired of gaslighting yourself and the same circular thoughts that bring you to shame guilt and anxiety? Learn all about the Unbox Your Sexuality® offerings ⁠HERE⁠ Have a question for Samantha or ready to be a guest on the Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox® podcast? Email Samantha directly [email protected]    

Stuck in feelings of shame about your sexuality? Unbox Your Queer Phobic Conditioning- A Self-led Program is now available. ⁠Learn more here⁠   Keywords   Purity culture, female sexuality, religious expectations, desire, sexuality, beauty, gender norms, deconstructing evangelical christianity, exvangelical     Summary   The conversation delves into the complexities of Christian purity culture and its impact on female sexuality. Alyssa shares her experiences of navigating religious expectations around beauty and desire, highlighting the contradictions faced by women in expressing their sexuality. The discussion reveals how these religious norms and constructs can suppress natural feelings of attraction and arousal for both men and women.     Takeaways   There's a pervasive belief that women's beauty is a temptation for men. The church's narrative often blames women for men's lack of control. Female desire is often misunderstood and stigmatized. The pressure to conform to purity standards can be overwhelming. Women that grow up under the church often face conflicting messages about their bodies. The conversation highlights the need for open discussions about sexuality.

Keywords   lgbtq, late in life lesbians, LAT, relationship anarchy, personal growth, learning by doing, societal expectations, lesbian relationships, lesbian dating, healthy communication     Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Trish discuss the complexities of expectation, how its energy can be distancing and the idea that communicating wants and needs to those you are intimate, with whether that be family members or a partner, cultivates more vulnerablity and closeness.   Takeaways   We are often pressured by society to make one right choice in partners. Choosing the right person is not always straightforward and its ok that relationships don't last forever Relationships are about learning through experience. You can't predict what someone will bring to a relationship until you're in it. It often takes at least two years to truly know someone. Emotional intelligence plays a key role in relationship choices. The idea of 'the right choice' can be misleading. Each relationship teaches us something new about ourselves. Personal growth is a continuous journey in relationships. Understanding a partner requires time and shared experiences.   ************************************************* Would you like to join Samantha Fox on Unbox Yourself®? ⁠Click here to find the application to the show⁠   And remember its never too late to Unbox Yourself®!                    

Keywords   lesbian matchmaking, queer dating, monogamy, LGBTQ+, dating apps for lesbians, love stories, personal growth, authenticity, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships     Summary   In this engaging conversation, Samantha Fox reconnects with Sophia Spallino, a luxury lesbian matchmaker, to discuss her journey of self-discovery, the challenges of dating in the LGBTQ+ community, and the unique services offered by the Queer Country Club. They explore themes of monogamy, the importance of self-work in relationships, and the elusive nature of attraction and love. Sophia shares her insights on helping women find meaningful connections while navigating the complexities of modern dating.     Takeaways   Sophia Spallino identifies as a late-in-life lesbian, coming out at 29. She runs the Queer Country Club, a matchmaking service for monogamous women. Sophia believes in the importance of values and lifestyle alignment in relationships. The desire for love is a divine calling, according to Sophia. Both women discuss the prevalence of polyamory in dating apps. The need for self-work in order to have the chance at a successful relationship. The spark in relationships is often elusive and requires nurturing. The importance of reciprocity in relationships. Both women express hope for finding love in the future.     **************************     Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino   Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino:   Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love. Explore Private Matchmaking: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service⁠    Exclusive Luxury Lesbian™ Retreat at Canyon Ranch – A blissful weekend with an intimate group of extraordinary single queer women… curated to spoil your senses and reignite your belief in love and possibility. Join The Luxury Lesbian™ trip: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com/luxury-lesbian-retreat⁠   The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com⁠     Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you. Reserve A Private Coaching Session: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com/private-coaching⁠   Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino ⁠https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino⁠   ***********************************   Are you tired of constantly spiraling in thought as to whether or not you are gay? Bi? And then wondering if any of it even matters? If the answer is YES, then you are ready to ⁠Unbox Your Sexuality®⁠ In a matter of weeks you will be able to connect your dots as you are guided through sequential lessons that will help you Unpack, Unlearn and Unleash whatever is most authentic to you. You've got one life! What are you waiting for?   ***************************************   🏳️‍🌈Looking for professional guidance on any leg of your later in life journey? Book a coaching call with Samantha ⁠HERE⁠          

** ***TRIGGER WARNING-CSA*****   Are you ready to claim your power and Unbox Your Sexuality®? This Self-led program will help you peel back early learning and belief systems that no long align with you today. ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ to learn more ✨   Are you tired of doubting your feelings of same-sex attraction and wish you had a safe space to talk about what is coming up? The Bi Life Community is for women exploring all stages of their sexuality whether its Bi, Pan or Lesbian. Join this lively group and feel seen and supported by like minded women while having guided exploration and support from Samantha. ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ to learn more.   Keywords   conditioning, authenticity, male gaze, internalized misogyny, women's value, aging, beauty standards, self-worth, empowerment, societal constructs     Summary   In this episode, Samantha Fox delves into the themes of conditioning, authenticity, and the societal constructs that shape women's perceptions of their value and beauty. She discusses the impact of the male gaze, internalized misogyny, and the pressures of aging and appearance. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Samantha encourages listeners to reclaim their power, challenge societal narratives, and engage in self-reflection to foster growth and self-acceptance.     Takeaways   Conditioning affects women's power and self-worth. The male gaze influences how women perceive themselves. Societal constructs strip women of their value beyond appearance. Aging brings unique challenges to self-acceptance. Women often compete based on physical attractiveness. Self-worth should not be tied to societal beauty standards. Reclaiming power involves questioning internalized beliefs. Curiosity about self can lead to personal growth. Value comes from what the body can do, not how it looks. Engaging with supportive communities can aid in self-discovery.           Chapters   00:00 Exploring the Male Gaze and Its Impact 03:30 Conditioning and Internalized Misogyny 08:50 Aging, Youth, and Societal Expectations 13:42 Reclaiming Power and Value Beyond Appearance 21:22 Encouragement for Self-Reflection and Growth 22:23 Early Awareness of Family Dynamics 24:31 Understanding Gender Roles and Conditioning  

Are you realizing you are bisexual or gay and asking yourself "Now What?🤷‍♀️" LOOK NO FURTHER! ⬇️ ⁠Unbox Your Sexuality®: A Sexuality Liberation Program⁠ will break everything down for you so step by step and help you access the authentic you that is underneath all of the conditioning.   Looking for a like-minded community with women who are curious, questioning and/or coming out as bi or gay? Come join the guided exploration and community in ⁠The Bi Life! ⁠     Keywords   compulsory heterosexuality, comphet, self-discovery, relationships, identity, LGBTQ, societal expectations, lesbian community, authenticity, personal growth, bisexual, late in life lesbian, late blooming lesbian, societal conditioning     Takeaways   Compulsory heterosexuality can shape one's identity and relationships. Understanding early life experiences is crucial for self-discovery. Navigating relationships often involves unlearning societal expectations. Grieving past relationships is a necessary part of healing. Finding community is essential for support and connection. Self-care is vital for emotional well-being and growth. Embracing authenticity can lead to a more fulfilling life. It's important to unpack emotions and understand their origins. Conditioning affects how we perceive relationships and ourselves. It's never too late to explore one's identity and desires.     Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Jen Rosenstein, a member of The Bi Life community, delve into the complexities of identity, relationships, and the impact of societal expectations, particularly focusing on the concept of compulsory heterosexuality. Jen shares her personal journey of self-discovery, reflecting on her early life experiences, the challenges of navigating relationships, and the importance of finding community. They discuss the significance of grieving past relationships, unpacking emotions, and the journey towards authenticity and self-acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care and the importance of embracing one's true identity, regardless of age or societal pressures.  

Keywords: LGBTQ, compulsory heterosexuality, self-discovery, relationships, coming out, authenticity, personal journey, comphet, societal conditioning, internalized misogyny   Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox interviews Mandy, who shares her journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a member of the LGBTQ community. Mandy discusses her early experiences with attraction to women, her relationships with men, and the challenges of navigating her identity in a society that often promotes compulsory heterosexuality. She reflects on her marriage, the turning point that led her to embrace her true self, and her excitement about her engagement to the love of her life. Mandy also talks about her passion for writing and how her newfound authenticity has inspired her creative endeavors.     Takeaways:   Mandy reached out to Samantha after discovering the term 'comphet'. She realized her attraction to women very early in life, during her teenage years. Mandy's experiences in college helped her explore her sexuality, yet comphet won. She felt validation through her interactions with women. Mandy's marriage was a turning point in her self-discovery. She found a supportive community in her pole dancing group. Mandy's journey reflects the struggle with the brutal regime of compulsory heterosexuality. She now feels more settled and authentic in her identity.   You can learn more about Mandy and her upcoming Sapphic Novel on TikTok and IG @mandyaspey            

Are you ready to lean into exploration in a supportive community? Join us for the next round of The Bi Life HERE   If you'd like to chat with me about where you are on your journey, set up your 15 minute FREE call HERE   Keywords:   bisexuality, community, identity, relationships, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, support, safe space, societal norms, exploration, coming out later, queer,    Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox discusses the launch of her community, The Bi Life, aimed at supporting women who identify as bisexual or are looking for a safe space to explore their sexuality later in life. She shares insights from her experiences with the community, highlighting the feelings of isolation many women face and the importance of creating safe spaces for exploration and support. The conversation delves into the complexities of navigating relationships, societal norms, and the journey of self-discovery.   Takeaways:   The Bi Life community was created to support bisexual women, as well as women at all stages of realizing they are not straight.  Many women feel isolated when they realize they are not straight. Coming out later in life involves both gaining and losing. Societal norms can create pressure and confusion around identity. Creating safe spaces is essential for exploration. The community fosters open conversations about sexuality. Support from like-minded individuals is crucial. Living authentically is a journey worth pursuing.

THE BI LIFE ⬇️ Looking for a safe supportive community where you can explore what is coming up for you as you are 'coming out'? Check out ⁠THE BI LIFE⁠, a community for folks in all stages of exploring their sexuality.   Keywords: coming out, sexuality, healing, relationships, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, support, community, personal growth, parenting, time to heal Summary: In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox discusses the complexities of coming out later in life, the healing process that follows, and the importance of taking time before making significant relationship decisions. She emphasizes that while healing takes time, individuals can find hope and transformation in their journeys. Samantha also highlights the significance of understanding oneself and one's partner before rushing into new relationships, especially after a divorce. The conversation touches on co-parenting and the emotional challenges that come with it, ultimately encouraging listeners to embrace their authentic selves and seek supportive communities.   Takeaways: It takes two years to really heal after coming out. Healing is a process that varies for everyone. Don't rush into new relationships after a divorce. Understanding your partner's daily life is crucial. Marriage is a legal contract, not just a romantic notion. You can find freedom in co-parenting after separation. Time will change your feelings about past pain. It's important to explore your sexuality in a safe space. You are not alone in your journey of self-discovery. Community support can be invaluable during transitions.

In today's episode of Unbox Yourself™ with Samantha Fox® I share my early experiences of dating as a later in life lesbian when the partnership that I exited my marriage with came to a sudden end.    For any of you out there that are trying to figure out how to start dating and who you might be attracted to, this episode is for you.    Looking for support on any leg of your later in life journey?  I'd love to hear from you! Book a 15 minute exploratory conversation with me for FREE HERE     Keywords:   Late blooming lesbian, lesbian dating, LGBTQ+, coming out, relationships, attraction, identity, dating, lesbian, self-discovery, sexuality   Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself™, Samantha shares her personal journey of self-discovery as a single lesbian. She discusses her experiences with relationships, attraction, and the challenges of navigating the dating world. Samantha introduces the 'Samantha Scale' to categorize her attraction to women, exploring the complexities of identity, attraction and connection when you are newly out in the LGBTQ+ community.   Takeaways: Samantha shares her journey of becoming a single lesbian. She reflects on societal expectations and personal identity. The importance of self-discovery in understanding attraction. Samantha introduces her unique 'Samantha Scale' for attraction. Samantha emphasizes the significance of energy in attraction. The scale helps her and her friends navigate their preferences. She explores the fluidity of attraction and identity. Samantha encourages open conversations about types and attraction. The episode invites listeners to share their experiences and insights.

Keywords   sexual identity, bisexuality, lesbian, queer, self-discovery, relationships, sexual desire, community, LGBTQ, personal growth, same-sex desire, sexuality coach, questioning     Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox delves into the complexities of sexual identity, particularly focusing on the experiences of women questioning their sexuality. She discusses the societal pressures and rigid definitions surrounding labels like 'lesbian' and 'bisexual,' emphasizing the importance of personal exploration and self-acceptance. Through her work, she encourages individuals to connect with their true selves and find community support in their journeys of self-discovery.     Takeaways   Rigid definitions of sexuality can hinder self-discovery. Many women feel pressured to conform to societal norms. Exploring one's sexuality can be a brave journey. Community support is vital for those questioning their identity. Labels like 'lesbian' and 'bisexual' can be limiting. Self-acceptance is key to understanding one's desires. Experiences with partners can inform but not define identity. Curiosity about one's sexuality is a healthy pursuit. Finding pleasure and connection is a personal journey.   Set up a Free 15-minute call with me ⁠HERE⁠   Join the community here...⁠The Bi Life ⁠

Keywords:   sexuality, bisexuality, self-discovery, women's empowerment, relationships, emotional connection, sexual attraction, same sex attraction, societal norms, intimacy, LGBTQ+, strap-on-sex   Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox explores the complexities of sexuality, particularly bisexuality, through a personal story about her daughter's friend, Sarah. The conversation delves into societal expectations, the importance of emotional connections, and the multifaceted nature of women's identities beyond just their sexual experiences. Samantha encourages listeners to reflect on their perceptions of women and the deeper qualities that make them attractive, urging a shift away from the male gaze and towards a more holistic understanding of femininity.   Takeaways: Society often dictates who we should be before we discover ourselves. Experiences can shape our understanding of our sexuality, but they don't define it. Sexuality is complex and can be influenced by emotional connections. Women have much more to offer than just their sexuality. The male gaze can distort how we view women's worth. It's important to explore and understand our desires beyond societal norms. Bisexuality can encompass more than just sexual experiences with women. Women should be valued for their emotional and intellectual qualities, not just physical attributes. Self-acceptance is a journey that requires introspection and honesty. Community support is vital for those questioning their sexuality.

Keywords loss, friendship, sexuality, identity, relationships, self-acceptance, attraction, societal norms, personal growth, authenticity Takeaways Samantha discusses the impact of losing her father and the journey of self-discovery that followed. Charlotte shares her experience of navigating friendships with different sexual orientations. The conversation highlights the importance of open communication in friendships. Both speakers reflect on the complexities of identity and societal expectations. Samantha emphasizes the significance of self-acceptance in personal growth. Charlotte discusses the challenges of being a straight woman in a friendship with a lesbian. The speakers explore the nuances of attraction and desire in their friendship. They acknowledge the role of socialization in shaping their perspectives on relationships. The conversation touches on the therapeutic insights gained from their experiences. Both speakers celebrate the beauty of their friendship and the learning that comes from it.   Summary In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox and her guest Charlotte explore themes of loss, identity, and the complexities of friendships across different sexual orientations. They discuss personal experiences, societal expectations, and the importance of open communication in building connections. The conversation highlights the journey of self-acceptance and the beauty of authentic relationships, celebrating the unique dynamics of their friendship as they navigate these themes together.                                      ************************ Learn more about the Unbox Your Sexuality® Programs and/or apply to be a guest on the Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox® Podcast ⁠HERE⁠  

queerphobia, internalized homophobia, religious conditioning, coming out, sexuality, sobriety, relationships, shame, self-acceptance, LGBTQ+ Summary In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Heather Rosendahl explore the complexities of queerphobic conditioning, internalized homophobia, and the impact of religious upbringing on sexual identity. Heather shares her personal journey of coming out, navigating relationships, and the challenges of sobriety, while discussing the shame often associated with sexuality. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and the healing process in reclaiming one's identity and pleasure. Takeaways Internalized homophobia can stem from religious conditioning. Sobriety can complicate the exploration of sexuality. Shame around sexuality is a common experience because of our religious and societal conditioning. Relationships can be deeply affected by past conditioning. Finding connection requires vulnerability and honesty. Healing from queerphobic conditioning is possible. Pleasure should not be viewed as taboo or dirty.Support systems are crucial for navigating identity. Self-acceptance is a vital part of the healing process.   Cllick here to join the waitlist ⁠UNBOX YOUR QUEER PHOBIC CONDITIONING⁠ ************************* You can find Heather on TikTok and IG @handsomeheather And via email [email protected] ************************* Ready to come chat with me on the show? Drop me an email at [email protected]

Keywords sexual identity, self-discovery, bisexuality, relationships, trauma, health challenges, communication, community, authenticity, fluidity Takeaways Curiosity about one's sexuality can emerge at any age. Health challenges can significantly impact sexual identity and relationships. Feeling safe is important when coming out. Fear of rejection can hinder self-acceptance and honesty in relationships. Exploring one's identity is a gradual and personal journey. Coming out feels vulnerable and scary when you are fully dependent on the person you are coming out to. Supportive communities can provide validation and understanding. Labels can be helpful but are not necessary for self-identity. Connecting the dots of past experiences can aid in current self-discovery. Embracing authenticity is key to personal happiness.   Summary: In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Cali explore the complexities of sexual identity, particularly in the context of coming out later in life. Cali shares her journey of self-discovery, navigating her feelings of attraction towards women while being married to a man. The discussion delves into the impact of health challenges on sexuality, the importance of communication in relationships, and the fear of rejection. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the significance of finding community and support, embracing authenticity, and the gradual process of understanding one's identity.   Would you like to come on the show? Email Samantha at [email protected] today! Look for support on any leg of your journey? Check out my offerings at https://www.unboxyoursexuailty.com  

Keywords: evangelical christianity, religion, trauma, identity, purity culture, sexuality, coming out, LGBTQ, self-discovery, relationships, personal growth   Summary: In this conversation, Emily Rich shares her journey of self-discovery, navigating the complexities of growing up in a conservative Christian environment. In this environment her emotional system created protective parts that worked to keep her from knowing herself and her truth by self-gaslighting. Emily's diligent work through her trauma and ability to over time soften these gaslighing parts helped her to ultimately embrace her true identity as a queer woman. She discusses the impact of purity culture, the challenges of coming out, and the importance of finding community. Through her experiences, Emily highlights the significance of self-acceptance and the ongoing journey of living authentically. Takeaways: Emily grew up in a conservative Christian environment that shaped her identity. She experienced trauma that was compounded by religious teachings. Purity culture had a significant impact on her understanding of relationships. Emily struggled with her sexuality due to societal and religious pressures. The journey of coming out was filled with challenges and self-discovery. She found love after embracing her true self and leaving her past behind. Emily emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and authenticity. Her experiences highlight the complexities of navigating faith and sexuality. She acknowledges the role of therapy in her healing process. Emily's story is a testament to the power of community and support in personal growth.   ⁠Click here for more information about community, programs and courses to aid in the journey to Unbox Your Sexuality⁠   To learn more about Emily find her on IG at ⁠https://www.instagram.com/emilyofftheclock/

Keywords LGBTQ, internalized homophobia, pride, community, self-acceptance, family dynamics, visibility, authenticity, personal growth, conversations Summary In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox and Trish delve into Trish's transformative journey during her big gay solo adventure. They explore themes of internalized homophobia, the importance of community, and the challenges of visibility and vulnerability. Trish shares her experiences at a Pride event, her interactions with supportive individuals, and her reflections on family dynamics and acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the significance of embracing authenticity and the ongoing journey of self-acceptance, highlighting the healing power of community and open conversations. Takeaways Trish's journey involved confronting internalized homophobia. Community plays a crucial role in healing and acceptance. Visibility can be both empowering and vulnerable. Conversations about acceptance can strengthen family bonds. Embracing authenticity is a continuous process. Trish's experiences at Pride highlighted the importance of support. Navigating family dynamics requires open communication. Self-acceptance is a journey that takes time. Building community can foster connection and support. Healing often comes from sharing stories and experiences.   **Trish received approval to share the stories from each of the people she names in these two episodes.    Here is the link that Trish mentions in the Podcast about Angela Cooper https://www.huckmag.com/article/invisible-women-documentary-angela-cooper-luchia-fitzgerald   Are you struggling with Internalized Homophobia? Add your name to the waitlist and be the first to be notified when Unbox Your Internalized Homophobia - A Self-Led Course becomes available  

Keywords:   self-discovery, LGBTQ+, community, healing, identity, belonging, personal growth, relationships, empowerment, travel   Summary:   In this conversation, Trish shares her transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment as she navigates her identity as a lesbian. Through her experiences at the Out in Wild festival and her subsequent solo travels, she reflects on the importance of community, connection, and embracing one's true self. The discussion highlights the healing power of relationships, the challenges of internalized beliefs, and the joy of finding belonging in a supportive environment.   Takeaways: The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and requires vulnerability. Building relationships is essential for personal growth. Community provides a safe space for sharing experiences. Traveling can be a way to explore one's identity. Meeting diverse individuals can challenge preconceived notions. Internalized beliefs can hinder self-acceptance. Compassion for oneself is crucial in the healing process. Embracing one's identity leads to a sense of belonging. Solo adventures can foster independence and self-trust. Nature and movement can facilitate deep reflection and healing. Have you recently realized you may not be as straight as you thought?  Check out the UNBOX Your Sexuality® Programs at https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com  

Keywords:   coming out, self-acceptance, relationships, parenting, blended families, LGBTQ+, dating, expectations, communication, friendship   Summary:   In this episode of 'Unbox Yourself,' Samantha Fox and her friend Kim discuss their journeys of coming out later in life, the complexities of relationships and parenting, and the importance of self-acceptance. They share personal stories about navigating love, expectations, and the challenges of blended families, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding in relationships. Their candid conversation highlights the significance of friendship and support in the journey of self-discovery and acceptance.   Takeaways: Coming out is a personal journey that varies for everyone. Self-acceptance is crucial for living authentically. Relationships can be complicated, especially with children involved. Expectations in dating can lead to misunderstandings. Open communication is key to successful relationships. Friendship provides essential support during challenging times. Past experiences shape our present relationship choices. It's okay to prioritize personal needs in relationships. Blended families require patience and understanding. Navigating love and family dynamics is a continuous process. Are you coming out later in life and looking for community, exploration and support? Check out the Unbox Your Sexuality® programs at https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com   Ready to Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox on the podcast? Email Samantha at [email protected]  

Keywords:   gender identity, gender expression, personal growth, femininity, queer experiences, self-discovery, societal expectations, emotional healing, LGBTQ+, genderqueer, non-binary, gender-fluid   Summary:   In this episode, Samantha Fox and El Murray engage in a deep conversation about gender identity, personal experiences, and the journey of self-discovery. They explore the complexities of gender expression, societal expectations, and the emotional landscape surrounding these topics. El shares their personal journey of navigating gender, the impact of family and societal pressures, and the joy of embracing their authentic self. The discussion highlights the importance of compassion, healing, and the celebration of individuality in the context of gender identity.   Takeaways: Gender is a unique experience for each individual. Childhood experiences can shape our understanding of gender. Societal expectations often pressure individuals to conform. Navigating professional environments can challenge personal expression. Family dynamics play a significant role in gender identity. Self-discovery is a continuous journey that evolves over time. Embracing one's authentic self can lead to joy and fulfillment. Grief can accompany the process of understanding one's gender identity. Celebrating personal growth is essential in the journey of self-acceptance. Creating space for experimentation in gender expression is vital. For those of you interested in the Program El mentions in this episode, you can find more information here....Unbox Your Sexuality: A Sexuality Liberation Program    Are you a bisexual woman who is in a hetero-passing monogamous relationship and wish you had someplace safe to talk about your bisexuality? Learn more about THE BI LIFE and should you have any questions for me, you can reach me at [email protected]   Thanks for being here!!   

Keywords: relationships, identity, breakups, motherhood, family dynamics, love, healing, self-discovery, validation, twin flames Summary: In this conversation, Michele shares her journey of self-discovery, relationships, and the complexities of love and motherhood. From coming out and navigating breakups to the challenges of starting a family, Michele reflects on her experiences and the lessons learned along the way. The discussion also touches on the importance of validation in friendships and the spiritual journey of finding true love and connection. Takeaways: Michele realized her sexual identity through experiences with her college softball team. The relationship with Eve was profound and taught Michele a lot about love and family. Michele prioritized her desire to become a mother, leading to a difficult breakup with Eve. The journey of motherhood is filled with challenges, especially for same-sex couples. Michele's relationship with Carrie was marked by red flags that she initially overlooked. Healing and self-discovery are ongoing processes that require intentionality and effort. Validation in friendships is crucial for emotional support and growth. Michele's spiritual journey led her to understand the concept of twin flames and soulmates. The importance of being authentic and true to oneself in relationships. It's never too late to pursue happiness and make changes in life.   The Bi Life, a Community for bisexual women in hetero-passing monogamous relationships opens its doors on 7/1/25. Click ⁠HERE⁠ to learn more!   The Trauma Syndrome, by Tia Dayton is the book we refer to in this episode. Its a must read for anyone who grew up in a highly dysfunctional family, with addiction or mental illness, or is partnered with someone who grew up in this type of family.

Keywords:   bisexuality, polyamory, relationships, identity, community, internalized homophobia, queer, support, self-discovery, belonging   Summary:   In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Heidi Savell explore the complexities of bisexuality, relationships, and identity. They discuss their personal experiences with internalized homophobia, the journey of self-discovery, and the challenges of navigating relationships in a heteronormative society. The conversation highlights the importance of community, support, and celebrating one's identity, especially for those who identify as bisexual and are in monogamous relationships. They also touch on the significance of professional guidance when opening up relationships and the need for spaces where bisexual individuals can feel accepted and understood.   Takeaways:   Heidi's early experiences with bisexuality began in her teens. Internalized homophobia can manifest early in life. Heidi's journey of self-discovery included dating both men and women. Compulsory heterosexuality influenced Heidi's marriage decisions. Opening up relationships can reveal underlying issues. Authenticity in relationships is crucial for personal happiness. Cis men often dominate dating dynamics, affecting women's desires. Creating space for personal desires is essential in relationships. Community support is vital for those navigating bisexuality. Click here to learn more about The Bi Life , A Community for Bisexual Women in Hetero Monogamous Relationships Find Heidi on IG @steadypolyamory and the program she runs for those new to ENM Steady Your Poly Wobbles

Keywords:   expectations, self-acceptance, relationships, communication, personal growth, societal norms, parental influence, intimacy, self-exploration, emotional landscape   Summary:   In this conversation, Samantha Fox explores the concept of expectations, particularly how they shape our identities and relationships. She shares her personal journey of grappling with parental expectations and societal norms, leading to an 'allergic reaction' to expectations. The discussion emphasizes the importance of communication in relationships, highlighting how unspoken expectations can create distance and disappointment. Fox encourages listeners to engage in self-exploration and to express their needs and desires openly, rather than imposing expectations on others.   Takeaways: Expectation can create a burden that weighs heavily on individuals. Parental expectations can shape our paths in life, often leading to misalignment with our true selves. Breaking free from societal norms can be a liberating experience. Expectations in relationships can lead to misunderstandings and disappointment. Clear communication is essential to avoid the pitfalls of unspoken expectations. Self-exploration is key to understanding our own expectations and needs. Expectations can distance us from intimacy in relationships. We should not assume others know our expectations; communication is vital. Understanding the narrative behind our expectations can lead to personal growth. Expressing needs and desires openly fosters healthier relationships. The Bi Life, a Community for women who identify as bisexual and are in hetero monogamous relationships with men...Learn more here... https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com/bi-life   Ready to join me for chat on the show? Apply here!  https://unboxyoursexuality.com/podcast-register    

Keywords:   sexuality, self-acceptance, LGBTQ, coming out, therapy, relationships, authenticity, personal growth, visibility, community   Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox interviews Wendy Faith, a former participant in Unbox Your Sexuality®: A 12-week Sexuality Liberation Program.   Wendy shares her transformative journey of self-discovery after coming out later in life. Wendy discusses her experiences with betrayal, therapy, and the importance of embracing authenticity. She reflects on the challenges of navigating fears as a late bloomer about new relationships, the healing power of community, and the significance of visibility in both personal and professional realms.   Wendy's story serves as an inspiring reminder of the beauty that comes from living one's truth and the ongoing journey of self-acceptance.   Takeaways Wendy shares her journey of self-discovery after years of living in a heterosexual marriage. The importance of therapy in unpacking past traumas and embracing one's true identity. Grief is a natural part of the journey towards authenticity and self-acceptance. Wendy's experience highlights the challenges of coming out later in life. The significance of finding a supportive community during the transition. Navigating new relationships can be both exciting and intimidating for those coming out later. The UYS program provided Wendy with tools to explore her sexuality and build confidence. Visibility in business is crucial for LGBTQ individuals, especially those overcoming past traumas. Wendy emphasizes the importance of authenticity over perfectionism in personal and professional life. The journey of self-acceptance is ongoing and requires patience and self-compassion. Are you ready to Unbox Your Sexuality®? Learn more about the 12 Week Sexuality Liberation Program https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com/cohort   Is there something gnawing at you that you would like to talk with Samantha about? All you need to do is apply! You can do so here... https://unboxyoursexuality.com/podcast-register   Learn more about Wendy Faith...   Wendy Faith is a creative business coach and late-in-life lesbian who helps LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs unfreeze, unmask, and grow their revenue—without burning out or selling out. After a lifetime of navigating patriarchy, parenting, publishing, politics, perfectionism, AND people-pleasing, then finally coming out at 54, she’s here to remind you that it’s never too late to build something bold, brilliant, and completely your own.   https://www.wendyfaith.com/ https://www.facebook.com/WendyFaithCoaching https://www.instagram.com/wendyfaithcoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@wendy_faith  

*************EXPLICT**********TRIGGER WARNING***********   Welcome to Season 2 of Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®   Keywords   sexuality, self-discovery, pleasure, intimacy, sex toys, queer identity, relationships, vulnerability, double-sided dildo, self-acceptance   Summary   In this episode of 'Unbox Yourself,' Samantha Fox delves into the journey of self-discovery and sexuality, exploring the importance of pleasure, intimacy, and the use of sex toys. She shares personal stories about her experiences with sexual exploration, the significance of breaking down societal norms, and the complexities of navigating queer identities. The conversation emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in intimacy and encourages listeners to embrace their desires without judgment.   Takeaways Self-discovery is a lifelong journey that often begins with societal expectations. Sexuality can be explored at any stage of life, regardless of past experiences. Using sex toys can enhance personal pleasure and intimacy with partners. It's important to communicate openly about desires and preferences in relationships. Desiring penetration does not negate one's queer identity. Pleasure should be prioritized over societal norms in sexual relationships. Vulnerability is key to deepening intimacy with partners. Exploring different sexual experiences can lead to greater self-acceptance. There are many ways to experience pleasure beyond traditional methods. Breaking down limiting narratives around sex can enhance personal and partner satisfaction. As promised, this is the link to The Dollop Double Sided Dildo by Banana Split. https://bananasplitshop.com/products/dollop-bulb   Are you out of the closet but still in the house?   Join The Bi Life: A 6 month Community offering for bisexual women in hetero-monogamous reationships with men   This offering begins on July 1st and ends on December 31st, 2025. Grab your seat now! I can't wait to work with you!    Want to chat with me? Sign up HERE to guest on the podcast and be as anonymous as feels right to you! 

Keywords:   regrets, identity, coming out, relationships, self-discovery, co-parenting, emotional labor, healing, motherhood, sexuality     Summary:   This conversation explores the complexities of identity, relationships, and the journey of self-discovery, particularly for those who come out later in life. Sogol shares her experiences growing up in Iran, navigating her sexuality, and the challenges of co-parenting while embracing her identity as a lesbian. The discussion highlights the importance of acknowledging regrets, the emotional labor involved in relationships, and the necessity of creating space for grief and healing.     Takeaways: Living life fully often comes with regrets. Cultural background can shape one's understanding of identity. Coming out is a personal journey that can be complex. Relationships require emotional labor and self-awareness. Cultural expectations can pressure individuals into certain life choices. Self-acceptance is a crucial part of the journey. Awakening to one's sexuality can happen at any stage in life. Navigating co-parenting while exploring one's identity is challenging. Grieving is a necessary process after a breakup. Creating space for grief is essential for healing.

Keywords   self-discovery, relationships, sexuality, coming out, community, marriage, emotional intimacy, living together apart, personal growth, LGBTQ+   Summary   In this episode of 'Unbox Yourself,' Samantha Fox and Trish engage in a deep conversation about self-discovery, relationships, and the journey of coming out later in life. They explore the complexities of navigating relationships, the importance of being intentional about what one wants, and the challenges of emotional intimacy. Trish shares her personal journey of healing and growth after her first relationship with a woman, while Samantha reflects on her experiences with marriage and the concept of living apart together (LAT). The discussion also touches on the idea of lovers and the lessons learned from past relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding in intimate connections.   Takeaways: Self-discovery is a continuous journey. Intentionality in relationships is crucial. Understanding personal needs can prevent future heartache. Marriage can carry emotional wounds that need healing. Community is essential for expressing one's identity. Living apart together can redefine relationship dynamics. The concept of a lover can vary greatly between individuals. Relationships can bring both joy and pain. Learning from past relationships is vital for growth. Every new relationship is a unique experience. If you are looking for guidance as you question your sexuality, and are ready to do a deep dive into knowing and understanding yourself and your sexuality, learn more about UNBOX YOUR SEXUALITY®: A 12-week Sexuality Liberation Program HERE   Have questions about the program? Email [email protected]   Ready to Join Samantha and Unbox Yourself™ on the show? Register at https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com 

Keywords:   self-acceptance, coming out, relationships, late bloomers, long-distance love, personal growth, LGBTQ+ community, friendship, communication, emotional support   Summary:   In this episode of 'Unbox Yourself,' Samantha Fox and her friend and ex partner Stephanie discuss their experiences as late bloomers coming out later in life. They explore the complexities of navigating relationships, especially as parents, and the challenges of long-distance love. The conversation delves into personal growth, the importance of communication, and maintaining friendships with exes, emphasizing the need for honesty and self-reflection in relationships.   Takeaways: Society often dictates how we should live and love. Coming out later in life can feel like a second adolescence. Navigating relationships as a late bloomer is complex. Long-distance relationships have unique challenges and benefits. Personal growth often comes from navigating difficult relationships. Maintaining friendships with exes can be healthy and beneficial. Communication is key in any relationship, especially with past partners. Self-reflection is crucial when considering relationships with exes. It's important to prioritize what is best for your children during transitions. Building a chosen family can help fill the void left by lost connections. Are you ready to Unbox Yourself™? Samantha would love to hear from you. Register to be a guest on the show at https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com. *You can be as anonymous or as public as feels right to you! 

Keywords   polyamory, non-monogamy, open relationships, communication, self-discovery, relationship dynamics, ethical non-monogamy, honesty, transparency, emotional landscape   Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox and polyamory coach Heidi Savell explore the complexities of polyamory and non-monogamous relationships. They discuss the importance of communication, honesty, and navigating the emotional landscape of opening relationships, especially for individuals discovering their sexuality later in life. The conversation emphasizes the need for transparency and the potential challenges that arise when partners have differing desires regarding relationship structures. Heidi shares insights on how to approach these discussions and the significance of understanding one's own needs and desires in the context of relationships.   Takeaways Heidi Savell has been a therapist for over 15 years, focusing on polyamory for the last 10. Polyamory can be challenging for those new to it, and support is essential. Open relationships are often more casual, while polyamory involves deeper emotional connections. Communication is key when exploring non-monogamous relationships. It's important to discuss all possible outcomes before opening a relationship. Trial separations can be a way to explore new dynamics without immediate commitment. Honesty about feelings and attractions is crucial in relationships. Many people may seek a soft exit from their current relationship through non-monogamy. The journey of self-discovery can be complex and requires ongoing conversations. Professional guidance can help facilitate difficult discussions about relationship dynamics. You can find Heidi on IG @steadypolyamory and learn more about her coaching programs for those new to ENM at https://www.steadypolyamory.com   Are you ready to Unbox Yourself™ from whatever it is that keeps you from being embodied and living your truth?  Register to talk about it with Samantha today https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com  

*****TRIGGER WARNING-SEXUALLY EXPLICIT CONTENT******* In Episode 8 of Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®, Robin Jennings from the Fuck Yeah Podcast and Sapphoir Faire Candles joins me for an in depth conversation about their early experiences  and how these shaped their sexuality as they grew into their adulthood. Learn more Robin Jennings in the links below.  Keywords   sexuality, identity, self-discovery, relationships, vulnerability, community, belonging, pleasure, desire, acceptance   Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Robin explore the complexities of sexuality, identity, and relationships. Robin shares their journey of self-discovery, including their struggles with compulsory heterosexuality, childhood influences, and the impact of misogyny on their understanding of attraction. The discussion delves into the nuances of navigating relationships, the deconstruction of harmful fantasies, and the embrace of uncertainty in sexual attraction. Robin expresses their fears about future relationships and the possibility of being heterosexual, while also considering the benefits of non-monogamy and emotional connections. In this conversation, Robin and Samantha explore themes of sexual exploration, emotional boundaries, and the redefinition of pleasure beyond traditional norms. Robin shares their experiences in creating safe spaces for sexual play and the complexities of navigating new relationships post-breakup. They discuss the importance of honest communication in relationships, the pressure surrounding orgasm, and the desire to embrace fluidity in sexual identity. The conversation culminates in a reflection on overcoming feelings of inadequacy within the queer community and the journey towards self-acceptance. In this conversation, Robin and Samantha explore the complexities of relationships, vulnerability, and self-discovery. They discuss the importance of communication in relationships, the evolution of personal identity, and the protective parts of oneself that can hinder growth. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of acknowledging and integrating these protective aspects while fostering a sense of belonging and self-acceptance.   Takeaways Robin has been involved in the queer community since her teenage years. They discovered the term 'compulsory heterosexuality' and it changed their perspective. Childhood experiences with misogyny influenced her understanding of femininity and attraction. Robin's relationships have often been shaped by a desire for male approval. They are now questioning their past sexual experiences and their motivations. Robin feels a sense of calm about their identity but fears being heterosexual. They are open to exploring non-monogamous relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of emotional connections in attraction. Robin is in a phase of self-discovery and unpacking their past. The discussion emphasizes the need to challenge societal norms around gender and sexuality. Creating safe spaces for exploration is essential. Emotional boundaries are crucial in new relationships. Pleasure can exist beyond the goal of orgasm. Redefining sexual norms can lead to more fulfilling experiences. Fluidity in sexual identity allows for broader connections. Honest communication can prevent misunderstandings in relationships. Self-acceptance is a journey, especially within the queer community. Imposter syndrome can hinder one's sense of belonging. Exploring pleasure should not be a chore. Intimacy can be redefined outside traditional expectations. I can get hurt and then be okay. To learn more about Robin Jennings visit their Podcast and Candle Company fuckyeahpod.com @fuckyeahpod - IG, Tiktok   sapphoirfaire.com @sapphoirefaire - IG, Tiktok   Ready to Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®? Head over to https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com and register to be a guest today! 

sexuality, self-acceptance, relationships, kink, emotional depth, identity, authenticity, partnership, trauma, empowerment   Summary:   In this episode of 'Unbox Yourself,' Samantha Fox and Joelle explore the complexities of identity, sexuality, and relationships. Joelle shares her journey of self-discovery, including her experiences within the kink community and her evolving understanding of her sexual orientation. The conversation delves into the dynamics of power in relationships, the importance of emotional depth, and the significance of recognizing one's desires beyond societal expectations. Through honest dialogue, they highlight the importance of self-acceptance and the ongoing journey of understanding one's true self.   Takeaways: The journey to self-acceptance is ongoing and personal. Exploring sexuality can lead to profound self-discovery. Kink can provide a safe space for exploring desires. Power dynamics in relationships can stem from past trauma. Emotional depth is crucial for fulfilling partnerships. Recognizing one's desires is key to authentic relationships. Self-exploration can happen at any stage of life. Feeling wanted can sometimes overshadow true attraction. Communication is essential in navigating relationships. Understanding personal history can inform current desires. Ready to have a chat with Samantha about where you are stuck or your new SELF discovery? Apply to join the show at https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com today

Keywords:   grief, identity, coming out, relationships, self-acceptance, LGBTQ+, emotional landscape, loss, survival mode, personal growth Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox delves into the complex emotions surrounding grief, particularly in the context of coming out later in life. She shares her personal journey of navigating identity, loss, and the challenges of relationships while emphasizing the importance of embracing feelings and allowing oneself to grieve. The conversation highlights the societal discomfort with grief and the necessity of processing these emotions to foster personal growth and authenticity.   Takeaways: Grief is a natural part of life and identity changes. Coming out later in life often involves significant loss. Relationships can be complicated during times of grief. Grieving is a lifelong journey that requires space and time. Embracing feelings of sadness is essential for healing. Society often struggles to support those who are grieving. Personal growth often comes from navigating through grief. It's important to communicate your needs during the grieving process. Finding support is crucial for processing grief and loss. Are you ready to Unbox Yourself? Go to https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com and apply to come have a chat with Samantha on the show! You can be as anonymous as you would like!   

*******************TRIGGER WARNING*********************** This episode explores the impacts of SA on Sexuality. Please use caution if choosing to listen.    identity, sexuality, trauma, self-acceptance, consent, queerness, LGBTQ+, personal growth, empowerment, societal expectations   Summary:   In this episode of 'Unbox Yourself,' Samantha Fox explores the complexities of identity, sexuality, and the impact of childhood trauma. She discusses how societal expectations shape our understanding of ourselves and the importance of consent in relationships. Through personal anecdotes and conversations, she emphasizes the journey to self-acceptance and the validity of diverse experiences, particularly for those who have faced sexual trauma.   Takeaways: We are conditioned from a young age to conform to societal norms. Childhood trauma can significantly impact one's understanding of sexuality. Consent is crucial, and saying 'no' should be respected. Many individuals may question their sexual orientation due to past experiences. Self-acceptance is a journey that varies for everyone. Experiences of trauma do not define one's sexual identity. It's essential to validate personal experiences and feelings. The spectrum of sexuality is broad and complex. Understanding queerness involves recognizing diverse attractions. Sharing stories can foster connection and understanding.

n this conversation, Angie shares her profound journey of self-discovery after enduring conversion therapy and living a life that felt inauthentic for decades. She discusses the guilt and shame stemming from her past, the impact of societal and religious pressures, and her desire to embrace her true self and sexuality. The dialogue explores the complexities of relationships, community, and the challenges of aging, while emphasizing the importance of self-love and pleasure. Ultimately, Angie expresses hope for a future where she can fully embrace her identity and desires.   Takeaways Angie's experience with conversion therapy was brutal and life-altering. She lived a lie for 40 years, feeling guilt and shame about her identity. The indoctrination from religious beliefs created deep-seated feelings of fear and grief. Angie escaped conversion therapy after 10 months, which had a lasting impact on her life. She married a man due to societal pressure, despite not being attracted to him. Angie's journey of self-discovery began two years ago after a near-death experience. She struggles with feelings of guilt for not standing up for her true self earlier. The conversation highlights the importance of exploring core emotions and self-acceptance. Angie is learning to embrace her sexuality and desires at 58 years old. The dialogue emphasizes the need for self-love and the joy of exploring one's body. The self pleasure toy I mention in my chat with Angie is called the Womanizer and the link to the item is https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/deals/we-vibe-womanizer/p/womanizer-red-duo-rechargeable-g-spot-and-clitoral-stimulator/a48922g86877.html Ready to Unbox Yourself™ with Samantha? Sign up to Apply for the Show at https://www.unboxyoursexuality.com