Episodes
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What was kinder thing to do, stay or go? | Phil
Phil had strong feelings for his partner. At first, it appeared she did as well. Suddenly, she ended things with him but she insisted they still sleep next to each other. 3 days later she changed her mind. Phil didn't get any answers as to why she was back and forth with him but he was happy not…
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You are not alone in your loneliness | Jonny | TED2019
Finding your way through the world is not easy. The mystery of love can be too much to bear when we're feeling alone and isolated. Jonny talks to this idea of not feeling like he belongs and the saving grace in his life has been connection to people, even when they've been strangers. Listen for...
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No Sex Marriage – Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame | Maureen McGrath | TEDxStanleyPark
We hope to avoid bad things happening to us and we do our best to not be the bad guy in someone else's life. What happens when the bad things come? No sex? Cheating? Loneliness? Divorce and break-ups? Maureen speaks to the unspeakable things that we tend to handle on our own - isolated, afraid,...
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I asked for too little too late | Colleen
Colleen's heartache carries both sorrow and wisdom. She loved her husband with all her heart. She loved the 3 girls from his previous marriage with all her heart. So much of her story with her ex is tied to the challenges of being the unwanted step-mom of a teen. Her husband struggled with...
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Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi TedWomen
When we're uncomfortable, it can tough to know how to put our thoughts in words. Even tougher, is stepping out and speaking up! What about the risk of all the bad things that might happen? This Ted talk does a great job addressing the value of being uncomfortable when it's the right thing to do....
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I don't know how to get closure | George
You want to do the right thing. You want to see love grow and last a lifetime. That's what George thought he found! He found himself at home with her even when she received a terminal diagnosis. He was devastated to find out that she had been cheating and couldn't bring himself to trust her…
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His wife approved of us | Sandy
20 years ago Sandy and Burt dated. Their paths crossed again, and eventually, Burt invited Sandy to date once more... this time he was a married man newly exploring an open marriage with his wife. Even though Sandy had some experience with non-traditional relationships, this was new for her too....
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We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny Ted Women 2018
Heartache is a combination of grief, sorrow, loss, confusion, anxiety and so much more. When you have heartache, what do you hear about moving forward? Maybe it's your voice or the voice of others saying "move on" and "let go" - but how do you move on from the memories and the moments that shaped...
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Isolation is the dream-killer, not your attitude | Barbara Sher | TEDxPrague
How many times do we find ourselves stuck in our own heads, or comparing ourselves to others? What if - we had a way to get ourselves unstuck - and discover solutions to overcome our pain or find the missing pieces in our lives? Well, according to Barbara Sher we have to change our common...
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Do I choose him or my dream to travel? | Bel
Bel is returning to talk through the grief and anxiety of making the decision to stay with her ex or move on and follow her dreams. They love each other and have a great relationship. They also happened upon a non-negotiable. He wants to build roots in their hometown. She wants to explore the…
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I was never an option | Arietta
It's official! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. Today's guest shares about how she fell in love with a dear friend - not knowing…
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We met in a bar | Bridget
Bridget gave herself a pass in her 20's, "it's ok to party hard". She embraced a lifestyle that was wild - drugs, substance abuse and a delicate state of mental health were the norm for awhile. She met a man at a bar and their connection was electrifying and unstable. They were on and off, he was...
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Mistakes make exceptional possible | Lizz
You are in for a ride with Lizz's story. It's filled with tragedy and trauma that Lizz is in the midst of healing from. You'll learn how she's been coping with grief and what happens when her soulmate and best friend, G breaks her heart. Lizz is also the Nutress of the World! She founded…
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The danger of silence | Clint Smith Ted@NYC
We can sacrifice our voice in more than one way. Sometimes, it's by not speaking up. Sometimes it's by pleasing others or compromising. Sometimes it's by speaking but not standing up for ourselves, others, or honoring the truth. This topic transcends romantic relationships and impacts our lives...
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I screwed it all up | Scott
Scott wasn't ready for love when it suddenly appeared one summer. Emma was an international student and was willing to make a big move for their relationship. Scott said let's wait. Distance grew and they broke up. He screwed up. He feels guilty for hurting her and possibly letting "the one"...
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On being wrong | Kathryn Schulz | Ted
Why is hindsight so powerful? One reason is the clarity with which we see the past. Our narrative has fewer gaps and we can see missed opportunities or the error in our ways. It's often unpleasant to discover where we were wrong. It happens so often in relationships as we reflect on how it…
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Just not with her... | April
Sometimes you miss the good things you had even though it was far from perfect. April struggled with anorexia and her boyfriend didn't quite get the scope of her pain. The relationship ended but the feelings remained. He had big news - he's going to be a Dad! Any hopes of a future dissolved. She...
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Inside the mind of a master procrastinator | Tim Urban TED
What is one of the reasons why breaking up is so tough? Could it be procrastination? We don't want to be hurt or hurt others... we end up avoiding difficult conversations, being honest with ourselves or others and making tough choices... This is a humorous and insightful Ted Talk that will…
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Falling in love is the easy part | Mandy Tedx
Falling in love is the phrase we've heard since birth. We've also learned falling hurts and "feeling" in love might not be so easy to sustain long-term. This is a topic Mandy addresses in her talk. What if we could build intimacy with someone, be seen and known and experience deeper connection?...
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Forget big change, start with a tiny habit | BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont
How we go about making changes can seem overwhelming, especially in the area of heartache. Our little habits can have a big impact on shifting us out of an old or unwanted place. Today's show is a Ted Talk by BJ Fogg who teaches us perspective and techniques on how tiny habits lead to…
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How to breathe | Belisa Vranich | TEDxManhattanBeach
Heartache, fear, doubt, anxiety, uncertainty and many other emotions that accompany tough moments in life are stressful for your body. One way to calm down, open your heart, heal your pain and find your voice is through your breath. It is simple and effective. Dr. Belisa takes us through how to...
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I didn't feel like a whole person | Greg
Sometimes to survive the hard times, we forget. Greg found himself in a marriage that was not home, nor safe. He lost his identity as a man and thought the only way out was suicide. Writing goodbyes to his children, gave him enough pause to find another way through his suffering. Greg has a…
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Why so angry? | Kurt
Kurt arrived at this interview just after his final deposition with his soon-to-be ex-wife. A second failed marriage and being a Christian single father of three is not what he imagined would be his reality. Like many people in his situation, he carries a lot of guilt and anger. What's at the…
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The Art of Choosing | Sheena Lyengar TedGlobal
What if someone could study how we make choices? The attitudes and philosophies behind the decisions we make? When we reflect on our relationship choices or the patterns of behavior we have - sometimes it's hard to make sense of it! Sheena takes us through her research about studying choice! It's...
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Cocooned for a year | Kerry
Kerry and I's conversation flowed with casual ease and laughter. Can you start over in your mid-30's as a divorcee and single Mom? Yes! What about navigating the mystery and terrors of online dating? Kerry shares about diving in, finding new liberties and navigating the disappointments and hopes…
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Discovering unconditional love | Daniel
Daniel grew up conforming to the ideas of what it meant to be a man through the critical words and judgments of the women in his life. He was not going to be like his Dad or his Uncles. He was going to be a good guy and a nice guy. Little did he know that he was only masking and hiding who he…
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You deserve better | Spencer
So many thoughts and questions arise when talking with Spencer. He was betrayed a few times in a row with women that brought out extreme opposite sides of himself. He took time to recover after his second break up and found himself wounded again in an unexpected way. Through his trials, he...
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Break UP to Better | Daniella Cracknell
What if you could look into your past to find out how you got here today? Daniella found family letters from childhood that revealed insights to some personal relationship patterns. In an unfortunate and unlikely way she realized she needed to re-assess how to care for her heart. Through all her...
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Break-ups don't have to leave you broken | Gary Lewandowski TEDxNavesink
Ending a relationship is an opportunity we can embrace to become a better person. Sometimes breakups are unexpected, or they end a bad situation. Either way, what if this is the ticket out of prison - a fresh start to exploring life without being stuck? Gary addresses this very topic in today's...
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Why are you letting me go? | Raul
Raul, found love in New York with a partner who seemed to be a dream come true. Raul invested wholeheartedly into the relationship - holding nothing back. Only one seed of doubt existed in their connection and he sensed it from the beginning. Was Anthony going to be ready? Did he still need time…
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I didn't intend for it to be serious | Maranda
Maranda is still recovering from a breakup that happened a year ago. He ended 4 1/2 years in a text and it's left her hurting. After a lot of time to self-reflect, we take time on this episode to deep dive into what holds her back from moving forward. Guilt, regret and anger have plagued her long...
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Can we choose to fall out of love? | Dessa Tedx WanChai
The attachments we carry with us to our partner are what bond us. Those attachments also make letting go after a breakup pretty tough, sometimes, near impossible. Is it a matter of the mind or the heart? Could it be both? Dessa, couldn't let go. "Everyone else seems to be able to do this, why is…
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A series of synchronicities | Liberty
What happens when you open the door to your body and soul wide open? Liberty tells us about the adventures of online dating and self-discovery. She was married for a long time and since her divorce, she's explored her artistic creativity, her spirit of adventure, and her sexuality. Some of it has...
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Drinking and how it changed my life | Ann Dowsett-Johnston at TEDxHomeBushRdWomen
Alcohol: friend or foe? Good question. Alcohol has a common presence in relationships and in breakups. Ann tells her story of finding out that she was truly an alcoholic. She outs herself in her book called "Drink". Many people know the woes of alcohol but not as many know both the woes and wins…
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Getting the love you want | Harville Hendrix Super Soul
Not all relationships on the brink of failure are hopeless. There are tools that can help you discover where the negative patterns of communication and behavior come from. This talk is a replay of a conversation between the author, Oprah, and a few couples who find out they can be vulnerable and...
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Trying to buy happiness | Will
Will had a good job and a nice house. He was looking for a wife, someone to build a future and a home with. When he met Maddie, they fell fast! She was a strong, independent woman and knew what she liked. Turns out that was a mask. Beneath the mask he found a woman who was afraid, isolating, and...
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The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen
When you look at your past, do you see failure? Tracy did. She thought she'd find love by marrying men who'd make her feel at home and like she had a place to belong. It wasn't working. She always knew she wanted to be married, and discovered that if she could marry herself and be committed,...
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Living with a Whole Heart Part 2 | Brené Brown | Oprah Super Soul
Doesn't heartache feel unfair and like unwanted suffering? When we are rejected, we can feel disoriented. It's hard to know we're loved, that we belong and we are valued. This is the danger of a rough breakup! No matter what you go through, it is never true that you aren't worthy of love. This is...
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Daring Greatly Part 1 | Brené Brown (From August 6th, 2017) | Oprah Super Soul
When we feel alone in the darkness, when we're being bullied by lies that say we aren't worthy - we need hope and faith! Sometimes, just that you're showing up is enough. It counts and you're not alone! This chat echos these sentiments as Brene and Oprah share about risks and consequences of...
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The "80/20" Heart | Josh
Falling in love for the first time or even the 20th time is both exhilarating and disorienting. After he found out his girlfriend was cheating on her he decided it wasn't safe to fall in love again. It's best to hold back part of my heart and my love so I don't feel that pain again. What are the...
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She began to cool | Eirik
She cheated but the relationship was fractured before her one night stand. Was it the difference in their religious beliefs, or lifestyle interests or general compatibility? It's most likely a combination of all the above. Listen as Eirik and I explore marriage, divorce, love, religion and...
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The lies our culture tells us and a better way to live | David Brooks Tedx
"We all go through bad seasons". David starts his talk with these universal words. Whether we get what we want or lose what we thought we wanted, we can experience a sense of feeling delusional. I believe David does a great job addressing some of the moments where we have to reconcile the picture...
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Good Boundaries Free You | Sarri Gilman Tedx
What if there were a skeleton key to unlock difficult relationships? It comes in the form of boundaries! Learning to yes and no is one of the most overlooked traits to helping us have healthy relationships and great self-care. Sarri takes us through a new perspective that will inspire us to have...
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Ghosted and mute | Courtney
Do you explore dating apps hoping for something special or short-term fun? Is it just a digital pen pal or a foundation for something more? Keilee thought she connected with someone special. She was naive and he was cowardly. This combination led to a four-year tug-of-war on heartstrings that…
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My dark monster inside | B
B is a young Lebanese-American man whose family is originally from Lebanon. Even though he thinks he's generally a good person, he finds himself wrestling with an internal monster. He first noticed this monster of rage when he dated Brenda. Maybe she created the monster? But after they broke up...
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It still makes me cry | Dailee
Dailee was dumped by her Jewish boyfriend and it stung hard! She has recovered well; however, in our chat we found an old wound from the fall out between she and her first love. Even though it was years ago the negative words he spoke hadn't yet left her. Dailee was brave in facing an old scar…
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How to Get Over The End of a Relationship | Antonio Pascual-Leone | TEDxUniversityofWindsor
The lingering thoughts and feelings at the end of a relationship can be overwhelming and obsessive. You can feel stuck. Not only does it take a while to get over a relationship, the remnants can haunt us in the future. In this TedTalk, we will hear simple, practical, and helpful advice on how to...
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Say your truths and seek them in others | Elizabeth Lesser Ted Women
It's really common to think and say to oneself - "I wish I would've said..." or "If only I could get this off my chest...". We tend to withhold how we truly feel and the drama of that energy builds up in our bodies and minds - creating toxic thoughts and distance between us and those we care most...
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Why we get mad and why it's healthy | Dr. Ryan Martin TEDxFondduLac
Anger is an emotion that can reveal an injustice, help us with a boundary and even get us in trouble. When we experience anger, sometimes, we can shake it off. Other times, it lingers and becomes a weapon. This Ted Talk creates a fresh perspective on our anger! It's refreshing and fun to have a…
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How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves You | Femi Ogunjinmi | TEDxXavierUniversity
Along the way, we learn life lessons. Love is always pursuing us and we may not know it or be able to receive it. What about when we declare our love to someone and behave in a way that is contrary to what we say? Why do we hold on to someone when we don't want to be faithful? Or when we want a...
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A podcast about navigating the messiness and aftermath of breakups. Our guests enter into the conversation shackled to their break up stories and together we find the keys.
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