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Unpacking Myself
by Neha Patel
Each week you will get a window into how I unpack the clutter and hard stuff in my mind. I will leave you with questions so you can do the same. The only expert on this podcast is YOU.Find me on Instagram: @unpackingmyself or email me [email protected]. Would love to hear from you!
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TRUST THE FEELING | Trusting your gut when the words and actions don't add up.
There is a shift happening in the world where people are moving from just relying on their 5 senses to trusting the other senses we have been given such as our intuition and gut. We hear more and more people say "I can't explain it but I just have a feeling" but it can be hard to trust our gut if...
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SPEAKING UP | Why so many of us shy away from speaking up in our life, and why it's time to change this.
Have you ever found yourself wanting to speak up about something but you decide not to? It could be at work, with friends, with your spouse, at the store, at a restaurant. We don't want to create conflict or make it awkward. In this episode, I tap into all the reasons we often choose to stay…
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OUR SHARED HUMANITY | How we lose sight of our humanity when we define ourselves—and others—by roles, titles, and identities.
You know what we have become really good at doing? Coming up with labels and boxes to put people in. We want to pack a punch and invoke emotion with the least words possible. What better way than to call people names that puts them into a box. Eliminates the need to even have a rational,...
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INTENTIONALITY | The cost of not being intentional is greater than you think.
Ever wake up and realize you've been living on autopilot — saying yes to things you didn't choose and following a path someone else set for you? In this episode, I unpack a quote by Brené Brown that got me thinking about what it really means to be intentional — and why we sometimes avoid it.…
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LIFE WISDOM WITH MY MENTOR: JONATHAN ORD | A deep dive into real confidence and humility in leadership, choosing grace over ego, the struggles young people face today, and so much more.
There are a small number of people who leave a lifelong impact on who you become. The individual I'm interviewing on this episode, Jonathan Ord, is one of those humans for me. You have to listen in order to understand why I look up to this individual for his example, principles and wisdom. He has…
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FOLLOWING THE CROWD | Do you have control of your reality, or are you following theirs?
It has never been more important than now to be in touch with your inner self and knowing so that your reality is an expression of you and not those around you. How do you do this when we are constantly being bombarded with opinions, reels, tiktoks, marketing to make us follow the crowd? In this...
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PSYCHOLOGICAL VS PRACTICAL MOTIVE | What really drives your actions—the need itself, or the story behind it?
Have you ever noticed the difference between doing something because it's necessary versus doing it because you want to be seen or because of insecurities? In this episode, I unpack the distinction between practical motive and psychological motive, and how this subtle shift can be the root of...
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UNPACKING WITH MY DAUGHTER | The episode where I unpack live with a special guest - my daughter Saaya!
Something I love doing is unpacking life with my kids too. Its a skill I want them to grow up having and using as they move through life. My eight year old daughter has been watching me for the last 5 years doing this podcast and asked if she could do an episode with me so here it is! We talk…
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EPISODE 200: OPINIONS | The downside of opinion overload - our own and others.
Opinions seem to be a dime a dozen these days. Humans probably have always had opinions but now they are thrown in our face by every Joe Shmoe through social media, news, etc. Someone in my life recently shined a light on all my opinions, especially the unnecessary ones. In this episode, I unpack...
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LIFE UPGRADE | How and why the universe pushes us beyond what's working in our life even though it feels "good enough."
In this episode, I unpack a lesson from my old boss who told me, "don't get too comfortable with the status quo." At the time, I thought everything was great so why 'fix what ain't broken?' I later realized he was pointing to something deeper: when we settle into "good enough," we often miss out…
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THE QUIET SHIFT | How the world is asking us to wake up. The flashy stuff is losing its shine — here's what's replacing it.
I'm making a prediction in this episode - feel free to hold me to it. I think life's quieter truths are making a comeback. Its nothing new but when life gets easy, comfortable, we lose sight of the ideals and values and things that truly matter to us. We forget to defend it, speak up about it and...
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SEEING YOURSELF | The eyes show us the world, but only when we close them can we truly see ourselves.
Isn't it ironic that we can see everything with our eyes—except ourselves. In this episode, I reflect on why true self-connection requires us to go inward. Meditation, stillness, and closing our eyes aren't just practices—they're the only way to truly see who we are beyond the noise and connect...
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TOUGH LOVE | Do your actions invite honesty or flattery?
A recent post by Adam Grant on one of the most underrated skills being able to receive tough love inspired this episode. A majority of people struggle to receive constructive criticism from others. In this episode I explore why that is and why we take it so personally. On the surface most people...
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WHAT GROUNDS YOU | Why having something to ground us matters now more than ever.
Have you ever thought about what grounds you in life? Something constant, steady, a strong foundation that brings you back no matter what is happening around you or to you? In this episode, I talk about the many things past generations had but how we are moving away from a lot of them. Life…
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OUR PERSONALITY | Realizing that the parts of our personality that brings pain, also is the source of so much good.
When things don't go our way in life, its easy to get caught up in self-doubt and become our very own harshest critic. We wonder why we let something happen or why we keep doing this particular thing. Many times we are often saying, why were you being who you are but a friend recently said...
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ROOTED IN FEAR OR LOVE? | Realizing when you are listening to the devil on your shoulder instead of the angel, as you walk through life.
This concept of you experiencing the world as you are is a hard one to grasp unless you have experimented with it. We all have different voices in our head and often times on auto-pilot we listen to the one rooted in fear without even realizing it. In this episode, I share a big realization I had...
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ARE YOU HAPPY? | What does this question really mean and how do you find your answer?
What does "being happy" really mean? How do you answer that question? Have you ever answered that question with a "but" or hesitated before answering? You're not alone - most people do. I realized recently that we tend to hesitate because we aren't quite sure how to measure it. Is it the big...
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THE "WHAT IF" TRAP | How to stop the mind from taking us down the endless, unproductive "what if" trap.
At some point or another, I think we all have experienced our mind going down the "what if" path - what if that didn't happen, what if I said this instead, etc. It is normal but it doesn't have to be something we deal with all the time. This weekend something unexpected happened that inspired a...
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LITMUS TEST FOR GROWTH | Your comfort or discomfort with being misunderstood by people is an indicator of something very important, don't ignore it.
Consuming information is one thing but putting it to use and embodying what you learn is a whole other thing. How can you tell whether you are actually growing from the things you are experiencing or learning? I stumbled across something recently that helped me see I had reached a certain level…
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UNAPOLOGETICALLY REAL | Those who aren't afraid to show their real selves even if it's messy, blunt, negative, deserve more credit.
Do you think those who judge & are negative but don't say it out loud are better than people who keep it to themselves? I think there is a huge misconception around this that I clear up in this episode. I'm learning to appreciate the people who are real even if it comes off as rude, blunt, not...
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OUTSIDE NOISE | How to reclaim our focus from all the outside noise that is distracting us from the things we actually can control.
I don't care which side of the fence you are, the truth is there is A LOT of outside noise right now. Outside noise that can provide input for our own lives is one thing but outside noise that we have no control over and can't change, can make us feel helpless and frustrated. This episode isn't a...
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NICE VS AUTHENTIC | Being nice at the expense of being authentic was never the goal so why do so many of us have it backwards?
Somewhere along the way, many of us decided we had to be nice no matter what and that it comes before everything else. Being 'nice' was the badge of honor for being a good person, being liked, showing that you are evolved and awakened. And yes on the surface this all makes sense but not when we…
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UPSIDE OF HARD TIMES | Why you should learn to spot the upside during hard moments, and how to do it.
Hard moments in our life can feel like a disruption to our happy, positive, upbeat lives but life was never designed for your comfort, it had a greater purpose, and if we stray away from the purpose of life, it has built in systems in place to help jolt us back onto the right path. How cool is...
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GO THROUGH IT | Do you allow yourself to go THROUGH the hard, uncomfortable things in life or do you go AROUND them?
The obvious answer would be, yes you have to deal with the hard, uncomfortable things that come to you in your life but what does "deal with it" mean? Many do and will avoid, deny, dismiss instead of going through it. I've done it many times as well. The thing we don't realize is that there is a...
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PERFECTIONISM | Why do we allow our mind to trick us into being perfect when it actually does not help us?
The irony of perfectionism is that we chase it because we want people to accept us, like us, be impressed by us BUT in reality chasing perfectionism makes people feel less connected to us. How often do we love people because of how perfect they are? Rarely - and yet, we strive to be perfect. In...
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SHOWING UP FOR LIFE | Showing up for life means showing up for all of it, the messy and uncomfortable parts too, not just external achievements.
Whether we realize it or not we sometimes pick and choose the parts of our life we want to show up for and put in the hard work for. For some parts - we might be intimidated by what needs to be done, we may not know how to tackle, we might be uncomfortable with the situation, so we avoid it....
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WHO YOU ARE | Do we really know who we are as much as we think we do? Is it based in reality or who we wish to be?
I recently noticed that our idea of who we are at this very moment may not be fully based in reality. Why is this? There is who we think we are, who we are in this moment and who we want to be. All 3 of these things are not always aligned. We are often transitioning between the old us and the new...
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ALIGNMENT | It's time to stop ignoring things that no longer feel aligned with who you are.
Through my own experiences and hearing from many others recently, I realized that many people are being called to take a closer look at things they have been doing on autopilot for many years. Things that they dismissed, shoved under the rug and ignored, were now staring them in the face, forcing...
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FEELING DEEPLY | How to reframe moments of intense emotions as a powerful reminder of what it means to be fully alive, embracing the richness and depth of the human experience.
Is it possible that we might be missing the point of being human if we do not allow ourselves to feel deeply? Why do we stop ourselves or judge ourselves when we feel things deep within our being? I wonder if the message that we shouldn't live in our feelings long enough to cause suffering…
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VALUES | Values aren't what you talk about, it's the actions you take and don't take, it's what you speak up for and don't speak up for.
These days "values" has become a word like many others that we sometimes casually and carelessly throw around. I recently realized its a lot easier to recite what our values are, than to defend them, speak up for them, walk away because of them. There are people who simply talk about values and...
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COLLECTIVE ENERGY| How you are actively contributing to and influencing the collective energy of the world on a daily basis.
It's so easy to feel insignificant in this gigantic planet of 8 billion people but I don't think we would if we truly understand the collective energy that is at play in the universe. It may sound overwhelming or out of reach to think of a collective energy but in this episode, I break down what...
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VILLAINIZING PEOPLE | How to notice and stop the urge to villainize and judge others to justify why you feel differently about them or why the relationship has changed.
Everything our mind spews out isn't always true. Sometimes its simply to soothe us and make us feel better. It's goal isn't always to feed you accurate information but to rather make you feel better. In doing so, sometimes we become judgmental and critical of others when the relationship changes…
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EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS | If someone repeatedly disappoints us, the focus needs to shift to what we are doing wrong, not them.
One of the biggest challenges in relationships tends to be that they are not behaving in the way we expect. The question we fail to ask is - did their behavior change from the past or is it the same? Where did our expectations of them come from? Changing others is rarely the solution because, as…
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PUSHING YOUR LIMITS | Lessons and realizations from doing one of the most physically strenuous things I have ever done in my life.
I recently did two of the most physically strenuous things I have ever done in my life and of course, I had a lot of realizations and unpacking that I wanted to share with you. From why you should do things outside of your comfort zone to the bonding that happens when you do hard things together…
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LISTENING TO YOUR GUT | Making decisions only using input from the mind is doing you a disservice, and why you need to tap into your heart, body and gut as well.
Its very easy to ignore our gut because of peer pressure, FOMO, wanting to be liked, expectations others have on us and many more reasons. When this happens we often make all our decisions just with the chatter and information in our mind but our gut, heart and body can be an incredible resource…
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CREATE SPACE | Change cannot happen in your life until you release what no longer serves you and make room for the new. Are you doing your part?
Out with the old, in with the new - sounds like a harsh saying especially if you are talking about relationships or people but depends on how you look at it. Many of us get attached to the things in our life - people, work, etc. and even when we have an inkling in our gut that we have outgrown...
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MEDIA WE CONSUME | We are so mindful about what we put into our bodies, what about our minds?
I noticed over the past 5-10 years there was more content out there that was dark, serious, intense, and it was popular. What happens when we pause and notice how the content we are consuming, whether its movies, shows, social media or music affects our mind and overall energy. Yes, its just...
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YOUR INNER CIRCLE | The crowd you hang with will either help you be your authentic self or stray away from it, so choose wisely.
The biggest job we have as human beings is getting as close as we can to being our authentic selves. Somehow the universe has a way of pushing us to be our authentic selves and shaking our lives up if we are straying. An important part of this is whether the people you are surrounded by are…
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HEART VS MIND | The biggest issue humanity might be facing right now is people seeing the world solely through their minds and not their hearts. Why this is important and how to spot this in yourself and others.
I heard someone say this line recently - that seeing the world solely through our minds might be the biggest issue humanity is facing right now. This caught my attention because it feels like it is getting to the crux of the many issues we are facing in the world today. I can spot moments where…
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INVOLVEMENT VS ENTANGLEMENT | What you might mistake for passion may actually be an unhealthy entanglement. How to spot the difference.
There are a lot of great things and a lot of change that happens in this world because of people who are passionate. Passion is a wonderful thing but passion can breed healthy involvement and also unhealthy entanglement. Both often appear to be the same on the outside but on the inside we can…
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DEEP FRIENDSHIPS | Why you might be lacking true depth in your friendships.
The power of female friendships is not a new concept but does everyone have that in their life? I think every woman wants it in their life but while it may be easy for some to cultivate, it isn't always easy for everyone. Its not a matter of luck, it often has more to do with what you are…
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STRENGTHS | Do you embrace your strengths or do they sometimes feel like a burden?
We all tend to play a certain role in most of our relationships or interactions - the nice one, the loud one, the understanding one, the emotional one, etc. I recently was thinking through what this was for me and realized that rather than seeing what I bring to the table as a strength, it was...
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BLESSING IN YOUR LIFE | How I discovered what the biggest blessing throughout my life has been and why it brings me to tears. Here is why you should know yours too.
If we pause and reflect on our life, we all will notice something that has been the biggest blessing in our life. It's easy to get caught up in the noise of what we don't have or wished we had but knowing what the biggest blessing in your life is, not only brings more of it into your life but…
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DEALING WITH DISINGENUOUS PEOPLE | We all have encountered people who are disingenuous but how do you deal with it? Do you confront it or ignore it?
There are a lot of humans in this world that we come across and that means we may not always like everyone we come across, and because of that is born this idea of being disingenuous where we say one thing behind people's back and another in front of them. Not everything requires confrontation…
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SMALL TALK | How you are contributing to small talk even though you despise it.
Almost everyone says they hate small talk but what they don't realize is that they are an active participant in creating "small talk." I'm not going to undermine your intelligence and give you specific questions to ask, to avoid small talk but I will tell you why we end up doing so much small…
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KARMA & ACCEPTANCE | What Karma really means and how to apply its principles to positively influence your relationships and life.
Karma is a very complex topic and you can find a lot of in depth knowledge on this but on this episode I want to share how this past week, I used the principles of Karma to positively influence a difficult relationship in my life. After all, these principles are best when applicable to real life...
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LIFE IS SELF-HELP | There are an insane number of self-help trends but ultimately, life itself is designed to give us the growth we need.
If you start watching self-help videos, the number of trends and things people say you should do is insane. Ayahuasca, intermittent fasting, infrared therapy, cold plunge, sunlight, saunas, waking up at 5am, meditating, journaling, walking 10,000 steps. It is impossible to do it all. A lot of the...
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REST | A resting period (days, weeks, months) after going through hard things like a break up, divorce, failure, health issues is not being lazy, its essential.
This episode isn't about taking a nap in the middle of the day, but I'm a huge fan of that, if you need it :) Somewhere along the way, resting has gotten a negative connotation because of the fast paced, go-go-go world we live in but when we go through hard moments in our life like a divorce,...
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IMPRINT OTHERS LEAVE ON YOU | The imprint that loved ones and certain people leave on you transcends time and distance, whether they live thousands of miles away or are no longer here on earth. This is how you tap into it.
No matter how old we get, there is always a part of us that wants to feel the way a baby feels in a mothers arms - I'm safe, I'm protected, I'm loved. Basically that feeling of someone genuinely going "I got you, no matter what." Many people still get that from a parent but if not, along the way…
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REPLAYING MOMENTS IN YOUR HEAD | What you should do instead, when replaying an interaction with someone in your head over and over again, wishing you had said or done something different.
What do you do when you just can't stop replaying an interaction with someone in your head because you wish you would've said or done something differently? So many times I have heard people say this is one of the things that keeps them up at night. I remember doing this in my 20's but this week…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Each week you will get a window into how I unpack the clutter and hard stuff in my mind. I will leave you with questions so you can do the same. The only expert on this podcast is YOU.Find me on Instagram: @unpackingmyself or email me [email protected]. Would love to hear from you!
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Neha Patel
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Each week you will get a window into how I unpack the clutter and hard stuff in my mind. I will leave you with questions so you can do the same. The only expert on this podcast is YOU.Find me on Instagram: @unpackingmyself or email me [email protected]. Would love to hear from you!
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