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All relationships are built on the foundation of good communication. Engmenent puts these skills to the test. Join Bella and Tim as they discuss key principles to engaging in better convserations, navigating emotional pitfalls, and understanding new insights about your fiance, friends, or family.

Communication can make or break a relationship, so let's unpack the skills you need for a great conversation. Between wedding dates, venues, budgets, and bowties, engaged couples may find themselves talking constantly — but not necessarily communicating well. In this episode, Bella and Tim unpack the basic skills of an effective conversation. Good communication is not just for engaged couples; this episode is for anyone hoping to grow their relational toolbelt.

In this episode, we're asking the big question. What is the single most important investment you can make during engagement if you want not just a beautiful wedding day, but a strong marriage after it? Engagement season has always been about preparing to make a vow. But now, for most couples, it also means managing vendors, timelines, budgets, and preparing a hundred other decisions. Join Tim and Bella as they dig into what has always been true about engagement, what culture has unnecessarily piled onto it, and how to focus on the things that will actually strengthen your future marriage.

Not every dating relationship should end in marriage, and that's exactly why these conversations matter. Join Tim and Bella as they walk through four major areas couples need to be aligned on before saying "I do". This episode is an honest, practical look at the kinds of questions that can bring clarity in dating, whether that means moving forward with confidence or recognizing it's time to walk away.

Most people drift through dating and hope it works out. We didn't. There's no magic forumla to make your dating relationship awesome, but there are some mindsets that will help you along the road. In this episode, we share 15 things we got right while dating, practices, boundaries, and decisions that built something lasting.

Join Tim and Bella as they revisit a pivotal conversation from their dating relationship: men and women's roles in the church and family. It was a tumultuous season in their dating relationship when they realized they were not on the same page on this important issue, and both reevaluated their marriage compatibility. Listen for the full story!

Tim and Bella close up their mini series, Opening Pandora's Box: Porn, Pornea, and Purity, with a frank conversation around breaking up with lustful habits. We like to think of sexual addictions as habits, its sounds nicer, and means we have control over the situation, but the reality is, many people live with addictions that they can't break.   Join Tim and Bella as they talk about the nuts and bolts of how to break sexual addictions and who to bring with you on this journey.

Join Tim and Bella in Part II of their Mini Series on prioritizing purity in dating relationships.   Before anyone crosses a line physically, there are usually a hundred smaller decisions, assumptions, and habits shaping your path. If you've ever wrestled with where to draw the line, how to date with integrity, or why good intentions alone are not enough, this conversation is for you.

Dive right in as Tim and Bella discuss the winding road of purity. Learn about sex, addiction, holiness, and wholesomeness. Wherever you find yourself on the journey, and whatever backage you bring with you, you are not alone.   Join us as we bring to light a topic that prefers to stay in the shadows.   This is Part 1 of our mini series on Porn, Pornea, and Purity. Stay tuned for next week's episode where we tackle relationship boundaries and where to set them...

"We need to talk." Ever heard those fateful words and knew with dread the end of a relationship was looming? Breakups are sticky, challenging times, both for the breaker-upper and the broken-up-with. Maybe you're tempted to overprocess the end of your relationship? Or complain and "vent" about your ex-partner? Or put yourself through anguish by holding onto the question, "what if"? Or maybe you excelled at breakups! But...probably not. They suck. Join Tim and Bella as they chat about how to break up well (including very useful tips for how to cope with life when all you want to do is cry).

We all want a magical "10 Steps To Success" to follow for the perfect relationship. Unfortunately, God doesn't promise us a formula, but he does give us guidance along the road.   In this episode, Tim and Bella look at their own relationship as a case study, asking the question, "What's been working?" Together, they unpack the steps they've taken that have contributed to flourishing in thier relationship. Steps that, if followed, do not promise success, but certainly give you a nudge along the way!   If you've ever wanted clarity without pretending life is simple, press play.

When "Love Island" gets hit with a hurricane, it's your friends who will come to your rescue. In this episode, Bella and Tim discuss how to make, maintain, and be a good friend. The stakes are never higher than when it comes to keeping your friendships close when love makes you blind to everyone but your sweetheart. Tim and Bella unpack this, and other high-stakes elements of dating and friendship, like what to do if your partner has too many friends, or too few?

Join Tim and Bella as they continue to unpack the cultural dumpster fire of dating norms, addressing FIVE MORE myths and mistakes common in dating. This week, they tackle the "touchy" subject of dating boundaries and get into the weeds of tough conversations and why they go wrong.

Tim and Bella unpack the cultural dumpster fire of dating norms, addressing the first FIVE myths and mistakes common in dating.

Does dating sometimes feel like a job interview? Or does your dating ever fizzle into just "fun hangouts"? Do you sometimes want to hide your dating life from your nosey family? These are a few of the questions Tim and Bella unpack on this week's episode. Join them as they discuss what it looks like to seriously have fun while dating with intention.

Dating culture tells us to keep looking outward. Episode one of the UNPOPULAR's Relationship Series invites you to look inward instead. Tim and Bella discuss the kind of honest self-examination and action steps that prepare you for relationships rooted in depth and integrity. When you do an audit of yourself, what do you find?

First dates come with a lot of unspoken rules—and plenty of confusion. In episode two of UNPOPULAR, Tim and Bella dive into the dating pool to talk about how to prepare for a first date, from mindset and expectations to taboo topics and age-old questions like who opens the door and who picks up the check. Some of these conversations may feel old-fashioned—or unpopular—but they're worth having.