Very Best of Living

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Very Best of Living

Dr. Taylor Hartman, relationship expert and Psychologist, discusses key insights that he has made over his professional career on what makes successful relationships. His work The Color Code now called the People Code is a powerful agent for positive healthy relationships both personal and professional. 

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    You Can Stop Rehearsing Your Pain And Start Reclaiming Your Life

    What if the strongest person in the room isn’t the loudest, but the most centered? We open with the spectacle of the Winter Olympics and pivot to the endurance we rarely see: people quietly rebuilding their lives after childhood hurt, learning to stop rehearsing oppression, and choosing legitimacy over comparison.We share a powerful story of a woman who survived abuse and now struggles with intimacy. Through hypnosis and guided compassion, she meets the younger self she tried to exile—and begins to welcome her back. That choice doesn’t erase the past; it restores agency in the present. From there, we unpack what real strength looks like inside families, like a mother–daughter standoff where power without humility keeps love at arm’s length. You’ll hear the difference between a soul-level presence that can listen and adjust, and the brittle bluster of insecurity that only performs strength.Together, we map a path to being centered: trust what is true, not just what feels good; notice where comparison and neediness bargain away your voice; and gather mentors who model the skills you want. Change often starts clumsy—assertiveness can sound sharp before it becomes clear—but drafts are part of growth. We also tackle why parts of mental health culture stall progress: comfort without accountability, validation without tools. Healing asks for both compassion and responsibility, for boundaries and repair, for doing the work especially when no one is watching.If you’re ready to honor your story without letting it own you, this conversation offers practical language, hard-won examples, and the nudge to keep going when the old system pushes back. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs courage today, and leave a review with one insight you’re taking into your own daily practice.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Rebuilding Trust: Owning Your Part In Marriage

    What if the hardest step toward saving a marriage is the one your pride resists most—owning your part? We dive into the quiet ways relationships erode, from fantasies that siphon attention to anger that masks powerlessness, and we unpack what it really takes to rebuild trust after betrayal. Through raw client stories—one couple who transformed an affair into a deeper, more honest love, and a rare case where deception demanded distance—we chart a path that puts commitment, forgiveness, and clean intent back at the center of partnership.We explore why divorce is surging after 50 and how affluence, independence, and empty nests expose fault lines that stayed hidden while kids and calendars kept you busy. Freedom isn’t the villain; it’s the amplifier. If you use choice to invest—curiosity over criticism, presence over performance, bids for connection over silent resentment—your relationship can become stronger and more alive. If you use it to chase a fantasy, you’ll starve the bond that could still feed you.To make the work practical, we lean on the Color Code framework to decode core motives—connection (blue), peace (white), power (red), fun (yellow)—and show why well-meaning partners miss each other. A blue pushing for intimacy can trigger a white’s retreat; a yellow’s need for play can be misread as avoidance. Strength in any color is presence: honest bids, steady boundaries, and respect that doesn’t flinch. Repair requires both people to own their part and, when trust is broken, to define a clear process for disclosure, transparency, and re-earning reliability. If one partner refuses to forgive or engage, that refusal is the answer.If you feel the distance, start small and clean: ask for a 20-minute phone-free check-in, share one thing you miss, make one promise you can keep this week. Let motive lead your method, and let effort speak louder than anger. If this conversation opened something for you, follow the show, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a rating and review so more couples can find their way back to each other.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Why Clean Motives Matter More Than Perfect Outcomes

    The comforts got easier and the feelings got harder. We carry powerful tools in our pockets, yet anxiety and disconnection keep rising. Today we get honest about what technology can and can’t do for mental health, why presence beats speed, and how clean motives reshape every relationship—especially in parenting. We also introduce our new parenting workbook designed to help you see your child’s core motive, practice loving boundaries, and build character through small, daily choices.We take a clear-eyed look at the three big shapers of a life—family, religion, and education. Each can lift or wound. Education expands when it teaches curiosity; it fails when it trades inquiry for proselytizing. Religion heals when grace leads; it harms when rules replace relationship. Family can be a sanctuary or a scar, and those early signals echo into adulthood. You can’t control every system, but you can control your motive inside them: tell the truth, ask clean questions, set sturdy boundaries, and choose connection over performance.We dig into the fear that blocks repair: the text that goes unanswered, the call we avoid making, the resentment we narrate to everyone except the person who matters. The antidote is practice. Like learning a language, you get fluent in relationships by speaking up and getting corrected. Clean motives won’t guarantee outcomes, but they will protect your integrity and invite trust. We share practical steps to risk more wisely, date with courage in a disconnected era, and parent with clarity so kids grow resilient instead of fragile.If this conversation resonates, subscribe, share with a friend who needs a nudge toward honest talk, and leave a quick review. Tell us: what’s one brave, clean-motive step you’ll take this week?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    What You Bring To The Room Shapes Every Relationship

    We explore how inner motive shapes relationships more than circumstance, and how to move from blame to ownership. We contrast sociology’s group forces with psychology’s personal agency, and show how unconditional love changes homes, work, and aging with dignity.• framing sociology as external forces and psychology as the energy you bring• ownership over family trauma and inherited patterns• therapy boundaries between empathy and effectiveness• resentment, fairness instincts and forgiving to move forward• loving partners by celebration instead of correction• worth beyond doing for aging parents and caregivers• helping adult children with clean motives and structure• leadership that values people over transactions• jealousy and insecurity as self-sabotage• daily energy check to align motive and impactTake the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Learning To Adapt, Worry Less, And Live More

    What if the fastest way out of anxiety isn’t thinking harder, but choosing smaller, cleaner moves you can repeat today? We dive into the simple choices that change your mental weather: adapting to what is, setting real boundaries, and practicing gratitude that actually anchors you when fear surges. When worry feels like action, we use a clear framework—five to ten minutes to worry, then fifty minutes to live—to retrain attention without denial or guilt.Together, we unpack the hidden cost of control and comparison, especially in a world shaped by phones and highlight reels. You’ll hear why problem solving is not the same as rumination, how to test whether your motive is truly win-win, and when to ask others what a “win” looks like instead of assuming. We look at expectation as the thief of appreciation in families and teams, and we share practical ways to restore thankfulness before entitlement hardens the heart. From noticing the person who quietly saves your morning to naming the basic systems you trust every day, appreciation becomes a skill—simple, repeatable, stabilizing.We also talk about healing and safety: why a trusted relationship can unlock progress after trauma, and how clean motives make hard conversations feel lighter even when outcomes stay uncertain. And because life happens off-camera, we celebrate the mundane—small traditions, ordinary meals, brief moments of relief—as proof that meaning doesn’t need a spotlight to be real. If you’re ready to stop letting outside noise dictate your quality of life, this conversation gives you structure, language, and heart to make the change.Enjoy the episode, share it with someone who needs less worry and more presence, and if it resonates, subscribe and leave a quick review to help others find the show.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Holiday Gifts That Actually Matter

    December can feel like a paradox: generosity and sparkle on one side, old wounds and family friction on the other. We dive into that tension and offer a different path—one built on inner gifts, honest encouragement, and boundaries that protect your peace. Instead of chasing perfect presents, we share a simple practice: write down three names and decide what meaningful gift you can offer each person, then clarify why it matters. Maybe it’s affirmation without comparison. Maybe it’s a truth they can use, delivered with kindness. Maybe it’s time, presence, or a prayer that opens a door when they feel shut out.Along the way, we unpack the power of positivity in relationships and how to pivot from “What if it goes wrong?” to “How do we make this happen?” You’ll hear stories of meeting people where they are, validating worth, and choosing directness over judgment. We explore forgiveness that frees you without reopening wounds—hold others accountable first, then let go internally. That balance keeps your heart light while your boundaries stay strong. And when someone tries to push your buttons, we offer tools to avoid being “owned”: proactive warmth, a three-breath pause, and listening for content rather than tone.We also talk about building emotional muscle through small choices—carrying your own baggage, not everyone else’s. If you tend to defend, please, or shut down, you’ll learn how to spot the pattern and choose a better move. Most of all, we invite you to stop overanalyzing relatives and simply be present. When you bring your true gift—clarity, calm, humor, celebration—you make space for memories that last longer than any purchase. If this conversation resonated, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs a calmer Christmas, and leave a quick review to help others find the show. Who are your three people this season, and what will you give them?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Six Practices That Quiet Selfishness and Spark Growth

    What would it look like to present your life and feel proud of how you grew? We dive into progression as a way of living—how small, brave choices stack into character—and map six practices that pull us out of ourselves and back into meaning: sacrifice, bravery, education and critical thinking, curiosity, gratitude, and faith. Along the way, we get honest about aging and purpose at 99, the joy and work of grandparenting, and why some lunch tables become complaint clubs while others stay alive with ideas.We start with sacrifice as the antidote to a “make it about me” culture, using parenting and service as training grounds for purpose. Then we break down bravery through the “buffalo vs. cow” storm metaphor—face it and shorten it, or flee and get worn out. Real stories show how hard conversations earn respect and reset relationships, and why motive matters more than optics. From there, we wrestle with classrooms where attention is collapsing, the danger of treating feelings as facts, and how boundaries can protect without turning into walls.Curiosity returns joy to learning and relationships, expanding your world beyond your own head. Gratitude shows up as a reliable marker of mental health—quiet, practical, and contagious. Finally, we talk faith: for some it’s native, for others it’s chosen; either way, service is a powerful on‑ramp to a larger, steadier life. If you’ve felt stuck, isolated, or bored, these six practices offer a grounded path forward—no hacks, just habits that hold up in storms.If this conversation sparked something, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a buffalo nudge, and leave a quick review—what’s one practice you’ll lean into this week?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Coaching Creates Change When You're Ready to Face Yourself

    Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larson dive deep into the transformative power of coaching and how it unlocks emotional intelligence for meaningful personal growth. They explore how the Color Code personality system provides unparalleled clarity about who we truly are, quickly cutting through layers of self-deception that might otherwise take months to unravel in traditional therapy.The conversation reveals how each color personality brings unique gifts essential for emotional intelligence: Reds naturally excel at motivation, Whites demonstrate exceptional self-control, Blues possess innate empathy, and Yellows offer outstanding people skills. Understanding these distinct strengths allows us to learn from personalities different from our own, developing areas where we might naturally struggle.What makes this discussion particularly compelling is their honest exploration of why some people experience profound transformation while others remain stuck. Those who embrace growth with statements like "I'm good with who I am, but I want to become more" progress rapidly, while those who resist self-examination often remain trapped in patterns of blame and resentment. Through powerful real-life examples, they demonstrate how unresolved trauma can cause us to adopt behaviors contrary to our true nature—like a naturally peaceful White personality taking on negative Red characteristics as protection—preventing authentic healing and growth.Taylor and Cat also address contemporary mental health challenges, distinguishing between those using psychological labels as excuses versus those genuinely working to overcome difficulties. They emphasize that effective coaching provides both compassionate support and necessary accountability, helping clients take ownership of their lives regardless of past experiences.Ready to discover your true self and unlock your full potential? Join us on this journey of self-discovery and transformation. The Color Code might just be the tool that changes everything for you, as it has for countless others seeking authentic growth and healing.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    What Will Your Children Remember About You?

    What legacy will you leave your children? This thought-provoking question frames our heartfelt conversation about the profound impact of parenting on future generations.We begin with a touching story of a man in his seventies longing for one more conversation with his mother who had been his "rock" – a powerful reminder that family connections shape us in ways that echo throughout our lives. From this emotional starting point, Dr. Taylor Hartman shares his expertise on how parents can create meaningful legacies by first mastering the art of loving their children effectively.The Color Code personality system becomes our guide as we explore how children of different personality types need to be loved differently. Red children fear failure and need validation for their accomplishments. Blues seek security and reassurance they won't be abandoned. Whites require space and connection on their terms. Yellows thrive when engaged in the present moment. By understanding these differences, parents can move beyond their natural tendencies to connect with their children on a deeper level.We delve into what makes expectations healthy versus harmful, how married couples blend different family cultures, and why intentionality matters when building your family legacy. Whether your family values emphasize travel, education, service, or spiritual development, the key is making conscious choices about what you hope to instill in the next generation.Perhaps most touching is our discussion about reconciliation and the eternal nature of family bonds. No matter your children's age or what conflicts may arise, there's always opportunity to repair relationships and reconnect.Ready to deepen your parenting journey? Join our upcoming workshops designed to help you navigate these complex issues with greater self-awareness and understanding. Contact us at [email protected] or follow our Instagram for details on virtual and in-person events coming this fall.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    The Courage to Choose Truth Over Being Liked

    Are your daily actions aligned with who you say you are? That's the challenging question at the heart of this thought-provoking exploration with Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larson. They dive deep into the concept of creating a moral backstop—a clear definition of who you are that acts as a foundation when life throws challenges your way.The conversation takes a powerful turn when Dr. Hartman shares his personal journey of choosing truth over being liked in his thirties, a decision that fundamentally altered his life path. This choice between authenticity and popularity represents a crossroads many of us face, often without recognizing its profound significance. As the discussion unfolds, we see how these seemingly simple choices form the bedrock of our mental health and relationship quality.What sets this episode apart is its unflinching look at congruence—the alignment between our stated values and our daily choices. Through compelling examples, including a young woman who claims to value travel yet works at a job with no vacation days, we witness how incongruent living creates frustration and unfulfilled potential. Dr. Hartman challenges us to examine our true motives, going beyond surface behaviors to understand the root causes that drive our actions. This deep self-examination isn't easy, but as the conversation reveals, it becomes more natural with practice and yields profound rewards in authenticity and personal growth.Ready to create a foundation that allows you to live with greater purpose and authenticity? Listen now to discover how defining yourself can transform your relationships and mental health. Share your thoughts about your own journey toward congruent living in the comments below!Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Choose Your Hard

    What if the question isn't whether to choose an easy or difficult path, but rather which difficult path will lead to your greatest growth? Dr. Taylor Hartman tackles this profound question in a thought-provoking exploration of life's inevitable challenges and how we navigate them.Drawing inspiration from M. Scott Peck's "The Road Less Traveled" and its opening statement that "life is difficult," Dr. Hartman introduces a powerful framework through the refrain "Choose your hard." Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your heart. Education is hard. Being uneducated is hard. Choose your hard. These paired statements reveal the truth that difficulty is inevitable, but the right kind of difficulty leads to growth, strength, and ultimately, joy.The conversation with colleague Cat Larson delves into why we often remain unaware of our dysfunctional patterns until they cause breakdowns in our lives. They discuss how modern therapy sometimes enables victimhood rather than building resilience, and how developing a clear moral definition helps establish boundaries that protect our wellbeing. Using the Color Code personality framework, Dr. Hartman explains how different personality types need to blend logic and emotion for balanced growth—teaching logical types to embrace feelings and emotional types to incorporate rational thinking.Perhaps most importantly, Dr. Hartman emphasizes that growth is sequential. The challenges we face in each life stage prepare us for greater responsibilities ahead. Those who avoid necessary difficulties find themselves unprepared when life inevitably presents bigger challenges. By choosing the "right hard" at each stage, we develop the strength to live fully and authentically.Ready to transform how you view life's difficulties? Listen now to discover how choosing the right challenges can lead to your most fulfilling life. Leave us a comment about which "hard choice" has led to your greatest growth!Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Breaking Free From Your Past to Live Fully Now

    Ever wondered why some people achieve extraordinary success while others get lost in distractions? Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larson unlock powerful insights about personal commitment and focus that could transform your approach to life's priorities.Drawing from an unexpected source—Elon Musk's ex-wife—they reveal how knowing what truly matters and quickly saying "no" to everything else creates the foundation for meaningful achievement. This clarity of purpose isn't just for tech billionaires; it's a principle that helped Dr. Hartman develop the Color Code personality system and can help you stay on track with your most important life goals.The conversation deepens as they explore character development across different personality types. Rather than merely understanding other personalities intellectually, truly "charactered" individuals actively incorporate strengths from all colors into their behaviors and perspectives. This multidimensional understanding gives what Dr. Hartman calls "second, third, and fourth sight"—a richer, more empathetic way of navigating relationships and personal growth.Perhaps most profound is their discussion about releasing the past. Whether you're holding onto trauma or past achievements, defining yourself by yesterday limits your growth today. Using an illuminating example from tennis champion Roger Federer, they demonstrate how letting go after each point—whether victory or defeat—allowed him to win 80% of matches despite winning only 54% of points. This same principle applies to anyone seeking freedom from limiting beliefs or experiences.Ready to clarify what truly matters in your life and develop the character needed to stay committed to your path? Listen now, and discover how understanding your core values can help you say "no" to distractions and "yes" to what truly fulfills you.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    True mental health requires accountability, not excuses.

    Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larson explore the critical connection between mental health and personal accountability, challenging the notion that circumstances rather than choices determine our wellbeing. They discuss how society's increasing focus on comfort and validation has created a generation struggling with resilience and personal responsibility.• Busy people accomplish more while those with abundant time often struggle with motivation• Taking ownership of your life is the foundation of good mental health• Making excuses and shifting blame indicates deeper psychological issues• People seeking mental health often surround themselves with others who don't hold them accountable• Clean motives—aiming for mutual benefit in all interactions—are essential for wellbeing• Looking outward and helping others is more healing than endless self-examination• Comfort-seeking behaviors and excessive protection from parents can create fragility• Building resilience requires facing challenges rather than avoiding them• Common sense is the greatest gift in mental health but is often overlookedFight for the right to be here and recognize that life's challenges are opportunities for growth, not proof that something is wrong.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Unlocking the Power of Emotional Bonds

    Ever felt lost in a sea of expectations, both personal and societal, not knowing which way to turn for true fulfillment? Join Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larsen as they share stories of real people navigating life's trials, like a man wrestling with dissatisfaction in marriage and career. Dr. Hartman and Larson explore the essence of emotional connection and the struggles faced when it's lost, particularly the heart-wrenching choice of staying in a relationship for the sake of children. Discover insights about how past contentment can shape present decisions, and the necessity of finding new meanings after losing significant people in our lives.In our exploration of self-awareness, we unravel how different personality types—red, blue, white, and yellow—experience growth uniquely. Emphasizing vulnerability and discipline, we discuss the crucial need for aligning self-perception with reality through feedback from close relationships. This episode is a call to action, urging a commitment to intentional self-improvement without making excuses for stagnation. We set our sights on becoming more self-aware by 2025, and with gratitude, invite you to embark on this journey of self-discovery alongside us.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Revitalizing Relationships through Color Insights

    Discover the transformative power of relationships through the colorful insights of Dr. Taylor Hartman, as he joins us to explore his latest work, "Hartman Color Code for Couples." Through an engaging conversation with Cat Larsen, we unravel the profound dynamics of connection, decision-making, and intimacy, all viewed through the vibrant lens of color personalities. Dr. Hartman shares his passionate motivation behind the book, offering practical solutions for everyday relationship challenges. From understanding how the qualities you seek in a partner can shape your marriage, to learning how to be your best self for a healthier union, this episode promises enlightening discussions filled with real-life examples.Navigate the complex world of boundaries and communication in relationships with us. We'll highlight how recognizing and respecting differences can lead to deeply enriching partnerships, particularly when approached with openness and humility. Listen as Dr. Hartman reflects on a 50-year marriage, emphasizing the roles of commitment, positive communication, and growth in maintaining healthy connections. Learn how acknowledging your partner's strengths and practicing humility can create an environment of mutual respect and understanding. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone seeking to nurture and evolve their relationships through the unique perspective of color blends.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Embracing Challenges to Rediscover Joy

    Have you ever wondered why joy often feels so distant as we grow older? Join me and my wonderful co-host Cat Larsen as we navigate the complex landscape of joy, especially during the dreary months of January and February. We categorize people into three groups: those who are dispirited by life's challenges, those who bounce back, and those who emerge stronger. An eye-opening exercise awaits you—listing the ten best and worst moments of your life. It’s a reflective practice that reveals surprising insights into how closely linked our highs and lows are, offering a roadmap to rediscovering joy and understanding our roles in both success and adversity.This episode also uncovers the transformative power of adaptation and growth. Inspired by a couple who turned their Jeep into a local adventure hub, we contrast their meaningful journey with my own superficial experiences to highlight how challenges can morph into profound learning opportunities. We dive into personality types, classified by colors, to explore how each adapts differently to change. Blues, for example, struggle with their quest for perfection, while reds and yellows adapt more swiftly. Drawing from Darwin’s theory of adaptation, we encourage embracing change as a vital survival trait, offering empathetic suggestions for those coping with trauma or chronic pain.In relationships, fostering empathy and gratitude is crucial, as illustrated through a humorous anecdote of a client’s frustration with her husband’s contradictions around weight loss. We discuss the delicate balance between empathy and giving straightforward advice, urging a shift from inward focus to an outward-looking perspective that enriches others’ lives. Channeling the wisdom of St. Francis of Assisi’s prayer, we stress the importance of understanding over seeking validation, advocating for resilience over self-protection. As we wrap up, we express heartfelt gratitude to you, our listeners, wishing you a joyous season and eagerly looking forward to our next reconnection.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Discovering Holiday Magic and Meaning

    Have you ever felt the warmth of gifting something truly special to a loved one? Join me and my towering friend, Cat Larson, as we take you on a joyful journey through our cherished holiday traditions. From the thrill of planning surprise trips to the heartwarming story of the green coat I saved up to buy for my mother, we explore the magic of the Christmas season. Cat shares a touching memory of receiving a hand-painted picture, reminding us all that the spirit of giving creates meaningful connections and unforgettable memories.The holiday season is not just about gifts and celebrations; it's also a time for introspection and growth. In an open conversation, we reflect on the power of forgiveness and how letting go of grudges can lead to personal freedom. I recount an unexpected gift from someone I once held a grudge against, which prompted a profound shift in my perspective. We discuss how understanding others' struggles can foster empathy and lead to a more compassionate life, highlighting stories of people who found peace through selflessness.As our festive discussion wraps up, we talk about the beauty of creating new holiday traditions, especially when circumstances change. Whether it's a sunny getaway or a cozy gathering at home, embracing new customs can bring joy and comfort. We also express our gratitude for reconnecting with our audience through the podcast, and hint at a special Christmas gift idea: the new book "Color Code for Couples." As we celebrate the season, we encourage you to cherish your traditions and perhaps even start new ones this year.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Embracing Diverse Personalities in Parenting

    Unlock the secrets of harmonious family dynamics with our insightful conversation featuring Dr. Taylor Hartman and Kat Larson. Discover how understanding your children's personalities through the lens of the color code can transform their formative years into a period of meaningful growth and connection. This episode promises to illuminate the powerful role parents play in nurturing their children's unique traits, even amidst the chaos of busy family life.Journey with us as we explore the art of parenting children of different color personalities. We tackle the complexities of raising assertive and strong-willed red children, offering practical strategies for setting boundaries and maintaining harmony without resorting to guilt trips. Dr. Hartman and Kat share personal stories and vital techniques on how to engage with these children intellectually, ensuring they feel heard and valued, while maintaining the balance of authority in the household.The conversation continues as we delve into the unique challenges of parenting blue, white, and yellow children. Learn how to nurture blue children's need for affirmation, engage white children's preference for independence, and manage yellow children's charismatic yet sometimes impulsive nature. Through heartwarming anecdotes and practical advice, we highlight the importance of understanding and appreciating these diverse personalities, ultimately fostering more supportive, joyful family interactions.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Embracing Life's Small Wonders: Happiness, Resilience, and Personal Growth

    Imagine taking a family stroll and suddenly encountering two majestic moose. This unexpected moment led me to reflect on the small yet profound experiences that enrich our lives. In this episode, we explore such meaningful moments, including reconnecting with a college friend who faced immense challenges, and the transformative power of education. Kat Larson joins me to share the pleasures of raising children and creating joyful environments, along with the beauty of fall that reminds us to appreciate life's fleeting wonders.Ever wondered how intentional choices and crucial conversations can shape a happy life? We dive into how focusing on positive actions and resilience can lead to a more fulfilling existence. Through personal anecdotes, we discuss the importance of choosing happiness over worry and avoiding the pitfalls of a victim mentality. This conversation encourages listeners to take proactive steps towards their own happiness and well-being, making mindful decisions that enhance their everyday lives.Finally, we examine the impact of constructive criticism and self-awareness on personal growth. Understanding the motive behind feedback can greatly influence our self-worth and empowerment. We also introduce my upcoming book, "Hartman Color Code for Couples," which explores relationship dynamics through the lens of personality colors. Join us for an episode filled with heartfelt stories, insightful discussions, and a reminder to embrace the small wonders that make life truly magical.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    From Gaslighting to Control: A Narcissist's Playbook

    Get ready to unravel the enigma of narcissism on this episode of the Very Best of Living Podcast! Join me, your host Dr. Taylor Hartman, along with my incredible friend Cat Larson, as we dive deep into understanding and dealing with narcissists. We'll peel back the layers to distinguish between those with narcissistic tendencies and full-blown narcissists, uncovering the deep insecurities that fuel their behavior. From manipulative tactics to the origins of narcissism, we leave no stone unturned. Plus, we'll share practical advice on handling narcissists and even explore the fascinating portrayal of anxiety in movies. Trust me, you won't want to miss this eye-opening and thought-provoking conversation!In our captivating discussion, we'll expose the intricate dynamics of dealing with narcissistic manipulation. Brace yourself for jaw-dropping revelations as we reveal how narcissists play the victim, engage in gaslighting, and deflect criticism to maintain control. We'll also explore the role of societal influences, especially parenting, in shaping narcissistic traits. Get ready for some powerful insights that will empower you to set firm values and expectations for yourself and your children. And as a special treat, we'll share exciting news about upcoming projects, including a new book on couples and the revolutionary Hartman color code. So, buckle up and get ready to deep dive into the world of narcissism with us! It's going to be an extraordinary journey!Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    The Joy Reboot: Reclaiming Happiness in a Challenging World

    What happens when life's inconveniences feel overwhelming? Imagine finding yourself in Cuba grappling with unexpected challenges, or dealing with an eight-day air conditioning outage at home. In this episode, we explore the art of transforming obstacles into opportunities and managing life's inherent inconveniences. Through personal stories and shared experiences, we delve into how our responses to these inconveniences can shape our overall experience and highlight the importance of communication and teamwork in overcoming these hurdles.Living or working alongside someone burdened by guilt can be an emotional minefield. We discuss the different personality types and how they navigate these feelings, from the vibrant reds and yellows to the introspective blues and whites. By sharing intimate anecdotes, we examine how guilt can be paralyzing, stressing the necessity of setting personal boundaries and not internalizing another's emotional burdens. We'll reveal how moodiness impacts relationships and professional settings, making it crucial to maintain clarity about one's own boundaries and avoid validating unhealthy emotional states.Confronting emotionally immature individuals requires courage and the willingness to set firm boundaries. We discuss strategies to break the cycle of enabling negative behaviors and rediscover past sources of joy and empowerment. Reflecting on times of contentment can help reclaim your sense of freedom and resolve. Finally, we invite you to join a candid conversation about narcissism in relationships, sharing our newfound insights and excitement about exploring this complex subject further. Tune in for an empowering discussion on facing life's challenges with courage and grace.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Transforming Relationships: Embracing Roles, Integrity, and Growth in Marriage

    What if understanding your partner better within the roles of marriage could completely transform your relationship? Join us as we share a compelling story of a client navigating the intricate journey from being an individual to embracing the role of a spouse. We also feature insights from a Jewish rabbi, who argues that men and women achieve deeper understanding and support within the defined roles of marriage. This conversation addresses how selfishness and lack of boundaries threaten relationships and touches on the controversial impact of infidelity-promoting apps like Ashley Madison.In our discussion, we challenge common misconceptions about relationships, integrity, and societal expectations around marriage and family. We dive into the hacking incident involving Ashley Madison to highlight the dangers of deceit and question why prioritizing family over career often faces backlash. The episode delves into the importance of honesty, commitment, and proper guidance for young people to understand their identities and roles. Through personal stories and experiences, we stress the necessity of self-reflection and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships, urging listeners to cultivate clean motives and avoid pettiness for a more authentic, fulfilling life.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

  23. 129

    Rekindling Passion: The Power of Human Connection and Navigating the Digital Age

    What if we told you that a simple heartfelt message could reignite a passion that had been put on hold? Join Dr. Taylor Hartman and his dear friend Cat Larson as they share the touching story of how a message from George Young inspired their return to the podcast world. Together, they discuss the transformative power of influential relationships and the joy of reconnecting with their cherished listeners. You'll discover why they chose a monthly format and how Dr. Hartman's extensive travels influenced this decision.Ever had a seemingly insignificant encounter turn into a memorable experience? Dr. Hartman and Cat dive into the profound impact of acknowledging the unique qualities of those we meet, from a secondhand store visit to the infectious joy of a granddaughter. They highlight the magic of small, genuine interactions and how they enrich our relationships. The conversation extends to the power of listening, valuing others' stories, and the significance of human connection in our daily lives.In today's tech-driven world, how do we ensure technology serves us without controlling us? Dr. Hartman and Cat explore the effects of technology on our relationships and mental health, advocating for intentional disconnection to foster real connections. They discuss practical strategies like delaying cell phone use for children and limiting cell phone usage in schools. Navigating the digital age, they reflect on the superficiality of social media and the importance of diverse perspectives. Tune in for a teaser on the intriguing concept of "Generation Transition" and artificial intelligence as "artificial intimacy," setting the stage for an upcoming discussion on gender dynamics in relationships.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

  24. 128

    A Momentous Goodbye: Legacy, Lessons, and New Beginnings

    As your host, I'm about to embark on a poignant journey of transition. It's a heartfelt goodbye from Dr. Taylor Hartman, who leaves us with pearls of wisdom that are both timeless and transformative. Through our conversation, he emphasizes the value of consistency, self-compassion, and living in the present, not just for the pursuit of goals. A key takeaway - we should foster our spiritual connection to God, deriving strength from the realization that we are His children. Remember, happiness is personal; don't feel trapped in someone else's definition of it. And more importantly, you can only control yourself, not others. Change is inevitable, embrace it with grace and adaptability.As we turn the page to a new chapter, we delve into the concept of legacy. It's not about physical possessions, but the imprints we leave on people's hearts and the potential to influence future generations. As Cat Larsen steps into the spotlight, she underscores the value of a legacy that transcends time and generations. We discuss the importance of knowing our purpose and trusting in who we are as we move forward. It's a farewell filled with emotion, a celebration of new beginnings, and a reflective conversation around the transformative power of legacy. Tune in for an episode that promises to touch your heart, inspire change and make you ponder your own legacy.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    The Power of Agency: A Double-Edged Sword

    Ever wondered what it really means to face your fears? Or how deeply our personalities can influence our relationships? Join us as we dissect these mysteries and more in our enlightening conversation with Cat Larsen. Together, we unravel the intricacies of mental health, uncovering how the power of agency can sometimes be a double-edged sword. Delving into the often-avoided topic of anxiety, we highlight the benefits of facing fears head-on and the danger of losing oneself when getting too entangled in others' affairs.We further discuss the fascinating realm of human behavior and relationships, considering how diverse personality traits can both complement and clash in various interactions. Decoding the unique needs of 'reds', 'blues', 'yellows' and 'whites', we offer insights on how to navigate these interactions effectively. This episode is packed with a wealth of wisdom, from understanding the roots of our emotions, the importance of investing in relationships, to tackling the phenomenon of analysis paralysis. So, tune in and join us on this enlightening journey to better understand yourself and the world around you.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

  26. 126

    Unlocking a Quality Life: Attitude, Boundaries, and Embracing Passion

    Are you ready to unearth the secret to a quality life? Join us, Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larsen, for a thoughtful exploration. We start by unlocking the power of attitudes. Together, we dissect how the mindset we carry can either propel our growth or hinder it, especially during challenging phases of life. We touch upon a crucial aspect of self-trust and setting boundaries, shedding light on the dysfunctionality of enabling. The key takeaway: Stop what doesn't serve you.As we journey further, we delve into the essence of risk-taking and its significance to success. We share our thoughts on the practice of 'paying our dues' - a concept that embodies decision-making and selfless giving without the expectancy of returns. During moments of hardship, the art of giving back holds immense importance. We then navigate towards discovering and embracing our passions, emphasizing the thrilling venture into new experiences. The most beautiful passions are often hidden, waiting for us to explore new territories. Remember, you won't uncover your true passion until you have the courage to try.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Navigating Through Negativity: Tales of Adventure and Avoiding Burnout

    Ever felt the sting of judgment or the heat of burnout? Join us on a global expedition, unpacking our friend  Paco's (Cat's Husband) tales of challenging travel experiences, turning discomfort into adventure, and sailing past the icebergs of negativity. We'll explore how Paco, a larger guy with a big love for life, armors up against the daggers of judgment and still manages to diffuse tense situations with surprising charm and positivity. Journey with us as we navigate through the polar plunge of burnout, offering you lifelines on how to stand your ground when you feel unseen, unheard, and unappreciated. We’ll share stories of bravery in the face of adversity, practical advice on maintaining a healthy work-life balance, and tips on how to keep your ship sailing smoothly even amidst stormy weather. Whether you're battling personal or professional challenges, get ready for an enlightening voyage filled with inspiring stories, invaluable lessons, and a dose of empathy. It's time to seize the day, avoid burnout, and chart the course to a joyful, fulfilling life.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    The Impact of Personality Colors on Relationships and Self-Awareness

    Ever wonder how much your personality colors influence your behavior and interpersonal relationships? Brace yourselves for a deep dive into the beautiful palette of the Hartman Personality Profile, guided by yours truly and the brilliant Cat Larsen. We'll be peeling back the layers of the intricate relationship between our core and secondary colors and the surprising ways they shape our everyday interactions and decision-making processes. Join us on this enlightening journey as we share our personal experiences with our own unique color combinations and how this understanding has enhanced our interactions and relationships. We're also blowing the lid off the often overlooked subject of boundaries and entitlement in relationships. By decoding our personality colors, we can tailor the way we manage our relationships and face challenges unique to our color profiles. We delve into the unique struggles blues, reds, and yellows may encounter in building connections and how blues can empower themselves by embracing their truth and learning to trust. We'll also walk you through the ways your secondary color can subtly tint your life experiences.And it doesn't stop there. We're taking a hard look at the unsettling issue of manipulation. We'll arm you with strategies to spot manipulation and build effective boundaries to guard your peace. We'll reveal which colors might be more susceptible to manipulation and how you can identify them. We'll wrap up our discussion on a positive note, emphasizing the central role self-awareness plays in managing our interactions and relationships. Join us in this insightful conversation, and let's color your world with a deeper understanding of yourself and others.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Beneath the Surface: A New Look at Personal Responsibility in Therapy

    Ever wondered if your therapist or coach truly understands your dilemma, or are they simply offering superficial solutions? Join us, Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larsen, as we delve into the world of informed decision making in therapy. This episode unravels a real-life situation of a woman struggling with intimacy issues, revealing the dangers of superficial fixes, and the powerful impact of uncovering the underlying truth. We challenge therapists and coaches to be responsible for the advice they give, and stress the importance of not simply treating the symptoms but uncovering the root cause.We shift gears to explore personal ownership and the fear of change that often paralyzes us in relationships. Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and understanding the consequences of our decisions, we discuss how the desire for more in a relationship can create feelings of unease and obligation. Feeling like ‘the problem’ often stems from a fear of change and a reluctance to take charge. We conclude with a thought-provoking discussion on congruence, and the crucial elements to consider when assessing legitimacy. Tune in for a compelling exploration of therapy, personal responsibility, and the power of informed decision-making.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    The Art of Positive Partnership: From Catastrophe to Adventure

    Ever wondered how the energy you bring to your relationships can have a transformative impact? As your hosts, Cat and I promise to shed light on this intriguing dynamic, offering insights into how positivity, trust and self-worth are key to fostering a thriving partnership. We unravel the complexities of relationships, exploring how problem-solving can shape memorable adventures from potential catastrophes. Witness how we delve into the heart of what makes a partner desirable, demonstrating the significance of each individual's contribution to a relationship.This conversation takes an exciting turn as we tackle the pivotal role of trust and self-worth. We demonstrate how the energy you contribute to a situation goes beyond your mere presence, leaving an indelible mark on your relationships. The Color Code, a fascinating tool, brings a fresh perspective into our discussion, guiding us through the maze of personal interactions. We don't stop at that; we also consider how adopting an appreciative attitude towards life rather than a bitter one can lead to a wealth of extraordinary experiences. Finally, we get real about the importance of cultivating self-worth outside the confines of a single attribute, revealing how having a trusted confidant can help us build a balanced perspective of our worth. So, join Kat and me, as we embark on this enlightening journey of self-discovery and relationship building.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

  31. 121

    Reassessing Life through Paradigm Shifts

    Ever had a moment that made you reassess everything you knew? That's what this episode is all about. I, Dr. Taylor Hartman, am joined by my friend Cat Larson, to recount some of our most transformative experiences; from my recent family trip to Peru, to Cat's discovery of the Color Code. We've met some incredible individuals along our journeys and they've taught us invaluable lessons of resilience, humility, and the importance of education.Prepare to be captivated as we share tales about paradigm shifts. We'll look at how Cat's terrifying incident involving her partner dramatically altered her perspective on life. We'll delve into the hospitality of the Peruvian people, and discuss how age and life experience can entirely shift your values. Plus, we'll uncover the meaning and distractions in life, drawing from our personal reminiscences on the importance of resilience, education, and connection. Tune in for an episode chock full of insightful reflections and powerful stories that might just inspire you to look at your own life in a whole new light.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    The Paradox of Human Potential and Loneliness

    Ready to debunk the myth of human potential? Join us, Dr. Taylor Hartman and Kat Larsen, as we venture into the world of potential versus reality. We scrutinize the perils of attaching oneself to someone's potential instead of their present, a risky and often disappointing game of chance. By extending grace and compassion to those in the process of growth, we learn to focus on the here and now, and the tangible progress being made. In the latter part of our discussion, we delve into the fluid dynamics of work-life balance. We shed light on the modern shift towards seeking fulfillment beyond the office walls and how this could actually boost productivity. Furthermore, we expound on how the right milieu can cultivate teamwork and elevate performance. Addressing the elephant in the room, we broach the subject of loneliness in today’s world, providing insights and solutions to combat this pervasive issue. Join us for this insightful exploration of human potential, work-life balance, and the loneliness epidemic.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Forging Stronger Bonds through Undivided Attention

    Ever stopped to appreciate the nuggets of wisdom hidden within your daily life experiences? Join us, Dr. Taylor Hartman and Cat Larsen, as we unlock the beauty of embracing these gems and their profound impact on personal evolution. Let's take a journey into forging lasting relationships, emphasizing the significance of undivided attention and meaningful time spent together. We'll also explore the absolute necessity of disconnecting from our digital distractions to truly connect with each other and life's authentic moments.In the second part of our enlightening conversation, we delve into the realm of self-love and how it intricately links to our ability to love others. Discover the liberation found in forgiveness, the freedom of loving without expectations, and the paradox that as we become more loving, we invite greater challenges yet simultaneously, develop superior skills to handle them. We'll share some thought-provoking insights on the true essence of giving – not just materially but emotionally – and how these acts of love are more about enriching others' lives than our own. Get ready to be inspired as we uncover the power of love in personal growth and the blessings lying within life's lessons.Questions for Reflection:-          Do you set aside time for the people you love the most?-          What are you doing to enrich the lives of those around you? What are you doing to show them love?-          Why am I so unwilling to embrace loving others without judgement when it will only enhance my life?-          To whom am I offering forgiveness instead of trying to punish?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

  34. 118

    Understanding and Navigating Relationships: From Group Dynamics to Love Languages

    Ever found yourself in an emotionally charged group setting, wondering how to navigate through it smoothly without adding fuel to the fire? Well, you are not alone. I, your host, along with my good friend, Cat Larsen, share our insights acquired from experiences of traveling with a large group, which often mirrors the dynamics of any group setting. We feel it's essential to detect selfishness, forgive, and understand, as these are instrumental in shaping our kids' approach to life and in our journey to become more forgiving towards others.Ever felt that despite your best intentions to help, your efforts seem to miss the mark? It's not just about addressing the symptoms, but understanding the root cause. Cat and I emphasize the power of providing a secure environment for open conversations, which allows individuals to express their feelings. We discuss the importance of repeating what we understand from the conversation, as it helps in providing clarity and making the other person feel heard. It's all about fostering safety, intimacy, and understanding in relationships.No, love is not a one-size-fits-all concept. Cat and I explore the Hartman Color Code's different ways of loving, helping us understand our own behavior and how it might create fear in others. We also discuss how recognizing our actions can help us cultivate healthier relationships. Remember, it's not about being right but about understanding different perspectives. Join us in this enlightening conversation as we delve deeper into the complexities of love, relationships, and self-awareness. Thanks for being part of this journey with us.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Creating Stronger Bonds by Embracing Self-Improvement

    What if we told you that something as simple as making lunch for your partner can strengthen your relationship? Join me and my good friend Cat Larson as we explore the beauty of marriage and the heartbreak that comes with a long-term commitment, while emphasizing the importance of self-improvement and embracing virtue. Get ready to discover how constant learning and growing can make a massive difference in your life and relationships.We take a deep look at the power of habits and their impact on our lives, and share some insights on how to develop positive habits like truly listening to others. Learn about the Hartman Personality Profile – a powerful tool that helps you better understand your own motives and develop self-awareness. Take this unique opportunity to not only improve your relationships but also your personal growth. So, grab your headphones and let's dive into this insightful conversation with Cat Larson!Exercise:Pick an area of your life that you’d like to improve in. Choose one habit you’d like to work on this week. Be specific in choosing when and how you will incorporate it. At the end of the week, reflect on how the habit impacted you.   Do you ever say, “that’s just the way I am”? This may be a clue that it’s a habit that needs to be examined.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

  36. 116

    Releasing Victim Mindsets for Healthier Relationships and Environments

    Are you unintentionally playing the victim in your own life? Discover how self-victimization might be affecting your relationships and holding you back from leading a fulfilling life. In this personal and heartfelt episode, we share our appreciation for the beautiful environment we live in and the relationships that enrich our lives, while exploring the challenging concept of self-victimization.Inspired by a heartwarming letter from a listener, we discuss the power of breaking free from the chains of our upbringing and creating a loving environment for our children. However, it's not always easy to recognize when we're playing the role of a victim in our own lives. Join us as we take an honest look at the relationships we have and the role we play in them, and consider the significance of analyzing what we get out of our connections, even those that are challenging for us.As we wrap up our conversation, we take a look at the culture we live in and how it can shape our relationships and our children. We discuss how unsupportive environments can lead to a lack of discipline and how it is important for parents to teach their children to value truth. We extend our gratitude to those who have shared their experiences and stories with us and encourage you to stay connected with us for another thought-provoking discussion next week.Exercise:Look at your life and the things you were taught. What have you done to avoid being a victim?Are there ways in which you are behaving like a victim?Are you placing blame on others instead of looking within?Is someone in your life “owning you”?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Building Mental Endurance in a Complex World

    Do you ever feel like life's transitions can be both beautiful and daunting? Join me and my good friend Cat Larsen on this week's episode of Very Best of Living as we candidly discuss navigating through life's ups and downs, from our grandchildren's graduations to saying goodbye to loved ones or leaving a job. Along the way, we delve into the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal achievements without falling into the comparison trap.Traveling can be an amazing adventure, but it can also bring its share of challenges. Cat and I share some of our most memorable travel experiences, as well as the life lessons we've learned from visiting different cultures and places. We also touch on the importance of being present in the moment and truly engaged when interacting with others, especially when providing emotional support to someone who is a Blue personality type.Finally, we tackle the topic of mental resilience and its crucial role in today's society. From discussing society's false notion that anxiety is a badge of honor to the significance of setting our own standards in life, Cat and I explore how individuals can build mental endurance and cultivate personal growth. Tune in as we reveal how forgiveness plays a pivotal role in mental health, and why we should all feel challenged to improve. You won't want to miss this insightful conversation!Remember to follow the HartmanPersonality IG account. There you can participate in “Ask Taylor Tuesdays.” Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Embracing Second Chances: Personal Growth and the Power of Forgiveness

    Have you ever wished for a second chance after making a mistake? What if embracing these second chances could lead to personal growth and healthier relationships? Join us as we share our own personal stories and explore the concept of second chances in various aspects of life.Listen in as we discuss how different color codes react to granting second chances, with Reds setting hard boundaries and Blues requiring apologies. Learn how to respond to those who might not trust us again, and the power of forgiveness in moving forward. Don't miss this enlightening conversation about the importance of open dialogue and the life-changing impact of embracing second chances.Exercise:                Am I willing to accept a second chance and navigate life differently?                Is there someone in my life that deserves a second chance?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Unlocking Potential: Coaching, Therapy, and Mindset Matters

    Ever wondered about the key differences between coaches and therapists? Join me and my dear friend Cat Larsen as we dive into an insightful conversation about these distinct professions, and how working with professionals trained in the color code and character code can offer immense benefits. I also share my unique approach as a mental health practitioner, helping clients uncover and tackle the core issues causing them pain.During our chat, we touch on the importance of embracing a positive mindset and the role of supportive partners in reminding us of our achievements. Cat's son also joins the conversation, sharing his experiences of self-discovery and adapting to his new life as an engineer. Discover how coaching can serve as a powerful tool for personal growth and how striking the right balance between taking ownership of our actions and learning to let go can lead to a more fulfilling life. Trust us, you don't want to miss this enlightening discussion!Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Are you willing to walk away?

    In this episode, Taylor and Cathy discuss the difference between codependence and interdependence. People need relationships and connection to live full lives, but how can we tell when things have slipped into unhealthy territory? Codependency is a pattern of behavior in which one person's sense of self-worth and identity is based on their relationship with another person. Codependents often feel responsible for the other person's happiness and well-being, and they may neglect their own needs in order to meet the needs of their partner. Interdependence, on the other hand, is a healthy relationship in which both partners are independent and interdependent. Interdependent partners are able to maintain their own sense of self while also being supportive of each other. They are able to communicate openly and honestly, and they respect each other's boundaries.Taylor shares the importance of being happy with yourself, without the acceptance of others. In healthy relationships, you must be willing to let go of people and relationships that are not mutually beneficial. You must also be willing to pursue the life you want.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    For the Love of the Game of Life

    What is it that makes you love the game of life? In this episode, Taylor and Cathy share advice from 2 sisters, ages 103 and 106 years. Sometimes we can get stuck in routines and “miss the point” of life.  For example, work is not just something we have to do but an opportunity to have purpose and connect. Taylor and Cathy discuss the following items and Cathy shares experiences from her recent trip to Amsterdam. Do these 4 things to get the most out of life:1.       Work2.       Connect3.       Learn4.       Appreciate Read the full article here:https://www.cnbc.com/2023/03/27/100-year-old-sisters-share-tips-for-staying-mentally-sharp-as-you-age.htmlTake the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Are You Stuck in Being Right ?

    There is freedom in admitting you are wrong. In this episode, Taylor and Cathy discuss the dangers of getting stuck in being right. They explain the benefits of sharing uncertainty, being a good listener, asking for help, and (of course) admitting when you are wrong. Some colors may struggle more with this than others. Exercise:-          What is being stuck in being right doing to your life?-          When is the last time you said, “I got that wrong”? Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    The Mind, The Brain, and The Meaning of Life

    What makes a meaningful life? Taylor and Cathy explore this topic using scientific research as well as perspectives from those with near-death experiences. They describe a life centered around love and relationships and how best to achieve it. Each color may have different obstacles in getting over themselves and becoming able to fully enjoy life. Exercise:-          Think of the quality of the life you are living. Are you learning to fully love others?-          Are you taking the easier path? If so, how can you work towards a deeper, more meaningful life?After: A Doctor Explores What Near-Death Experiences Reveal About Life and Beyond by Bruce GreysonProof of Heaven by Eben Alexander     Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Soft Skills and the Future Workplace

    Taylor and Cathy discuss the difference between hard and soft skills. Due to advancements in technology, some “human skills” are being forgotten.Taylor shares 5 skills necessary to succeed in the workplace in 2030. 1)      Communication2)      Customer service3)      Leadership4)       Attention to detail5)      Collaboration Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Yes, And…

    Today’s episode focuses on perspective and how it relates to life’s challenges.  Taylor and Cathy discuss the best way to deal with trauma and how perception and mindset help to propel people forward instead of staying stuck in the past. Exercise:-          What are the 3 most challenging experiences or traumas in your life?-          What traits or skills do you need to navigate those experiences and move             forward?-          Are you focusing on things that enhance your life?-          Looking back at difficult experiences, what have you learned from them? What                  can you take responsibility for?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Your Color May Influence Your Physical Health

    There is a strong link between emotions, mental health, and physical health. Each color interacts with the world differently and therefore may be susceptible to different ailments. In this episode, Taylor and Cathy discuss the complex relationship between the mind and the body and its effects on each color. Other topics include narcissism, coping with stress, incarceration, and how to accept truth. Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Real. Universal. Truths.

    Taylor and Cathy discuss the importance of truth. Real truths are universal and always relevant. They provide the foundation for a meaningful life and are a necessity on the charactered path. Other related topics discussed in this episode include anxiety and depression, recognizing our strengths, and learning from those that are different from us.From T.H. Bell’s 1976 article in Vital Speeches of the Day, “Is Higher Education Doing the Job?” The 10 attributes a graduate needs:1-      Have your graduates learned how to learn?2-      Do you give your students a basic thirst and hunger for learning?3-      Can your students communicate?4-       Have your students developed a clear set of standards and ideals to guide their lifelong goals and daily living?5-      Have your students learned how to disagree without being disagreeable?6-      Have you given your students the opportunity to educate their feelings, their spirit, and their inner soul?7-      Do your students know themselves?8-      What about the mental health of your students? Do they live with reality?9-      Have your students learned a skill that they can use to earn a living and do useful and productive work?10-   Are your students economically literate? Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    With Choices Come Responsibility

    Taylor shares about his recent trip to Oman and UAE. He and Cathy discuss cultural differences regarding shame, guilt, and agency. Agency provides possibility but also brings responsibility. Taylor also explains the importance of humility in seeking the vital truths that make our lives better.Exercise:Which choices are you making that enhance your quality of life? Which choices are detracting from it?Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Get Over Yourself: Excuses, Rationalizations, and Justifications

    How am I the rock in my road?  Taylor and Cathy discuss the third dimension of a healthy life, “get over yourself.” Cathy shares her experience coaching young basketball players and why there may be something missing when we remove the competition aspect of sports for an “everyone’s a winner” approach. Taylor explains the importance of humility and self-esteem which allow for growth and explains why being the best does not equate to happiness. Exercise:-          List at least 10 things you value about yourself. If you can’t, ask others to help.-          How are you the rock in your road? What are you doing that prevents you for living the life you want? Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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    Tevya's Transformation: Cluttered to Clarity

    Tevya shares his transformative journey using the principles of the color code. To uncover his core color, he had to separate his innate self from the behaviors he used to survive.  He was able to leave a dirty environment and take control of his life through awareness, honesty, and 100% accountability.Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com.Send questions and comments to [email protected]  Or [email protected] with “Podcast” in the subject line.

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

Dr. Taylor Hartman, relationship expert and Psychologist, discusses key insights that he has made over his professional career on what makes successful relationships. His work The Color Code now called the People Code is a powerful agent for positive healthy relationships both personal and professional.

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