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When You Don’t Know
by Joy and Mathieu Rossignol
When You Don’t Know is the faith-based podcast for Christians navigating dating while having relationship anxiety. Hosted by Joy & Mathieu, a married couple and therapist duo, we get real about the doubts, fears, and questions that often come with love.Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and powerful guest interviews, we’ll help you date with confidence, overcome anxiety, and build a marriage that lasts.Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this podcast is your safe space to discover what it means to love well—even "when you dont know".
Episodes
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142. Answering Your Questions About Birth & Postpartum
In part two, I’m answering the questions so many of you sent in about labor, delivery, and postpartum. I’m also sharing what postpartum has looked like for me so far, what has surprised me, what has been challenging, and the things that have been most helpful as we’ve adjusted to this new season…
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141. 7 Hours Later: My Positive Birth Story
It’s been 4 weeks since our precious daughter arrived, and I’m finally finding the space to sit down and process my labor and delivery experience.Going into birth, I truly had no idea what to expect. Like many women, I had heard plenty of stories that left me feeling uncertain about what my own...
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140. When Dating Becomes Fear Based Instead of Love Based
So many Christians approach dating asking: “How do I know this is the right person?” But rarely do we stop and ask: “Am I learning how to love someone well?” In this episode, we’re talking about how fear of choosing wrong can fuel relationship anxiety and keep people stuck overanalyzing feelings,...
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139. How You Relate To God Will Affect Your Dating Life
“If I just do this right, God will approve of my relationship.” Of course as Christians, we want to please God. That’s a good thing. But for a lot of people, that desire quietly turns into something else… the feeling that you have to earn His approval, His love, His acceptance. In this episode,...
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138. If It's Not 100% Yes, Does It Have to Be a No?
“If it’s not a 100% yes, then it’s a no.” It sounds like solid relationship advice, until you’re someone with an anxious, analytical brain. In this episode, we’re talking about why that mindset can be so harmful for people who struggle with relationship anxiety. If your mind is always searching…
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137. You May Be Underestimating the Good Traits
So many people with relationship anxiety are focused on the wrong things in their relationship. We can get so caught up in chemistry, certainty, and whether we feel “enough” all the time… that we overlook the traits that actually matter most. And honestly, I think we assume the good traits we’re...
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136. Is God really telling you to break up with your partner?
If you’ve ever felt a sudden “voice” telling you to break up, and it came with guilt, fear, or shame, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we’re responding to a message that deeply moved us. A man shared that after hearing a sermon, he felt what seemed like conviction telling him he was...
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135. How to Talk to Your Partner About Relationship Anxiety
👉 If you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD, one of the hardest questions is: “How do I tell my partner what’s going on in my head… without scaring them, hurting them, or damaging the relationship?” In this episode, we’re talking about how to have the conversation and how to know when...
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134. When the Prophetic Becomes Harmful in Relationships
The prophetic is often presented as a reliable way to discern relationships — but for many people, it becomes a source of fear, control, and harm. In this episode, we talk about spiritual abuse that took place in the context of prophetic language and relationships, and why relying on prophetic...
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133. When Spiritual Authority Replaces Discernment
What do you do when spiritual advice about your relationship leaves you feeling anxious, confused, or afraid of getting it wrong? In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we talk about the tension many Christians experience when church leadership doesn’t support their relationship — not for…
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132. When You Don’t Know If Your Callings Align
You’re in a relationship, but you’re unsure if your callings align. “What if this means we’re not meant to be together?” “What if I’m missing God’s will?” In this episode, we talk about why uncertainty around calling creates so much anxiety in Christian relationships, and why not having clarity...
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131. The Cost of Anxiety: What It Steals From You and Your Relationship
Relationship anxiety doesn’t just make you overthink — it takes things from you. Your confidence. Your peace. Your ability to enjoy your relationship. And for so many people, the anxiety becomes so overwhelming that ending the relationship feels like the only way to get relief. In today’s…
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130. Imperfect Love Stories: From Anxiously Dating to Happily Married
What happens when two best friends start to fall for each other… but one of them is battling intense relationship anxiety? In today’s episode, we sit down with Pedro & Aliah, a married couple who went from friends to lovers — and had to navigate fear, doubt, and anxiety to get there. One partner...
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129. How to Finally Break the Cycle of Relationship Anxiety
If you’ve been stuck in an anxious loop about your relationship — constantly questioning your feelings, your partner, or whether you’re in God’s will — this episode is for you. We’re breaking down the difference between reacting and responding to relationship anxiety, and why both can still leave...
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128. Imperfect Love Stories: Marrying Someone Who’s Divorced and Has Kids
What’s it really like to marry someone who’s been married before… and already has kids? In this week’s Imperfect Love Stories, we’re talking with Tiph and Andrew — a couple who’ve built something beautiful out of life’s second chances. We talk about the fears, assumptions, and growth that come…
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127. Conrad or Jeremiah? Breaking Down The Summer I Turned Pretty from a Relationship Anxiety Angle
Are you Team Conrad or Team Jeremiah? In this episode, we break down The Summer I Turned Pretty love triangle from the perspective of a marriage and family therapist and relationship anxiety coach. Joy walks Mathieu (who has never seen the show!) through Belly’s relationships with Conrad and...
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126. When You Don’t Know if God Has Something Better for You
“Does God really take away something you love because He has something better?” This idea has shaped so much of modern Christian dating culture — but it often creates more fear than freedom. In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we explore the roots of this message, how it fuels relationship...
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125. Did I Make a Mistake? Anxiety After Marriage
You got married and thought the anxiety would go away—but the doubts are still here. “What if I made a mistake?” “What if this wasn’t God’s will?” In this episode, we talk about why anxiety can show up after marriage, how ROCD and spiritual fears play a role, and why it doesn’t mean you’re in the...
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124. Life Update: It’s Been a Difficult Month
In this episode, we’re opening up about some of the heavy things we’ve walked through over the past month. Honestly, we almost didn’t share this—but it didn’t feel right to move forward without acknowledging what’s been going on behind the scenes. Trigger Warning: We talk about loss in this...
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123. Debunking the “Counterfeit Spouse” Myth
Have you ever heard someone say the person you’re dating might be a counterfeit — someone sent by the enemy to distract you from “God’s best”? 😳 Whether it’s: • A non-Christian labeled a trap 🎯 • A “fake Christian” in disguise 😈 • Or even a good person who just isn’t your “divine match” 💔……
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122. How your Expectations are Ruining Your Dating Life
In this episode, we explore how idealized expectations around love, faith, and life can lead to anxiety and doubt in your relationship. If your current relationship feels “off” because it doesn’t match what you always imagined, you’re not alone. We talk about: • The origin of unrealistic...
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121. Red Flag or Just a Difference?
Do you ever wonder if the differences between you and your partner are red flags—or just normal, human differences? In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between true red flags (the kind you shouldn’t ignore) and preferences (the kind you can work through with the right tools). We’ll...
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120. Our Real Walk With God as a Married Couple
In this episode, we’re getting real about what our walk with God looks like as a married couple—and how it doesn’t match the polished image a lot of Christian influencers put out. We talk about letting go of spiritual performance, not praying together every day, and learning to embrace a...
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119. Imperfect Love Stories: My Anxiety Left After We Got Married
In this episode, we interview one of the many people who has worked with us. Like us, she used to struggle with relationship anxiety but her healing journey got her to where she is now; married and happy. We hope you enjoy this episode! 1:1 coaching with Joy:...
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118. How Relationship Anxiety Is Physically Damaging Your Brain
We feel it’s important for people to know that the thoughts you dwell on are physically changing your brain. It’s important to understand that we can’t indulge in anxiety. If you want to work with us, check out this link:...
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117. If You’re Looking for a Sign from God in Your Relationship
We hope this episode was helpful for you. If you’d like to join our next group coaching round: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Pniujubz/checkout If you’d like to join RAA: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Pniujubz/checkout And if you have any questions, email us at [email protected]
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116. What’s Life Like After Overcoming Relationship Anxiety
In this episode, we share about our personal experience after we overcame relationship anxiety and got married. We’re answering the question: is it worth if to fight through and choose each other despite the fears? If that’s a question you want to answer to and you’d like our help to do so…
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115. Is Getting Back with Your Ex a Good Idea if You Have/Had Relationship Anxiety?
Long title but we thought this was an interesting topic. We do know it’s very niche but we hope you find this helpful! If you’d like to work with us, follow this link:...
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114. Should I Break Up or Seek Help?
This is a question we often get, especially from people who struggle with relationship anxiety. That’s why we decided to do a podcast on it. We hope you enjoy this episode. If you’d like to work with us or get coaching, check out this link:...
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113. Our Story: How We Overcame Relationship Anxiety and Got Married
We actually never sat down and told our whole story. So we thought doing that would be a great way to start 2025. We hope this is helpful and inspiring for you all. Wondering if it's relationship anxiety or a deeper issue? Take our free quiz to find out! Grab your freebie here:...
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112. Is My Relationship Anxiety Triggered By My Family?
Family is an interesting topic. We love them but sometimes they also can cause us to get triggered and when we have relationship anxiety, it can feel like they don’t understand it or they push us in a direction we don’t want. That’s what we talk about in today’s episode. We hope you enjoy this...
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111. My Friends Keep Telling Me My Relationship Is Wrong. What Do I Do?
Relationship anxiety is a tricky topic and if you suffer from it, you might have shared with your friends but every time you do it you get triggered because your friends tell you your relationship might be wrong. What can you do about it and what voice is worth listening to? This is today’s…
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110. Am I Micro Cheating On My Partner?
Some of you have reached out to us wondering about this topic. We’ve noticed people put a lot of unrealistic expectations and pressure on themselves to be the best partner. While this can come from a good heart, it can also mixed up with lies and insecurities. That’s why we decided to talk about...
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109. Imperfect Love Stories: I Married The Guy I Didn’t Want
We apologize for the quality of the audio but if you’re willing to look past it, you’ll hear amazing wisdom from this couple’s story. Their story is full of amazing insight and will give you clarity if the fear of settling is something you struggle with. We hope this episode is helpful for you.…
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108. How To Choose Your Spouse God’s Way
This is a topic we’ve been wanting to cover for a while and I hope you find it helpful. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us about podcast topics at [email protected] It’s also time to sign up for our group coaching mentorship! If you’re interested, we’re offering a special discount for early...
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107. Imperfect Love Stories: I Ended Up Marrying The Unexpected
We had the privilege of hosting Kait and JJ Tomlin from the Heart Of Dating podcast to share more about their love story and how dating the unexpected and unfamiliar can lead to the biggest blessing. If you want to know more about them, you can follow them on instagram here:...
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106. What If My Partner And I Are Unequally Yoked?
There’s a lot of misconceptions around the topic of being unequally yoked and that’s what we’re addressing in this episode. We hope this is helpful for you and if you want to work with us, check out the links below. 1:1 coaching with Joy:...
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105. Imperfect Love Stories: Does He Like Someone Else?
We hope you enjoy this episode! If you’d like to join RAA, use this link and put BACKTOSCHOOL as a coupon code to get $14 off your membership for 6 months: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at 1:1 coaching with Joy: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=stan.store
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104. Q&A: What If I Find My Partner Annoying?
Today, we answer a few questions you asked us on Instagram! We hope this is helpful! 1:1 coaching with Joy: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=stan.store Online community: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at
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103. Imperfect Love Stories: Married For 32 Years, This Is What We've Learned
One of the couples that inspires us so much sat down with us to share their wisdom after 32 years of marriage! We hope you enjoy this episode! Stacey’s instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helpforleaders?igsh=MTB3emd1Zm03NXFjNQ==…
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102. Imperfect Love Stories: We Almost Broke Up Because Of Relationship Anxiety!
In this episode, we’re starting a new series where we interview couples that are married but who have gone through hardships like relationship anxiety or life in general and have been able to overcome these obstacles. We hope you enjoy this episode! Tabitha’s instagram:...
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101. Four Things Marriage Taught Us
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching application: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/XEWNzBJ 1:1 coaching with Joy: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=stan.store 1:1 coaching with Mathieu: https://ai0i2f8tqfi.typeform.com/to/nBVsoGSz Online community:...
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100. Big Update For The Podcast
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching application: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/XEWNzBJb 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: https://ai0i2f8tqfi.typeform.com/to/nBVsoGSz Online community: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at
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99. Stop Chasing Feelings
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching application: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/XEWNzBJb 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: https://ai0i2f8tqfi.typeform.com/to/nBVsoGSz Online community: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at
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98. How To Build Emotional Resilience
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching waitlist: https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/mentorship 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: https://ai0i2f8tqfi.typeform.com/to/nBVsoGSz Online community: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at
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97. Your Relationship Isn’t Wrong, Your Expectations Are
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching waitlist: https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/mentorship 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: https://ai0i2f8tqfi.typeform.com/to/nBVsoGSz Free masterclass: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at Online community:...
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96. Is My Partner Going To Take God’s Place In My Life?
A lot of Christians are worried about their love for their partner taking the place of their love for God. If that’s what you’re wondering about, we answer this question in this episode. Also don’t forget to check out our free masterclass about Anxiety or Intuition by clicking on the following...
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95. What If I’m Not Obsessed With My Partner?
A lot of people come up to us and worry about the fact that they’re not constantly thinking about their partner and if that means they don’t truly love them. We know this can feel concerning but don’t worry, we give you the answer in this episode. If you’d like to know more about the difference...
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94. When Should You Know You Want To Marry Them?
In this episode, we respond to one of our followers questions about marriage. A lot of people have different opinions on this and unfortunately some of them can be harmful and cause anxiety. That’s why we wanted to address it and give you our thoughts. We hope this is helpful and if you want to...
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93. Are You Settling For Less In Your Relationship?
In this episode, we react to tour reel a lot of our followers were triggered by. Basically, in that reel, someone explains they almost missed out on marrying their spouse if they didn’t break up with their former partner. We understand how that can be triggering but we also know there are nuances...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
When You Don’t Know is the faith-based podcast for Christians navigating dating while having relationship anxiety. Hosted by Joy & Mathieu, a married couple and therapist duo, we get real about the doubts, fears, and questions that often come with love.Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and powerful guest interviews, we’ll help you date with confidence, overcome anxiety, and build a marriage that lasts.Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this podcast is your safe space to discover what it means to love well—even "when you dont know".
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