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Why Aren't You Over This By Now?

by Bold Brave TV

“I should be over the things that happened to me.” “I am to blame.” “It has to be my fault, why else would it have happened?” These are just a few of the statements many clients have said over the years. The truth is that we all have things happen in our lives. We all have stuff. Dr. James was abused as a child, abused in her marriage, and abused by the legal system and struggled to get over it. She kept searching for anything that would help her feel better; to not feel the way she had felt for so long. Finally, she found a way to heal her past in order to love her future. As co-author of the book, Why Aren’t You Over This By Now? How Trauma Messes You Up and What To Do About It, Dr. James shares how events in life have negatively affected individuals as a way to help eliminate self-blame, guilt, shame, and negative self-talk. Dr. James has over two decades of experience in the mental health field focusing on how trauma affects you from a neurobiologica

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Episodes

  1. Why Aren't You Over This By Now - Intimate Partner Abuse

    Dr. Kelly James will be discussing intimate partner abuse and sharing her personal story of abuse.

  2. Why Aren't You Over This By Now - 09/07/21

    Dr. Kelly James and Dr. Natalie Feinblatt talk about her new book, The First 90 Days of Sobriety: Recovering from Alcoholism: A Guided Journal and her nearly 20 years of experience in addiction treatment.

  3. Why Aren't You Over This By Now - 08/31/21

  4. Why Aren't You Over This By Now - Adventurer, Part 2

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Lisa Ruoff will be talking about how she lives an unconventional, adventurous life.

  5. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? - Adventurer Part 1

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Lisa Ruoff will be talking about how she lives an unconventional, adventurous life.

  6. Why Aren't You Over This By Now - 08/03/21

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Wendy Hutchinson talk about how to change your story at any time to live your best life, impact, and change.

  7. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? - 07/27/21

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Jocelyn Pettit talk about Emotion and Body Code, Psych K and how to heal your life.

  8. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? - From Felonies to Freedom Part 2

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Daniel Hodges discuss his new book, From Felonies to Freedom, the 180 Degree Ministry, and getting free from any type of addiction.

  9. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? - From Felonies to Freedom, pt 1

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Daniel Hodges discuss his new book, From Felonies to Freedom, the 180 Ministry, and getting free from any type of addiction.

  10. Why Aren't You Over This By Now - Dr. Kelly James

  11. How did we get here - Modern Online Dating

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Sara Haag talk about the evolution of online dating and dating apps.

  12. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (58) The Precious Legacy

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Amber Eidem, founder of The Precious Legacy, talk about this important organization serving children of military service members who gave their lives.

  13. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (57) Depression: Where Is Your Sting? - Part II

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Dr. Robert McBain will talk about his story with depression and discuss how the church can play a vital role in helping those suffering with this affliction, find acceptance, and support.

  14. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (56) Depression:Where is Your Sting? - Part I

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Dr. Robert McBain will talk about his story with depression and discuss how the church can play a vital role in helping those suffering with this affliction, find acceptance, and support.

  15. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (55) WarHawk PTSD Service Dogs - Part II

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Kevin Doncaster, founder of WarHawk PTSD Service Dogs talk about how the service dogs help veterans and first responders

  16. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (54) WarHawkPTSD Service Dogs - Part I

    Dr. Kelly James and founder, Kevin Doncaster talk about the exciting things happening with the 501c3 WarHawkPTSD Service Dogs.

  17. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (53) Let's Talk About Suicide - Part II

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Alina Garbuz, LPC will be having an honest conversation about suicide, part 2. Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-8255, Suicide.org

  18. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (52) Let's Talk About Suicide - Part I

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Alina Garbuz, LPC will be having an honest conversation about suicide. Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-8255, Suicide.org

  19. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (51) Trauma training in Cameroon, Africa

    Dr. Kelly James and Alina Garbuz, LPC, discuss her recent trip to Cameroon, Africa where she participated in a five-day trauma training for local counselors, teachers, and pastors.

  20. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (50) Joanna Majka, LPC Enneagram - Part III

    Dr. Kelly James and guest, Joanna Majka, LPC, have a more in-depth discussion about the Enneagram numbers in this third interview.

  21. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (49) Joanna Majka, LPC, Enneagram Explained - Part II

    Dr. Kelly James and guest, Joanna Majka, LPC, have a more in-depth discussion about the Enneagram numbers in this second interview.

  22. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (48) Leadership by Sheeba Varghese, Executive Coach

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Sheeba Varghese, Leadership Development Trainer and Executive Coach, will be Inspiring You To Thrive by sharing about the three keys to great leadership and her signature coaching system.

  23. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (47) Christie Sears Thompson - Part II

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Christie Sears Thompson, LMFT and owner of Trade Winds Therapy and Relationship Counseling will be talking about her workbook, The Partnerhood Workbook: Helping couples gain the resources and knowledge they need for a successful Partnerhood as the grow their families.

  24. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (46) Christie Sears Thompson - Part I

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Christie Sears Thompson, LMFT and owner of Trade Winds Therapy and Relationship Counseling will be talking about relationship counseling, conflict resolution, and much more.

  25. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (45) Joanna Majka, LPC, Enneagram Explained - Part I

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Joanna Majka, LPC, give an overview of the Enneagram, explain the numbers, an overview of each type, and where to start to find your number.

  26. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (44) Dr. Natalie Feinblatt, Licensed Clinical Psychologist

    Dr. Kelly James and Dr. Natalie Feinblatt discuss treatment for addiction, trauma, and former cult members.

  27. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (43) Integrated Treatment for Children and Families

    Dr. Kelly James and Kristen Hale, LPC and owner of Connect and Restore, talk about the benefits of integrated treatment for children and families.

  28. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (42) COVID Fatigue, Mental Health Stigma, and Self-Care

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Lisa Surrency, LPC, Program Director of Counseling Solution for Catholic Charities, discuss signs of COVID fatigue, stigma of mental health services, and how to take care of yourself.

  29. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (41) Living life with Intentionality

    Dr. Kelly James and guest, adventurer Nick Fowler, talk about how to live life with Intentionality to have the life you want.

  30. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (40) Emotionally Focused Therapy: Promoting secure relational bonds and improved view of self

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Alisa Johnson, LPC, talk about the benefits of Emotional Focused Therapy for promoting secure relational bonds and improving view of self.

  31. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (39) The Evolution of EMDR and what EMDR Therapy Actually Looks Like

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Paula Merucci, LCSW, talk about the evolution of EMDR therapy and what actual EMDR therapy is like for the client.

  32. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (38) WarHawk PTSD Service Dogs

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Kevin Doncaster, Founder of WarHawk PTSD Service Dogs, talk about the effects of PTSD on military veterans, police, firefighters, and first responders and how specifically trained emotional support dogs can help save lives.

  33. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (37) Dr. Mona Robinson

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Dr. Mona Robinson talk about the benefits of rehabilitation counseling especially during difficult times like COVID.

  34. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (36) The Mister Rogers Effect with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley

    Dr. Kelly James and guest, Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley talk about The Mister Rogers Effect: 7 Secrets to Bringing Out the Best in Yourself and Other’s from America’s Beloved Neighbor.

  35. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (35) Kylee Nelson, LMFT

    Dr. Kelly James and guest, Kylee Nelson, LMFT, will be discussing the importance of maternal mental health.

  36. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (34) Parenting Teens Through Difficult Times

  37. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (33) COVID meets EMDR Therapy

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Paula Merucci, LCSW, EMDR Certified, share how EMDR therapy can help with the COVID crisis. Dr Kelly James

  38. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (32) Dr. Greg Meyer

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Dr. Greg Meyer, LPC, Associate Professor, discuss the personal and spiritual life of helpers.

  39. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (31) Alina Garbuz, LPC, Certified EMDR Therapist, CCTP

    Dr. Kelly James and Alina Garbuz discuss building resilience during difficult times.

  40. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (30) Megan Murray

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Megan Murray talk about why some couples make it and others don’t, benefits of couples counseling, and the Gottman Relationship Method.

  41. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (29) Aaron Ashworth Part II

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Aaron Ashworth talk about blending counseling, chaplaincy, moral injury, crisis and trauma.

  42. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (28) Aaron Ashworth, LPC, MDiv

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Aaron Ashworth, LPC, MDiv, will be sharing about the Oklahoma Governor’s Challenge and the national effort to reduce suicide among service members.

  43. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (27) Juliet Fortino, LPC

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Juliet Fortino, LPC, Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor, and CCTP will share how to use play therapy to help children, families, and adults, especially in times of crisis and trauma.

  44. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (26) Dr. Andrea Walker

    Dr. Kelly James and Dr. Andrea Walker discuss compassion in light of COVID, racial inequality, spirituality and religiosity, and research.

  45. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (25) Robert Holt, Founder and Executive Director of L.O.V.E.

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Robert Holt, Founder and Executive Director of L.O.V.E. (Let Our Violence End) and Healing Waters talk about ways to make a difference.

  46. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (24) Christie Casey Braun, owner of Alpine Ranch and Our Local Basket

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Christie Casey Braun, owner of Alpine Ranch and Our Local Basket will be talking about the important of good food on mental health and how to create a healthy lifestyle.

  47. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (23) Lisa Lothian

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Lisa Lothian talk 21st century energetic wellness technology for self care and health empowerment.

  48. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (22) Robert Holt, Founder and Executive Director of L.O.V.E.

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Robert Holt, Founder and Executive Director of L.O.V.E. (Let Our Violence End), talk about LOVE.

  49. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (21) Dr. Sarah Stewart-Spencer, International Trainer, Author, Educator, and Counselor

    Dr. Kelly James and Dr. Sarah Stewart-Spencer talk about a variety of things from metaphors, gestalt therapy, trauma, to self-care.

  50. Why Aren't You Over This By Now? (20) Phil Ball, Wayfarer Life Coach

    Dr. Kelly James and guest Phil Ball, Wayfarer Life Coach talk about the benefits of using a life coach.

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

“I should be over the things that happened to me.” “I am to blame.” “It has to be my fault, why else would it have happened?”

These are just a few of the statements many clients have said over the years. The truth is that we all have things happen in our lives. We all have stuff. Dr. James was abused as a child, abused in her marriage, and abused by the legal system and struggled to get over it. She kept searching for anything that would help her feel better; to not feel the way she had felt for so long. Finally, she found a way to heal her past in order to love her future.

As co-author of the book, Why Aren’t You Over This By Now? How Trauma Messes You Up and What To Do About It, Dr. James shares how events in life have negatively affected individuals as a way to help eliminate self-blame, guilt, shame, and negative self-talk. Dr. James has over two decades of experience in the mental health field focusing on how trauma affects you from a neurobiologica

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