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X Why Explained
by authordacairns
Truth. Understanding. Freedom. X Why Explained turns the lights on for men who know that something is not right, who can’t understand their behaviour and feel trapped in fractional sexual addiction, suffocated by shame, isolated and confused. This podcast will help restore dignity and purity to help to make you a better, healthier man.Please feel free to contact the host with any questions, comments or other feedback you may have via email at [email protected]
Episodes
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#51 She'll Continue to Insist
In this episode of X Why Explained, David reflects on how disingenuous online interactions and sexual compulsion lure men into harmful traps, comparing these temptations to a spider's web. Drawing from personal experiences and biblical warnings, he highlights the destructive consequences of these...
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#50 Interview with Nick Stumbo from Pure Desire
In this 50th episode special, David speaks with the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries. Nick Stumbo about: 1. Why the church is silent about sex 2. the importance of groups in aiding recovery 3. the myth that sex is everything Pure Desire Ministries began in the local church. Our...
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#49 Everyone Uses Something
Social media creates superficial connections that often mask loneliness, leading many to use habits like porn or compulsive behavior to escape life's struggles. However, these temporary remedies deepen isolation. True recovery requires recognizing that addiction stems from a longing for genuine...
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#48 A Haunting Metaphor
In this episode of X Why Explained, host David reflects on his autobiographical novel Love Sick Love to offer support to men struggling with sexual addiction and brokenness. Drawing on faith, God’s grace, and his own recovery journey, he emphasizes that even impacting a single person makes his...
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#47 Interview with Josiah Bussani from Freedom For
In this episode, David talks to Josiah Bussani who is a local pastor and leader of sexual brokenness recovery group Freedom For. David and Josiah discuss: 1. What is a real man? 2. The birth of Freedom For recovery group 3. The myth of pornography being victimless 4. The silence of the church…
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#46 The Early Bird gets the Worm
To break free from unwanted sexual behavior and shame, you must build personal discipline through small, positive daily habits rather than letting bad patterns drive you. True freedom comes from understanding that your sins and mistakes do not define your identity; through faith in Jesus, the…
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#45 Bad Fruit Good Fruit
In Episode 45 of X Why Explained, host David shares his recovery journey from sexual addiction, shifting from his novel Love Sick Love to insights from a John 15 Bible study. Addressing both Christian and non-Christian men, he emphasizes that overcoming addiction and producing "good fruit" comes...
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#44 Feminine Superpower
Following a reading from his novel Love Sick Love, the author explores the motivations behind unwanted sexual behaviors. He categorizes men into three types based on self-awareness, outlines the challenges of managing natural desire toward women, and shares his personal 11-year journey of healing...
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#42 The Edge of a Cliff
Overcoming sexual addiction and brokenness requires active strategy and humility, not just willpower. True recovery involves identifying personal "weak spots" and setting up practical safeguards—like boundaries—to avoid the dangerous edge of temptation. Crucially, individuals must reject the…
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#41 Dinner's Ready
David shares his recovery journey from sexual addiction, emphasizing the importance of community support through groups like "Freedom For." He challenges the myth that "snacking" on external fantasies is harmless, arguing that "sexual junk food" actually distorts one's appetite for real intimacy....
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#40 Desperate Housewives
In this episode David critiques the deceptive nature of modern media and porn addiction. He contrasts the TV show Desperate Housewives with the unrealistic, sexualized "desperate housewives" found in online ads. He discusses how "strategic positioning" in porn teases addicts and reflects their…
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#39 You're not Sorry you did it
In this episode, David explores the complexities of sexual addiction and toxic attachments through the lens of his novel, Love Sick Love. He examines the "kryptonite" of seeking female adulation, the danger of codependency, and the importance of acting on values rather than fleeting feelings....
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#38 Persistence Can Be Pathetic
In this epsiode, David explores the dangers of misguided persistence and internal division. Using a personal anecdote about a faulty protein shaker and the character Angus from his novel Love Sick Love, he argues that stubbornness in pursuit of immoral or unproductive goals is pathetic rather…
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#37 Things Have Gone Too Far
In Episode 37 of X Why Explained, titled "Things Have Gone Too Far," I explore the path of recovery through the lens of faith and self-reflection. I share a reading from my novel, Love Sick Love, to illustrate the damaging reality of divided loyalties and the objectification of women. Drawing on...
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#36 A.D.I.D.A.S.
In this episode of X Why Explained, host David discusses the destructive nature of online pornography addiction. Sharing personal reflections and industry statistics. Ultimately, David emphasizes his journey toward recovery through faith in Jesus Christ, offering hope and resources to men seeking...
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#35 Money for Sex
In this episode of X Why Explained, David explores the addictive nature of transactional sex and online pornography. Reflecting on his novel Love Sick Love, he confesses how a deep-seated need for attention led to a "slave-to-sin" cycle. While acknowledging the choice involved in sex work, he…
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#34 Why Aussie Men Love Asian Women
In this follow-up, David explores why some Australian men intentionally seek out Asian partners, categorizing these relationships as either "intentional" or "incidental." He examines the role of traditional values, like Yin and Yang, and challenges myths regarding submissiveness and sexuality....
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#33 Stay Away
In this episode of X Why Explained, David discusses the importance of avoiding external temptations to protect marriage, emphasizing accountability over willpower. He reflects on the complexities of significant age gaps in relationships and shares his personal journey of overcoming a spirit of...
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#32 A Curiousity to Me
This episode of X Why Explained sees host David read from his novel, Love Sick Love, discussing how discovering his father's pornography at age 11 sparked a harmful curiosity and sexual shame, contributing to viewing women as objects. He connects this early exposure and subsequent emotional…
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#31 It Makes me shudder
In this episode, David reads from Love Sick Love to analyze addiction’s emotional warning signs. He addresses the "stupidity" of self-delusion and strongly rejects modern inclusivity regarding gender and sexuality. Citing statistics on image-based abuse, he argues that pornography consumption...
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#30 Lustance
Host David reads from his novel, Love Sick Love, to explore complex male behavior. He coins "Lustance," describing the confusing mix of lust and romance, and warns that willpower alone fails against sexual addiction, urging men to seek help instead of surrendering. He cautions against "fighting…
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#29 Buried under Shame
Host David discusses courage, defining it as acting despite fear, and shares his experience using vulnerability to overcome shame related to past sexual misconduct. He highlights the difference between destructive worldly sorrow and godly sorrow which leads to repentance. Drawing on therapy and...
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#28 Can we part as friends?
In "X Why Explained #28," David explores why it's tough to remain friends with an ex, stating that sex creates a bond. He then argues that expectations are the root of relationship problems, urging men to communicate their needs and listen to their partner's. Finally, while leaving a marriage may...
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#27 Easy as That
When conflict arises, it's easy to let arguments escalate, but exhibiting self-control means putting the "fire" out immediately. People can feel invisible and ignored, but we shouldn't intentionally choose the darkness of hiding; instead, choose the light and "see" others. Lastly, using…
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#26 I'm Bored Again
Host David dissects the flimsy excuse of "I’m Bored Again" for bad online behavior, then discusses webcam models, urging men to view them as someone's daughter to break the cycle of objectification. He critiques the materialistic view of people as just "potential clients" based on utility.…
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#25 Your thoughts are locked up inside your head
In the podcast episode "X Why Explained #25," host David's core message is about the importance of communication. He argues that bottling up thoughts is harmful and that sharing them, even if difficult, is crucial. He also addresses emotional manipulation, suggesting men need a strategy to handle...
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#24 The Usual Trepidation
This podcast episode explores how problems in a marriage, like infidelity and a lack of communication, can cause a spouse to feel dread about coming home. It also discusses how romantic love can be fleeting and highlights the danger of ignoring problems until they become too big to handle.
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#23 A Familiar Tightrope
In this episode of "X Why Explained," host David discusses his journey out of pornography addiction. He explains that addiction is a "familiar tightrope" and a cycle of hurting and shame, requiring an addict to first admit they have a problem. He also touches on how men often communicate, and how…
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#22 Long Dead Roman Philosophers
I’m guessing you’re here because you want some answers. Either that or you’re just curious. If you’re curious, you’ll quickly get an idea of what kind of podcast this is and you’ll decided if its your cup of tea or not. I know there’s lot of competition for people’s ears and eyes. If you’re…
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#21 Perhaps she thinks it's safer
I’m just trying to help. I reckon there are a lot of men who are really struggling with various sexual issues and they are fighting their battles alone. Maybe that’s you. I get it. The double life. The things you do in secret, hoping no one ever finds out. The shame. The cycle of addiction. I...
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#20 Something weird is going on between us
Maybe, you’re the bloke who’s depressed. Maybe it’s a friend of yours. Maybe a work mate. There’s only one way out of the dark pit. Look up if you can and ask for help, or each and pull someone up. I’ve had so very low times but I cant say I’ve ever suffered depression, but I acknowledge it as a...
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19 Listen to the whole story before making up your mind
Even though, we all want it to be simple, life is complicated. And life is mostly about relationships, the good, the bad and the ugly. X Why Explained podcast is here to help and the first step to solving a problem is identifying it. Know your enemy. How many of you know you have enemies? Unseen...
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#18 When I think of her, I’m not thinking about sex
Even though, we all want it to be simple, life is complicated. And life is mostly about relationships, the good, the bad and the ugly. X Why Explained podcast is here to help and the first step to solving a problem is identifying it. Know your enemy. How many of you know you have enemies? Unseen...
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#17 If I Knew What She was Thinking
Author D.A.Cairns reads from his novel Love Sick Love and discusses some important issues relating to sex and relationships.
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#16 A Hungry Unhappiness
G’day. My name’s David. Thanks for joining me. I’m going to read to you from my novel Love Sick Love, then I’m going to talk to you about some of the stuff that comes up. Love Sick Love is fiction. It is not a true story, but it could be. It could be your story.
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#15 Opposites Attract
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If...
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#14 Turning the lights on
Special Good Friday episode. Usually, I read to you from my novel, Love Sick Love, but today I want to step back a bit and tell you a little of my story. Where did the novel come from? Where did this podcast come from? What’s underpinning it all? If you only ever listen to one episode of X Why...
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#13 Too Much Time Alone
X Why Explained is a podcast which aims to bring truth, light, and understanding to men in the arena of sex and relationships. In each episode author D.A. Cairns will bring challenging insights designed to help bring healing and wholeness to this area of manhood which for many men is…
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#12 Two Years divorced and she still won't talk to me
Two years divorced and she still won’t talk to me. I have accepted responsibility for what I did, but my ex has not. In her eyes, she is the perpetual victim and I am the everlasting villain. It was fun while it lasted If you like the kind of fun which is laced with anxiety and guilt. Call it fun...
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#11 You were married once, right?
X Why Explained is about turning the lights on, speaking truth, breaking addiction.
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#10 Beauty is only skin deep
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If...
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#9 Things like this only happen in movies
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If...
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#8 You're as Curious as I am
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If...
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#7 I Can't Complain because I brought it on myself
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If...
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#6 There are times when I detest myself
X Why Explained is a podcast which aims to bring truth, light, and understanding to men in the arena of sex and relationships. In each episode author D.A. Cairns will bring challenging insights designed to help bring healing and wholeness to this area of manhood which for many men is…
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#5 Blurring the line between fact and fiction
X Why Explained is a podcast which aims to bring truth, light, and understanding to men in the arena of sex and relationships. In each episode author D.A. Cairns will bring challenging insights designed to help bring healing and wholeness to this area of manhood which for many men is…
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#4 The Danger of Discontent
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If...
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#3 Confession may be good for the soul
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If...
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#2 We make gods of all things
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re…
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#1 an endless string of irritating necessitities
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Truth. Understanding. Freedom. X Why Explained turns the lights on for men who know that something is not right, who can’t understand their behaviour and feel trapped in fractional sexual addiction, suffocated by shame, isolated and confused. This podcast will help restore dignity and purity to help to make you a better, healthier man.Please feel free to contact the host with any questions, comments or other feedback you may have via email at [email protected]
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