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ZENBEHAVIOR

by zenstateofmindwriter

Zenbehavior is a podcast about the art of becoming the person who can build the life she actually wants.Hosted by Chinecherem Udegbunam, also known as zenstateofmindwriter—a writer, speaker, and founder of New You Lab, a space for women to reinvent themselves and learn to become the experience they want to have. She also writes The Game W/ zenstateofmindwriter, a newsletter on Substack about the psychology of desire—sex, love, money, ambition, and everything in between.Zenbehavior explores the ideas, behaviors, and uncomfortable truths that help you become more self-possessed, ambitious, discerning, and free. We talk about the things that shape the quality of your life—love, sex, money, friendship, family, work, ambition, desire, standards, power, identity, and the rules you’ve inherited without ever deciding whether you wanted them.This is not a podcast about becoming a better-behaved person. It’s about becoming more conscious of the game you’re playing, understanding why you play

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  1. #153. How to stop being Nice

    Nice has become another word for afraid, overavailable, conflict-avoidant, and desperate to be liked. You’ll learn how to disappoint people without collapsing into guilt, say no without writing an essay, stop performing warmth for people who haven’t earned access to you, and become comfortable…

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  2. #152. Why Detaching is so hard. And how to actually do it.

    You know you need to let go. So why the fuck is detachment so hard? In this episode, we’re getting into the why and what actually has to change for you to detach. You’ll learn how to stop chasing closure, interrupt obsessive thought loops, tolerate uncertainty, withdraw your attention without...

  3. #151. How to Fuck to Imprint

    Some people have sex with you and become a memory. Others become a reference point. You’re learning to be the second for other people. In this episode, we’re talking about the psychology of unforgettable sex—what makes an intimate experience linger long after the physical moment is over, and why...

  4. #150. How to Stop Hating Men after being hurt so much

    In this episode, we’re unpacking what happens when disappointment becomes resentment and how to stop carrying the emotional residue of men who hurt you into the life you’re building. You can remember what happened without letting it decide what happens next.

  5. #149. How to Unfuck Your life in 7 days!

    You don’t need a new personality. You need to stop doing the things that keep fucking up your life. In this episode, we’re doing a reset. Just seven days of deliberate decisions that force you back into the driver’s seat. If you’ve been feeling stuck, scattered, underwhelmed, emotionally messy…

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  6. #148. Money (the only boundary that doesn’t need anyone’s cooperation)

    Money gives you a kind of freedom no conversation can. The freedom to leave, say no, choose differently, and stop negotiating with people who benefit from your lack of options.

  7. #147. How to stop self sabotaging

    Sometimes you’re not stuck because you don’t know what to do. You’re stuck because some part of you has learned to feel safer in the familiar—even when the familiar is keeping you small. In this episode, we’re getting underneath self-sabotage: the procrastination, inconsistency, overthinking,...

  8. #146. The Art of Fucking

    Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this conversation is about becoming a more attentive lover, a more connected partner, and someone who understands that intimacy is an art not a performance. Tune in and share the love.

  9. #145. Practice Detachment

    #145. In this episode, we explore how attachment creates unnecessary suffering, why people chase what isn’t choosing them, and how detachment gives you clarity, peace, and power. Tune in and share the love

  10. #144. Master Selfishness

    Selfishness has a terrible reputation, and yet most people are suffering because they abandoned themselves to keep everyone else comfortable. In this episode, we redefine selfishness and why protecting your peace is necessary.

  11. #143. Master seduction

    Most people think seduction begins in the bedroom. It doesn’t. It begins in the mind. In this episode, you’ll learn why some people command attention effortlessly while others are constantly overlooked—and how to cultivate the kind of presence that’s impossible to ignore. This episode is simply...

  12. #142. How to not lose hope in love and life when you have standards pt 2

    This episode discusses high standards, what comes with having them and how to not let them be in the way of your happiness

  13. #141. How to build sexual confidence from scratch

    We’re talking peak sexual aura

  14. #140. How to heal and level the fuck up

    Are you feeling stuck/ behind in life? Are you heart broken? Not sure how to deal with failure? This episode is for you

  15. #139. how to make anyone obsessed with you + how to reverse obsession on someone

    In this class we’re talking about obsession, where it starts, and how to leverage it in seduction

  16. #138. You are the niche: How to monetize yourself

    Making money online. From an artist’s perspective More step by step instructions coming on my YouTube live. Subscribe and stay tuned. Subscribe here: https://youtube.com/@zenstateofmindwriter

  17. #137. How to not lose hope in love and life (when you have standards) part 1

    What if nothing better actually comes? Tune in

  18. #136. If you want better sex in 2026…

    Dos & Donts

  19. #135. How to fuck your way to the top

    literally what it says

  20. 134. Next year doesn’t need a new you. It needs the real you

    2025 final words. This conversation will prepare you for a better, more blissful 2026

  21. #133. Confidence is Evidence

    Yes. Evidence. What you think you should do to feel or be confident are only symptoms of confident people. The real work happens behind closed doors

  22. #132. How to be properly fucked & how to be the best fuck

    The experience & the impact. You can be both.

  23. #131. The art of emotional self defense

    This episode only does one thing: teach you how to protect your peace

  24. #130. Reinvent yourself (the effective way)

    You don’t need to wait until 2026 to turn your life around. You can change the trajectory of your life right this minute, and my hope is this video shows you how

  25. #129. Let people be who they are

    This episode discusses how to stay detached in love

  26. #128. How to be emotionally available without being emotionally dependent

    This episode discusses the importance of caring the right way. The powerful way

  27. #127. Power Games in Relationships: Who Leads, Who Submits, and Why Control Is Never Equal

    Love might wear the costume of equality, but beneath it, there’s always a subtle current of control. Someone always feels it more. Someone always needs it less.

  28. #126. Bite off more than you can chew

    This episode will pressure you out of mediocrity and teach you life most powerful skill: elasticity

  29. #125. Fvcked Right part 3

    In episode we didn’t just about sex, we talked about the aftermath, obsession and how self-worth is the center of it all.

  30. #124. Delusion & Audacity

    Two life skills you need to thrive massively at anything (literally!). Tune in and share the love

  31. #123. The Power of Identity

    The one thing silently deciding your love life, sex life, self worth and success. Follow, tune in & don’t forget to share the love

  32. #122. How to undo. The basics of foreplay

    touching, waiting, finishing… aftermath. basics of foreplay

  33. #121. how manifestation works.

    Take full ownership of your life. This episode is from my Reset Program class. If you’re not in the Reset Program, you’re missing out… Access is for women only — click here to join: http://selar.com/4p7425 👆🏾 This program gives you access to 14 lessons and practical exercises that actually…

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  34. #120. the psychology behind names. and why you should name things first

    names are powerful. what you assign a name you assign power to (relationship, personal growth and so on).

  35. #119. emptying my drafts. gym. real talk. sex & cooking

    Just a random 2am voice recording I found and I wanted to share with you guys.

  36. #118. How to Be Invaluable: Sex. Love. Career. Life.

    Happy new month. Let’s talk about how to become the kind of person who gets remembered. In sex. In love. In work. In this life.

  37. #117. Listening as a strategy in the game of power

    Listening is a power move. In business. In bed. In love. In life. Tune in. Share the love.

  38. #116. The Physics of surrender

    What it means to surrender, in bed and outdoors

  39. #115. How to turn your sexy back on

    This episode for the woman who needs her groove back this June and forever!

  40. #114. How To Become a High Value Drug

    Addiction is a strategy and this episode shows you how

  41. #113 How to become a lifestyle, not just a Lover

    This episode explains one thing in depth: Why people stay even after the pleasure fades

  42. #112. How to be Fvcked Right. (II)

    This is Part 2 of How to Be Fvcked Right. And today, we’re not just talking about sex. We’re talking about seduction architecture, physical control, aftershock, and psychological seduction so potent—it doesn’t just leave him satisfied… It leaves him shaken. Ready? Good.

  43. #111. How To be fvcked Right (I)

    You’ve been touched. But have you ever been truly taken? Good sex doesn’t just happen—you have to be taught how to receive it. And we’re just getting started. This episode is for the women—but men, you should absolutely tune in. To learn the psyche. To pay attention better. To actually please her.

  44. #110 Healing Isn’t Soft: It’s Bloody, Boring, and Brutally Honest

    This episode is all about healing. Tune in and share the love To join my reset program, register here: https://paystack.com/buy/14-days-reset-program-

  45. #109. Mess. Fail So Hard That Failure Hates to See You Coming—And Then Win.

    In this episode, we are discussing fear. Why it’s good and how it can be your superpower— the very thing that changes the game for you. Follow, tune in and enjoy 🖤

  46. #108 WHEN THE WORLD TURNS ON YOU—TURN INTO THE STORM

    This episode is for the ones who know what it means to be chewed up and spat out by life. For the ones who’ve had everything they built torn down in front of their eyes. Left bleeding and alone, wondering, why me? Tune in and share the love 💕

  47. #107 Your ‘Personality’ Is Just Trauma You’ve Decided to Keep

    Hi there, In this episode, we’re going to break down how most of what we call “our personality” is actually just trauma we’ve carried for so long that we think it’s who we are. And more importantly, we’re going to talk about how to unbecome the version of you that was built for survival—so you…

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  48. #106 You’ll Never Feel Safe in Love Until You’re Willing to Lose It

    Happy April Lovers☺️ In this episode, we’re diving deep into how attachment breeds fear—and why true freedom in love only comes when you’re willing to lose it. Tune in and share the love 💕

  49. #105 Why we manifest the Negative faster

    If you want to understand why when we stay positive and nothing happens and then believe one negative thing and something happens immediately, listen to this episode. Don’t forget to share 🫶🏽

  50. #104 How to Break Generational cycles

    If you’re done playing small If you’re done playing it safe If you want to break patterns and cycles, and take back control of your life… listen to this episode and share the love

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

Zenbehavior is a podcast about the art of becoming the person who can build the life she actually wants.Hosted by Chinecherem Udegbunam, also known as zenstateofmindwriter—a writer, speaker, and founder of New You Lab, a space for women to reinvent themselves and learn to become the experience they want to have. She also writes The Game W/ zenstateofmindwriter, a newsletter on Substack about the psychology of desire—sex, love, money, ambition, and everything in between.Zenbehavior explores the ideas, behaviors, and uncomfortable truths that help you become more self-possessed, ambitious, discerning, and free. We talk about the things that shape the quality of your life—love, sex, money, friendship, family, work, ambition, desire, standards, power, identity, and the rules you’ve inherited without ever deciding whether you wanted them.This is not a podcast about becoming a better-behaved person. It’s about becoming more conscious of the game you’re playing, understanding why you play

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