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ask a sub — 179 episodes
172. A Beautiful Evil Pouring Out Of Me with Miss Gold
171. You Can't Step In The Same River Of Pee Twice
170. Daddy Is A State Of Mind
169. Don't Throw The Therapist Out With The Bathwater
168. I'm Coming Out Of My Cage - Wait Put Me Back In The Cage
167. Lubing Up The Flirting Dipstick
166. High Volume Orgasms: Blessing Or Curse?
165. Quick Hits: "Straight-Passing" Queer Couple Spring Is Here
164. Submission But Not Like THAT
163. Hedonism is a Moral Imperative with S.T. Gibson
162. Vanilla Dating Is Not A Pre-Requisite For Kink Dating
161. How To Be A 24/7 Sub When You're Like… Really Pissed At Your Dom
160. When You Break Up With A Dom Who Looms Large
159. Exploring Our Darker, Stranger Drives with Anastasiia Fedorova
158. Let's Talk About Latex!
157. Responsible Mess Management
156. My Dudes! My Guys! My Bros!
155. Quick Hits: British ≠ English, Grief = Horny
154. How To Tell If Someone Is Kinky (No Telepathy Needed)
153. Does A 'Pleasure Dom' Imply The Existence Of A… Not-Pleasure Dom?
152. Pro-Submission with Alexis O'Kneel
151. If You Want The Juice, You Gotta Show 'Em The Whole Fruit
150. Zen and the Art of Not Trauma Dumping
149. Quick Hits: Clubs, Cults, and Sexual Favors
148. New Year, Same Heated Rivalry with Danielle Belazel
147. Getting Your Bag (Ethically!)
146. This Sex Cult Stole Our Sh*t! With Natalie Robehmed of Allison After NXIVM
145. JennaWorld & Why We're So Weird About Porn with Molly Lambert
144. Noelle Perdue Is A Pervert (Not Derogatory)
143. Consciously Un-Subbing
142. Quick Hits: Emily Tied-To-A-Post (And Whipped!)
141. Your Partner Is Not A McDonald's Soft Serve Machine
140. Now Write 'Submissive ≠ Passive' 50 Times On The Blackboard While I Pelt Chalk At You
139. How To F*ck Like A Girl with Vera Blossom
138. The Non-Verbal Mambo
137. Kink Event Girl! Put The Bass In Your Walk, Head To Toe Let Your Whole Body Talk
136. Switch On Me Once, Shame On.. Shame On You. Switch On Me Twice... A Switch Can't Get Switched On Again
135. From the Subby Archives: The Origins Of The Folsom Street Fair
134. Living Truthfully on an Imaginary First Date
133. The Wonderful World of Thuddy Impact Toys
132. In Praise Of Pickiness
131. Ugly Sex with Margeaux Feldman AKA Softcore Trauma
130. The Republican Dommy Mommy Archetype
129. On Not Turning Your Daddy Into Your Dad
128. Is Everybody Frickin' Poly Or What??
127. The Things You Cannot Unsee In Public Play Spaces (And Why You Should See *Some* Of Them)
126. Quick Hits: Objectification, Romance Fiction, and The Skeezy Little Black Book
125. The Clown Serenity Prayer with Gutter the Mod
124. Do You Have To Bring Your 35-Year-Old Boyfriend To The Olive Garden?
123. The ENM Jealousy Thrill Ride
122. With Pride this June We Take it Up the Butt 🫡
121. Quick Hits: On The Mic In A Ball Gag
120. When Threesome Fantasies Become Threesome Icks
119. Should Doms sub? Should subs Dom? Should chaos reign supreme?
118. Sydney Baloue Is A Daddy Enthusiast
117. Break Glass for Instant 24/7 Starter Kit
116. Escaping Neurospicy Perfectionism
115. Quick Hits: Vetting Q's & Power Struggles
114. Kink In The Tarot with Michelle Tea
113. Licking Your Wounds (Figurative …Unless?)
112. Scaring Your Partner's Pants Off
111. Hot and Unbothered with Yana Tallon-Hicks
110. A Fire Under Every Butt!
109. Communicating With Your Butt aka The Hanky Code
108. Porn Addiction Is Not Real with Erica Smith
107. Trust Your Sub Swoons
106. Calling All Beleaguered Subs
105. Cupid Likes It Up The Ass
104. Protocol Brain Dump
103. Let's Talk About Latex!
102. When Is Romance A Limit?
101. Tough Love For People Pleasers
100. Abolish The Family with Sophie Lewis & An Erotica Surprise
99. Fear Is Good, Actually
98. Queer Pill Your Holidays
97. Debuting Your Kinks: A Formula
96. Age Gap Autumn
95. The World Needs Male Subs
94. Feral Raccoon Hour with the AAS Moderators
93. Kink for Survivors
92. The Spiky Wartenberg Wheel Of Emotions
91. Getting Left Hanging (Not In The Fun Way)
90. Switch for Switch Poly Parenting with Evolving Love Project
89. Sub On The Street: Folsom Street Fair
88. Getting Off Hold
87. Rebuilding Your Dynamic After De-escalation
86. Fewer Bisexual Fucks to Give
85. Safety is Hardcore with Tina Horn
84. Divine Masculine & Feminine Energies are Sus
83. Chronically Kinky
82. Fake Dom 2.0
81. Subby Future Tripping
80. Getting The Switch Itch
79. Making it Weird While Keeping it Secure with Casey Tanner aka @queersextherapy
78. Outgrowing Your Fish Tank
77. An AMA with Lina
76. D/s Is A Love Language
75. Your Brain Is A Soft-Boiled Egg
74. Eating Olives Off the Floor with Novelist R.O. Kwon
73. Zero Sum Cats with Dollie the Discord Mod
72. The Subby Art of Letting Go
71. Age Play with Baby Linh
70. Spit It Out with Alison Stevenson
69. Cucking Aftercare
68. Everybody Needs To Chill with Bae Leche
67. The Submissive Awakening
66. Public Humiliation - Where's The Line?
65. Dating Your Intuition
64. Committed And Kinky
63. Everyone Is Grieving
62. Accessible Glory Holes with Andrew Gurza
61. The Veto Blues
60. The 24/7 D/s Buffet
59. Neurospicy & Ready To Party
58. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win
57. What Is Humiliation Anyway?
56. Dovetailing Purity Culture Into Kink
55. You Do Not Have To Be Good
54. Bloodlust & SW Labor Rights with Empress Wu
53. What If I Don't Have Hard Limits?
52. Hot Bisexual Takes with Gab Alexa
51. A Thanksgiving Pep Talk
50. What Is A Play Party?
49. Sub On The Street: Folsom 2023
48. Goodest Girl Syndrome
47. A Freak Behind The Lens: Photographer Alex Kacha
46. Comparison Versus Compersion
45. Learning From Our Elders & The History of Bootblacking with KD Diamond
44. Bratty & Broken Hearted
43. The Origins Of The Folsom Street Fair
42. Your Pelvic Floor Doesn't Wanna Hustle with Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya
41. A Red Flag Refresher
40. Keeping Your Polyam Foot On The Floor
39. Kink For Hard Times
38. A Blank Check For Semen with Vienna Farlow the Cuntsultant
37. Healthy Conflict But Make It D/s
36. Moving The Masochistic Goal Posts with Leigh Cowart
35. Smooth Brain As Resistance
34. Internet Censorship with Evie Lupine
33. The Drop-Proof D/s Goodbye
32. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win
31. Kinky Cohabitation
30. Gender Neutral Means Of Address
29. Don't Fear The Fluidity
28. Radical Bisexual Permission with Zachary Zane
27. Bi Girl Desire
26. Bisexual It Girl Vita Sackville-West
25. 2 Doms 1 Sub
24. All About Us with the Ask A Sub Community
23. Good Doms Are Out There
22. The Sexual Is Political
21. The Polyamory Cool Kids Table
20. Body Love & Healing Your Gaze with Luna Matatas
19. We Are Always Evolving (And So Are Our Needs)
18. A Taste For Suffering
17. Read! The Freakin!! Article!!!
16. Herpes Hope & Hotness with Safe Slut
15. Gender Is Fake, Aftercare Is Real
14. 1970s Leather Culture: "A Very Happy Place To Be"
13. Don't SUBlimate Your Feelings
12. Brat Motivations with Lola Jean
11. Your Shiny Orb Of Subby Selfness
Season Two Coming Soon
DEEP DIVE: Mindful Masculinity and Dominance
DEEP DIVE: Finding A Sex-Positive Therapist with Rachel Wright
DEEP DIVE: Leigh Cowart Wrote The Book On Masochism
DEEP DIVE: Creative Scene Planning with Cory Bush and Adam Rei Siegel
DEEP DIVE: Wholesomeness Is Perverted with Dia Dynasty and @tiemetightly
DEEP DIVE: Venus Cuffs on Kink Parties & Being A Bossy B*tch
10. Kinkily Ever After
9. Dating Apps, Meeting IRL, and Seeking Compatibility
8. Survivors, Loneliness, and a Cucking Treat
7. CNC, Empowered Collaring, and Protocol For Open Relationships
6. Opening Up, People Pleasing and Kink Shame
5. Social Stigmas, Sub Drop, and D/s with Roommates
4. Sub Frenzy, Safe Words, And The Myth Of The Top Shortage
3. Fake Doms, Real Doms, And How Can Submission Be Feminist?
2. Aftercare, Mindful Bratting, & The Vanilla Misery Fetish
1. My Submission Journey, Orgasm Control, And Advice For Single Thirds