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The Performance Is All His. The Work Is All Yours.
The Best Way to Help Her See the Good Person Was to Own the Bad Person
He Ignores You When You Tell Him He’s Enough
What Happens When a Man Loses the Role He Built His Life On?
What His Anger Is Actually Covering Up
You Became His Only Safe Person. That’s the Problem.
The Storms He Never Faced Became Yours
When His Health Isn’t Just His Problem
Is He Resting or Checking Out? How to Tell
Why Your Husband’s Recovery Grows Faster with a Mentor
He Can Learn Anything (Except How to Treat You)
5 Signs His Recovery Is Real (Not a Performance)
Why He Checks Every Box But Still Feels Empty
Why Your Words Don’t Reach Him | The Shame Raincoat
We’re Changing Direction. Here’s Why.
9 Things Addicts Wish Wives Knew (But Rarely Say Out Loud)
MY SHAME over Looking Bad MADE ME the BAD Guy
EMPATHY DOES NOT ALWAYS WORK (what actually changed me)
I Seemed Like a GOOD GUY. I WASN’T. (My Lying Created a Monster)
Soft Accountability Didn’t Work (And I Liked It) – 6.17S
Just Different Levels of Enemies (The Mindset That Kept Him Using)
She’s the ENEMY (and I’M AN ABUSER so I dominated her)
How I FAKED RECOVERY (My PURPOSE in life is to BE ENTERTAINED)
I Had to Shut Her Up to KEEP LYING (addiction HARDENED MY HEART)
When She Stops Crying it SCARES ME MORE (how I REALLY felt when she cried)
Did You Think I WAS TOO WEAK to Leave? (What Addicts Think Abt Consequences)
What I Expected Her to Just GET OVER (I Was SO WRONG) –
HOW I HID My Porn Use while “In Recovery” (every LYING TACTIC) – 6.09S
The Emotions I Refused to Face (addicts run from these things) – 6.08S
When I Chose Porn Over God (and What Happened Next) – 6.07S
How I JUSTIFIED EVERY LIE I Told (Addicts’ Thinking EXPOSED) – 6.06S
The Day I Hit ROCK BOTTOM (this CHANGES EVERYTHING for Addicts)
He Stopped PERFORMING—& Discovered Real INTIMACY (Sobriety)—6.04S
THIS TOOL Rewired My Brain for REAL INTIMACY (After Porn) – 6.03S
How ADDICTION WARPS INTIMACY (her affirmations MEANT NOTHING) – 6.02S
Would’ve Passed a Lie Detector Test? (one way he lied) – 6.01S
Exposing Liars’ Tactics: Questions That Need Asking – 6.00S
How do I Know if He’s Told the Full Truth? (6 hints) – 5.27S
The ONLY Thing to CHANGE is EVERYTING (How seriously should I take recovery?) – 5.26S
Is it Okay to WANT to see EVIDENCE OF CHANGE (Sad I CAN’T TRUST YOU now) – 5.25S
How To Make This Year Better (Four Steps) — 5.24S
How do Addicts Actually Change? (Advice for Power-Over Dynamics) – 5.23S
Will She Ever Get Over This? (I keep forgetting she is in pain) – 5.22S #marriagerecovery
He Promised to Never Touch Me Again (What should I do?) – 5.21S
How do I Forgive with All these Intrusive Thoughts? (healing for the “Drama Queen” label) – 5.20S
What if He Doesn’t Desire Me Physically? (he’s stolen my femininity) – 5.19
Is His RECOVERY REAL if He GETS ANGRY AND WITHDRAWS More? – 5.18S
When Should I Stop Talking about the Betrayal? (how you’ll know) – 5.17S
Some Husbands Choose Recovery and Mine Didn’t (Is that About Me?) – 5.16S
How Long does it Take for Addicts to Heal (create NEW dopamine) – 5.15S
Do All Strugglers Relapse? (top 2 things a partner can do) – 5.14S
Is it a PROBLEM if He’s Always on DEVICES? (BOUNDARIES for screen addiction) – 5.13S
The 2nd Path SECRET (lessons learned to EASE your PAIN) – 5.12S
He Relapses with No Remorse. What Steps Should You Take? – 5.11S
Is He Using His PAST TRAUMA as a STALLING TACTIC? (Signs / 3 Solutions) – 5.10S
REBUILDING TRUST: 15 SIGNS Your Relationships are HEALING from Betrayal – 5.09S
15 Signs You’re Healing from Betrayal Trauma – 5.08S
Does He Really Not Know? (‘I have to ask the right questions) – 5.07S
What Should Recovering Addicts Watch Out For? (10 Hidden Pitfalls) – 5.06S
Friends say I should leave–What should I do? (3 Things to Try) – 5.05S
He Lies about Me to His Counselor (“my apology should be enough!”) – 5.04S
What To Watch Out for as I Heal? (husband, nurse her back to health) – 5.03S
When Marriage Counselors Divorce (Season 5 intro) – 5.00
How to Rebuild Trust When He Feels Attacked (“this is stupid”) – 4.25S
One Thing Some Guys Resent (ways to build trust instead) – 4.24S
One Thing Many Guys Hide (honesty isn’t enough) – 4.23S
2 Ways to Connect after Broken Trust (sharing this) – 4.22S
How to Find Real Satisfaction (trauma-fueled distractions?) – 4.21S
How Entertainment Actually Helped After Betrayal (learning but not applying) – 4.20S
2 Kinds of Values & 2 Other Addictions (how to name emotions) – 4.19S
How to Know: Should You Stay or Go (“I am more important than…”) – 4.18S
What if He’s NOT ‘All In’? (is he clueless, toxic… or teachable?) – 4.17S
How to Stop Mistreating Her (empathy and validation) – 4.16S
What if He Never Changes? (why men get defensive over safety and trust) – 4.15S
4 Kinds of Guys (“can you just care?”) – 4.14S
How to Heal Broken Trust (who will he choose) – 4.13S
“Aren’t You Over That Yet?” (his pain vs. her pain) – 4.12S
He Doesn’t Understand My Pain (3 invalidations) – 4.11S
One Quick Way to Restore Trust (she can’t heal unless…) – 4.10S
What Makes Men “Get It”? (if an affair is the goal) – 4.09S
Are Emotional Affairs Actually Affairs? (it’s not difficult) – 4.08S
Can Lying Actually Cause PTSD? (needs addicts focus on) – 4.07S
She’s Not Meeting My Needs! (is safety actually a need?) – 4.06S
When the One who Broke Trust Can’t Trust You (vulnerability) – 4.05S
How to Increase Intimacy (will it take divorce?) – 4.04S
Keys to Successful Relationships (then don’t be married) – 4.03S
What’s Her Problem? (what he was adamant about) – 4.02S
A Great New Book: This is How Your Marriage Ends – 4.01S
How to “Rage at the Addiction” (solutions for relationships) – 4.00S
12 Major Pitfalls of the 12-Steps (after betrayal trauma, abuse and lies) – 3.17S
12 Common Pitfalls of the 12-Steps (after betrayal trauma, abuse and lies) – 3.16S
How can a Loving God Allow… (The Pain of Betrayal, Lies and Abuse) – 3.15S
The FULL Serenity Prayer (True happiness despite Lies, Betrayal and Abuse) 3.14S
The REAL Serenity Prayer (The quickest way to change your situation) – 3.13S
Step 12: Sharing this Message (Ministering after Lies, Betrayal Trauma, or Abuse) 3.12S
Step 11: Contact God (Living in a surrendered way) – 3.11S
Step 10: For When You’re Wrong (and rewiring the addicted brain) – 3.10S
Step 9: Making Amends Unless… (And the best apologies) 3.09S
Step 8: All Those I’ve Harmed (Making a list) – 3.08S
Step 7: The Humble Ask (God Doesn’t Just Take it Away) – 3.07S