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Just Calm Down

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It Wasn't About the Sex

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"I Stopped. Why Isn't That Enough?"

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Stop Listening to Everyone

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You Know What to Do. Your Nervous System Doesn't.

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Your Emotions Aren't the Problem

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Why "I Don't Need Anyone" Isn't Healing - with Amie Woolsey

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If It's Abuse, Can We Still Do This Work?

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Same Conversation, Same Pain, Same Result

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Working Harder is Making Things Worse

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When Romance Feels Unsafe after Betrayal

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When Relationship Work Makes Things Worse

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Stop Asking if it's Working

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Is it Fear or Actual Danger?

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Can You Heal without Forgiving?

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Is There Room for the Betrayer's Pain?

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Using Recovery to Manipulate, Control, and Confuse

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Does the Type of Betrayal Matter?

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You Can Face What You Fear

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A Holiday Message from Us

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What Really Determines Whether Healing Moves Forward

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Why You're Not Healing at the Same Speed

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Shouldn't Love Be Enough?

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Calming the Storm Together

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"But It Only Happened Once..."

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Protecting Your Relationship from an Emotional Affair

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Telling the Truth Isn't Enough

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The Truth Behind Overreacting in Betrayal Trauma Recovery

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Trust Isn't Built How You Think

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Are You Behind in Your Recovery?

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Betrayal: Accountability vs. Expectations

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Who Goes First in Recovery?

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We're Stable, But Are We Actually Healing?

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Why We're Pressing Pause (and What Comes Next)

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When Men Are Betrayed: Breaking the Silence Around Male Betrayal Trauma

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Building a Marriage Team

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Sex Addiction: Is My Husband in Good Recovery?

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Covert Abuse in Relationships

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The Danger of Unhealed Betrayal

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How to Heal Body Image After Betrayal

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What About the Kids? How Betrayal Impacts Children and How to Support Them

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A Non-Pathologizing Approach to Our Imperfections

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Unmotivated or Unable? How to Tell the Difference

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Why Some People Stay Stuck in Betrayal Trauma (And How to Move Forward)

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What to Do When You're the Unmotivated Partner

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Caring for Children While Healing from Betrayal

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What to Do When Your Partner Lacks Motivation

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The Impact of Agency on Mental Health - with Brianna Holmes - Episode 284

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Can I Learn to Connect? - Episode 283

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5 Key Things Couples Who Heal from Betrayal Do Differently - Episode 282

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Bonus Episode - Guest Episode on KayLee Dunn's "Navigating Betrayal" Podcast

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Four Hidden Fears in Trusting Again - Episode 281

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Overcoming Hidden Barriers to Healing After Betrayal - Episode 280

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How Long Does it Take to Heal from Betrayal? - Episode 279

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Accidental Missteps that Hurt Betrayed Couples (and how to fix them) - Episode 278

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Teaching Consent to Children - with Rachel Brian - Episode 277

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Lessons from Great Listeners (Part 2) - Episode 276

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When the Unfaithful is Also Betrayed - with Sam - Episode 275

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Lessons from Great Listeners (Part 1) - Episode 274

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What Does It Mean to Be Yourself? - Episode 272

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A More Compassionate Approach to Addiction - with Dr. Carrie Wilkens - Episode 271

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Stonewalling Your Partner - Episode 270

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What I Have Learned as the Daughter of a Recovering Sex Addict - with Tara McCausland - Episode 269

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What I've Learned and Unlearned in 25 Years as a Therapist - Episode 268

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Staying Out of Victimhood - Episode 267

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Honesty, Trust, and Reactivity - with Dr. Jason Whiting - Episode 266

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Building a Protective Partnership - Episode 265

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The Impact of Betrayal on a Partner's Identity - with Dr. Heidi Hastings - Episode 264

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Self Advocacy (Part 2) - Episode 263

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Healing from Patterns of Sexual Betrayal in Christ’s Light - with Jeni Brockbank - Episode 262

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Self Advocacy (Part 1) - Episode 261

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Power Dynamics in Relationships - with Bonnie Young - Episode 260

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Being Honest with Yourself Can Change Your Relationship - Episode 259

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Living with Unmet Expectations - Episode 258

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A Deeper Look at Forgiveness and Apologies - with Lisa Stoddard-Reeves - Episode 257

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Demystifying the Polygraph Test - with Jared Rockwood - Episode 256

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Support vs. Enabling - Episode 255

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When Betrayal Threatens Your Goodness - Episode 254

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"I Meant Well...and Other Words That Kill Relationships" - with Heather Linchenko - Episode 253

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Sweeping Your Side of the Street - Episode 252

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"Sex Educated" - with Bonnie Young - Episode 251

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How Loved Ones Can Offer Support - Episode 250

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Should I Stay Or Go? - with Amie Woolsey - Episode 249

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Can Safety Needs Go Too Far? - Episode 248

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An Affair, a Murder, and a Divorce - with Ashlee Boyson - Episode 247

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Building a Life After Divorce - Episode 246

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Unintentionally Hurting Your Partner - Episode 245

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Disarming Coercive Behaviors - Episode 244

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The Challenge of Rebuilding Trust - With Brannon Patrick - Episode 243

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Inpatient vs. Outpatient Treatment - Episode 242

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A Post-Disclosure Pep Talk for the Betrayed Partner - Episode 241

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A Post-Disclosure Pep Talk for the Recovering Partner - Episode 240

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"No More Mr. Nice Guy" - with Dr. Robert Glover - Episode 239

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The Lure of the Victim Mindset

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Resilience in the Aftermath of Betrayal - with KayLee Dunn - Episode 238

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Narcissism or Emotional Immaturity? - with Tony Overbay - Episode 237

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The Importance of Men's Work - with Kurt Francom - Episode 236

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The Four Levels of Communication - with Nathaniel Gustafson - Episode 235

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Transactional vs. Transformational Relationship Dynamics - with Julia Witt - Episode 234

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Taking Ownership of Our Stories - with Jason Portnoy - Episode 233

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Worthiness vs. Trust - Episode 232

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Healing Rituals in Marriage - with Amanda Christensen, LMFT - Episode 231

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Loving at a Distance While Keeping the Flame Alive - with KayLee Dunn - Episode 230

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Affair-Proofing Your Relationship - with Shannon Brown, LMFT - Episode 229

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A Broader Look at Spiritual Intimacy - Episode 228

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A Broader Look at Intellectual Intimacy - Episode 227

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A Broader Look at Emotional Intimacy - Episode 226

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A Broader Look at Physical Intimacy - Episode 225

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When the Betrayed Become Abusive - Episode 224

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The History of Addiction - with Dr. Carl Erik Fisher - Episode 223

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Understanding Men, Lust, and Marriage - Episode 222

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Authenticity in Recovery - Episode 221

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Healthy Emotional Regulation - Episode 220

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Why Do I Feel Worse When We Get Closer? - Episode 219

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Holding Space - with Heather Plett - Episode 218

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The Difference Between a Passive or Proactive Recovery - Episode 217

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The Nuances of Forgiveness and Trust in Relationships - Episode 216

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Is Anger Necessary for Recovery? - Episode 215

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The Importance of Honesty and Transparency in Recovery - with Sathiya Sam - Episode 214

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What's Hijacking So Many Beautiful Relationships? - with Dr. Jacob Hess - Episode 213

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Can You Be in Recovery and Not Sober? - Episode 212

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What If You Can't Accept an Apology? - Episode 211

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Improving Your Apologies - Episode 210

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Four Phases of Healing After Sexual Betrayal - with Tammy Gustafson - Episode 209

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A Better Way to Approach Sexual Brokenness in Our Churches - Episode 208

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Relearning Touch After Betrayal (Part 2) - with Wendy Maltz - Episode 207

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Relearning Touch After Betrayal - with Wendy Maltz (Part 1) - Episode 206

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Sitting with Discomfort - Episode 205

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The Power of No - Episode 204

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In Search of Heroic Masculinity - Ben Pacini - Episode 203

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4 Ways the Betrayed Can Improve Their Healing - Episode 202

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4 Ways the Betrayer Can Improve Their Recovery - Episode 201

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Is My Partner an Addict or Just Being a Jerk? - Episode 200

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Shame vs. Regret - Episode 199

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Malicious Compliance - Episode 198

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Decreasing Chaos in Recovery - Episode 197

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Balancing Positivity and Negativity - Episode 196

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Drama Bonding - Episode 195

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Why Formal Disclosure Matters (Part 2) - Episode 194

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Why Formal Disclosure Matters (Part 1) - Episode 193

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Dealing with the Post-Betrayal Freeze - Episode 192

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Finding Your True Self After Betrayal - Episode 191

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Checking Our Blind Spots - Episode 190

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When Is It Objectification? - Episode 189

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Are You Motivated by Fear or Love? - Episode 188

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Protecting Victims of the Pornography Industry - Dani Pinter, Senior Legal Counsel NCOSE - Episode 187

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Addressing the Betrayer's Pain - Episode 186

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Should You Confront Your Parents About Your Childhood? - Episode 185

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Healing Our Relationship with Food - with Emily Fonnesbeck - Episode 184

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Is it a Slip? A Relapse? A Setback? - Episode 183

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The Benefits of Family Work - Episode 182

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Emotional Safety in Relationships - Episode 181

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The Role of Anger in Healing - Episode 180

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Relationship Conflict Patterns with Adam Fisher (Part 3) - Episode 179

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Our Valentine’s Day Guide for Messy Relationships - Episode 178

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Embracing Differences in Your Marriage - Episode 177

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Building a Marriage-Centered Family - Episode 176

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Taking Care of Yourself as You Rebuild Broken Trust - Episode 175

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Should I Feel Compassion for My Addicted Partner? - Episode 174

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Why Marriage Cannot Fix a Pornography Addiction - Episode 173

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Taking the First Steps After a Sexual Betrayal - Episode 172

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Healthy Support vs. Parenting Your Partner - Episode 171

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The Problem of Acting Needless and Wantless - Episode 170

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Patience in Healing - Episode 169

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The Lure of the Victim Mindset - Episode 168

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Balancing Autonomy and Partnership in a Committed Relationship - Episode 167

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How Our Relationships Influence our Internal Motivation - Episode 166

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Helping Children be Intrinsically Motivated - Episode 165

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A community for relationship recovery - Episode 164

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How we build trust with others - Hank Smith (part 2) - Episode 163

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How we build trust with others - Hank Smith (part 1) - Episode 162

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Protecting your marriage in a faith crisis - Tony Overbay (part 2) - Episode 161

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Protecting your marriage in a faith crisis - Tony Overbay (part 1) - Episode 160

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Why healthy self-talk matters in recovery - Todd Sylvester - Episode 159

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The challenge of enjoyment in the age of addiction - Dr. Mark Chamberlain - Episode 158

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Healing a marriage damaged by virtual infidelity - Mark Chamberlain - Episode 157

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Protecting children from sexual abuse - Jessica Mockett - Episode 156

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Reclaiming your Sexuality - Dr. Finlayson-Fife - Episode 155

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Relearning touch after betrayal - Wendy Maltz (part 2) - Episode 154

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Relearning touch after betrayal - Wendy Maltz (part 1) - Episode 153

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Relationship Conflict Patterns - Dr. Adam Fisher (part 2) - Episode 152

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Relationship Conflict Patterns - Dr. Adam Fisher (part 1) - Episode 151

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Living after interpersonal loss - Lisa Clark (park 2) - Episode 150

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Living after interpersonal loss - Lisa Clark (part 1) - Episode 149

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Why porn is bad for marriages - Wendy Maltz (part 2) - Episode 148

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Why porn is bad for marriages - Wendy Maltz (part 1) - Episode 147

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Finding comedy in tragedy - Lisa Valentine Clark (part 2) - Episode 146

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Finding comedy in tragedy - Lisa Valentine Clark (part 1) - Episode 145

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When women abuse men - Lisa Renda (part 2) - Episode 144

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When women abuse men - Lisa Renda (part 1) - Episode 143

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Going to the source of the problem - Sam Tielemans (part 2) - Episode 142

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Going to the source of the problem - Sam Tielemans (part 1) - Episode 141

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Owning your recovery - Tim’s story - Episode 140

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Sexual healing from sexual abuse - Wendy Maltz - Episode 139

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A better way to approach sexual brokenness in our churches - Daniel Weiss - Episode 138

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Healing shame in recovery - Sathiya Sam - Episode 137

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Discovering your couples’ sexual style - Dr. Barry McCarthy - Episode 136

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Deeper healing with breath work - Roxanne Granata - Episode 135

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What's hijacking so many beautiful relationships? - Dr. Jacob Hess - Episode 134

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Supporting our teens with screens, social media, and mental health - Smith Alley - Episode 133

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Moving forward in the aftermath of her worst case scenario - Kim - Episode 132

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Practicing sexual mindfulness as a couple - Dr. Chelom Leavitt - Episode 131

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Four phases of healing after sexual betrayal - Tammy Gustafson - Episode 130

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The power of community in pornography recovery - Chandler R. - Episode 129

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Improve your self-awareness - Genny Rumancik - Episode 128

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Launching young adults doesn't have to become a crisis - Dr. Mark McConville - Episode 127

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Ladies, your low sex drive doesn't mean you're broken - Jamee Andelin - Episode 126

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A better way to discuss pornography concerns when dating - Dr. Adam Moore and Wendy Morkel - Episode 125

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Settling into the journey of healing from betrayal trauma - Jeni Gessel aka "Scabs" - Episode 124

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How families can be a resource in addiction recovery - Danny and Emily Deaton - Episode 123

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Refusing the victim mindset even when you've been victimized - Lindsay and Danny Poelman - Episode 122

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Creating a sexually safe relationship - Tammy Hill - Episode 121

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How to stay optimistic and motivated after a recovery setback - Geoff Steurer - Episode 120

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Setting boundaries with family during the Holidays - Geoff & Jody Steurer - Episode 119

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Building a shame-free marriage in recovery - Hayden and Savannah Paul - Episode 118

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How burnout can make you stronger - Valerie Hamaker - Episode 117

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How we build trust with others (part 2) - Hank Smith - Episode 116

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How we build trust with others (part 1) - Hank Smith - Episode 115

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Helping children develop their own internal filters - Emily Jones - Episode 114

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Essential Truths for Relationships - Dr. Wally Goddard - Episode 113

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9 signals it's time to speak up (part 2) - Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams - Episode 112

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9 signals it's time to speak up - Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams (part 1) - Episode 111

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Rebuilding broken trust - Geoff Steurer & Tony Overbay - Episode 110

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Why healthy self-talk matters in recovery - Todd Sylvester - Episode 109

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A mindful way to address addiction and trauma - Jacob Hess - Episode 108

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Sponsoring and supporting others in recovery - Thomas 2.0 (part 2) - Episode 107

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From Dark to Light: One man's recovery from pornography and lust - Thomas 2.0 (part 1) - Episode 106

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How men can build friendships with other men - Connor Beaton - Episode 104

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Improve your life by choosing faith over fear - Richie Norton - Episode 103

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How to stop enabling others - Geoff Steurer & Valerie Hamaker - Episode 102

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Responding to sexual offenses - Dr. Stefanie Carnes - Episode 101

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What I've learned after recording 99 episodes - Geoff Steurer - Episode 100

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An Inspiring Story of Betrayal, Survival, and Hope - Heidi Tucker - Episode 99

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Relational mindfulness - Liz Higgins - Episode 98

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The Un-Alone Club - Emi Bass - Episode 97

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Growing as a couple after betrayal - Seth and Melanie Studley - Episode 96

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Building trust with our children to increase our influence - Emily Christensen - Episode 95

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Protecting your marriage in a faith crisis (part 2) - Tony Overbay - Episode 94

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Protecting your marriage in a faith crisis (part 1) - Tony Overbay - Episode 93

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Creating an intentional life - Kristin Andrus - Episode 92

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Culture-based attachment shaming - Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S (part 2) - Episode 91

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Creating space for your emotions - Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S (part 1) - Episode 90

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Should we have empathy for the betrayer? - KayLee Dunn - Episode 89

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Trusting yourself after betrayal - Melissa Ruff - Episode 88

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Reclaiming your sexuality - Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife - Episode 87

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How to become more honest - Dr. Mark Matheson (part 2) - Episode 86

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How to become more honest - Dr. Mark Matheson (part 1) - Episode 85

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Breaking the silence - Creed and Crishelle - Episode 84

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How a group of young adults are changing the conversation around sex and shame - Reach 10 - Episode 83

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How one couple's recovery is helping thousands of people - Rhyll and Steven Croshaw (part 2) - Episode 82

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Living in long-term recovery - Rhyll and Steven Croshaw (part 1) - Episode 81

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Ashlee's story of recovery from pornography - Episode 80

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Therapeutic Disclosure - Geoff Steurer and Healing with WORTH (part 2) - Episode 79

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Therapeutic Disclosure - Geoff Steurer and Healing with WORTH (part 1) - Episode 78

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Pep talks to put everything in perspective - Erica Wilcox, LPC (part 2) - Episode 77

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EMDR in the real world - Erica Wilcox, LPC (part 1) - Episode 76

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Transforming fear and conflict in your life - Chad Ford - Episode 75

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Confronting abuse in marriage - Kimberly Day - Episode 74

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The challenge of enjoyment in the age of addiction - Dr. Mark Chamberlain (part 2) - Episode 73

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Healing a marriage damaged by virtual infidelity - Dr. Mark Chamberlain (part 1) - Episode 72

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Compassion in marriage after betrayal - Dr. Wally Goddard (part 2) - Episode 71

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Your Blueprint for Happiness - Dr. Wally Goddard (part 1) - Episode 70

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Staying safe after betrayal - Dr. Jill Manning (part 2) - Episode 69

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Self-care for betrayal trauma - Dr. Jill Manning (part 1) - Episode 68

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Discover and use your voice - Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams - Episode 67

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20 Keys to Healthy Sex - Laura Brotherson (part 2) - Episode 66

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20 Keys to Healthy Sex - Laura Brotherson (part 1) - Episode 65

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How to improve your body image - Amy Harman (part 2) - Episode 64

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Making Peace with your Body - Amy Harman (part 1) - Episode 63

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Peaceful co-parenting after divorce - Jessica, Matt, and Steve (part 2) - Episode 62

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Creating a healthy post-divorce relationship with your Ex - Jessica, Matt, and Steve (part 1) - Episode 61

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The problem with idealizing motherhood and glorifying self-neglect - Dr. Julie Hanks (part 2) - Episode 60

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Assertiveness for Betrayed Women - Dr. Julie Hanks (part 1) - Episode 59

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When missionaries struggle with pornography - Rick Thompson, LCSW - Episode 58

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How women can heal from relationship abandonment - Gaelyn Rae Emerson (part 2) - Episode 57

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Staying resilient when your husband relapses - Gaelyn Rae Emerson (part 1) - Episode 56

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Why you should share your addiction recovery story (and how) - Steven Shields (part 2) - Episode 53

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A story of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery - Steven and Kayla Shields (part 1) - Episode 52

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Helping women who struggle with pornography - Alice Taylor (part 2) - Episode 51

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Women who struggle with pornography addiction - Alice Taylor (part 1) - Episode 50

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Forgiving ourselves - Dr. Wendy Ulrich (part 2) - Episode 49

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Why is forgiveness so difficult? - Wendy Ulrich (part 1) - Episode 48

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Responding effectively to abused children - Jessica Mockett (part 2) - Episode 47

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Protecting children from sexual abuse - Jessica Mockett (part 1) - Episode 46

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How to avoid a victim mindset - Troy Love (part 2) - Episode 45

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Healing from loss, neglect, rejection, betrayal, and abuse - Troy Love (part 1) - Episode 44

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What every leader needs to know about pornography - Kurt Francom - Episode 43

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Toxic giving and taking in relationships - Mari Lee (part 2) - Episode 42

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Using mindfulness to treat addiction and trauma - Mari Lee (part 1) - Episode 41

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How betrayal trauma affects women's spiritual lives - Dr. Carmel White (part 2) - Episode 40

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What betrayed women want everyone to know - Dr. Carmel White (part 1) - Episode 39

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Finding Peace When Anxious Or Troubled - Geoff Steurer - Episode 38

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Six guideposts of true recovery from addiction - Geoff Steurer - Episode 37

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Let's practice healing trauma exercises - Katy Willis (part 2)- Episode 36

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Healing Trauma Through Yoga - Katy Willis (part 1) - Episode 35

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Mindfulness 101 - Taylor Chambers, LMFT (part 2) - Episode 33

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Help your children become resilient against pornography - Taylor Chambers, LMFT (part 1) - Episode 32

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Sexual Wholeness in Marriage - Michelle Linford - Episode 31

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The power of group therapy - Forest Benedict (part 2) - Episode 30

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Self-care for men in recovery from addiction - Forest Benedict (part 1) - Episode 29

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Changing the pornography discussion with our kids - Dr. Dean Busby (part 2) - Episode 28

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A Better Way to Teach Your Kids About Sex - Dr. Dean Busby (part 1) - Episode 27

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Your Brain on Porn - Dr. Don Hilton - Episode 26

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How to bring up pornography concerns when dating - Vauna Davis (part 2) - Episode 25

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Helping Young Adults Change the Conversation about Pornography - Vauna Davis (part 1) - Episode 24

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Finding freedom and peace when betrayed - Roxanne Kennedy (part 2) - Episode 23

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Betrayal trauma, divorce, and healing - Roxanne Kennedy (part 1) - Episode 22

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Teaching Children Media Literacy - Dina Alexander (part 2) - Episode 20

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Teaching Children Media Literacy - Dina Alexander (part 1) - Episode 19

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Common Questions about Recovery - Dr. Adam Moore (part 2) - Episode 16

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Common Questions about Recovery - Dr. Adam Moore (part 1) - Episode 15

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Fight the New Drug - Clay Olsen (part 2) - Episode 14

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Fight the New Drug - Clay Olsen (part 1) - Episode 13

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Protecting Young Minds - Kristen Jenson (part 2) - Episode 12

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Protecting Young Minds - Kristen Jenson (part 1) - Episode 11

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Patterns of Healing - Michelle Linford (part 2) - Episode 8

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Patterns of Healing - Michelle Linford (part 1) - Episode 7