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My Inner Torch — 306 episodes
Why I STAY
The Cluster B Non-Resolution Pact
Cluster B Weaponized Compliments
Cluster B Supply-What are WE supplying?
The life YOU keep postponing....
What's wrong with ME?
Living within the Cluster B Narrative
Boundaries? Can you...will you?
The Cluster B Invitation
My Independence Day Reflection and Message
The Shroud of Confusion
300th Podcast! My Journey with the Flame
Refusing the TRUTH!
Life After the Cluster B
Stop Feeding the Cluster B!
AFTER you stop trying!
When you finally stop trying!
Why are chosen by the Cluster B?
You can't FORCE love!
The Illusion of Progress with the Cluster B
Why the Cluster B does NOT like you!
The Careful Art of Cluster B Manipulation
Holding yourself Hostage....
Hidden Scars of Cluster B Abuse
Understanding CPTSD and Hidden Wounds with the Cluster B
Cluster B Reality Check
Living in the Cluster B MOMENT
WHY do WE love?
Seeking Revenge!
Am "I" to blame?
Grieving the Mask of the Cluster B
CPTSD...are you suffering from it?
Pathological Love: When Love Still Hurts!
REVEALED! What's really behind Cluster B LOVE?
You CAN'T change a Cluster B's Spots
Pathological Love with a Cluster B
When LOVE isn't ENOUGH!
Emotional Sandcastles-Revisited NEW for 2025
How does a Cluster B LOVE you?
Dissecting OUR love for the Cluster B
A Cluster B Holiday Survival Guide
BONUS PODCAST-The Clownfish Survivor and the Cluster B Anemone
The Misunderstandings of Cluster B LOVE!
Living Under The Cluster B "Spell"
The TERMINAL Cluster B
WHY the Cluster B will not love!
It's OK to love your Cluster B!
More reasons why a Cluster B cannot love you...
Staying/Healing!
Why the Cluster B CANNOT Love US!
Are you GUILTY of Reactive Abuse?
The Cluster B Ponzi Scheme
Why do WE love our Cluster B?
Did THEY ever love us?
Letting Go.....
Forgive Yourself!
Sleeping with the enemy.
The Great Pretender
Saving Yourself!
Recognizing The False Self
The Cluster B Manifesto
Do THEY Care?
Hidden Abuse of the Cluster B
The Cluster B Con Game
NEW PODCAST: "I'm not OK!"
"You can't fix what you didn't break"-A revisit from January 2022
It's Okay to Hurt!
The Emotional Con Game-A 2022 Podcast
Look Back Listen-January '24 "Living in the Shadow of a Disordered Mind"
Intimacy Interrupted
My Secret Fantasy
Leaving?
Cognitive Dissonance and your Cluster B. A tragic mix.
Look Back Listen: What to Expect from your Cluster B Part 2
What to Expect from your Cluster B Part 1
The Cluster B Titantic
Stop feeding the monster!
How much?$?$?$?
Your Cluster B Valentine
The Cluster B Con
Your Cluster B Loves you...or do they?
What to expect from your Cluster B....
Finding Peace
It's NOT Possible!
New Year...New Hope!
13 Challenges of a Cluster B
Holiday Challenges-A Cluster B Checklist.
Welcome to the Danger Zone!
A Survivor's Harsh Reality Check
Finding YOUR right...
Look Back Listen: January '24 "Living in the Shadow of a Disordered Mind."
Cluster B = Love?
The Cluster B 3 Ring Circus
YOU deserve credit!
You have a choice!
The Way It Should Be?
The Bitter Pill...
Is this NORMAL....??
Four years along....where I am now?
Looking beyond the pain.
Getting past LOVE.....
Toxic Markers
State of Delusion
Trauma!
Understanding the WHY
The Long Goodbye with a Cluster B
The Emotional Hamster Wheel
200th Podcast: Owning their PAIN.
A Future Without....
What is NORMAL?
How do you feel?
What are you sorry about?
Survivor or Victim of a Cluster B relationship? Blurred Lines.
What do you think of YOU?
Not Unhearing "The Said"
You will NEVER trust!
Cold Hard Truths
Look Back Listen 2020: Emotional Intelligence
Why we REMAIN.....
"Shock and Sell" Have you fallen prey to this?
End of the Line? Where to now?
Look Back Listen to 2020 "Emotional Sandcastles"
Coat of many colors.
A look back on Chutes and Ladders.
Unmasking Narcissism: Exploring Types and Behaviors
What does it say about us?
The Kangaroo Court of the Cluster B
Distorted Realities of the Cluster B
Emotional Tidal Pools of the Cluster B
How Many Times?
It's Not Okay!
Green Flags...and why we are emotionally color blind to them.
Theatre of the Cluster B
Can you identify covert put downs from your Cluster B?
The Gig Is Up!
Strong words from Anthony Hopkins about your Cluster B
Living in the shadow of a disordered mind.
The pain behind the mirror.
Do we expect too much from our Cluster B?
Spotting a covert narcissist.
Can you walk away a winner?
Happy Holidays with your Cluster B?
Free lunch with a Cluster B? I don't think so!
Living in a fog of denial
It's okay to hurt!
Take it or leave it?!
Taking inventory with your Cluster B
Confessions of a Cluster B
The Hurt Locker
Do you feel safe?
How long do you do?
Identifying Hidden Abuse
It's the little things!
Do you bite the hook of "baiting" from your Cluster B?
State of Denial....
Cluster B's Warning Label
My theory on vulnerability and the Cluster B
Never Losing Hope
Living in a world of hurt.
Are you being honest?
Is Self Love possible with a Cluster B?
The Cluster B Gauntlet
I'm Sorry....
Why???
What it is...and what it isn't....
What to expect from your Cluster B Part 2
What to expect from your Cluster B Part 1
Bonds and Chains with a Cluster B
Bad Relationship Magnet?
What's love got to do with it?
Love Addicted?
Are you being abused in your Cluster B relationship?
They are who they are....not who you thought they are.
The Unsinkable Cluster B
WHY?
Terms and Conditions of the Cluster B
Is your relationship Terminal?
Recasting your Cluster B
Are you seeking validation?
Finding my inner voice....
I owe you an apology!
The Cluster B Discard Pile
Emotional Intelligence of the Cluster B revisited.
Knights of the Cluster B Table
Put up or Shut Up!
The Cluster B Trojan Horse
The Gravitational Pull of a Cluster B
A question with a question.....??????
They Won't Become What They Aren't....
Writing the final chapters with your Cluster B.
Is your Cluster B good enough for you?
Being "Bullet Proof" to your cluster B
Don't go to war with your cluster B!
Confessions of a Cluster B
Minefields and Thought Grenades!
Black Swans on a pond
Living under the thumb of a Cluster B
What they do is not for you!
Bullet Proof!
Love Addicted
Thoughtless!
Wash...Rinse...Repeat...
Where I was, where I am now....
Keys to the Castle
The invisible man...
100th Podcast of My Inner Torch!
Paralytic Relationships with a Cluster B
Deal Breakers...what are they in a Cluster B relationship?
The Emotional Con Game
No Fault Cluster B
Moments
Cluster B Miranda Rights
Breaking the Spell!
Gunpowder Language
Living in La La Land
Thermo Nuclear Relationships
The Walking Dead
Are you always wrong when you are right?
Death Grip!
What do you do?
It's the little things you do...
Labels....labels...labels....
Why do we hurt?
Why don't you give up on your Cluster B already?
Identity Theft
Reframing
Pointed Question
Silent Scream
Addicted and looking for a high?
The Narcissist's Prayer Redefined and applicable to all Cluster B's
Red Flags in the wind
Ready to move?
Blank Space...Is Taylor Swift singing about a BPD relationship?
Trigger Happy Borderlines!
What are YOU waiting for?
Are you "waiting to die?"
Witness to a split.
Are you a Gazelle?
You can't fix what you didn't break!
From the outside looking in.
Peeling back the layers of a BPD or NPD onion.
Sandbagging? Have you been sandbagged by your Cluster B?
Those who stay and those who go...
I see a mirage!
Do you belong?
Just the facts Ma'am...
It's not you...it's the situation!
Soul Suckers....
Shoulda....Woulda...Coulda...
Seven Stages of coping with Cluster B
Excuses...Excuses...Excuses...
Bait and Switch!
Back to the Future!
Are you ready to "Cry Uncle"?
Crazymaking!
Are you starving?
Old Movies and Memories
The seven degrees of Kevin Bacon?
No Deposit....No Return...
Looking for that RESET button?
An Empty Hole
You are a Saint!
My Emotional Sandcastle Experience Related
Breadcrumbing...it is a thing.
Why do WE bother....?
New beginnings!
I have a major announcement!
How long can a Borderline "Mirror" you?
How do you love a person with BPD?
Building a Better Mousetrap with your borderline?
Trauma Bond: An important checklist.
Reality Check....can we do it?
Relational BPD...how do you deal with it?
Gaslighting and BPD...an explosive mix!
Is the grass greener on another pasture?
What to expect with from your borderline on a daily basis.
"Hoovering"...what is it...and will it happen to you?
Moment of Reckoning
Marriage and BPD-A volatile mix.
Cluster B Personality Disorders...Where does BPD fit in?
Testing....Testing...1-2-3....
Let's Talk about ME!
Do you have a "Trauma Bond" with your borderline?
F.O.G....what does it mean? Are you in one?
Man in the mirror
Are you a Lion Tamer?
Push...Pull....repeat!
Splitting...how does it feel and why the borderline does it.
Those who say....and those who do!
Are you a Terminator?
Grey Rock...what it is and does it work with a borderline?
Emotional Intelligence Revisited
Keep the Dragon at bay!
Do they EVER remember?
The Elephant in the Room
To Thine Own Self Be True
Emotional Self Worth
Normal Expectations
A Four Letter Word....
A Thousand Words.....
Chutes and Ladders!
Emotional Weathervane
Gun Toting Lunatics!
Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Sandcastles
Inaugural Podcast