All Episodes

264: Why You Keep Living the Same Story (and How to Change It) - with Megan Macedo

263: Peter Levine - Reconnection for High Conflict Couples (When Your Partner Becomes the Trigger)

262: What High-Conflict Couples Taught Me About Healing the Political Divide

261: Sue Johnson - Being Truly Seen: Healing Trauma Through Attachment Science (EFIT)

260: How to Turn Your Vulnerability into Your Relationship Superpower - with Ken Page

259: Don't Fight Your Negative Thoughts...Join Them! (to Overcome Them)

​​258: When Desire Fades, Come Together - Emily Nagoski & the Science of Longlasting Sexual Connection

257: Two Obvious (but IMPORTANT) Healthy Relationship Principles

256 - Something Personal - Where I've Been and Where We're Going

255: How to Be Courageous (especially when it's hard)

254: From a "Fair" Relationship to Radical Generosity - the 80/80 Marriage with Kaley and Nate Klemp

253: How to Keep Children from Wrecking Your Relationship - The Baby Bomb with Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin

252: How and Why to Get Better at Conflict - Getting to Zero with Jayson Gaddis

251: Rebuilding Trust During a Crisis - with Pete Pearson

250: Start Your Day with Being OK

249: When You're the One Doing ALL the Work

248: What Are Your Rights in a Healthy Relationship?

247: The Path from an Insecure Attachment Style to a Healthy Relationship

246: How to Get Honest with Yourself

245: How to Not Die Alone - Using Science to Crack the Code of Modern Dating - with Logan Ury

244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes

243: Ultimatums - The Good and The Bad

242: Using Creativity for Emotional Alchemy - plus a song!

241: Breaking Up and Moving On - What's Normal? What's the "Right" Way?

240: When You're in Conflict - How to Find Optimal Outcomes - with Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler

239: How to Avoid the Negative Bypass

238: Unmotivated Partners - What To Do? - with Pete Pearson

237: Overcoming Procrastination - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin

236: When Talking about How You Feel Goes Horribly Wrong

235: Microaggressions in Life and Love with Kevin Nadal

234: The Anti-Relationship Episode

233: What Makes a Marriage Last - with Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue

232: Solving the Acceptance Paradox - with Neil Sattin

231: How to Make Better Decisions in Your Relationships (and Avoid Common Pitfalls) - with Logan Ury

230: How to Win Any Argument

229: Sexting for Fun and Connection

228: Facing Overwhelm - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin

227: Racism, Racial Equity, and Relationships - with Neil Sattin

226: Feeling Good - What Matters and What Doesn't - with David Burns

225: Overcoming Shame and Getting Real about Relationships

224: What Romance Novels Teach Us about Real-Life Love and Desire - with Mara Wells

223: How to Boost Your Oxytocin for a Sense of Wellbeing - Even If You're Solo - with Jessica Zager

222: Hints to Improve Digital Intimacy and Stay Sane (and Connected) during a Lockdown

221: Love in the Time of Coronavirus - COVID19 and Your Relationships

220: Reclaiming (and Enjoying) Your Sexual Self - Taking Sexy Back with Alexandra Solomon

219: Your Questions Answered - More on Judgment and Grieving

218: Sacred Instructions - Indigenous Wisdom for Your Relationship - with Sherri Mitchell

217: How to Heal after a Breakup

216: Steering Clear of Judging Yourself and Others

215: Your Erotic Blueprint - The Work of Jaiya - with Ian Ferguson

214: Do Breakups Have To Be Messy?

213: How to Handle an Aching Heart - with Guy Finley

212: Something Deeply Personal - with Neil Sattin

211: Sometimes You Just Have to Stop - with Neil Sattin

210: How to Escape the Drama Triangle - with Stephen Karpman

209: How to Communicate about Your Emotions - with Neil Sattin

208: Sex and Porn Addiction - Myths and Reality - with Paula Hall

207: Getting Truthful about the Ways You Hold Back - with Neil Sattin

206: How to Benefit from Conflict - with Viola Neufeld

205: [Updated] Important Self-Care Basics with Neil Sattin

204: Communication that Grows Your Relationship - with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

203: How to Stop Controlling Each Other (and Why) - with Neil Sattin

202: Grounded Spirituality for Deeper Presence and Connection - with Jeff Brown

201: Can People Really Change? - with Neil Sattin

200: Pleasure Activism - Change that Nourishes You - with adrienne maree brown

199: What To Do When Things Get Challenging

198: Healing Your Earliest Attachment Wounds - with Peter Levine

197: Sexy Consent - Deeper Intimacy with Neil Sattin

196: Harnessing the Transformative Power of Your Core Emotions - The Change Triangle with Hilary Jacobs Hendel

195: How to Turn a Negative View of Your Partner into Something Positive

194: Heart vs. Head: Mismatched Processing Styles with Sue Johnson

193: How Mindfulness Can Ignite Passion - Buddha's Bedroom with Cheryl Fraser

192: When Love Vanishes or Affairs Happen - What To Do? - Your Questions Answered

191: How It All Fits Together with Keith Witt

190: How to Truly Be Yourself in Your Relationship

189: From Disconnection and Loneliness to Aliveness and Intimacy - AEDP for Couples with David Mars

188: Don't Be A Victim of Attachment Theory

187: More Love Less Conflict - Communication and Mindset Secrets with Jonathan Robinson

186: Getting to the Truth within You

185: 20 Minutes a Week to Relationship Bliss - with Alicia Muñoz

184: Forget the Love Languages - Let's Talk about the Four Fear Languages

183: Real-Life Skills for Getting the Love You Want - with Helen LaKelly Hunt and Harville Hendrix

182: Is Variety a Spice or a Vice?

181: Depression? What You Can Do with Michael Yapko

180: Are You Truly Committed?

179: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love with Julie and John Gottman

178: The New Monogamy: From Assumptions to Integrity with Tammy Nelson

177: How To Get Past Your Resentment

176: Healing Trauma and Attachment Injuries through Intimacy: AEDP with Diana Fosha

175: What’s Keeping You From Changing?

174: She Comes First: More Orgasms For Women with Ian Kerner

173: A Gift For You

172: The Power of The Hold Me Tight Conversation with Sue Johnson

171: Does your need to feel special keep you from connecting?

170: Embodying Well-Being and the Lover Within: Zapchen - with Julie Henderson

168: Practical Skills for Building Your Emotional Intelligence with Jordan Harbinger

167: How to Keep Assumptions from Eroding Your Relationship

166: Are You Addicted to Love and Relationships? - with Sherry Gaba

165: Should You Start Over with Someone New?

164: How Love Can Dissolve Conflict - Relationship Magic with Guy Finley

163: A Surprising Way to Create More Generosity in Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin

162: Pleasure, Touch, and The Wheel of Consent - with Betty Martin

161: A Crucial Key for Building Trust in Your Relationship

160: The Four Noble Truths of Love and Relationship - with Susan Piver

159: What Is a Realistic Expectation for Change in Your Relationship?

158: Loving Completely - Integrating Science, Heart, and Spirit - with Keith Witt

157: Celebrating and Taking Stock

156: Rethinking Narcissism and Its Impact on Your Relationship - with Craig Malkin

155: How to Communicate about Something You've Been Avoiding

154: What's Different and What's Universal - Gay Male Relationships - with Rick Miller

153: Turn Blame into Something Positive - with Neil Sattin

152: Get Unstuck and onto the Same Team - Relationship Development with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

151: How to Stop Coping and Start Growing

150: Attachment Styles and Relationship Repair - with Stan Tatkin

149: Getting Back Together with an Ex - Should You? How to do it right.

147: A Simple, Radical Way to Improve Your Ability to Connect

146: How and Why to Have a Good Divorce - with Constance Ahrons

144: Extreme Self Care for a Healthy Relationship - with Cheryl Richardson

143: Mismatched Sex Drive? What To Do.

142: Loving Bravely - How Self Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship - with Alexandra Solomon

141: Is Your Relationship Healthy? - with Neil Sattin

140: Mastering the Art of Inner Transformation - Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz

139: Change Your Pattern - How to BE an Invitation

138: How Orgasms are Hurting Your Relationship - with Marnia Robinson - from the Archives

137: Calling in The One - No Matter Your Status - with Katherine Woodward Thomas

136: An Important Action Step for Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin

135: Improve Your Communication Skills for Deeper Understanding - with Deborah Tannen

134: Snooping, Secrets, and Rebuilding Trust - What to Do - with Neil Sattin

133: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life - Cognitive Distortions with Dr. David Burns

131: How Love is Evolving You - Evolutionary Relationships with Patricia Albere

130: On Valentine's Day and Uncertainty in Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin

129: Unlocking the Secrets of The Smart Couple - with Jayson Gaddis

128: Practical Masculinity: Beyond Stereotypes - with Shana James

127: Peter Levine - Building Resiliency in Yourself, Your Relationship, and Your Children

125: Developing the "Yes Brain" in Yourself and Your Kids - with Dan Siegel

124: Jealousy - How to Deal and Heal

123: Pleasure is the Measure: The Science of Sex and Desire - with Emily Nagoski

122: The Science of Empathy and How to Keep Yourself Clear

121: Tackling the Fears of Loneliness and Abandonment

120: Strengthen Your Connection: Undefended Love with Jett Psaris

119: The Most Important Thing Is What You Bring

118: Crafting an Uncommon Bond and Soulshaping - with Jeff Brown

117: Why Projection Can Be Useful - Neil Sattin

116: Sex, Love, and Dating: From Addiction to Health with Alex Katehakis

115: The Courage to Not Be Perfect - with Neil Sattin

114: How to Get the Most Out of Therapy - with Jeff Zeig

113: How to Find Healing and Connection in a Dark Time - with Neil Sattin

112: How and Why to Apologize Effectively with Harriet Lerner

111: How to Ask for Support - with Neil Sattin

110: Your Tantra Questions Answered - with Diana Richardson

109: Is This Normal?

108: Creating Positive Intensity in Your Connection with Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt

107: A Little Honesty Goes a Long Way

106: Stopping The Nice Guy Syndrome with Robert Glover

105: One Small Thing That Can Change Everything

104: How to Get What You Need - Nonviolent Communication with Max Rivers

103: Are You Being Codependent or Considerate?

102: How to Evolve Your Relationship with Jeffrey Zeig

101: A User Manual for You

100: Attraction - How to Sustain It and How to Revive It - with John Gottman and Sue Johnson

99: The Secrets of Scheduling Sex Successfully

98: How to Stop Being a Victim - Feeling Good Together with David Burns

A Brief Interlude

97: How to Enlist Your Friends to Support Your Relationship

96: How to Transform the Hidden Beliefs that Hold You Back with Katherine Woodward Thomas

95: Who is Holding You Back?

94: Conscious Weddings and Commitment with Lila Sophia and David Tresemer

93: How to Find the Gift in Any Moment

92: Creating New Possibilities from the Inside Out - Winning from Within - Erica Ariel Fox

91: The Power of Deep Relating

90: Heal Your Relationship at the Deepest Level With Hedy Schleifer

89: How to Have a Healthy Long Distance Relationship

88: Helen Fisher - The Anatomy of Love: What Makes Love Last

87: How to Know If Someone Is Right for You

86: Beyond Mars and Venus - Reducing Stress and Improving Nutrition with John Gray

85: How and Why to Take Space

84: Deepening the Divine in Your Relationship - Andrew Harvey

83: How to Be OK No Matter What

82: How Safety Leads to Better Sex - Sue Johnson

81: Are You Addicted to Distraction?

80: Bring Your Shadow Into the Light - Keith Witt

79: How To Speak Your Truth

78: How to Have More Fun in Your Relationship with Cathy Salit

76: Healing from Infidelity with Michele Weiner Davis

75: A Powerful Oxytocin Booster for Your Relationship

74: John Gottman - How to Build Trust and Positive Energy in Your Relationship

73: Neil Sattin - If It Were Easy You Would Already Be Doing It

72: Love, Sex, and Awakening with Margot Anand

71: Just One Thing

70: How to Get Your Partner to Do What You Want

69: How to Be Completely Alive in Your Relationship - Hedy Schleifer

68: Are You Willing?

67: How to Get Your Ex Back with Chris Seiter

66: The Impact of Gratitude

65: Divorce Busting and Strategies for Relationship Success with Michele Weiner Davis

64: How to Amplify the Positive in Your Relationship

63: Dan Wile - How Collaboration Creates Intimacy

62: Neil Sattin: The Secrets of Relationship Repair

61: Orgasmic Meditation with Aubrey Fuller

60: Neil Sattin on Risk, Vulnerability, and Courage

59: How to Make Difficult Conversations So Much Easier with Sheila Heen

58: Self-Care: A Crucial Step with Neil Sattin

57: Mastering Mindfulness in Your Relationship - with Dan Siegel

56 - How to Create Amazing Days with Your Partner

55: Defeating Emotional Blackmail and Manipulation with Susan Forward

54: A Quick Practice to Change Everything About Your Relationship with Neil Sattin

53: How to Embrace Your Fear of Intimacy with Ken Page

52: Intimacy and Connection from the Inside Out with Toni Herbine-Blank

51: Neil Sattin: How to Get Inspired in Your Relationship

50: Wired for Dating and Love - Psychobiology with Stan Tatkin

49: How to Figure Out What You Really Want with Neil Sattin

48: Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs and Show Up Fully with Kyle Cease

47: The Best Ways to Come Back into Balance When You're Triggered with Neil Sattin

45: Overcoming Jealousy and What About Polyamory with Janet W Hardy

44: How to Know if It's Worth It with Neil Sattin

43: Recovering from Infidelity: From Chaos to Connected with Terry Real

42: How to Invite Intimacy through Deeper Presence with Guy Sengstock

40: Transform Your Boundaries with Sarri Gilman

39: Catching Up With Neil Sattin

38: Successful Stepcoupling for Blended Families with Susan Wisdom

37: Oxytocin: the Molecule of Love with Sue Carter

36: Relationship Repair after an Affair: Infidelity with Janis Abrahms Spring

35: Happy Kids, Better Relationship: Unconditional Parenting with Alfie Kohn

34: The Science of Safety with Stephen Porges

33: How and Why to Forgive with Fred Luskin

32: Mastering Communication in Three Dimensions with Marty Babits

31: Strategic Wisdom to Take Your Relationship to the Next Level with Shannon Waller

30: Sparking Attraction Through Inspiration Not Deprivation - Deeper Dating with Ken Page

29: How to Heal Your Triggers and Trauma with Peter Levine

28: Healthy Polarity, Energetic Connection, and the Work of David Deida with Michaela Boehm

27: Breaking Free from Your Patterns of Conflict with Sue Johnson

26: How to Get All the Parts within You to Work Together (and with Your Partner) with Dick Schwartz

25: Get Your Ego Out of the Way - How to Be an Adult in Love with Dave Richo

24: Why We Lie and How to Get Back to the Truth with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

23: Useful Things You Never Knew about Feminine Sexuality with Sheri Winston

22: Essential Skills for Conscious Relationship with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

21: Healing Pain from Past or Present Breakups through Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas

20: Sparking Passion through Generosity and Being Authentically Yourself with Shana James

19: Recipe for a Secure, Healthy Relationship with Stan Tatkin

18: Integration Time with Neil Sattin

17: Stop Worrying, Start Playing - The Art of Improvisation with Patti Stiles

15: How to Thrive in Long Term Relationships with Gay Hendricks

14: Heal the Split between Head and Heart: Inner Bonding with Margaret Paul

13: Resolve Conflict and Create Intimacy through Attunement with Keith Witt

12: How to Turn Your Anger into a Force for Good with Harriet Lerner

11: Take Back Your Power from Porn with Gary Wilson

10: How to Get Off the Rollercoaster and Get Back to Love with Diana Richardson

09: Deeper Intimacy Through Sexual Healing with Wendy Maltz

08: How To Tackle The Hard Questions with Susan Piver

07: From Problems to Passion with Katie Hendricks

06: How to Deepen Intimacy Through Shared Consciousness with Patricia Albere

05: How Orgasms Are Hurting Your Relationship (and how to fix it) - Marnia Robinson

04: Advanced Relationship Jiu Jitsu with Terry Real

03: Katherine Woodward Thomas - Overcoming Your Barriers to Love and Connection

02: Diana Richardson - Discover the Power of Slow Sex

01: John Gottman - How to Be a Master of Relationship