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School of Self-Image — 515 episodes
500: What 500 Episodes Taught Me (and What's Next) [Poolside Confessions]
499: You're Not Tired. You're Tired of Performing. [Poolside Confessions]
498: Anxiety or Self-Trust? [Poolside Confessions]
497: The Best Aging Advice I Have [Poolside Confessions]
496: The Fear Successful People Don't Talk About [Poolside Confessions]
495: Why Having Personal Style is More Important Than Ever
494: The Shopping Secret That Changed My Self-Image
493: My Top 3 Style Mistakes (and the Self-Image Story Behind Each One)
492: Put Down the Journal. Put On the Outfit.
491: The 30-Day Reset That Changes How You See Yourself
490: Reinvent Your Life One Room at a Time
489: You Don't Have a Clutter Problem – You Have a Self-Image
488: The Space You Keep Avoiding – and What It's Trying to Tell You
487: The Secret to Creating Vibrant Well-Being (Part 2)
486: The Secret to Creating Vibrant Well-Being (Part 1)
485: How to Enjoy Your Life More
484: The 3 Habits of the Most Vibrant Women I Know
483: Become Unrecognizable With These Two Words
482: Vivante Energy: How to Become a Fully Alive Woman in 2026
481: I'm Retiring at 50 and Keeping My Business (Here's What's Changing)
480: Make Any Decision in Under 60 Seconds
479: Do You Need a Distraction Detox? Here's What I Did.
478: An Elegant Day Comes Down to These 5 Choices
477: The Well-Dressed Mind: Trying On New Thoughts
476: What No One Tells You About Aging Well
475: How Playing "Make Believe" Made Me Unrecognizable
474: The 10-Minute Shift You Must Make Before the New Year
473: 3 Tiny French Secrets that Changed My Self-Image
472: These 2 Identity Questions Changed My Year
471: Disappear for 24 Hours… and Become Unrecognizable
470: The Dinner Party Rule That Makes Everyone More Magnetic
469: How to Live a Life Full of Wonder and Everyday Magic
468: 5 Things I'm Doing to End the Year With a Bang
467: The #1 Reason You're Stuck – And How to Fix It Fast
466: Want More Out of Life? Start Doing Less
465: Champagne Living: How to Sparkle without Spending
464: What Is A High Value Woman (And How to Become One)
463: Elevate Your Self-Image With These 4 Daily Steps
462: 5 Things That Don't Belong in Your Next Era
461: The Power of Self-Image and Why It Shapes Everything
460: How to Become Unrecognizable in 90 Days
459: The Self-Image of Excellence: What Separates the Best from the Rest
458: Summer Series - Showing Up When It's Hard
457: Summer Series - Acting Out Your Script
456: Summer Series - 5 Investments That Have Changed My Self-Image
455: Summer Series - My Work Philosophy
454: Summer Series - Having Your Own Back
453: Summer Series - How to be Full of Life
452: Summer Series - Untriggered: How to Protect Your Peace in Any Situation
451: Summer Series - Shop My Thought Closet
450: Summer Series - How to Use Style to Reinvent Yourself
449: Summer Series - How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself
448: Summer Series - Even Elegant Women Get Pissed Off
447: Why I'm Pressing Pause (and You Might Want To, Too)
446: How to Make Powerful Decisions
445: How to Create Your Comeback Story
444: How to Make the Next Six Months Your Best Yet
443: 5 Little Details That Have Upleveled My Health & Well-Being
442: Regulation is the New Discipline
441: Unshakeable Faith in Your Future
440: Elegant Success: What No One Talks About
439: 3 Times Life Almost Broke Me
438: Maximizing Moments
437: The Soft Life vs. The Hustle Culture
436: Are You the Drama?
435: How to Spring Clean Your Self-Image
Quiet Power: The Secret of Women Who Hold Their Own
433: Why Most Self-Help Advice is Keeping You Stuck
432: My Love Story: The Self-Image Shifts That Led to My Engagement
431: Stop Managing Other People's Emotions
430: Burn Down Your Success Strategy
429: How to be Excited About Your Day
428: True vs. Faux Self
427: Becoming the Editor of Your Life with Caroline Lacaille-Gaudy
426: How to Curate Your Life Like a Designer
425: "Should" Season is Out
424: 3 Ways I'm Shaking up my Life This Year
423: My 2025 Word of the Year
422: The Champagne Mindset
421: My 2024 Gift to You
420: The Art of Reinvention with Ellison Ward
419: My Top 5 Lessons of 2024
418: Holiday Essentialism
417: Uncommon Gratitude
416: 5 Ways I Handle Distraction
415: The "Be" Decision
414: Power of Words (interview with Jamie Palko)
413: 5 Ways to Vote for Yourself
412: The Art Of Letting Go
411: Signature Work Habits with My Executive Assistant
410: How to Create Productive Surroundings
409: How to Belong
408: 5 Signs You're Ready for a Style Renaissance
407: My Top 5 Style Mistakes (and What They Taught Me)
406: Sauntering Beyond Your Limits
405: 5 Life Lessons Learned from Interior Design
404: The 4 Essentials of an Elegant Closet
403: Beautiful Beginnings (My Favorite Morning Rituals)
402: The Reality (and Courage) of Becoming
401: What's Your Soul Style?
400: 5 Style Habits That Elevated My Life
399: The Audacity to Ask
398: Stylish Careers with Sherry and Carmin Black
397: Summer of Style
396: Packing Up and Moving On
395: How to Romanticize Your Life
394: 5 Confidence Myth Busters
393: The Crave Compass: Navigating Your Way to a Fulfilling Life
392: When You Feel Like You're Drowning in Your To-Dos
391: The Sweet Spot
390: Self-Image Events
389: A Love Letter to All the Mamas
388: 3 Weight Loss Myths Debunked with Laura Hinton
387: Body Success Beyond the Scale
386: The Decision Switch
385: How to Get Unstuck
384: The Psychology of Space
383: Shop My Thought Closet
382: Why Every Woman Needs a Royal Treatment
381: The Power of No
380: 5 Ways to Delight in Yourself
379: What Are You Apologizing For?
378: Loving Your Age
377: Self-Love Standards
376: The Fear of Being Seen
375: Strength vs. Comfort
374: The Monthly Reset
373: What Not Listening to My Body Has Cost Me
372: Five Habits I Want to Create This Year
371: My 2024 Word of the Year
370: Crafting Your Character
369: Top 5 Lessons from 2023
368: Loving Your Quirks
367: Finding Best-Case Scenarios
366: Planning vs. Wishing
365: Slow Growth
364: Self Gratitude
363: My Top 3 Tips for Elegant Eating
362: How to Find Your Glimmers
361: Savoring the Slow Life
360: How to Enjoy Your Money
359: The Elegant Budget
358: My Top 3 Money Mistakes (AKA Lessons)
357: Flipping the Script on Scarcity
356: Creating Everyday Magic
355: How to Be a Responsible Hedonist
354: Getting Back to My Roots
353: Dream Fittings
352: How to Do Fear in Style
351: How To Chill Out
350: Conscious Consumption
349: Untriggered: How to Protect Your Peace in Any Situation
348: My Romance With Anxiety
347: How to Overcome Appearance Obstacles
346: How To Forgive Yourself
345: How to Change Your Past
344: The Worthy Decision
343: The Emotion of Clothing
342: How to Get Out of a Life Rut
341: 5 Signs It's Time for a Closet Cleanse
340: How to Use Style to Reinvent Yourself
339: Outcome Actions vs. Be Actions
338: The Dos and Don'ts of a Charmed Life
337: How to Take Time to Think On Your Life
336: Travel & Self-Image with Alessia Tenebruso
335: My Top Life Lessons Learned from Being Raised in the South
334: Emotional Fluency
333: Valuing Your Own Opinion
332: The Courage To Be Seen
331: The 3 Crown Jewels of Queen Energy
330: Self-Image Vs. Public Image
329: What Your Home Reveals About You
328: Overcoming Superwoman Syndrome
327: Pain Pushes (AKA The Power of Being Fed Up)
326: Style Standards
325: ROI Of Style
324: What Are Your Clothes Attracting?
323: My 6-Month No Shopping Update
322: My Secret Productivity Hack
321: 5 Ways To Be Extraordinary
320: Six Habits That Changed My Self-Image
319: My 2023 Word of the Year
318: The Self-Image Method
317: My New Year's Eve Tradition
316: My 2022 Gift to You (You're Welcome)
315: The Importance of Firsts (Plus My Favorite Firsts of 2022)
314: Takeaways from Slipstream Time Hacking by Benjamin Hardy
313: Top 5 Gifts I've Given Myself
Wanting What You Have
What Is Success?
Leaving Something (or Someone) You Love
5 Standards To Upgrade Immediately
5 Investments That Have Changed My Self-Image
Dressing As A High-Value Woman
How To Shift From Doubt To Confidence
My Top 5 Beauty Mistakes
5 Unworthy Stories We Tell Ourselves
Lessons Learned From My Relationship
10 Little Ways To Boost Your Self-Image
301: How to Create Your After Story
300: 10 Lessons Learned from 300 Episodes
299: The Importance of a Style Statement
298: Self-Care for the Mind
297: Future Self Conversations
296: How to Have an Extraordinary Relationship with Your Body
295: My Work Philosophy
294: The Power of Big Decisions
293: The Guide to Saying No
292: How to Be a Fun Person
291: A Curated Feed
290: My Work Retreat
289: 5 Reasons Why I Journal
288: Speak from Your Future
287: I Don't Know
286: Obstructive Thoughts
285: Your Self-Care Business Plan
284: Queen Energy
283: The Outside-In Approach to Change
282: When People Don't Like Your Changes
281: Ugly Days
280: How to Be Full of Life
279: The Fastest Way to Change Your Self-Image
278: Having Your Own Back
277: A Winning Attitude
276: My Business Image Evolution
275: Showing Up When It's Hard
274: Emotional Magnetism
273: Being Selective
272: 5 Reasons to Celebrate Yourself
271: How to Deal with Doubt
270: Using Your Calendar to Change Your Beliefs
269: Balancing Hard and Easy
268: My Awesome Day Formula
267: My 2022 Word of the Year
266: How to Change Your Identity
265: My 5 Takeaways from 2021
264: My Gift to You (It Will Change Your Life)
263: The Places You Go
262: The Secret to Changing Your Habits
261: A Love Letter to Those Who Feel Behind
260: 7 Common Complaints to Be Grateful For
259: The Cost of Success
258: How to Become a Risk Taker
257: 3 Money Habits that Will Increase Your Abundance
256: Having Fun While Achieving Your Goals
255: Intentional Thoughts
254: A Red Velvet Rope Policy
253: Overcoming Upper Limits
252: Money & Self-Image
251: How to Live Like an Editor
250: Fixing vs. Creating Yourself
249: On Being High Maintenance
248: Creating Desire
247: An Expansive Focus
246: Keeping Your Promises
245: Audacious Updates
244: When You Lose Motivation
243: How to Navigate Change Pushback
242: Acting Out Your Script
241: The Power of Being Underestimated
240: Delighting in Yourself
239: The Attitude Store
238: Living in Abundance
237: How to Make Your Future Self Proud
236: How to Create a Goal Friendly Environment
235: Are You a Creator or a Consumer?
234: How My Body Image Held Me Back
233: The Resourceful Woman
232: Keeping It Up (Even When It's Hard)
231: Getting Started (When You Don't Want To)
230: 5 Ways to Elevate Your Energy
229: 3 Ways to Stop Bad Moment Spirals
228: Being Sold on Yourself
227: Living in the Question
226: The Power of Personal Branding
225: 5 High-Value Activities of Elegant Women
224: 5 Ways Elegant Women Create Their Own Luck
223: 10 Style Commandments of Elegant Women
222: 5 Ways Elegant Women Create New Habits
221: 5 Areas Elegant Women Manage Like a CEO
220: 5 Time Wasters Elegant Women Avoid
219: A Self-Made Romance
218: How to Be More Attractive
217: The Art of Becoming
216: Embracing Failure
215: Schedule Your Dreams
214: My Self-Image Transformation
213: A Self-Image Word of the Year
212: Top 3 Lessons Learned in 2020
211: Love Notes: Collection Three
210: Love Notes: Collection Two
209: Love Notes: Collection One
208: 2 Ways to Upgrade Your Gratitude Practice
207: How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself
206: Holding Onto Your Vision No Matter What
205: The Lies We Tell
204: Your Allowance Edge
203: How to Be Beautiful
202: An Extraordinary Goal
201: How to Make Extraordinary Friends
200: Be Your Future
199: The Power of Self-Image
198: How to Be Extraordinary
197: Quality Questions
196: Dear Tonya: Big Mistakes, Camera Ready & Luxury
195: Easily Offended
194: Graceful Thinking
193: Increasing Your Value
192: Increasing Your Capacity
191: Dear Tonya: Boredom, Elegance & Lashes
190: Dealing with a Changing Body
189: Thinking Highly of Yourself
188: Past vs. Future Action
187: Pre-Deciding Your Day
186: Protecting Your Peace
185: Live From Your Future
184: The Willingness to Get it Wrong
183: The Freedom of Self-Discipline
182: A Mindset of Ease
181: A Bring It Attitude
180: Convincing Others Vs. Convincing Yourself
179: Life's Simple Pleasures
178: (Part Three) Dream Making: Grace
177: (Part Two) Dream Making: Grit
176: (Part One) Dream Making: Gumption
175: Enjoying Your Own Company
174: How to Stay at Home In Style
173: 10 Ways to Relax During Uncertain Times
172: Being the CEO of Your Mind
171: The Power of Tiny Habits
170: Understanding Your Two Worlds
169: What Will End With You?
168: 6 Ways to Be a Breath of Fresh Air
167: Borrowing Beliefs
166: Embracing Your Humanness
165: 6 Phrases to Eliminate to Live an Elegant Life
164: 10 CEO Lessons Learned
163: (Part Two) Embodying and Living Out Your Word of the Year
162: (Part One) My 2020 Word of the Year + How to Choose Yours
161: 3 Celebrations to End Your Year in Style
160: When You Lose Your Confidence
159: What Are You Available For?
158: The Power of "What If"
157: Emotional Outsourcing
156: 3 Ways to Break Up with Confusion
155: 3 Areas to Upgrade to Live an Extraordinary Life
154: How to Handle the In-Between
153: How to Live a Rich Life
152: 7 Tips on Communicating Like a Queen
151: How 5 Seconds Can Change Your Life
150: Enoughness
149: Elegant Weight Loss
148: The Necessity of Exposure
147: Start Before You're Ready (Plus 6 Times I Did)
146: TRAVEL EDITION: Packing, Mindset, Money and All Things Travel
145: Imperfection Is Sexy
144: The Secret to Living a Passionate Life
143: Overwhelm Is Not Required
142: Breaking Up with Yourself
141: 5 Reasons Why Every Woman Should Be a Modern Day Icon
140: 7 Tips for Elegant Decision Making
139: 5 Questions to Define Your Core Values
138: 3 Mentors (and Their Advice) That Changed My Life
137: How to Reconnect with Your Sexy & Sensual Self
136: How to Live Your Purpose
135: How to Be a Self-Possessed Woman
134: The Habit of Worry (and How to Change It)
133: The Choice to Love
132: Say "Yes" to Life
131: How to Create an Elegant Morning
130: The Joy of Commitment
129: 3 Moments that Changed My Life (and 3 Questions that Will Change Yours)
BONUS: A Date with Your Future Self
128: The 2 Most Powerful Words You'll Ever Speak
127: Celebration Circles
126: The Joy Diet
125: Spring Clean Your Mind
124: 5 Lessons Learned from the Rebrand
BONUS EPISODE: An Update from Behind the Scenes
123: My Word For 2019 (Plus 10 Traits to Be The Leader Of Your Life)
122: The Elegance of Restraint - Is less *really* more?
BONUS: Want to start 2019 out with clarity, confidence and commitment?
121: 5 Ways to Raise Your Conversation Vibration
120: The #1 Thing Our Dreams Ask of Us
119: Daring Women Dream . . . plus, the big reveal of my next exciting (and scary) goal
118: How FKL Helped Mimi To Leisurely Hustle
117: How FKL helped Martha To Birth A New Way Of Life
116: How FKL helped Dahlia To Let Go Of Perfectionism + Expand her life
ANNOUNCEMENT: Your Red Velvet Rope Policy
MY GIFT TO YOU FROM FRANCE: How to Uncover the Most Radiant You
115: Does Self-Help Do More Harm Than Good? Only if you fail to do this.
NEW COURSE: Introducing "Charm The Room"
114: 6 Surprising Reasons Every Woman Should Learn The Art of Charm
113: Dear Tonya On Shyness, Embarrassed About Weight And How To Be More Attractive
112: The #1 Killer of Charm (Plus: Six Signs to know if you're Guilty)
111: Is your self-opinion holding you back?
110: Dear Tonya: Comparison, Overwhelmed, Fear of Starting, Stuck & Glamour
109: Dear Tonya: Passion, Goals, Detractors & Body Acceptance
YOU'RE INVITED: 10 Ways to Live Slim, Chic & Savvy (fresh ideas from my trip to Paris)
108: Your Body Deserves This One Thing
BONUS: The 3 Truths of Elegant Women
107: Can Jealousy Be Beautiful The Answer Is Yes!
106: 9 Ways To Frenchify Your Life
105: 3 Words that Made Me Stop Being So Seriously Boring and Lighten Up
104: How to recover from a style disaster: A love letter to my 12-year old self
103: Your Petite May Be Your Grande
102: These 2 Simple Words Will Turn Your Life Into A Grand Romance
101: My Spiritual Parisian Search For The "IT" Bag
100: How an $8 Bouquet of Tulips Made Me Rich
099: 6 Ways To Say "buh - Bye" To Your FOMO
098: Why You Should Stop Trying To Love Yourself
097: My Top 10 Inside-Out Beauty Secrets
096: How To Create What You Want
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: Live Soirée - How To Master Your Emotions. Au Revoir Struggle.
095: Elegance: Beyond Pearls & Lipstick
094: Keep Chiseling: Why subtracting more than adding is the Key to a Beautiful Life
093: An Alternative to New Year's Resolutions
Listener Appreciation Gift: "Mindset Makeovers to Ignite Your Sparkle"
092: Life Lessons From Our Little Cabin In The Woods
091: The Only Thing You Need To Know About The Past
090: How to French Kiss Your Thanksgiving
Special Announcement: Hedonism Soiree
089: I Studied How French Women Eat, And This Is What I Learned
088: 10 Life Lessons From A Southern Belle Pageant Queen
087: A Chic Awakening: For those who Work from Home
086: The Lost Art of The Dinner Party
Special Announcement: The French Kiss Life World Tour
085: The Power of Walking Away
FREE VIDEO TRAINING: The 3 Truths of Elegant Women
084: How one outfit can change your life (or How to Shake Things Up)
083: The Parisian Lessons to Creating Anything You Want
082: How to Work with Ambition and Ease (8 Lessons Learned from the French)
081: 8 Ways Traveling Solo Has Made Me a Better Woman
BONUS EPISODE - The 3 Truths of Elegant Women
080: Fat. Skinny. I was still miserable. Weight isn't the key to happiness.
079: Why Wait for Santa When You Have Your Own Army of Elves?
Special Announcement: The French Kiss Life Holiday Bundle
078: 20 Things That Aren't Worth My Time
077: 10 Reasons Why I'll Never Be French (and Why That's a Good Thing)
076: Passion, Politics & Personal Development (oh my!)
075: French Feminine Secret - Tend to the Details
074: French Feminine Secret: Stop Chasing Happiness
073: Become a Lady of Leisure
072: Vision Boards are a Waste of Time. Try this Instead.
071: 10 Ways to Experience Paris Like a Local
070: Why Does Self Love Matter?
069: What to Do When Your Jeans Don't Fit (and LIfe Feels Out of Whack)
068: The Perfect Bikini Season (googling "bikini workouts" not required)
067: The 2 "F" Words that Every Woman Should Embrace
066: Why You Should Stop Searching For Your Passion
065: 6 Reasons Why Elegant Women Rarely Feel Out of Control
064: 27 Ways to Cultivate a Paris State of Mind
063: Liberate Yourself, Starting With Your Closet
062: 12 Things Elegant Women Don't Do
061: An Easy Way to Cultivate a Beautiful Mind
060: 3 Areas that Deserve Your Daily Attention
059: How To Go From Overwhelmed Hot Mess to Calm Sophisticate
058: My Surprising Word of the Year (and inspiration to help you find yours)
057: The 2 Questions I Ask on New Year's Eve
056: 13 Ways to Guarantee a Dreadful Family Gathering
055: Want to Cultivate Your Iconic Appeal?
054: The Best Gift You Can Give
053: What Every Woman Should Know
052: The Posture Effect
051: Want to Blow Your Own Mind? Do This Every Day
050: Age is Not an Excuse
049: How to Handle a Bad Day
048: Are Your Standards Too Low?
047: How I Put the Joie Back Into my Vivre (after struggling for so long)
046: The 3 French Fry Method
045: Why You Don't Want My Life
044: The Next Evolution of You
043: The Worst Kinds of Questions
042: Are you living a double life?
041: How a Lady of Leisure Hustles
040: Why Don't You...Make Every Day Enchanting?
039: French Feminine Secret: Make Every Day an Active Affair
038: Are You Ready to Slow to a Saunter?
037: My 12 French Kiss Life Travel Rules
036: 10 Ways to Cultivate Elegant Simplicity
035: French Feminine Secret: Work to Live
034: 5 Lessons to Consider Before You Make a Scene and Ramshack Your World
033: A story about George Clooney, Cheetoh Fingers, & the "Little Black Dress"
032: The 8 Investments That Changed Me as a Woman
031: The Missing Ingredient to a Well-Lived Life (and a Vivacious Body)
030: Ease Does Not Mean Easy
029: Are You a Princess or Queen?
028: Guess Where I Saw God?
027: 14 More Ways to Leisurely Hustle
026: A Sexy and Brave Question to Ask Yourself Every Day
025: Let's Talk about Style, Aging and Life (11 of Your Questions Answered)
024: How to Bloom Where You're Planted
023: Follow the Fun
022: It's About More Than the Purchase
021: How to Cultivate Your Exotic Appeal
020: 10 Ways to Live with More Ease
019: Want to French Kiss Your Money?
018: Do You Feel Too Conventional (aka Boring)?
017: What Did I Get Myself Into? (Musings on Fear)
016: 23 Ways to Be Miserable (Tested and Proven)
015: 10 Ways to Add Glamour to an Ordinary Day
014: Write Your Own Epitaph + 11 Inspiring (and Clever) Final Sentiments
013: The Two Questions That Will Make You Proud This Year
012: My Theme for 2014 + 12 Lessons Relearned
011: 15 Christmas Wishes for You + a Holiday Mixtape
010: 22 Things You Don't Need to Do, but Absolutely Must
009: Are You Feeling Trapped?
008: The Most Important Decision You'll Ever Make
007: French Kiss This Person Today + 7 Prompts to Do It
006: My Journal Practice...From Secrets to 9-1-1
005: Madame Clement's Advice on Living Well
004: 18 Ways to Make an Ordinary Day Exquisite
003: The Question I Ask When Deciding What To Do
002: Frenchie Friday: Living the French Kiss Life-style in the Middle of Nowhere
001: Frenchie Friday: Even Elegant Women Get Pissed Off (A Rant About Self-Help)