#16 - Stop Focusing on the Popular Group

Episode 16 of the Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship podcast, hosted by Nina Badzin, titled "#16 - Stop Focusing on the Popular Group" was published on January 24, 2022 and runs 16 minutes.

January 24, 2022 ·16m · Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship

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Summary

Episode #16: This whole idea of "the in crowd" or "the popular crowd" comes up in questions I’ve received for many years.As a generality, I’m calling the issue in crowd vs out crowd, but let me clear, nobody uses that exactly language when they write to me. What I get instead are letters explaining how frustrated people are when they aren’t being welcomed into a certain group, or when their kids aren’t included to hang out with a certain group. Or perhaps a kid has encountered a "mean g... Special thank you, as always, to my assistant producer, Rebekah Jacobs!

Episode Description

This whole idea of "the in crowd" or "the popular crowd" comes up in questions I’ve received for many years.

As a generality, I’m calling the issue in crowd vs out crowd, but let me clear, nobody uses that exactly language when they write to me. What I get instead are letters explaining how frustrated people are when they aren’t being welcomed into a certain group, or when their kids aren’t included to hang out with a certain group.

Or perhaps a kid has encountered a "mean girls" situation where they were friends with a certain group and are now being excluded. In these various questions I get, so much rides on a particular group of people. As if being being part of that one special group will be the key to all the friendship problems without recognizing that being included in such a group can create new problems, like not trusting that these are your real friends.

I find this worry comes especially from parents upset that their kids aren’t part of “that one group.”

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