3. Comparison : 4 ways to STOP it!

“The grass is greener where you water it”

My 4 ways to STOP comparison:

TASK 1 : BECOME AWARE OF, AND WRITE DOWN YOUR TRIGGERS.

Is the only time you start comparing your life to other people’s when you scroll through social media? I know it’s a massive issue for me, but not the only one.  There could be other circumstances in your life, for example, a certain person who constantly brags about this or that, or a certain activity such as driving past massive houses or dipping into Gucci just to have a browse? These could all be activities that make us feel inferior or discontented with life.

So, your first task this week is to make a list of who and what you frequently envy or compare yourself to.Write how each thing negatively affects you and why it’s actually a waste of your time. Now you are aware, it will become easier to control.  If those thoughts come into your head or you see the post from said person or said thing, acknowledge the comparison, and flip it to a positive for you – something you have achieved or done or accomplished. You are the only person you can compare yourself with.

TASK 2 : BE GRATEFUL FOR WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU ARE DOING RIGHT NOW

I have mentioned this before but being grateful for what is good in your life right now will remind you how much you have going for you.  If you commit yourself to being deeply grateful for what’s good in your life, and remind yourself of it DAILY, you’ll be far less vulnerable to comparison and envy. If someone or something triggers that ugly feeling of negative comparison, stop and remind yourself of what’s good in your life. Go on – list three things RIGHT NOW

TASK 3 : TURN COMPARISON INTO INSPIRATION.

We tend to compare our ‘behind-the-scenes’ with someone else’s big moment. We focus on their success, not on the thousands of hours they’ve spent preparing and working for their achievement. Instead of letting other people’s triumphs be a time to get down, let it be a door opener to possibilities. Let it be an inspiration for what you can be, do and have in life. So if you do find yourself comparing this week, your task 3 is to take that comparison and make it inspirational for you. 

TASK 4 : DON’T LET FEAR BE THE ENEMY 

The reason why you don’t make some of the choices to propel yourself into this incredible future you deserve, is due to your fears.  Don’t let yourself stay in that beautiful, easy, safe comfort zone. Do one thing every day that scares you. Push yourself out of your safe boundaries. 

So task 4 this week is to do one thing that pushes you out of your comfort zone. 

When looking at someone else’s success, you only see the result. You may be looking at years of effort, comparing your beginnings to their end. To achieve the success you desire, you need to walk the road to success. It never helps to jump to the end and make comparisons to those who have arrived. You are not them – things always look better from the outside than they do from the inside. Stop making yourself feel frustrated, anxious or paralysed about moving forward. 

Channel your energy into you, your growth, your success, your future.

Focus on you.

Water your own garden.

You are amazing x

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